She Said This About Her INSTAGRAM
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about social media and how it pertains to relationships with men and women. We discuss the impact it can have on relationships and the differences between the two, as well as how social media affects the amount of men interested in you.
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topic is um talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships um so i want to hear
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from the women um on a given day how many messages do you receive from men interested in you
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i think it depends i think if i put stories up then i'll have more interaction but
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yeah i think it just depends really okay that's not an answer sorry and when i put stories up yeah
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i'll get a couple for a few messages to be fair okay so how many a day like maybe like three four
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five okay so five a day so um okay so go ahead i think for me um i don't post every day and any
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sort of like love or attention that i receive from dudes is from guys i already know or have already
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like had an encounter with like met before so i don't really get strangers like hey like what's
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up like i don't really get that often but people that i know will will show me love okay so how
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many messages do you get a day from men like a zero okay so you get no messages from guys interested in
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you do you have a public instagram yes yes but i don't post often and when i do it's the people
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that already know me i rarely get and if i do is from like an uncle that's like 25 years older than
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me that i'm going to ignore it's like once in a blue moon okay so uh what about you i don't really
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see them come up as much because they go into message requests but i'd say on average between
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maybe one two one to two hey guys how many how many messages do you get a day you know what it's about
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when you post if i post because i'm i'm a personal trainer so if i post like a um update from like
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my gym progress then i'll get a flurry of people i might get like 20 to 25 but on a normal day not
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if you post you get oh and if you don't post if i don't post yeah you're beating the women
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yeah so so you get more dm's than the girls i guess so well you know what would you say is the
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quality of the girls that dm you um like out of every 10 what percent are you would actually yeah
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maybe like 10 okay that's that 10 yeah i mean if i post it if i was supposed to trap it maybe be that
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40 okay just on average sometimes you know i might i might get some wings in there
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yeah but no no but yeah usually just yeah about 10 i'll see okay yeah because the gays love a
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personal trainer man um so my account is no longer public i've made it private and the reason why is
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because my women are lovely because women would just like and then be like oh i love like how
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positive you are and blah blah blah on social media guys are very different there's not i don't think
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i think there's a shortage of like masculine mandem as they call it guys so i made my account private
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because guys have kept dm'ing me through like and then so like let's say for example the black gay
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community in london is not that big including like mixed race guys so kind of everyone's following
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everyone so some people will see so some people will see that i'm following them or blah blah blah
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and then and my biography says like open-minded blah blah blah so i don't even say i'm bisexual so
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they'll slide in my dms um and then one thing is with guys is guys okay perfect example i met a guy
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who were vibing blah blah blah weren't really too sure if i liked him or whatever and he was like look i
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wouldn't mind if you had an affair with a woman because she can give you something that i can't give you but
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if it was with another man he would find it offensive so how many messages do you get a day
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i can't say in a day i could say i could get like two three a week two three a week yeah okay what about
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you uh i don't get no message i don't get no messages that's half to do with the fact that i don't
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really i don't use social media even when but at the same time back when i was single i still didn't
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really get messages like that it was you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type
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of situation not to say that women are fish yeah taken off the platform but it's like yeah it's like
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you have to go there rather than them come here which is very different to a lot of the other
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situation i've heard from like other guys and other girls as well because to guys ratio is very different
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because a lot of girls i've seen get a lot more messages than a lot guys i've seen however the
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guys that do get messages get a lot and a lot of them so you have that like one friend that one male
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friend who's a 10 out of 10 who would get 10 times more messages than any girl however like a bell curve
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situation there are more girls getting more messages than guys right but from what i've seen
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and the hottest guys wolves because it goes to hyper how pergamos so they want to go for them but
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the best of best so if you if you've got that one guy who's a 10 he's going to get more messages than
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any girl in any room in anywhere because every girl wants him so when you guys are uh looking at a social
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media profile um i know some of you are in relationships but just like think back to when you were single
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and you got you looked at a profile and you have to decide whether you would respond or not what
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would you look at i look at the fashion and what he's wearing okay so fashion yeah yeah are you trying
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to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you i mean everyone wants someone over six foot but i've
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been with guys that are smaller than that so it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but
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yeah definitely fashion style what they do okay pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want
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anyone to rate your instagrams put it in the chat and we'll see what they think of it
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okay so fashion um you said you want to see what he does yeah uh what else anything else is that like
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if he travels stuff like that and just traveling help well it just shows that he probably was
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spontaneous and that's an adventure they got money um okay go ahead i think for me um of course yeah
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we we want to look we want to see what he looks like so i just want to see if i like his face you
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know um his build i am looking at fashion i'm looking at things that's like is he posing with
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his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs like i'm trying to see if he's
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trying to flaunt all of that because i'm attracted to a dude that's confident but i also don't want
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someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display so if you see like a shirtless
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picture is that a turn on or turn off it depends on like most of the time it's a turn off but it
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also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just see some guys on their profile and
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they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like doing the most and i feel like that's
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lowkey a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah i'm looking at like his friends if he's posted
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any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does um yeah i'm just kind of looking at all of that
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i don't know if that makes sense but yeah oh what about you i think for me it's just like if they
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post their interests i don't it more depends on the message for me rather than the profile because
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the profile is fake anyway like everyone's instagram is just a fake version of themselves so it it would
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catch my eye if they have something that they're really passionate and interested in that they post
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about that might entice me more to reply but i think it more depends on the message for me what type of
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message would be a good message to send you if it can make me laugh or something funny something
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funny yeah or something that would make me think like if they said something really interesting
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the standards are rough because it's like i don't know what you find funny and not funny
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that's kind of my point like it's it's it's instagram like it's all a fake world anyway so you might as
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or just give it a go and you know you never know gotta have that universal riz i mean what about
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you two um good first message to send you to be fair it depends whether they're good looking or not
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if i'll reply like the message could just be hey and if he's good looking i'll entertain it a little bit
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but if the conversation's just dead then it just spoils it yeah for me like in the past i've had guys
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that will like talk about my body or anything like that and i don't want to feel like i'm being
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sexually objectified in any way so if he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts
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talking about my body i'm gonna ignore that i'm not gonna give that any energy i'm not too fussy but
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just saying hey like how are you and just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being so it's
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like respect me talk to me like i'm a human being i don't want you to on instagram you know i don't really
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post pictures that are like sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough
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i can but like i try not to do that too often can we see it
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yeah i want to see if we could can we look at your yeah yeah that's fine uh it's tashana talks so t a s h a
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u n a talks because i was kind of wanted to see i want to get the guys feedback and like what they
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would think of you without meeting you okay um did you get that blessing okay um so you said it just
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matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual yeah just like
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say hey like what's up that's fine did you have something you want to say yeah i'm the same like if
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it's sexual i won't respond whatsoever yeah have you guys found that that if you send like a sexual
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message first it's like a lower response rate no sorry can you repeat yeah no no i think i think um
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oh yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a uh t-a-l-k-s all one word
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you get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know what
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i mean like people the great thing about instagram which is better i think than um text and grabbing
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a number i remember four people used to be a bit annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and
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she gives you like her socials yeah but the great thing about that is she posts on there every day
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so there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point do you know i mean wait for that
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moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally you know i mean don't
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put someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that you're out of the game but were you guys
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saying that if you send a sexual message you're more likely to get a response like a woodshot are you
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talking about like a nude obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10 i mean i'm not like
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about like complimenting her body or something like that i mean i think there's certain there's
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certain profiles that that works within the same profiles that i wouldn't yeah because it's with
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from a guy's perspective not to speak generally for everyone but it's one of those ones because you
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guys said if he looks like he treats me nice and blah blah blah but guys do you think she will respond
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up blessing yeah all right so we want to hear from the guys oh yeah oh put me on blast god
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yeah so what are we what we're getting from here traveling traveling
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i went to disneyland it was so fun no commentary you can get it later i just want to see without
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without knowing her okay so i'm not seeing too much like skin out yeah i haven't seen any football
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posing with a bat yeah yeah so she's a respectable girl she's she's chilling um
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i don't really think this is a page where she's like looking for man them's attention yeah she's
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just kind of just enjoying her life she's i used to work around there she's london bridging that
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okay little artsy vibe there as well yeah i wouldn't get a message her because she could be a quick one
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type of message if i was to see this instagram yeah this is a honest individual who's showing you
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situations and i like that in her life that first one that first one's like don't look at me but look
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at me with the whole jacket i want you to see a little bit that's how i get you
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what's your instagram he's gonna pull it up it's ashton maria
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we have one girl on this show we did a show today called wife or cat lady where you yeah
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yeah you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so all these men were verified millionaires
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and they all had to um decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies you know
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and this one girl that came in it was like her boobs were like oh it was like a see-through like
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top on instagram yeah and i was trying to tell her i'm like i don't know if that's like what the the
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millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers maybe that's a different group but like i'm like
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i don't know about the millionaire like business man you know but yeah she didn't get it
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yeah well she was very she was very beautiful oh see she didn't need to do that yeah no that's what
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i was telling her because i was like i was like i probably would have put her top like 10 20 of
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beauty she's so beautiful and i was just like why would you put that like i was like that's like
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being being born 6 10 yeah and not playing basketball and bowling that's that's that's interesting
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she needs more people around i just said tell her that she's attractive in the face yeah i told her
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she could come back um if she deleted three of these pictures on instagram i need some improvement here
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you should have gone you should have gone percentage rather than number if it's three percent and she'd
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have to do like eight pictures she was very attached to the instagram okay she was a very nice girl but
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i was like you're very attached to the insta you know she she's comparing herself to whoever she
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idolizes on there so she might see someone a woman that all comes down to self-confidence no but no
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there might be a woman that she finds she might look at carly and think raw if i was if i was like
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which if i was into girls i'm i'm under do you know what i mean so she kind of tries wants to mimic that
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and she thinks that that is going to get her what she needs in it do you know i mean do you find it
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weird that like a lot of girls well speaking again this is a very general statement but a lot of
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girls in that kind of respect will look at idols and and mimic what they look like but a lot of
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guys will look at their idols and mimic what they act like and do that's facts right but we focus more
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on respect and i think with women sometimes can be more of an attention visual because how many people
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have cardi b as their role model just how many jlo yeah you see exactly rolling exactly 53 hot
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but then if you ask a guy who their role model is it's like samuel jackson or something
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i was trying to think of one good feminine role model in the media today yeah like that's in mainstream
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i'm like i can't care of pearson is that jlo she's a role model for me she's a like she does like
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youtube videos and that okay but she's not like anywhere near as big as someone like beyonce or
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uh do you want to pull up the instagram you thought you escaped yeah
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oh no no no no okay what are we thinking that's the that's that's the podcast number one pick i love
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that so therefore she gets a point because she was on my podcast oh this picture here
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this is interesting grounds you know what's really important the captions yeah we're not
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i even see the caption can we can we pull up that caption again i need to see you on the train what
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she said you see that picture another adventure that one that picture would make a bisexual straight
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again is that a polluted coming in on your stuff you're sick you know all right all right she's cool
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let me see what she say uh get a smile what type of message would you guys send as an opener to her
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uh it'll be it'll be you know with me i'm not trying to give too much away but it'll be usually
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be story related something related to whatever you're posting that right now what adventure do
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you want to go on next because i mean if if you posted like back in july last year like you went
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somewhere and then you don't really want to talk about that right now but if you're in dubai right
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now or you're somewhere you can talk about that maybe you know but going through her page i normally
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the pictures are uh are given but i like i like to look at their statuses as well what they're
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captioning the things you know what i mean yeah the single eyes do light up because it's one of those
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one pages where you're like okay you see enough in the pictures to be like okay if i was to message
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this person like i said before when the guy's messages like will she respond she might she might
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depending on what you say right so what your instagram gives off you have to come up with like really
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astute and you have to be really on your stuff with yours yeah it's fun girl not fun girl but
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without meeting her like what type of person would you have thought she was before probably seen in
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the nightclubs out there and stuff i've seen you out i haven't bullet yeah what are you in the night
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clubs or no i used to a lot when i was younger but now it's more events like bars stuff like that i
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don't really go out to the clubs too too much certified nine so yeah cocktail bars two for one
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do any of the guys want to volunteer their instagrams yeah go on the night ranks let's do it man
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what is the most like wild message you've ever sent to a girl
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what the ones where you have to send a message and put your phone down and look away
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like a wild first message oh first message first message oh no i don't need to know
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probably like a uh probably you know i think if if she's abroad you get a little bit more confidence in
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it so when you're gonna quit playing and just move to london you know what i mean like one of those
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kind of ones yeah sometimes i would do funny ones that are only funny to me like i can see you that's
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it's dumb right but it's a good thing yeah yeah yeah yeah if you tried that on me that would not work
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i'd be like is this a mistake like is this an error but but but look you responded
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that's all we needed we needed a door to be open and from there you can figure out um i'm only kidding
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blah blah you can find it but like you see that it worked right there i can see you
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they're the best way to slide and i think oh yeah yeah yeah you know what's funny i've never dm'd
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no i didn't i didn't know it was a thing i didn't know it was a thing
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and then i just kind of react and then the vibe of it what's your back signal what you like a couple
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pictures you like the story so if i like your pictures more than one okay you know what it
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means then he knows what time if you don't he or she let's not go fully gay yet and then we and then
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we kind of then obviously if you get a private message or something like that then i kind of
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react to that whether it's a female or a male but a female is very different where i'm very it's very
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different with a female because i'm kind of more romantic tax i'm i'm a face-to-face person anyway
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i'm old school like pretend social media didn't didn't didn't exist so with a female would be
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like let's let's go catch a bite let's go to a cocktail bar and i think as time go on i'm kind
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of the same thing with guys it's not just a thing where i just want to talk anyone can be anyone on
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social media or on the phone i want to feel your vibe by the way you talk the way you hold yourself
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as a person your body language and and that's it because that's what wows me and that's what gets here
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and if you've got me here yeah so girl or female you've got me you obviously know like when uh what
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kind of girls or guys to that you need to take on a date and you know which which ones you can just
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bring back like what guys are different though guys as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock
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