JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


She WANTS A Man She COULD CONTROL

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Post Wall Woman Gets In Her Feelings After Man said this DESPERATE Women Settle for SIMPS and Don't Respect Them

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10 minutes

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1,938

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Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about marriage, equality, divorce and why we don't want to get married anymore. We also talk about why we are more divorced than ever before and what we should do about it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 but i was just curious um how you expected that to go because when girls say equal i don't know if 0.96
00:00:06.240 they'd actually want a guy because when i hear equal it's it just sounds like girls want a guy 1.00
00:00:11.920 that like follows what they want i feel like it works more like an equilibrium rather than
00:00:17.680 equalness there's more of a wave kind of goes it is a wave yeah i think equality maybe is the wrong
00:00:24.320 term to be using more of an equilibrium is right and because it goes back and forth and it's never
00:00:30.080 a straight line to have equalness is where you will have problems to say that you're equal isn't right
00:00:37.120 because you won't work as a relationship if you're both equal because yeah that's not a man we're
00:00:43.440 going to get resolved equal is not the right word but yeah yeah that's what i meant i'm curious just
00:00:48.080 show of hands and then i'll go to you i'm just curious who here would submit to their husband's 1.00
00:00:54.560 authority i will you would okay so it wouldn't be equal then yeah but he'd be above you no yeah just
00:01:03.600 to submit you you do need to be willing to back down and not be equal anymore
00:01:10.480 okay so so you say you would though you would submit well i don't know it's a tricky one
00:01:15.840 maybe not okay no i would you would okay is that what you do now in your relationship he makes all
00:01:23.520 the decisions um no is that just gonna change when you guys get married or what
00:01:34.320 if he's a provider yes so if he he pays all the bills you're gonna he can decide everything he's my
00:01:40.560 boss okay uh what about you you said you would uh to some extent yeah what do you mean um i don't know
00:01:48.720 like it feels tricky yeah i'd say to some extent well i think either way women like well anyway it's about 0.98
00:02:00.640 me so um if i was a wife i'd i like the leadership role on his end okay you know but when it comes to
00:02:12.800 i think equality is the wrong word but decision making i'd like to be part of it or um he respects
00:02:21.360 me enough to be like oh babe you know and discuss about certain things but i would respect his word for
00:02:29.200 things um but i think i think just being on a general level that we respect each other on
00:02:39.440 certain things or most things just to keep it leveled and to make it work then it's like oh no
00:02:46.640 i've got this power over you or it's like me arguing back you know that makes sense um but answering your
00:02:53.040 question at the start um i like a partner in crime and a best friend i think everyone thrives um
00:03:02.800 to get that do you think that's normal in history that men and women were best friends
00:03:11.040 i think man was the question no the man was the head oh yeah the head of the family oh yeah why
00:03:17.840 did when do you think that switched probably with this generation i don't know was it like the 1970s
00:03:25.840 or something do you think that has good outcomes being best friends with your husband yes who said
00:03:34.560 yes yeah yeah who who said yes you did you did then why are we more divorced than ever before but maybe
00:03:42.320 that's where my point comes in of not wanting to get married so if you're really gonna want to get
00:03:48.000 married i'm like you have to be friends with them whether you like it or not look at this is the
00:03:53.120 right crowd to be talking this channel well she makes it you make a very good point because because
00:03:59.040 where all of this is going is kind of what i was trying to say to articulate at the beginning which
00:04:02.880 is that is the marriage certificate fit for purpose anymore given we've got all these dynamics going
00:04:07.520 on in society given there's all these divergent wants and needs and people trying to wiggle out of you
00:04:11.840 know not wanting to be submit or whatever does it actually work anymore i'm not convinced that it
00:04:16.480 does work anymore i think the reason it works for you know for better or worse and there's arguments
00:04:20.560 in both cases but the reason it worked before was because society and religion kept it in place
00:04:27.200 and there were certain expectations for what you did and now those expectations aren't there so
00:04:31.120 everyone goes and says the lines that pearl read out in the church but nobody really means it and then
00:04:35.360 10 years later they're just like oh so bad you know and that is not a good basis for for marriage so do we
00:04:41.120 need something else or do we i mean you know there's a personal choice here as well i haven't
00:04:44.640 chosen to get married up to this point largely because of this stuff you know to to be honest
00:04:49.920 um or maybe you just haven't met the right woman well that yeah i mean makes you want to get married 0.95
00:04:55.120 no i mean look i mean i wouldn't i never rule anything out entirely but like i said i'm not i'm
00:04:59.840 not champing at the bits oh my god i really want to get married i really want to sign up to this contract
00:05:03.680 where i can get half of my stuff taken away on a whim i mean it's just not do you know what i mean like
00:05:07.680 i'm happy um being in sort of long-term relationships or more casual relationship
00:05:12.400 whatever but marriage i mean i mean would you sign a contract where you only have a 10 chance of
00:05:17.840 getting your kids if he takes them and he can take half your stuff and the house and you'd have to move
00:05:26.560 out would you sign it and you only get one and a half meals a day i i think if if their value was
00:05:40.960 very high in my life then i would take that risk i'm a risk taker anyway and i feel like if i'm gonna
00:05:47.280 get something out of that which is what i really want and which is what i've always wanted in life
00:05:51.760 which is love and to be loved i'll take that risk because that's the purpose of life to be loved
00:05:59.200 everybody here is searching to be loved to be wanted and to be appreciated by someone that is
00:06:08.560 sorry but i think everybody is searching for that like everybody in the end just wants to
00:06:13.440 be loved and find that person who accepts them for who they are but why would you need marriage for that
00:06:18.480 yeah yeah um it's still been around well for me it's like i don't know it's like religion and
00:06:24.960 things like that like that's something another thing is you say except for who they are but what
00:06:30.320 if it's the guy who you are is somebody who wants to sleep around every couple of weeks you know and 0.78
00:06:35.040 sort of have sex with the barista or the girl who's working the nightclub do you know what i mean 0.94
00:06:38.480 because and this is a whole other area because obviously male sexuality is is you know by and large 0.99
00:06:44.080 you know they like pearl said i think earlier you know they want to have sex with as many people as 0.60
00:06:48.160 possible women have a slightly different sort of agenda for the most part um and then you get 1.00
00:06:53.200 into this whole area where and i've seen other shows you know other podcasts where they talk about
00:06:57.680 this but like um you know a guy can really truly love a woman and still go and have sex with somebody
00:07:05.200 else and that's purely by that's purely physical yeah and it doesn't detract from his love from the
00:07:09.760 woman but but for many women you would say well well tell me tell me about you honestly what is it
00:07:13.840 what is your your makeup it's like well i like shagging around i mean a lot of women 1.00
00:07:17.600 women are not going to accept that you know what i mean so but they but that's not that's not like 1.00
00:07:23.440 that's not like by force that's just like a preference for a man there there are men who
00:07:28.400 can actually be uh loyal like they can they can but come on it's not just it's not like something
00:07:34.480 that's wrong with them or it's like this is who they are like if most men were in tiger woods position
00:07:40.640 come on that's like me saying well i want a hermes back you know well she said you studied zoology
00:07:48.560 didn't you have you got any input on this i mean do you think the males generally they look you know
00:07:52.000 they want to get their end away or i mean men naturally in like if you look at the other primates 0.93
00:08:00.960 that yes so we are a primate um sorry to anyone that doesn't believe in evolution but we are a
00:08:07.200 primate and other male primates like chimpanzees will meet with several females and it's the biological
00:08:14.800 makeup is to breed are they monogamous no and and i don't from looking back in the evolution of hominins
00:08:25.680 which is what we are we're a hominin they weren't monogamous and it's not necessarily the way we're
00:08:33.200 made up it's society that's done that so for you to say that someone should always be with the same
00:08:38.960 person for the rest of them like their lives oh if that's not what they want then so be it don't
00:08:46.000 judge someone because that's what they say but you know on the other side of it you're right you're
00:08:50.640 again to account to what i've just said you are right because if the if the guy is also signing
00:08:54.560 up for that marriage contract then he should also abide by that contract do you know what i mean
00:08:59.920 but then it comes back to my question which is well is it in the guys is it in my best interest
00:09:04.480 to sign up for it then you know i do i hear your point i really do and i do hear your point like
00:09:09.440 why would a man want to sign up for that paper um and i i really feel like it just comes down to
00:09:15.600 the individual and and what they believe in and i feel like yeah it is it is to do with religion
00:09:22.720 definitely i honestly think if most men knew what they were signing i don't think most men would do
00:09:27.200 it hmm and i think if you took religion out of it as well it's a lot of i know like a lot of muslim
00:09:32.320 men you know doing they wouldn't get married during this documentary i just i can't even believe like 0.98
00:09:37.360 the stories i've heard so they're crazy they're crazy like guys get screwed over especially i think 0.88
00:09:42.400 it's worse here than the us really that's shocking it depends on the state yeah yeah but i don't i don't
00:09:50.560 know enough about i've actually i've learned more about the laws here than the us now but as many of
00:09:56.080 you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you
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