JustPearlyThings - She Tried Defending Body Positivity And Got Silenced

00:00:00.000 Is there anything wrong with a little plus-sized girl? 1.00

00:00:02.600 Yeah, because what about the people that actually can't lose weight?

00:00:08.120 That's not a thing.

00:00:08.940 But what about people that actually, but they mentally can't, 0.85

00:00:11.840 so for the rest of their life they're going to be that same size?

00:00:13.860 That's not a thing.

00:00:14.060 They need some empowerment because otherwise they could, you know,

00:00:17.100 commit suicide or something.

00:00:18.160 Do you go to a basketball game and look to see, like an NBA game?

00:00:23.660 What do you guys have?

00:00:24.360 It's football, right?

00:00:25.180 Football here.

00:00:25.800 You go to a football game here and you try to see average football players?

00:00:30.020 Average.

00:00:30.380 Like below average football players play football here when you go to a

00:00:33.940 professional game.

00:00:34.880 Do we see them?

00:00:35.500 No, do you go there to see that?

00:00:37.160 Oh, well, no.

00:00:38.600 So then why on the cover of magazines,

00:00:40.340 which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty,

00:00:42.060 do we have below average women on it? 1.00

00:00:43.860 Right.

00:00:45.140 Like why?

00:00:45.820 Like why is that?

00:00:46.740 Why do we need that?

00:00:48.320 I feel ashamed that I don't like it.

00:00:50.120 I don't want to see it.

00:00:50.920 I think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to,

00:00:54.120 because, you know,

00:00:54.640 if you want to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up,

00:00:56.960 they don't want people to come out of obesity.

00:00:59.920 Right.

00:01:00.160 So they're going to make it look like it's okay.

00:01:02.220 They don't want you to.

00:01:03.220 So why wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of magazines? 0.99

00:01:05.980 I'm not saying like.

00:01:06.540 Because they don't want that.

00:01:07.420 Yeah.

00:01:07.840 Yeah.

00:01:08.040 But you said we need that earlier.

00:01:09.780 No,

00:01:10.060 but I was saying that for the people that don't actually fit,

00:01:13.300 I think in my head,

00:01:14.200 I'm thinking for the people that actually,

00:01:15.660 because a person that actually cannot overcome obesity and for the rest of

00:01:20.200 their life to the age of 60,

00:01:21.300 70,

00:01:21.640 they're still going to be overweight.

00:01:23.620 Those people are probably feeling,

00:01:25.060 yes,

00:01:25.340 like they're,

00:01:25.640 they're feeling okay.

00:01:26.580 They're empowered.

00:01:27.680 That's not a thing.

00:01:28.880 Would you rather be empowered than commit suicide?

00:01:30.980 Because people think,

00:01:31.880 look at you,

00:01:32.620 you're fat. 0.72

00:01:33.420 But when you're eat,

00:01:34.340 when you're overeating,

00:01:35.320 you're slowly committing suicide. 0.71

00:01:36.540 Exactly.

00:01:37.120 My mother did it.

00:01:38.180 Wow.

00:01:38.900 She died.

00:01:40.000 Wow.

00:01:40.500 I was five months old.

00:01:41.360 Her cause of death was severe obesity.

00:01:42.700 And then when my daughter started getting the weight,

00:01:44.900 I was freaking out.

00:01:46.140 Right.

00:01:46.760 And so that's why we're on a mission.

00:01:48.680 Yeah.

00:01:48.860 But don't you think there's a certain level though?

00:01:50.500 Obviously there's obesity and there's,

00:01:52.560 because I feel like the modeling world has always promoted unhealthy,

00:01:57.260 unhealthiness.

00:01:57.880 If that makes sense.

00:01:58.420 Even the slim women, 0.98

00:01:59.560 slim women would like six and like very small. 1.00

00:02:02.620 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:02:03.200 That would,

00:02:03.600 it looked like they weren't eating at certain times.

00:02:04.940 I don't think so.

00:02:04.960 If you look at,

00:02:05.440 I always hear that,

00:02:06.580 but I like,

00:02:07.140 I look at Marilyn Monroe.

00:02:08.440 She was healthy.

00:02:09.040 Yeah,

00:02:09.160 but they don't talk about one person though.

00:02:10.360 There's a lot of,

00:02:11.080 a lot of women in the modeling world. 0.88

00:02:12.700 It was very slim and they wouldn't eat or they wouldn't do something just to

00:02:15.900 fit in a certain category.

00:02:17.100 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:02:17.720 I mean,

00:02:18.000 there was some,

00:02:18.780 but I just,

00:02:19.460 maybe for like early two thousands.

00:02:21.500 But I think if you look at the last like a hundred years,

00:02:23.720 I think most women on the covers were just objectively beautiful. 1.00

00:02:27.800 What's the average weight you would say?

00:02:30.240 Let's see.

00:02:31.200 I don't know off the top of my head.

00:02:32.620 I mean,

00:02:32.740 as a Ford model,

00:02:33.980 the girls who were in straight size modeling,

00:02:36.140 they were size four.

00:02:37.100 And that's because the samples are made in a size four.

00:02:40.640 And so it's pretty skinny.

00:02:41.200 I don't know off four different from UK four.

00:02:42.780 Oh yeah.

00:02:43.240 It is a bit.

00:02:44.360 Yeah.

00:02:44.440 Like more like a two.

00:02:45.820 I think it'd be more like a two.

00:02:47.080 Two hair.

00:02:47.960 The average,

00:02:48.640 the average woman.

00:02:49.720 She's gone.

00:02:50.640 She's frissy. 1.00

00:02:51.120 Okay.

00:02:51.520 The average woman is five, 0.96

00:02:53.060 four.

00:02:53.620 I'm in America and I can do UK in a second.

00:02:55.800 Five,

00:02:56.300 four,

00:02:56.800 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds.

00:02:59.800 What's that in stone please?

00:03:01.980 Okay.

00:03:02.600 Okay.

00:03:02.900 Average stones.

00:03:08.220 I don't actually know.

00:03:13.460 But that's overweight.

00:03:15.620 I would say that that average that she just quoted would be over.

00:03:18.060 12 stone.

00:03:18.760 12,

00:03:18.960 12.14.

00:03:20.260 Okay.

00:03:20.860 Cause I would think that average is between eight to 12.

00:03:23.600 I think if you're in a good in shape,

00:03:25.480 12,

00:03:26.260 there's good in shape,

00:03:27.220 12 women.

00:03:28.780 Anything above that.

00:03:29.680 Then we're talking obesity.

00:03:31.220 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:03:32.500 I mean,

00:03:32.900 I think it's,

00:03:33.480 it's BMI.

00:03:34.920 To be honest,

00:03:35.520 sorry.

00:03:35.960 To be honest,

00:03:36.700 it depends.

00:03:37.320 I think like around 10 years ago,

00:03:40.120 it used to be way different.

00:03:43.480 I think now they kind of raised it,

00:03:45.700 you know?

00:03:46.080 Yeah.

00:03:46.520 Yeah.

00:03:46.780 I think I,

00:03:47.480 10 years ago I went,

00:03:49.220 I don't know why it was like 65 kilos.

00:03:51.120 I don't know what that is.

00:03:52.000 Sorry.

00:03:52.420 And in stones,

00:03:54.540 it must be like one 65 in,

00:03:56.520 um,

00:03:57.120 in America.

00:03:58.340 2.2 to one.

00:03:59.200 Yeah.

00:03:59.940 And they would already say,

00:04:01.360 oh,

00:04:01.440 you should try to lose weight,

00:04:03.180 you know,

00:04:03.440 for your height,

00:04:04.200 whatever.

00:04:04.900 Now,

00:04:05.420 if you look at that,

00:04:06.480 they're like,

00:04:06.880 yeah,

00:04:07.080 you're perfect.

00:04:07.700 You can be a model.

00:04:08.840 So it really changed in the last decade.

00:04:11.940 I would say really it did.

00:04:13.360 So it was about around 10 years ago,

00:04:15.240 was there plus size models?

00:04:16.760 Is that a new thing?

00:04:17.780 I'll be honest.

00:04:18.500 Not really.

00:04:19.420 There definitely were on America's Next Top Model.

00:04:21.880 I mean,

00:04:22.140 it wasn't that as common though,

00:04:23.500 but I definitely,

00:04:24.380 I,

00:04:24.480 I,

00:04:24.660 I used to watch Tyra Banks.

00:04:26.720 Anyone?

00:04:27.100 Yeah.

00:04:27.640 Anyone?

00:04:27.980 They weren't like this.

00:04:31.300 They weren't like the,

00:04:31.900 the,

00:04:32.340 the like super.

00:04:33.660 Yeah.

00:04:33.940 Yeah.

00:04:34.160 Like you see today,

00:04:34.900 they were just kind of like,

00:04:36.020 they're like tens.

00:04:37.040 Big boned.

00:04:38.100 Uh,

00:04:38.540 10 is not big.

00:04:41.540 No,

00:04:41.820 10 is not big at all.

00:04:42.480 12 is not big.

00:04:45.040 But this one I'm saying for the modeling world,

00:04:46.400 that's quite big.

00:04:47.020 Yeah.

00:04:47.480 But again,

00:04:47.940 it's like when you go to an NBA game,

00:04:49.500 I want to see good basketball players.

00:04:51.460 Like it's supposed to be the epitome of beauty.

00:04:53.960 Yeah.

00:04:54.040 But now we're rewarding average.

00:04:56.080 Like,

00:04:56.260 I don't want to see average chicks, 1.00

00:04:57.640 like faces on the cover of magazines.

00:04:59.500 I don't want to see average bodies.

00:05:01.380 I hear that.

00:05:01.980 But if she,

00:05:02.500 if she's a good,

00:05:03.440 I'm not saying plus plus,

00:05:04.540 but she's a good size 12 with good curves in that. 1.00

00:05:07.340 Men don't want to see that. 0.99

00:05:08.560 We don't really want to just see slim girls all the time. 1.00

00:05:10.560 I'll be honest.

00:05:10.900 I believe that.

00:05:11.520 I believe that some men like that.

00:05:13.240 I really do.

00:05:13.920 It's typically,

00:05:14.560 to be honest,

00:05:15.640 it's typically broke men.

00:05:17.000 Cause if you look at rich men,

00:05:18.200 yeah,

00:05:18.580 yeah.

00:05:19.120 If you look at like,

00:05:19.920 it's so cap,

00:05:20.760 like I'm just,

00:05:21.540 I don't like liars.

00:05:22.640 No offense.

00:05:23.260 But it's like,

00:05:24.280 like when you see rich men,

00:05:25.600 what do they have on their arms?

00:05:27.340 Slim women. 0.99

00:05:28.580 But the only reason why they have slim women is because the slim women are in the 1.00

00:05:32.300 higher echelons of places where the other women, 1.00

00:05:35.720 no,

00:05:35.900 not in beauty.

00:05:36.480 No,

00:05:36.620 let's not talk about beauty only.

00:05:37.880 I'm talking about venues,

00:05:39.520 certain venues,

00:05:40.260 certain places that they get to go to.

00:05:42.020 Certain women can't get to go there. 1.00

00:05:44.160 Okay.

00:05:44.480 You get what I'm saying?

00:05:45.380 Leonardo DiCaprio.

00:05:46.600 If he wanted a big chick, 0.90

00:05:48.160 he couldn't find one.

00:05:49.180 No,

00:05:49.280 he can find one.

00:05:50.120 But I'm saying in certain,

00:05:51.380 the plate,

00:05:51.840 the venue,

00:05:52.360 the events,

00:05:53.000 the events he goes to.

00:05:54.560 No,

00:05:55.000 half these guys get their chicks from Instagram.

00:05:56.240 Come on.

00:05:57.980 They can get any chick they want. 0.99

00:05:59.960 Yeah,

00:06:00.320 they can.

00:06:01.040 But do you think Leonardo just got in in bear girls DMs, 0.77

00:06:04.020 just hollering girls in the DMs? 0.89

00:06:05.500 No more.

00:06:05.800 I think if he wants it,

00:06:07.120 I think he'll pick,

00:06:08.800 like he hollered at that one chick,

00:06:11.180 the Hadid.

00:06:12.260 Who's that?

00:06:12.760 Oh,

00:06:12.960 yeah.

00:06:14.100 Gigi Hadid?

00:06:14.980 Gigi Hadid.

00:06:15.180 Oh,

00:06:15.640 Gigi.

00:06:16.380 The model,

00:06:16.760 yeah.

00:06:17.060 Gigi.

00:06:17.500 I don't know what I'm saying.

00:06:18.860 It's like,

00:06:19.200 if you look at the richest,

00:06:20.200 most successful men,

00:06:21.280 they typically have slim women.

00:06:22.800 I'm saying,

00:06:23.160 if you're looking at the richest parts of events and venues,

00:06:26.740 Mayfair,

00:06:27.480 whatever,

00:06:27.940 in America,

00:06:28.980 Manhattan,

00:06:29.400 whatever,

00:06:29.980 if you go to the upper echelons of places,

00:06:32.620 they've got to be,

00:06:33.100 you know what I'm saying?

00:06:33.820 Do you really think that the only reason they're with slim,

00:06:37.460 beautiful women is because of the events they go to? 1.00

00:06:39.840 No,

00:06:40.240 but I'm saying because of the environment,

00:06:42.020 I think that was because that is society's ideal of a beautiful woman.

00:06:47.380 That's why.

00:06:48.180 And so I feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there wasn't a selection of variety of different sizes.

00:06:53.820 But then why is it that all around the world,

00:06:56.180 they like young,

00:06:57.720 beautiful,

00:06:58.780 slim women everywhere, 1.00

00:07:00.040 even in different societies with completely different cultures,

00:07:03.280 please,

00:07:03.640 please do not bring up this one fringent tribe in Africa.

00:07:08.320 Everyone brings up,

00:07:09.200 but it's like there,

00:07:09.780 it's such a small percentage of the world.

00:07:12.500 Well,

00:07:12.760 Africa.

00:07:13.540 There's something,

00:07:14.220 no,

00:07:14.400 Africa is the biggest country in the world.

00:07:15.780 They bring up some tribe in Africa, 1.00

00:07:17.820 it's this,

00:07:18.280 that likes the fat women, 1.00

00:07:19.640 but it's a very,

00:07:20.300 very,

00:07:20.660 I've done this conversation.

00:07:21.680 But if you think,

00:07:22.420 I hear that,

00:07:23.040 but if you think about it,

00:07:23.820 it's the motherland.

00:07:26.280 Please don't go do disingenuous.

00:07:27.880 Please don't.

00:07:28.260 I'm not being,

00:07:28.800 but I'm,

00:07:29.700 me coming.

00:07:30.760 You know,

00:07:31.360 deep down,

00:07:32.060 you know that men like slim women in general. 1.00

00:07:34.500 I'm going to be honest.

00:07:35.380 I don't think they do.

00:07:36.200 I'm going to be honest.

00:07:37.220 I don't,

00:07:37.940 and I'm going to say this coming from being a black man.

00:07:42.040 Okay.

00:07:42.640 If I'm talking about being a black man and from a black perspective of,

00:07:46.620 I feel like majority of us men like thicker women. 1.00

00:07:49.780 Okay.

00:07:50.160 Well,

00:07:50.320 and even,

00:07:51.780 no,

00:07:51.920 no,

00:07:52.000 no,

00:07:52.180 but you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be around higher women that,

00:07:57.740 that certain women. 1.00

00:07:58.980 I'm from a 1% family.

00:08:00.740 My dad,

00:08:01.020 my dad,

00:08:01.480 my dad is a top 1% earner.

00:08:03.140 I grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood.

00:08:04.780 I'm telling you,

00:08:05.360 they do not put fat chicks on their arm.

00:08:07.220 I hear that.

00:08:07.680 In high class,

00:08:08.440 in high class society and celebrities want people with the option to not have a fat chick on their arm. 1.00

00:08:13.800 Do not.

00:08:14.540 All right.

00:08:14.840 But what,

00:08:15.320 even like I was having a conversation the other day with,

00:08:17.600 with a woman and she was a slim woman. 1.00

00:08:19.740 She's from America as well.

00:08:21.000 So American, 0.65

00:08:21.960 I think like Atlanta or whatever.

00:08:24.360 And she said when she was slim,

00:08:25.820 she was only getting approached by white men.

00:08:27.860 Okay.

00:08:28.340 She put,

00:08:28.600 she put on a lot of weight.

00:08:29.840 No,

00:08:29.980 not a lot of weight,

00:08:30.600 but she just takes,

00:08:31.400 got body,

00:08:31.920 whatever,

00:08:32.280 blah,

00:08:32.460 blah,

00:08:32.580 blah.

00:08:32.800 Now she's getting approached by a lot of black men,

00:08:35.180 which is what,

00:08:36.600 do you get what I'm saying?

00:08:37.100 But I'm saying,

00:08:38.080 if you,

00:08:38.380 if you look at it on,

00:08:39.300 on the Democrats thing,

00:08:40.640 which,

00:08:40.840 which was successful black men that we know are dating.

00:08:44.160 Are we only going to talk about successful men?

00:08:45.800 Yeah,

00:08:45.960 because those are the men with options.

00:08:47.340 Broke men don't have as many options as rich men. 1.00

00:08:49.280 They do not have as many options as rich men.

00:08:52.020 So if you look at the men with the most options to look,

00:08:54.220 okay,

00:08:54.440 so if we want to see what women want, 1.00

00:08:55.740 we got to look at the women with the most options. 1.00

00:08:57.520 Who do the most beautiful,

00:08:58.740 the youngest,

00:08:59.600 most fertile women pick? 1.00

00:09:01.220 If we want to look at men, 0.74

00:09:02.260 what do men like?

00:09:03.000 We have to look at the men with the most options.

00:09:04.580 Because it's not really fair to say,

00:09:05.740 oh,

00:09:06.180 I like fat chicks if I make, 1.00

00:09:07.640 you know,

00:09:08.240 $10 an hour at Taco Bell,

00:09:10.060 right?

00:09:10.300 Like you can't,

00:09:11.280 you don't get it.

00:09:12.120 No,

00:09:12.180 I hear that.

00:09:12.500 I hear that.

00:09:14.120 No,

00:09:14.660 I get that.

00:09:15.340 But obviously,

00:09:16.020 if you're going,

00:09:16.580 if you're talking about celebrities,

00:09:18.100 celebrities are guided to be.

00:09:19.880 but I didn't just say celebrities.

00:09:20.980 I also said I'm,

00:09:22.020 I'm from,

00:09:22.680 I'm,

00:09:22.940 my dad is in like,

00:09:24.420 he's a top 1% earner.

00:09:25.980 I grew up with 10 siblings in a 10 bedroom mansion in a community where many people made that amount of money.

00:09:31.720 Yeah.

00:09:31.900 So,

00:09:32.340 so I've been around a successful wealthy man and they don't put fat chicks.

00:09:36.440 Sometimes they,

00:09:37.140 they do get fat later,

00:09:38.640 but they don't appreciate that.

00:09:40.040 You know what I mean?

00:09:40.740 So,

00:09:41.060 yeah,

00:09:41.220 but I hear what you're saying,

00:09:42.540 but I'm saying the reason these men obviously going to go for similar because they're around.

00:09:47.360 That's what you being in the top 1% and being in,

00:09:49.840 in this neighborhood.

00:09:50.740 Okay.

00:09:51.380 It allows you to see different things.

00:09:53.040 You get me?

00:09:53.480 Like,

00:09:53.760 if you do,

00:09:54.740 no,

00:09:54.880 but if you do have money,

00:09:55.680 obviously if you do have money,

00:09:56.620 a lot of people with money are in the gym.

00:09:59.480 They do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things.

00:10:02.220 You get what I'm saying?

00:10:02.760 No,

00:10:02.880 they have less time.

00:10:03.940 I guarantee.

00:10:04.980 You think they have less time?

00:10:06.100 Rich people absolutely have less time.

00:10:08.040 Totally.

00:10:08.580 No,

00:10:08.780 I don't know about that.

00:10:09.580 Yeah.

JustPearlyThings - July 19, 2023

She Tried Defending Body Positivity And Got Silenced

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