She Blamed Karma for this
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the generational curse and how to break it. We talk about the toxic environment that our parents grew up in and how it shaped our views on marriage, divorce, divorce and what it means to be a good wife.
Transcript
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seen a healthy relationship no i don't have a representation of a healthy relationship no
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so how how would you learn how to be a wife um i'm doing a lot of inner work like i'm really
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searching inwards i you know i've looked into therapy i i've tried to work on myself i tried
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to work work on my traumas i really want to break that generational curse um so i have healthy open
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you know conversations with my mom about these things in the past and her marriage with my dad
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we talk about these things on a daily basis um so i feel like i i have i have the right mindset now
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because i know what i don't want and i don't want that unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately
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i grew up in as a child i don't want my kids to go through that so i feel like all the things that
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my mom and dad went through i don't want to be reenacting those in my marriage
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how are you when it goes back to what you just asked um i agree with you um i don't have any
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parents in my life mom or dad um i had a mom who played a woman and a father um but i think when
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it comes to relationships and what you choose i think it comes to choices and what you learn
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i think the world i think that's quite big to be honest but i think just like learning
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from people around you you just kind of sit back and be like do i like that do i accept that
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um and i think it's just choice really what makes you happy and you just build yourself if that makes
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sense like with me i think love's beautiful i would love yeah i would love to get married and it's not
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just marriage you know i understand where you're coming from it's like signing a paper and i get where
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you where like you come from i understand that but i feel like there's someone out there for
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everyone i agree you know yeah and i yeah i agree with you and i think i would love to get that
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why do you think that why because what was that i didn't even hear it oh there's not there's not
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someone for everyone why yeah because some women die alone a lot of women do they do all the time
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some men die alone but how do you know they didn't have the love of their life yeah oh and
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they lost it yeah because one out of three men are sex because karma
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one out of three men are either virgins or having had sex in the past year plus there's more women
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but they lost the love of their life because of karma because of what no no there's more women than
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men on the planet so if every woman had someone there would be eat 50 50 but there's also
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can i ask you a question do you see yourself sorry a bit off topic but i'm just quite curious
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would you do you see yourself marrying a man or not like again i would only ever get married if that
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other person really wanted it but i i've actually this is probably the first time i've ever openly come
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like i suppose actually like publicly um but yeah i mean i yeah either way if it's the if it met a lot
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to the other person and i you know felt like if i was in a position in my life to be like that's
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really if that means so much to you i want to be able to give that to you would you marry a woman
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but i i again it wouldn't be because i want to even with the nagging
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i nag to myself that's enough sometimes who here thinks i just want to raise a hand who thinks
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good wives don't leave you do everyone else thinks good wives leave oh actually wait no good
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good wives will never leave good good wives you you think that i don't think you're no you're not
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a wife if you leave i think if you sign up for something
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you're not you're no longer a wife if you leave are you you're no longer so so you're neither someone
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else's wife yeah but you're not in that situation you're no longer the wife to be a good wife so are
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you a good wife i'm just gonna i just kind of want to break this down okay this is why men are
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complaining it's like they maybe get one meal from a good wife and she's she's okay to leave if she
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feels like it and we fight i mean he's okay to leave as well like it's a two-week thing i mean
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but but the thing is we don't have anything on the line if a man marries you you i'm doing a
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documentary on the court system here you you literally are paid like lawyers um you are you get
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a free counsel here if you say that he abused you and you can deny him access for his kids up to two
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years trying to get like he doesn't have a chance in court vice versa no no it's not vice no no but
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vice versa it's so much harsher on the man isn't it no it's so it's so much harsher on the man to
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the point 90 of the time um women get custody yeah and it's actually like it's actually a really it's
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really sad i'm interviewing some of the guys that have like been through it it's it's there are guys
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that haven't seen their kid in four years because their ex accused them of abuse and they never did it
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and there's no proof there's no part you know they didn't do it because there's no proof that
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doesn't mean anything that doesn't it doesn't mean that they do something or they okay you think it's
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do you think it's okay to deny access to children with no evidence of a crime no evidence they never
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press charges no evidence i think it very much depends we should just take take women's word amber
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herds word oh that's another that's another thing so it's like what are guys getting out of this
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and is it is it is it just um is it just what he said abuse is it is it also like mental coercion as
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well and they're expanding that's what they're doing expanding the definition of abuse so if a girl
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says oh i want to buy two thousand dollars worth of addresses and he says no that he can put that
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under like mental financial coercion or some or if he said if he said oh stop following guys on
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instagram or something that could be seen as manipulation it's really yeah it's really scary
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the more there's this one story where the woman um accused him of of touching the kids and remember
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oh my god remember remember they're financially incentivized to do that and then what they can do
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is they go to family court and in family court you don't actually have a jury to judge you of your
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peers which you should be entitled to and so they can go to family court and deny you access to your
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kids until they actually um finish yeah and that can take up to two years so if he has a newborn he
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won't see the kid for two years and she has no punishment if she lied like this is what men are
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this is what men have to deal with here and it's like if she lied honestly i feel like she should
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have punishment that that should be happened to him he killed himself oh well but they but they women
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do get punished for for example like i don't really know but if like she accuses the man of like
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not in family court sexually assaulting no they don't and family court i'm telling you i've
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interviewed the guys that they don't it's really sad and so it's like the guys are like well what
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do we get out of this and we can't even like admit we can't even say what's a good wife what's a bad
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wife it's really sad yeah because it's different it's too vague it's so vague saying what's a good
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wife because everyone has their own experiences their own interpretations yeah but we know vaguely what's a
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good husband what's a bad husband a husband you wouldn't want a husband that like doesn't protect
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you that if someone tries to beat you up he's like oh go do it yourself babe
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we could say in generalities that women like men want thin wives in general i mean maybe slim thick
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they're allowed to say that if they want to say that they can say that right but i'm saying we can't
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even say it they can't even get three meals out of us for a good remember i kept saying an a plus
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student except except you she gives three meals i like cooking so it's like there we go
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see i feel like you've got to like doing something haven't you to be like it's like the gym isn't
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it you've got to enjoy it no actually no i mean i work at it so i have to
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i'm trying i'm trying with the gym shout out to my boxing coach
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i'm trying to remember i'm watching this like good i keep it sorry thank you all right i'm gonna
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