Plus Size Man ATTACKS Personal Trainer
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Summary
In this episode, the guys debate if fat women in bikinis are not attractive to men. Is there a weight limit for a fat woman in a bikini? Do you think a guy would be attracted to a woman with a smaller waist or a bigger bum?
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I can't speak for all men, but I would say majority of blokes wouldn't find fat women in a bikini attractive.
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Actually, I'm just, there's five guys in the room, six.
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So, who here would disqualify a girl from dating her just based on her weight?
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King, would you, would you disqual, would you disqualify a girl based on her weight?
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I'd be so interested to know what that weight limit is.
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But I have dated a bigger guy before, but yeah.
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I'm a numbers person, so no matter what, if I'm with you on your numbers, then right.
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Like, is it if a woman is, I don't know, I don't know.
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Okay, so for a fat woman, it's about shape, right?
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If she had a tiny waist, she was buxom, and she had large thighs and a big bum, you would
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But if she was rounder, like more of an apple shape, then you'd be like, yeah, you need
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I mean, if you look at Nicki Minaj, you'd go, oh yeah, okay, I could see her in a bikini,
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She's probably a bit larger than the average individual.
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But an obese woman in a bikini, probably not everyone's cup of tea.
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Would you go up to her and ask her what the fat around her heart is like if she looked
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If she looks unhealthy, probably disqualifies her.
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So three of my latest Instagram posts sent me in a bikini, in different bikinis, and they
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They have lots of comments telling me how great I look, and I think I look great in them,
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And what's the biggest client you've had, like the biggest weight?
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I'd say I mainly train guys, but just I would say the average probably like 100, 110 kilos.
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I'm sorry that you listen, you need to do more personal training because until you make
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a big person lose weight, you're like a big, big, big person lose weight.
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No, but the issue is even when you lose weight, 80% of fat people regain it within five years.
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And sorry, I didn't mean to dis you because I'm not here.
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I don't want to come, but for real, a personal trainer, it's all about actually helping and
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encouraging others, and you need to actually set an example and be the example.
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But you see with the personal trainers, yeah, how long do you spend with your client?
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So if any more time, you work twice a week, three times a week.
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So then how am I going to control your life or make you lose weight or motivate you if
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you're not even committing yourself to losing weight yourself?
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And a lot of women just get a personal trainer as a counsellor.
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There are so many personal trainers that I know.
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I've heard a lot of women just get personal trainers as a counsellor.
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So, I mean, what he's saying is it's on the individual.
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But then how do other personal trainers help other big, big people lose proper weight?
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I think if there's less of a body positivity movement, like more big, big people.
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It's more like more positive attitude needs to be promoted by personal trainers in general.
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It's personal trainers that are meant to be saying you're in a gym.
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Because if I started training you, I already motivated you from the start to start training.
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And if every, let's just say week or two, you are checking your numbers.
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And every week or two, you're actually getting results from these numbers.
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That's motivating you to come to the gym more, to be there more, to eat healthier, to do more.
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It's because you are getting better every single day.
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It has nothing to do with how much you show up.
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And when I show you these numbers, and you see every two weeks or month that, listen, I dropped four kg in, let's just say, one month.
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It has nothing to do with mental health and our lifestyle and all this and all that bullshit.
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And when I show that to my clients, they're motivated to do more.
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It's because they see that they're improving themselves by showing up and doing what they have to do.
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And showing that consistency, that's all that's important, to be honest.
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But a lot of people lose motivation very quickly.
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A lot of people are not consistent in their goals either.
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So a lot of people are consistently doing nonsense.
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Unless you're stuck in your ways, you need to break the cycle, you know?
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And a lot of people aren't breaking their cycle.
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You're saying earlier on, it was hard for you to do it.
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But for whatever reason, we need to break this barrel.
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Just like a concert today, we just say Beyonce.
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If you want to go to a Beyonce concert bad, and you don't have the money,
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I actually really wanted to go, but as a freelancer, I had to.
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Well, where I think it's gone wrong is, what was your name again, sorry?
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Where it's gone wrong is, you're getting rewarded almost on social media.
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You're saying, oh, comments found me attractive.
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But in reality, like I said before, nine out of ten people would say it's unattractive.
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But again, as I said, like I've never struggled.
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I've never got into a club that is strict about like Mayfair clubs.
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I've always felt attractive and been attractive in my life.
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Is that saying, are you waiting until, like are you going to continue, I don't want to
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say continue getting to where you are, but you're going to stay comfortable until.
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I just think it's a criteria of what you think attractive is.
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You're telling yourself you're attractive and you're putting the criteria as I get into
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Mayfair clubs and exclusive parties and whatnot.
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But if the general consensus of what is attractive, of what men find beautiful in women, then I'm
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not saying to your face that you probably wouldn't tick that, but I'm just saying at
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But what I would say is that like I am actively trying to lose weight, but that has nothing
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I'm not trying to lose weight because of how attractive I think other people think I am.
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I'm not saying why, but I'm saying your weight absolutely does dictate how attractive you
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But that's not a motivator for me, losing weight.
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She's saying weight has a direct impact on how attractive you are.
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And I think if all attention, I mean, you just talked about the attention you got from
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So if all attention was taken from you tomorrow, I think it would motivate you to lose weight.
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But the problem is even overweight women still get attention because of Instagram, social
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media, and all of this stuff that like normalizes obesity.
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Like a hundred years ago, everybody was in shape.
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So if you were overweight, like you would be shamed.
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Pearl, that's because people have different beauty in their eyes.
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Like some people, they would look at someone and weight wouldn't matter.
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So that's why you've seen the big girl with the fit guy or the big guy with the fit girl.
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I'll only believe it when the men with all the options start picking big women.
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Has anyone ever seen Brad Pitt with an extremely fat chick?
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But you'll see a hot chick with a really rich, ugly guy.
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Name me one Hollywood A-lister that's gone out with a morbidly obese woman.
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I'm sorry, they've got a public profile to think about.
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No, because there are lots of secret chub chasers, let me tell you.
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But secret doesn't count because women value commitment.
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That's like saying, oh, I'm this person's side chick.
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So if we're talking about being attractive to men, we could sit here and all jab at Pia or person X and say, yeah, but you're not attractive to men because you're fat.
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B, I would say that the goalposts always change for women because even if person X were to lose weight, maybe they, I don't know, have dark hair and men prefer blondes.
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And then she's got to bleach her hair and she is too short, but there's nothing she can do about her height.
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So her dating pool is always going to be that little bit smaller.
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Look at all of the variation between like the people in this room.
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There are some people, let's talk about now women and being attracted to men.
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There are people like who would prefer you, John, over person B and that's fine, right?
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Like if you are not attractive to person A, you're going to be attractive to someone else.
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The goalposts will always move, especially for women, because we know that there's a huge market around like beauty standards.
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I mean, Paul was probably just about to say that as well.
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You've got to have a high status to command an attractive woman.
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But to that point, I mean, Pia, I'm glad you found love.
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But would you think if you were healthier, maybe skinnier, that you would find someone other than your boyfriend that's a bit more attractive, a bit more higher status, has a higher paying job?
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Do you think if you were more attractive due to your weight that you would find someone better than your current boyfriend?