JustPearlyThings - May 01, 2023


Men Logically Break Down Cheating To Women


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Length

8 minutes

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183.24368

Word count

1,601

Sentence count

13

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Misogyny

15

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Toxicity

12

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13

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In this episode, the guys discuss cheating and the double standard when it comes to cheating amongst men and women. They discuss what cheating is, how cheating is done and how cheating should be dealt with in the dating world.

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00:00:00.000 Have you ever been cheated on and have you ever cheated?
00:00:04.960 Yes, I've been cheated on and
00:00:07.540 I never cheat. You never cheat. How did you find out he cheated?
00:00:13.480 Painful
00:00:15.680 Well, I find out I
00:00:18.520 Don't know it's just like sometimes
00:00:21.540 God loves me too much and they just show me little things. You're right. God God
00:00:30.000 And I knew he was cheating because I think men when they are cheating they they are way
00:00:40.200 They feel guilty and then try to make it up to you
00:00:44.280 So he was he was like buying you stuff and treating you well
00:00:48.820 Okay, and so then how do you get evidence or well? I just I'm not a person that go into someone's phone
00:00:56.400 Okay, so far. Yeah, but it just it just happened
00:01:00.220 For me to see okay, you saw like a message and I saw a message and then from there obviously I checked and yeah
00:01:06.680 And then like what it was him like messaging yeah over or something
00:01:11.460 No, it was more I can't really say it because it's a bit inappropriate
00:01:17.000 So it was like some sexual stuff. Okay. I feel like we got to qualify the question
00:01:22.000 What do you mean by cheating as in going the whole way or?
00:01:25.140 Mmm, what's cheating is such a loose that's a good that's a good question when I think of cheating. I think of like stuff
00:01:32.400 That's like sexual, you know, I would say kissing someone else is cheating
00:01:36.600 Yeah, but unless you're in like an arrange it's not cheating if you guys agree to the you know
00:01:41.420 What if it's like a just a flirty text message? Yeah, like text messages
00:01:46.100 Instagram that you replied to something
00:01:48.100 But from there it's starting right premeditated
00:01:50.620 Not necessarily
00:01:51.120 Not necessarily
00:01:51.960 Because for me there's also emotional cheating like if you invest your most emotional energy in someone else
00:01:56.520 That's also cheating because I could be with a guy and then I'm investing my emotional energy into another guy
00:02:01.220 You're still cheating. I think I think that emotional cheating. That's a that's a woman thing. I think, you know 1.00
00:02:05.720 Like just you don't really care as a man, isn't it? See men men when it comes to men men cheat for different reasons
00:02:11.240 From when women cheat you understand what I mean 1.00
00:02:13.400 Yeah, that's why when women cheat people say that it hurts more. It hurts the man more, you know, I mean, because men 0.95
00:02:20.340 It's like our penises kind of talk for us 0.98
00:02:24.220 Like our penises are the ones that are making the decision certain times, you know, and once you've bust that nut and 0.99
00:02:31.220 You're like you snap back to normal 0.99
00:02:33.220 You can go about the love of her
00:02:35.220 I still love her though
00:02:36.220 Yeah, yeah, you bust that nut, you're like, oh, what am I doing here?
00:02:39.220 Yeah, you come to your senses
00:02:41.220 You come to your senses, no pun intended
00:02:43.220 So that's why you're saying man do it, just to go bust there, and then after they come to me
00:02:47.220 There's a double standard for sure 0.96
00:02:49.220 Guys can have sex with our emotions 0.85
00:02:51.220 But with females, they 1.00
00:02:53.220 It's different, they need emotions 0.90
00:02:55.220 Men can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel less than a woman sending a flirty text message 0.83
00:03:01.220 Like we can be more upset over them sending a text message than us having full-blown sex with a woman 0.83
00:03:07.220 My mum broke it down from a practical standpoint, right? This is genius
00:03:10.220 If you let someone into your home, that's slightly more personal than you going into someone's home
00:03:15.220 And women from a practical standpoint, they are allowing you access to their insides 1.00
00:03:21.220 You're just visiting, you can visit a hundred houses in a day
00:03:24.220 Not that I recommend you do that
00:03:26.220 But I don't condone it, I don't suggest you do it
00:03:36.220 That's it
00:03:37.220 I'm trying to, there's some study, I'm trying to find it that like backs up what you guys are saying
00:03:42.220 Where they asked like married men that cheated if they still loved their wives
00:03:45.220 And it was like 85% or 80% roughly still said they did
00:03:49.220 I mean, it's not like they don't love them anymore
00:03:53.220 It's like maybe they want to try something different
00:03:55.220 It's true
00:03:56.220 Bro, so true
00:03:58.220 Have you guys cheated? Have you guys cheated?
00:03:59.220 Honestly
00:04:00.220 Yeah, I've been a serial cheater man
00:04:02.220 Come on, any man says I haven't cheated they will lie
00:04:05.220 But Paul, Paul
00:04:06.220 Not every guy can cheat
00:04:08.220 That's true, but Paul
00:04:10.220 On the subject that you just said of married men
00:04:12.220 I remember being in the lift, I went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the lift
00:04:16.220 And we seen an older guy, he must have been around about, say about 65 years old
00:04:20.220 And he was like, oh lads, you gonna enjoy, like have a good night tonight
00:04:23.220 We was like, yeah
00:04:24.220 Then he was like, yeah, I'm on a prom looking for a woman tonight
00:04:27.220 And we were like, okay
00:04:28.220 He was like, I'm married by the way, but I'm bored
00:04:31.220 He was like, she don't do nothing for me
00:04:33.220 But I love my wife
00:04:34.220 A friend of mine once said, behind every grey looking woman is a man sick of shagna 0.58
00:04:38.220 And I'm sorry to like, I know women don't want to hear that 0.82
00:04:42.220 But like, and it's not all true
00:04:44.220 Like, obviously there's exceptions, there's good guys out there
00:04:46.220 But I do feel like, men, we are programmed to want to multiply
00:04:52.220 That is like, it's not a choice
00:04:53.220 We wake up every morning with a full sack and we're ready to go
00:04:56.220 And unfortunately for women, if you're not there 1.00
00:04:59.220 Like, that's why women unfortunately have to be on their A-game 1.00
00:05:03.220 It's not fair, but it's just the way it is
00:05:05.220 I beg to differ on that one
00:05:07.220 For the simple fact of, you can be that woman, or that man
00:05:13.220 Absolutely
00:05:14.220 And you could be everything that he dreams of
00:05:16.220 I agree
00:05:17.220 And yet still, somehow, some way, I can be submissive
00:05:22.220 I can give it to you as and when you want it, multiple times out of the day
00:05:27.220 But the truth is, if you want to go out and do that, you're going to do it
00:05:32.220 That works both ways though
00:05:33.220 No, and I was going to get to that point
00:05:35.220 Sorry
00:05:36.220 You know, to me, it's like, I've always looked at cheating
00:05:41.220 I've been on the receiving end of that
00:05:43.220 And I've been there multiple times
00:05:47.220 Now, it does two things
00:05:49.220 It makes you look inside yourself and think
00:05:51.220 Okay, have I done something in order to not satisfy him?
00:05:57.220 What drove him to look at me, but you're telling me that you love me
00:06:02.220 You care for me
00:06:03.220 Oh, you know, you're my world
00:06:05.220 Okay, show me that I'm your world
00:06:07.220 But then you still show me that
00:06:09.220 But then you still feel, alright, I'm going to go out and demand him
00:06:12.220 Yeah, different area cold, they ain't going to know
00:06:15.220 No, it's not about that
00:06:17.220 Do you understand what I'm saying?
00:06:18.220 And it's the same with women as well 0.77
00:06:19.220 Women, I believe, if you feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating 1.00
00:06:25.220 Why are you still in that relationship?
00:06:27.220 Why haven't you sat down and had that A and B conversation?
00:06:31.220 Okay, well I could flip it on you and say
00:06:33.220 Why did you choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then?
00:06:35.220 Okay, no, no, no
00:06:36.220 No disrespect
00:06:37.220 No, no, no, and that's a fair question 1.00
00:06:39.220 Because there are good guys out there
00:06:40.220 No, no, no, and that is a very fair question
00:06:42.220 But you just said every man cheats
00:06:44.220 No, I said every man has the urge in them 1.00
00:06:46.220 They're programmed to want to fuck every day 1.00
00:06:48.220 That's, well, generally 1.00
00:06:49.220 I'll answer because women in general like men that cheat
00:06:54.220 It's true, it's true
00:06:56.220 I mean, from an average
00:06:58.220 No, I don't like that
00:07:00.220 No, I don't like that
00:07:02.220 I wish my ex-girlfriend was like you
00:07:06.220 No, no, no, I'm not
00:07:08.220 I'm not, I'm not proud of this
00:07:10.220 Like it's not like a good thing that makes women look good 1.00
00:07:12.220 But look at who women pick 1.00
00:07:13.220 Like two women have always reproduced for every one man 1.00
00:07:16.220 And while there have been, there have been monogamous
00:07:18.220 Like throughout the last two million years
00:07:20.220 There have been monogamous societies
00:07:22.220 And the majority like of the population has been monogamous
00:07:25.220 But the top 15% of men have never been monogamous ever
00:07:30.220 And now what's the difference today?
00:07:32.220 Women now are completely in control of sex 1.00
00:07:34.220 Which has never happened in all of history, right?
00:07:36.220 And what has happened since we've gotten in control of sex?
00:07:39.220 We have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men
00:07:42.220 So what does that mean?
00:07:43.220 We could have the monogamous guys, but none of us pick them
00:07:45.220 So, and we don't when we have the most youth and the most beauty
00:07:49.220 Because usually like we do go into monogamous relationships
00:07:52.220 But we do it in our 30s
00:07:54.220 Because the average age of first marriage is in 31
00:07:56.220 So that means we're non-monogamous in our 20s
00:07:58.220 I have a question for them
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