JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Playboy Confronts Pearl With This Question


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10 minutes

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210.29411

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2,288

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301

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18


Summary

In this episode, we talk about cheating and how to catch someone cheating. We have a special guest, Mr.Tinder, join us as we discuss cheating and what cheating is to him. We discuss cheating in relationships, cheating in friendships, cheating with friends and even cheating with strangers.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Okay, Mr. Tinder.
00:00:02.300 Can I ask you a question?
00:00:05.280 Depends on what it is.
00:00:07.860 I want to know what you define cheating as first.
00:00:11.560 Like, what is cheating to you?
00:00:13.940 Because everyone sees cheating as a different thing,
00:00:16.180 so I want to know.
00:00:16.960 You're kind of ahead of me.
00:00:17.980 That was going to be my next question.
00:00:19.720 But let's, for now, make it physical.
00:00:21.980 Physical cheating.
00:00:23.660 Kissing.
00:00:24.900 Kissing or further?
00:00:26.400 Yeah, is it deceiving someone behind their back,
00:00:29.040 or is it doing it?
00:00:30.560 When they know about it.
00:00:31.760 Oh, so she knew.
00:00:33.420 She was like, I can't lock Mr. Tinder down.
00:00:37.040 In that case, no.
00:00:40.300 Okay, so you've had, like, an open relationship type thing.
00:00:44.140 No, not at all.
00:00:45.920 No, I've had girlfriends, and I've been single.
00:00:51.200 Wow.
00:00:52.320 I need to understand.
00:00:54.460 Okay, okay.
00:00:54.980 So you've had a girlfriend.
00:00:56.540 I've had a few.
00:00:57.480 Yeah, yeah, I've had a few.
00:00:58.620 And so.
00:01:00.040 To be honest with you, like, everyone sees cheating as a different thing.
00:01:03.560 So I'm trying to find out what cheating is to you.
00:01:05.780 Yeah, so I need to say.
00:01:06.920 Yeah, so I'm something physical.
00:01:08.940 Physical.
00:01:09.360 While you're with someone.
00:01:09.960 Yeah, but if they know about it, then it's not cheating, is it?
00:01:11.860 Yeah, I would agree with you.
00:01:12.760 It's not cheating if they know about it.
00:01:14.360 But so my question is, like, so you did, like, a one-sided open relationship, where it was, like, open on yours?
00:01:20.880 Yeah, I could say that.
00:01:22.060 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:22.840 At first, yeah.
00:01:23.900 And I was a bit of a playboy, to be fair.
00:01:25.960 Okay.
00:01:27.100 Yeah, I was quite bad.
00:01:28.980 Used to party and stuff.
00:01:30.420 Drink a lot.
00:01:31.320 Used to?
00:01:32.360 Yeah.
00:01:32.980 I'm good now.
00:01:33.700 I'm really good now.
00:01:34.600 I'm a settled man and stuff like that.
00:01:36.460 Yeah.
00:01:37.460 But yeah, I would say, yeah.
00:01:38.800 Do you know what?
00:01:39.500 Most of my girlfriends cheated on me.
00:01:41.140 So I found that as a good excuse to cheat on them back.
00:01:43.940 Oh, okay.
00:01:45.160 Yeah.
00:01:45.420 I was quite good.
00:01:46.100 Like, if I said I'm in a relationship with someone, I'd be like, right, I'm in a relationship.
00:01:50.080 But then they'll cheat on me.
00:01:51.440 And I'm like, right, I'm going back to Stefan now.
00:01:54.980 And I told them about it as well.
00:01:56.920 But yeah.
00:01:57.960 Okay.
00:01:58.300 And there'd be, like, girls to meet.
00:01:59.940 Like, my girlfriends were so sly about it as well, but I'm quite clever.
00:02:03.320 What do you mean?
00:02:04.880 I'm intelligent.
00:02:06.120 Like, when it comes to, like, dating, I'm, like, super intelligent.
00:02:09.360 Hence, where I got where I got, right?
00:02:11.560 Okay.
00:02:12.060 I'm like the modern-day hitch.
00:02:14.560 So I'm like a detective in love.
00:02:16.500 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:17.400 So, yeah.
00:02:18.000 I found them, like, hard.
00:02:20.480 And they still deny it.
00:02:21.920 It's so funny.
00:02:22.720 How would you catch them cheating?
00:02:24.760 There's various things.
00:02:25.880 So, like, it's like, so they would ask me questions.
00:02:28.380 The biggest one is I'll go out.
00:02:30.100 Obviously, I'm a model.
00:02:31.540 So I'll go out.
00:02:33.020 I'm on TV as well.
00:02:34.420 So I'm going to take pictures with people in a club.
00:02:36.480 Why are you taking photos with them, right?
00:02:38.300 Well, obviously, if I go out, someone's going to take a photo of me.
00:02:40.900 So I know if they're asking me that question, I'm like, I'll wait for them to go out.
00:02:44.920 And then I'll go and tag photos and stuff and see them in photos.
00:02:48.020 I'm like, why are you taking photos and why are you even asking me?
00:02:51.700 So that would be the first thing.
00:02:52.700 If someone asks you a direct question, you have a direct answer.
00:02:55.140 But normally, they don't.
00:02:57.080 So then I sort of like, if you're asking me a question, then what's the reason that you're answering it?
00:03:01.060 Oh, so you're saying they were projecting?
00:03:02.800 Mostly.
00:03:03.120 Because they were cheating.
00:03:04.060 It's like, where have you been?
00:03:05.120 And they clearly know where you've been.
00:03:07.080 So it's like, when someone asks the whereabouts or why you're doing something, it's normally because they're asking for themselves.
00:03:13.200 Oh.
00:03:14.000 Yeah.
00:03:14.560 Can I have an example?
00:03:15.520 I'm sorry.
00:03:16.100 Can I have an example?
00:03:17.500 So they would be cheating with the guys they took pictures with?
00:03:20.340 So for example, they'd be like, why are you taking photos with someone?
00:03:26.580 That's normal.
00:03:27.840 So to me, that's normal.
00:03:28.980 Right.
00:03:29.280 But then they would do it.
00:03:31.140 So I'm like, if you find, if that's a problem to you.
00:03:33.640 Then they're doing something.
00:03:34.860 And you're doing it, then you must be cheating on me.
00:03:37.200 And then I'd go in.
00:03:38.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:38.600 Is that like, who are you texting?
00:03:40.940 That kind of question.
00:03:41.960 Yeah.
00:03:42.360 Yeah.
00:03:42.580 Like, who are you texting?
00:03:43.480 Or like, where's your phone?
00:03:44.980 Or do you know what I mean?
00:03:45.640 Like, then you're doing, you're hiding something.
00:03:48.340 So that's normally how I found out.
00:03:50.100 Oh.
00:03:50.960 Yeah.
00:03:51.400 Because I'm quite open in me.
00:03:52.500 If I'm texting a girl, mate, I'll just say it.
00:03:54.860 Or if I'm taking a phone.
00:03:56.180 Even if I've gone back to an after party and there's five, six girls in with my mates, I'll say it.
00:04:01.620 And then they go out.
00:04:02.420 And the fact they've asked me, and I've told them, I'm like, why are you doing it then?
00:04:07.580 So then you dig deeper.
00:04:09.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:09.480 I end up getting hurt.
00:04:10.540 But there you go.
00:04:11.280 That's me.
00:04:11.840 So how did you find out?
00:04:13.080 Did you message the guys that she was taking pictures with?
00:04:15.840 No, no.
00:04:16.100 I'd never messaged.
00:04:17.420 Looked through her phone?
00:04:18.300 Like, how'd you get hurt?
00:04:19.040 Do you know what's funny?
00:04:19.780 Like, because I've been in the limelight quite a while, they start messaging me.
00:04:25.060 They start liking photos.
00:04:26.600 Like, you see them connect.
00:04:28.140 Because I do social media as well.
00:04:29.760 Like, you just see the network happening.
00:04:31.840 So, and also, if they've been out, if an ex-girlfriend's been out on a night out or whatever,
00:04:36.940 like, you can see who they've been with because they start following them and stuff.
00:04:40.020 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:40.840 And like, oh, they're in Bournemouth.
00:04:42.740 Oh, they're in Mayfair.
00:04:44.280 And it all lines up.
00:04:45.300 And you're like, oh, okay.
00:04:46.060 And then you sort of watch it for a while.
00:04:47.180 And they're like, oh, you're cheating on me.
00:04:49.000 So, yeah, that normally happens to me.
00:04:50.000 Have you ever been wrong?
00:04:51.080 Sorry.
00:04:51.620 Have you ever been wrong?
00:04:53.760 Assuming they have.
00:04:54.560 Do you know what?
00:04:54.880 Like, I haven't, I've always, I've always known my whereabouts.
00:04:58.640 I've known they've been, like, if someone's been with someone, they've not said they've
00:05:01.680 been with them.
00:05:02.160 To me, that's cheating.
00:05:03.160 Whether it's physical or not.
00:05:04.700 Like, if you ask someone a question, they'd be like, oh, who was you with?
00:05:07.200 Was you with, like, so, was you with four guys?
00:05:09.920 Did you go back to that house?
00:05:11.280 The fact they didn't say that to you is cheating to me.
00:05:13.440 What's your definition of cheating?
00:05:15.720 Oh, deceiving someone behind their back.
00:05:17.960 So, does it have to be physical?
00:05:20.000 Not at all.
00:05:20.860 Not at all.
00:05:21.620 Just, just, just, yeah, just, like, yeah, go on.
00:05:25.900 By that logic, if a girl lies about her body count, is it cheating?
00:05:29.200 Because she's deceiving you?
00:05:33.420 Yeah, yeah, pretty much.
00:05:35.920 I'm like, well, just be open, because I go in at the beginning.
00:05:38.480 I'm like, yeah, I'll just go, and they go, yeah, 20.
00:05:41.160 And then you find out, oh, this, you found out 20 in the space of a month.
00:05:45.540 So, you're like, where's that 20 come from, then?
00:05:48.860 Is it 40?
00:05:50.120 And where's the other 20 on top?
00:05:51.920 So, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:52.760 I wouldn't even want to know that body count.
00:05:54.600 No, I wouldn't.
00:05:55.380 I wouldn't know.
00:05:56.060 Because they ask you.
00:05:57.840 If they ask me, and I'm honest about it, it just makes me want to be dishonest going forward.
00:06:01.880 But my thing with body count is, how can you ever really know who's telling the truth?
00:06:06.040 Like, you can't.
00:06:07.500 Yeah, but if you say, like, 10, and you're 30 years old, like, you know something.
00:06:12.140 If I haven't started sleeping with people until I'm, like, 27, 28, then, of course, that number can be.
00:06:16.820 But what if you're with someone, and you find out they've been with 12 people after?
00:06:20.180 That's what I'm saying.
00:06:20.960 How do you, you can't always find out.
00:06:22.940 You can tell, just based on.
00:06:24.600 How can you tell?
00:06:24.800 Because the women that have slept with more people are more bitter, because their life are, yeah.
00:06:28.840 I feel like that's quite a general thing to say.
00:06:30.960 But it depends.
00:06:31.820 I disagree on that.
00:06:33.140 I'm not saying it's 100%.
00:06:35.300 Yeah, that's my point.
00:06:36.280 Women slip up, it always comes out.
00:06:37.800 Yeah, look, the thing is, like, 2 off, 4, 5, 10, whatever.
00:06:40.840 But when you're, like, 50 off, or 100, then there's a problem.
00:06:43.640 But that's my point.
00:06:44.480 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:44.740 I don't think we can ever tell.
00:06:47.180 What, 50 or 100 off?
00:06:47.960 No, no, no, no.
00:06:48.780 I'm saying everybody's body count.
00:06:50.600 So if I was to say right now that my body count's 10.
00:06:53.000 What is your body count?
00:06:53.860 There's no physical way.
00:06:54.600 What is your one?
00:06:56.260 You're going to say no way.
00:06:58.040 But you haven't answered my question.
00:06:59.580 You wouldn't be able to know if I'm lying or not.
00:07:02.140 If I've gone higher or if I've gone lower.
00:07:03.640 That's the, like, there's no concrete.
00:07:05.320 Yeah, but I just think the truth comes out.
00:07:07.500 It comes out in the end.
00:07:08.920 It does.
00:07:10.820 I'll give you an example.
00:07:12.180 Because, like, I've had hundreds of women come on the show.
00:07:14.480 It's, like, one girl will say something on the podcast,
00:07:16.740 but eventually I hear about someone she slept with.
00:07:19.420 But again.
00:07:19.720 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:19.880 So it's, like, people have reputations.
00:07:25.220 Oh, yeah.
00:07:25.600 Like, shit comes out about people.
00:07:27.500 I don't think it's that connected.
00:07:29.980 Oh, yeah.
00:07:30.360 I don't think, you know.
00:07:32.520 You know what?
00:07:33.140 You know what?
00:07:33.580 It's not the number.
00:07:34.160 You would be surprised.
00:07:36.020 I'll get different show guests.
00:07:37.580 Come on.
00:07:37.920 And then, like, some guy will be, like,
00:07:39.380 oh, I slept with that one, that one, that.
00:07:40.780 Like, it's like.
00:07:41.460 What?
00:07:43.400 But he could be lying.
00:07:45.040 Exactly.
00:07:45.680 That's my pledge.
00:07:46.700 You can never ever completely tell.
00:07:50.000 You won't completely tell.
00:07:51.220 But then when it's, like, three guys have the same story,
00:07:53.340 you're like, okay, God.
00:07:54.040 That's bias.
00:07:56.320 That's bias.
00:07:56.840 Oh, my God.
00:07:57.800 Oh, my God.
00:07:58.820 No, no, no.
00:07:59.460 But you can tell guys cap, too.
00:08:01.460 Guys cap about money.
00:08:03.520 That's the biggest thing.
00:08:04.300 Guys will be like, oh, I have this company.
00:08:05.920 And we'll look it up.
00:08:06.400 It's dissolved.
00:08:08.600 It's interesting to say that because statistically,
00:08:13.480 men are, men are, men lie more about their body count,
00:08:19.020 their women.
00:08:19.320 Like, they will not, not just lie, not just lie,
00:08:22.380 sorry, just this point, not just lie,
00:08:24.240 but they, they are the ones that notch it up.
00:08:27.080 So, men, yeah, exaggerate.
00:08:28.700 Women.
00:08:29.280 Men exaggerate.
00:08:30.360 Yeah, men.
00:08:30.920 It's statistically.
00:08:31.640 I never exaggerate.
00:08:32.320 It's online.
00:08:33.140 You can look it up.
00:08:34.360 It's men.
00:08:35.300 Statistically, men exaggerate.
00:08:36.440 No, I don't think that.
00:08:37.140 So, it's hard to know what body count you actually have.
00:08:40.300 Men will try and clear.
00:08:41.300 But it's statistics.
00:08:42.140 It's not my opinion.
00:08:43.740 No, that's not true.
00:08:45.120 That was written by a woman.
00:08:46.060 Let's just, let's just, well, there's two problems, okay?
00:08:49.040 One, feminists have ruined, like, all data.
00:08:51.820 They infiltrated school, yeah, yeah.
00:08:53.300 They infiltrated schools in the 1970s and 80s.
00:08:56.300 But, but I will say, men do lie.
00:08:58.340 I would agree.
00:08:58.880 Men tend to lie up.
00:08:59.900 Women tend to lie down.
00:09:00.960 Because it makes sense in society.
00:09:02.600 But who, who lies more, men or women?
00:09:05.360 Oh, no.
00:09:08.680 No, they both lie.
00:09:10.300 That's a tricky question.
00:09:11.520 They both lie.
00:09:12.180 It depends.
00:09:12.220 It depends on the circumstances.
00:09:14.140 Exactly.
00:09:14.840 Reperfumans.
00:09:15.480 Reperfumans.
00:09:16.320 I'm this show, I'm banning a word.
00:09:17.820 I'm banning a word.
00:09:18.420 There's no, it depends.
00:09:20.140 There's no, no, no, no.
00:09:21.040 There's no, it depends.
00:09:22.060 It's, you gotta pick one side.
00:09:23.200 What about kinder?
00:09:24.080 What about kinder?
00:09:24.800 No, no, go on.
00:09:26.380 I think women have more, lie more, for sure.
00:09:30.500 Because they suffer more judgment.
00:09:32.620 Yeah.
00:09:33.520 I think women suffer more judgment from the guy.
00:09:36.160 And usually, it's always the, mostly the guys asking the girl.
00:09:39.640 Her body counted the way around.
00:09:41.280 Yeah.
00:09:41.480 Because usually we presume that the guy is left with a lot of girls.
00:09:44.880 You're with the wrong guys, babe.
00:09:45.420 Of course, that's why I broke up with them.
00:09:49.960 But you need to understand something.
00:09:52.420 Men and women lie for different reasons.
00:09:54.160 So you cannot determine who's lying more.
00:09:55.800 Yeah.
00:09:56.220 Yeah.
00:09:56.240 So men lie about the money because guess what?
00:09:58.740 It works.
00:09:59.380 Yeah.
00:10:00.640 Yeah.
00:10:01.340 Yeah.
00:10:01.660 True.
00:10:02.480 There's no lies.
00:10:03.340 It's facts.
00:10:03.440 It's not nice, but women like, we lie about the things that society finds simple.
00:10:08.680 And women lie about their body count because it works.
00:10:11.560 Yeah.
00:10:12.180 Not to me.
00:10:13.080 It's so simple.
00:10:13.700 In all honesty, I think women lie more because it's like, we have the filters on Instagram.
00:10:18.060 We have the caked on makeup.
00:10:19.260 We have the BBLs.
00:10:20.900 But again, men have the cards.
00:10:22.560 So they've got the clothes.
00:10:24.260 They've got the men have the steroids.
00:10:26.780 I'll tell you.
00:10:27.700 I'll tell you.
00:10:28.180 I've just had so many people come on the show.
00:10:30.740 It's like so many girls come on.
00:10:32.300 They'll follow me on Instagram.
00:10:33.520 And I'm like, who is that?
00:10:35.980 And they don't look like they're pictures.
00:10:37.620 Yeah.
00:10:38.060 That's true.
00:10:38.920 Men, it's just not the same.
00:10:40.320 They don't do it as much.
00:10:41.160 They do lie about money.
00:10:42.500 I will say that.
00:10:43.440 But when it comes to looks, come on, women lie way more.
00:10:48.360 I mean, I guess in a way, yes, it's just more socially acceptable with women.