Pearl Turned Her Logic Against Her
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the age at which is too old to get married, fertility and whether or not you should get married if you don't have kids. We also discuss why men today are more hesitant to marry at a certain age and why women are becoming spinsters.
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what age is it over for a woman what age is it like it's you're not going to be a wife
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well it's really but it depends let's let's talk about okay let me i'm just going to clarify a
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little bit we're not going to talk about the exceptions i know somebody yeah there's always
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going to be exceptions right there's always going to be so i heard a lady gave birth at 60
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but knowing knowing knowing that men today are more hesitant to get married right and half of
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they're predicting half of women in our age group aren't even going to be married they're you know
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50 of us in the room never married no kids that's what they're predicting okay at what age
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is it would you say over you know probably no one's going to marry you no one's if no one's
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if no one's tried to marry if no one's tried to marry you yet you're probably never going to get
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it oh what age what do you think um as a woman um what age would you say when you're a spinster
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like no offense like late 40s late 40s 45 late 40s over okay kind of yeah when do you think it's
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over oh yeah i'd say probably 45 and over yeah same 45 same yeah 40 i want to come back to you 45
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i think because a lot of people because people who are getting married tend to want families
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isn't it so they're gonna they're gonna look at them and go what if i might love you but i yeah
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but in traditional aspects marriage is to support a family and they might look at it and go we're
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most likely not gonna have a child so i mean if i'm not religious is there any point getting married
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at this point that's what i said i didn't say relationship no marriage all right try what do you
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think what age uh 27 27 no i knew that i knew that would trigger that i knew that would trigger
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everyone i just like the preciseness 27 um in all seriously if we're talking about having kids
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though as well like not just are we talking marriage and kids this is just personally i feel like
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most guys over a certain age they'll get in a long-term relationship with a girl but why get
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married if there's no kids yeah no true true so at what age is it would you say as a guy you're like
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couldn't start a family with her you can have everything but if you don't have yeah so if she
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if you had a girl you really liked right and you were thinking of someone you wanted to start a family
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with but you said you know what too old i mean to be honest i think it's going to be like mid 30s
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probably yeah yeah realistically because of the things you're talking about as well
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because you start to think getting much older than that you start to think well you know would
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everything be be okay you know um yeah because if you think about it what do women's peak fertility
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years really it's sort of it's like 22 23 right yeah yeah yeah just under 25 i think yeah you start
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reaching 30 that's when it starts 90 90 getting quite dangerous yeah 90 of your eggs are gone by 30
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yeah wow that's why marriage used to be so much younger that's why people used to get married a
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lot younger but now now a lot of people don't want to have children so they get married a lot later
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because it's yeah i mean you could different if it's just if it's just marriage for like
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companionship then to be fair people could get married older you know like you might meet somebody
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you know in the nursing home and you're just like on the deathbed
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i noticed are you engaged i saw the i see the me no i always get asked this no this is um on the
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right hand not on the left hand no okay no everyone always asks me that no not yet soon maybe
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um okay next question next question all right because i feel like i was given so much flack for
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this are you a good wife if you get married and then you gain a hundred pounds is that good wife
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i'm just i'm just asking am i off base i mean was there a reason for that like did someone pass away
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it doesn't matter the reason i mean you're not a bad wife for gaining a hundred pounds for a reason
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so like okay let me let me just say so i lost my job and refused to work as a husband but i did it
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for a reason am i a good husband you know i lost my job but i was depressed i mean things like that
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happen it can be on benefits i didn't say i didn't say it doesn't happen i didn't say you couldn't work
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through it i just said good good means like a student good a b student right that's good i don't know
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i kind of need specifics because like gaining weight and being depressed obviously you can gain
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weight as a girl because you're depressed yeah okay just comfy i agree so so you know i got married
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i'm in love and then i said you know what i'm just gonna eat crispy creams every day if if you're not
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willing to look out for your own health though yeah yeah i i think no i don't i don't think it is so my
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question good wife or bad wife see i don't think it's i don't think it's quite as straightforward but
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if you have to pick one you gotta pick good or bad i have a question i i would say if i'm still
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looking after him and doing all the things that a wife should do but yeah i just gained a few pounds
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or whatever i said a hundred yeah i'm still looking after him he can't say nothing i'm still a good wife
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all right i mean they're the same person like does it change other than their weight look at
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pierce bros brosman is that his name his wife the old james bond his wife was stunning when they
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were young and now if you look at her she's gained a lot of weight and he told them he was like i didn't
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fall in love with her because of the way she looked he was like i fell in love with her soul
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yeah yeah i think that sounds i don't know why men cap you he would not have approached her come
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on like they sell us this fairy tale you know i'm not saying that she can't provide other things but
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that action all right can we just sorry that action is that a good wife i didn't talk about
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her cooking i didn't talk about if you don't care in the media as well like if you don't care and
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there's no backline issue to why you've done that no it's a bad way yeah it's a because if you don't
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care and you've gone you should love me the way i am if that's how it was in the beginning then
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that's why maybe i'm coming across a bit strong she was oh she was real who said they're real she's
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the realist so far okay okay next one on my list all right if you refuse to have sex with your husband
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good wife or bad wife bad okay thank you thank you goodbye for bad refused yeah i'm gonna say
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bad i need context yeah like i have no idea what that means i think in a stereotypical sense
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because normally when a woman refuses is because there's an emotional disconnect or there's something
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that's seriously gone wrong then should you still should you still be married then or should you've
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gotten married and first that one i mean no but i mean it would be extreme i have a question do good
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wives put their feelings above what's best for the family yeah oh it's me but i don't i don't feel
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right so let me just not sleep with my husband because of the way i feel is that a good wife
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my feelings before everybody else's i mean as long as you express that to your partner and he's okay
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with that no i don't have to be open okay i just i just don't have a question i'm just just yeah
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are you guys okay oh with with having do you think most men would be okay with having a wife that does
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not have sex with them no no okay no i think it would be a problem okay yeah okay okay because
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you guys are like well maybe if i explained to him why i'm not is there a reason they could give you
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you're like you know what i'm super happy to just not have sex i think that would be rubbing salt into
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the wound to be honest i think that might make it worse if she's trying to justify it it's like
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because the problem is what the guy's giving you is his commitment he's giving you his commitment i'm
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not going to sleep with anyone else and then he's and then if you're also not having sex with him
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then obviously that's going to leave him in a deficit yeah but there's obviously a reason for it isn't
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there but it depends yeah it really has to depend what that reason i'm not saying for example if she's
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with like an abusive man but that's that's a completely that's one of those extremities that
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we're talking about this is stereotypical i just have a question why do we keep going to the extreme when
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we're talking about the norm i think she's looking at stereotypical because women only refuse the
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intimacy if there is a problem no i say that because women use it sometimes as a weapon we do
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yeah yeah i don't think that's okay yeah that's not okay but she's probably using it as a weapon
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because there is a valid reason but could she be not wanting to be intimate with him because just
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because the butterflies are gone just because she's like no see that's wrong you sure yeah that's wrong
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i mean like something really like oh you mean it's wrong she does that but why do you guys okay
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yeah why don't we keep adding things to avoid the actual question is not sleeping if you're a good
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wife if you refuse to sleep with your husband that is the question it's not if you're an abusive relate
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if that that that that it's just are you a good wife if you won't have sex with your husband without
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the extremities i think is what she's trying to say okay that's so confusing to me i'm trying to put my
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my i'll tell you so i have a friend he's a 20-year divorce attorney he says it's very common that women
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get the two kids they want and they just stop sleeping with the husband they got what they
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want okay no that's wrong yeah and a lot of times it's not for a really good reason as women we have
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stupid like it depends where we are in our cycle we're crazy come on yeah you've never gotten mad
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at your boyfriend where you for something stupid yes all the time and like every day you don't think
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good wives know that you know we can be crazy we can be emotional so we put the family before us feelings
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yeah yeah yeah anyone disagree with that no okay okay so good wives have sex even when
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they don't want to yes or no i think that's a connection
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yes she doesn't she's fighting it she's fighting it it's hard because i don't agree with it
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it so yeah i'll say yeah yeah whatever you guys are saying yeah but but i i it depends on what kind
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of time of frame you're like time frame that you're talking about if you just mean in general yeah
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they should even if you're not feeling totally up to it but you haven't had it in a while it's a respect
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thing like you're married to them give like i would want the same from them so yeah back and forth in
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it but if there was some underlying i know irish wouldn't we leave it a london slang
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but yeah yeah i think if if it's a just you know it's a back and forth in it like you have to
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get it literally i have another question okay no i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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