Pearl SILENCES Feminists
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss cheating, sex and sex in marriage and why it s a duty in marriage. We also discuss the difference between cheating and sleeping with your husband and why cheating is a bad thing in a marriage.
Transcript
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so you what no no it was the cheating I think if if you don't sleep with your
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husband oh yeah so you you agreed with me right that if a girl gets cheated on
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because she doesn't have any reason yeah like if she doesn't have any reason and
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she doesn't offer to her husband yeah what the husband needs as well what
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would be a good reason for a woman not to sleep with her husband
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what would be a good reason for a woman not to sleep with her husband
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that she just gave her birth she doesn't love him anymore that's a good reason that is a good
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reason oh if she doesn't love him anymore well then she shouldn't be with him right
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yeah no she should but we don't know why she's not isn't that a bit subjective like
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once you say feelings change every day yes you can hate someone one day love them the next
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so then then should we not should we deny a guy's sex based on our feelings if they
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change every day you think that's fair should he protect us if when he feels like it
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why so quiet I don't know I'm just asking I think fundamentally he should protect us like
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yeah and we but like I said it goes back to like your your one your your communion you're together
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right yeah so like you got a give and take I just think the feelings don't matter at all
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no I mean if you're really like you know having a bad day and all he wants is like to canoodle like
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you might just be like dude seriously yeah I mean once in a while guys are understanding yeah you
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know but for like months on end or for like years no that's just there's guys that haven't been
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like had sex in like years in marriage yeah no no that's not real that's not right guys are
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pretty simple though food banging it's true it's true that's all you need what about you
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um I don't know why someone would want to have sex with someone that doesn't really want to have
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sex with them so I think if I think if the answer's no then that's that debate there can you cheat then
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if she says no I think he can ask for permission to cheat could he just do it he shouldn't just do
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oh I don't know I'm not an expert on that maybe if the girl is not having sex for such a long time
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maybe she's cheating as well how long can a girl not sleep with her husband before she's deemed a bad
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wife wow depends what is normal to have how no no no I'm just saying in general how long three months
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three months is bad wife what if there's still a show involved three months there's still there's
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still some sort of exhibition amongst partners but it's not full intercourse and you just show for
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each other a show wow like this just be naked it could be naked it could be okay okay we're
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we're just talking about sex I'm not I'd say that um three months in a active relationship is
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probably quite a long time to go without okay so without a valid reason like a baby or something
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okay and so then he can cheat no no he has to have a conversation but I'm not an expert on it so
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you don't have to be an expert it's just opinions it's just an opinion show you know I can't speak
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from experience so then I feel a bit funny about saying okay okay that's all right what about you
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should can a guy cheat if his wife won't sleep with him I don't think anybody should cheat
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male or female wife or husband if they can't sleep with each other whether it's from physical
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deformity or whatever it is okay communicate it and if not then just split how how long can a woman
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not sleep with her husband till she's a bad wife eternity forever eternity so she's a good wife still
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other way around she's a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with him for a year yeah okay so so if it's a
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month is she a bad wife no we know she feels a certain type of way she's on her period maybe it
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could be many things one month three months is she a bad wife six months ten months a year but at least
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communicate tell me why okay and then she says I don't want to tell me why you don't again why there
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has to be some sort of reason even if you tell me okay I don't feel it it's a reason but if you tell
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me I don't know that's literally not a reason sex a duty in marriage it's a duty amongst animal instinct
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but it's not an obligation okay if that makes any what is marriage
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a marriage is love no a marriage is a contract of commitment and love
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it's two people coming together and saying okay we agree we agree to respect each other
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and come to the same vows and say okay if we agree to be together then it's just gonna be us
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okay and we have to be openly honest whether it's through positive through negative and if it
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we don't see alike we can figure out a way around it or away from it because not everything always
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goes together blends together some marriage for life yes it should okay so one because I just
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is marriage for life yes it should be for life it should be okay until the day you've done till
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death do us part is it that way unfortunately not because there are many life-like situations where
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individuals don't feel the same way they did when they were marriage about feelings
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it's respect no it's about feelings commitments respect it's about a bunch of different things
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okay so what would you say it's about feelings commitment sacrifice okay so it is about feelings
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yeah definitely i would disagree i would strongly disagree i i think if that was true then india
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wouldn't have like the lowest divorce rate where it's arranged they have no feelings i guess i guess
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no it's not that they have no feelings about duty i think yeah it's about duty but then there's also
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have to be some feeling and consideration back back to behind it because if there's a duty okay your
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duty is to to to go hunt and kill but behind that duty there's a feat there there's a purpose if you
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don't kill you don't eat nobody eats you can eat by yourself sure so be it do you think it's good to
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rely on feelings not so not it depends on no on the situation no it doesn't i do not agree but then
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there's always a situation should a guy protect and provide when he feels like it should a guy protect
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and provide when he feels like it many of them yeah why not because he feels like a duty as a as a as
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an alpha yeah he'll feel it even if he feels that he knows that it's negative but if there's an intruder
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and he's scared should he run away if he runs away then he's not if there's an intruder and the man
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runs away and there's a household full of women and children male or female they're under the age that
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cannot protect themselves and and the male alpha runs away so he shouldn't do that based on his
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feelings he shouldn't do that anyway no no i'm saying he shouldn't rely on his feelings when he's
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scared should rely on his duty right instinctively duty and i say this for myself okay instinctively
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would you say it's the same for women and sex instinctively and duty for women and sex
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and then you're not sure why not okay did you did you have something to say yeah um i just wanted to
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ask for the ladies um is a woman's emotional need necessarily um important in a marriage
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yeah both of them are i just asked this i asked a specific question i didn't ask about men
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for a woman is her emotional need important in a marriage yeah yeah is it is important for a man
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to consider his his woman's emotional need in a relationship and in a marriage for that marriage
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to be successful yes yeah okay that's good so for a man is sex important in a relationship yes yes
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all right so is it important for a woman to consider a man's need in a relationship for that relationship
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to be successful yes okay so do you realize how you guys have all argued against that point
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basically after you asked that question yes i didn't i didn't answer that question
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but we but we said what is the reason that she's not giving sex right exactly there may be a real
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reason i don't see no reason no the question was is he was allowed to cheat that's something
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different that's good so do you think there can be a reason why a man would not consider a woman's
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emotional need in a relationship yes there is a reason i don't know what it is but the woman always
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ask what is the reason why he's not considering my before they they start making problems do they
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do they try to find out the reason why the man is not fulfilling his end of the bargain or do they
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just start causing trouble this is why couples fight this is why because they don't they don't maybe
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communicate and they don't really consider does communicating does communicating typically lead
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to the problem being solved no not if they communicate in a bad way so why would men communicate
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more and okay they are scared men they are scared to communicate sometimes because why they know the
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woman will do a big fuss yeah maybe they will end with a big fighting and argument and they don't
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want that i disagree on that too who communicates better men or women depends who in general in general
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even in relationships who do you think communicates better men or women women i would say women
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are you sure i think women are more open to talk at all women are more open to talk do women typically
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communicate and get to the point no they will go around the subject just yes or no do women typically
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communicate and get to the point no no so no so why do we why do we so why do we think would they
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communicate better when we don't get to the point trying trying is better than nothing because
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some men they don't even want to talk if i just they're just they're just gonna say
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if i try to lose weight and i don't does it matter
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i think women have brainwashed society into thinking we communicate better but we communicate
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worse i don't agree also i don't really do men do men do men do men do men not communicate
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in relationships or do women not like the way men communicate the second second yeah i would
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say the second as well i think it depends still yeah i'm using that word