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Summary
In this episode, we discuss cheating in marriage, cheating in relationships, and cheating in general. Do you cheat? Should you leave your wife if she cheats? Should she leave her husband if he cheats, and what should she do if he does cheat?
Transcript
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Do you guys believe in divorce, and for what reasons?
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There's a difference between a man divorcing and a woman divorcing.
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Cheating would be the main reason why a man would leave.
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Yeah, because if you got caught, bro, that's it.
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I don't really believe in marriage, to be honest.
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No, I mean, I think if you get married and you make those vows and you make that commitment,
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then I think that you should, for the most part, I think you should stay in it, really.
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I don't think you should just, and this is the whole problem that we've had over the
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last, like, few decades, and since no-fault divorce came in, it became a lot easier to
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No, I think you should, if you're going to make that commitment, I think you should hang
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No, like, it's a worse nightmare, but obviously that's the only thing that can't run.
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I'm in control of my own decisions, so if I made that choice, I'm prepared to take the
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Yeah, because, again, equally, if you sign up for it, you're signing on that dotted line.
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You're saying, you know, I'm going to be, you know, effectively, I'm saying I'm going
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You should also adhere to that, because that's what you promised, you know?
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I have a friend, and I just feel like we never talk about these stories.
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Like, I have a friend, her parents cheated, or not her parents, her dad cheated on her mom,
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It was, like, cheating with everyone, basically.
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And they ended up, like, working through it, and, like, she was happier at the end.
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She passed away, but they were, like, married, like, 40 years, and the last, like, 10 years
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they were together, they were really, really happy.
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We've obviously touched on this already, about is it worse when a woman cheats as opposed
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And I think, I mean, look, you know, any female viewers of this are going to blame me,
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but I think I can conceive of it being easier to work through that way around than maybe
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if the wife has cheated on the guy a lot of times, and then working through that.
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I think that seems to me a bigger ask for that guy to work through that.
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I think cheating is different for men and for women.
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Yeah, but marriage is a bit different because it's, like, you don't even need to get married
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in 2023, so you're committing to something that's big.
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So it's either, for me personally, I think either you're religious or, like, you're from
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Well, that's the point I was sort of jokingly making because I sort of think, on the other
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If you're not, you know, unless you're prepared to actually.
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If you sign up to say, yeah, like, you're going to take half if I fuck up.
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Like, it's like, I don't expect her not to leave.
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Like, you just gave her the keys to leave, right?
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Or do what that footballer did and just put everything on your mom's.
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Like, I just think, like, they used to work through stuff, you know?
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Like, they used to actually try to figure stuff out where now it's, like, he slips up once
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I'm just saying, you can leave if you want, but I don't know about the reward part.
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So, like, where they get paid monthly for, I was like, what?
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It's wild that you have to pay for a fully grown human.
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Why Not says, divorce is a matter of the question.
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When children matter first, I fail to understand.
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When children matter first, I fail to understand.
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He's saying he doesn't understand divorce when the children come first.
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I'm getting all the tips and all the tips from this show, for sure.
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I wouldn't even put it that way to him, though.
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Like some kind of offshore company or something like that?
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And then open another company that manages the company that manages the trust.
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I divorced my husband because I was making a certain amount of money.
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I divorced my husband because I thought I didn't need him anymore.
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I divorced my husband because I had this senior position at work
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I divorced my husband because I thought I was better than him
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I divorced my husband because I thought a successful marriage meant I was here
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I found myself divorced and out there looking for love in all the wrong places.
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Fucking this one and that one and that one and that one and this one and that one.
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And my body count going up and my value going down.
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All the while my husband found somebody else building a relationship and building a life with them.
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I felt like I was on this dark road with no street lights, pitch dark,
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and I couldn't find my way and didn't know which way to go.
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I felt like I was walking barefoot on that dark road with pebbles and hot rocks sticking my foot.
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I felt alone because every time he and that one and this one and that one left my bed,
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And which was supposed to be soft and comfortable for me, my pillow,
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I divorced my husband because I was making a certain amount of money.
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I divorced my husband because I thought I didn't need him anymore.
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I divorced my husband because I had this senior position at work
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But like, if you divorce someone or you break up with someone,
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it doesn't necessarily mean that your body count has to go up.
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And like she said, probably because of her age,
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And she's left there, as she said, crying into her pillow.
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I think a lot of that happens because you're more in your masculine.
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So she felt like her man was somehow beneath her.
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Women are more likely to divorce their husbands
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Like, just because you're doing well at something,
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I can't wait to share this with the person I love,
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but why was she thinking anyone is actually going to be interested?
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You clearly care more about money than you do about love
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I don't see any sense or logic in anything she said,
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apart from the fact that she took up accountability for her actions
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and she was maybe getting attention from younger guys.
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Or maybe she was around men that made more money at work.
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that she, you know, like, divorced her husband.
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That could have been, like, years ago when she was younger
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and now this is her, like, speaking, you know, from experience.
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But obviously it wasn't a logical decision, though, was it?
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I mean, she just obviously, I think the point is she lost the feels.
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She got, like, high off the attention, high off the money.
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I don't necessarily think that that was a good decision that she made
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especially with, for example, like, with, like, celebrity men
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when they have, like, a woman before they come up
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and then when they come up, you'll see that's when they start
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to, like, cheat and, like, DM these Instagram models
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So, say, for example, you met me, I was earning 50K.
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So do you think that woman was right to leave her husband?
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It's not for me to say if she was right or wrong.
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What's more important to me is that she's telling you
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and make that same decision before they get to that point.
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If I was a guy and I was just logically trying to solve this,
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I just wouldn't support my wife's career at all.
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If you get a promotion, you're more likely to leave.
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and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.