JustPearlyThings - June 06, 2023


Pearl UNLEASHES This Fact On Feminist


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Length

8 minutes

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214.89345

Word count

1,869

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

23

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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Divorce is on the rise in the modern era. Why is this happening? Why is it happening and what is the reason why women are leaving their marriages and why is it the way they are leaving now?

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00:00:00.000 behavior because of it but because if someone's you're someone incentivized incentivized to leave
00:00:07.200 you will yeah i i would say that that could happen for in marriages with husbands as well 0.99
00:00:13.840 because to be divorced isn't such a bad thing on either on either side are you kidding there's
00:00:19.040 divorce parties women i'm talking about for men there isn't the consequences when we're talking 0.90
00:00:25.680 about shame okay to actually like be divorced okay on both sides the consequences are oh i'm
00:00:31.200 divorced and then carry on there isn't a social stigma i'm not talking about money this i'm
00:00:36.880 talking about your social sorry i thought you were talking about consequences no there isn't
00:00:41.840 the social stigma that's being divorced for either side so both parties can go on to be in other
00:00:49.600 relationships you're taking but i'm talking about no what i'm saying is to stay together is optimum
00:00:55.600 but if you don't have the social stigmas that's why there are more divorces why there wasn't before 1.00
00:01:02.080 was because socially you would become a pariah if you're a woman you wouldn't be able to get married 1.00
00:01:06.880 again we don't have all of that happening now that's why it's on the rise it's not necessarily
00:01:11.920 that it's just on women it's also for men are you performing the way that you should be so that the
00:01:17.760 marriage actually carries on if both people in the marriage are not at an equilibrium that this is
00:01:23.360 working why should a woman just stay in there with the single parent the when you look at the 1.00
00:01:30.080 single parent to jail pipeline is very real so now you're not having these people stay together when
00:01:35.280 you look at 75 of the people that end up in jail they come from single parent households so the facts
00:01:40.560 are there to see that is very significant so should both people not be penalized for working on their
00:01:45.920 relationships or should it just be women but the money it's just men because we gotta pay no it 0.85
00:01:50.480 should be the person that should be penalized is the one who chooses to leave which is mostly women 1.00
00:01:56.480 yeah i think both people if it wasn't working uh-huh should literally be like we have to make you love
00:02:02.880 to ignore the facts you know that i just literally ignored the facts yeah i know what you're saying yeah
00:02:08.320 but the fact of the matter is yeah the reason why more women are leaving now is because women have 1.00
00:02:12.720 more money now than they've ever had that's the only reason why they're leaving so if they knew
00:02:17.520 they wasn't getting that money from him on the divorce and they weren't getting the child support
00:02:21.120 they weren't leaving i'm telling you're staying your solution is that women should earn less money 1.00
00:02:26.000 no that's not my solution okay okay no no no what i'm saying that's the reason why he's saying
00:02:30.240 he's saying that there is an incentive for women to leave because they get money women women have
00:02:35.680 they own two-thirds of debt women women aren't in great financial places but they get to be when they get 1.00
00:02:42.000 making out that they are no no i'm saying they get to be in great financial places when they're
00:02:46.640 getting a check from a dude for the rest for 18 years like what the relationship in a better state
00:02:52.560 the richest the the richest women the richest women in the world got their money through divorce 1.00
00:02:56.960 but they're the richest women in the world because of an average woman they weren't the richest 1.00
00:03:02.560 beforehand they became because they were aligned with the richest man and then they even on average
00:03:08.880 so i'm saying the average woman when they leave better than they came in yeah so yeah before before 1.00
00:03:13.360 you're married to me you didn't have my assets and then when you're leaving you have half my assets 0.99
00:03:16.960 now yeah so you're in a better position so it's like so the woman gets a prize basically for leaving 1.00
00:03:22.080 she gets free money every month and you also have to bear in mind if you look at the the changes
00:03:26.720 between the sexes men have mostly stayed the same yeah it's women that have changed your mind your
00:03:31.680 mentality has changed obviously your financial well-being has changed a lot of the things that make you a
00:03:36.240 a woman has changed so you're the ones that are driving this this disparity between men i i i
00:03:42.400 absolutely agree with that but what i would say is because the times are moving men need to actually
00:03:47.680 adjust to this and go we are adjusting but they are adjusting they're not marrying you now 0.60
00:03:53.600 it's not people are still getting married all the time
00:03:55.760 50 50 50 50 of women over 30 are single and childless you see that we're adjusting women women 0.98
00:04:05.280 are getting married at later and later ages than ever so in the in the us the average age of first
00:04:09.600 marriage for a woman is um either 27 or 28 in the uk it's 31 yeah so men are marrying women 0.96
00:04:16.080 are also so we have all of these stats for women right men are also very disgruntled
00:04:22.560 very feeling very alone but angry not alone saying that they don't want to get married
00:04:28.720 it's easier we may bust in the open more than ever no but i say this but they're not also
00:04:34.560 what did you say but i said you said that a lot of men are disgruntled but really yo this is probably
00:04:38.560 the easiest time it's ever been as a man to get sick first of all for a small percentage of men i
00:04:43.600 know what you mean but i mean in general no one out of three men are virgins or haven't had sex in a
00:04:48.000 year i understand that but i'm saying they've got a better chance now than they've ever had
00:04:54.080 you're not correct you're not you're that's no but what i'm saying is the stigma yeah for sleeping
00:04:58.800 around yeah with women yeah is not there now like it was before that's what i'm saying i'm not saying
00:05:03.840 that man are still i'm not saying man are getting what i'm saying yeah that it will be easier now yeah
00:05:09.040 you got more of a chance now than you did before when you needed a virgin wife you ain't finding no 1.00
00:05:13.280 virgin wife no most no but i'm saying that's not correct like one out of three men under 30
00:05:17.920 your virgins are having had sex i'm talking about women i said virgin wife less men are less men are 0.99
00:05:22.800 having sex than ever it's not easier to bust open the cheeks for most of that it's for for the 20 of 0.50
00:05:29.120 men yeah it's easier than ever they have their pick okay what like for example if you're if you're
00:05:34.480 over six foot as a guy you're in the top 15 of men height wise okay i think where we're getting
00:05:40.480 confused here is what i'm saying is obviously before as a man it was easier in the sense yeah
00:05:45.440 that like more women were settling down with average men so your average guy was getting more
00:05:50.240 play that's what i'm saying but i'm talking about in terms of the stigma in terms of sex
00:05:55.280 women sleeping around yeah there's not the stigma there no more before they're like oh i need a 1.00
00:05:59.200 nice virgin wife and that now man are wife in hoes well right you know i mean they weren't doing 0.99
00:06:04.400 that before they had to make sure that your thing was intact before man was thinking about marrying you 0.87
00:06:08.320 and now do you know what i'm saying man running around wife and boris bikes well that's that's
00:06:12.400 where it goes back to there's no consequence you take away we give birth control women can sleep 0.95
00:06:16.480 with whoever there's no consequence that's it and then on top of that even if they get pregnant
00:06:20.000 there's no consequence they can have an abortion and they don't know who their dad is man them are
00:06:23.280 raising kids and that even even if even if they get married and they they leave there's no consequence
00:06:29.040 they get alimony or or child even if they have a kid with the wrong guy what do they get child support
00:06:34.320 even if there's homeless there's women's shelters the point is that women face no consequences 1.00
00:06:39.280 there's always a cushion for men they're on the streets or they commit suicide but there is a
00:06:44.320 consequence because you are there bringing up a child there is a consequence for leaving your time
00:06:50.160 is spent now rearing another human being it's not like you were running like you just left and then
00:06:55.200 you were getting money no you're a mother but you would have had to do something yes yeah but it's
00:07:00.000 easier obviously it's easier when you're in i don't want to leave you you force me to leave yeah
00:07:04.960 or you you leave and you force me to be worthless divorced and i have to pay you on top of that and
00:07:09.760 then i can't see my child when i want to see my child as well do you know what i'm saying that
00:07:14.560 isn't always the case it's mostly the case 80 of the time i heard you say it was easier i heard
00:07:20.080 you say it was easier to to do it with a co-parent as such right in a pair she can just find another
00:07:25.840 partner because it's that easy as a single parent to find another maybe not one that maybe not one
00:07:33.280 that you want but to find another man yes so again you guys are saying that women should settle
00:07:40.320 they should settle for what they don't want they should be earning less money so that they are more
00:07:45.840 dependent on men we didn't say that no no we say you shouldn't be rewarded for that if yeah i said i
00:07:50.720 say because my whole point is that if you have bad behavior as a woman there should be consequences 0.78
00:07:56.320 and as a society we take them away from women okay so if i'm the soul child if i'm the if i'm 0.92
00:08:01.760 the primary carer for the child or the children in our relationship and we are not working we have a
00:08:07.680 toxic environment we're arguing all the time we can't settle our differences and i've decided i can't
00:08:12.880 do this i don't think it's okay and i'm gonna go for a divorce and we get divorced and we separate
00:08:17.120 and you're selfish and so yeah i'm taking the children away because i don't want them to be 0.62
00:08:22.720 in a toxic relationship that environment and the dad shouldn't pay towards them in any way no you
00:08:29.440 chose to leave it's selfish you broke up your home because you're not happy and because you feel you
00:08:33.680 instead of figuring out how to work it out you're gonna leave break the home put your kid at every
00:08:38.240 put your kid at every statistical disadvantage because you can't figure out how to work it out