JustPearlyThings - She Blamed Karma for this

00:00:00.000 seen a healthy relationship no i don't have a representation of a healthy relationship no

00:00:05.120 so how how would you learn how to be a wife um i'm doing a lot of inner work like i'm really

00:00:12.220 searching inwards i you know i've looked into therapy i i've tried to work on myself i tried

00:00:19.100 to work work on my traumas i really want to break that generational curse um so i have healthy open

00:00:27.380 you know conversations with my mom about these things in the past and her marriage with my dad

00:00:32.140 we talk about these things on a daily basis um so i feel like i i have i have the right mindset now

00:00:39.300 because i know what i don't want and i don't want that unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately

00:00:44.820 i grew up in as a child i don't want my kids to go through that so i feel like all the things that

00:00:51.880 my mom and dad went through i don't want to be reenacting those in my marriage

00:00:55.640 how are you when it goes back to what you just asked um i agree with you um i don't have any

00:01:03.740 parents in my life mom or dad um i had a mom who played a woman and a father um but i think when

00:01:13.100 it comes to relationships and what you choose i think it comes to choices and what you learn

00:01:17.760 i think the world i think that's quite big to be honest but i think just like learning

00:01:22.780 from people around you you just kind of sit back and be like do i like that do i accept that

00:01:29.680 um and i think it's just choice really what makes you happy and you just build yourself if that makes

00:01:35.820 sense like with me i think love's beautiful i would love yeah i would love to get married and it's not

00:01:42.160 just marriage you know i understand where you're coming from it's like signing a paper and i get where

00:01:47.660 you where like you come from i understand that but i feel like there's someone out there for

00:01:53.600 everyone i agree you know yeah and i yeah i agree with you and i think i would love to get that

00:01:59.100 why do you think that why because what was that i didn't even hear it oh there's not there's not

00:02:07.080 someone for everyone why yeah because some women die alone a lot of women do they do all the time 1.00

00:02:13.160 some men die alone but how do you know they didn't have the love of their life yeah oh and

00:02:17.660 they lost it yeah because one out of three men are sex because karma

00:02:21.460 one out of three men are either virgins or having had sex in the past year plus there's more women 0.94

00:02:30.280 but they lost the love of their life because of karma because of what no no there's more women than 1.00

00:02:36.540 men on the planet so if every woman had someone there would be eat 50 50 but there's also 1.00

00:02:41.760 there are people like me

00:02:46.420 can i ask you a question do you see yourself sorry a bit off topic but i'm just quite curious

00:02:53.360 would you do you see yourself marrying a man or not like again i would only ever get married if that

00:02:59.300 other person really wanted it but i i've actually this is probably the first time i've ever openly come

00:03:04.900 like i suppose actually like publicly um but yeah i mean i yeah either way if it's the if it met a lot

00:03:17.260 to the other person and i you know felt like if i was in a position in my life to be like that's

00:03:24.560 really if that means so much to you i want to be able to give that to you would you marry a woman

00:03:28.900 yeah yeah why me

00:03:30.720 but i i again it wouldn't be because i want to even with the nagging

00:03:38.140 i nag to myself that's enough sometimes who here thinks i just want to raise a hand who thinks

00:03:47.300 good wives don't leave you do everyone else thinks good wives leave oh actually wait no good 1.00

00:03:53.740 good wives will never leave good good wives you you think that i don't think you're no you're not

00:04:00.220 a wife if you leave i think if you sign up for something

00:04:03.760 you're not you're no longer a wife if you leave are you you're no longer so so you're neither someone 0.94

00:04:11.460 else's wife yeah but you're not in that situation you're no longer the wife to be a good wife so are 0.80

00:04:17.200 you a good wife i'm just gonna i just kind of want to break this down okay this is why men are

00:04:21.280 complaining it's like they maybe get one meal from a good wife and she's she's okay to leave if she 1.00

00:04:26.040 feels like it and we fight i mean he's okay to leave as well like it's a two-week thing i mean

00:04:31.700 but but the thing is we don't have anything on the line if a man marries you you i'm doing a

00:04:38.140 documentary on the court system here you you literally are paid like lawyers um you are you get

00:04:45.500 a free counsel here if you say that he abused you and you can deny him access for his kids up to two

00:04:50.980 years trying to get like he doesn't have a chance in court vice versa no no it's not vice no no but

00:04:56.920 vice versa it's so much harsher on the man isn't it no it's so it's so much harsher on the man to

00:05:01.640 the point 90 of the time um women get custody yeah and it's actually like it's actually a really it's

00:05:08.340 really sad i'm interviewing some of the guys that have like been through it it's it's there are guys

00:05:13.100 that haven't seen their kid in four years because their ex accused them of abuse and they never did it

00:05:17.400 and there's no proof there's no part you know they didn't do it because there's no proof that

00:05:21.480 doesn't mean anything that doesn't it doesn't mean that they do something or they okay you think it's

00:05:27.120 do you think it's okay to deny access to children with no evidence of a crime no evidence they never

00:05:35.020 press charges no evidence i think it very much depends we should just take take women's word amber

00:05:40.540 herds word oh that's another that's another thing so it's like what are guys getting out of this

00:05:49.640 and is it is it is it just um is it just what he said abuse is it is it also like mental coercion as

00:05:55.820 well and they're expanding that's what they're doing expanding the definition of abuse so if a girl 1.00

00:06:00.460 says oh i want to buy two thousand dollars worth of addresses and he says no that he can put that

00:06:04.700 under like mental financial coercion or some or if he said if he said oh stop following guys on

00:06:11.200 instagram or something that could be seen as manipulation it's really yeah it's really scary

00:06:15.360 the more there's this one story where the woman um accused him of of touching the kids and remember

00:06:20.380 oh my god remember remember they're financially incentivized to do that and then what they can do

00:06:25.160 is they go to family court and in family court you don't actually have a jury to judge you of your

00:06:29.840 peers which you should be entitled to and so they can go to family court and deny you access to your

00:06:34.660 kids until they actually um finish yeah and that can take up to two years so if he has a newborn he

00:06:42.200 won't see the kid for two years and she has no punishment if she lied like this is what men are

00:06:47.620 this is what men have to deal with here and it's like if she lied honestly i feel like she should

00:06:52.240 have punishment that that should be happened to him he killed himself oh well but they but they women 1.00

00:06:58.060 do get punished for for example like i don't really know but if like she accuses the man of like

00:07:04.440 not in family court sexually assaulting no they don't and family court i'm telling you i've

00:07:08.800 interviewed the guys that they don't it's really sad and so it's like the guys are like well what

00:07:13.840 do we get out of this and we can't even like admit we can't even say what's a good wife what's a bad

00:07:18.440 wife it's really sad yeah because it's different it's too vague it's so vague saying what's a good

00:07:25.620 wife because everyone has their own experiences their own interpretations yeah but we know vaguely what's a

00:07:30.940 good husband what's a bad husband a husband you wouldn't want a husband that like doesn't protect

00:07:34.600 you that if someone tries to beat you up he's like oh go do it yourself babe

00:07:38.080 we could say in generalities that women like men want thin wives in general i mean maybe slim thick 1.00

00:07:45.980 they're allowed to say that if they want to say that they can say that right but i'm saying we can't

00:07:50.740 even say it they can't even get three meals out of us for a good remember i kept saying an a plus

00:07:55.300 student except except you she gives three meals i like cooking so it's like there we go

00:08:03.160 see i feel like you've got to like doing something haven't you to be like it's like the gym isn't

00:08:08.320 it you've got to enjoy it no actually no i mean i work at it so i have to

00:08:11.900 i'm trying i'm trying with the gym shout out to my boxing coach

00:08:17.900 i'm trying to remember i'm watching this like good i keep it sorry thank you all right i'm gonna

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00:08:30.580 comments what do you guys think good wife bad wife what what do you think um makes a good wife okay

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JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023

She Blamed Karma for this

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