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00:00:00.000 topic is um talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships um so i want to hear

00:00:05.920 from the women um on a given day how many messages do you receive from men interested in you

00:00:15.520 i think it depends i think if i put stories up then i'll have more interaction but

00:00:20.560 yeah i think it just depends really okay that's not an answer sorry and when i put stories up yeah

00:00:26.320 i'll get a couple for a few messages to be fair okay so how many a day like maybe like three four

00:00:32.640 five okay so five a day so um okay so go ahead i think for me um i don't post every day and any

00:00:42.320 sort of like love or attention that i receive from dudes is from guys i already know or have already

00:00:48.400 like had an encounter with like met before so i don't really get strangers like hey like what's

00:00:54.640 up like i don't really get that often but people that i know will will show me love okay so how

00:01:01.040 many messages do you get a day from men like a zero okay so you get no messages from guys interested in

00:01:07.040 you do you have a public instagram yes yes but i don't post often and when i do it's the people

00:01:13.840 that already know me i rarely get and if i do is from like an uncle that's like 25 years older than

00:01:19.840 me that i'm going to ignore it's like once in a blue moon okay so uh what about you i don't really

00:01:28.240 see them come up as much because they go into message requests but i'd say on average between

00:01:32.960 maybe one two one to two hey guys how many how many messages do you get a day you know what it's about

00:01:42.640 when you post if i post because i'm i'm a personal trainer so if i post like a um update from like

00:01:48.320 my gym progress then i'll get a flurry of people i might get like 20 to 25 but on a normal day not

00:01:58.880 if you post you get oh and if you don't post if i don't post yeah you're beating the women 1.00

00:02:03.280 yeah so so you get more dm's than the girls i guess so well you know what would you say is the 0.70

00:02:12.080 quality of the girls that dm you um like out of every 10 what percent are you would actually yeah

00:02:18.320 maybe like 10 okay that's that 10 yeah i mean if i post it if i was supposed to trap it maybe be that

00:02:24.480 40 okay just on average sometimes you know i might i might get some wings in there

00:02:30.080 yeah but no no but yeah usually just yeah about 10 i'll see okay yeah because the gays love a

00:02:37.120 personal trainer man um so my account is no longer public i've made it private and the reason why is

00:02:46.560 because my women are lovely because women would just like and then be like oh i love like how 1.00

00:02:53.280 positive you are and blah blah blah on social media guys are very different there's not i don't think

00:02:58.800 i think there's a shortage of like masculine mandem as they call it guys so i made my account private

00:03:07.600 because guys have kept dm'ing me through like and then so like let's say for example the black gay 0.97

00:03:18.000 community in london is not that big including like mixed race guys so kind of everyone's following

00:03:24.720 everyone so some people will see so some people will see that i'm following them or blah blah blah

00:03:29.680 and then and my biography says like open-minded blah blah blah so i don't even say i'm bisexual so

00:03:34.800 they'll slide in my dms um and then one thing is with guys is guys okay perfect example i met a guy

00:03:43.840 who were vibing blah blah blah weren't really too sure if i liked him or whatever and he was like look i

00:03:48.400 wouldn't mind if you had an affair with a woman because she can give you something that i can't give you but 1.00

00:03:53.280 if it was with another man he would find it offensive so how many messages do you get a day

00:04:00.320 i can't say in a day i could say i could get like two three a week two three a week yeah okay what about

00:04:05.520 you uh i don't get no message i don't get no messages that's half to do with the fact that i don't

00:04:12.320 really i don't use social media even when but at the same time back when i was single i still didn't

00:04:18.400 really get messages like that it was you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type

00:04:24.000 of situation not to say that women are fish yeah taken off the platform but it's like yeah it's like 1.00

00:04:34.160 you have to go there rather than them come here which is very different to a lot of the other

00:04:40.800 situation i've heard from like other guys and other girls as well because to guys ratio is very different

00:04:46.000 because a lot of girls i've seen get a lot more messages than a lot guys i've seen however the

00:04:51.040 guys that do get messages get a lot and a lot of them so you have that like one friend that one male

00:04:58.080 friend who's a 10 out of 10 who would get 10 times more messages than any girl however like a bell curve

00:05:03.920 situation there are more girls getting more messages than guys right but from what i've seen

00:05:10.160 and the hottest guys wolves because it goes to hyper how pergamos so they want to go for them but 0.91

00:05:15.520 the best of best so if you if you've got that one guy who's a 10 he's going to get more messages than

00:05:19.760 any girl in any room in anywhere because every girl wants him so when you guys are uh looking at a social

00:05:29.680 media profile um i know some of you are in relationships but just like think back to when you were single

00:05:34.640 and you got you looked at a profile and you have to decide whether you would respond or not what

00:05:38.800 would you look at i look at the fashion and what he's wearing okay so fashion yeah yeah are you trying

00:05:45.040 to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you i mean everyone wants someone over six foot but i've

00:05:50.080 been with guys that are smaller than that so it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but

00:05:54.160 yeah definitely fashion style what they do okay pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want

00:06:02.000 anyone to rate your instagrams put it in the chat and we'll see what they think of it

00:06:09.200 okay so fashion um you said you want to see what he does yeah uh what else anything else is that like

00:06:16.000 if he travels stuff like that and just traveling help well it just shows that he probably was

00:06:21.360 spontaneous and that's an adventure they got money um okay go ahead i think for me um of course yeah

00:06:31.760 we we want to look we want to see what he looks like so i just want to see if i like his face you

00:06:36.880 know um his build i am looking at fashion i'm looking at things that's like is he posing with

00:06:43.360 his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs like i'm trying to see if he's

00:06:48.080 trying to flaunt all of that because i'm attracted to a dude that's confident but i also don't want

00:06:53.280 someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display so if you see like a shirtless

00:06:58.960 picture is that a turn on or turn off it depends on like most of the time it's a turn off but it

00:07:03.600 also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just see some guys on their profile and

00:07:08.000 they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like doing the most and i feel like that's

00:07:12.720 lowkey a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah i'm looking at like his friends if he's posted

00:07:19.520 any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does um yeah i'm just kind of looking at all of that

00:07:27.760 i don't know if that makes sense but yeah oh what about you i think for me it's just like if they

00:07:35.120 post their interests i don't it more depends on the message for me rather than the profile because

00:07:40.000 the profile is fake anyway like everyone's instagram is just a fake version of themselves so it it would

00:07:45.760 catch my eye if they have something that they're really passionate and interested in that they post

00:07:50.400 about that might entice me more to reply but i think it more depends on the message for me what type of

00:07:56.880 message would be a good message to send you if it can make me laugh or something funny something

00:08:01.840 funny yeah or something that would make me think like if they said something really interesting

00:08:10.960 the standards are rough because it's like i don't know what you find funny and not funny

00:08:16.720 that's kind of my point like it's it's it's instagram like it's all a fake world anyway so you might as

00:08:22.000 or just give it a go and you know you never know gotta have that universal riz i mean what about

00:08:28.720 you two um good first message to send you to be fair it depends whether they're good looking or not

00:08:34.320 if i'll reply like the message could just be hey and if he's good looking i'll entertain it a little bit

00:08:38.800 but if the conversation's just dead then it just spoils it yeah for me like in the past i've had guys

00:08:46.320 that will like talk about my body or anything like that and i don't want to feel like i'm being

00:08:51.600 sexually objectified in any way so if he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts

00:08:56.400 talking about my body i'm gonna ignore that i'm not gonna give that any energy i'm not too fussy but

00:09:01.520 just saying hey like how are you and just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being so it's

00:09:06.480 like respect me talk to me like i'm a human being i don't want you to on instagram you know i don't really

00:09:12.720 post pictures that are like sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough

00:09:21.040 i can but like i try not to do that too often can we see it

00:09:31.920 yeah i want to see if we could can we look at your yeah yeah that's fine uh it's tashana talks so t a s h a

00:09:40.160 u n a talks because i was kind of wanted to see i want to get the guys feedback and like what they

00:09:44.800 would think of you without meeting you okay um did you get that blessing okay um so you said it just

00:09:57.520 matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual yeah just like

00:10:03.680 say hey like what's up that's fine did you have something you want to say yeah i'm the same like if

00:10:08.000 it's sexual i won't respond whatsoever yeah have you guys found that that if you send like a sexual

00:10:14.400 message first it's like a lower response rate no sorry can you repeat yeah no no i think i think um

00:10:22.800 oh yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a uh t-a-l-k-s all one word

00:10:31.040 yeah but hey hi how are you doing never works

00:10:40.320 you get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know what

00:10:45.680 i mean like people the great thing about instagram which is better i think than um text and grabbing

00:10:50.560 a number i remember four people used to be a bit annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and

00:10:55.600 she gives you like her socials yeah but the great thing about that is she posts on there every day

00:11:01.280 so there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point do you know i mean wait for that

00:11:05.120 moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally you know i mean don't

00:11:08.000 put someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that you're out of the game but were you guys

00:11:12.080 saying that if you send a sexual message you're more likely to get a response like a woodshot are you 0.95

00:11:16.240 talking about like a nude obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10 i mean i'm not like

00:11:23.920 about like complimenting her body or something like that i mean i think there's certain there's

00:11:28.000 certain profiles that that works within the same profiles that i wouldn't yeah because it's with

00:11:32.560 from a guy's perspective not to speak generally for everyone but it's one of those ones because you

00:11:36.240 guys said if he looks like he treats me nice and blah blah blah but guys do you think she will respond

00:11:46.240 up blessing yeah all right so we want to hear from the guys oh yeah oh put me on blast god

00:11:52.720 yeah so what are we what we're getting from here traveling traveling

00:11:57.520 i went to disneyland it was so fun no commentary you can get it later i just want to see without

00:12:03.040 without knowing her okay so i'm not seeing too much like skin out yeah i haven't seen any football

00:12:09.200 posing with a bat yeah yeah so she's a respectable girl she's she's chilling um 1.00

00:12:15.920 i don't really think this is a page where she's like looking for man them's attention yeah she's 0.97

00:12:20.960 just kind of just enjoying her life she's i used to work around there she's london bridging that 0.98

00:12:29.520 okay little artsy vibe there as well yeah i wouldn't get a message her because she could be a quick one 1.00

00:12:35.840 type of message if i was to see this instagram yeah this is a honest individual who's showing you

00:12:42.320 situations and i like that in her life that first one that first one's like don't look at me but look

00:12:47.840 at me with the whole jacket i want you to see a little bit that's how i get you

00:12:57.040 what's your instagram he's gonna pull it up it's ashton maria

00:13:00.400 is there a difference

00:13:10.560 we have one girl on this show we did a show today called wife or cat lady where you yeah 0.64

00:13:16.960 yeah you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so all these men were verified millionaires

00:13:22.240 and they all had to um decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies you know 1.00

00:13:27.840 and this one girl that came in it was like her boobs were like oh it was like a see-through like 1.00

00:13:34.480 top on instagram yeah and i was trying to tell her i'm like i don't know if that's like what the the

00:13:39.120 millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers maybe that's a different group but like i'm like

00:13:44.320 i don't know about the millionaire like business man you know but yeah she didn't get it

00:13:49.760 yeah well she was very she was very beautiful oh see she didn't need to do that yeah no that's what

00:13:58.400 i was telling her because i was like i was like i probably would have put her top like 10 20 of

00:14:02.240 beauty she's so beautiful and i was just like why would you put that like i was like that's like

00:14:07.760 being being born 6 10 yeah and not playing basketball and bowling that's that's that's interesting

00:14:20.160 she needs more people around i just said tell her that she's attractive in the face yeah i told her 1.00

00:14:24.400 she could come back um if she deleted three of these pictures on instagram i need some improvement here

00:14:32.400 you should have gone you should have gone percentage rather than number if it's three percent and she'd

00:14:36.480 have to do like eight pictures she was very attached to the instagram okay she was a very nice girl but

00:14:42.960 i was like you're very attached to the insta you know she she's comparing herself to whoever she 1.00

00:14:48.080 idolizes on there so she might see someone a woman that all comes down to self-confidence no but no 1.00

00:14:53.120 there might be a woman that she finds she might look at carly and think raw if i was if i was like 0.85

00:14:57.200 which if i was into girls i'm i'm under do you know what i mean so she kind of tries wants to mimic that 0.99

00:15:01.760 and she thinks that that is going to get her what she needs in it do you know i mean do you find it

00:15:05.280 weird that like a lot of girls well speaking again this is a very general statement but a lot of 1.00

00:15:10.320 girls in that kind of respect will look at idols and and mimic what they look like but a lot of 1.00

00:15:15.040 guys will look at their idols and mimic what they act like and do that's facts right but we focus more

00:15:20.800 on respect and i think with women sometimes can be more of an attention visual because how many people 0.99

00:15:24.640 have cardi b as their role model just how many jlo yeah you see exactly rolling exactly 53 hot

00:15:33.360 but then if you ask a guy who their role model is it's like samuel jackson or something

00:15:38.960 i was trying to think of one good feminine role model in the media today yeah like that's in mainstream 1.00

00:15:44.960 i'm like i can't care of pearson is that jlo she's a role model for me she's a like she does like 0.98

00:15:53.920 youtube videos and that okay but she's not like anywhere near as big as someone like beyonce or 0.99

00:15:58.560 claudy b just pearly thing

00:16:04.320 uh do you want to pull up the instagram you thought you escaped yeah

00:16:09.440 oh no no no no okay what are we thinking that's the that's that's the podcast number one pick i love

00:16:18.480 that so therefore she gets a point because she was on my podcast oh this picture here

00:16:26.720 this is interesting grounds you know what's really important the captions yeah we're not

00:16:30.240 i even see the caption can we can we pull up that caption again i need to see you on the train what

00:16:36.480 she said you see that picture another adventure that one that picture would make a bisexual straight 0.99

00:16:43.360 again is that a polluted coming in on your stuff you're sick you know all right all right she's cool 0.97

00:16:52.400 let me see what she say uh get a smile what type of message would you guys send as an opener to her 0.68

00:17:00.240 uh it'll be it'll be you know with me i'm not trying to give too much away but it'll be usually

00:17:05.440 be story related something related to whatever you're posting that right now what adventure do

00:17:09.920 you want to go on next because i mean if if you posted like back in july last year like you went

00:17:16.640 somewhere and then you don't really want to talk about that right now but if you're in dubai right

00:17:20.320 now or you're somewhere you can talk about that maybe you know but going through her page i normally

00:17:26.880 the pictures are uh are given but i like i like to look at their statuses as well what they're

00:17:31.440 captioning the things you know what i mean yeah the single eyes do light up because it's one of those

00:17:35.520 one pages where you're like okay you see enough in the pictures to be like okay if i was to message

00:17:42.720 this person like i said before when the guy's messages like will she respond she might she might

00:17:49.120 depending on what you say right so what your instagram gives off you have to come up with like really

00:17:54.320 astute and you have to be really on your stuff with yours yeah it's fun girl not fun girl but

00:18:03.600 without meeting her like what type of person would you have thought she was before probably seen in

00:18:08.000 the nightclubs out there and stuff i've seen you out i haven't bullet yeah what are you in the night

00:18:15.920 clubs or no i used to a lot when i was younger but now it's more events like bars stuff like that i

00:18:21.280 don't really go out to the clubs too too much certified nine so yeah cocktail bars two for one

00:18:26.480 before seven okay i know i've seen you before

00:18:32.960 do any of the guys want to volunteer their instagrams yeah go on the night ranks let's do it man

00:18:39.040 what is the most like wild message you've ever sent to a girl

00:18:42.240 what the ones where you have to send a message and put your phone down and look away

00:18:49.840 like a wild first message oh first message first message oh no i don't need to know

00:18:56.320 probably like a uh probably you know i think if if she's abroad you get a little bit more confidence in

00:19:03.280 it so when you're gonna quit playing and just move to london you know what i mean like one of those

00:19:09.600 kind of ones yeah sometimes i would do funny ones that are only funny to me like i can see you that's

00:19:18.960 the message that's the message

00:19:24.800 it's dumb right but it's a good thing yeah yeah yeah yeah if you tried that on me that would not work

00:19:33.360 i'd be like is this a mistake like is this an error but but but look you responded 0.67

00:19:42.640 that's all we needed we needed a door to be open and from there you can figure out um i'm only kidding

00:19:47.040 blah blah you can find it but like you see that it worked right there i can see you

00:19:55.600 they're the best way to slide and i think oh yeah yeah yeah you know what's funny i've never dm'd

00:20:00.560 anyone before they dm me sorry man

00:20:06.560 no i didn't i didn't know it was a thing i didn't know it was a thing

00:20:12.400 and then i just kind of react and then the vibe of it what's your back signal what you like a couple

00:20:16.720 pictures you like the story so if i like your pictures more than one okay you know what it

00:20:21.360 means then he knows what time if you don't he or she let's not go fully gay yet and then we and then

00:20:28.800 we kind of then obviously if you get a private message or something like that then i kind of

00:20:32.960 react to that whether it's a female or a male but a female is very different where i'm very it's very

00:20:39.440 different with a female because i'm kind of more romantic tax i'm i'm a face-to-face person anyway

00:20:44.560 i'm old school like pretend social media didn't didn't didn't exist so with a female would be 1.00

00:20:50.560 like let's let's go catch a bite let's go to a cocktail bar and i think as time go on i'm kind

00:20:57.280 of the same thing with guys it's not just a thing where i just want to talk anyone can be anyone on

00:21:01.840 social media or on the phone i want to feel your vibe by the way you talk the way you hold yourself

00:21:06.560 as a person your body language and and that's it because that's what wows me and that's what gets here

00:21:11.760 and if you've got me here yeah so girl or female you've got me you obviously know like when uh what

00:21:18.000 kind of girls or guys to that you need to take on a date and you know which which ones you can just 0.99

00:21:21.920 bring back like what guys are different though guys as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock

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