JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023


She Had Trouble Accepting This Fact About Marriage


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

187.70311

Word Count

1,675

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

6

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary

In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the and are joined by their aunt and uncle to discuss a variety of topics. They discuss the difference between the modern woman and the women of their grandparents and the older generation, and how to deal with challenges in marriage.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 all i had to say can i ask you a question about that yeah what age group was them oh he was
00:00:05.540 i was 27 at that point that was 10 years ago and he was almost 60 then yeah so is that it's an
00:00:12.320 older it's an older mindset it's an older mindset where he said i don't compromise because that
00:00:17.680 doesn't make any sense i cooperate with her so we can get to an end goal because it's that's our
00:00:22.680 duty and i respect her no matter what she respects me as well but i respect her but like my point was
00:00:28.720 like them women of that generation that's that's different women bro it's very different it's a
00:00:33.160 very it's also a very different culture than what we're used to in the west they're the same women
00:00:37.580 that raised us though it's very true it's very true but but but i don't what did that be wouldn't
00:00:43.540 that be our grandparents generation almost because i don't because it seems like there's like a change
00:00:49.320 when it's like the our parents like it seems like our grandparents were the ones like man had side
00:00:56.580 chick across town she still stayed yeah my my my granddad has a whole had two other whole families
00:01:02.920 yeah and it is what it is but i don't i don't like growing up my grandma was my rock right my anything
00:01:10.580 my mom and dad told me get out of here like i don't they weren't the parents that they could have
00:01:15.220 been no offense you know what they could have been so the way i look at it is i look at that older
00:01:19.940 generation i go okay respect duty and cooperation is the only way that long-term thing can can
00:01:27.820 possibly work like auntie was saying like everybody was saying the happiness is fleeting that's not
00:01:33.440 gonna stay like even today like we was all joking and laughing in there but if people saw that part
00:01:38.380 they would be like how are they different now like we're very calm everybody cool now right
00:01:42.620 we were talking earlier everybody's having a great time earlier we could talk a little more
00:01:47.460 shit but i'm saying like even in this moment even in this room we switched up didn't we everybody
00:01:52.540 switched up to be oh i'm gonna be on camera i gotta be cool and shit so it's like that kind of that
00:01:57.500 energy so i really respect that everybody you know yeah i'm not gonna overtake you go ahead bro
00:02:01.440 they got two more just quickly throw some wood in the fire yeah go ahead so you know like this is why
00:02:06.400 it's nice to look at the women but look at the men as well he said the man the uber driver said
00:02:11.460 it's about compromise i was not compromise it's about cooperation i respect her so it's a duality
00:02:17.360 we can never just look at the modern woman to be the one that doesn't know how to cooperate because
00:02:21.100 the man the ones that say submission so did it all of this type of stuff so ham is that's the problem
00:02:26.680 well but i think i think the idea is that if 70 to 80 percent of women are leaving then like you start
00:02:31.980 with the 70 to 80 percent before you look at the 30 yeah that's great but surely we want the 70 to turn
00:02:38.920 into like the 30s everybody to get married his wife was a housewife she did submit i don't know
00:02:44.820 if that's important well i don't know if that's what he's saying he said cooperation but they
00:02:49.020 cooperated like how they wanted their relationship to work so she how does it get to a point where
00:02:54.820 sometimes you'd be like sometimes i want to throw through a wall 50 years yeah exactly so is that
00:03:01.020 constant submission i don't think so because challenges in marriage come from those things
00:03:06.260 it's respect i think the idea is though in a long marriage like at the end of the day someone has
00:03:10.820 to make the final decision exactly like like someone has to lead the relationship in cooperation and
00:03:16.400 respect it doesn't come to a veto well yeah but there's but there's but there's different ways to do
00:03:21.800 like okay if there's a ceo of a company and he knows that this employee is like disgruntled when
00:03:26.580 he works this way he may compromise what he wants to do in order to make the employee happy at times
00:03:31.180 but it's still his decision yeah but i still get my will which means that the disgruntled person the
00:03:37.620 one that made the complaint and said this is not cool ceo actually you're making the wrong decision
00:03:41.780 the ceo will analyze and say okay cool which means that the lack of submission from the employee
00:03:46.220 actually made the ceo because it is his decision and that's what i'm saying right but there's a way to
00:03:51.400 like bring up your your disagreements in like a submissive way where it's like it's like you
00:03:57.280 you bring it up politely but you still know he's making the final decision not you that then comes
00:04:02.280 down to respect and not submission but why is being polite submissive exactly it's respect i i think the
00:04:07.920 idea i'm sorry i might have misspoke but i'm saying like like because a lot of girls will come off very
00:04:12.400 argumentative and they they just want to like get their point across and just like they're frustrated and
00:04:16.680 i'm saying like like you can bring up a concern but the idea is like i trust you to make the
00:04:20.940 decision i i think a lot of i think a lot of women i think a lot of modern women get hung up on the
00:04:26.300 word submission yes it's the word yeah it's it's it's the word itself can we correct that to our body
00:04:36.060 gets a bit confused with submission because not just the girls i'm telling you now i brought that up
00:04:40.320 because the mandem thinks submission is bitch shut up your mind well the the no but you you get to
00:04:46.000 no no no no no that's not the guys that that's the kind of guys that listen to you told me you
00:04:51.620 come talk here i don't know you
00:04:52.880 last time man was here some guy was telling bitch your mind that's what submission is and people like
00:04:59.660 yeah who said that last show do you remember that who said that last show i was here no no no no that's
00:05:07.660 the guy that was sitting here was that and that's what a lot of men think that they think submission
00:05:11.900 is that you tell your woman to shut up because i'm okay no but i'm saying i'm saying okay that's what
00:05:16.540 other guys say they come for me on the on the comments all the time no no no no that's that's why
00:05:21.260 i'm not moving man i just said the right things no did i say something no i think i think the idea last
00:05:26.220 show was that you you were talking about like you dated the rapper right no we're talking about
00:05:31.100 submission okay
00:05:33.900 you like bad boys no i no i like one bad boy on the rebound what do you actually have a question
00:05:44.700 what do you think of michael just like do you know what why are you doing that i love this question
00:05:53.180 oh you're trying it you're trying it you're trying it listen yeah is this like a match
00:05:59.580 look at we said michael can i say wait he didn't even yeah he didn't want to give his government
00:06:05.180 name in the beginning but wait wait wait why are you getting involved
00:06:11.100 michael is a libra right now i'll tell you what that means because i i i tried trouble with
00:06:16.380 it's a good way it's a point of reference for description so i i approached him first he's got
00:06:24.140 like the tattoos the gold teeth the gold jewelies wait did you say you you approached him first yeah
00:06:29.100 yeah i spoke to him okay okay okay
00:06:33.340 i'm a confident woman i'm not afraid and i was like okay so he fits a certain stereotype he looks like a
00:06:39.020 certain way so you may come across you can make a judgment but actually hearing what he's had to say
00:06:43.900 and how he's spoken he's quite balanced he's he's just a a hardcover but sweet story can i ask can i
00:06:50.780 ask can i ask can i ask you a question don't worry i've got the socials already
00:06:58.460 is he like a libra though well yeah yeah okay
00:07:02.380 a hardcover sweet story is that what a libra is because i've lied tons of times just to get some
00:07:06.380 pussy about my horoscope some some guess you're a pisces isn't it no oh then gemini nope
00:07:14.700 gemini nope nope see but i would be all those things back in the day
00:07:19.340 what is what is the big all right guys what is the biggest lie you've ever told to get laid that's
00:07:28.940 a good one okay okay you said you said i love you you said my dad dad he might as well be
00:07:47.660 an initial question on whether love relationships and marriage were based on happiness yeah uh no it's
00:08:11.340 it's based on practicality and you know offspring etc outside of that i have no real interest
00:08:20.700 the question though
00:08:23.420 she doesn't know don't worry i'll take it i'll take it
00:08:29.740 i think marriage you have to actively get up and say i want this to work like it's not just going to
00:08:33.900 fall into your lap you have to look at it like almost a job like you're going to commit to this
00:08:38.060 person respect them take their feelings into consideration you have to literally get up
00:08:42.620 and actively work on it every day or it's not going to work basically