JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023


She Called One Of The Men In Her Friendzone


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Length

11 minutes

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195.34297

Word count

2,170

Sentence count

291

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

22

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Hate speech

7

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In this episode, the lads talk about how to get a guy to come over to your place, how to tell a guy that you want to have sex with him, and how to not only get him over but get him to do it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I think what you said about nice guys finishing last,
00:00:02.700 it's actually so true because you know that as a woman,
00:00:05.980 you've probably got so many guys that are shouting at you
00:00:08.960 and doing all of this thing,
00:00:09.880 but you've got that one guy that's not shouting at you like that.
00:00:12.860 You're just thinking like...
00:00:13.840 And I got a nice guy.
00:00:15.180 Yeah.
00:00:15.840 We friendzoned them all.
00:00:17.280 I know, literally.
00:00:17.980 And you've got so many people in your DMs,
00:00:19.320 you've got people in your Snapchat.
00:00:20.460 These are all nice guys.
00:00:21.300 You're not really looking at them like that.
00:00:22.120 Your future husband is probably in the friendzone.
00:00:25.180 I don't know about that.
00:00:28.600 That's what they say.
00:00:29.480 If you want to know what your level is,
00:00:30.900 look at your friendzone.
00:00:32.100 Yeah. 0.99
00:00:32.460 My friendzone of males, especially, trash bags. 0.98
00:00:35.480 Oh, wow. 0.99
00:00:38.220 Why would you surround yourself with trash bags?
00:00:40.980 Now, do you know why?
00:00:41.680 I actually appreciate my male friends, 0.99
00:00:43.420 the ones that are trash the most, 0.98
00:00:45.020 because they teach me what to look out for in guys. 0.98
00:00:47.220 Like, they literally show me...
00:00:48.460 But they're sitting on the sub bench.
00:00:49.520 You know, they're waiting for the opportunity.
00:00:51.240 Nah.
00:00:52.040 Not all of them.
00:00:53.100 Also...
00:00:53.500 Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:54.420 Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:55.780 So, there's someone that's not waiting for the opportunity?
00:00:58.380 I'm talking about friends, like actual friends.
00:01:00.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah, like guy friends.
00:01:01.240 They don't want to sleep with you. 0.54
00:01:02.240 You don't think they will sleep with you
00:01:04.280 if you give them a window?
00:01:06.300 I was naive to that when I was younger,
00:01:09.060 and I realised, you know,
00:01:10.420 when the opportunity strikes...
00:01:12.060 Can we test it?
00:01:13.560 Can we test it?
00:01:14.520 I feel like we should totally test it.
00:01:15.800 I'm here for that.
00:01:16.240 You got your phone on you?
00:01:18.040 Oh, my goodness.
00:01:19.660 Are you serious?
00:01:20.300 Yeah.
00:01:20.560 I'm dead serious.
00:01:21.560 Let's test it.
00:01:22.680 I'm so here for this.
00:01:23.640 Yeah, come on. 0.77
00:01:24.180 Where's your phone?
00:01:25.420 Give it.
00:01:26.540 Actually, do it.
00:01:27.920 Do it.
00:01:28.100 Okay, so this is what I want you to do.
00:01:30.540 I want you to call him.
00:01:31.920 Put it on speaker.
00:01:32.940 Okay?
00:01:33.560 Let's see if he even picks up.
00:01:34.540 If anyone...
00:01:35.140 Okay.
00:01:35.680 If anyone...
00:01:36.780 Everyone be quiet.
00:01:37.620 Put it on speaker.
00:01:39.180 And say that...
00:01:41.180 Say that it's late and you're horny
00:01:46.340 and you want him to come over.
00:01:47.520 I'm not saying that.
00:01:48.360 No, no, no.
00:01:48.840 I feel like you can.
00:01:49.540 I can say, look,
00:01:50.240 I know that this is so random.
00:01:51.980 Like, don't judge me,
00:01:53.340 but it's late. 0.61
00:01:54.620 Like, I'm really horny. 0.93
00:01:55.980 I need to cuddle tonight. 0.68
00:01:57.020 You're going to tell it was not true afterwards anyway.
00:01:58.960 It doesn't matter.
00:02:00.100 He'll see it on the stream.
00:02:01.140 You can show him.
00:02:01.880 Or even if you were to say you were a bit tipsy.
00:02:03.880 Can I come over?
00:02:04.880 He would never do it.
00:02:06.200 That's what you said.
00:02:07.100 Yeah, right?
00:02:07.500 So you don't need to worry.
00:02:08.240 I'm not saying the horny part.
00:02:09.360 I'm going to say I'm tipsy.
00:02:10.140 Let me come over.
00:02:10.880 Yeah.
00:02:11.200 One second.
00:02:11.820 But I want to, like...
00:02:12.520 Let's see if he picks up first.
00:02:13.640 But you need to allude to the fact 0.99
00:02:14.880 that you want to have sex with him 1.00
00:02:15.900 and see if he will have sex with you. 1.00
00:02:17.240 Let's see if he picks up, though. 0.98
00:02:18.780 I know this guy and he's like...
00:02:19.920 Okay, shh.
00:02:20.420 Don't worry.
00:02:23.780 Hey, how are you?
00:02:26.400 I'm good.
00:02:26.940 How are you, man?
00:02:27.760 I'm good.
00:02:29.240 Where are you?
00:02:30.720 Hey.
00:02:31.240 Where are you?
00:02:31.780 I'm in...
00:02:32.280 I'm in store right now.
00:02:34.240 Oh, really?
00:02:35.160 What are you saying?
00:02:35.700 Are you going to be home in a bit?
00:02:38.060 What, Beckenfield?
00:02:39.020 Yeah.
00:02:40.120 Nah, I'm in...
00:02:40.860 I'm near ice drink right now.
00:02:42.400 Oh, really?
00:02:42.960 Why are you there?
00:02:43.440 Yeah.
00:02:44.600 I'm trying him.
00:02:45.440 I'm trying him.
00:02:46.300 When are you going to be back?
00:02:48.060 Um...
00:02:48.660 Where are you?
00:02:49.340 It's now.
00:02:50.240 I'm going to be later.
00:02:52.440 Um...
00:02:53.000 I can get home for you.
00:02:54.480 I can't lie.
00:02:55.560 Let me see you.
00:02:57.360 Yeah.
00:02:57.780 Yeah, I know.
00:02:58.360 I know.
00:02:58.640 I know.
00:02:58.920 I know. 0.99
00:02:59.100 It's fucking over with you. 0.99
00:03:00.360 I'm going to try to go home. 0.99
00:03:01.980 What time you come back to the end?
00:03:04.080 Um...
00:03:04.640 Let me...
00:03:05.960 Do you know what?
00:03:06.560 Yeah, what time you think you're going to be home?
00:03:07.480 What are you going to be home for?
00:03:09.240 I don't know.
00:03:09.960 Are you going to be on your own?
00:03:12.280 Yeah, come pick me up from Slaw.
00:03:13.660 Can you pick me up from Slaw? 0.99
00:03:14.860 Near fucking... 0.99
00:03:16.580 Near Iceland. 0.99
00:03:17.320 I'll chip in for Caballet Bridge.
00:03:19.740 Alright, cool.
00:03:20.460 Whatever.
00:03:20.900 Alright, I'm going to shout you back.
00:03:23.040 Yeah.
00:03:23.440 Give me the minute.
00:03:24.000 Alright, bye.
00:03:24.580 Yeah.
00:03:27.320 Girl.
00:03:28.000 Say no more.
00:03:28.680 Say no more.
00:03:29.220 No, there's no say no more.
00:03:30.480 He thought he was going to come over and chill.
00:03:32.100 He's absolutely excited.
00:03:33.220 I don't think so.
00:03:34.040 I didn't read it like that.
00:03:35.340 No, I didn't.
00:03:35.940 No, but I think...
00:03:36.760 No, he wouldn't.
00:03:37.900 You should have said the rest.
00:03:39.060 Does he come to your...
00:03:40.280 No, I can't do that.
00:03:41.080 Calm back.
00:03:41.560 Calm back.
00:03:41.860 Yeah, you need to say this.
00:03:43.020 Say it.
00:03:43.680 Say it.
00:03:43.920 Okay.
00:03:44.200 I just have a quick question.
00:03:45.440 Do you have any condoms?
00:03:46.600 No, no, no.
00:03:47.980 Say it.
00:03:48.360 Say it.
00:03:48.800 I was just thinking.
00:03:51.360 Why haven't we ever dated?
00:03:53.720 Or why haven't we ever hooked up?
00:03:55.320 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:57.660 Because he will come over and chill just as mates anyway.
00:04:00.120 Exactly.
00:04:00.900 You don't...
00:04:01.300 Hello.
00:04:02.280 Hey, quick question.
00:04:04.080 Yeah?
00:04:04.540 Can I ask you something serious?
00:04:06.020 Go on, go on, go on.
00:04:07.180 Well, why have we never dated?
00:04:08.400 Like, why have we never, like, spoke or nothing?
00:04:11.500 Huh?
00:04:12.120 Why have we never spoken often?
00:04:14.540 Why have we not spoken?
00:04:15.640 Yeah.
00:04:16.600 Waiting for long.
00:04:18.020 Nah, I mean, like that.
00:04:20.480 What do you mean, like that?
00:04:21.240 Like that, like that?
00:04:22.020 Yeah, like that, like that.
00:04:24.860 Tell me.
00:04:27.320 What am I asking you?
00:04:28.920 That's when I tried you.
00:04:29.780 You went into a blank, didn't you?
00:04:32.700 No, but that's when we were teenage.
00:04:34.360 We was literally children back then, though.
00:04:36.820 Nah, I know.
00:04:38.300 What's it give you think of?
00:04:40.260 The alcohol.
00:04:44.220 The alcohol speaks true, isn't it?
00:04:45.740 Yeah, well.
00:04:48.580 All right, cool.
00:04:49.040 I'm going to shout you in, I.
00:04:50.320 Go on, go on.
00:04:51.860 Like, 100% he will smash if you want to take it.
00:04:59.500 He's skipping through the streets right now.
00:05:01.120 Girl, do you still think men and women can be friends? 1.00
00:05:03.700 Yeah, I'm going to call another one.
00:05:04.660 Hold on.
00:05:07.320 She's determined to do butthole theory. 1.00
00:05:09.580 I actually, unless they're gay, I don't think they can. 1.00
00:05:13.900 Nah, I'm going to show you right now. 0.97
00:05:15.540 Hold on.
00:05:16.500 I feel like you need to be a bit more direct with it, though.
00:05:18.780 I have faith.
00:05:19.540 Hey, that one's a bit too late.
00:05:20.900 How many of these men have you got on your phone?
00:05:25.720 I'm telling you, I've got male friends, but it's like, I've known a lot of these lot that I'm very close to.
00:05:30.620 I've known them from my childhood.
00:05:32.520 And you think you're one of the boys?
00:05:34.520 Pretty much.
00:05:35.240 Nah, nah, sis.
00:05:36.740 You're not one of the boys.
00:05:37.380 I've been chilling around them and them.
00:05:38.800 I've been doing whatever I see them.
00:05:39.840 I help them link girls and stuff.
00:05:41.260 So it's like, oh my gosh.
00:05:42.400 Yeah, I've heard this, like, so much.
00:05:44.680 And I've always been like, yeah, you can be friends with, like, boys.
00:05:48.200 But I've just learned from experience you actually cannot.
00:05:52.000 No.
00:05:52.460 I think you can when there's not an attraction.
00:05:54.680 If there's no attraction there.
00:05:56.080 But he's probably attracted.
00:05:58.220 This is the thing.
00:05:58.980 It's always girls who just are like, no. 1.00
00:06:01.420 I mean, what percent of guys' male or female friends are, like, severely overweight?
00:06:07.380 As in female friends that are overweight? 1.00
00:06:09.580 Yeah, like, when a guy has a female friend. 0.68
00:06:12.100 If she's severely overweight, what percent? 1.00
00:06:14.440 They're always attracted.
00:06:16.140 Hmm.
00:06:17.940 Actually, I'm not too sure on that one.
00:06:20.940 I'm still struggling to get what you mean.
00:06:23.260 You mean, like, guys usually pick women to be friends with.
00:06:28.100 They're attractive women. 1.00
00:06:29.340 So you're saying that guys only pick friends that they're attracted to?
00:06:32.780 That they consider attractive in some way.
00:06:34.380 Or that, the only connection of, like, you guys initially sparking up a conversation would be based on, oh, let me go and chat to her.
00:06:41.100 Unless you're, like, neighbors and you've grown up together.
00:06:42.840 I guess the real question is, can you be friends with a guy that he wouldn't sleep with you?
00:06:49.320 I'm not doing that again.
00:06:50.480 I want to say, yeah, I really want to say, yeah, you can, but I don't think so.
00:06:57.600 I think if you're an attractive woman and you've got substance about you, even forget the substance. 1.00
00:07:03.060 If you're an attractive woman, if you really wanted to, you could sleep with any of your friends.
00:07:06.660 Whereas we're the ones who say, I don't want to cross that line, you know, we're such good friends.
00:07:09.820 They're not afraid to cross that line, they're not afraid to cross that line, one bit.
00:07:14.280 You're what, 21?
00:07:15.580 Yeah.
00:07:15.900 Yeah, you'll learn.
00:07:18.660 Any of them.
00:07:19.660 You're an attractive woman, any of them.
00:07:20.980 Any of them.
00:07:21.660 Yeah, trust me.
00:07:22.620 Yeah.
00:07:23.080 I haven't, don't think I've, I can't think of any of my right now, but I think, I like to think if I wanted to sleep with any of my male friends, I probably could.
00:07:31.140 If I put it on them like that, I could.
00:07:33.840 Not that I want to, I just had to clarify.
00:07:36.100 My friends are my friends for a reason.
00:07:37.060 I'm just trying to think of one more call I can make to prove you guys wrong.
00:07:39.260 There's none, there's none, sweetheart.
00:07:41.340 None.
00:07:42.920 It's all right.
00:07:43.700 You got, you got someone?
00:07:44.600 I mean, look it, we'll, we'll take the contact.
00:07:46.480 Make another call, make another call.
00:07:49.120 Hold on.
00:07:51.040 No.
00:07:52.560 Actually not.
00:07:54.840 Who's my most platonic friend?
00:07:56.820 Let me think.
00:07:57.500 Oh, that's risky.
00:07:59.940 No, because that one, the friendship will end if it gets sour.
00:08:03.400 No, they'll see afterwards anyway.
00:08:05.580 This is just for the, for the sake of the, of the point that we're trying to prove here.
00:08:10.320 Yeah, they'll see it.
00:08:11.300 You could just send them the link.
00:08:12.700 Yeah.
00:08:12.960 I was just joshing.
00:08:14.280 I was just kidding.
00:08:16.320 Should I?
00:08:17.480 Okay.
00:08:18.020 Do it.
00:08:18.460 Ah.
00:08:18.900 I'm here for all of this.
00:08:21.360 Nah, that's Pete.
00:08:23.200 Nah, that one's Pete.
00:08:24.700 You know the one I've been calling brother for years?
00:08:26.360 I don't want to do that.
00:08:27.620 Because if that goes left, that's getting blocked.
00:08:29.560 But we should just see.
00:08:31.040 Yeah, just see.
00:08:32.260 Because you're confident that he won't, right?
00:08:33.720 He's your friend.
00:08:35.280 Are you sure?
00:08:36.320 I find this crazy as well.
00:08:38.640 That is, I literally don't think you can be friends with straight males.
00:08:42.360 Like, you can't be friends.
00:08:44.220 I think that you can totally be friends.
00:08:45.200 Of course you can be friends, but you can also always cross that line.
00:08:48.540 But that sexual attraction, if you're attractive, then that's it.
00:08:50.460 The man will rise for the occasion.
00:08:52.860 I mean, you can't be friends with them without them wanting to sleep with you.
00:08:57.040 That's scary.
00:08:58.060 And they will only sleep with you if you allow them to.
00:08:59.980 If you say no forever, then they won't.
00:09:02.140 As simple as that.
00:09:03.100 Would, do you think then it's disrespectful to have male friends in a relationship?
00:09:09.000 Or maybe like, if you're like acquaintances, not really, but if they're like friends and
00:09:13.240 they're over, absolutely.
00:09:14.280 Because how would you feel if the roles were reversed and he had a bunch of girls wanting
00:09:19.640 to sleep with him all the time?
00:09:21.040 I would.
00:09:21.640 But the thing is, until just now, I didn't know that.
00:09:26.740 So it's like, I can't lie, especially like with this guy here, I've been, I've hooked
00:09:32.040 him up with people.
00:09:32.860 Like, I've been friends with some of his girls and that, like, I've been tight with his girls.
00:09:37.020 I never actually thought in my head it was that, like.
00:09:39.800 Would you, would you date him?
00:09:41.800 No.
00:09:42.240 Just telling him a dream right there.
00:09:46.700 See, this is the thing.
00:09:47.520 I think, I think if you have a male friend who thinks that he could sleep with you, then
00:09:52.860 no, that that's not a healthy situation.
00:09:56.380 But how are you supposed to tell the difference?
00:09:57.020 No, I mean, no, you know, come on.
00:09:58.640 We know.
00:09:59.100 Well, she didn't.
00:09:59.840 She didn't know.
00:10:00.260 So what if the roles were reversed and your boyfriend had a girl that if, if he ever said
00:10:05.220 yes, like she would be down a hundred percent.
00:10:08.500 However, he's told her no.
00:10:10.240 Are you cool with that?
00:10:11.300 No.
00:10:11.560 No, I, to be, she's like, no, no.
00:10:13.880 That's actually happened with my boyfriend.
00:10:16.560 He's told me, like, a friend of his wanted to sleep with him and he said no.
00:10:22.380 But I remember she was there when we went out on a night out and she was all over him
00:10:29.080 as well.
00:10:29.760 And it was just a lot, like, I couldn't stand it.
00:10:32.520 It wasn't a thing.
00:10:33.860 It's not a thing.
00:10:34.700 It's not a thing.
00:10:35.400 Yeah.
00:10:35.860 Yeah.
00:10:36.240 Yeah.
00:10:36.360 Yeah.
00:10:36.540 Thank you.