JustPearlyThings - March 18, 2023


She tried taking accountability away from Women(this happened next..)


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Length

8 minutes

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215.24939

Word count

1,755

Sentence count

152

Harmful content

Misogyny

31

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Hate speech

24

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the role of Black women in society and how they have been sold a false narrative for decades. We also discuss the lack of Black men in the black family and how this could have been prevented.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I think it's great that we can now, in our liberated sense, and now that we have the knowledge and understand it, right, we can definitely look back, vision is 2020, right, and say we would do stuff different.
00:00:09.140 In that time, that was the narrative in the picture that was painted.
00:00:12.420 So is that what you're saying?
00:00:13.200 That is what I'm saying because that was—
00:00:14.560 Wait, I'm just—okay, I just want to—
00:00:15.720 Sorry.
00:00:16.000 You're saying the men weren't making enough money, so the women had to take the government assistance. 0.91
00:00:20.320 Yes.
00:00:20.860 So, but even—
00:00:21.880 What?
00:00:22.200 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:00:23.420 Oh, my God.
00:00:24.120 Wait, wait.
00:00:24.660 Sorry, go ahead.
00:00:25.100 So even then, they had a higher standard of living than most people did in all of human history.
00:00:31.220 So how is it an excuse when you're living better than most people did in all of human history?
00:00:36.240 Okay, so I'm speaking specifically for the black families, right?
00:00:39.360 And so back then, when men were living at home, they were not able to be employable, right? 0.64
00:00:46.280 And so they would leave—
00:00:47.380 Wait, why weren't they employable?
00:00:48.940 Because they—to her point, everything she said is 100% factual, right?
00:00:52.340 And if we knew that that was a narrative then, of course, we wouldn't have fallen for it, right?
00:00:56.080 But because they were trying to divide the black family, they would say,
00:00:59.600 men, to provide for your family or things like that, we don't want you to be there 0.85
00:01:02.800 because we know that you're a leader and the impact of that.
00:01:05.120 So how can we divide that?
00:01:06.720 We're not going to give you good qualifying jobs if you're in the home. 1.00
00:01:09.680 But then the woman, how can I provide and how can I do this if he's not in the home? 0.91
00:01:13.620 They would take the government.
00:01:14.880 We all know it's a scam now.
00:01:16.320 Absolutely.
00:01:17.240 But back in the day, that was the reality.
00:01:18.960 To get a good-paying job, to try to pay for your family, be employable, right?
00:01:23.400 You thought you had to not live in the household.
00:01:26.460 So you agree?
00:01:27.900 Yeah.
00:01:28.220 It wasn't that I wasn't agreeing.
00:01:29.980 I couldn't elaborate on it, right?
00:01:31.640 And everything she said was 100% factual, right?
00:01:34.520 But listen, if you agree, then why would they take that solution?
00:01:41.020 Because it's almost as if Cosmo created this fantasy, but the black women attached themselves 0.94
00:01:46.720 to that fantasy to overthrow the patriarchy.
00:01:49.680 We still do it today.
00:01:50.320 But black men were never a part of the patriarchy.
00:01:52.580 So what were you trying to be independent from?
00:01:55.340 Listen, I'm not saying it was right.
00:01:57.120 I can't go back then and speak to their mindset.
00:01:58.820 So then hold them accountable.
00:02:00.020 I agree with that.
00:02:00.760 I've always said we should hold women accountable this evening, right? 1.00
00:02:03.000 But today, we're still doing the same narrative, right?
00:02:04.980 We're still selling city girls and being out here and being flown out.
00:02:08.140 We're still selling it, and women are still buying it. 1.00
00:02:10.700 Yes, I have a question.
00:02:11.460 They're loving it.
00:02:11.760 Whose fault is it for buying it?
00:02:13.960 Exactly.
00:02:14.560 I would challenge one thing that you said when you say that if we all agree that there's 80%
00:02:20.700 of women that are out here running the streets, and then there's a 5% to 10% of men that are
00:02:26.180 taking advantage of that, I reject the idea that the focus should be on the small percentage
00:02:33.660 of men that are running the streets when we have an overabundance of women. 0.99
00:02:38.140 That are not acting accordingly.
00:02:41.040 I would say let's at least get that down to 5% to 10% of women are running the streets. 1.00
00:02:47.680 5% to 10% of men are running the streets, and then look at them equally.
00:02:51.480 But as long as we have the scale so tipped that women are allowing this, I say let's clean 1.00
00:02:58.320 our own house first before we point the finger.
00:03:00.460 Amen.
00:03:00.640 Amen.
00:03:01.140 That's why I said you come back to the 1% because we understand and we talk about it 1.00
00:03:05.960 all the time on the show.
00:03:08.120 Women make 80% of consumer buying decisions, right? 1.00
00:03:11.380 So that means you can sell anything to women.
00:03:14.180 Who are the people in power that know this?
00:03:16.460 Because I'm not in power and I know this.
00:03:18.320 So the people that are in power know this.
00:03:20.220 Everything is sold to women. 1.00
00:03:21.560 They sold them feminism. 1.00
00:03:22.760 Now they sell them city girls. 1.00
00:03:24.060 They can sell them, I don't know, they can sell them juice tomorrow.
00:03:26.560 I don't know, whatever it is.
00:03:28.000 Women can be sold stuff. 1.00
00:03:29.360 So like I said, the point of, I guess, my conclusion is that women are not supposed to 1.00
00:03:36.120 lead, right?
00:03:37.700 Men are supposed to lead the society. 0.99
00:03:39.380 And men are supposed to start selling things to men. 1.00
00:03:43.100 They won't get as much money, but they're going to have to start selling things to men, 1.00
00:03:47.100 which is why podcasts like this exist.
00:03:49.160 We know that podcasts like yours, Pearl, is not in the majority of podcasts and many people
00:03:53.820 don't listen to it.
00:03:54.480 You have a niche because your audience is probably mostly men.
00:03:58.420 Men don't buy like women buy. 1.00
00:04:00.140 They're not going to be the shade bar crew or whatever.
00:04:04.400 It's so easy to sell to women.
00:04:06.220 We need to stop selling to women and then, I'm getting deep. 1.00
00:04:11.120 I don't think that's the solution.
00:04:12.200 I might get deep, but I think we need to start separating ourselves from certain types of 0.98
00:04:15.680 people.
00:04:15.980 Okay, go ahead.
00:04:16.900 Right, the system, right?
00:04:18.480 No, certain types of people.
00:04:19.820 But listen, right?
00:04:20.780 Women are the problem. 1.00
00:04:21.600 I 100% agree with you, Maggie, right?
00:04:23.520 I wasn't saying don't focus on that 80% of women, but it's a balancing factor. 1.00
00:04:28.040 You can't just focus, that's extremity, right?
00:04:29.880 When you go to one side and you focus heavy, it ends up going back up.
00:04:33.620 We don't balance it out.
00:04:34.680 Why do we balance it when the problem is unbalanced?
00:04:37.380 Because, unfortunately...
00:04:38.560 Why would we balance it when women are causing most of the problems? 1.00
00:04:42.780 Because it's scientific, right?
00:04:44.000 And just nature, right?
00:04:45.020 When you're balancing things out...
00:04:46.220 It's scientific and it's...
00:04:47.480 I don't...
00:04:47.880 Okay, go ahead.
00:04:49.040 Go ahead.
00:04:49.360 The balancing beam, right?
00:04:50.400 If you go to one extremity, the other one's going to go up.
00:04:52.800 So just in approaching, we have to be careful to balance it out.
00:04:56.720 No, it's just how it works.
00:04:58.720 Guys, guys, guys, let her go ahead. 0.95
00:05:00.280 Go ahead.
00:05:00.480 That's just how it works naturally, right?
00:05:02.000 And honestly, how do we get here?
00:05:03.260 So I'm just not understanding what you're saying with the beam.
00:05:06.640 So how does us, like, talking about women, hey, women, we need to step it up. 0.98
00:05:11.580 And then the women will always come in and say, well, but don't forget about the men. 0.97
00:05:15.440 And we're like, hey, you know what?
00:05:17.240 We can deal with that when we get the women, because this is a way bigger problem than the men. 1.00
00:05:22.460 Why is that an issue?
00:05:24.400 Like, how does that make the problem bigger?
00:05:26.400 I agree.
00:05:29.000 We should definitely focus on the women. 1.00
00:05:31.080 They need to take accountability.
00:05:32.420 I'm not.
00:05:32.900 No, I know.
00:05:33.760 But I'm saying, what about that makes the problem bigger?
00:05:35.560 When we get hyper-focused on that and we solely focus on that, it causes a chain reaction of the opposite to then happen.
00:05:41.840 It may be a good reaction.
00:05:43.120 That's just, it's a chain reaction.
00:05:44.600 That's how do we get there.
00:05:45.680 We started focusing on, like, men having all the rights.
00:05:48.520 How does it make a chain reaction?
00:05:50.240 So I'm just, I want to, because this is very broad.
00:05:52.940 And a lot of times, like, as women, we say things that are so broad that they don't, like, mean anything.
00:05:57.860 And so if I'm saying, hey, women, step it up. 1.00
00:06:01.260 Let's do better.
00:06:02.160 Okay.
00:06:02.540 This is a problem.
00:06:03.480 That's a problem.
00:06:04.120 That's a problem.
00:06:04.720 That's a problem.
00:06:05.300 That's a problem.
00:06:05.720 We could say, okay, the men have this one problem.
00:06:07.440 We have five.
00:06:08.240 Why don't we tackle one, two, three, four.
00:06:09.960 Exactly.
00:06:11.200 How does that make problem over here bigger?
00:06:13.900 So if we have a balancing beam, they have one, we have five.
00:06:17.320 Right.
00:06:17.560 Right.
00:06:18.060 And so we're trying to take, are we taking five away from here just to get it to one
00:06:21.240 and one so it can be balanced?
00:06:22.900 I mean, maybe.
00:06:23.440 Or are we trying to just take one and, like, five away and then it goes over here?
00:06:27.000 Right.
00:06:27.200 But technically.
00:06:28.100 Right.
00:06:28.300 So then it would be.
00:06:29.640 Some female word salad. 0.65
00:06:31.080 That's what I'm saying.
00:06:31.660 Word salad.
00:06:32.200 Even if we use the balancing beam, right, and, like, then this would be heavier than the
00:06:36.580 men's problem. 1.00
00:06:37.140 The only way to balance it out is to focus on the heavier problem first.
00:06:39.960 Exactly.
00:06:40.540 And I would.
00:06:40.920 Even with this analogy, like, that doesn't.
00:06:42.920 I would argue.
00:06:44.160 I think that's feelings based.
00:06:45.080 We might be surprised that what we want the men to change may actually self-correct if
00:06:51.720 women started acting differently. 1.00
00:06:54.080 Men are going to holler.
00:06:55.480 Men are going to try. 1.00
00:06:56.540 Men are going to shoot their shot. 0.96
00:06:57.920 But if we don't allow someone to have access without being worthy of it, then they'll either
00:07:04.680 go to someone that will allow it.
00:07:06.420 But if the next girl says, you know what? 0.95
00:07:08.220 No, these are my standards.
00:07:09.560 They'll go on to the next person.
00:07:10.820 And if the next girl says, these are my standards, men will change their approach based on the 1.00
00:07:17.180 results that they get.
00:07:18.620 But we keep giving it away so easily.
00:07:20.980 There's no incentive for a man to change.
00:07:23.620 So I would argue we focus on the 80 percent.
00:07:26.740 Let's get our house in order.
00:07:28.720 And we may look up and see.
00:07:29.920 There's always going to be that small amount of people who are going to try and, you know,
00:07:34.440 get whatever they can for free.
00:07:36.320 But I think men would definitely step up.
00:07:39.000 I think we should give them more credit.
00:07:41.180 Maggie, you're a quiet storm tonight.
00:07:43.120 You are a quiet storm.
00:07:44.720 I told you.
00:07:45.560 I told you.
00:07:46.180 I'm going to read Super Chats for a second.
00:07:47.780 Okay.
00:07:48.400 Maggie, you are a natural born YouTuber.
00:07:50.120 You guys should check out her channel as I've said.
00:07:52.540 Thank you.
00:07:53.280 Okay, guys.
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