JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023


She Dominates Rich Men For A Living


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Length

8 minutes

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214.55386

Word count

1,886

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Hate speech

8

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In this episode I speak to a dominatrix who has been in the sex industry for 4 years and has worked with rich men for the past 3 years. We talk about what it's like working as a sex worker for rich men, how much they pay and why they do it.

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00:00:00.000 I've worked in this sex industry for a long time and most of the men that come
00:00:04.920 to me are rich married men yeah they're rich and they're married I don't get
00:00:11.560 broke men come is the rich and they're married man they're happy in their 1.00
00:00:15.720 relationships but you're not because you're finding pleasure somewhere else
00:00:19.320 wait so I'm curious like what what do you do is the dominatrix come in what okay 0.99
00:00:25.920 I'm strip off so how do you know how much money they make because they tell me
00:00:30.120 I've been to their houses before oh see yeah and I see all their girlfriends and
00:00:33.660 their wives pictures so you'll go to their actual house I'm like I'm sorry I
00:00:38.640 don't dominatrix that like when you know I'd say a bit more extreme like making
00:00:51.300 money from the toilets oh my goodness yeah men pay for this rich men people in
00:00:58.200 the politics okay people who do politics and stuff you'll find them all there
00:01:01.920 they want you to hit them and make them eat from the toilet and ask you a 0.99
00:01:05.640 question and they go home to their wife and kiss them can I can I can I ask you 0.80
00:01:09.060 are these two questions I'm actually really interested so number one are these
00:01:12.460 guys that you would find conventionally charismatic and attractive or like they
00:01:15.540 would get other chicks anyways or they would not I've had very good-looking men
00:01:19.320 I'm very ugly man second question the very good-looking men is there a risk
00:01:23.320 because you're one thing that you offer like my friend says this that a sex 0.55
00:01:26.880 worker offers it's not it's not the sex that they offer it's the privacy it's the
00:01:31.320 can't it's like the fact that there's not gonna be yeah yeah are these good
00:01:34.400 looking guys and get other chicks is for them is it because just a safer way to do 1.00
00:01:37.640 it yeah maybe yeah yeah maybe because they may be political or we won't go out and
00:01:43.080 speak to them and they can confide in me because they know I don't know them they
00:01:46.900 don't know me and they could block my number and never talk to me again and
00:01:50.660 I'd never be able to contact them anyway do you have to sign NDAs or
00:01:55.020 anything um sometimes I mean I've done it twice and only because one of the
00:02:00.280 people that came to me actually knew him I didn't want him to you know leak how
00:02:04.580 many how many how many rich men have you so you've done this for three three four
00:02:08.740 years how many rich men clients have you had I only see high-class men so all of
00:02:14.800 them Wow yeah probably not all of them but very very high majority of them I
00:02:21.640 reckon out of all of them I've probably seen ten low-class men Wow so I don't
00:02:26.800 like low I don't know is that because of like is that because of you sorry is that
00:02:34.540 kind of because of your market specifically like or is that typical among do
00:02:39.300 you have friends that do the same thing um I have quite a few friends they're in
00:02:43.660 in like the industry but my main friends work their nine-to-fives and stuff um but
00:02:48.900 but I meant like out of your other friends that do sex work are their clients
00:02:52.260 mostly rich too yeah wow yeah I'd say so yeah surprising to me it's not surprising
00:02:58.160 at all it makes perfect sense now by the way just just to be clear just because all
00:03:01.580 your clients are rich men does not mean that all rich men do the kind of thing
00:03:04.900 right like statistically it's about 20 percent uh 20 percent of men that cheated the
00:03:09.360 higher income bracket and statistically it's about 20 percent of women in the 1.00
00:03:12.600 lower income bracket but as a man's income goes up his propensity to cheat 0.99
00:03:16.000 grows from like 13 percent to about 20 percent and sort of levels out about
00:03:18.940 200,000 and then for a woman her propensity to cheat actually drops from 1.00
00:03:22.520 20 down to about 13 as a man's income goes about 200,000 I've looked at some
00:03:26.460 really interesting charts about that um so I just want to be like yes that
00:03:29.500 obviously exists but it's not all rich but it makes sense that it would be
00:03:33.620 rich men because they just I think it's a financial thing yeah like for a lot of
00:03:37.240 guys to drop 500 bucks could be a lot of money but if it doesn't mean
00:03:39.660 anything to you it's like what whatever yeah yeah what does it cut what do you
00:03:42.280 cost um it depends so on half an hour an hour overnight is that cleaning sorry
00:03:48.900 we're talking about
00:03:51.440 because the dominatrix is non-sexual they're not allowed to touch you 1.00
00:03:55.480 you're basically a goddess in their eyes you know it's not like a school and
00:03:58.860 service it's not like that so overnight I charge 1.5k for an hour 300 pounds with
00:04:04.280 a hundred pound deposit and that's not even including the extras because they want me
00:04:07.360 to do really dirty things I put their head in the toilet or maybe poo on them 0.83
00:04:11.740 I'm not ashamed of it I've done it I have done it no one's ever done it to me but I
00:04:17.280 have done it to them and I'll admit that you pooped on a guy yeah was he a good
00:04:21.620 looking guy yeah he actually that he actually was he actually was no I just
00:04:25.980 you don't want to meet him in the street and be like think he's nice it feels more
00:04:30.360 wrong when they're good looking for some reason because it feels like they
00:04:34.220 shouldn't even be there yeah you know I think and I say to them why are you here
00:04:38.120 they say because it's just easier and I like my fetishes and you know you said
00:04:41.980 about the fat woman there's so many men that have a fetish a fetish of fat women
00:04:46.900 but they won't admit it to the public because it's shameful but they love it that's what I was
00:04:52.180 they love it but they're not marrying them but the rubber the market value is the marriage
00:04:55.100 they're not marrying them but I look at things on extreme by the way when I think they're ashamed
00:04:59.680 to marry them when I said earlier just because a guy wants to crap on you and that's like
00:05:03.560 whatever you crap on them and that's like you don't consider I was being like yeah I was being
00:05:08.460 like that was a hyperbole I was really exaggerating and this just got really real it has happened
00:05:13.900 do guys ever pay to like crap on the girls they do but I'd never do that I'm the one that's in
00:05:20.520 the power no man could ever do that to me even if you was Chris Brown or whatever you know one
00:05:26.020 see this is what I find I find this perplexing because it's you know so a rich guy will marry
00:05:31.680 the high-value woman but he still wants what he wants yeah this is like so this is what I find so
00:05:39.520 you go out you might you might like steak every day but every now and then you got to get a
00:05:42.900 McDonald's you know what I mean every now and then McDonald's is nice I feel like that's why
00:05:49.460 I get a bit confused because where I get the really high-class men come to me sometimes it confuses me
00:05:54.680 because I'm like you shouldn't be here so they don't want that so in my eyes they don't want
00:05:59.040 the high-value the high-value woman is for their own ego there's no it's a high-value woman for their 1.00
00:06:03.860 children for the children not for the show for the children and obviously that's good if you if you're
00:06:09.940 with a really high-class person it makes yourself look better as well because whoever you're with
00:06:13.760 reflects on who you are as a person as well I just I just think it's like what they want long-term
00:06:18.460 like I think men will always crave variety which yeah definitely is whales I guess or yeah yeah
00:06:24.580 I don't know yeah yeah but a fetish is always a good thing I don't know there's a reason why they
00:06:30.140 hide that thousand fetishes they're not yeah not not every fetish needs to be played out
00:06:35.480 exactly yeah there's even a fetish and um guys will pay you to pop balloons with your bum cheeks 0.81
00:06:41.980 and it's like what why like how does that turn like how does that I don't know it's weird
00:06:49.060 that's definitely childhood trauma
00:06:49.940 and all these people all these men that do come to me it does root down to some sort of childhood
00:06:55.500 issue or trauma it definitely does because even like the whole dominatrix thing where they like
00:07:00.220 being hurt abused and called horrible names they've they've got issues they've got a lot
00:07:06.820 of issues and they're issues that they need to obviously maybe it's maybe it's maybe it's like
00:07:11.600 mommy issues maybe yeah like I've had men cry to me before and sit in my lap what do they cry to 0.75
00:07:18.460 you about just their life that they're they've got money and they hate their life and they're always
00:07:22.340 on drugs like what are the what do they say what are their problems just that they're not happy
00:07:27.280 in their marriage they're always working they're always stressed they're always on you know you
00:07:32.940 know why do you know why they're not happy in their marriage like what are their complaints i mean i
00:07:36.660 don't really go to and i just kind of just let them cry on me wow but yeah no because after that i
00:07:42.300 leave mind therapy when i deal with men like that um but yeah yeah that's what i mean so it's very
00:07:48.640 mentally draining for me to do this job and i know i shouldn't be in it because it's like i'm taking
00:07:52.320 on everyone else's trauma and i need to deal with man first so yeah just a caveat like again
00:07:57.860 because all these guys come to you doesn't mean that all guys that are like that do go to that
00:08:01.160 kind of a service the reality is that wealthier people do do report a significantly higher uh
00:08:07.080 statistical uh mean of being satisfied with their life and they report a significantly higher happiness
00:08:13.420 uh sort of index to their marriage which is again why 85 percent of millionaires are married so
00:08:18.580 what you're reporting is not actually the norm that is the fringe of that it just is i just want guys
00:08:23.140 to understand it because there's some guys here listening like oh see that's why i don't be
00:08:26.080 successful because i'm just going to be sad no statistically you'll be way happier you'll be way
00:08:30.700 happier just trust me guys build yourself oh no definitely definitely yeah i feel like you just get
00:08:35.960 the odd um rich men who obviously aren't doing it the right way they're abusing themselves with drugs
00:08:40.520 and things like that they some not everyone loves their life you know they'd rather cry in a farine
00:08:45.020 yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah