She Tried Cornering Him With This Question
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why women are picky, what it means to be picky and what we should look for in a woman. We also talk about some of the turn offs for women and how to deal with them.
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i've noticed in london the girls aren't as picky about money well except her but
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i get a lot more 40 50 thousands like here than i do when i like i was doing podcasts in miami
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like here i don't know why it's a lot lower here because i think because of the percentage there's
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not that many men like you said that are making too many pro keys
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it's not a higher percentage i don't know what the difference is i could
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look it up maybe but it's it's similar in the us it's still only five ten percent of men that make
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so we're not that picky then are we i mean as well i i think if women weren't picky then
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like we wouldn't be single because there's always a guy there's always a guy that wants to date you
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yeah yeah miami does seem to be particularly like money focused though not that london isn't in
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certain pockets but there's also a lot of more regular people in london who maybe they're
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you know they're not as bothered what do you look for troy what do i look for are you picky
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extreme well no no it's kind of an open it's extremely open it's it's an open door policy
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basically um i mean look as a guy i mean what do i look for obviously i look for somebody that i'm
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attracted to you know somebody who i think is aesthetically nice you know um but equally it's
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about is she pleasant you know is she cool to hang around with i think that's really what it
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comes down to it's like you said before i'm not i'm not bothered about what she makes i'm not
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bothered about her job i'm not bothered about really any of those things but is she somebody
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that i can chill with and she's just going to be pleasant and it's not going to be you know hard
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work basically it's a pretty low bar really but that's that's kind of what it is you know i mean
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but but there has got to be that initial attraction to be fair um so yeah i would say that really
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you know i don't think guys have a huge shopping list of things that they're looking for really
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right so can i ask why you're single then if your standards are not that high just haven't met the
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right woman yet then if yours if your standards are low but you're single that means you're somewhat
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picky i am so no i am somewhat picky and um i was no of course i'm somewhat picky because no i was
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joking before i'm somewhat picky because like i mean look i'm i'm at an age now i mean when i was in
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my 20s you know running around like a lunatic and you know whatever these days i i'm slightly
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less motivated by that you know what i mean so if i get to spend time with somebody they've got to
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have certain you know they've got to have a certain quality about them you know and that and for me the
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most important thing really is pleasantness and also do we vibe you know that's that's important as
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well it's not like she has to be super intellectual or she has to know about certain things that i'm
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interested in but if we vibe do we have a good chemistry you know that's that's the important thing
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that's what i'm looking for um but i'm single for other reasons i mean i was in a relationship for
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a couple of years um i came out of that a couple of years ago i just haven't really wanted to really
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get serious with anybody do you know what i mean and also the nature of my job i'm traveling quite
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a lot and stuff like that so you know it's a number of reasons really what are what are some turn-offs
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for you well a friend of mine um james tusk uh who's a who's also a dating coach uh he's got a
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youtube channel he was telling me about this uh he went on a date with an american woman in uh
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it was in uh tulum i think in mexico and he went on a date with this american woman she was like from
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new york bit of a ball breaker you know whatever and they played the question game so he's got this
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like thing where say right i'm gonna ask you a question you'd be completely honest answer the
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question then you get to ask me a question and you get to know each other like that so he's doing
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this question game with the girl her first question was what did you make last year
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so he was just like in the bar and and he was just like all right isn't that rude yeah no completely
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no completely but so he was like well all right this date's over and then he just walked out and
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left her to it really yeah so that would be a massive turnoff for me that kind of ball breakery
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sort of very and it's very transactional as well isn't it do you know what i mean like really really
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trans even if that is a obviously yeah you know you want to have a certain life maybe in the back of
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your mind but to come out with it like that i mean that so that that sort of behavior it's almost
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like entitlement absolutely she feels entitled to your money yeah completely and and look i mean
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i'm sure british women would do that as well this is an american woman from one of the big cities it's
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just that whole thing it's not very feminine and it's it's not very attractive you know what are some
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other masculine things that you see women do often oh geez um i mean i think it's not even so much
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masculine things it's sort of like turning up late it's being disrespectful it's like being on
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their phone during the day you know anything like that it's just like look this is this is game over
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do you know what i mean like there's got to be an element of sort of give and take in that well you
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laughing is that what you do no like on the date i'm sorry i'm on tinder sorry um yeah so just just
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general sort of bad behavior and i'm not saying like oh you know she's she's got to you know live up
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to this strict code or something but it's a bit like come on you know um and just being difficult
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as well not allowing the thing to flow easily because we're both here we're both trying to
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communicate see if we can get on whatever so just you know just just just be chill you know
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um what do you guys look for um i feel like i look for someone who um will provide me with
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emotional support um someone who's supportive someone who does work i mean i don't want to be
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someone who hasn't got a job and has no money you know um yeah someone who's just respectful
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has money um you don't have to be the richest guy in the world for me personally as long as you've
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got some sort of income coming in that can support himself and me once in a while you know it doesn't
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have to be a thing where he's taking care of me because you know i do make my own money but it's
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just always good to have a man that who has his own money and he can take care of the both of you
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as well so yeah that's what i look for and someone who's not shorter than me yeah how tall are you
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i'm five foot five five five so five six is good no at least five seven yeah five seven yeah okay good
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um i'm not gonna say what i look for because i already have a boyfriend what made your boyfriend
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different you could say that he ticks all the boxes you know he's ambitious he's intellectual
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he's successful he looks after me um you can tell she's happy she's got like that happy
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um he puts me first what i want i get um he just makes me feel special and that's what i think a
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man's supposed to make you do i don't feel like you should settle i feel like everybody has someone
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out there for them um and that's what i believe because i found mine so i think everyone else
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you think you think everyone has someone out there for them absolutely i feel like you know
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absolutely i definitely i gotta say this i feel like a lot of people would say my list is very
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very very very picky but i found mine he's got fear in so i can't go wrong i gotta i gotta say that
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how can everyone have someone out there for them when there's more women than men
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um some of them are incarcerated right now so you got y'all gotta wait
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no no don't do that even if you just look at the population there's 55 women 45 men what are the
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five percent of women what are we doing i feel like some women then choose to just settle for
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anything some women don't want men some women don't want men yeah some women don't want men and
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um when you take out the percentage that don't want men and don't wanna but then there's there's
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also guys that don't want girls right yeah so you gotta there's it's on both ends you know
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yeah yeah i feel like it just depends um but i definitely feel like this if if you're on here
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and if you're on this earth there's definitely someone for you and i don't feel like anyone should
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sell definitely not i don't agree with that yours is to come so what if what if what if you think you
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deserve someone that's six five makes two hundred fifty thousand dollars a year um yeah let me tell
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you how my god works my god works your god my god he might not give you 250 but he might give you 200
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and baby you're gonna settle if that's what you want like there's different attributes when it comes
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yeah but he might not be you might want like 250 in regards to money and he might have
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the best personality so you know it's gonna accommodate the 50k less than what he initially
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owes but what you initially wanted you know so it works so then you do have to settle in some way
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don't you think yeah but it just depends on how it just depends how much you settle yeah how much
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yeah yeah i don't agree in selling less no it's not too much yeah why don't why don't as women always
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talk about we can't settle instead of maybe we should bring more no i bring to the table that's
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why i could have such i'm not talking about you i'm just talking about women in general like because
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i always hear like and again i do these panels so much so we always like i always hear that we can't
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settle but we never talk about like bringing more to the table for men no so like getting in better
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shape you know learning how to cook learning how to clean like offer i do all of that that's why i
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feel like i'm allowed no but me personally that's why i feel like i'm allowed to have such high
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requirements because i play my part why do you play yours as many of you know i was just banned on tick
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