Pearl UNLEASHES This Fact On Feminist
Episode Stats
Words per Minute
214.89345
Summary
Divorce is on the rise in the modern era. Why is this happening? Why is it happening and what is the reason why women are leaving their marriages and why is it the way they are leaving now?
Transcript
00:00:00.000
behavior because of it but because if someone's you're someone incentivized incentivized to leave
00:00:07.200
you will yeah i i would say that that could happen for in marriages with husbands as well
00:00:13.840
because to be divorced isn't such a bad thing on either on either side are you kidding there's
00:00:19.040
divorce parties women i'm talking about for men there isn't the consequences when we're talking
00:00:25.680
about shame okay to actually like be divorced okay on both sides the consequences are oh i'm
00:00:31.200
divorced and then carry on there isn't a social stigma i'm not talking about money this i'm
00:00:36.880
talking about your social sorry i thought you were talking about consequences no there isn't
00:00:41.840
the social stigma that's being divorced for either side so both parties can go on to be in other
00:00:49.600
relationships you're taking but i'm talking about no what i'm saying is to stay together is optimum
00:00:55.600
but if you don't have the social stigmas that's why there are more divorces why there wasn't before
00:01:02.080
was because socially you would become a pariah if you're a woman you wouldn't be able to get married
00:01:06.880
again we don't have all of that happening now that's why it's on the rise it's not necessarily
00:01:11.920
that it's just on women it's also for men are you performing the way that you should be so that the
00:01:17.760
marriage actually carries on if both people in the marriage are not at an equilibrium that this is
00:01:23.360
working why should a woman just stay in there with the single parent the when you look at the
00:01:30.080
single parent to jail pipeline is very real so now you're not having these people stay together when
00:01:35.280
you look at 75 of the people that end up in jail they come from single parent households so the facts
00:01:40.560
are there to see that is very significant so should both people not be penalized for working on their
00:01:45.920
relationships or should it just be women but the money it's just men because we gotta pay no it
00:01:50.480
should be the person that should be penalized is the one who chooses to leave which is mostly women
00:01:56.480
yeah i think both people if it wasn't working uh-huh should literally be like we have to make you love
00:02:02.880
to ignore the facts you know that i just literally ignored the facts yeah i know what you're saying yeah
00:02:08.320
but the fact of the matter is yeah the reason why more women are leaving now is because women have
00:02:12.720
more money now than they've ever had that's the only reason why they're leaving so if they knew
00:02:17.520
they wasn't getting that money from him on the divorce and they weren't getting the child support
00:02:21.120
they weren't leaving i'm telling you're staying your solution is that women should earn less money
00:02:26.000
no that's not my solution okay okay no no no what i'm saying that's the reason why he's saying
00:02:30.240
he's saying that there is an incentive for women to leave because they get money women women have
00:02:35.680
they own two-thirds of debt women women aren't in great financial places but they get to be when they get
00:02:42.000
making out that they are no no i'm saying they get to be in great financial places when they're
00:02:46.640
getting a check from a dude for the rest for 18 years like what the relationship in a better state
00:02:52.560
the richest the the richest women the richest women in the world got their money through divorce
00:02:56.960
but they're the richest women in the world because of an average woman they weren't the richest
00:03:02.560
beforehand they became because they were aligned with the richest man and then they even on average
00:03:08.880
so i'm saying the average woman when they leave better than they came in yeah so yeah before before
00:03:13.360
you're married to me you didn't have my assets and then when you're leaving you have half my assets
00:03:16.960
now yeah so you're in a better position so it's like so the woman gets a prize basically for leaving
00:03:22.080
she gets free money every month and you also have to bear in mind if you look at the the changes
00:03:26.720
between the sexes men have mostly stayed the same yeah it's women that have changed your mind your
00:03:31.680
mentality has changed obviously your financial well-being has changed a lot of the things that make you a
00:03:36.240
a woman has changed so you're the ones that are driving this this disparity between men i i i
00:03:42.400
absolutely agree with that but what i would say is because the times are moving men need to actually
00:03:47.680
adjust to this and go we are adjusting but they are adjusting they're not marrying you now
00:03:53.600
it's not people are still getting married all the time
00:03:55.760
50 50 50 50 of women over 30 are single and childless you see that we're adjusting women women
00:04:05.280
are getting married at later and later ages than ever so in the in the us the average age of first
00:04:09.600
marriage for a woman is um either 27 or 28 in the uk it's 31 yeah so men are marrying women
00:04:16.080
are also so we have all of these stats for women right men are also very disgruntled
00:04:22.560
very feeling very alone but angry not alone saying that they don't want to get married
00:04:28.720
it's easier we may bust in the open more than ever no but i say this but they're not also
00:04:34.560
what did you say but i said you said that a lot of men are disgruntled but really yo this is probably
00:04:38.560
the easiest time it's ever been as a man to get sick first of all for a small percentage of men i
00:04:43.600
know what you mean but i mean in general no one out of three men are virgins or haven't had sex in a
00:04:48.000
year i understand that but i'm saying they've got a better chance now than they've ever had
00:04:54.080
you're not correct you're not you're that's no but what i'm saying is the stigma yeah for sleeping
00:04:58.800
around yeah with women yeah is not there now like it was before that's what i'm saying i'm not saying
00:05:03.840
that man are still i'm not saying man are getting what i'm saying yeah that it will be easier now yeah
00:05:09.040
you got more of a chance now than you did before when you needed a virgin wife you ain't finding no
00:05:13.280
virgin wife no most no but i'm saying that's not correct like one out of three men under 30
00:05:17.920
your virgins are having had sex i'm talking about women i said virgin wife less men are less men are
00:05:22.800
having sex than ever it's not easier to bust open the cheeks for most of that it's for for the 20 of
00:05:29.120
men yeah it's easier than ever they have their pick okay what like for example if you're if you're
00:05:34.480
over six foot as a guy you're in the top 15 of men height wise okay i think where we're getting
00:05:40.480
confused here is what i'm saying is obviously before as a man it was easier in the sense yeah
00:05:45.440
that like more women were settling down with average men so your average guy was getting more
00:05:50.240
play that's what i'm saying but i'm talking about in terms of the stigma in terms of sex
00:05:55.280
women sleeping around yeah there's not the stigma there no more before they're like oh i need a
00:05:59.200
nice virgin wife and that now man are wife in hoes well right you know i mean they weren't doing
00:06:04.400
that before they had to make sure that your thing was intact before man was thinking about marrying you
00:06:08.320
and now do you know what i'm saying man running around wife and boris bikes well that's that's
00:06:12.400
where it goes back to there's no consequence you take away we give birth control women can sleep
00:06:16.480
with whoever there's no consequence that's it and then on top of that even if they get pregnant
00:06:20.000
there's no consequence they can have an abortion and they don't know who their dad is man them are
00:06:23.280
raising kids and that even even if even if they get married and they they leave there's no consequence
00:06:29.040
they get alimony or or child even if they have a kid with the wrong guy what do they get child support
00:06:34.320
even if there's homeless there's women's shelters the point is that women face no consequences
00:06:39.280
there's always a cushion for men they're on the streets or they commit suicide but there is a
00:06:44.320
consequence because you are there bringing up a child there is a consequence for leaving your time
00:06:50.160
is spent now rearing another human being it's not like you were running like you just left and then
00:06:55.200
you were getting money no you're a mother but you would have had to do something yes yeah but it's
00:07:00.000
easier obviously it's easier when you're in i don't want to leave you you force me to leave yeah
00:07:04.960
or you you leave and you force me to be worthless divorced and i have to pay you on top of that and
00:07:09.760
then i can't see my child when i want to see my child as well do you know what i'm saying that
00:07:14.560
isn't always the case it's mostly the case 80 of the time i heard you say it was easier i heard
00:07:20.080
you say it was easier to to do it with a co-parent as such right in a pair she can just find another
00:07:25.840
partner because it's that easy as a single parent to find another maybe not one that maybe not one
00:07:33.280
that you want but to find another man yes so again you guys are saying that women should settle
00:07:40.320
they should settle for what they don't want they should be earning less money so that they are more
00:07:45.840
dependent on men we didn't say that no no we say you shouldn't be rewarded for that if yeah i said i
00:07:50.720
say because my whole point is that if you have bad behavior as a woman there should be consequences
00:07:56.320
and as a society we take them away from women okay so if i'm the soul child if i'm the if i'm
00:08:01.760
the primary carer for the child or the children in our relationship and we are not working we have a
00:08:07.680
toxic environment we're arguing all the time we can't settle our differences and i've decided i can't
00:08:12.880
do this i don't think it's okay and i'm gonna go for a divorce and we get divorced and we separate
00:08:17.120
and you're selfish and so yeah i'm taking the children away because i don't want them to be
00:08:22.720
in a toxic relationship that environment and the dad shouldn't pay towards them in any way no you
00:08:29.440
chose to leave it's selfish you broke up your home because you're not happy and because you feel you
00:08:33.680
instead of figuring out how to work it out you're gonna leave break the home put your kid at every
00:08:38.240
put your kid at every statistical disadvantage because you can't figure out how to work it out