JustPearlyThings - She Had Trouble Accepting This Fact About Marriage

00:00:00.000 all i had to say can i ask you a question about that yeah what age group was them oh he was

00:00:05.540 i was 27 at that point that was 10 years ago and he was almost 60 then yeah so is that it's an

00:00:12.320 older it's an older mindset it's an older mindset where he said i don't compromise because that

00:00:17.680 doesn't make any sense i cooperate with her so we can get to an end goal because it's that's our

00:00:22.680 duty and i respect her no matter what she respects me as well but i respect her but like my point was

00:00:28.720 like them women of that generation that's that's different women bro it's very different it's a 1.00

00:00:33.160 very it's also a very different culture than what we're used to in the west they're the same women 0.94

00:00:37.580 that raised us though it's very true it's very true but but but i don't what did that be wouldn't

00:00:43.540 that be our grandparents generation almost because i don't because it seems like there's like a change

00:00:49.320 when it's like the our parents like it seems like our grandparents were the ones like man had side

00:00:56.580 chick across town she still stayed yeah my my my granddad has a whole had two other whole families

00:01:02.920 yeah and it is what it is but i don't i don't like growing up my grandma was my rock right my anything

00:01:10.580 my mom and dad told me get out of here like i don't they weren't the parents that they could have

00:01:15.220 been no offense you know what they could have been so the way i look at it is i look at that older

00:01:19.940 generation i go okay respect duty and cooperation is the only way that long-term thing can can

00:01:27.820 possibly work like auntie was saying like everybody was saying the happiness is fleeting that's not

00:01:33.440 gonna stay like even today like we was all joking and laughing in there but if people saw that part

00:01:38.380 they would be like how are they different now like we're very calm everybody cool now right

00:01:42.620 we were talking earlier everybody's having a great time earlier we could talk a little more 0.94

00:01:47.460 shit but i'm saying like even in this moment even in this room we switched up didn't we everybody 0.98

00:01:52.540 switched up to be oh i'm gonna be on camera i gotta be cool and shit so it's like that kind of that 0.99

00:01:57.500 energy so i really respect that everybody you know yeah i'm not gonna overtake you go ahead bro 0.93

00:02:01.440 they got two more just quickly throw some wood in the fire yeah go ahead so you know like this is why

00:02:06.400 it's nice to look at the women but look at the men as well he said the man the uber driver said

00:02:11.460 it's about compromise i was not compromise it's about cooperation i respect her so it's a duality

00:02:17.360 we can never just look at the modern woman to be the one that doesn't know how to cooperate because 0.99

00:02:21.100 the man the ones that say submission so did it all of this type of stuff so ham is that's the problem

00:02:26.680 well but i think i think the idea is that if 70 to 80 percent of women are leaving then like you start

00:02:31.980 with the 70 to 80 percent before you look at the 30 yeah that's great but surely we want the 70 to turn

00:02:38.920 into like the 30s everybody to get married his wife was a housewife she did submit i don't know

00:02:44.820 if that's important well i don't know if that's what he's saying he said cooperation but they

00:02:49.020 cooperated like how they wanted their relationship to work so she how does it get to a point where

00:02:54.820 sometimes you'd be like sometimes i want to throw through a wall 50 years yeah exactly so is that

00:03:01.020 constant submission i don't think so because challenges in marriage come from those things

00:03:06.260 it's respect i think the idea is though in a long marriage like at the end of the day someone has

00:03:10.820 to make the final decision exactly like like someone has to lead the relationship in cooperation and

00:03:16.400 respect it doesn't come to a veto well yeah but there's but there's but there's different ways to do

00:03:21.800 like okay if there's a ceo of a company and he knows that this employee is like disgruntled when

00:03:26.580 he works this way he may compromise what he wants to do in order to make the employee happy at times

00:03:31.180 but it's still his decision yeah but i still get my will which means that the disgruntled person the

00:03:37.620 one that made the complaint and said this is not cool ceo actually you're making the wrong decision

00:03:41.780 the ceo will analyze and say okay cool which means that the lack of submission from the employee

00:03:46.220 actually made the ceo because it is his decision and that's what i'm saying right but there's a way to

00:03:51.400 like bring up your your disagreements in like a submissive way where it's like it's like you

00:03:57.280 you bring it up politely but you still know he's making the final decision not you that then comes

00:04:02.280 down to respect and not submission but why is being polite submissive exactly it's respect i i think the

00:04:07.920 idea i'm sorry i might have misspoke but i'm saying like like because a lot of girls will come off very 0.98

00:04:12.400 argumentative and they they just want to like get their point across and just like they're frustrated and

00:04:16.680 i'm saying like like you can bring up a concern but the idea is like i trust you to make the

00:04:20.940 decision i i think a lot of i think a lot of women i think a lot of modern women get hung up on the 1.00

00:04:26.300 word submission yes it's the word yeah it's it's it's the word itself can we correct that to our body

00:04:36.060 gets a bit confused with submission because not just the girls i'm telling you now i brought that up 0.97

00:04:40.320 because the mandem thinks submission is bitch shut up your mind well the the no but you you get to 1.00

00:04:46.000 no no no no no that's not the guys that that's the kind of guys that listen to you told me you 1.00

00:04:51.620 come talk here i don't know you 0.97

00:04:52.880 last time man was here some guy was telling bitch your mind that's what submission is and people like 1.00

00:04:59.660 yeah who said that last show do you remember that who said that last show i was here no no no no that's 0.95

00:05:07.660 the guy that was sitting here was that and that's what a lot of men think that they think submission

00:05:11.900 is that you tell your woman to shut up because i'm okay no but i'm saying i'm saying okay that's what

00:05:16.540 other guys say they come for me on the on the comments all the time no no no no that's that's why

00:05:21.260 i'm not moving man i just said the right things no did i say something no i think i think the idea last

00:05:26.220 show was that you you were talking about like you dated the rapper right no we're talking about

00:05:31.100 submission okay

00:05:33.900 you like bad boys no i no i like one bad boy on the rebound what do you actually have a question

00:05:44.700 what do you think of michael just like do you know what why are you doing that i love this question

00:05:53.180 oh you're trying it you're trying it you're trying it listen yeah is this like a match

00:05:59.580 look at we said michael can i say wait he didn't even yeah he didn't want to give his government

00:06:05.180 name in the beginning but wait wait wait why are you getting involved

00:06:11.100 michael is a libra right now i'll tell you what that means because i i i tried trouble with

00:06:16.380 it's a good way it's a point of reference for description so i i approached him first he's got

00:06:24.140 like the tattoos the gold teeth the gold jewelies wait did you say you you approached him first yeah

00:06:29.100 yeah i spoke to him okay okay okay

00:06:33.340 i'm a confident woman i'm not afraid and i was like okay so he fits a certain stereotype he looks like a

00:06:39.020 certain way so you may come across you can make a judgment but actually hearing what he's had to say

00:06:43.900 and how he's spoken he's quite balanced he's he's just a a hardcover but sweet story can i ask can i

00:06:50.780 ask can i ask can i ask you a question don't worry i've got the socials already

00:06:58.460 is he like a libra though well yeah yeah okay

00:07:02.380 a hardcover sweet story is that what a libra is because i've lied tons of times just to get some 0.99

00:07:06.380 pussy about my horoscope some some guess you're a pisces isn't it no oh then gemini nope 0.96

00:07:14.700 gemini nope nope see but i would be all those things back in the day 0.99

00:07:19.340 what is what is the big all right guys what is the biggest lie you've ever told to get laid that's

00:07:28.940 a good one okay okay you said you said i love you you said my dad dad he might as well be

00:07:47.660 an initial question on whether love relationships and marriage were based on happiness yeah uh no it's

00:08:11.340 it's based on practicality and you know offspring etc outside of that i have no real interest

00:08:20.700 the question though

00:08:23.420 she doesn't know don't worry i'll take it i'll take it

00:08:29.740 i think marriage you have to actively get up and say i want this to work like it's not just going to

00:08:33.900 fall into your lap you have to look at it like almost a job like you're going to commit to this

00:08:38.060 person respect them take their feelings into consideration you have to literally get up

00:08:42.620 and actively work on it every day or it's not going to work basically

JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023

She Had Trouble Accepting This Fact About Marriage

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