She tried taking accountability away from Women(this happened next..)
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the role of Black women in society and how they have been sold a false narrative for decades. We also discuss the lack of Black men in the black family and how this could have been prevented.
Transcript
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I think it's great that we can now, in our liberated sense, and now that we have the knowledge and understand it, right, we can definitely look back, vision is 2020, right, and say we would do stuff different.
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In that time, that was the narrative in the picture that was painted.
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You're saying the men weren't making enough money, so the women had to take the government assistance.
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So even then, they had a higher standard of living than most people did in all of human history.
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So how is it an excuse when you're living better than most people did in all of human history?
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Okay, so I'm speaking specifically for the black families, right?
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And so back then, when men were living at home, they were not able to be employable, right?
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Because they—to her point, everything she said is 100% factual, right?
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And if we knew that that was a narrative then, of course, we wouldn't have fallen for it, right?
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But because they were trying to divide the black family, they would say,
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men, to provide for your family or things like that, we don't want you to be there
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because we know that you're a leader and the impact of that.
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We're not going to give you good qualifying jobs if you're in the home.
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But then the woman, how can I provide and how can I do this if he's not in the home?
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To get a good-paying job, to try to pay for your family, be employable, right?
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You thought you had to not live in the household.
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And everything she said was 100% factual, right?
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But listen, if you agree, then why would they take that solution?
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Because it's almost as if Cosmo created this fantasy, but the black women attached themselves
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But black men were never a part of the patriarchy.
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So what were you trying to be independent from?
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I can't go back then and speak to their mindset.
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I've always said we should hold women accountable this evening, right?
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But today, we're still doing the same narrative, right?
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We're still selling city girls and being out here and being flown out.
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We're still selling it, and women are still buying it.
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I would challenge one thing that you said when you say that if we all agree that there's 80%
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of women that are out here running the streets, and then there's a 5% to 10% of men that are
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taking advantage of that, I reject the idea that the focus should be on the small percentage
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of men that are running the streets when we have an overabundance of women.
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I would say let's at least get that down to 5% to 10% of women are running the streets.
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5% to 10% of men are running the streets, and then look at them equally.
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But as long as we have the scale so tipped that women are allowing this, I say let's clean
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our own house first before we point the finger.
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That's why I said you come back to the 1% because we understand and we talk about it
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Women make 80% of consumer buying decisions, right?
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They can sell them, I don't know, they can sell them juice tomorrow.
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So like I said, the point of, I guess, my conclusion is that women are not supposed to
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And men are supposed to start selling things to men.
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They won't get as much money, but they're going to have to start selling things to men,
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We know that podcasts like yours, Pearl, is not in the majority of podcasts and many people
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You have a niche because your audience is probably mostly men.
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They're not going to be the shade bar crew or whatever.
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We need to stop selling to women and then, I'm getting deep.
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I might get deep, but I think we need to start separating ourselves from certain types of
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I wasn't saying don't focus on that 80% of women, but it's a balancing factor.
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When you go to one side and you focus heavy, it ends up going back up.
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Why do we balance it when the problem is unbalanced?
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Why would we balance it when women are causing most of the problems?
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If you go to one extremity, the other one's going to go up.
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So just in approaching, we have to be careful to balance it out.
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So I'm just not understanding what you're saying with the beam.
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So how does us, like, talking about women, hey, women, we need to step it up.
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And then the women will always come in and say, well, but don't forget about the men.
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We can deal with that when we get the women, because this is a way bigger problem than the men.
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But I'm saying, what about that makes the problem bigger?
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When we get hyper-focused on that and we solely focus on that, it causes a chain reaction of the opposite to then happen.
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We started focusing on, like, men having all the rights.
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So I'm just, I want to, because this is very broad.
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And a lot of times, like, as women, we say things that are so broad that they don't, like, mean anything.
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We could say, okay, the men have this one problem.
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So if we have a balancing beam, they have one, we have five.
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And so we're trying to take, are we taking five away from here just to get it to one
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Or are we trying to just take one and, like, five away and then it goes over here?
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Even if we use the balancing beam, right, and, like, then this would be heavier than the
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The only way to balance it out is to focus on the heavier problem first.
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We might be surprised that what we want the men to change may actually self-correct if
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But if we don't allow someone to have access without being worthy of it, then they'll either
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And if the next girl says, these are my standards, men will change their approach based on the
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There's always going to be that small amount of people who are going to try and, you know,
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