JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


She Couldn't ACCEPT All These Insults On Women


Episode Stats

Length

38 minutes

Words per Minute

218.34904

Word Count

8,333

Sentence Count

1,014

Misogynist Sentences

119

Hate Speech Sentences

66


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the difference between women and men when it comes to online dating, and why women are more likely to swipe right on the same guys than men. We also talk about why women tend to be side chicks and why men tend to go for the "hot" women.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 It's just like, I'm doing my thing, but hey, you got a pattern as well.
00:00:04.440 It depends at the stage as well, in answer your question.
00:00:06.660 So you can tell them from the get-go, this is the situation.
00:00:10.640 And then they have the choice if they want to get on board.
00:00:12.860 Or sometimes it doesn't come out until later, and then they have to find out.
00:00:17.120 And I've, I can't speak for anyone else, but I've had someone say to me,
00:00:21.040 I don't care, I just don't want to see it.
00:00:22.780 I think in general, modern women are side chicks, for sure.
00:00:27.840 A hundred percent. I mean, if you look at dating app data, it's, you can't deny it.
00:00:31.900 We swipe right five percent of the time on the same guys, basically.
00:00:35.260 And then on top of that, like, what comes first typically?
00:00:38.180 Typically, and I know there's exceptions, but sex or relationships.
00:00:41.700 Six.
00:00:42.380 So he's right. You start off as a side chick.
00:00:44.380 Do you think modern men are side men without realizing?
00:00:46.560 Because men go for the top women as well.
00:00:49.240 I don't think...
00:00:49.960 No, that's not statistically true.
00:00:52.760 They swipe right 45 percent of the time, and it's higher on some guys.
00:00:55.420 Who do they like? Who do they actually want to be with?
00:00:57.140 Men really aren't that picky, to be fair.
00:00:59.800 Like, honestly, like, I mean, you guys can correct me if I'm wrong.
00:01:02.980 If you're hot enough, nice enough, young enough, they're cool.
00:01:05.940 What if you're not hot?
00:01:07.420 If you're ugly?
00:01:08.160 They just want to take you out anyway.
00:01:09.160 I mean, let's just...
00:01:10.020 What if you're not hot? The majority of women are not hot.
00:01:12.880 I know it looks like they are.
00:01:13.860 I disagree. The majority of women are hot.
00:01:15.760 No, I think it looks like it because the majority of women we see...
00:01:18.740 Majority men are not hot.
00:01:19.280 I think the majority of women we see publicly on TV, on Instagram,
00:01:23.000 these are the women, the beautiful women put themselves out there,
00:01:25.340 but the majority of women, when you're walking into Tesco, are not stunners.
00:01:28.840 You don't walk into Tesco's and be like,
00:01:30.100 Oh my God, I can't believe how hot you want to be.
00:01:31.720 But it's usually based on their own poor choices, though.
00:01:36.340 Even in the U.S. here, everyone will call America fat,
00:01:39.480 but I looked at the data here, it's not much better.
00:01:41.520 Yeah.
00:01:42.100 But you're in the top 20 percent of women if you're in shape.
00:01:45.100 Yeah.
00:01:45.400 So all you have to do is be in shape.
00:01:46.840 Most guys are fine.
00:01:48.000 But I do think it's not just women that go for high quality.
00:01:51.220 The way men flock to beautiful women and high quality women
00:01:54.380 is no different to how women flock to high quality men.
00:01:57.220 If you take a girl who's not attractive and is not in shape,
00:02:00.560 she doesn't have that same success online dating.
00:02:03.060 She doesn't have that same success with men.
00:02:04.640 She doesn't have men in her DMs.
00:02:06.060 Yes, she does.
00:02:07.220 No, no, no, no, I'm telling you, you're wrong.
00:02:10.480 Like that's statistically, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:02:12.680 It's statistically wrong.
00:02:13.900 An average chick has more options than a top man, if you look at dating, an average girl,
00:02:19.400 so average chick gets more matches than the top men.
00:02:22.900 But matches is sex.
00:02:24.240 We're talking about investment.
00:02:25.400 Women don't care about sex.
00:02:26.720 You've got to remember that.
00:02:27.720 You're measuring men and women on the same standard.
00:02:29.940 Who gets the same level of sex?
00:02:31.260 Yeah, okay, of course, sex is fine.
00:02:33.300 But women value investment.
00:02:34.860 Men value sex.
00:02:35.860 So if you look at the investment an unattractive woman gets, like how many dates does she get
00:02:39.820 taken on?
00:02:40.820 Does she get taken seriously?
00:02:41.820 Do they introduce her to her friends and family?
00:02:43.660 That is comparable to unattractive.
00:02:44.660 You know that's a form of investment, right?
00:02:45.660 You know that's a form of investment, right?
00:02:46.660 Yeah.
00:02:47.660 You know that's investment, isn't it?
00:02:48.660 Sometimes that you look for that as investment.
00:02:49.660 Yeah, but we just, but we just, but we just, but what do we say relationships start with
00:02:54.100 in 2022?
00:02:55.100 Six.
00:02:56.100 Yeah.
00:02:57.100 So that's the precursor.
00:02:58.100 Are we even measuring success in dating by sex?
00:03:01.940 Because if that's what we're measuring, I'm fine.
00:03:02.940 That's a different thing.
00:03:03.940 But I don't measure successful dating by sex.
00:03:04.940 I just think it's delusional to think that, like, the top men have all the leverage.
00:03:09.820 It's not comparable.
00:03:10.820 The top women do not have as much leverage as the top men.
00:03:12.820 I think.
00:03:13.820 And if they do, and if they do, give it five years.
00:03:15.820 Yeah.
00:03:16.820 I'm sorry, like, you hit 30, it's not the same.
00:03:18.820 Yeah, but I do think top women get the same reaction as top men, and they have the same,
00:03:24.100 and I think more, because you know what it is?
00:03:25.820 Yeah.
00:03:26.820 A top value man will, most top value men that I know of have very silent Instagrams.
00:03:32.820 They are busy.
00:03:33.820 They are CEOs.
00:03:34.820 You don't see them posting up and this, whereas beautiful women, they're in your face all day,
00:03:38.820 every day.
00:03:39.820 So their DMs are insane.
00:03:41.820 Insane.
00:03:42.820 So on a day-to-day basis, without any effort, that woman can have five, six, seven men paying
00:03:47.820 her, not just going on dates with her, cash up, this, that, and the other.
00:03:50.820 I don't think a top value man has it as easy as a top value women.
00:03:54.820 And men flock to top value men.
00:03:55.820 Well, I just think, I think the difference is the top value man is satisfied.
00:03:59.820 Mm-hmm.
00:04:00.820 Like, the top, like, they say that eights, nines, and tens are for the streets forever.
00:04:05.820 Like, I've just heard this phrase in Red Pill.
00:04:07.820 Because, like, if a girl's an eight, she needs a nine or a ten.
00:04:10.820 If a guy's an eight, he's okay with a six.
00:04:13.820 I know rich guys-
00:04:14.820 He's okay with a six, but you'll cheat with a ten, eight, whatever.
00:04:18.820 Most men will cheat.
00:04:20.820 Most men, if given beautiful models every day, they're going to say yes one day.
00:04:24.820 So, an eight will be happy with a six, where the eight, that's a girl, needs a nine or a ten,
00:04:29.820 so it's a smaller pool that she's going to be satisfied with.
00:04:32.820 I think guys are just a bit more realistic, like, long-term with, like, they're just content with how things are.
00:04:39.820 Do you pursue a pretty girl the same way you'd pursue an average girl?
00:04:42.820 Would you invest the same?
00:04:43.820 Do they get the same Nathaniel out of you?
00:04:45.820 A pretty girl and an average girl?
00:04:47.820 Yeah.
00:04:48.820 Um, I probably- are we talking about I'm sexually attracted to both?
00:04:52.820 No.
00:04:53.820 Your one is average.
00:04:54.820 You can take your-
00:04:55.820 Okay, let's make one a six, one an eight.
00:04:57.820 One's a six.
00:04:58.820 You can't use seven, yeah?
00:04:59.820 All right.
00:05:00.820 Um, one's a six, one's an eight.
00:05:01.820 The six, I don't really see me checking for the six, I'll be honest.
00:05:03.820 Thank you.
00:05:04.820 Um, the eight.
00:05:05.820 Um, the eight.
00:05:06.820 But there's- I'll say this, yeah?
00:05:07.820 Cause there's makeup.
00:05:08.820 Yeah, I feel like money is the man's makeup.
00:05:09.820 Cause there's makeup.
00:05:10.820 A lot of women can look like, I can think about three different kind of women that all women can look like.
00:05:14.820 If they, if they had the right makeup.
00:05:15.820 They say at her peak, she's six.
00:05:16.820 At the end of the day, if we're talking about like, you know, in the morning, at her peak, she's six.
00:05:21.820 That's- I don't know.
00:05:22.820 Yeah.
00:05:23.820 Listen, I've seen, I've seen some serious transformations.
00:05:27.820 Yeah.
00:05:28.820 Yeah.
00:05:29.820 Listen, I've seen, I've seen some serious transformations.
00:05:32.820 Yeah.
00:05:33.820 So, if at your best you're six, then boy.
00:05:35.820 You need to fix up.
00:05:36.820 It's mad.
00:05:37.820 Yeah, because I feel like there's a lot of talk about high value men.
00:05:39.820 But do you know what it's like with 18, 19 year old high, like pretty girls getting thrown out in private jets.
00:05:45.820 And so, look how men treat high value or beautiful women.
00:05:48.820 Mm-hmm.
00:05:49.820 They drop all the rules for beautiful women.
00:05:51.820 And the same applies for high value men, but they drop every rule for a beautiful girl.
00:05:55.820 So, are you arguing that beautiful women have the same leverage that high value men have?
00:05:59.820 Is that what you're arguing?
00:06:00.820 If not more.
00:06:01.820 If not more.
00:06:02.820 No, no, no.
00:06:03.820 I think that's completely wrong.
00:06:05.820 That's just, because what percent of women are beautiful?
00:06:09.820 Small.
00:06:10.820 I'm saying, no, there's a new girl turning 22 every day.
00:06:14.820 High value men are rare and women, they age out at like 28.
00:06:18.820 It was rare, but now we've got an Instagram, which means a rich guy in Nigeria can send you me.
00:06:24.820 A rich guy in Qatar can send you millions.
00:06:26.820 No, you're right.
00:06:27.820 We have polarized it so that high value men who aren't bait or aren't big on social media are limited to the women around them.
00:06:35.820 Whereas beautiful women are exposed to the world around them.
00:06:39.820 Right, right, right.
00:06:40.820 So they might get sex from him, but she's not the main chick.
00:06:42.820 Yeah.
00:06:43.820 She's not the main.
00:06:44.820 But we established that you can be side chick even if you're average.
00:06:47.820 You can be a side chick with sharing.
00:06:49.820 You're right.
00:06:50.820 You're right.
00:06:51.820 You're sharing even if you're a nobody.
00:06:52.820 But that's what I'm saying.
00:06:53.820 But that man still has the leverage because he gets to pick who gets commitment.
00:06:58.820 That's why he has the leverage.
00:06:59.820 Her leverage is in the fact that she doesn't want commitment from him.
00:07:01.820 She wants lifestyle from you right now.
00:07:03.820 So her leverage is in the fact that I get lifestyle.
00:07:05.820 I think we're talking about two different things.
00:07:07.820 So I'm talking about women that want a ring and men that want sex.
00:07:14.820 Okay.
00:07:15.820 Okay.
00:07:16.820 So if we're measuring it by investment and sex, then yeah.
00:07:20.820 Can pretty girls get money?
00:07:21.820 Yeah.
00:07:22.820 Yeah.
00:07:23.820 Can they get lifestyle?
00:07:24.820 Yeah.
00:07:25.820 How long?
00:07:26.820 It's about the maintenance.
00:07:27.820 How long can they keep that up?
00:07:29.820 If they get pregnant.
00:07:30.820 They have these rules that they don't want to get cheated on.
00:07:32.820 And you know, they want to be, they want to keep this up.
00:07:35.820 And there's no one else.
00:07:36.820 And they want that high value man.
00:07:38.820 How long do you reckon women have that leverage for?
00:07:42.820 If she's pregnant forever.
00:07:43.820 If she's not pregnant for what?
00:07:44.820 Forever.
00:07:45.820 Not forever.
00:07:46.820 There's no such thing as forever.
00:07:47.820 For as long as the baby's alive.
00:07:48.820 For as long as the baby's alive.
00:07:50.820 For as long as the baby's alive.
00:07:51.820 No, what?
00:07:52.820 Wait.
00:07:53.820 A faithful high value man.
00:07:54.820 No, no, no.
00:07:55.820 You're saying a baby mama?
00:07:57.820 No.
00:07:58.820 Stop it.
00:07:59.820 Stop it.
00:08:00.820 But she gets that leverage.
00:08:02.820 Because she gets that leverage.
00:08:03.820 It's not that a case of that's a good life.
00:08:05.820 But she gets that leverage for as long as she has that child.
00:08:08.820 Is that all women want?
00:08:09.820 Just not to work?
00:08:10.820 I think so.
00:08:11.820 I think that's what all people want in general.
00:08:13.820 They want to work?
00:08:14.820 No, they want to work.
00:08:15.820 But they want a man that can make a life that if she didn't work, it'd be alright.
00:08:18.820 Yeah, basically.
00:08:19.820 I think that's a good way to describe it.
00:08:20.820 They want the best of everything.
00:08:23.820 Yeah.
00:08:24.820 If you tell them that I don't want you to work, you're controlling them or you're oppressing
00:08:28.820 them.
00:08:29.820 We want to work.
00:08:30.820 Or you're the patriarchy.
00:08:31.820 But if you say, look, if you want to work, it's cool.
00:08:33.820 If you want to work, that's cool as well.
00:08:34.820 We're good for money.
00:08:35.820 Then it's a different conversation.
00:08:36.820 Yeah.
00:08:37.820 We don't want to have to work.
00:08:39.820 So speaking of money.
00:08:40.820 Okay.
00:08:41.820 So you could argue, right?
00:08:43.820 Women want the rich guy.
00:08:44.820 Until, can you pull up the picture?
00:08:47.820 Trouble in paradise.
00:08:51.820 Oh, wait, wait.
00:08:52.820 Hold on.
00:08:53.820 Sorry.
00:08:54.820 Is that the guy from EastEnders?
00:08:55.820 Oh, can you put it on the screen, Blessing?
00:08:57.820 Okay.
00:08:58.820 So back to Tom Brady.
00:09:00.820 Giselle Boudichin.
00:09:02.820 I think I said that wrong.
00:09:03.820 Boudichin.
00:09:04.820 I'm going to just call her B.
00:09:06.820 And jiu-jitsu instructor Jomaine Valente have raised a lot of suspicion to possible romantic
00:09:13.820 ties.
00:09:14.820 But we at least know one of the reasons he's traveled to her with Costa Rica.
00:09:18.820 He's training her and Tom Brady's kids.
00:09:21.820 So basically, she was cheating on the rich guy with the jiu-jitsu instructor.
00:09:27.820 That's what's going to happen though.
00:09:29.820 Yeah.
00:09:30.820 That's what's going to happen.
00:09:31.820 I think when you're around, like, if a woman has a high value man, she's going to cheat with someone close.
00:09:39.820 Because you have to be in the circle to kind of be around anyway.
00:09:43.820 You're going to have to look around at who's available.
00:09:45.820 And it's going to be someone close.
00:09:46.820 It kind of feels a bit vindictive, you know.
00:09:48.820 Because when men, if men go and cheat, you know, the men that go and cheat, they'll maybe go outside of the circle.
00:09:55.820 Far, far away.
00:09:56.820 Where the women is very...
00:09:58.820 That's even worse though.
00:09:59.820 It's not.
00:10:00.820 It's not though, is it?
00:10:01.820 It's not.
00:10:02.820 Not at all.
00:10:03.820 I have a question.
00:10:04.820 Would you rather him fuck a stranger or your best friend?
00:10:07.820 No, I'm just saying with it being worse, more vindictive for women to find someone around.
00:10:13.820 Because it's like, okay, it's maybe been bubbling and the tension was there and then it happened.
00:10:17.820 But with a guy you're saying he left town, went town over town and tried to look for somebody that you won't find out.
00:10:23.820 It's more effort.
00:10:24.820 That's worse.
00:10:25.820 That's like more...
00:10:26.820 Effort for no reason.
00:10:27.820 Is that more considerate?
00:10:28.820 Consideration.
00:10:29.820 I guess.
00:10:30.820 But why is consideration more forgivable than like a happy accident?
00:10:34.820 Because you're not...
00:10:35.820 That's not a happy accident.
00:10:36.820 That's literally someone in this case said training her kids.
00:10:39.820 So this guy is around her kids and him and he's got...
00:10:43.820 She's got the balls basically to get involved with this guy who's around his kids, around him.
00:10:49.820 At least the kids maybe like him and trust him.
00:10:51.820 No, no, no, no, no.
00:10:52.820 Okay, I know it's a stretch, but yeah.
00:10:54.820 It doesn't matter.
00:10:55.820 I'm just thinking, okay, like put yourself...
00:10:57.820 All right, you have a boyfriend you're really into or husband, let's say husband.
00:11:01.820 He cheats.
00:11:02.820 It's just a one-time thing.
00:11:04.820 No feelings involved.
00:11:05.820 This girl just threw it on him and he went with it.
00:11:08.820 He's a dude, okay?
00:11:09.820 Thought she was hot.
00:11:10.820 That's it.
00:11:11.820 Never talk to her again.
00:11:12.820 Or he screwed a girl he has feelings for.
00:11:14.820 Yeah.
00:11:15.820 I would never do that.
00:11:16.820 I think they're both as bad as each other.
00:11:17.820 Which one would hurt you?
00:11:18.820 Yeah.
00:11:19.820 But I would say...
00:11:24.820 Probably the one that he doesn't have feelings for, because it's like, why are you throwing
00:11:28.820 it away?
00:11:29.820 Like, if you have feelings for someone, it's like, okay, fine, act on your feelings.
00:11:32.820 Wow.
00:11:33.820 But if it's some random person, that feels a bit worse to me.
00:11:36.820 Really?
00:11:37.820 That's interesting.
00:11:38.820 For me, like, I would...
00:11:39.820 If it's just a random girl, like whatever, I can get over it.
00:11:42.820 Ooh.
00:11:43.820 I don't know.
00:11:44.820 Because it's like, if you have...
00:11:45.820 I don't know.
00:11:46.820 If you have feelings for them, it's like, okay, there's reason behind it, but you're
00:11:50.820 going to do that for no reason.
00:11:52.820 That just seems so bad.
00:11:53.820 This one has betrayal and public disrespect.
00:11:56.820 But you know what I noticed?
00:11:58.820 Women that have high value men, once they've had kids with high value men, they will sleep...
00:12:02.820 They have the same mating strategy as men.
00:12:04.820 They will sleep with young guys that make them feel attractive.
00:12:07.820 He doesn't have to have money.
00:12:08.820 Kim did it.
00:12:09.820 Madonna's doing it.
00:12:10.820 She's doing it.
00:12:11.820 Once they have their kids and they've got the father of their child and he's high value,
00:12:15.820 then she goes back to just whoever I want.
00:12:17.820 Yeah.
00:12:18.820 The streets are calling.
00:12:19.820 The streets are calling.
00:12:20.820 She wanted this.
00:12:21.820 And that's a kid.
00:12:22.820 She got the money.
00:12:23.820 They become just like men.
00:12:24.820 Yeah.
00:12:25.820 So that's like...
00:12:26.820 What do you think women value more?
00:12:27.820 Money or looks?
00:12:28.820 Feelings.
00:12:29.820 They value how a man makes them feel.
00:12:30.820 And when he spends a lot of money on you, you feel expensive.
00:12:32.820 I don't know.
00:12:33.820 That's fine.
00:12:34.820 Okay.
00:12:35.820 Okay.
00:12:36.820 Okay.
00:12:37.820 One or two.
00:12:38.820 I didn't say feelings.
00:12:39.820 No, no, no.
00:12:40.820 I didn't answer the question I asked.
00:12:42.820 Money or looks?
00:12:43.820 Looks.
00:12:44.820 I'm always going to say the way they feel.
00:12:46.820 I'm an attractive woman.
00:12:47.820 Okay.
00:12:48.820 Okay.
00:12:49.820 Okay.
00:12:50.820 Then next.
00:12:51.820 Money or looks?
00:12:52.820 So why they cheat basically, right?
00:12:53.820 No, no.
00:12:54.820 I'm saying what do you think women prefer?
00:12:55.820 I guess money.
00:12:56.820 These days.
00:12:57.820 Money?
00:12:58.820 You think?
00:12:59.820 What do you think?
00:13:00.820 I think looks.
00:13:01.820 I think looks too, actually.
00:13:02.820 It's looks.
00:13:03.820 It looks for sure.
00:13:04.820 You know how you know that's cap, sir?
00:13:05.820 Now you know that's cap.
00:13:06.820 Do you know that bar that J House says?
00:13:08.820 Where he's talking about, I'm an ugly man making pretty money.
00:13:11.820 They don't look at you.
00:13:12.820 But he was still probably getting girls before he had money.
00:13:15.820 Because you're a trapper.
00:13:16.820 Because you're a trapper and the lifestyle that he portrays.
00:13:18.820 Even if you may not have money, come with it.
00:13:20.820 That portrays money, come with it.
00:13:21.820 And that's the look, no?
00:13:22.820 So it's money.
00:13:23.820 Regardless.
00:13:24.820 It wasn't about the look.
00:13:25.820 It's the look of the money.
00:13:26.820 And the look of the look.
00:13:27.820 At the end of the day.
00:13:28.820 This is what I think.
00:13:29.820 I think that like, okay, this is my theory.
00:13:32.820 I don't know if this is facts or whatever.
00:13:34.820 But I feel like if a girl is dating a guy and she's not like genuinely attracted to him,
00:13:38.820 she'll cheat.
00:13:39.820 Yeah.
00:13:40.820 With the guy with the looks.
00:13:41.820 Yeah.
00:13:42.820 She's still gonna cheat if that guy comes along and he's that big.
00:13:44.820 Yeah.
00:13:45.820 If he doesn't have money, she can still cheat.
00:13:46.820 For a man that has investment.
00:13:48.820 Because if a girl values looks more, chances are that's something that she feels more attractive
00:13:54.820 when she's with an attractive man.
00:13:55.820 If she values money more, she really knows she's attractive.
00:13:57.820 She wants lifestyle more.
00:13:58.820 So that's why pretty girls go for rich men.
00:14:00.820 Let's look at this number.
00:14:01.820 They really feel hot.
00:14:02.820 I do agree.
00:14:03.820 Women are always broke.
00:14:04.820 I do agree.
00:14:05.820 Well, I mean, women marry a lifestyle.
00:14:06.820 I do agree with you.
00:14:07.820 Yeah.
00:14:08.820 But I just think the more like genuine connection comes more from looks.
00:14:14.820 I think both are shadow.
00:14:15.820 But if it's money, like I've just noticed that girls seem to be using him more.
00:14:21.820 Or she's not really attracted to him and like doesn't rate him like that.
00:14:25.820 Isn't looks also using someone?
00:14:26.820 Look at that uncle in your DM that is sending you a madness and he's a prince of somewhere
00:14:31.820 and he's saying he'll buy you this and do all this kind of stuff.
00:14:34.820 Yeah.
00:14:35.820 And look how you're treating him compared to this person that you feel like.
00:14:38.820 Let's say AJ.
00:14:39.820 Yeah, exactly.
00:14:40.820 Let's say you girls like AJ.
00:14:42.820 Same way that girls will act with over AJ, right?
00:14:44.820 If he didn't have the money, right?
00:14:45.820 Yeah.
00:14:46.820 They'll pick that over this uncle sending you a random DM, promising you, however,
00:14:51.820 much money and stuff like that.
00:14:53.820 So I think if the woman has her own money as well, money doesn't even matter.
00:14:56.820 Yeah.
00:14:57.820 Or just even your own values.
00:14:59.820 I'm not going to lie.
00:15:00.820 The money won't matter.
00:15:02.820 Money always matters in some degree.
00:15:04.820 Not as much as it looks.
00:15:05.820 Nah, I think, nah, I don't believe it's guys jobs to look good.
00:15:10.820 That's the women's job to look good.
00:15:11.820 That's why it's so hot when they do look good.
00:15:13.820 Nah, I kind of disagree with that one still.
00:15:15.820 As a self-respecting as a guy, you definitely need to keep yourself up in maintenance.
00:15:18.820 Oh, yeah.
00:15:19.820 I'm saying that, but I'm saying that looks like the levels are different in regards to look.
00:15:24.820 So the importance-
00:15:25.820 And then we don't have to do too much compared to the females, what you mean?
00:15:27.820 Yeah.
00:15:28.820 And we can supplement it in other areas, right?
00:15:29.820 Yeah.
00:15:30.820 So that's what I said about that.
00:15:31.820 You can be funny.
00:15:32.820 You can be like, yeah, stuff like that.
00:15:33.820 But then they can't.
00:15:34.820 Women can't be funny?
00:15:35.820 We can, but we don't, if we're not attracted to us, her funniness is not going to make you
00:15:39.820 more attracted to us.
00:15:40.820 Yeah.
00:15:41.820 Funny.
00:15:42.820 I just think money is the man's makeup.
00:15:43.820 That's it.
00:15:44.820 Yeah, for real.
00:15:45.820 If he's not good, if he's not like-
00:15:46.820 Money and muscles.
00:15:47.820 Money and muscles.
00:15:48.820 What do you think more?
00:15:49.820 Or even humor and stuff.
00:15:50.820 Like, even if a guy's ugly and he's funny, but then if a guy's like, fuck and funny.
00:15:55.820 Funny signals social status.
00:15:58.820 And women are very attracted to status.
00:16:00.820 Like, what do you think a check mark does wonders on Instagram?
00:16:04.820 The confidence they bring.
00:16:05.820 Yep, yep, yep.
00:16:06.820 I mean, how many ugly guys have gotten attractive girls with that check mark?
00:16:11.820 Yeah.
00:16:12.820 You know you can get some fake ones.
00:16:13.820 Can you have status without money?
00:16:15.820 Can you have social status without money?
00:16:16.820 No.
00:16:17.820 You can.
00:16:18.820 Yeah, you can.
00:16:19.820 Y'all don't believe it?
00:16:20.820 No, I don't think so.
00:16:21.820 Because your status is intangible.
00:16:23.820 It's imaginary.
00:16:24.820 But with money, it means that you've actually put in some work and you've got somewhere.
00:16:27.820 It doesn't mean money alone can give you status, because you could just win the lottery,
00:16:30.820 or you could just, you know, get one hit.
00:16:32.820 Yeah.
00:16:33.820 But I don't think status alone is enough.
00:16:35.820 You know what's interesting?
00:16:36.820 Women are more attracted to men that have made money, lost it, and then made it again.
00:16:40.820 Yeah.
00:16:41.820 That process.
00:16:42.820 There was some, like, poll done where it's like, would you rather have a guy that, like,
00:16:45.820 made money, lost it, and then made it again, or a guy that just, like, slowly grew money
00:16:50.820 over time, or something.
00:16:51.820 It was something like that, but women picked number two.
00:16:53.820 Because we're attracted to risk takers.
00:16:55.820 Risk takers implies that they're able to recalibrate, yeah, and protect in the future.
00:17:01.820 Yeah.
00:17:02.820 Why are you laughing?
00:17:04.820 Oh, shit.
00:17:05.820 Women make so much, like, decisions based on how they feel at that time.
00:17:12.820 Yeah.
00:17:13.820 It's just hilarious.
00:17:14.820 Why is that funny?
00:17:15.820 Is that why we're designed?
00:17:16.820 Yeah, why is that funny?
00:17:17.820 Is that why we're designed by God?
00:17:18.820 Why is it funny?
00:17:19.820 I just hope it's, is it working for you guys?
00:17:20.820 I just hope it's working.
00:17:21.820 If it's working then.
00:17:22.820 Yeah.
00:17:23.820 I do agree earlier what you said about the, it's about how you make someone feel.
00:17:26.820 I don't think it's relevant to that.
00:17:27.820 Exactly.
00:17:28.820 To the money and looks.
00:17:29.820 However, how you make them, it's all about how they make you feel.
00:17:32.820 That's.
00:17:33.820 And the experience that you bring them and what triggers in their mind.
00:17:36.820 I'll give you an example.
00:17:37.820 So my block list is full of people.
00:17:39.820 Yeah.
00:17:40.820 Men, women, whoever, yeah.
00:17:41.820 But if I was to unblock someone and start talking to them again, they're instantly going
00:17:45.820 to romanticize any experience that we've had.
00:17:48.820 Mm-hmm.
00:17:49.820 And that's, that's more important.
00:17:50.820 So if you've made them feel, even if you've made them feel shitty.
00:17:52.820 Yeah.
00:17:53.820 That will still come through.
00:17:54.820 But it's similarly like why women that didn't grow up with money, if they meet a really rich
00:17:58.820 guy, he's most attractive man in the room for him because she feels now financially secure.
00:18:02.820 False.
00:18:03.820 Which she hasn't felt for in a long time.
00:18:04.820 False.
00:18:05.820 False.
00:18:06.820 False.
00:18:07.820 False.
00:18:08.820 False.
00:18:09.820 False.
00:18:10.820 False.
00:18:11.820 False.
00:18:12.820 False.
00:18:13.820 False.
00:18:14.820 False.
00:18:15.820 False.
00:18:16.820 False.
00:18:17.820 False.
00:18:18.820 Because women that grew up less attractive are more likely to be invested in a man who's
00:18:21.820 attractive.
00:18:22.820 Looks is more important.
00:18:23.820 So it's about how you make someone feel rather than just generically.
00:18:25.820 You know, it's interesting.
00:18:26.820 Women are more picky physically than men nowadays.
00:18:28.820 Mm-hmm.
00:18:29.820 Yeah.
00:18:30.820 There's different studies that say like women are pickier when it comes to looks than men
00:18:33.820 are.
00:18:34.820 Yeah.
00:18:35.820 Is that weird?
00:18:36.820 It is when you're not actually going towards the guys.
00:18:39.820 So, you know, you're just shooting in your jean pool all the way over.
00:18:43.820 Yeah.
00:18:44.820 But that's why, you know, body positivity is not for men.
00:18:46.820 It's just for women.
00:18:47.820 Yeah.
00:18:48.820 Fat guys are still fat guys.
00:18:49.820 Short guys are still short guys.
00:18:50.820 Yeah.
00:18:51.820 No one cares about that.
00:18:52.820 Body positivity is for girls.
00:18:53.820 If there is short men shaming.
00:18:54.820 Short men shaming.
00:18:55.820 They say body shaming.
00:18:56.820 Like five, was it five, seven energy or whatever.
00:19:00.820 I actually think, is being a short man the equivalent of being an overweight woman?
00:19:05.820 What classifies as a short man as well?
00:19:06.820 Every girl's different.
00:19:07.820 What classifies as overweight?
00:19:08.820 Short men are allowed to be angry and overweight women kind of aren't allowed to be angry.
00:19:12.820 What?
00:19:13.820 They are though.
00:19:14.820 What are you talking about?
00:19:15.820 As in short men are always angry.
00:19:16.820 Fat women, if a fat woman's angry, it's like, oh, it's worse than a short man being angry.
00:19:26.820 You see a short, angry man every day.
00:19:28.820 I hate what you're saying about it.
00:19:29.820 A bit cuddly, a bit more loving, a bit like nurturing and stuff.
00:19:33.820 With a fat woman, you could at least like do something to be able to change it.
00:19:36.820 But when you're short as a guy, short as a gentleman anyway, you can't change it.
00:19:39.820 That's true.
00:19:40.820 I would be mad too.
00:19:41.820 Short people syndrome as well because they just go mad for no reason.
00:19:42.820 I think that, I think that, I'm not going to say it right now, man.
00:19:45.820 I just said I was like, I've been attacked by a fat chick.
00:19:49.820 For what?
00:19:50.820 First-hand experience.
00:19:51.820 I've never been attacked by a short man, but the fat chicks come for you.
00:19:56.820 Why?
00:19:57.820 They have the heart to be jolly, man.
00:19:59.820 They're big.
00:20:00.820 It's like a trigger basically.
00:20:01.820 Yeah.
00:20:02.820 With all this body positivity that is going on.
00:20:04.820 But you know what's worse about this and what's the frustration that comes from it?
00:20:07.820 Like, that's something that can be done, but women will like ridicule guys for their height
00:20:12.820 and there's nothing they can do.
00:20:14.820 You can get your shoes.
00:20:16.820 Even that's new.
00:20:19.820 Okay, but I'll give you two sentences, right?
00:20:21.820 What do you think would have more of a public uproar?
00:20:23.820 So I say, I don't date short guys.
00:20:26.820 Men don't like fat chicks.
00:20:28.820 Second one.
00:20:29.820 Yeah, of course.
00:20:30.820 Men don't like fat chicks.
00:20:31.820 Uproar from who?
00:20:33.820 The media.
00:20:34.820 I feel like the media is controlled by feminine energy.
00:20:37.820 No, no.
00:20:38.820 By both groups.
00:20:41.820 Yeah.
00:20:42.820 Like, I say I don't date short guys and I never really have a reaction.
00:20:45.820 I don't like short men that are mad.
00:20:46.820 But then if you're a guy saying...
00:20:47.820 But if I say men don't date fat chicks, typically...
00:20:50.820 I have this in real time.
00:20:51.820 I said I have never dated a girl over size 12.
00:20:54.820 It got picked up by UK gossip and everyone slated me for it.
00:20:57.820 Do you guys ever date fat chicks?
00:20:59.820 Listen, I see, you've got fat and thick, isn't it?
00:21:04.820 Because he's a size 12.
00:21:05.820 Now I know some girls a size 12.
00:21:07.820 God damn, they're voluptuous.
00:21:08.820 Good, juicy.
00:21:09.820 I wouldn't call that fat.
00:21:10.820 You've got fat on you, but that's not fat to me.
00:21:12.820 Yeah.
00:21:13.820 So like, it kind of depends.
00:21:14.820 You could be fat and shape.
00:21:15.820 I love you.
00:21:16.820 What is actually fat?
00:21:17.820 No shape.
00:21:18.820 No shape.
00:21:19.820 You're not attractive.
00:21:20.820 Like, that's something that needs to be worked on.
00:21:21.820 That's the preference.
00:21:22.820 Yeah, I think that it's okay to accept that being overweight...
00:21:24.820 Even when I put on weight, I accept that I'm not attractive in this moment.
00:21:27.820 Like, if I put on weight...
00:21:28.820 Pardon?
00:21:29.820 How much weight you put on weight you don't think you'd try to?
00:21:31.820 I've never been that big.
00:21:32.820 The most I've ever been is probably 65 kg.
00:21:35.820 Wow.
00:21:36.820 That's not...
00:21:37.820 Do you know how much I was?
00:21:38.820 But for me, that's fat.
00:21:40.820 And then I do just accept I'm less attractive.
00:21:42.820 I don't think...
00:21:43.820 I don't get offended by it.
00:21:44.820 How do you...
00:21:45.820 Are there any indicators within the guys that approach you depending on what your weight is?
00:21:49.820 Yes.
00:21:50.820 You know it is.
00:21:51.820 We won't talk about it.
00:21:52.820 But yeah.
00:21:53.820 I know I've lost weight when I appeal to a certain demographic.
00:21:55.820 And I know I've gained weight when I appeal to a different demographic.
00:21:58.820 And make of that what you will.
00:22:00.820 We won't.
00:22:01.820 Okay.
00:22:02.820 Okay.
00:22:03.820 Okay.
00:22:04.820 Okay.
00:22:05.820 So, following Tom and Giselle, how long is too long to move on?
00:22:10.820 Or do you think that after a divorce, there's a certain amount of time you should wait to
00:22:14.820 move on?
00:22:15.820 Yeah.
00:22:16.820 No.
00:22:17.820 Absolutely.
00:22:18.820 Yeah.
00:22:19.820 So, how long is that?
00:22:21.820 I'd say maybe a year.
00:22:24.820 And if you want to see someone before then, just don't be super bait about it.
00:22:28.820 I think women tend to move on quicker than men anyway.
00:22:31.820 But yeah, I'd say about a year.
00:22:34.820 If you're doing something there, just try and keep it under wraps a little bit.
00:22:37.820 I'd say five to seven working days.
00:22:40.820 Do you know what it is?
00:22:42.820 Yeah.
00:22:43.820 Like women, this is what I kind of read about women.
00:22:45.820 Women will go through this emotional transition straight away.
00:22:49.820 And kind of get over it.
00:22:50.820 And you know, they'll have their girls kind of gassing them up along the way.
00:22:53.820 Where guys will kind of brave it out.
00:22:55.820 And then we'll be like six months down the line and he just gets a shot in his chest when
00:22:59.820 he just remembers, like, he lost you.
00:23:00.820 And it's like one of those things that kind of hits men a bit later on.
00:23:03.820 Yeah.
00:23:04.820 But I think, yeah, just get out of there, man.
00:23:06.820 Because if you're going to spend time thinking about that person and, you know, that time
00:23:10.820 is gone.
00:23:11.820 I would say a year, especially if you've got kids.
00:23:13.820 I don't think you should bring...
00:23:14.820 I think when you start distracting yourself with men when you've got kids, your priority
00:23:18.820 no longer becomes your kids.
00:23:19.820 So I think the priority post-divorce should be their well-being.
00:23:23.820 And that should take a year for both of them.
00:23:25.820 They need to adapt and adjust.
00:23:26.820 So if you're out there meeting new men, immediately your kids are suffering.
00:23:30.820 And I don't think that's a good look.
00:23:31.820 Yeah, actually, what's the marriage situation?
00:23:33.820 Because she's right.
00:23:34.820 Because it's different if you've got kids and if you don't have kids for...
00:23:36.820 With kids.
00:23:37.820 Okay.
00:23:38.820 What about you guys?
00:23:39.820 Yeah, I would say a year as well.
00:23:40.820 I mean, you should give yourself a break as well to understand what's going on.
00:23:44.820 And you shouldn't just, like, complete the void of the previous man with another one.
00:23:48.820 Or the woman, if that makes sense.
00:23:50.820 So give yourself a break to understand.
00:23:51.820 Because he said emotional, you know, you go through some emotional transitions and all
00:23:56.820 that.
00:23:57.820 So you need to give yourself a break to understand what's going on.
00:23:59.820 What about you?
00:24:00.820 I think...
00:24:01.820 You were like, go.
00:24:02.820 Go right away.
00:24:03.820 I was like, no.
00:24:04.820 Because one, I feel like if it's a divorce, then it's probably been like a long time coming.
00:24:08.820 So, you know, I don't know.
00:24:10.820 You probably are in a mental space where you're already ready to step out of the relationship.
00:24:14.820 But then with having kids, it makes it a bit more sticky.
00:24:17.820 Because, like, yeah, you can't really be bringing random people around with your kids.
00:24:21.820 But, you know, you don't have to necessarily even bring them home or anything.
00:24:26.820 I've got something to add.
00:24:27.820 I would say as soon as you feel like it.
00:24:29.820 Yeah.
00:24:30.820 Think about how it broke down and try and fix that about yourself, like what you paid
00:24:35.820 a part in that.
00:24:36.820 Yeah.
00:24:37.820 And then when you kind of feel like you're making headway with it, then get into a relationship.
00:24:40.820 But I feel like all you lot are capping with the moving on in terms of like physically.
00:24:44.820 I think emotionally, like maybe give it a bit of time after you've actually figured out
00:24:49.820 what happened in your last one.
00:24:51.820 Do you guys think that women mentally leave before they break up a relationship?
00:24:55.820 Yes.
00:24:56.820 Listen, forgot to say this.
00:24:57.820 I don't want to have guaranteed sex with you anymore.
00:24:59.820 Regardless of your headache.
00:25:00.820 You're doing too much.
00:25:01.820 You're doing way too much.
00:25:02.820 Way too much.
00:25:04.820 Yeah, you're doing something.
00:25:05.820 So, have you guys ever mentally broken up with someone before you've broken up with someone?
00:25:10.820 Yeah.
00:25:11.820 Yeah.
00:25:12.820 So, I'll start with you.
00:25:14.820 When, how long were you together?
00:25:16.820 Like, uh, like five, four years.
00:25:22.820 Okay.
00:25:23.820 And mentally, when did you break up with him?
00:25:25.820 Like, when did you know you were going to dump him?
00:25:27.820 Like, oof.
00:25:32.820 I, I probably like, um, okay.
00:25:36.820 Can I just scrap that one?
00:25:37.820 Because that one was actually a really of a mess on and off one.
00:25:40.820 Mm-hmm.
00:25:41.820 So, this one, we were together about like three months.
00:25:44.820 And I knew in two months that I wanted to dump him.
00:25:47.820 Okay.
00:25:48.820 That's not that bad a month.
00:25:49.820 That's not too bad.
00:25:50.820 Yeah.
00:25:51.820 So, a month.
00:25:52.820 And the four or five, or the four year one, you don't know?
00:25:54.820 It's like, we were on and off throughout the whole four years.
00:25:56.820 Okay.
00:25:57.820 I don't think it really counts as...
00:25:58.820 Oh, okay.
00:25:59.820 I was just...
00:26:00.820 After the first time we broke up, I was over it.
00:26:02.820 After the first time?
00:26:03.820 Yeah.
00:26:04.820 And then how many times did you get back together?
00:26:08.820 Couple.
00:26:09.820 Yeah.
00:26:10.820 What's that, the alpha ghost?
00:26:11.820 Is that the alpha ghost you're doing?
00:26:12.820 Alpha widow.
00:26:13.820 Lucky, lucky.
00:26:14.820 I was triggered when you said that, because I was like, damn.
00:26:16.820 Yeah.
00:26:17.820 I relate, but...
00:26:19.820 What about you?
00:26:20.820 I was here three months before breaking up.
00:26:23.820 Three months.
00:26:24.820 What about you?
00:26:25.820 I haven't been in that situation.
00:26:26.820 Okay.
00:26:27.820 Okay.
00:26:28.820 What about you guys?
00:26:29.820 Have you guys ever done that?
00:26:30.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:26:31.820 I had a strike system.
00:26:34.820 She didn't even last two weeks.
00:26:36.820 You know what?
00:26:37.820 It's not about her, though.
00:26:38.820 Like, that was just my bad vetting stage, innit?
00:26:39.820 Like, I had a terrible vetting process at that time.
00:26:42.820 Okay.
00:26:43.820 And so, because she didn't last two weeks, so I think that's more to do with me.
00:26:45.820 Were you dating her two weeks?
00:26:46.820 Nah, I was dating her for a little while.
00:26:48.820 Okay.
00:26:49.820 And then she was like, yo, I'm gonna do all these things when we get serious.
00:26:51.820 So I'm like, all right, cool.
00:26:52.820 Let's see, innit?
00:26:53.820 And, yeah, that two weeks just went quick.
00:26:55.820 It was like a...
00:26:56.820 You know when...
00:26:57.820 Yeah.
00:26:58.820 Free strikes.
00:26:59.820 What did she do for the strike?
00:27:01.820 I'll give you one.
00:27:04.820 I'll give you one.
00:27:08.820 She just disrespected herself.
00:27:10.820 How?
00:27:11.820 Online.
00:27:12.820 Okay.
00:27:13.820 I'll put it that way.
00:27:14.820 I don't wanna get into it.
00:27:15.820 Oh, yeah.
00:27:16.820 Like what?
00:27:17.820 A booty pic?
00:27:18.820 Something in that atmosphere.
00:27:19.820 All right.
00:27:21.820 All right.
00:27:22.820 And what?
00:27:23.820 She did that three times?
00:27:24.820 Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah.
00:27:25.820 The same week?
00:27:26.820 Nah, there were just other three.
00:27:27.820 Do you know what it is?
00:27:28.820 It's like some people's behaviors might be triggers for you to act out of character
00:27:33.820 or mess up your vibes and your energy and all that kind of stuff.
00:27:36.820 So if someone's showing you that they don't respect you like that,
00:27:39.820 they'll just listen to them, innit?
00:27:40.820 Mm-hmm.
00:27:41.820 So I'm not gonna sit here and have a big folder full of red flags.
00:27:45.820 I'll just have three and then I'll just pull it off.
00:27:48.820 I actually had a folder, though.
00:27:49.820 Wait.
00:27:50.820 Yeah, I had a folder.
00:27:51.820 Wait, a folder.
00:27:52.820 A folder.
00:27:53.820 A folder, like I'll screenshot it.
00:27:54.820 Mm-mm.
00:27:55.820 That's so petty.
00:27:56.820 Nah, do you know what happens?
00:27:57.820 What happens is...
00:27:58.820 Did you show her...
00:27:59.820 Wait, wait.
00:28:00.820 I have a question.
00:28:01.820 Did you show her the album at the end and be like,
00:28:02.820 this is reason A?
00:28:03.820 I should have, you know.
00:28:04.820 This is reason B.
00:28:05.820 Nah, like, the way it is, is sometimes you'll get lost in the sauce.
00:28:09.820 So you'll forget about all the nonsense.
00:28:11.820 How bad was she?
00:28:12.820 One to ten, how bad?
00:28:13.820 Nah, she was cool.
00:28:14.820 She was cool.
00:28:15.820 She had a lot of great quality, but there was just a lot of...
00:28:16.820 I meant, like, how good-looking.
00:28:17.820 Oh, she was good.
00:28:18.820 Oh, she was nice.
00:28:19.820 She was attractive.
00:28:20.820 I feel like anyone who...
00:28:21.820 One to ten.
00:28:22.820 One to ten, she was above a seven.
00:28:24.820 Like seven to about eight.
00:28:25.820 Eight, okay.
00:28:26.820 Okay, okay, okay.
00:28:28.820 Do you feel like you give girls more wiggle room if they're hotter?
00:28:33.820 Yes.
00:28:34.820 Do you know what it is?
00:28:35.820 You have to be real with yourself, though.
00:28:37.820 Mm-hmm.
00:28:38.820 Like, you gotta look yourself in the mirror.
00:28:40.820 So if someone's taking a piss, you gotta be like, come on, man.
00:28:42.820 And I think that's where people will say it's ego.
00:28:44.820 Mm-hmm.
00:28:45.820 But that's where you gotta kind of really say to yourself.
00:28:47.820 That's why if you set yourself, like, those morals and those ground rules for yourself,
00:28:51.820 then no matter who steps in front of you, if they disrespect you, then they disrespect you.
00:28:55.820 You gotta kind of hold yourself accountable to them.
00:28:57.820 Mm-hmm.
00:28:58.820 You know what I mean?
00:28:59.820 But do they get away with a bit more?
00:29:00.820 Be honest.
00:29:01.820 Uh...
00:29:02.820 Than if she was average?
00:29:03.820 If it's black and white, then no.
00:29:05.820 Not with me.
00:29:06.820 No, I mean, okay.
00:29:07.820 So every guy...
00:29:08.820 Like, every guy has an attraction floor.
00:29:10.820 So I don't...
00:29:11.820 I don't know what you...
00:29:12.820 Let's say seven is yours.
00:29:13.820 So if a girl's...
00:29:14.820 One girl's a seven and one's a nine, are you giving the nine more wiggle room?
00:29:17.820 Am I giving the nine more wiggle room?
00:29:19.820 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:29:21.820 If the seven even breathes wrong, I'm just looking, though.
00:29:24.820 You're like, ow!
00:29:25.820 Calm down, give us a seven.
00:29:27.820 That's one of the reasons why hot girls are crazy.
00:29:30.820 They can be.
00:29:31.820 They can be a lot more.
00:29:32.820 I agree with you.
00:29:33.820 Yeah, they can be.
00:29:34.820 But it's not about to do with the looks, you know?
00:29:35.820 It's about to do with subtle melts.
00:29:36.820 What?
00:29:37.820 It's the energy.
00:29:38.820 Nah, it's the nash.
00:29:40.820 Wait, what's that?
00:29:41.820 What's that?
00:29:42.820 It's like the...
00:29:43.820 Oh, okay.
00:29:44.820 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:29:45.820 Okay, okay.
00:29:46.820 So it's more to do with that than just looks alone.
00:29:48.820 That's toxic relationships for you.
00:29:50.820 Yeah.
00:29:51.820 You know, this...
00:29:52.820 Can I ask you honestly, do you think like a nine gives it better than a seven?
00:29:56.820 Because I personally think sevens give it way better than a nine.
00:29:59.820 So there should be no wiggle room for a nine.
00:30:01.820 Do they feel like they have to work harder?
00:30:03.820 I don't know what nines you get.
00:30:04.820 Probably that.
00:30:05.820 Do you know what?
00:30:06.820 Maybe.
00:30:07.820 Maybe.
00:30:08.820 I feel like the pretty you are, the less you kind of do in bed.
00:30:10.820 Because the ones that aren't as great as the rest, they work.
00:30:14.820 They work.
00:30:15.820 It's gym antics.
00:30:16.820 We go into a nine to five.
00:30:17.820 I think it's more to do with how crazy she is.
00:30:18.820 Is it how crazy or how beautiful she is that determines?
00:30:21.820 Well, that determines what?
00:30:22.820 Her passion.
00:30:23.820 That's what they usually say.
00:30:24.820 It's more to do with her instability in the real world is linked to passionate in that world.
00:30:29.820 So more to do with looks, it's more instability.
00:30:31.820 Unstable women tend to be more passionate.
00:30:34.820 It's the rollercoaster of emotions that they face.
00:30:36.820 Yeah.
00:30:37.820 If you are like, I'm an intense person.
00:30:40.820 And so I've had intense relationships prior, you know?
00:30:44.820 So, and that's based on how you make them feel like you described as well.
00:30:47.820 But also if they're a little bit crazy, like, but in intense relationships and toxic relationships,
00:30:53.820 they're lit, but obviously they're not sustainable.
00:30:56.820 They're not sustainable.
00:30:57.820 Yeah, they're unsustainable.
00:30:58.820 I mean, like when you wake up and there's like someone standing over you with a knife,
00:31:03.820 you just aggravate her.
00:31:06.820 Wait, wait, wait.
00:31:07.820 Has that happened to you?
00:31:08.820 Yeah.
00:31:09.820 Yeah.
00:31:10.820 But it was a different girl who tried to push me downstairs.
00:31:11.820 What?
00:31:12.820 Wait.
00:31:13.820 They get physically violent?
00:31:14.820 Yeah.
00:31:15.820 But I'm like, you're like five foot.
00:31:16.820 You need to check.
00:31:17.820 What are you going to do?
00:31:18.820 I forgot you.
00:31:19.820 I heard that.
00:31:20.820 The short ones are always crazy.
00:31:21.820 Yeah.
00:31:22.820 I just want to make up for one.
00:31:23.820 If a guy has a short man syndrome, it's the same thing.
00:31:24.820 Can I?
00:31:25.820 I just want to.
00:31:26.820 Okay.
00:31:27.820 Okay.
00:31:28.820 Let's just break this down.
00:31:29.820 So you woke up and she had a knife?
00:31:30.820 Yeah.
00:31:31.820 Yeah.
00:31:32.820 Why?
00:31:33.820 What did you do?
00:31:34.820 Yeah.
00:31:35.820 Everyone says that.
00:31:36.820 What do I do?
00:31:37.820 No, I don't say what did you do.
00:31:38.820 I'm just kidding.
00:31:39.820 What did you do?
00:31:40.820 I don't know.
00:31:41.820 To be honest, I probably aggravated her.
00:31:42.820 Like I was, but the thing is, I used to be a savage.
00:31:44.820 I'm not, you know, a respectful madman like now.
00:31:46.820 How angry she was at that.
00:31:47.820 What's the reason?
00:31:48.820 Did you call the police?
00:31:49.820 Nah.
00:31:50.820 Nah.
00:31:51.820 Nah.
00:31:52.820 I actually just said, look, what are you doing?
00:31:53.820 Are you going to make me a sandwich with that?
00:31:55.820 Yeah.
00:31:56.820 Because she just...
00:31:57.820 But to be fair, you know what is, I don't, I will say this though.
00:32:00.820 I haven't, I used to not be very self-aware.
00:32:03.820 So I used to do things and then see why someone would get upset and think, what's their problem?
00:32:08.820 But upset that she will actually hold a knife.
00:32:10.820 Yeah.
00:32:11.820 But I'm like, I just think, oh, she's just being crazy.
00:32:12.820 But then.
00:32:13.820 But now you know your own red flag.
00:32:14.820 Yeah.
00:32:15.820 But when you start analyzing.
00:32:16.820 Yeah, but she's crazy.
00:32:17.820 I'm sorry.
00:32:18.820 There's no excuse.
00:32:19.820 There's no excuse.
00:32:20.820 Exactly.
00:32:21.820 That's what.
00:32:22.820 What's the reason?
00:32:23.820 Yeah.
00:32:24.820 There's no excuse for that.
00:32:25.820 I mean, but you, sometimes I think.
00:32:27.820 It's good to take accountability.
00:32:28.820 You can, you can like drive people to things.
00:32:31.820 You don't realize what you're doing.
00:32:32.820 I think you can make people crazy.
00:32:34.820 I think you can.
00:32:35.820 And like, when you look back and you're like, okay.
00:32:36.820 As a woman, I think I can definitely make a man crazy.
00:32:39.820 No.
00:32:40.820 But that is way too much.
00:32:41.820 Hold a knife.
00:32:42.820 That's extreme.
00:32:43.820 I think you have to have it in them.
00:32:44.820 But you, as a person, can definitely ignite the worst side of a human being.
00:32:49.820 No.
00:32:50.820 I agree.
00:32:51.820 I agree.
00:32:52.820 I think your ears are either crazy or you're not.
00:32:53.820 And you either have it in you or you don't.
00:32:54.820 There's a baseline.
00:32:55.820 I'm sorry.
00:32:56.820 I've been in a toxic situation where I very well could have acted crazy, but that's not my character.
00:33:00.820 I wouldn't do that.
00:33:01.820 So you're either the type of person to do that shit or you're not.
00:33:04.820 I disagree.
00:33:05.820 Have girls ever brought out the worst in you?
00:33:07.820 Because I know I've done it and I'm like, that guy is nice.
00:33:10.820 Before I get into any situation, I have a look at myself and I say, listen, if it gets peak, I'm walking.
00:33:16.820 Best thing to do.
00:33:17.820 How are you so grounded like that?
00:33:19.820 I'm around attractive women all the time.
00:33:21.820 No, there's nothing.
00:33:22.820 You can't.
00:33:23.820 You need to look at it like this.
00:33:24.820 Yeah.
00:33:25.820 Before I met you, you were, before I met you, you were just an attractive woman.
00:33:28.820 And then we got together and the feelings grew and all this kind of stuff.
00:33:32.820 But I don't need you in my life.
00:33:33.820 I didn't need you before.
00:33:34.820 So I can still live without it.
00:33:36.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:33:37.820 So yeah.
00:33:38.820 A lot of people forget that.
00:33:39.820 Have that talk with yourself though, because otherwise you get lost in the sauce and it's crazy.
00:33:42.820 And you might do something stupid and then you might be in jail or something like that.
00:33:46.820 And she's moving on anyway.
00:33:47.820 It's done.
00:33:48.820 For real, for real.
00:33:49.820 You might be in jail.
00:33:51.820 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:33:52.820 That's crazy.
00:33:53.820 It gets like that.
00:33:54.820 It gets like that.
00:33:55.820 Some situations, man.
00:33:57.820 There was an interesting scenario though, when I caught someone with their thumb, trying to put my thumb on my phone in my sleep.
00:34:06.820 But I caught them mid-
00:34:07.820 Mid-thumbage.
00:34:08.820 That's standard.
00:34:09.820 That's not even crazy.
00:34:10.820 That's standard.
00:34:11.820 That is the most, like, you know, in those moments, I'm not even angry.
00:34:15.820 I'm just, it's just, you must be so embarrassed.
00:34:17.820 It's humiliating.
00:34:18.820 Exactly.
00:34:19.820 You got caught.
00:34:20.820 You must be so embarrassed.
00:34:21.820 Who said that's standard?
00:34:23.820 So I said that's standard.
00:34:24.820 I don't know how that's standard.
00:34:26.820 It's just crazy.
00:34:27.820 But it's going through phone standard.
00:34:28.820 I don't think that's standard.
00:34:29.820 I mean, they always try to snoop.
00:34:31.820 Like sometimes, I mean, sometimes you can get baited out, but whatever.
00:34:35.820 Yeah.
00:34:36.820 Yeah.
00:34:37.820 They always have that inkling as well.
00:34:38.820 And if they, there's nothing worse than a woman's intuition.
00:34:40.820 She might not have any evidence, but her intuition is enough.
00:34:43.820 So then she goes looking for the evidence.
00:34:45.820 And you just don't want to do that.
00:34:47.820 Do you know what it's like?
00:34:49.820 If you had a business, you would do audits, right?
00:34:51.820 Yeah.
00:34:52.820 Okay.
00:34:53.820 It's only this whole, it's the notion of a man, you know, caring so much to look through.
00:34:57.820 But I think I would say like this, if you felt like you was gonna, you was with her for a while and you weren't really, and you felt like something was up.
00:35:06.820 I understand why certain men do.
00:35:08.820 Personally, I wouldn't just because I don't even want to feel worse on that side.
00:35:12.820 So if I feel something's up, I just walk up.
00:35:13.820 I just like that now.
00:35:14.820 Yeah.
00:35:15.820 But sometimes, sometimes not that deep, especially like when, when you feel, like really feel something for her, you might be thinking, do you know, let me not make the crazy part.
00:35:22.820 Let me just see if it's actually, if it's not, then babe, I'm sorry.
00:35:25.820 But then when you do, because I've been in that situation, I actually came across what I thought it was.
00:35:29.820 You do end up going on the crazy side of it because you end up feeling into what you already thought.
00:35:34.820 Yeah.
00:35:35.820 Because deeply, like you could have found nothing and you almost feel like Colombo.
00:35:38.820 You're like, yes, I found something.
00:35:39.820 But then you've got that, you've got that energy.
00:35:41.820 You're here now.
00:35:42.820 You're here.
00:35:43.820 Now what?
00:35:44.820 Now what?
00:35:45.820 Like we're going to do now.
00:35:46.820 And the thing is, if you find something, if you do look and you find something, don't just nag them, like leave, innit?
00:35:50.820 Do something.
00:35:51.820 Yeah, just leave.
00:35:52.820 You know what I mean?
00:35:53.820 You want to keep the person around and then just punish them.
00:35:55.820 I think modern women, I think they like being cheated on.
00:35:57.820 I swear to God.
00:35:58.820 Yeah.
00:35:59.820 Because the amount of girls that come on my show.
00:36:00.820 Like being cheated on.
00:36:01.820 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:36:02.820 Because they never leave.
00:36:03.820 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:36:04.820 But then you could say they're like modern men because they like the baddest bitch in the room.
00:36:06.820 Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
00:36:07.820 See, it's interesting.
00:36:08.820 And she's going to cheat.
00:36:09.820 You know what's interesting, especially with you and like other girls that come on the show, whenever
00:36:11.820 we talk about women, like they always have to say, but men.
00:36:14.820 Because it's about balance.
00:36:15.820 It's about balance.
00:36:16.820 Why would you take one perspective?
00:36:18.820 We don't go into the women's conversation and say, into the women's conversation and say,
00:36:23.820 but men.
00:36:24.820 But why don't we just say, but people?
00:36:26.820 But people.
00:36:27.820 Why is it so divisive?
00:36:28.820 Because this is my podcast.
00:36:29.820 I know.
00:36:30.820 But it's kind of like entitlement.
00:36:33.820 You want to come on here and tell me how to run my podcast and how to run the conversation.
00:36:37.820 Isn't it both?
00:36:39.820 I know, but sometimes you can make a statement about women without saying, but men.
00:36:43.820 The same way we could make a statement about men without saying, but women.
00:36:47.820 I think the genders are different.
00:36:50.820 There's different things.
00:36:51.820 But when something applies to both genders, like men being cheated on women.
00:36:55.820 Now we know that men and women cheat equally.
00:36:57.820 So why wouldn't we say people these days prefer because they choose top quality?
00:37:00.820 Women cheat more.
00:37:01.820 Women cheat more.
00:37:02.820 So what does that tell you about modern men?
00:37:04.820 They're choosing cheating women.
00:37:05.820 So why are we...
00:37:06.820 Are the men's names?
00:37:07.820 Are the men's names?
00:37:08.820 No, no.
00:37:09.820 Men are biologically predispositioned to be repulsed by women that cheat.
00:37:14.820 But if women are cheating more, what does that tell you?
00:37:16.820 She's getting with men.
00:37:17.820 Men are choosing cheating women.
00:37:19.820 The other thing is that men aren't staying with that woman.
00:37:21.820 But they're choosing cheating women.
00:37:23.820 We said that...
00:37:24.820 But they're not for a relationship.
00:37:26.820 They're choosing women and they just cheat.
00:37:27.820 But then how come women are cheating more?
00:37:29.820 If men aren't choosing with women, how are they cheating more?
00:37:33.820 If I'm not chosen, I can't cheat on anyone.
00:37:35.820 Yeah, but...
00:37:36.820 So I'm being chosen as a cheat.
00:37:37.820 Because women...
00:37:38.820 Women get away with cheating more.
00:37:39.820 Women are way sneakier than men.
00:37:41.820 So you can only do it if we're being chosen.
00:37:43.820 No, not anymore.
00:37:44.820 Anyone can do that.
00:37:45.820 Anyone can do that.
00:37:46.820 And even when you're chosen...
00:37:47.820 Married women cheat as much as married men.
00:37:49.820 This is my point.
00:37:50.820 Yeah.
00:37:51.820 So my point actually...
00:37:52.820 So you're kind of derailing the...
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00:37:56.820 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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