JustPearlyThings - June 24, 2023


Plus Sized Man Gets Offended After Learning This Fact


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9 minutes

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216.42857

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2,020

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1


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00:00:00.000 comfortable to get the less your checking numbers as well and i feel like people who are comfortable
00:00:04.480 in their obesity don't check it don't even check and the one thing i don't like is like
00:00:08.640 they'll say it's like unhealthy to weigh yourself every day when i lost weight by weighing myself
00:00:13.760 every day and i don't think that's like they did studies and they found that the people
00:00:17.760 they didn't give them a diet or anything but the people that would just weighed themselves
00:00:21.120 every single day lost the most weight yeah it's just a journey like for me is honestly a journey
00:00:28.160 and that's why i just promote you know because i know confidence is such a big thing that's why i
00:00:35.040 promote like body positivity and it's not about obesity it's just about literally i think i think
00:00:40.960 it does become about obesity when it's like we're putting on well it's like okay if an only fans
00:00:45.600 model puts on a thong and puts that on and says i'm not promoting sexuality well you kind of are
00:00:51.360 and so if you're oh if you're overweight and you're and you're putting your body out there it's like
00:00:55.680 you are promoting sugar puff i'm gonna pause you there so um in the kindest way so if someone is
00:01:03.680 big are you saying that they then do not deserve to be heard or seen because they are big no i didn't
00:01:10.320 say that no so but are they leading with their weight so i would say you i would say if you're
00:01:14.800 leading with your body then yes you are leading with your weight and how does someone so let's take
00:01:19.280 lizzo for example because she's like right in the center of this topic isn't she that is the example
00:01:24.400 we like to do yeah we love a little bit yeah so so lizzo is a great music though great music decent music
00:01:34.640 i've never heard one of her songs because her music doesn't appeal to me but i know that she's
00:01:38.560 right in the center right body positivity her music not withstanding so let's take lizzo for example a lot
00:01:45.200 of people slate her because she apparently leads with her weight she wears revealing clothing and
00:01:50.800 i've seen on the other end of that argument you've got people who compare her to say rihanna or beyonce
00:01:56.960 they wear similar clothing but their shape is very different i would argue that lizzo a is actually
00:02:03.360 potentially quite fit because she performs for long periods of time which she maybe not fit maybe
00:02:08.320 fit is the wrong word i haven't finished talking one second so i would say that a she maybe has a
00:02:17.040 lot of stamina because she performs for a long period of time i think she plays the flute sometimes when
00:02:21.680 she performs and she dances and she sings that's a lot to do in let's say 90 minutes all at the same
00:02:27.040 times a lot going on there so i applaud her stamina and also i could never be a walmart lizzo at all and so
00:02:34.000 i would say that with lizzo being at the center of the body positive body positivity discussion
00:02:40.960 we should probably look at her stamina a b we should say that is she leading with her weight
00:02:45.920 or does she just exist as a fat person who's on stage because i would say i would say adele did not
00:02:51.040 lead with her weight nobody really commented on adele's weight weight on adele's weight because she did
00:02:56.720 not lead with that she led with her talent if you looked at her instagram it was her in long beautiful
00:03:01.680 dresses singing no one really talked about it until she lost weight on the other hand lizzo if
00:03:06.800 you look at her instagram it damn near looks like corn like it's her in thong bikini she wore a thong
00:03:13.280 thing to to a basketball game with kids at it yeah in the name of body positivity sometimes that's what
00:03:19.360 we mean okay kelly clarkson right i think people people may have commented on it because she didn't gain
00:03:24.240 a lot of weight people will comment but it's not the main topic of discussion kelly clarkson clarkson
00:03:30.720 because she leads with her talent so you think lizzo dressing the way she dresses yes let's say on
00:03:36.960 stage i don't agree with the same way i would say an only fans model leads with her sexuality like a
00:03:43.440 a girl that's on only fans and her her instagram looks like a corn hub basically she is leading with
00:03:48.960 her sexuality how would you have lizzo dress to not lead with her body um and that's an open question i i
00:03:54.640 would say the the thong thingies it's like a i would say the all i would say basically change
00:04:01.440 your whole wardrobe look at i don't know what adele used to wear if you look at any girl at a
00:04:07.280 festival nowadays very revealing clothing yeah so that's that's probably the trend but when lizzo's
00:04:12.320 doing it it's getting publicized it's everywhere it's been pushed by media and then on top of that
00:04:18.240 she's proclaiming that she's happy at that weight as well so she's also leading with that she's
00:04:22.160 responding to criticism why is she getting criticism because the majority of people don't
00:04:26.960 find that attractive and you guys and you guys can't a lot of people can't do anything about that
00:04:31.040 to the average individual they don't find fat people attractive to you maybe not i'm telling you
00:04:36.000 as a big person myself i'm not gonna go like i get a lot of attention yeah and i know a lot of big
00:04:41.200 women that get attention you're talking about a niche no no no no not niche not niche i don't know
00:04:47.120 where you got you probably grew up with the skinny skinny people but there's a mix there's literally
00:04:51.920 been a mixture um for real that's how it's been i mean there's always going to be a market for it
00:04:57.840 i mean there's categories for it sugar puff but i'm saying that the majority of people don't find it
00:05:02.640 attractive that's why they get criticism and you can say it's whether they're leading with their body
00:05:06.560 or not but then the day it's just she's in the public light she's a she's a i think it's three i
00:05:13.520 gotta find it but it's like three out of five guys will eliminate you based on your weight alone
00:05:18.240 and they'd eliminate you based on other things as well which is completely concerned about it like
00:05:22.720 a lot of guys would eliminate me because i'm black or because i'm maybe not tall enough or too short
00:05:27.040 like you know it is what it is yeah but it's not being fat phobic that's just being who said fat phobic
00:05:33.280 no as in if you like if it's just preference like what you're saying that's what i was about to say
00:05:38.160 couldn't you argue that the best dating advice for women is to lose weight i would say that i have never
00:05:43.200 struggled regardless of my weight like i've been thin and i've been fat and i have never ever like
00:05:48.880 this is the biggest like it's not the biggest because i've lost a stone but it's almost the
00:05:52.160 biggest i've ever been and i've never struggled in life i've always been called pretty i've always
00:05:56.320 got jobs that like are around what i look like i've done well online which a lot of people would argue
00:06:01.520 you have to be pretty to do um and i've i've never been described i can get into the mayfair clubs i can
00:06:06.960 do everything that i've ever wanted to do and i've never felt like i could i mean you have youth on your
00:06:11.680 side you're you're 26 right and and why don't you argue you told me a different show that you got
00:06:16.560 more attention when you were thinner you still get attention now yeah but i've never struggled i mean
00:06:21.600 the attention is a burden a lot of the time for most women a burden no no women compete for attention
00:06:27.760 no i mean for me women will get bbls they will get surgery just to get attention one of my big goals
00:06:34.160 is like so my audience has split 50 50 male female on all of my platforms okay my biggest goal is to go to
00:06:40.160 more women and so for at the moment i'm trying to build on facebook and when i target my ads i
00:06:45.040 target them at women i tell girly stories i tell gossipy things i aim my twitch is like
00:06:49.760 girly sleepover vibes like i don't want men because i don't like that attention i have a boyfriend i have
00:06:55.680 a good life i don't need men like well i mean again this isn't but i'm not talking about you personally
00:07:01.760 but i think when we have women getting extreme surgeries just to get attention from men i think i think
00:07:06.960 we could say that women do want attention i would just i would just have you seen the bbls have you
00:07:11.600 seen them on the play oh come on i've worked as an actor i've seen a lot of boob jobs i've seen a lot
00:07:15.360 of bbls i've seen it in modeling but like what i would say is like as a plus-size person i never felt
00:07:22.160 like discriminated against i've never felt ugly because i was fat i've never been told i was ugly
00:07:26.080 because i was fat other than like occasionally in pearls chat but you know what i mean like i just
00:07:32.240 i've never suffered for that and so i would never give someone that dating advice because it's never
00:07:36.480 held me back personally that's you personally is the key there isn't it you personally it hasn't held
00:07:41.840 you back but then i guess if we did a survey of of fat people fat women probably if we're being
00:07:47.840 truthful being fat has held them back at points whether they know it or not right yeah i have a
00:07:53.440 question do you feel that i don't i've never really actively dated so i can't really say and
00:07:58.320 also as i like to my own point it has probably held me back without my knowledge okay there's the
00:08:04.560 scene and then there's the unseen right and you know there will be what some people impulse chat
00:08:09.520 would call the liberals they would say that i have a question on your side like there's there's the
00:08:14.640 intersectionality part of it that will go like well maybe you haven't been declined jobs because
00:08:20.160 you are desirable in the market for other reasons like size aside as much as as much as you're
00:08:25.840 comfortable in your skin if you were to step on a scale and see some alarming numbers would you
00:08:31.520 change your lifestyle or would you continue living the same lifestyle that you're living right now i'm
00:08:36.080 doing it i make it yeah i eat healthy and and i am very active i dance like you see on my social media
00:08:43.280 i'm not actually trying to promote your lifestyle i am trying to change my lifestyle by keeping it going and
00:08:48.720 actually going through the struggles and literally keeping it going you are talking to three fat
00:08:53.760 people that none of us here are sitting here being like everyone should be our way and it's good for
00:08:58.320 us we're actively saying like yeah we need to lose weight we need to sort out you know like but it's
00:09:01.920 difficult i commend you for trying to lose weight and good on you good luck on the journey right but
00:09:06.960 can i just say it just depends who you guys are deflecting the blame on not just to you guys
00:09:11.920 personally but the fat in general it's not are you blaming other people for calling you guys out or
00:09:17.440 do you want to take some personal responsibility and say hey