JustPearlyThings - She Tried Cornering Him With This Question

00:00:00.000 i've noticed in london the girls aren't as picky about money well except her but 1.00

00:00:04.640 i get a lot more 40 50 thousands like here than i do when i like i was doing podcasts in miami

00:00:13.680 like here i don't know why it's a lot lower here because i think because of the percentage there's

00:00:18.800 not that many men like you said that are making too many pro keys

00:00:22.020 it's not a higher percentage i don't know what the difference is i could

00:00:29.940 look it up maybe but it's it's similar in the us it's still only five ten percent of men that make

00:00:34.760 over six figures that's interesting

00:00:38.500 so we're not that picky then are we i mean as well i i think if women weren't picky then 1.00

00:00:47.640 like we wouldn't be single because there's always a guy there's always a guy that wants to date you

00:00:53.540 yeah yeah miami does seem to be particularly like money focused though not that london isn't in

00:00:58.900 certain pockets but there's also a lot of more regular people in london who maybe they're

00:01:02.620 you know they're not as bothered what do you look for troy what do i look for are you picky

00:01:08.720 extreme well no no it's kind of an open it's extremely open it's it's an open door policy

00:01:15.660 basically um i mean look as a guy i mean what do i look for obviously i look for somebody that i'm

00:01:21.680 attracted to you know somebody who i think is aesthetically nice you know um but equally it's

00:01:28.420 about is she pleasant you know is she cool to hang around with i think that's really what it

00:01:31.900 comes down to it's like you said before i'm not i'm not bothered about what she makes i'm not

00:01:36.480 bothered about her job i'm not bothered about really any of those things but is she somebody

00:01:41.260 that i can chill with and she's just going to be pleasant and it's not going to be you know hard

00:01:45.860 work basically it's a pretty low bar really but that's that's kind of what it is you know i mean

00:01:50.840 but but there has got to be that initial attraction to be fair um so yeah i would say that really

00:01:56.920 you know i don't think guys have a huge shopping list of things that they're looking for really

00:02:01.740 right so can i ask why you're single then if your standards are not that high just haven't met the

00:02:06.780 right woman yet then if yours if your standards are low but you're single that means you're somewhat

00:02:12.920 picky i am so no i am somewhat picky and um i was no of course i'm somewhat picky because no i was

00:02:20.380 joking before i'm somewhat picky because like i mean look i'm i'm at an age now i mean when i was in

00:02:24.940 my 20s you know running around like a lunatic and you know whatever these days i i'm slightly

00:02:32.240 less motivated by that you know what i mean so if i get to spend time with somebody they've got to

00:02:35.580 have certain you know they've got to have a certain quality about them you know and that and for me the

00:02:39.280 most important thing really is pleasantness and also do we vibe you know that's that's important as

00:02:43.140 well it's not like she has to be super intellectual or she has to know about certain things that i'm

00:02:47.600 interested in but if we vibe do we have a good chemistry you know that's that's the important thing

00:02:51.940 that's what i'm looking for um but i'm single for other reasons i mean i was in a relationship for

00:02:56.780 a couple of years um i came out of that a couple of years ago i just haven't really wanted to really

00:03:02.200 get serious with anybody do you know what i mean and also the nature of my job i'm traveling quite

00:03:05.580 a lot and stuff like that so you know it's a number of reasons really what are what are some turn-offs

00:03:09.420 for you well a friend of mine um james tusk uh who's a who's also a dating coach uh he's got a

00:03:17.640 youtube channel he was telling me about this uh he went on a date with an american woman in uh

00:03:22.000 it was in uh tulum i think in mexico and he went on a date with this american woman she was like from

00:03:26.720 new york bit of a ball breaker you know whatever and they played the question game so he's got this

00:03:30.480 like thing where say right i'm gonna ask you a question you'd be completely honest answer the

00:03:35.120 question then you get to ask me a question and you get to know each other like that so he's doing

00:03:38.380 this question game with the girl her first question was what did you make last year

00:03:42.380 so he was just like in the bar and and he was just like all right isn't that rude yeah no completely

00:03:49.180 no completely but so he was like well all right this date's over and then he just walked out and

00:03:53.960 left her to it really yeah so that would be a massive turnoff for me that kind of ball breakery

00:03:59.920 sort of very and it's very transactional as well isn't it do you know what i mean like really really

00:04:04.420 trans even if that is a obviously yeah you know you want to have a certain life maybe in the back of 1.00

00:04:08.500 your mind but to come out with it like that i mean that so that that sort of behavior it's almost

00:04:12.100 like entitlement absolutely she feels entitled to your money yeah completely and and look i mean

00:04:17.760 i'm sure british women would do that as well this is an american woman from one of the big cities it's 1.00

00:04:22.320 just that whole thing it's not very feminine and it's it's not very attractive you know what are some

00:04:27.240 other masculine things that you see women do often oh geez um i mean i think it's not even so much

00:04:37.360 masculine things it's sort of like turning up late it's being disrespectful it's like being on

00:04:42.440 their phone during the day you know anything like that it's just like look this is this is game over

00:04:47.800 do you know what i mean like there's got to be an element of sort of give and take in that well you

00:04:52.360 laughing is that what you do no like on the date i'm sorry i'm on tinder sorry um yeah so just just

00:04:59.560 general sort of bad behavior and i'm not saying like oh you know she's she's got to you know live up

00:05:04.600 to this strict code or something but it's a bit like come on you know um and just being difficult

00:05:08.920 as well not allowing the thing to flow easily because we're both here we're both trying to

00:05:12.500 communicate see if we can get on whatever so just you know just just just be chill you know

00:05:16.740 um what do you guys look for um i feel like i look for someone who um will provide me with

00:05:24.340 emotional support um someone who's supportive someone who does work i mean i don't want to be

00:05:29.620 someone who hasn't got a job and has no money you know um yeah someone who's just respectful

00:05:34.300 has money um you don't have to be the richest guy in the world for me personally as long as you've

00:05:40.300 got some sort of income coming in that can support himself and me once in a while you know it doesn't

00:05:45.780 have to be a thing where he's taking care of me because you know i do make my own money but it's

00:05:49.860 just always good to have a man that who has his own money and he can take care of the both of you

00:05:54.040 as well so yeah that's what i look for and someone who's not shorter than me yeah how tall are you

00:06:01.180 i'm five foot five five five so five six is good no at least five seven yeah five seven yeah okay good

00:06:09.120 um i'm not gonna say what i look for because i already have a boyfriend what made your boyfriend

00:06:14.160 different you could say that he ticks all the boxes you know he's ambitious he's intellectual

00:06:19.880 he's successful he looks after me um you can tell she's happy she's got like that happy

00:06:28.340 um he puts me first what i want i get um he just makes me feel special and that's what i think a

00:06:37.280 man's supposed to make you do i don't feel like you should settle i feel like everybody has someone

00:06:41.800 out there for them um and that's what i believe because i found mine so i think everyone else

00:06:48.520 you think you think everyone has someone out there for them absolutely i feel like you know

00:06:53.320 absolutely i definitely i gotta say this i feel like a lot of people would say my list is very

00:06:58.700 very very very picky but i found mine he's got fear in so i can't go wrong i gotta i gotta say that

00:07:05.160 how can everyone have someone out there for them when there's more women than men 1.00

00:07:09.100 um some of them are incarcerated right now so you got y'all gotta wait

00:07:13.420 no no don't do that even if you just look at the population there's 55 women 45 men what are the

00:07:21.540 five percent of women what are we doing i feel like some women then choose to just settle for 1.00

00:07:25.420 anything some women don't want men some women don't want men yeah some women don't want men and 1.00

00:07:33.280 um when you take out the percentage that don't want men and don't wanna but then there's there's

00:07:38.800 also guys that don't want girls right yeah so you gotta there's it's on both ends you know

00:07:42.880 yeah yeah i feel like it just depends um but i definitely feel like this if if you're on here

00:07:50.640 and if you're on this earth there's definitely someone for you and i don't feel like anyone should

00:07:54.800 sell definitely not i don't agree with that yours is to come so what if what if what if you think you

00:08:01.200 deserve someone that's six five makes two hundred fifty thousand dollars a year um yeah let me tell

00:08:09.280 you how my god works my god works your god my god he might not give you 250 but he might give you 200

00:08:17.520 and baby you're gonna settle if that's what you want like there's different attributes when it comes

00:08:25.280 yeah but he might not be you might want like 250 in regards to money and he might have

00:08:30.960 the best personality so you know it's gonna accommodate the 50k less than what he initially

00:08:37.600 owes but what you initially wanted you know so it works so then you do have to settle in some way

00:08:44.880 don't you think yeah but it just depends on how it just depends how much you settle yeah how much

00:08:49.120 yeah yeah i don't agree in selling less no it's not too much yeah why don't why don't as women always 1.00

00:08:55.680 talk about we can't settle instead of maybe we should bring more no i bring to the table that's

00:09:00.400 why i could have such i'm not talking about you i'm just talking about women in general like because 0.96

00:09:04.720 i always hear like and again i do these panels so much so we always like i always hear that we can't

00:09:09.200 settle but we never talk about like bringing more to the table for men no so like getting in better

00:09:13.920 shape you know learning how to cook learning how to clean like offer i do all of that that's why i

00:09:18.800 feel like i'm allowed no but me personally that's why i feel like i'm allowed to have such high

00:09:23.920 requirements because i play my part why do you play yours as many of you know i was just banned on tick

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JustPearlyThings - May 27, 2023

She Tried Cornering Him With This Question

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