JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


Pearl Turned Her Logic Against Her


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11 minutes

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191.78043

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2,229

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00:00:00.000 what age is it over for a woman what age is it like it's you're not going to be a wife
00:00:05.740 well it's really but it depends let's let's talk about okay let me i'm just going to clarify a
00:00:12.200 little bit we're not going to talk about the exceptions i know somebody yeah there's always
00:00:16.300 going to be exceptions right there's always going to be so i heard a lady gave birth at 60
00:00:20.680 but knowing knowing knowing that men today are more hesitant to get married right and half of
00:00:28.740 they're predicting half of women in our age group aren't even going to be married they're you know
00:00:34.100 50 of us in the room never married no kids that's what they're predicting okay at what age
00:00:39.380 is it would you say over you know probably no one's going to marry you no one's if no one's
00:00:46.440 if no one's tried to marry if no one's tried to marry you yet you're probably never going to get
00:00:51.380 it oh what age what do you think um as a woman um what age would you say when you're a spinster
00:00:58.120 like no offense like late 40s late 40s 45 late 40s over okay kind of yeah when do you think it's
00:01:07.780 over oh yeah i'd say probably 45 and over yeah same 45 same yeah 40 i want to come back to you 45
00:01:16.980 i think because a lot of people because people who are getting married tend to want families
00:01:25.860 isn't it so they're gonna they're gonna look at them and go what if i might love you but i yeah
00:01:31.080 but in traditional aspects marriage is to support a family and they might look at it and go we're
00:01:36.900 most likely not gonna have a child so i mean if i'm not religious is there any point getting married
00:01:43.300 at this point that's what i said i didn't say relationship no marriage all right try what do you
00:01:47.680 think what age uh 27 27 no i knew that i knew that would trigger that i knew that would trigger
00:01:57.480 everyone i just like the preciseness 27 um in all seriously if we're talking about having kids
00:02:06.780 though as well like not just are we talking marriage and kids this is just personally i feel like
00:02:12.780 most guys over a certain age they'll get in a long-term relationship with a girl but why get
00:02:16.920 married if there's no kids yeah no true true so at what age is it would you say as a guy you're like
00:02:22.380 couldn't start a family with her you can have everything but if you don't have yeah so if she
00:02:26.720 if you had a girl you really liked right and you were thinking of someone you wanted to start a family
00:02:30.380 with but you said you know what too old i mean to be honest i think it's going to be like mid 30s
00:02:35.020 probably yeah yeah realistically because of the things you're talking about as well
00:02:39.440 because you start to think getting much older than that you start to think well you know would
00:02:43.640 everything be be okay you know um yeah because if you think about it what do women's peak fertility
00:02:51.640 years really it's sort of it's like 22 23 right yeah yeah yeah just under 25 i think yeah you start
00:02:58.120 reaching 30 that's when it starts 90 90 getting quite dangerous yeah 90 of your eggs are gone by 30
00:03:04.080 yeah wow that's why marriage used to be so much younger that's why people used to get married a
00:03:11.540 lot younger but now now a lot of people don't want to have children so they get married a lot later
00:03:15.800 because it's yeah i mean you could different if it's just if it's just marriage for like
00:03:19.660 companionship then to be fair people could get married older you know like you might meet somebody
00:03:23.100 you know in the nursing home and you're just like on the deathbed
00:03:27.360 i noticed are you engaged i saw the i see the me no i always get asked this no this is um on the
00:03:37.140 right hand not on the left hand no okay no everyone always asks me that no not yet soon maybe
00:03:42.800 hopefully hopefully we pray
00:03:45.000 um okay next question next question all right because i feel like i was given so much flack for
00:03:52.040 this are you a good wife if you get married and then you gain a hundred pounds is that good wife
00:03:57.640 i'm just i'm just asking am i off base i mean was there a reason for that like did someone pass away
00:04:06.060 it doesn't matter the reason i mean you're not a bad wife for gaining a hundred pounds for a reason
00:04:12.080 so like okay let me let me just say so i lost my job and refused to work as a husband but i did it
00:04:18.320 for a reason am i a good husband you know i lost my job but i was depressed i mean things like that
00:04:26.720 happen it can be on benefits i didn't say i didn't say it doesn't happen i didn't say you couldn't work
00:04:32.960 through it i just said good good means like a student good a b student right that's good i don't know
00:04:38.240 i kind of need specifics because like gaining weight and being depressed obviously you can gain
00:04:45.600 weight as a girl because you're depressed yeah okay just comfy i agree so so you know i got married
00:04:52.400 i'm in love and then i said you know what i'm just gonna eat crispy creams every day if if you're not
00:04:59.600 willing to look out for your own health though yeah yeah i i think no i don't i don't think it is so my
00:05:06.400 question good wife or bad wife see i don't think it's i don't think it's quite as straightforward but
00:05:14.480 if you have to pick one you gotta pick good or bad i have a question i i would say if i'm still
00:05:21.520 looking after him and doing all the things that a wife should do but yeah i just gained a few pounds
00:05:26.400 or whatever i said a hundred yeah i'm still looking after him he can't say nothing i'm still a good wife
00:05:32.000 all right i mean they're the same person like does it change other than their weight look at
00:05:38.640 pierce bros brosman is that his name his wife the old james bond his wife was stunning when they
00:05:45.040 were young and now if you look at her she's gained a lot of weight and he told them he was like i didn't
00:05:49.760 fall in love with her because of the way she looked he was like i fell in love with her soul
00:05:53.120 yeah yeah i think that sounds i don't know why men cap you he would not have approached her come
00:05:58.000 on like they sell us this fairy tale you know i'm not saying that she can't provide other things but
00:06:04.560 that action all right can we just sorry that action is that a good wife i didn't talk about
00:06:09.920 her cooking i didn't talk about if you don't care in the media as well like if you don't care and
00:06:14.640 there's no backline issue to why you've done that no it's a bad way yeah it's a because if you don't
00:06:20.960 care and you've gone you should love me the way i am if that's how it was in the beginning then
00:06:25.040 that's why maybe i'm coming across a bit strong she was oh she was real who said they're real she's
00:06:30.480 the realist so far okay okay next one on my list all right if you refuse to have sex with your husband
00:06:38.960 good wife or bad wife bad okay thank you thank you goodbye for bad refused yeah i'm gonna say
00:06:47.200 bad i need context yeah like i have no idea what that means i think in a stereotypical sense
00:06:54.560 because normally when a woman refuses is because there's an emotional disconnect or there's something
00:06:58.960 that's seriously gone wrong then should you still should you still be married then or should you've
00:07:03.920 gotten married and first that one i mean no but i mean it would be extreme i have a question do good
00:07:08.720 wives put their feelings above what's best for the family yeah oh it's me but i don't i don't feel
00:07:15.120 right so let me just not sleep with my husband because of the way i feel is that a good wife
00:07:22.240 my feelings before everybody else's i mean as long as you express that to your partner and he's okay
00:07:27.760 with that no i don't have to be open okay i just i just don't have a question i'm just just yeah
00:07:36.480 are you guys okay oh with with having do you think most men would be okay with having a wife that does
00:07:42.400 not have sex with them no no okay no i think it would be a problem okay yeah okay okay because
00:07:49.280 you guys are like well maybe if i explained to him why i'm not is there a reason they could give you
00:07:54.320 you're like you know what i'm super happy to just not have sex i think that would be rubbing salt into
00:07:59.520 the wound to be honest i think that might make it worse if she's trying to justify it it's like
00:08:04.160 because the problem is what the guy's giving you is his commitment he's giving you his commitment i'm
00:08:07.360 not going to sleep with anyone else and then he's and then if you're also not having sex with him
00:08:11.680 then obviously that's going to leave him in a deficit yeah but there's obviously a reason for it isn't
00:08:17.120 there but it depends yeah it really has to depend what that reason i'm not saying for example if she's
00:08:22.160 with like an abusive man but that's that's a completely that's one of those extremities that
00:08:26.800 we're talking about this is stereotypical i just have a question why do we keep going to the extreme when
00:08:30.960 we're talking about the norm i think she's looking at stereotypical because women only refuse the
00:08:37.840 intimacy if there is a problem no i say that because women use it sometimes as a weapon we do
00:08:45.200 yeah yeah i don't think that's okay yeah that's not okay but she's probably using it as a weapon
00:08:49.840 because there is a valid reason but could she be not wanting to be intimate with him because just
00:08:54.480 because the butterflies are gone just because she's like no see that's wrong you sure yeah that's wrong
00:08:59.280 i mean like something really like oh you mean it's wrong she does that but why do you guys okay
00:09:04.000 yeah why don't we keep adding things to avoid the actual question is not sleeping if you're a good
00:09:09.040 wife if you refuse to sleep with your husband that is the question it's not if you're an abusive relate
00:09:13.840 if that that that that it's just are you a good wife if you won't have sex with your husband without
00:09:18.240 the extremities i think is what she's trying to say okay that's so confusing to me i'm trying to put my
00:09:23.120 my i'll tell you so i have a friend he's a 20-year divorce attorney he says it's very common that women
00:09:28.480 get the two kids they want and they just stop sleeping with the husband they got what they
00:09:31.280 want okay no that's wrong yeah and a lot of times it's not for a really good reason as women we have
00:09:37.360 stupid like it depends where we are in our cycle we're crazy come on yeah you've never gotten mad
00:09:43.440 at your boyfriend where you for something stupid yes all the time and like every day you don't think
00:09:50.000 good wives know that you know we can be crazy we can be emotional so we put the family before us feelings
00:09:58.480 yeah yeah yeah anyone disagree with that no okay okay so good wives have sex even when
00:10:04.640 they don't want to yes or no i think that's a connection
00:10:17.600 yes she doesn't she's fighting it she's fighting it it's hard because i don't agree with it
00:10:23.200 it so yeah i'll say yeah yeah whatever you guys are saying yeah but but i i it depends on what kind
00:10:33.040 of time of frame you're like time frame that you're talking about if you just mean in general yeah
00:10:40.000 they should even if you're not feeling totally up to it but you haven't had it in a while it's a respect
00:10:46.480 thing like you're married to them give like i would want the same from them so yeah back and forth in
00:10:53.280 it but if there was some underlying i know irish wouldn't we leave it a london slang
00:11:01.120 but yeah yeah i think if if it's a just you know it's a back and forth in it like you have to
00:11:07.920 get it literally i have another question okay no i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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