JustPearlyThings - April 17, 2023


Post Wall Woman Regrets Her decision

Topics
divorce reasons
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Mommy
She tried To Slither Her way Through This Topic Delusional Woman Reveals Her Hypocrisy

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Length

12 minutes

Words per minute

198.81

Word count

2,393

Sentence count

259

Harmful content

Misogyny

16

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Toxicity

16

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in marriage, cheating in relationships, and cheating in general. Do you cheat? Should you leave your wife if she cheats? Should she leave her husband if he cheats, and what should she do if he does cheat?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys believe in divorce, and for what reasons?
00:00:08.120 Well, who's divorcing?
00:00:12.200 And why is that?
00:00:13.320 The couple, either or.
00:00:16.940 The people that are married.
00:00:18.400 There's a difference between a man divorcing and a woman divorcing. 1.00
00:00:20.920 Okay, tell me.
00:00:22.860 What are valid reasons for divorce?
00:00:28.080 Cheating.
00:00:28.660 Cheating is the only valid reason.
00:00:30.000 Cheating would be the main reason why a man would leave.
00:00:33.260 Should the woman leave if he cheats? 1.00
00:00:35.880 Yeah, I think she should.
00:00:37.760 You think she should?
00:00:38.680 Yeah, I think she should.
00:00:39.180 What if it's a one-night stand?
00:00:40.520 She still should?
00:00:45.440 Yeah, because if you got caught, bro, that's it.
00:00:48.660 Don't get caught.
00:00:49.780 I thought a minute ago there was no...
00:00:51.680 Have I missed something?
00:00:53.420 No, that was me.
00:00:55.140 That was me.
00:00:56.220 That was me.
00:00:56.720 I asked their opinion.
00:00:58.480 I asked their opinion.
00:00:59.880 Okay, what about you?
00:01:01.320 Do I believe in divorce?
00:01:02.380 Yeah.
00:01:02.700 What reasons?
00:01:03.700 I don't really believe in marriage, to be honest.
00:01:05.700 Okay.
00:01:07.540 No, I'm only joking.
00:01:08.700 No, I mean, I think if you get married and you make those vows and you make that commitment,
00:01:12.340 then I think that you should, for the most part, I think you should stay in it, really.
00:01:16.580 I don't think you should just, and this is the whole problem that we've had over the
00:01:19.940 last, like, few decades, and since no-fault divorce came in, it became a lot easier to
00:01:23.540 divorce.
00:01:24.480 No, I think you should, if you're going to make that commitment, I think you should hang
00:01:27.120 in there, for sure.
00:01:28.740 Don't cheat on your wife, don't you?
00:01:30.600 Just get another one.
00:01:33.360 What do you think?
00:01:34.780 Divorce, for me, would be a worse nightmare.
00:01:36.920 So, yeah.
00:01:38.480 Like, once you make them vows...
00:01:40.060 What if she cheats?
00:01:41.120 You stand?
00:01:41.680 No.
00:01:42.320 Okay.
00:01:43.400 No, like, it's a worse nightmare, but obviously that's the only thing that can't run.
00:01:48.060 Do you think she should leave?
00:01:49.280 Huh?
00:01:49.540 Do you think she should leave if you cheat?
00:01:51.660 She had every right to, yeah.
00:01:52.780 Because it's a choice, isn't it?
00:01:53.780 See, that's the...
00:01:54.360 I'm in control of my own decisions, so if I made that choice, I'm prepared to take the
00:01:57.740 consequences.
00:01:58.340 Yeah, man.
00:01:58.660 Yeah, because, again, equally, if you sign up for it, you're signing on that dotted line.
00:02:04.340 You're saying, you know, I'm going to be, you know, effectively, I'm saying I'm going
00:02:07.440 to be monogamous to you.
00:02:08.220 You should also adhere to that, because that's what you promised, you know?
00:02:11.560 I have a friend, and I just feel like we never talk about these stories.
00:02:15.480 Like, I have a friend, her parents cheated, or not her parents, her dad cheated on her mom, 0.71
00:02:20.720 and he was really bad.
00:02:21.580 He was, like, a serial cheater, too.
00:02:23.800 It was, like, cheating with everyone, basically.
00:02:25.700 And they ended up, like, working through it, and, like, she was happier at the end.
00:02:31.500 She passed away, but they were, like, married, like, 40 years, and the last, like, 10 years
00:02:35.280 they were together, they were really, really happy.
00:02:37.540 There is this whole issue, isn't there?
00:02:39.220 We've obviously touched on this already, about is it worse when a woman cheats as opposed 1.00
00:02:43.300 to when a guy cheats?
00:02:44.500 And I think, I mean, look, you know, any female viewers of this are going to blame me,
00:02:49.520 but I think I can conceive of it being easier to work through that way around than maybe
00:02:56.760 if the wife has cheated on the guy a lot of times, and then working through that. 0.83
00:03:01.480 I think that seems to me a bigger ask for that guy to work through that.
00:03:05.900 I agree.
00:03:06.960 I think cheating is different for men and for women.
00:03:09.100 Yeah.
00:03:09.420 Because guys will cheat with anything.
00:03:11.520 They'll cheat with a hole in the wall.
00:03:13.800 Yeah, but marriage is a bit different because it's, like, you don't even need to get married
00:03:19.980 in 2023, so you're committing to something that's big.
00:03:23.820 So it's either, for me personally, I think either you're religious or, like, you're from
00:03:31.140 a very traditional family.
00:03:32.520 Well, that's the point I was sort of jokingly making because I sort of think, on the other
00:03:36.640 hand, why would you sign up for it?
00:03:37.960 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:38.260 If you're not, you know, unless you're prepared to actually. 0.98
00:03:40.440 If you sign up to say, yeah, like, you're going to take half if I fuck up. 1.00
00:03:43.800 And then you fuck up. 1.00
00:03:45.000 Like, you're an idiot. 1.00
00:03:46.020 Exactly. 1.00
00:03:46.540 You know what I mean?
00:03:46.880 Like, it's like, I don't expect her not to leave.
00:03:49.400 Like, you just gave her the keys to leave, right?
00:03:52.280 Or do what that footballer did and just put everything on your mom's.
00:03:57.460 Put everything on your mom. 0.77
00:03:59.160 Like, I just think, like, they used to work through stuff, you know?
00:04:02.360 Like, they used to actually try to figure stuff out where now it's, like, he slips up once
00:04:06.420 and she's gone.
00:04:07.340 Yeah.
00:04:07.880 And it's not the men doing it.
00:04:09.020 It's the women leave 80% of the time. 1.00
00:04:11.280 So the women are the ones giving up. 1.00
00:04:12.980 And then it's weird because they're rewarded.
00:04:14.600 It's like, you're the quitter.
00:04:15.560 Why do you get rewarded for being a quitter?
00:04:17.580 I don't agree with the reward part.
00:04:19.380 No, I don't.
00:04:19.760 They do.
00:04:20.220 I'm just saying, you can leave if you want, but I don't know about the reward part.
00:04:23.940 I didn't say nothing about that part.
00:04:25.140 So, like, where they get paid monthly for, I was like, what?
00:04:28.780 I should have gotten married.
00:04:30.340 That's what I'm saying.
00:04:31.160 I was like, I missed out on that one.
00:04:34.420 Yeah.
00:04:34.980 It's wild that you have to pay for a fully grown human.
00:04:37.180 Why Not says, divorce is a matter of the question. 1.00
00:04:40.900 When children matter first, I fail to understand.
00:04:45.240 It was $100 super chat.
00:04:47.640 Can you repeat the question one more time?
00:04:54.760 Divorce is a matter of question.
00:04:56.900 When children matter first, I fail to understand.
00:04:59.380 It was just a statement.
00:05:00.320 Yeah, it was a statement.
00:05:01.720 He's saying he doesn't understand divorce when the children come first.
00:05:06.720 Do you want to play the next video, Blessing?
00:05:10.720 That guy was a genius, though.
00:05:13.000 Isn't it?
00:05:13.520 That's a smart move.
00:05:14.820 I will be suggesting it to my son.
00:05:18.600 I'm getting all the tips.
00:05:20.020 I'm getting all the tips and all the tips from this show, for sure.
00:05:24.800 Don't worry.
00:05:25.520 Mommy's not going to take anything. 1.00
00:05:27.140 You're like, yo.
00:05:28.180 Your mom is never going to leave.
00:05:29.760 But your wife can't. 1.00
00:05:31.700 Genius.
00:05:32.120 I wouldn't even put it that way to him, though.
00:05:33.940 Is there some other legal way of doing it?
00:05:35.420 Like some kind of offshore company or something like that?
00:05:37.120 No, no, no.
00:05:37.660 Just open a trust.
00:05:39.100 Yeah, if you put it in your trust.
00:05:39.740 Open a company to manage the trust.
00:05:42.300 And then open another company that manages the company that manages the trust.
00:05:45.840 In the Cayman Islands.
00:05:46.620 Why did I divorce my husband? 0.51
00:05:48.180 I divorced my husband because I was making a certain amount of money.
00:05:51.700 I divorced my husband because I thought I didn't need him anymore.
00:05:54.680 I divorced my husband because I had this senior position at work
00:05:58.420 and thought I held the same position at home.
00:06:01.100 I divorced my husband because I thought I was better than him
00:06:04.020 because I had my degree now.
00:06:05.740 I divorced my husband because I thought a successful marriage meant I was here
00:06:10.700 and he was down here.
00:06:12.120 That is not success. 1.00
00:06:13.460 That's fucking sickness. 0.99
00:06:14.960 I found myself divorced and out there looking for love in all the wrong places. 1.00
00:06:21.120 Fucking this one and that one and that one and that one and this one and that one. 0.99
00:06:25.580 And my body count going up and my value going down. 0.99
00:06:28.820 I'm just going to call it like a T.I. is.
00:06:30.760 All the while my husband found somebody else building a relationship and building a life with them.
00:06:39.000 I should have stayed married to my husband.
00:06:40.480 I felt like I was on this dark road with no street lights, pitch dark,
00:06:45.400 and I couldn't find my way and didn't know which way to go.
00:06:48.400 I felt lost.
00:06:49.600 I felt like I was walking barefoot on that dark road with pebbles and hot rocks sticking my foot.
00:06:54.920 I felt hurt.
00:06:56.340 I felt alone because every time he and that one and this one and that one left my bed,
00:07:01.140 I was alone all by myself.
00:07:03.240 And which was supposed to be soft and comfortable for me, my pillow,
00:07:07.740 it was now filled with tears.
00:07:09.080 I should not have left my husband.
00:07:12.820 I am filled with joy. 0.97
00:07:14.920 Divorce my husband. 0.99
00:07:16.440 Why did I divorce my husband? 0.51
00:07:18.360 I divorced my husband because I was making a certain amount of money.
00:07:21.680 I divorced my husband because I thought I didn't need him anymore.
00:07:25.020 I divorced my husband because I had this senior position at work
00:07:28.600 and thought I held the same position at home.
00:07:31.500 I divorced my husband because I...
00:07:33.080 What did you guys think of that video?
00:07:35.720 I liked her honesty, that's for sure.
00:07:39.200 For real.
00:07:43.380 Hindsight's a hell of a thing, isn't it?
00:07:44.880 I guess for her.
00:07:45.980 Yeah.
00:07:46.280 I think she was quite graphic and...
00:07:49.380 But like, if you divorce someone or you break up with someone,
00:07:52.740 it doesn't necessarily mean that your body count has to go up.
00:07:55.440 Well, no, but she has did. 0.97
00:07:57.680 But logically speaking...
00:07:58.800 Yeah, what would happen?
00:08:00.580 Are you a nun after that? 0.99
00:08:02.180 Are you never having sex again? 1.00
00:08:03.680 Just alone forever.
00:08:05.700 You're going to look for love.
00:08:07.120 And like she said, probably because of her age,
00:08:09.620 people are not taking her seriously.
00:08:10.960 So they're pumping and dumping.
00:08:12.460 And she's left there, as she said, crying into her pillow.
00:08:15.000 So she left her man because she got money. 1.00
00:08:19.160 Because she felt like superiority.
00:08:21.400 I think a lot of that happens because you're more in your masculine.
00:08:24.780 So she felt like her man was somehow beneath her.
00:08:27.640 She got...
00:08:28.000 High programming.
00:08:28.620 She outranked him.
00:08:29.980 That's wild.
00:08:30.980 So she outranked him in the house as well.
00:08:33.200 Women are more likely to divorce their husbands 0.99
00:08:36.360 after they get a promotion at work.
00:08:37.880 Yeah, so don't sell too many princes.
00:08:40.840 Don't sell too many princes.
00:08:42.100 Just got to be careful.
00:08:42.860 Don't be careful.
00:08:43.580 It's a sales rep of the year award.
00:08:49.420 What did you think of the video?
00:08:52.600 I thought it was outrageous.
00:08:54.560 Like, I don't know.
00:08:57.580 I think it's really sad that that happens.
00:09:00.480 And I know that it's common.
00:09:02.760 But I just think it's devastating.
00:09:04.660 Like, just because you're doing well at something,
00:09:07.400 why is your thought not then,
00:09:08.760 I can't wait to share this with the person I love,
00:09:11.300 rather than this person is now beneath me, 0.99
00:09:15.080 I'm the shit, I'm going to leave you, 0.99
00:09:16.860 I'm going to go out. 1.00
00:09:17.400 Like, I'm not being funny.
00:09:18.580 Like, that woman is not young.
00:09:19.960 Why was she thinking, no offence,
00:09:21.660 but why was she thinking anyone is actually going to be interested?
00:09:25.220 You're divorced.
00:09:26.520 You clearly care more about money than you do about love
00:09:29.200 and building a future.
00:09:30.220 I just think it's completely delusional.
00:09:33.380 I don't see any sense or logic in anything she said,
00:09:35.860 apart from the fact that she took up accountability for her actions
00:09:38.000 and realised, actually, I had it better off.
00:09:41.000 Maybe she was getting attention, you know,
00:09:42.940 like when she was out and she's in a nice car
00:09:45.920 and she was maybe getting attention from younger guys.
00:09:48.200 I don't know.
00:09:48.600 This is just me.
00:09:49.060 Or maybe she was around men that made more money at work.
00:09:52.140 Yeah, yeah.
00:09:53.000 She was thinking, ooh, I need to be.
00:09:54.860 What were you going to say?
00:09:56.260 I was going to say, well, I didn't say the age
00:09:58.300 that she, you know, like, divorced her husband.
00:10:00.500 That could have been, like, years ago when she was younger
00:10:02.440 and now this is her, like, speaking, you know, from experience.
00:10:07.380 But obviously it wasn't a logical decision, though, was it?
00:10:09.880 I mean, she just obviously, I think the point is she lost the feels.
00:10:13.000 Yeah, I mean, I don't necessarily...
00:10:14.180 She got, like, high off the attention, high off the money.
00:10:16.840 It was impulsive for her decision.
00:10:18.360 I don't necessarily think that that was a good decision that she made
00:10:21.380 and I feel like you do see this a lot,
00:10:23.260 especially with, for example, like, with, like, celebrity men
00:10:27.180 when they have, like, a woman before they come up 0.99
00:10:29.440 and then when they come up, you'll see that's when they start
00:10:31.440 to, like, cheat and, like, DM these Instagram models
00:10:34.420 and whatever, whatever, whatever.
00:10:35.780 They cheated before.
00:10:36.460 They just didn't know about it.
00:10:37.780 Yeah, maybe.
00:10:38.520 He's loyal.
00:10:39.000 I know that there's, you know, publicity.
00:10:40.900 He's got even more options.
00:10:42.480 It's more, but...
00:10:43.700 So I'm just saying to you, shouldn't I...
00:10:45.520 Okay, I was going to say to you,
00:10:46.740 shouldn't I be able to do that, though?
00:10:49.520 So, say, for example, you met me, I was earning 50K.
00:10:51.540 Okay, now I'm earning 50 million.
00:10:54.460 Don't you think I should...
00:10:55.140 So, I mean, do you...
00:10:56.040 So do you think that woman was right to leave her husband? 0.95
00:11:03.040 It's not for me to say if she was right or wrong.
00:11:05.360 What's more important to me is that she's telling you
00:11:07.080 so young people could hear it
00:11:08.320 and make that same decision before they get to that point.
00:11:12.580 Because in the sense that she was working,
00:11:15.940 so she was working in a career.
00:11:17.720 She's a career woman.
00:11:18.700 So the man felt the need to be with her
00:11:21.220 when she was working in a career.
00:11:23.460 Do you get it?
00:11:24.160 So when she got her money up
00:11:26.000 and she's willing to leave,
00:11:27.960 and as she said, the guy,
00:11:29.700 he went on to move on to another girl.
00:11:31.740 You know what I was thinking?
00:11:32.580 If I was a guy and I was just logically trying to solve this,
00:11:35.240 I just wouldn't support my wife's career at all.
00:11:38.220 Like, if she wanted to do something...
00:11:39.580 It's easier for me to get a girl after. 0.87
00:11:42.820 If you get a promotion, you're more likely to leave.
00:11:45.080 No, you're not.
00:11:46.420 Many of you know I was just banned on TikTok,
00:11:49.640 and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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