JustPearlyThings - October 11, 2023


Pearl TRIGGERS Toxic Feminists


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Length

9 minutes

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206.30908

Word count

1,986

Sentence count

225

Harmful content

Misogyny

30

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Hate speech

20

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In this episode, we talk about why women should have a back-up plan when it comes to a relationship and why they should have one in the first place. We also talk about the fact that women these days have more guy friends than they used to, and why this is a problem.

Transcript

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00:00:00.220 Everyone on this earth needs to put their own happiness first above everything.
00:00:04.440 I think you've got to put your happiness last.
00:00:06.620 If you are, how can you pour from an empty cup?
00:00:09.460 I think that's just nonsense, feminist garbage. 1.00
00:00:12.540 No, it's not. It's for people. Men, women, it doesn't matter. 0.98
00:00:15.860 Because you're going to be unhappy in marriage at some point.
00:00:18.600 You think our great-grandmothers stayed together for 50 years, 60 years, thinking about themselves?
00:00:25.920 You know how I could tell the generational switch?
00:00:28.140 You could hear it in the music.
00:00:29.300 We got the Taylor Swift generation, which is I'm a victim, blah, blah, blah.
00:00:34.260 Do you remember the song Jolene?
00:00:36.560 Yeah, I love that song.
00:00:38.440 No, but that's how women used to react. 1.00
00:00:40.500 Please don't take my man.
00:00:41.500 Please don't take my man because she was worried that her man was cheating. 1.00
00:00:46.800 And instead of keying his car, which Carrie Underwood keying his car, she stayed with him.
00:00:53.240 I heard her talk about that.
00:00:54.820 And it's like it was just a completely different mindset where she's like, I can't live without this guy.
00:00:59.960 Where now it's like women, we just care about ourselves and our happiness. 1.00
00:01:03.340 And if the outcomes were good, then why aren't families together?
00:01:07.000 And, you know, I feel like social media has a lot to do with that, too, because there's always like somebody on the back burner or someone we've been eyeing or somebody else who we know we could get somebody.
00:01:14.860 Someone that's been liking your pictures for the last two years and they're just waiting for their change.
00:01:19.040 Yeah, it's so easy to just get on a dating app and find a replacement.
00:01:21.640 That's the outlier.
00:01:22.820 That's the guy friend that none of you want to be with, but he's a nice guy.
00:01:26.620 And he's the guy waiting on the outside, the guy that's liking all your pictures.
00:01:30.260 Hey, oh, but he's my guy friend.
00:01:31.240 Fuck the nice guy.
00:01:31.900 Oh, that's not my guy friend.
00:01:33.140 I don't even follow him.
00:01:34.160 Raise of hands.
00:01:34.960 I don't think it was a nice guy.
00:01:36.100 I don't think it was a nice guy.
00:01:36.680 The nice guy always fucking minutes she's last in this generation. 1.00
00:01:39.800 Raise of hands.
00:01:40.580 Who here has been in a relationship and had a backup plan?
00:01:44.780 Raise your hand.
00:01:45.960 Just ever in general?
00:01:47.440 Ever, ever.
00:01:48.380 My relationships last like three months.
00:01:50.240 So I've never gotten into a relationship thinking that it was going to end.
00:01:56.620 So I've never had a backup plan, but when I found out that they did something, I could have either chose to leave it or chose to get back.
00:02:03.800 And that's the only kind of backup plan that I've had.
00:02:06.200 And never initially.
00:02:07.380 Have you ever dated a guy friend?
00:02:10.200 No.
00:02:10.420 Yeah, I have.
00:02:11.120 Yeah?
00:02:11.600 Yeah?
00:02:12.220 I've never dated a guy friend.
00:02:13.260 If you're a friend in my eyes.
00:02:15.100 I did, yes.
00:02:15.220 If you're a friend for life.
00:02:16.340 And I didn't want to.
00:02:17.640 It got snuck into me because my best friend had just committed suicide.
00:02:21.840 Yeah, it's all right.
00:02:23.140 My best friend had just committed suicide, so I felt very vulnerable, and that's how my best guy friend got to sneak in there.
00:02:30.280 Okay.
00:02:30.700 Well, that's not a guy friend, though.
00:02:33.200 My guy friend?
00:02:33.760 Hold on.
00:02:34.840 Hold on.
00:02:36.260 Let me tell you.
00:02:36.920 We're going to talk about a guy friend.
00:02:37.680 Hold on.
00:02:38.000 If I knew him four years and we didn't do anything, and then, like, when my friend passed away and he was being there for me, then he kind of...
00:02:44.860 But when that guy...
00:02:46.480 You know why you...
00:02:46.880 He was always thinking about that in the back of his mind, though.
00:02:49.020 But he was my friend for four years.
00:02:50.660 He doesn't discredit the friendship.
00:02:52.120 He never got to touch me.
00:02:52.300 Do you know why they're guy friends?
00:02:54.360 I think that if you're going to be a guy friend, you put him on.
00:02:56.600 Hey, no.
00:02:57.260 No.
00:02:57.440 Do you know why they're guy friends?
00:02:58.520 We never went on a...
00:02:59.460 Why?
00:02:59.600 Why?
00:03:00.280 Okay.
00:03:00.680 They're probably waiting for the chance, but we never went on a date.
00:03:02.980 They never touched me.
00:03:03.920 I have a story.
00:03:04.040 I never slept with him.
00:03:04.980 Because you told them they're their guy friends.
00:03:06.940 I did.
00:03:07.680 Yeah.
00:03:08.380 That's the only reason.
00:03:09.420 She gets it.
00:03:10.040 I see the nod.
00:03:10.200 And so as a guy, if I'm dating a gal, I've got five guy friends, I'm like, I'd put the
00:03:17.180 brakes on.
00:03:17.800 Right.
00:03:18.060 I'm like, wait a minute.
00:03:18.980 You've got a bunch of guys on set.
00:03:20.340 So women, pretty women always have a backup plan. 1.00
00:03:23.320 Pretty women are never single. 1.00
00:03:25.220 Women nowadays, it used to be. 1.00
00:03:26.900 Nowadays, women always... 1.00
00:03:28.520 If I looked at your IGs and your inbox, your DMs, you got backup plans.
00:03:33.820 You just don't know it.
00:03:34.680 But you know you have backup plans.
00:03:36.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:37.880 You just don't know.
00:03:38.900 Check this out.
00:03:39.420 Most men, they don't get DMs from chicks.
00:03:42.480 Right.
00:03:43.560 Hold on.
00:03:44.240 What?
00:03:44.580 Because I've been checking my ex-boyfriend's fucking phone, and it'd be all kind of DMs.
00:03:48.920 That's because my ex-boyfriend is in their DMs, too.
00:03:51.820 But you hear what I'm saying?
00:03:52.980 You hear what I'm saying?
00:03:53.780 Like, you guys get body part pics.
00:03:57.320 You know what I get?
00:03:58.020 It's a joke.
00:03:58.660 It's a joke.
00:03:59.520 I made fun of cats, so I get pussy pics all the time. 1.00
00:04:02.340 I get cats, but it's cats.
00:04:04.600 It's not...
00:04:05.380 So I get people sending me cat jokes because I made a joke about single women, angel numbers, 1.00
00:04:10.180 horoscopes, and cats and box wine.
00:04:12.340 I think they're so unattractive women sending dick pics. 1.00
00:04:15.480 Yeah.
00:04:15.820 We don't like this.
00:04:16.580 Oh, my gosh.
00:04:17.260 We hate it.
00:04:18.060 But that's your backup plan.
00:04:19.200 I don't like when they send me a shirtless pic.
00:04:20.320 Can I just say this for anybody who's listening?
00:04:22.880 Like, girls only like dick pics when we ask for that dick. 1.00
00:04:26.240 If you ever send an unsolicited dick, there's no woman. 1.00
00:04:30.060 Like, I don't want to say no woman ever.
00:04:32.000 I'm going to say 10% because 10% are weirdos.
00:04:34.920 They're like, oh, my God.
00:04:36.220 Thank you for that dick pic.
00:04:37.800 Yay! 0.99
00:04:38.520 Yeah, the thing about it, if you send a random dick pic to us, it's very perverted.
00:04:43.420 It doesn't seem attractive.
00:04:44.780 Okay, now you know how men think.
00:04:46.500 Men are fun, football, food, and fucking. 0.84
00:04:50.780 We're simple.
00:04:51.640 We're simple creatures of habit, right?
00:04:53.660 Men are always looking at women as a sexual object. 0.94
00:04:56.820 That's why she said the perfect body. 0.98
00:04:58.260 Right?
00:04:58.620 That's why she said that.
00:04:59.760 Guys don't care about your degree.
00:05:01.640 Guys don't care about your money.
00:05:02.740 Now, if they're simping and they're like, oh, she's going to be my sugar mama. 0.87
00:05:06.840 But guys, first look at the woman. 1.00
00:05:08.900 She's hot. 1.00
00:05:09.520 Whatever's in the desire of the guy, sexually, what he likes, and he's going to look at her.
00:05:14.440 Now, looks is also objective.
00:05:16.500 There's objective truth to that, what beauty is, but not subjective, but objective.
00:05:20.540 So guys are like, okay, we think with our testosterone, we were put here to breed, procreate.
00:05:27.180 Women look at a guy and they go for the resources, not money. 1.00
00:05:30.340 When I say resources, you're going to have children.
00:05:32.300 You want the best outcome and probability for your family to have longevity.
00:05:36.420 So you're not going to date no scrub, scrub, right?
00:05:40.960 That's not your deal.
00:05:41.820 Or you're not going to have a relationship with someone or continue a relationship, especially
00:05:45.500 when you're looking to have those things with a person.
00:05:47.340 Right.
00:05:47.360 And you date at your level and above.
00:05:49.800 You always date at your level and above, right?
00:05:51.880 No.
00:05:52.300 No.
00:05:52.600 So Sione cannot level above.
00:05:54.620 Okay.
00:05:54.800 No, not with her.
00:05:56.140 So here's the challenge.
00:05:57.960 Here's the challenge.
00:05:58.840 Inherently.
00:05:59.500 You.
00:06:00.280 Inherently.
00:06:00.940 Okay.
00:06:01.560 And again, I'm going to go back to my data.
00:06:03.520 Okay.
00:06:04.080 Dr. David Buss has a book called The Evolution of Desire.
00:06:07.260 Five years of interviewing 10,000 people all over the world, different religions, ethnic
00:06:11.880 backgrounds, whatever.
00:06:13.120 And the number one response that women look for in a man was resources. 1.00
00:06:18.440 So that's their level and above, right?
00:06:21.040 Because what happens, what happens biologically, you're looking for somebody better than you
00:06:25.080 want a man that's a hero, right?
00:06:26.260 You want a guy that's successful doing what he's doing.
00:06:28.400 When you date down, what happens?
00:06:30.160 You lose respect for that individual.
00:06:31.800 You're going 50-50.
00:06:32.620 I totally agree.
00:06:33.700 Okay.
00:06:34.320 Look at J-Lo.
00:06:35.400 Remember when she dated her, well, J-Lo's got a bad record as it is, but she dated her dancer.
00:06:39.500 I'm like, that ain't going to work.
00:06:41.160 She's paying for everything. 0.95
00:06:42.280 Yes.
00:06:43.360 Right?
00:06:43.880 And if I dated, if I worked at, no pun intended, because I can't say UPS, those guys make $170.
00:06:50.620 We're like, we're like, we're going to be, if all the women are going to be like outside 1.00
00:06:55.680 with the tray of cookies, when the UPS comes, hey, hey, hey, hey, when you drive, this is
00:07:02.440 guys, this is guys' mentality, to a point, when I was young, you're driving up to the, in
00:07:06.660 Seattle, the latte stands, we call them bikini baristas, and all the stands in Seattle have 0.92
00:07:12.100 the girls with the bikinis on the lingerie. 0.96
00:07:14.180 I would drive up, and I'd see a dude, and I would just keep going.
00:07:18.720 Why?
00:07:19.220 I didn't go there for the coffee.
00:07:20.800 Right.
00:07:21.480 I went there for the boobs. 1.00
00:07:22.920 Right.
00:07:23.300 Yeah.
00:07:23.440 The coconuts.
00:07:24.340 The coconuts with the pasties.
00:07:25.980 So, you know, and I said, oh, I want to go to Dutch Brothers and have a swirl latte,
00:07:31.400 double frappuccino latte with a twist, pumpkin spice.
00:07:34.120 I'm like, okay, is she hot? 0.97
00:07:37.920 Starbucks girls aren't hot. 1.00
00:07:39.780 They're Wokies, right? 1.00
00:07:40.860 First of all, I've been working at Starbucks for seven years.
00:07:43.720 We're not fighting the same year.
00:07:45.180 You are the exception, not the rule.
00:07:47.520 I know, I know.
00:07:48.160 I'm playing with us.
00:07:49.000 I didn't say it.
00:07:49.960 They're Wokies. 1.00
00:07:50.580 They're socialists.
00:07:51.720 You know what's crazy?
00:07:52.720 I was thinking about this.
00:07:53.920 As women, we don't realize, as a group, how much we suck. 1.00
00:07:57.860 I think that women suck as a group nowadays compared from a historical point of view. 1.00
00:08:04.120 Because nowadays, 100 years ago, a guy would have got a virgin.
00:08:08.880 She would have been in shape.
00:08:10.500 She would have had the mentality of she has to serve him. 0.94
00:08:14.440 So she was helping on the farm.
00:08:16.400 She had five plus children.
00:08:19.620 Nowadays, it's like 90% of us are on birth control.
00:08:22.540 70% of us are overweight.
00:08:23.960 We don't get married until we're like 31.
00:08:28.300 So as a group, unfortunately, we're just not doing that well from a historical point of view.
00:08:34.080 We all would have been thrown out 100 years ago.
00:08:36.100 We even had to learn instruments to play for when our husbands, like friends, came over.
00:08:41.340 We had these cookbooks from scratch.
00:08:43.820 And your husband could actually take you to jail for nagging.
00:08:47.940 If you were nagging too much, you could be prosecuted.
00:08:51.300 But on the other hand, you could prosecute your husband for not paying bills.
00:08:59.900 That really happened.
00:09:00.420 Yeah, so back then, you would have been like 21.
00:09:06.380 You would have been a virgin.
00:09:07.420 You would have gotten married.
00:09:08.440 You would have been raised to be a wife. 0.63
00:09:10.060 But nowadays, we have all this, like, programming that basically tells us to do it on your own.
00:09:15.820 And it produces bad wives. 1.00
00:09:17.320 Go ahead.
00:09:17.720 I was going to ask you.
00:09:18.660 So you know how much has changed for as far as what women used to offer men as a wife?
00:09:23.380 But it's changed the same way for us as far as what men have to offer as a husband.
00:09:27.660 Absolutely.
00:09:28.200 So I disagree.
00:09:30.240 You don't have a bunch of high value.
00:09:31.360 I disagree.
00:09:32.300 You do.
00:09:32.920 I disagree.
00:09:33.620 You do.
00:09:34.240 I disagree.
00:09:34.960 You know why you don't see them?
00:09:36.100 Because you don't know what they're looking for.
00:09:37.260 I disagree.