JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


Male Only Fans Model Makes Himself Look Stupid


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In this episode, we discuss the controversial topic of whether or not single moms should choose a husband with a criminal past. We also discuss the difference between a single mom and a criminal and a single dad and how that impacts the chances of finding a good husband.

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00:00:00.000 I understand it logically and practically, but what I don't like is the reference to risk, riskiness, this term, because life is a risk, you marry a woman down the aisle and you say, yeah, I do, mate, if you think you are risk free from her cheating on you, you're crazy, everything's a risk.
00:00:21.940 Okay, everything's a risk, but okay, you have a daughter, right? No, like imagine, right? Are you going to tell her to date a guy with a criminal past? Like, that's the best option.
00:00:33.840 Yeah, but come on, you are going to compare a criminal to someone who's just a single mom?
00:00:39.120 No, okay, I'm going to, just wait, wait, okay, are you going to tell her to? Yes or no?
00:00:44.120 My daughter?
00:00:44.440 Yeah.
00:00:44.980 No.
00:00:45.740 Why?
00:00:46.100 Because if he was a criminal, he's likely to commit a crime on you, potentially.
00:00:52.620 Okay, okay, so if she left the first guy, she's what, more likely to what?
00:01:00.120 Leave you?
00:01:01.380 Right.
00:01:02.140 I don't agree with that logic.
00:01:03.380 Why?
00:01:04.020 Why do you, it's interesting, because this happens a lot, it's like the male versus woman, it's like, but it's the same, the whole concept, it's not about criminal versus single mom,
00:01:13.340 it's that past actions dictate future actions, that's the whole point.
00:01:17.800 Yeah, but you had one relationship.
00:01:19.320 That's not true.
00:01:19.900 Do you know how many pastors I know that used to be gang bangers, drug dealers, and now they've given their life to Jesus Christ and they've changed.
00:01:25.560 Right.
00:01:25.740 Your pastors dictate your future.
00:01:27.760 Exceptions, exceptions, it's not the rule.
00:01:30.420 It's not, it's not the rule.
00:01:31.400 Most people don't change overnight, and they've done research on this.
00:01:34.900 Most people don't change.
00:01:35.880 All right, so let's go around the table here, yeah.
00:01:37.680 Are you the same man that you were when you were 16 that you are today?
00:01:41.600 Are you the same girl that you were when you were 16 that you are today?
00:01:44.600 Are you the same person that you were when you were 16 that you are today?
00:01:47.080 People change, of course, that's the evolution of life, that's the beauty of it.
00:01:50.020 You're relying on the change, though.
00:01:51.780 What Pearl is saying is we've got past evidence of a decision, and that decision could directly impact the decision that you're about to make to be in a unity with that woman.
00:01:59.780 But that's assuming she's at fault for this split.
00:02:03.920 But there's no assuming, though.
00:02:05.100 She's using data that she has to look at the future. 1.00
00:02:08.980 It's not saying that Pearl is definitely right on every woman.
00:02:11.800 That's not what she's saying.
00:02:13.040 She's just saying, on average.
00:02:15.200 She's now categorising all these women into that one box. 1.00
00:02:18.240 Not all women are like that. 1.00
00:02:18.900 No, and we all know that.
00:02:20.280 Not all women are like that. 1.00
00:02:21.240 Look at it this way.
00:02:21.920 If a woman has a child for a man, and that guy chooses not to be in the child's life, is that the woman's fault?
00:02:26.440 So she's been written off.
00:02:27.480 Yes, yes, yes.
00:02:28.780 Yes, because it's who you picked.
00:02:32.260 Yeah, but do you...
00:02:32.760 Every circumstance...
00:02:33.580 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:02:34.240 This is the thing with girls. 1.00
00:02:37.660 It's like you blame everyone else for your circumstances.
00:02:41.500 You know what?
00:02:42.140 I've been cheated on, right?
00:02:43.460 And it was my own fault because I picked him.
00:02:46.280 Yes.
00:02:46.900 Okay, but no, wait.
00:02:47.920 No, you can't sit down.
00:02:49.060 No, you can't.
00:02:50.480 No, you can't.
00:02:51.000 No, wait.
00:02:51.700 You can say that.
00:02:53.120 You can say that, but no.
00:02:54.760 Wait, wait, wait.
00:02:55.840 Because taking accountability means taking accountability for the...
00:02:59.600 No, no.
00:02:59.860 Wait, wait, wait. 1.00
00:03:00.940 Jesus Christ, shut up. 1.00
00:03:02.820 It's like, wait. 0.99
00:03:04.380 It's like because taking accountability means that the situation you're in is your own fault
00:03:09.580 and not blaming the world for your poor choices.
00:03:12.560 And I'm sorry if you're in the position of being a single mother, you've poorly chose 0.99
00:03:17.400 at some point.
00:03:18.680 Maybe it was the guy you...
00:03:19.860 Wait, maybe it was the guy you picked that was the poor choice.
00:03:23.740 Maybe it was how you acted in the relationship that was the poor choice.
00:03:27.460 Maybe...
00:03:27.860 I don't know what the poor choice was, but you can't say I am in this situation.
00:03:32.220 I had nothing to do with it.
00:03:33.540 I have a question.
00:03:34.080 No, no, no, no.
00:03:34.720 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:03:35.300 Wait, wait.
00:03:35.880 Please, please, please.
00:03:36.600 This will answer the question.
00:03:37.660 I have a question.
00:03:38.140 If a child is molested by a relative, is it his fault?
00:03:44.360 If a child is molested...
00:03:45.560 If a child is molested by a relative...
00:03:46.880 But like, why do you...
00:03:47.660 Okay, wait, wait, wait.
00:03:48.420 Let me answer.
00:03:49.840 Okay.
00:03:50.320 So, this is the thing.
00:03:51.280 You always go to an extreme scenario.
00:03:53.900 No, I don't think the molestation is the child's fault.
00:03:56.580 But actually, I do think there's some accountability on the parents about who you let around your kids.
00:04:01.060 I do believe that.
00:04:02.340 Okay.
00:04:02.940 Because we just said that we are byproducts and everything that happens to us is our fault.
00:04:06.820 Okay.
00:04:07.100 So, I'll just give you an example.
00:04:08.520 Fine, I'll make an edit.
00:04:09.520 I'll make an edit.
00:04:10.160 As an adult.
00:04:11.320 As an adult.
00:04:12.000 It's not your fault as the kid if you're born into a bad situation.
00:04:15.840 It's not your fault as a child.
00:04:16.940 But as an adult, your circumstances are your own fault.
00:04:19.100 So, in relationships, do we not get many heads up?
00:04:22.220 Do we not say little things that we choose?
00:04:24.300 Like I said about when a woman has certain assets that I'm impressed by, but other things that are major flaws and I ignore them. 1.00
00:04:31.740 And later on down the line, I realize that ain't going away.
00:04:35.000 I have to actually address that.
00:04:36.040 Do we not get heads ups way down, like earlier on in the scenario that we could have listened to, but that we don't act on?
00:04:42.980 No, because some people are great at being deceptive and being conniving.
00:04:47.220 And then to place the responsibility and the onus on the woman. 0.98
00:04:50.040 You're talking though about like expert conniving men who are almost like Robert De Niro level actors.
00:04:59.420 Like regular people generally will show you their flaws. 1.00
00:05:02.880 If you live with them, like I've said, live with a girl for three months, you'll find out who the fuck she is. 1.00
00:05:06.580 Straight away. 1.00
00:05:07.100 Boom.
00:05:07.300 Do you think, do you think it's not the guy's or do you think it's also not a guy's fault if he repeatedly lets women use him for his money?
00:05:15.540 It's not his fault that she, she just, yes. 0.99
00:05:18.180 Your fucking rights, it was my fault. 0.99
00:05:19.520 Of course it's his fault. 1.00
00:05:20.400 It's depending on the guy.
00:05:21.220 Okay, right, right, right.
00:05:22.060 Exactly.
00:05:22.260 Right, so why, like when it's the man, you say it's his fault, of course.
00:05:25.740 But when it's the woman, you say, oh no, it's not the woman's fault.
00:05:28.480 Do you know why?
00:05:28.940 Because, listen, listen, because you're basing your experiences on data.
00:05:32.580 I'm basing it on real life.
00:05:34.160 I've seen what my mom's going through.
00:05:35.380 So for me to sit here and say that I'm going to encourage another man to not take a step, I can't do it.
00:05:40.760 I can't do it.
00:05:41.260 I won't do it.
00:05:42.080 Sorry.
00:05:42.260 But you're using one example.
00:05:43.560 She's using a million.
00:05:44.040 I can only go off what I've lived on, surely.
00:05:46.020 But when you're confronted with more evidence.
00:05:48.340 And I've interviewed hundreds of women. 0.91
00:05:49.520 Like hundreds.
00:05:49.960 And they all say that.
00:05:53.240 Which part?
00:05:55.080 I just don't see how a woman with a kid is less valuable than a woman without a kid.
00:05:59.680 Exactly.
00:06:00.320 It doesn't make any sense.
00:06:01.640 It even sounds so wrong to say.
00:06:03.380 What makes, okay, what is value?
00:06:06.020 What makes someone value?
00:06:08.160 How they treat you.
00:06:09.020 How they treat you.
00:06:09.580 No, no, no, no, no.
00:06:10.280 But in the dating market, how do you define like who's valuable?
00:06:14.800 It depends what value means to you.
00:06:16.820 That's what I'm saying.
00:06:17.200 Okay, okay, okay.
00:06:17.760 If a product is worth a lot, how do you determine that it's worth a lot?
00:06:22.880 That there are what?
00:06:24.720 Exclusive.
00:06:25.220 Multiple people who want to have that.
00:06:26.220 There are multiple people that want to buy it.
00:06:28.880 Right?
00:06:29.940 So there are good buyers.
00:06:32.600 All right?
00:06:33.700 There's a reason used Playstations are cheaper than new ones.
00:06:36.660 Just saying.
00:06:37.360 No, that is not my analogy for women. 1.00
00:06:40.000 Just to be absolutely clear.
00:06:41.000 Don't get me on that one.
00:06:41.540 I mean, you can use car high mileage.
00:06:43.920 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:44.420 No, but so it's like, single mothers have less buyers. 1.00
00:06:49.940 And I think it's disingenuous to say anything else.
00:06:53.400 That's why we view men who do that as heroes. 0.99
00:06:55.640 Because you're like, you're a fucking good guy. 0.98
00:06:57.100 Fair play to you. 0.99
00:06:57.800 Because most men wouldn't do that.
00:06:59.700 There's a saying, any guy can be a dad, but it takes a real man to be a father.
00:07:02.740 And that's one million percent.
00:07:04.380 That's why we rave them who do that, because they're not common. 0.96
00:07:06.980 I would suck emotion that.
00:07:08.780 This is another trend I always notice. 0.99
00:07:11.820 Like, it's always about, like, the men.
00:07:13.360 They're not real men unless they do something that benefits women. 0.97
00:07:16.560 Yeah.
00:07:16.960 No, I'm serious.
00:07:17.640 No, no, no.
00:07:19.560 That's not what we're saying.
00:07:20.760 I don't have kids, so I can't experience it.
00:07:21.980 But what I can say is, relating back to the conversation we had earlier about guys selling women a dream,
00:07:34.020 how does a woman know, you know, like, he's sold her this big dream, now she's had kids with him.
00:07:39.620 Actions.
00:07:40.100 And what if his actions are aligned?
00:07:42.300 And now, you know, he's deceived her.
00:07:44.080 Like, she's seen his true colours, and he's not where she is.
00:07:46.800 I honestly think that is a...
00:07:48.740 How can she choose that?
00:07:49.080 I think that that's a story that women tell, and I think it's dishonest most of the time. 1.00
00:07:53.900 There are exceptions, all right?
00:07:55.660 So please don't say not every woman, like, I know, I know.
00:07:58.620 But I think most of the time, your brother could have told you there was a red flag, your father, your friends.
00:08:05.040 I think there's been people all along the way that said, not a good idea. 0.99
00:08:09.040 I've had my sister on the phone describe a fucking guy to me, and I've been like, fuck boy, stay away, immediately, leave him. 0.99
00:08:14.380 And the women don't listen, and then later play the victim and say, oh, he was the worst, he did all this stuff. 1.00
00:08:21.860 But it's like, okay, everybody told you, and you didn't listen, and now you're going to be the victim, when really you just, again, it's your own fault, because you made that decision.
00:08:32.360 I don't think the majority of the time men just sell women a dream.
00:08:35.340 I think they don't, women don't listen. 1.00
00:08:37.020 But what if she's got pregnant with him, like, really quick?
00:08:39.140 Um, okay, well, then why weren't you on birth control?
00:08:42.820 I possibly don't.
00:08:43.800 Not you, not you, but I'm saying to her, right?
00:08:47.140 Because women, there's no excuse for being a single mother in 2023 when abortion is legal, and there are 40 forms of birth control. 0.97
00:08:54.760 I'm sorry, you can get, you can get, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, I'll let you go, I'll let you go.
00:08:59.940 But I'm sorry, there's condoms, you can require the men that you sleep with wear condoms.
00:09:03.620 Oh, if that doesn't work, you can get the, yeah, the thing in your arm, you can get, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, you can get an IUD, wait, wait, wait, wait, Jesus.
00:09:12.640 It's like, so first, first you can, you can require the men that you sleep with wear condoms.
00:09:17.600 Then you can, you can do the IUD, birth control, the thing in your arm.
00:09:21.320 There's like a million forms of birth control that you can use.
00:09:24.340 Then on top of that, there's plan B in 2023.
00:09:27.000 There's also abstinence, which nobody talks about as an option nowadays, like not having sex.
00:09:31.920 That's also an option.
00:09:33.400 And then on top of that, you, you have abortion. 0.98
00:09:35.860 That's legal.
00:09:36.720 So, and then if you don't want to do that, there's adoption.
00:09:39.980 So, and the men get no choices in this.
00:09:42.420 So when, when you have sex with, and you also can track when you're ovulating, there's a natural way to do it.
00:09:46.840 You only can ovulate like three to five days a month.
00:09:48.860 So when it's like, it just happened, it's like you were being irresponsible on some level because you know, when you're ovulating that when, when a man and a woman have sex, the woman is the only one that has all of the information.
00:09:59.340 Wait, three days?
00:10:00.380 What?
00:10:00.740 Three days?
00:10:01.300 Yeah.
00:10:01.680 It's only like three to five days roughly.
00:10:03.260 Yeah.
00:10:03.400 Yeah.
00:10:03.980 You can, you can track when you're ovulating when you're fertile.
00:10:06.780 So when a man and a woman have sex, there's only one person in this scenario that has all the information because the woman knows if she's on birth control.
00:10:16.280 The woman knows if she's ovulating, the woman knows if she's going to take the plan B and the woman knows if she'll get an abortion. 1.00
00:10:22.200 The man only knows what she tells him, which could be a lie and, and, and she knows if he's wearing a condom or not.
00:10:30.540 And I just don't believe the whole, Oh, I didn't know he took it off.
00:10:33.240 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, thank you.
00:10:37.380 Okay.
00:10:38.020 And so the man, the man, he doesn't have all the information.
00:10:41.580 The woman does. 0.89
00:10:42.120 And so therefore the woman has more responsibility because she has more power in that situation. 1.00
00:10:47.360 I'm going to let you go.
00:10:48.440 What have you changed now?
00:10:49.740 Okay.
00:10:50.040 Wait, I'm going to let her go first.
00:10:51.240 No, I was going to say like with the whole contraception, my thing is a woman can only get pregnant once a year.
00:10:56.640 A man can go forth and multiply different occasions in a year. 0.52
00:10:59.580 So why is it for a woman to be on contraception? 1.00
00:11:01.680 Why?
00:11:01.840 I'm just saying in general, why are women's the ones taking contraception? 1.00
00:11:05.680 Why can't it be the man that's on contraception?
00:11:07.420 But it takes two to tangle.
00:11:08.640 No, I know that.
00:11:09.960 But it's a woman's choice at the end of the day. 0.99
00:11:12.220 And what Paul was trying to explain as well, like obviously you lot could be on contraception,
00:11:17.320 but it's your choice to have a child with someone that you don't fully believe that you have a full on future.
00:11:22.760 But in the same time, you're in a long, long relationship, right?
00:11:26.500 And you decided to have a kid together, but the things are not working out after the baby came.
00:11:30.840 But then my question is, why don't you get married first?
00:11:34.280 But, okay, so even the men should mention one or comment.
00:11:37.240 But if you do get married, and then.
00:11:39.400 How does that change anything?
00:11:41.280 How does it change?
00:11:41.860 If you're married.
00:11:42.240 No, but that's what I was going to say.
00:11:43.080 It doesn't change anything.
00:11:43.520 If I get married.
00:11:44.620 He will still leave you.
00:11:45.320 And I have a child.
00:11:46.340 And he still decides that he wants.
00:11:47.900 Statistically, he's stuck.
00:11:49.160 I'm telling you.
00:11:49.600 Oh, she's using date.
00:11:50.820 And he still wants to leave me.
00:11:52.280 Don't play with date, you know.
00:11:53.640 No, but if you are married.
00:11:56.400 And that is the situation.
00:11:58.220 And the person still decides to leave you.
00:12:01.260 Do you have a college degree?
00:12:03.620 Do you have a college degree?
00:12:05.300 Yes.
00:12:05.580 Okay, so if you get married, there's a 10% chance he'll leave.
00:12:08.560 There's a 90% chance you'll leave.
00:12:10.880 So, like, why don't we talk about the women first before we talk about.
00:12:13.660 Wait, say that.
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