JustPearlyThings - July 24, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLS Modern Women On Abuse


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10 minutes

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179.0563

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1,886

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222

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23

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7

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In this episode, we discuss abuse in the family court system and why it is more common than in the criminal court system. We also discuss the difference between emotional abuse and physical abuse, and why women always cry about it.

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00:00:00.000 And I'm saying, and I'm telling you, you wouldn't know not being in it how one-sided it is.
00:00:04.660 It's very, very one-sided.
00:00:06.840 Like, it's very much like, and the reason we can look at this is because family court is based on a balance of probabilities where criminal court is based off of evidence.
00:00:16.060 So if you really want to see how common is abuse, the majority of abuse allegations that happen in family court, only 10% take it to the police.
00:00:24.120 So that tells us that the majority aren't even taking it to the police.
00:00:32.000 Yeah, that's why I think they're lying, the majority.
00:00:34.660 But would you not think that if it's to do with family, then the reason it's not a higher rate is because they don't want to break up that family?
00:00:41.580 Well, if they're going to court, they're already breaking up the family, so they clearly don't give a shit.
00:00:46.100 Because there's still ways around it.
00:00:47.880 What ways are there around it?
00:00:49.440 There's still ways around it where the father can still see the son or the daughter, whatever it is, like the child, but without actually putting them in jail.
00:00:56.680 Why would you want to leave an abusive man out to abuse another woman?
00:01:01.320 What?
00:01:02.220 No, I'm serious.
00:01:03.320 If he was hitting in a...
00:01:04.500 Because I have two questions.
00:01:05.860 The average man can beat up a woman pretty easy.
00:01:08.960 If you're fine.
00:01:10.820 If you don't have any visible, no arms are broken, no nothing.
00:01:14.080 My question is, how is he abusing you?
00:01:15.940 What is abuse?
00:01:16.620 Well, there's all different kinds of terms of abuse.
00:01:20.320 Correct.
00:01:20.940 Mental abuse.
00:01:21.960 Okay, okay, right there, right there, right there.
00:01:24.340 Mental abuse.
00:01:25.520 Mental abuse.
00:01:26.220 Who is more emotionally manipulative, men or women?
00:01:29.040 Women. 0.81
00:01:30.120 So why are the women always crying abuse? 1.00
00:01:32.440 Like, this is what I'm saying.
00:01:34.180 Like, and that's the problem.
00:01:35.520 You said emotional abuse.
00:01:36.580 That used to not even exist.
00:01:38.020 That term didn't even exist until like the 80s, 70s or 80s.
00:01:41.200 They got into, the feminists got into the legal system, added all these words that don't mean anything to convince women that were victims. 1.00
00:01:48.840 Like, they expanded the definition of abuse.
00:01:51.100 And so that's what I mean.
00:01:55.380 Like, I don't think it's that common for a man to beat a woman. 0.99
00:01:59.880 I would add to that and say, I don't think most females are lying. 1.00
00:02:05.800 I would say they provoke the situation and they just don't want to admit that they either started it first or literally just provoked it.
00:02:12.020 I would agree with that.
00:02:12.780 So, yeah, I just want to say for everyone who's watching this, if you're going through abuse right now and you, you know, you find our stuff, our conversation offensive, please, you know, this is just our individual opinions.
00:02:24.360 And if you are going through it, you know, seek help and my love to you.
00:02:29.720 Anyway, sorry.
00:02:30.600 I agree.
00:02:31.080 Sorry, I had to cut that.
00:02:32.380 Yeah, I still, I totally agree.
00:02:34.060 I still think the majority are lying.
00:02:36.180 Yeah, I would say over, I would say 80% lying.
00:02:40.140 And I think they over exaggerate it.
00:02:43.020 I think they don't talk about their part to play.
00:02:45.100 I think they emotionally abuse the men.
00:02:47.080 Oftentimes they just snap because they emotionally abuse it.
00:02:50.360 And I think it's funny because, again, women do it to men more than men do it to women.
00:02:54.660 Yet women are always what? 1.00
00:02:56.460 Whining.
00:02:57.480 I can agree with you.
00:02:59.340 I swear.
00:03:00.220 We're on the same team.
00:03:02.120 I swear to God, I agree with you.
00:03:03.940 Trust me.
00:03:04.700 But I'm telling you, there's some people out there right now that are suffering and they're not.
00:03:09.680 They don't even know how to speak.
00:03:11.740 Abuse totally exists.
00:03:13.720 Mentally abuse a man.
00:03:14.840 I'm not saying it doesn't exist.
00:03:17.400 But my whole point is like, why wouldn't you go to the police?
00:03:20.220 And I think.
00:03:20.960 They're scared.
00:03:21.220 And no, I think we got to end this narrative.
00:03:23.460 And they love them.
00:03:24.340 They love them.
00:03:25.340 It is what is.
00:03:25.860 They love them.
00:03:26.160 I think we got to end the narrative.
00:03:27.480 I think as a woman, you cannot accuse a man of being abusive without going to criminal court.
00:03:32.140 But then it's the same thing that you said.
00:03:33.340 It comes down to evidence.
00:03:35.380 Correct.
00:03:36.040 And I.
00:03:36.460 So if there's not evidence.
00:03:37.340 Okay.
00:03:37.820 Any guy in here.
00:03:39.320 Any guy in here.
00:03:40.460 If he abused me, you don't think there would be evidence?
00:03:43.420 Not.
00:03:43.980 Oh, come on. 0.87
00:03:44.840 Again.
00:03:45.380 You have to the term.
00:03:46.660 No, no, no.
00:03:47.100 Think about it.
00:03:47.660 Think about it.
00:03:48.200 I'm strong.
00:03:49.760 I'm strong.
00:03:50.180 Wait.
00:03:50.660 I deadlift.
00:03:51.460 I deadlift 300 pounds.
00:03:53.040 I can bench a plate.
00:03:53.980 I'm six foot.
00:03:54.760 I'm tall and strong for a chick. 0.80
00:03:56.840 Any one of these guys could beat me up pretty easy to the point they're like, there would
00:04:01.980 be bruises.
00:04:02.760 There would be, there would absolutely be evidence.
00:04:06.920 Go ahead.
00:04:07.700 I agree with, what's your name again?
00:04:09.840 Sorry.
00:04:10.360 Me?
00:04:10.760 Yeah.
00:04:11.220 Shanela.
00:04:11.940 I agree with Shanela.
00:04:13.900 And again, like I said, you can't pigeonhole every situation.
00:04:18.820 Yeah.
00:04:18.980 I'm not.
00:04:19.620 I'm not.
00:04:20.500 I'm not saying you are.
00:04:21.880 I'm not saying you are.
00:04:23.240 Remember what I said before?
00:04:24.440 I'm talking about in general.
00:04:25.360 Yeah.
00:04:25.860 So I'm not saying you are pigeonholing because like what you're saying, yeah, you are right.
00:04:32.220 There are some very manipulative women out there and when they can't get the one, yeah, 1.00
00:04:37.680 they may tell lies.
00:04:39.020 But then on the other hand, which they're always at the other hand, there's generally women 1.00
00:04:42.920 that are being literally abused.
00:04:47.780 Yeah.
00:04:48.320 Abusive women exist. 1.00
00:04:49.820 Yeah.
00:04:50.060 I'm not saying they don't.
00:04:51.140 I mean, you know, it's yin and yang.
00:04:53.100 I think, I mean, there is, and I feel like if guys as well, you know, like I feel like
00:04:58.040 guys don't speak as much because simply the fact that it takes away their male masculinity
00:05:04.560 and stuff like that.
00:05:05.960 And it will make them feel like, oh, I'm not a man.
00:05:08.380 Guys don't speak because nobody would care.
00:05:11.500 You know what?
00:05:12.040 I'm against that.
00:05:12.340 They would still paint the women.
00:05:14.060 I mean, I've seen videos on TikTok of a woman like freaking out at a man. 1.00
00:05:18.500 That's disgusting.
00:05:18.920 And what does everyone say in the comments?
00:05:20.980 Well, what did he do?
00:05:22.720 Right?
00:05:23.060 I mean, we had, we had on, we had anyone country fan?
00:05:26.720 Country fan, Carrie Underwood.
00:05:28.200 I dug my key into the side.
00:05:30.540 I was pretty, you know the song, right?
00:05:32.200 She, she keys his car for cheating. 1.00
00:05:35.220 And if a guy did that to a woman, everyone would be freaking out.
00:05:38.560 I would even argue that if we're to use the same way that women define abuse to like, 0.98
00:05:47.880 look at all the cases that men go through, I would argue that almost every woman has abused
00:05:52.020 a man that they've been in a relationship with.
00:05:54.100 If we're to, if we're to go by the same standards of the way women shout abuse, I would say every 0.99
00:06:00.080 single woman that has dated a man has abused that man. 0.94
00:06:04.040 Yeah, I agree.
00:06:08.220 You what?
00:06:09.400 Sorry.
00:06:09.920 I feel like that just got a little late on me.
00:06:12.520 The drink kind of delayed a little bit.
00:06:15.940 Oh, he was saying that most women, if we use the same definitions, most women have abused 0.99
00:06:20.540 men.
00:06:21.520 Okay.
00:06:21.880 Well, I know someone really close to me that is a man that has been abused by a woman.
00:06:28.040 Yeah, I know the word is just dramatic, but anyway, either way, it is some sort of abuse.
00:06:32.600 No.
00:06:33.040 Physical abuse.
00:06:33.880 Let me make my point clear.
00:06:34.620 I'm saying if we're to use the definitions of the way women claim abuse, let's, let's
00:06:40.040 even take it out of in general.
00:06:41.520 I would say you sitting right there have abused almost every man you've been in a relationship
00:06:45.500 with.
00:06:46.020 Wow.
00:06:47.060 Wait, are you telling me that I have?
00:06:48.840 Yeah.
00:06:49.520 Oh, really?
00:06:50.380 Is that how I come across?
00:06:51.680 It's not about what you come across.
00:06:53.060 I'm just telling you how relationships go.
00:06:55.300 Oh, so you're not telling me that I am abusive to a man.
00:06:58.840 No, he's saying by the definition that feminists use. 1.00
00:07:02.340 Okay.
00:07:02.740 And by the legal, so coercive control, emotionally manipulative, narcissistic.
00:07:07.060 It's like women throw narcissists at men 24-7 when it's like, who's more narcissistic? 0.99
00:07:11.800 We're the ones addicted to social media.
00:07:13.400 Yeah, we're all just basically corrupt, aren't we?
00:07:17.500 Yeah, that's the whole point.
00:07:18.580 No one's special and no one's perfect.
00:07:21.720 She gets it.
00:07:23.060 Wow.
00:07:26.700 Okay.
00:07:27.320 Where, where, here's your turn.
00:07:29.300 Go ahead.
00:07:29.560 Um, someone who smokes, just because, um, that's a good deal breaker.
00:07:34.860 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:35.500 Just makes me nauseous.
00:07:37.100 Um, someone who's not Christian and someone who has a temper. 1.00
00:07:40.780 Okay.
00:07:41.040 What about, he's perfect, but, but, he's, he's barely been to church.
00:07:46.860 Ooh.
00:07:48.140 I think that's the topic for discussion.
00:07:50.620 No, I'm just curious.
00:07:51.300 You personally.
00:07:53.020 Probably not.
00:07:53.760 No, no.
00:07:54.860 Have you ever dated a non-Christian before?
00:07:57.960 No.
00:07:58.700 Okay.
00:08:00.000 Uh, what about you?
00:08:01.360 Um, a deal breaker.
00:08:03.780 Um, mine would be, um, aggressive.
00:08:08.760 If they, if they come across quite aggressive.
00:08:11.140 Um, if they can't communicate, um, addiction, et cetera.
00:08:18.160 Okay.
00:08:18.740 Yeah.
00:08:19.780 Okay.
00:08:20.480 Go ahead.
00:08:20.880 Um, I would say, um, lack of self-respect and also, I would just might come across a
00:08:27.340 bit lousy, but high body count.
00:08:29.380 I think a woman has got that excessive sexual past. 1.00
00:08:31.620 It's kind of hard to, psychologically to, I mean, if she tells me, if I don't know, then
00:08:35.840 I don't know.
00:08:36.340 But if she, if I know, then I don't know.
00:08:37.800 Do you think you can generally tell when a woman, woman has a high body count? 0.84
00:08:41.260 I don't think so, no.
00:08:42.300 You don't think you can tell?
00:08:43.320 I mean, by just looking at her.
00:08:45.400 No, just by, by dating her.
00:08:47.640 Probably could, yeah.
00:08:48.660 Eventually.
00:08:49.020 How, how high is too high for you?
00:08:51.620 Uh, so, it's a bit kind of.
00:08:54.340 No, no, no.
00:08:54.800 I just want to, I want to, I want to pin you down.
00:08:58.540 It's like, well, it depends how, it depends how old she is.
00:09:01.500 Okay.
00:09:01.820 Let's do 25, 30. 0.61
00:09:04.580 Let's do 25.
00:09:06.380 No, let's do 20, 25, and 30.
00:09:08.700 20?
00:09:09.420 Yeah.
00:09:09.780 I think 20 probably like, like two.
00:09:12.600 Okay.
00:09:12.980 Two at 20, too high.
00:09:14.260 All right.
00:09:14.560 No, not, not too high.
00:09:15.580 Two at 20, I could deal with.
00:09:16.620 I want to, like, four, five, 20, it's like, okay, you're still there, like.
00:09:19.400 Okay.
00:09:19.800 Now, 25.
00:09:21.360 25 is like, eight, nine.
00:09:25.780 Okay.
00:09:26.380 Eight or nine, too much.
00:09:27.880 Yeah.
00:09:28.520 All right, 30.
00:09:30.000 Ooh.
00:09:31.080 Okay.
00:09:31.600 For y'all, I could probably be the same for 25.
00:09:33.440 Something like 25 should, you should have been in a serious religion for at least two, three years 1.00
00:09:37.200 or something.
00:09:37.600 Like, you should have just stayed with someone for a while.
00:09:39.820 That's the most common answer I get is 10.
00:09:43.180 Okay.
00:09:43.620 Like, roughly 10, right?
00:09:45.020 Yeah, that's the most common answer I get from guys.
00:09:47.060 It's funny, though.
00:09:48.220 I feel like the same way, like, all right, women will give me a number for income, but 0.99
00:09:53.340 they really mean, like, 20% less.
00:09:55.540 I feel like when men say 10, they really mean 15.
00:10:00.820 If she's hot enough. 1.00
00:10:02.000 I feel like the same way, like, if she's hot enough, she's hot enough, but she's hot enough.