She SHAMES Him for his Preferences and GOT DESTROYED @whatever
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In this episode of the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel, I react to a clip in which a woman asks a 33 year old man why he would be dating a 19 year old. What's wrong with dating a woman who is over the legal age of consent?
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what up guys welcome to the just pearly things youtube channel today i am going to be reacting
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33 why would you be dating a 19 year old what's wrong with oh
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oh wow this is very loud what's wrong with that i mean you're what do you have in common with a
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19 year old that just graduated high school what what do i have in common with a 33 year old
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litigation attorney i don't know i don't maybe you guys could talk about movies in the 80s or
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something but like but i feel like 19 she's not even old enough she says red flag for you to take
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her to a bar though like i guess i don't really drink like that though i don't really i mean let's
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say it's an event or something well so i don't go to bars or clubs i'd rather masturbate with sandpaper
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i have something to add to what she said let me address the age thing then i'll have to address
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the body count thing so um this is another one that always comes up men are always shamed for
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their preferences men's preferences are always almost almost always met with contempt derision
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shame yeah and that's totally true look at why isn't she shamed for dating an older guy like why is
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he shamed for dating the younger guy like i think it's one thing if he's like a big player you know and
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whatever that's like a different story but it's like if she wants to date him and she's over the
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legal age of consent and he wants to date her what is the issue and then the other issue you get in
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it's like you'll have girls saying they were groomed at like 21 22 like 23 years old even 19 like that's
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old enough to know what you're doing so my issue is when these two people date they put all of the
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onus of responsibility on him like oh he's the bad guy if he wants to date a younger woman but there are
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shows called like cougar island where 40 year old women date 20 something year old men no one cares
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about that in one way or another nobody shames women for their preferences standards and boundaries
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but um so just to make something clear um most of women like i've dated yeah and is it predatory if a
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super beautiful woman goes after an ugly rich guy is that predatory you know because she's abusing her
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looks and beauty a couple years i'd say are between the age of 25 and 34 in fact i dated a 45 year old
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uh no younger than 25 um i might have gone on a date with a girl who's 21 at one point but mostly
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i'm dating around my age like 20 mid to late 20s to early 30s but well you girls what is your
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perspective on like age gaps what do you what do you guys think because i feel like a lot of women
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they prefer like guys that are older right i think it depends i prefer guys that are older i don't
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think there's anything wrong with that well let me look and it also depends on the type of guy like if
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he's a good dude and he's 33 and he wants to marry you and start a family with you like what's wrong
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with that if they want the same things that so do you guys think that guys your age are immature
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our age are your age you think they're immature for the most part yeah so how can you simultaneously
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hold that position but also shame me for wanting to date someone younger if you want to date i assume
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you're more attracted to men who are older because they're more mature maybe they're more attractive
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maybe they have their shit together maybe they're more willing to commit to you whereas these i mean
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i don't want to speak for all the men who are younger but they're for the street streets i'm
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kidding i'm kidding guys no but i did want to add to what she said what if you like already fell in
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love with the girl and like we're in a committed relationship and she lied about it and then you
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found out later would you break up with her also at what point are you asking her what's your body
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count at what point am i asking are you going on the first date and you're like no i'm usually not
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overt i'm not overt about that sort of questioning so i wouldn't be like how many men have you slept
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with i'm i mean it could somehow come up organically for you know on the topic of that but i mean i'd
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honestly try to suss it out in other ways i'd probably ask like have you ever ever done any swinging
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i think threesomes can kind of be a good indicator more than threesomes foursomes can kind of
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be an indicator of promiscuity i feel like a lot of people would lie about that yeah the other
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thing is yeah and that's the thing like guys will never actually know you know girls can lie but the
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thing is if you've done enough guys can smell it on you they're not stupid and you know some girls do
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get away with it but it's like how long how long can they really get away with it before you know
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parts of your past come back to bite you in the ass you know especially nowadays everyone's got a
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smartphone shit gets around be careful if you do even if you are overtly asking there's no guarantee
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that they're going to tell you the truth so i mean age can kind of be an indicator like you know
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if they're a bit older i mean you can start making some assumptions um that's not a guarantee though
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i think you can there's there's like some ways you can kind of suss it out you can ask her about her
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relationship history has she had just no long-term relationships and she's 30 she's probably for the
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streets not gonna lie um no offense but if you're 30 and you haven't had any any long-term relationships
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but you've been casually dating bro that's got to be above 100 probably 100 i'm gonna say
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what if she had what's that what if she has a lot of hobbies what do you mean a lot of hobbies
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like she keeps herself busy and you know doesn't sleep around like that there's outliers there's
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outliers sure but that's the thing like women we always look for exceptions to the rule and this is
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coming with a girl i got a lot of hobbies i sing i play volleyball i do youtube but am i am i the
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exception do most women my age that i know really have hobbies like that no their hobby is brunch and
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mimosas that's their hobby it's like but how are you gonna determine that like an outlier from
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somebody who's not it's tough it's tough out here i mean there there's a certain kind of does she party
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a lot does she go to bars a lot does she drink a lot you know so these are kind of other things to
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kind of suck yeah because guys the way that men see it it's like okay if you walk like a hoe you look
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like a hoe and you smell like a hoe how are they supposed to know you're not a hoe so if every
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weekend you're in the bars and you're drinking and you're going out and you're partying like is that
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typically where people find long-term fulfilling happy relationships clubs bars now no are there
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exceptions sure but a guy is just gonna assume if that's the lifestyle you're living like at some
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point you got drunk and did something stupid at some point you made a choice you probably regret
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like men they're not they're not dumb guys so i know this is santa barbara is a very uh pretty
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much everyone here is an alcoholic so not at the panel but people fucking drink heavy as fucking santa
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barbara everyone's at you know so especially ucsb sbcc very heavy party schools so i'm probably not
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making any fans by saying i'm not a big drinker i don't i don't party i don't go to bars i don't go to
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clubs but um yeah i think uh someone who's if they frequently partake you know i will say the
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bigger i get on youtube the more happy i am that really drinking has not been a big part of my 20s
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um yeah just just so you know i get happier every day i made that choice life it can be an indicator
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that they're a bit more promiscuous it's not a guarantee but if you're getting fucking tanked
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three nights a week i can start making some assumptions i could be wrong but uh but he's
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not gonna take the time to find out like guys guys don't have time to be fbi investigators to
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figure out how many guys you slept with like what exactly you did if your lifestyle looks a certain
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way they're gonna assume you are a certain way so yeah there's there's definitely some ways to tell
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you're giving me the death stare over there jesus put on her i'm just listening and analyzing
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but uh so okay i addressed body count a little bit but as far as the age goes um i mean so you
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would take quarrel with like a 30 year old dating a 20 year old i mean i feel like it depends on the
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situation if somehow miraculously they were to have a lot in common and there was some depth to
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the relationship i guess it wouldn't be a big deal um do men really care if you i feel like that's a
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female point of view like i feel like women want to have stuff in common with the guys but like the
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things that men typically want from women is like cooking you know motherly instinct like stuff that
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like really i guess it's a bonus but king do you guys care do you care that much no he's shaking his
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head like i feel like that's like a woman's point of view like men don't really care i don't know i feel
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like there's a fine line between where it's predatory and where it's not so it's it's hard to say
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there's and this is the thing it's only predatory based on how she feels if she feels like it was
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predatory then it was predatory so if the relationship doesn't work out and i've had girls
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on my show they're in a relationship with a guy with two three years and then suddenly it's predatory
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a lot of things that it depends on i mean i reject i reject that entirely any this idea of it
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being predatory i absolutely can i add something to it reject it um i think i agree with her that
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it depends but i think it depends on the power play if somebody is a 20 year old girl let's say
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powerful has her career has her things together let's talk about celebrities kylie jenner her
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boyfriend five six years older than her i think in that situation is not as predatory because they
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have a lot in common she has her career together wait so you're saying wasn't she underage i don't
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female logic just does not make sense so girl underage not predatory over okay the the power
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that she has from being this business mogul a five to six year age gap is predatory how old is she how
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old is kylie well yes compare that to a 32 year old man going to a college party picking up a college
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girl who doesn't well i don't recommend that and doesn't have anything in common with her i'm not
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in fucking del playa trying to i'm not saying you no no i'm not trolling i'm not i didn't say it was
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you but i'm just saying in general it's different because in that case it seems like he's just looking
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for a girl who's you know younger doesn't have money he can manipulate he can gaslight you know all
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those things but again i think it depends on the circumstances um and what they have in common
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so like if you would date a youtuber that's maybe 21 and you know you have a lot in common i wouldn't
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think that's creepy but again if you date a college girl who's 19 so you think if if i were to date a
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19 year old college girl that would be creepy personally yes okay why why is it articulate why
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well it's just imagine let me ask you let me i want you can answer that but
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is the reverse also creepy so there's this concept of cougars so absolutely so you think
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so is the reverse do you take quarrel with the reverse with the this if you want to put it the
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exact same ages again are you going to shame cougars i think are you cougar shaming how dare you
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how dare you cougar shame i'm standing up for the cougars cougars go after those college boys get them
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again i think it depends on the stage of life they're in if you're somebody who's
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in their 30s a woman with a full-time career a job why are you dating a boy that has to do
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homework till 10 p.m you know or has to go to the library to study for his finals it's kind of a
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little weird you know but again if it's a 20 year old who has his job you know is a can we just make
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it an age thing like why are you inputting all these factors would that stand up in the court of law
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was he of age or not of age was she of age or not of age it's like as women we go through all of
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these loopholes to just like make things make sense that don't make any sense now it's like based on
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what job he has huh there's nothing wrong with that just depends on what stages of life they're in
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well i mean first off i would say heaven forbid a man find a woman who is at her peak physical
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attractiveness attractive um so and i think i was more physically attractive when i was younger so
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there's that uh i mean there's also when you're younger you've had fewer sexual partners and we
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just talked about it i mean most men whether you like it or not value sexual purity in a woman now
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don't get me wrong i know some 19 year old girls that have been fucking run through they've hooked
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up with like 100 men and i'm not even exaggerating chris knows her she's not not in the chris doesn't
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know her in the biblical sense but he knows who i'm talking about and she's been with 100 guys but
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it happens to be the case that someone who's younger has had fewer sexual partners men
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find that attract an attractive quality in women you know guys our life would be so much easier if
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we just accepted reality okay i could i could be mad i'm 26 i could be mad maybe guys 26 would prefer
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to date a girl 22 or you could just date guys 10 to 15 years older you could just play the game like
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why don't we just play the game why do we have to be mad like what the game is just play even
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okay if you're a 40 year old woman okay you could whine that the 40 year old men aren't into you or
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you could date the 50 something year olds now you might whine and be like oh well i don't want the
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50 something year olds well that's the game i don't know what to tell you it's like we think that whining
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about the rules is going to change them it just is what it is take it take it for what it is
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i feel like that's a big reason why like you know you see older guys you know there's a certain point
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where the girl starts getting older that you know she gets hit on a lot less by you know by guys
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because i feel like they're the focus on younger the focus is on younger girls i feel like i mean i
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noticed this when i was a freaking in college like it was like the freshmen would come in and all the
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guys were like this is like fresh me i mean you know now it just is what it is it just is what it
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is it's like because they want to find you know someone who's not who's less promiscuous yeah okay
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um i really question why again as women guys we just need to accept reality for what it is it is
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what it is uh men prefer younger women because they have fertility and youth and historically um you know
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men would prefer women that were virgins because then they would know that the kid was theirs and not
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someone else's and we could argue with reality all day or we could just accept it and i think that we
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should move more towards accepting reality so let me know what you guys think like the video on your
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