Post Wall Woman Says I am WAY TOO Jealous
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Summary
In this episode we discuss monogamy and cheating in relationships and how to deal with cheating in a monogamous relationship. We also discuss cheating in situationships and what to do if you find out your partner is cheating and what you would do about it.
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question would you give up monogamy for a man give up what monogamy what is that like he what he
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cheats for a guy that you like for the right yeah i i i'm way too for me no i yeah i know i don't
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think i can trust that guy again no i would just i'm too jealous i'll kill people are you monogamous
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now yes oh yeah yeah so in a way it's like in a way aren't you not monogamous now
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like a situationship it's not monogamy like usually the girl is monogamous but the guy isn't
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so it's funny no it's funny so there's girlfriend i had to make this i had to have this like thought
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too but it's like if you've ever been in a situationship in a way you're sharing a guy
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she's really thinking about it now yeah but i'm i'm not in i wouldn't be in a like committed
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relationship with someone and it's like yeah it's us and um and then be okay with him sleeping with
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anyone else would you be okay i don't say okay with it but what about accept it no even if i wanted to
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like i don't like i don't judge other people who do maybe i would like to want to but i'm telling you
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like someone would die i i think i think most girls would for the right guy except i'm not
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they might go crazy okay here's the thing about me i am a little bit oblivious because i'm very
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much in my own i i always say i've never been cheated of not that i know of maybe i'm so oblivious
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like i would not check a man's phone i mean he if he did cheat and he would be i'm so dumb for me he
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would be so dumb for me to find like i don't check a man's phone or like but i think you will
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probably if i did find out if i did find out if i walked in on him with someone else i honestly i
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don't think i would accept it i would like to be like why like why did you do that because men like
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to yeah but i i i would do that four days straight i would i don't know why most women say no like why
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wouldn't you i had one of my friends he was like really men like to new girls
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in multiple you know but what if not all of them you know i i tell you like i coach a lot of men
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i coach a lot of men no not you're talking okay not all men okay i have a question like to
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different women and go through the whole thing of meeting a new woman and no no okay i i have a
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question do you think most men if they're in like tiger woods position because i actually no i used to i
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used to think like you i used to think oh they would never like like i know these guys that would
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never cheat but it's like most of those guys aren't in the position where women are chasing them down
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and hunting them down i don't know i've seen those guys and some of them don't yeah
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i've literally seen those guys i've hung out with those guys i've i've got a lot of male friends
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and they i mean there are there are exceptions but i just don't but then i wouldn't go out with
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somebody like in that's why i wouldn't go out with a footballer even if i could i mean when i was
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younger i could but i wouldn't i why would you want to go out with a guy who does have women throwing
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themselves on him all the time like why she said about pre-selection but then i was gonna say now
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like if the guy high value whatever whatever you're kept you don't have to worry about anything you can
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just play football all day and then come home yeah do four days straight yeah now and then on the
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fifth day he's with becky from no we're done what is it that no becky with a good hair really that
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sounds like a pretty good life yeah no you're telling me so you're you're 42 you're 42 you have
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a daughter and now you get you get to just be a stay-at-home wife just once a week just made me
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think no just once a week he's good looking we're gonna have to get the police up here again
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definitely you're not gonna have to get the police but no no that's like that's what i'm saying like my no
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okay i i would be too jealous i would i am way too probably arrogant to know
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what if you listen to what you had to say remember what you said before about listening
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yeah but if he needs new whatever like he needs to go and have like i know i can't live with that
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i can't live with that yeah see it's i'm also listen i'm also a germaphobe you won't hear how i was
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cleaning this like that is the other thing like i can't that even if i could get over it emotionally
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which i don't think i could i could not get over the germs and the the disgustingness of sleeping
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around i cannot tell you yeah see but it's so interesting because in a way like you you had a
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cat your head yeah i mean you talked about a casual relationship so essentially most women have
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like essentially you are you're getting over that now no but if i've made a commitment yeah
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no that would be different for me what's the difference um
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the difference would be in yeah there's a commitment i've given my word you've given your word
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and we're going to be exclusive and then if you go and do that behind my back no okay no i know i
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would want to know why no i i under what do you what do you see but this is like a lack of understanding
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of guys do you know 100 i don't get it i mean i think even good guys would have a hard time if
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they're in a position where women are throwing at themselves at them every day most guys most guys
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i wouldn't be with a man i would not be with a man but you're saying you wouldn't you wouldn't
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throwing themselves at him all the time i wouldn't but the guy you're with probably is
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that's my point is like the guy you're with he said he's athletic you said he's got a good job you
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said he's tall like he probably is in a position where women are throwing themselves at him that's
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like three out of five things that you want most of the time yeah like all right then i'll forget
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about him i'm loving you like no which is which is gone man like no you got me thinking no no i
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wouldn't i i i probably actually you're right i'll ask him about that i don't know so i think me and
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i don't know if that's i think me and my question no it's just i had a guy point this out to me once
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like that like women will say they won't accept like non-monogamy yet most women have been in a
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situationship at some point which is non-monogamy so it's kind of like a double-edged but i have
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friends that their their husband just cheated on them a few times and they're still living together
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yeah no a lot of girls yeah i mean think about it it's like okay if you're if you're like 45 right
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50 40 let's just say 45 and you get into a relationship with a guy or you've been with a
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guy and you find out he cheated and he pays for everything it's like what so you're gonna leave
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what's on the other side now you get to work for the next 30 40 years and this is why i'm saying
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like would a man do that like that's what i'm saying my would a man stay with a woman who cheated
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on him no no but cheating but cheating is different for men yeah but but yeah that's what i i think my
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brain is like a matter i could not get over that like i am no yeah maybe maybe you couldn't my brain
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doesn't have that part where he could accept that i couldn't but do you see what i'm saying i think
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i would go with my calling you see what i'm saying though but you're in a situationship
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you think about that do you know what i'm saying because it's it's just like it's a contradiction
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because you're saying i could never accept it but if you're in a non-monogamous relationship i'm not
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in a relationship it's a type of relationship right situation it's a situation i'm not trying
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to shame you for it i think i think it's really common that's why i'm going to end it thank you
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very much you know i know she's not saying it she just got me thinking don't jump to conclusions
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it's just interesting how i'll talk to girls about this and they'll be like no i would never i would
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never accept that and then a lot of those girls same girls are in situationships and if you're in
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a situation yeah i don't think i could i would like to be one of those i don't think i physically could
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do it i honestly don't think i have it in me i saw that football man it is it's the high testosterone i
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don't think i have it in me no i mean you're not that's common but it's again it's still a contradiction
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because you are you know so you have it in you gotcha you know no because i don't know
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you don't know if i yeah if i knew that's what i'm saying i'm very oblivious i don't
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i don't stalk man i don't check the phone i don't like i i don't would you look the other
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what about if you just looked the other way and you know he might but no she's i i would say
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80 percent he isn't but then i don't know what do you have reason to believe he isn't but i don't
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know 100 he might be you're just trusting it no it's not even trust it's like no it's not even trust
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it's just i'm just looking at the reality and putting situation yeah and i don't think he would
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be but it could be could be but if i did see it or if i had evidence or if i did even think no he
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probably is no i would just ask him i would step away if he doesn't care about you he's gonna tell
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you the truth i i asked him kind of four or five months in and he said he wasn't but i haven't asked
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him recently oh but i know you said that the the headache that you gave him was within six months
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and then four or five months and you asked him if he's sleeping with anyone else so yeah maybe after
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i gave him a headache you said you said you were not in relationship with no but she's saying i'm
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still in a situation ship would you but do you agree that you're in a situation ship oh yeah i am in a
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situation do you know do you do you know it to be true that he isn't sleeping with anyone else i don't
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know 100 no okay you guys are trying to break up these relations yeah what's going on man we have
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a case that it just so happens that mandana is that it's good the point she's making i'm i get it and i
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100 like agree like um that's why i don't i don't judge me i don't think women who stay with their
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men retreat i don't think oh my god you should leave him i have i don't you know what's interesting
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we had a guy um who um he talked about that he would break up with girls because he just felt like
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he couldn't stay faithful to them like he just couldn't do it no no and this is a dude that paid
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for everything he like 100 would take care of the bills and um the and he ended up like marrying
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this last girl because she said she could accept it and that girl i don't know i mean she ended up
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winning when you think about it because she got the deed to the house she got the well if that's
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your game yeah i mean i guess when you do have your own money i guess that maybe that's what it doesn't
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appeal to me it doesn't mean anything to me for him to pay for everything well um it would be nice
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to be paid for everything and then you can just buy new football boots and stuff no i'd rather have
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them to myself i think it depends what is important for for that for that yeah for me it's more important
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to have them to myself than having but even even if it's just looks like a guy you're really attracted
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to even if it's height like you know i mean most i mean either way it's most guys that you want
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there aren't enough like more women want them yeah you know it's usually not just you
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yeah no 100 i said that tim i was like i bet all the