JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Rude Woman Interrupts Pearl And she gets KICKED OUT

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Episode Stats


Length

14 minutes

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183.71

Word count

2,632

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Harmful content

Misogyny

19

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Toxicity

1

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about what it means to grow up in a traditional African household, the pros and cons of traditional vs. modern relationships, and how to deal with the pressures of modern day society. We also discuss the impact of social media and social media on the way we grow up.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 have you guys ever had a conversation with your parents about marriage no right yeah yeah what'd
00:00:07.120 they tell you oh my i mean my mom has been married once she wasn't married to my dad actually um but
00:00:17.440 she had three kids from him so that automatically showed me that you don't have to be married in
00:00:21.680 order to build a life right um are they still together no okay no they're not um my mom
00:00:29.520 ultimately doesn't really believe in love at the moment oh wow it's like yeah so you really didn't
00:00:34.400 have like an example to look up to well what is love who do you who do you go to about relationship
00:00:40.080 questions um no one not really i don't really i don't really um talk to i'm very like to myself
00:00:53.760 i keep to myself because i feel like that's where i find my peace and um i feel like not everybody
00:00:59.760 can relate to my mindset so i don't necessarily go to anyone i don't know yeah i guess that makes sense
00:01:06.960 um my parents i grew up in quite a toxic household so i wouldn't say that i've gone to my parents
00:01:14.720 for any relationship marriage advice but my friends my best friend's parents have been married for 20
00:01:19.680 plus years and i really look up to their marriage i see how they are with each other and it also showed
00:01:27.120 me what to like accept and like my like what i expect from a relationship kind of like i don't know
00:01:34.000 like when you see like a a successful like marriage and a successful relationship it kind
00:01:38.960 of was like okay like i strive to have that in the future but have you ever asked them about how they
00:01:45.280 stayed married and like what advice they would have for you communication is that what they said yeah
00:01:50.320 communication is so important okay what about you never um where do i go for advice i thought for
00:01:58.400 relationship advice i don't go anywhere for relationship advice i've never actually thought about doing such
00:02:03.600 thing actually are your parents still married yeah yeah yeah what do you think they would say does
00:02:09.040 your mom listen to your dad for the most part yeah yeah so you think that might be a good way to go about
00:02:15.520 it it has it has its ups and downs coming from an african household so i can't really like 1.00
00:02:22.880 touching that too tough where are your parents from nigeria nigeria yeah
00:02:27.600 what are what are some of the cons of submission not having your own mind and somewhat being
00:02:36.560 manipulative you you think that um women are related they're manipulated by men yeah yeah how so 0.93
00:02:46.880 being controlled yeah there's a potential for that yeah like they have their own mind they know what is
00:02:53.360 right they know what is good but just because that's what the man wants that's what's gonna go
00:02:59.120 because of what they've said even though within them they know no when did your mind start to because
00:03:05.920 i'd imagine it your it wasn't your whole life that you thought this way no no so when when did you start
00:03:12.400 to think that was bad um properly
00:03:19.520 last year when i realized it and you're 22 yeah 22 so around 21 so you're in school right yeah yeah
00:03:28.080 and when i started realizing it was when i was like 14 15 okay yeah who do you think has better
00:03:37.520 outcomes traditional relationships or modern that's a hard one because the reason why i said
00:03:44.480 that because it all stands from culture as well so it's like it all depends like for example muslims
00:03:51.040 and christians you can't really like put them in the same conversation because there's times when they
00:03:56.560 have arranged marriages and they have to go with what their family says or what the husband says and
00:04:04.080 they're not allowed to have like maybe like businesses of their own is that right is that
00:04:08.080 wrong i don't i don't think that i think a lot of them work in like family businesses yeah but i'm
00:04:14.080 talking about having their own businesses do women do all of them want to work with do women typically
00:04:18.880 want their own businesses are women typically good at business yes yes there's a lot of successful 0.99
00:04:24.480 no black and white women who are having successful businesses but you know what i'll actually like 1.00
00:04:30.160 stop you there for a second because like i think it's modern day society that has pushed women to 1.00
00:04:35.440 want their own businesses and to become like ceos and stuff because traditionally a lot of women like 1.00
00:04:40.640 they stay at home the man is the breadwinner you know they look after the kids they they do whatever
00:04:45.600 they do but like modern day society is like oh women should be bosses too and women should go for 1.00
00:04:50.880 this i think there is definitely added pressure for that i think every single one can be a business woman 1.00
00:04:55.520 and be a boss but there is that added pressure with with the media that definitely is that you
00:05:00.480 can scroll on tick tock and then it's not it's not a good or a bad thing i guess it just kind of
00:05:05.040 depends what you want so that goes back to when women didn't have the rights to vote is that i think
00:05:10.720 we should go back to that i decided that yeah is that good or bad like that was good pardon it's good
00:05:16.160 yeah it's good yeah yeah okay cool thank you yeah i'm done i think that women are bad at business 1.00
00:05:27.200 you think there's certain aspects depending on what it is you can't say no they're not good at
00:05:31.600 hair hair business or eyelash businesses because a guy i think that men make more logical decisions
00:05:37.920 and women make a lot of decisions based off emotion yeah no because men have had more time yeah because
00:05:43.760 we do know we do know that females are more emotionally wired than men yeah yeah 100 100
00:05:49.600 and i do feel like women make a lot of decisions based off emotion a lot of the time yeah they do
00:05:54.240 they do and that's why that's why they may not necessarily if i get in an argument i literally
00:05:59.360 like if i'm dating someone i get in a fight an argument i'm really heated i literally have to
00:06:02.800 give myself like a three hour four hour break just to like control my emotions then go back on it on a
00:06:09.680 calm head because i was i would say some rash things out of emotion like i said emotion is you
00:06:15.360 know women us females all about like the feeling and emotions but men just don't really care you
00:06:20.240 know what i just looked up i was just curious founder i i just did the first big beauty brand i could
00:06:25.760 think of l'oreal who founded it a guy oh it's a guy yeah actually that's a lot with fashion designers
00:06:33.040 if you look at women i just don't think women manage people well and to get a really really big 1.00
00:06:39.440 business business is about money and men are all about their money their income and they're all about 0.99
00:06:44.400 the numbers they don't care about feeling they care about emotions which is good in which is
00:06:48.480 which is good in business which is why yeah like which is why they're very driven in okay money
00:06:53.520 numbers like pretty little fingers owned by a guy no it is it is and they're all about you know driving
00:06:58.400 that and they'll and they get rid of people that like are bad immediately yeah where it's like
00:07:02.720 women we're like oh we'll keep them all yeah and and i say this i say this all about good customer
00:07:08.960 service but i say this as someone that's like doing it i'm like 90 a woman couldn't do what i do
00:07:14.640 and i don't and i couldn't do it without men like i could i could if i didn't have the structure of
00:07:19.200 guys around like i couldn't do it a hundred percent even with me when i'm filming my music videos and
00:07:23.760 doing all these shows and like tools or whatever like a lot of them are men actually that's the
00:07:29.280 reason why a lot of women yeah that's the reason why a lot of women go to men for advice because 1.00
00:07:33.520 they're not like what's that word they're just logical they're just straight up yeah yeah and also
00:07:42.080 like to be a ceo or like an owner of a business you have to be ruthless like yeah you have to be
00:07:47.200 ruthless like not a lot of women have that in them to have that stern like control you know what 1.00
00:07:51.760 phrase do you know what phrase i think is reversed when they say behind every successful man is a
00:07:56.960 successful woman i think it's the other way around behind every successful woman is a successful man
00:08:01.760 i agree because if you if you look at even like pop stars like a lot of times there's always a mentor
00:08:06.800 isn't there someone mentoring them that is so true yeah that is true and if you look at
00:08:10.960 that's much you know i think like even from my personal experience as well
00:08:15.760 i look up to like a lot of guys who were like big in the music industry who i'm close with and who
00:08:19.680 are like famous famous and i've learned a lot like so much even even yeah i talked to i talked to
00:08:26.880 i talked to someone in the freaking um i forgot who someone that worked in the music industry and
00:08:32.160 they said the reason that record labels are like slow to sign girls is because they'll meet a boy and
00:08:38.720 then just yeah just like stop yeah but then that's because they haven't got control over their emotions
00:08:45.200 you've got a lot of women yeah they get into a relationship and they just forget about everything 1.00
00:08:49.120 else so again like they make their relationship their whole life and then we keep saying about
00:08:54.880 how you need to love yourself and have self-control boundaries and like yeah don't just drop everything
00:09:00.880 for this i think i mean it just it depends but it depends what outcome you want yeah so it depends if
00:09:06.800 if you want to make a bunch of money and that's your number one priority then sure but i mean i know
00:09:13.120 girls that want 13 kids yeah so how old do you want to say a lot of baby so for a girl that wants 1.00
00:09:19.920 13 kids what's the best in a blink of an eye yeah what's the best outcome for her oh there's a guy
00:09:25.200 that'll pay the bills he wants a lot of kids drop everything that's why they'll stay because it's 0.96
00:09:31.040 what they want that's why that's why so the girls that like oftentimes if you see like the girls that 1.00
00:09:36.080 say don't drop everything you know they don't usually have better outcomes than the girls that do 1.00
00:09:40.880 um i mean when it comes to relationships yeah what i would say as well though like behind
00:09:47.120 every like that phrase behind every man there is a successful woman i wouldn't necessarily say like 1.00
00:09:51.760 successful in like the financial like sector or something but a woman that's supportive and pushes
00:09:57.440 him to do better like maybe she's there to help him emotionally like he comes home and he's been
00:10:02.480 working a really long day and he knows that he's gonna come into a cooked meal and he's gonna come home
00:10:07.120 to love and support no matter no matter what i think that's really motivating for a man i'm gonna
00:10:13.280 name three billionaires bill gates jeff bezos elon musk divorce divorce single what he's single
00:10:22.400 i don't know he's got like he's got like six baby mama
00:10:30.960 he's a jamaican at all he breeds them he's a jamaican guys they always they breed anything 0.98
00:10:38.640 they're literally oh it's not on it don't forget non-shirts major and demons you're about demons
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00:11:31.200 okay um evan show us the notebook pearl i'm tsunami i'm willing to catch i'm willing to fight catch me
00:11:40.000 at ufc 286 318 oh because i said i was gonna fight them equal equal rights equal fights by the way my
00:11:48.640 whole family loves you pearl uh nicholas uh thank you for the soup is that is that fifty dollars in the
00:11:54.480 u.s fifty dollars super chat um evan uh pearl isn't writing anything down show us the notebook
00:12:02.400 pearl i am i am it's just a little bit um petty petty king in the in the words of myron recreational
00:12:13.040 use only the gem um smashable not wifeable isaac if i'm if i'm choosing the mother of my child i'm not
00:12:19.920 looking for a 304 and none of these women are wife material i'm 90 frito pie i said you can't handle 1.00
00:12:24.960 it that's why i don't i said i said i said one of that one of the rules is to not interrupt me till
00:12:33.840 i'm done with the super chats that's one of the rules we read them before the shows did you hear
00:12:37.920 that guys i'm getting told off right now let's see who's gonna win in the comments that's no but you
00:12:43.360 paul's in no no no it's not super chat it's about over talk no i'm no it's it's it's to wait till it's
00:12:49.280 wait till i'm done with the super chat it's too okay um you need to go go okay you can't be this
00:12:55.840 rude go go i'm saying go on go go come on go you're gonna kick me out yeah go go 0.95
00:13:02.400 i'm not even having me on the show oh my goodness is it am i going now i need to leave anyway i can't
00:13:14.160 even lie oh see you later guys follow me everywhere super official you know the vibe
00:13:24.160 okay zero follow how will you keep the average men from walking away you don't see it now but
00:13:32.720 slowly men are leaving relationships and marriage to western women if you can't change this the us
00:13:38.480 and the uk will fall evan um the best advice to women is to try to get a guy that makes six figures 1.00
00:13:44.080 is to wait until they're 40 and triple their body count in the meantime um uh keep up the good work
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