She refused to take accountability
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss why women are leaving their marriages at an alarming rate. We discuss why this is happening and what we can do to prevent it. We also discuss why men should be doing more to make sure their wives stay in their marriages.
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There are so many different things involved in not seeing red flags.
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There are so many different mental health issues.
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There are so many different societal pressures.
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You call it an excuse, but there's a reason for it.
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You sound like you have a lot of excuses for women.
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I have an understanding of what women have been through.
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I think the conversation is like, you're trying to say everything's really black and white.
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This is the reason why women leave all the time.
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Relationships are so complex that looking at a stat, you can't be like, okay, well, it's women's fault.
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What matters is the results at the end of the day.
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And so if the results are a certain percentage of women, 80%, are leaving marriages,
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your feelings don't come into the situation because what's happening is,
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because everyone's going to have different feelings, right?
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Like, this woman said it was because of that reason.
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But at the end of the day, the result is it's 80% of women leaving marriages.
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And at the end of the day, it's the kids who suffer because you're putting your feelings above the kids.
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And this is, I'm taking out exceptions like abuse.
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Outside of abuse, you're putting your feelings above the children.
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Do you not think if men behave better, women would stay?
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Because women, and now, you know, you have to be responsible.
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Men, in today's society, like, yeah, you have to get a job.
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I don't understand why it's okay to be openly sexist against men.
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Because what if they said if women just behaved better, that it would be better?
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But I was only saying that to, like, combat saying, oh, it's the women's fault.
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Or what about if the men could be a better husband and could help around the house more.
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The fact that men help around the house when it's their house as well, like, that's literally what it's called.
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Like, there is, like, a disparity with the amount of labor that women do and that men do.
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So you could just say that men contribute more.
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Like, if a dude's paying my rent, he's not doing shit.
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But I'm saying, statistically, men make more money.
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I just wanted to ask, all your statistics and your percentages, all of that, where did
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There's a little bit of a disparity between the UK and US, specifically when it comes
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And then asked them about their life and then...
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So, do you think, do you think if you, if you do three, four different studies and they
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all come up to similar conclusions, we can, we can say that it's around 80%, 90% if you're...
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We're getting the statistics from there, so we can see who's initiating the divorces.
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So, when you file for divorce, it goes on record.
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So, it's 80% of women that are filing for divorce.
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How would you improve the situation for, like, I feel like you both have, like, heard, you
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Like, what would you say that both men and women can do to improve the situation?
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Like, I think that if women have the right to get an abortion, men should be able to
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get a financial abortion so they can sign off all rights and not pay any child support.
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I would say that's one thing, because the way it is now, like, women are incentivized
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Like, the NBA had to issue a statement saying that women, like, kept stealing condoms, and
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Like, you shouldn't be able to legally do that.
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I mean, Drake had to put hot sauce in his condom.
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There are women out there literally incentivized to try and get a rich man's baby.
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That was just one story with Drake and one random lady, and it doesn't represent all women
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So, I understand that, but I do these interviews all the time.
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So, I'll go on the street, I'll talk to them at, like, I'll talk to them at random people
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on the street, random people in my living room, and I've had so many guys tell me stories
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So, when you go out on these ventures and you ask people, you know what you're looking
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for, you know what you can put and edit and post.
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No, I'm not rigging the game, but you're looking for something, that's why you're going
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So, you're going to speak about certain things.
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I would say I get more people that disagree, to be honest, when I go out, than agree.
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So, I wouldn't say I'm, like, rigging the game.
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But if you're going to have sex with a woman, sorry, am I supposed to say that?
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There is a chance that that woman may get pregnant.
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So, if you have sex with a guy, there's a chance you might get pregnant.
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So, if you get to choose not to be a mother, he should get to choose not to be a father.
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Whose responsibility do you think it is for getting pregnant?
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Yeah, but women have more to risk by getting pregnant.
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Unless it's a situation of grape, you let the man inside.
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So, it's your responsibility if you get pregnant, even though it's...
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No, I said, whose responsibility to get pregnant?
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Once you do say yes or no, you have the right to keep the baby.
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You have the right to either put the baby up for adoption.
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You have the right to put the man on child support.
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But I'm saying that's a better option than what men have.
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Or you can require them and you sleep with wear a condom.
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So, it's like, I'm saying we have all the power when it comes to sex.
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I feel like a woman's really only going to have a kid if she really wants to.
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Because there are so many ways for her to prevent that at different stages all throughout.
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But I also think if there were more support for women who do want to have children,
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may not have necessarily found the right man who actually wants to have a child with her.
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If she was able to get more financial support, then she wouldn't feel like she'd need to
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Are you excusing a girl trying to get a kid off of a rich guy because she doesn't...
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If, like, you know, childcare's really expensive, okay?
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Raising a child's really expensive and it's really hard to do on your own, right?
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Well, I'm saying maybe lower your standards then.
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If no one of the guys you like want to marry you, you're probably shooting too high.
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Just like if a dude's shooting at Victoria's Secret models and they all tell him no,
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What if you're like, just don't see any men that you...
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You don't have any romantic or sexual interest ever.
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To bring a kid into a situation where there's a sexual orientation.
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This is one of the reasons why society's broken.
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Because women are actually literally running around thinking that children don't need two parents.
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If you're a good enough person, you can teach a child by yourself.
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I just read you a bunch of stats showing that children that come from single mothers are statistically at a disadvantage in nearly every category.
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And then you're going to tell me, oh, yeah, it's fine.
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I think it's equally selfish if a dude does the same thing.
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Like, if a dude wanted to, I don't know, adopt as a single father, like, I think that's selfish.
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And even if you can, that doesn't necessarily mean you should.
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Like, because you're putting what you want above what is best for the kid.
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I think if you're adopting a child, whether you're a single person or not, I think that's a really lovely thing to do.
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And if you're a single parent, it's better than having no parent, no one to look after you.
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It doesn't necessarily mean it needs to be two parents.
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You could have cousins and aunties who are older.
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Do you think that's the same as having a mom and a dad in the home?
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I think if the kid has adults who love them and show that they love them openly and always,
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then it doesn't matter if it's specifically a man and a woman or two parents that raise them.
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So in all the statistics that I read, they never had a father in the home.
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This shows that boys and girls need both their mother and their father to be fully functioning members of society
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who aren't going to be grapists, who aren't going to be prisoners, who aren't going to be, you know, misfits.
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But I think this is one of the things that I can't understand why women would argue for singledom
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and to raise a child by themselves and then act like it's normal.
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It's not going to benefit society when it comes to prison.
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It's not going to benefit society when it comes to crime.
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I think what you've just said is that you can't be a normal functioning member of society if you were raised by a...
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Okay, but just because you heard it, that's not what he said.
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So what we're saying is it puts you at every statistical disadvantage.
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But if that's your best bet, like, you know, then...
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And if you're doing your best, then, like, what else can you expect someone to do?
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