JustPearlyThings - March 13, 2023


She was ROASTED For Saying This


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In this episode of the podcast, we have a very special guest on the show this week, and it's a big one! We have a heated debate about dating in your 20s, and whether or not you should go on a date with 50% of men. We also have a discussion about the difference between men and women when it comes to weight and obesity, and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 relationship but kendrick lamar and his and his wife she seems to be a rider who's been there
00:00:03.420 from day one and she she really pushed him to you know be greater so it goes both ways yeah i was
00:00:08.740 gonna ask you a question actually to both of you out of 50 guys who maybe would approach you
00:00:15.360 right maybe give you a look at the club or a bar or maybe actually try and come talk to you out of
00:00:21.020 50 guys how many of them would you give a chance on it go on an actual date with that you look at
00:00:25.400 my number okay go natural day as in like so you look at me look at them go oh i like the vibe and
00:00:30.080 energy of you enough that yeah i'll go on a date with you out of 50 guys i guess about three about
00:00:35.820 three how about you fuck shit i'm anti bro do you know what i would have said three i'm not gonna lie 0.99
00:00:43.420 so maybe i gotta say five then so you know how you're saying you know you know how you're saying
00:00:47.360 that five to ten percent basically yeah fair enough so you know how you're saying like you're basing
00:00:51.820 your opinion based on your experience so out of 50 guys there's 45 of them that you're not
00:00:56.860 experiencing that because you've rejected them right right so all of your experience is coming
00:01:01.820 from the top five or ten percent of guys and you're probably still friends on one or two of them
00:01:07.140 probably yeah and then and then the irony is uh 50 guys this is the reality the same five guys you
00:01:14.220 will give a chance or the same five guys she will give a chance probably not nah because i dated a 1.00
00:01:18.720 five foot seven guys she ain't dating a five foot seven i know but what i'm trying to say is like
00:01:22.340 it's it's uh it's like the crossover is the it's a small pool of guys who are getting the majority
00:01:28.560 of opportunity there may be like one or two that's more your type that you wouldn't choose and vice
00:01:34.000 versa yeah but i'm trying to say like if you're taking a pool of men the kind of men that you go oh
00:01:39.600 actually yeah you bring this this this this all these things that i like yeah right because we know
00:01:43.500 women have higher standards fair enough that's just the way it is right it's just the way it is 1.00
00:01:47.120 the majority of men don't fit all of those standards so what's you know and i'm not trying
00:01:53.500 to be rude but what's the point the problem i think the point is it's like i have a guy at
00:01:56.640 you're you're using you're getting your opinion yeah you said from your experience but i said that
00:02:02.080 yeah yeah no i'm just i'm making like a blanket statement i'm just saying i'm just saying he's
00:02:10.500 saying the experience you have is with a small percentage of men exactly so your experience
00:02:14.740 isn't very representative because you're not like the men you deal no i'm not saying you're
00:02:19.840 disagreeing he's just furthering the point yeah and listen and i think i think the problem we're
00:02:23.980 having is because we're talking about the population in general you're talking about a very specific
00:02:29.960 anecdotal evidence i'm not saying anecdotal evidence is irrelevant however when we're talking
00:02:34.600 about the wider society your anecdotal evidence is wrong is wrong to the wider society so what's your name
00:02:40.400 again jesse jesse i feel like you um you're someone who's very pragmatic in that sense and it has to
00:02:47.060 be either yes or no or on or off yes and i think that's why i'm always going to sort of butt heads
00:02:51.620 on this specific argument find me on instagram and i'm going to tell you
00:02:54.940 while you guys go and have a little wrestle sorry out of what i just said what's wrong
00:03:01.080 oh wait oh sorry kieran carry on oh so out of what i just said what is wrong though because that's
00:03:08.840 that's what i'm struggling to understand right now i'm saying that your anecdotal evidence is wrong
00:03:14.500 um when applied to um the entire population oh sorry i know you can't answer sorry sorry i'm just
00:03:22.960 going to say something that's slightly different anyway something i find really interesting is
00:03:27.600 how different things are in terms of not just relationship people committing to each other men
00:03:35.520 and women obesity rates is so different depending on where you're from and where you live like i'm not
00:03:43.180 from london i'm from coventry and if i compare the girls that i know who still live in coventry
00:03:50.200 the life that they have compared to girls in london it is so different and even if you look at 0.99
00:03:56.760 obviously like the stats of obesity in america how can that be so different to the rest of the world
00:04:02.460 well i would say that our food is worse and and so that's a factor but you can still make good
00:04:08.580 choices and not eat the food that is bad and eat more of the food that's good but again so in
00:04:14.580 for example in london i'm now far more active even just going from a to b than i would be in
00:04:22.380 coventry like that's just a given therefore it probably is um i don't know that this is true but
00:04:30.420 i would suspect that people are thinner in london than they are in other areas of the country the same
00:04:36.540 with america like in new york you're probably going to get people the majority of people are thinner than
00:04:41.820 they are outside in other areas of america and again something that you said earlier i can't
00:04:47.380 remember exactly what it was but it was about men choosing not to commit because women women
00:04:53.280 were sleeping around a bit uh so what uh what uh what i was saying was that because sex is more easily
00:04:59.140 accessible especially for you know the percentage of men who have all the options um it's easier for
00:05:06.660 them to reject on less desirable women so we're taking women who are bigger because they're getting 1.00
00:05:13.440 access to the more desirable women a lot more easier was back in the day right because it was 1.00
00:05:18.720 kind of sex outside of marriage and commitment was taboo they wouldn't be getting that sexual attention
00:05:24.660 from the from multiple desirable women so then it was easier for women who weren't as desirable to him
00:05:32.440 to get sex from him because he wasn't getting it multiple from desirable does that make sense yeah
00:05:37.060 but have you thought that that could be to do with the fact that men and women now have far more
00:05:42.800 options than they ever did before i would say we're constantly thinking oh like there's something
00:05:47.000 better a small percentage of men that's a good point but yeah i would have all the options where most of
00:05:51.740 the options but i think most men now have more options than they ever did no actually it's it's actually
00:05:57.520 it's the opposite and i'll get i'll give you this example right um like where do you say you grew
00:06:02.760 up coventry coventry like so for example if you take if you take back in the day the girl from a
00:06:08.900 small english village where social media internet wasn't a thing right the pool of men she would 0.95
00:06:13.400 choose were the men from her village yeah right now because of social and the thing is at the chances
00:06:18.880 are she would choose a nice average man right now because of social media dating apps the internet 1.00
00:06:24.500 she can connect with the hot shot lawyer from london the basketball player from paris the producer
00:06:29.920 from la yeah so the average guys in her circles are looking pretty weak compared to the opportunities
00:06:35.500 that she has so what's actually happened is for the average man he's actually got little to zero options
00:06:42.680 because women now have access to high value men and high value men now have access to multiple women 0.68
00:06:48.140 does that make sense on top of that makes sense on top of that back in the day women sort of knew that 0.76
00:06:54.120 because they can't necessarily they don't tend to necessarily work they needed a man to get 1.00
00:07:00.260 through life nowadays where women have more money to them it's like well i'd rather i'd rather have a 1.00
00:07:06.460 man who earns the same or more than me women would rather be homeless than marry a beta and you can see 0.73
00:07:12.660 this because they interviewed homeless women and a lot of them had men they could have settled down with
00:07:17.340 and they left most of them because they would literally rather be on the streets than marry a guy they view
00:07:23.500 as beta yeah basically what's happened is the necessity for men in a woman's life has
00:07:27.460 decreased right which means right which is just the way it is i don't think it's unfair or like it's
00:07:34.480 just the way it is which means that she can afford to be even more picky today because she doesn't need
00:07:40.940 a man to support her financially she can earn her own money she can get her own place she could drive 1.00
00:07:44.920 for all of that which is great but the byproducts of that is that it means that if more women have 1.00
00:07:50.860 become picky it means the power has gone all to the top percentage of men which most of the women 0.97
00:07:57.580 want and that's why you see 50 percent of women being single and childless over 30 and the least 1.00
00:08:02.920 happy group of women is 45 and childless that make over like 50 000 a year and so it's like 1.00
00:08:09.380 we gas women up and this is part of body positivity we gas women up to think they're hotter than they are 1.00
00:08:15.300 so they're sleeping with guys that are out of their league thinking they're going to commit to them
00:08:19.020 but they're never going to and so then these girls think they're on this level but they're not really 1.00
00:08:23.700 on this level they're really average and then they hit 30 35 and they still won't settle even though
00:08:29.900 that's their level and you know how you're saying about how um you know you came to london it seems
00:08:35.620 like everybody's in like do you say everyone was like in much like really fit or in best shape
00:08:40.080 compared to commentary and stuff yeah yeah yeah yeah i think that goes back to what we're saying a big
00:08:44.300 part of that is because of competition because london is a very densely populated area right and
00:08:50.920 because there's a lot of opportunities a lot of people who want to make it big and whatever it is
00:08:55.540 right it's just dating career whatever you go to one of these major cities but that's where the
00:09:01.360 competition is most fierce so if you're going to survive let alone get ahead you need to be competitive
00:09:07.680 in that sense i just finished doing a show in um in in strassburg in france and at the gym there
00:09:14.220 all the girls right were in incredible shape and all the guys were incredible shape more so than
00:09:21.700 east london here right and it's because they're all competing for each other everybody's competing
00:09:28.080 the higher the competition the more we have to raise our standards in order to play the game
00:09:32.460 but why would that competition be any higher than anywhere in the uk well i think in that particular
00:09:37.960 one you're saying there are some baddies there i think because there were um there was um it's a
00:09:44.220 there was a major uni campus there so like a third of the population of the city were like
00:09:49.680 university students do you know what i mean strassburg is in germany right uh it's actually in france
00:09:54.520 in the front of france and johnson yeah because the german people are very uh uh uh what's the ethnicity
00:10:00.200 the the population are they mostly german or french uh they're most they're mostly french
00:10:05.260 but strassburg used to be part of germany i used to be part of the work ethic of of the german people
00:10:10.200 was very very strong it was i would explain why the competition yeah yeah the thing is true so i'm um
00:10:16.440 belgian and you know over there in those parts of europe the culture is very different so i i was there
00:10:22.760 till i was so i was about seven i used to go back quite often i did not see a fat person it's just the
00:10:28.100 culture there it's just to you know be that way so it makes sense that you went to the gym even if
00:10:32.660 girls didn't go to the gym chances are a lot of them are very thin so it's just the culture 1.00
00:10:35.760 and when it when it comes down to it if you're if you're fat you're unhealthy yeah yeah and if you're
00:10:39.880 unhealthy you have less value i'm gonna take a second and read some super chats so guys as you know
00:10:47.720 we are trying to get ish a camera yes ma'am you want to see what ish looks like let's go get him a
00:10:55.100 camera on top of that guys like the video i think we were close to a thousand likes last time i
00:10:59.100 checked so oh no we're at a thousand so why don't we try to get a thousand two hundred likes can we
00:11:03.900 do that i think we can do that for sure um so let's read the super chats these super chats are going
00:11:08.820 towards ish's camera and some other studio updates so send money because it's really important to the
00:11:15.060 quality of the show if you want like you can also watch for free but okay vital 46 lol i'm one of
00:11:22.360 those invisible men i'm chilling and working my routine average 72k a year cheap looking car and
00:11:28.740 have fairly good savings account most girls think i'm a good guy and ask why i'm single
00:11:33.340 simply too awesome that's like the biggest insult like why are you single but you could date me
00:11:38.440 simply too awesome scientifically men are more sympathetic than or women are more sympathetic
00:11:46.560 than men men are more empathetic than women this is because they need to understand themselves 0.58
00:11:51.460 and women sing fred that's narcissism pearl for the queen for the modern woman's ideal mind i've
00:11:57.420 given you like 17 today hun thank you i rarely super because that's essentially one hour of work
00:12:02.960 hope that helps with the mic it does appreciate you um homie clicks why wait why are having why does
00:12:10.700 having fat friends have to do with the conversation don't change the goalpost rusty fuel fat lowers the
00:12:16.540 gdp it cost taxpayers medical expenses that's what i'd be saying um smane taggan would the girls date 1.00
00:12:23.960 a drug addict let's like a functioning coke head considering that's also an emotional addiction
00:12:28.660 that's a good question alistar horton body positivity is about a lack of personal standards shall i say 1.00
00:12:34.660 um alistar horton again ask yourself which is kinder to give someone the harsh truth and deal with the
00:12:41.900 problem or go protect their ego and deny that the problem's that bad dragon stallion 1001 for the
00:12:48.480 woman on the couch if you put out kfc mcdonald's and healthy meals which do you think large people 0.55
00:12:55.260 would reach for first the junk food ganaral ters um ganaralanters sell them an xxl t-shirt motivate
00:13:04.100 them to lose weight by telling them the painful truth then sell them another teacher another t-shirt
00:13:09.960 in a future small size david acts western society is following a woman's lead which has led us to 0.98
00:13:16.020 this place women will forever complain we already know this boy type did my man on the left just 0.98
00:13:21.580 change ethnicities aj thesis uh guys sometimes when we have too many guests we rotate them in and out
00:13:28.760 that's how yeah sometimes look at um aj thesis people say beauty at any size and it's not their fault
00:13:36.180 instead of giving them the information to lead a healthy lifestyle the only person who gave
00:13:40.660 who got me into this was me and i have to get myself but out samson samson simpson can you imagine
00:13:49.300 spending the rest of your life being someone that will go this far to be right pop the popcorn boys
00:13:54.780 and enjoy the decline lazy artist if you're a member you already saw ish's tall self um
00:14:00.800 wait wait hold on yeah man man's full remember that yeah he's six seven he's six seven changes
00:14:08.080 every stream um okay in aj thesis in 19 in 19 years old and have struggled with obesity for the last
00:14:18.440 four years being depressed doesn't mean that you're not accountable for the weight you gained
00:14:21.680 um sing oh gosh it's pronounced siegfried sorry i forgive you pearl look sometimes these names
00:14:30.080 um marcus moore sorry just remind everyone that we saw ish on the 24-hour live stream let me refresh
00:14:36.560 it real quick and just to make sure there's no other ones and she'll be embedded out today honestly
00:14:41.600 we have beef oh yeah guys if you've watched two or more of my videos and you don't subscribe we have
00:14:48.400 beef like come on a subscription is free a like is free if you can't donate subscribe i know a bunch
00:14:54.160 of you be in here ghost watching and it's not cool it's not cool um okay that is all the super chat so
00:15:00.640 i think i'm going to close out the show so um why don't we go around everyone say any final thoughts
00:15:06.720 you have so if you there's something someone in the comments you want to make your piece with
00:15:11.840 say it now and then tell the people where they can find you on social media and yeah that's it
00:15:16.640 um final thoughts i really like the show it's for those i mean i love it um if you're big whether
00:15:25.440 it's man or woman it's on you and you can lose weight there's no other excuses um you can find me
00:15:31.840 on youtube and tiktok um my name is jesse praise on both um yeah i make finance content some of this
00:15:39.840 content and also gym content so if you're trying to lose weight make sure you're watching but yeah
00:15:43.600 uh i want to start by saying that first of all i'm a i'm a lover of all all creeds shapes and sizes
00:15:52.320 but ultimately um people need to be accountable for themselves and their friends ultimately like
00:15:58.320 are you a true friend if you're letting somebody damage themselves so don't be afraid to um have
00:16:03.440 that hard conversation because ultimately it will lead to long-term prosperity um in terms of where you
00:16:08.400 can find me on socials uh at vibes and tribes uh yeah got a travel podcast and a bit of a life
00:16:14.720 lifestyle podcast where i give career advice and yeah neat tips and tricks to help people progress
00:16:19.920 in their careers uh so my closing statement just in response to one of the super chats
00:16:26.320 the reason i asked pearl if she had any fat friends was because i was just generally intrigued to know
00:16:32.720 if this is a conversation that she has had with them and how they felt about it and responded to it
00:16:37.840 but she says she doesn't have any friends um yeah otherwise my closing statement is that it doesn't
00:16:46.080 matter what size you are you deserve to be loved and you look amazing so um yeah you can find me on
00:16:53.040 instagram if you've listened before when i was on here at l gray and also at gossip station podcast
00:16:59.760 yeah my closing statements um i really enjoyed the show um just to respond to your question about
00:17:07.840 commitment and especially uh linking that back to fat women um i think inherently men feel that fat
00:17:15.200 women are usually promiscuous and as a man uh giving commitment to someone that i know is promiscuous is 1.00
00:17:22.880 uh it's kind of a l um as part of the reason i wear uh virginity rocks because of you know i i do think
00:17:30.880 that you know the concept of virginity is something that could be brought back to uh promote uh healthy
00:17:37.280 families and healthy relationships and i think it's important to let people know that uh there are
00:17:42.240 alternative lifestyles um you can find me on ezekiel's dot world um i sound engineer i do all that good
00:17:49.280 should uh thanks final thoughts it's kind of humorous i'm ending with this because you're supposed to
00:17:58.400 start with it but in socratic debates you're supposed to define the the terms that you're going to be
00:18:03.920 using within the debate so that everyone's on the same page and you know the the i looked up the word
00:18:09.680 privilege before i got in here and the definition of the word is uh a benefit uh or right or
00:18:17.360 uh that that someone has and someone else doesn't have pretty much along the lines so there is
00:18:24.560 there is a skinny privilege or thin privilege whatever you want to call it however hey that's
00:18:32.080 just nature man i love y'all but don't be fat fucks go work out go to the gym be successful i'm saying
00:18:38.400 don't don't don't waste your life doing stupid and i think it was our nightingale was it uh that gave 0.78
00:18:44.400 the definition of success as be in armor you told me uh i'm not sure if it's i think it was dale
00:18:49.120 carnegie maybe yeah maybe one of those i'm not sure but he said that the definition of success is
00:18:54.160 um having a goal and being in a working so you're progressing towards that goal so you know for fat
00:19:01.280 people out there just set the goal that you want to be healthy and and start working towards that
00:19:05.680 finding the root cause and whatnot and you know i'm saying be on your way it's a young take
00:19:11.360 honestly um final thoughts um understanding that certain people may be overweight because of reasons
00:19:21.120 we can have compassion for um but we should see that your weight being in your control um as a good
00:19:28.720 thing because it shows that you are in power of what you experience and you are in power over your life you
00:19:35.200 are not um controlled by anything and recognizing that you have agency over your life should be
00:19:42.240 empowering it shouldn't be um something you want to relinquish control over things that you know have
00:19:49.040 negative impacts on you um so yeah and you you know you can find me on instagram at kit is me
00:19:54.960 and i have a youtube channel called stay slick with kit when i talk all things dated oh yeah i forgot to add
00:20:00.160 my instagram do you think apollo barn spell a-p-o-double-l-o-b-double-a-n
00:20:09.280 yeah uh if there's anything i'm going to say it's going to be the dating market would be a lot more
00:20:14.480 pleasurable to be in um if both genders male and female um realize what the opposite sex wants 0.98
00:20:23.200 and got themselves to a position where they're more attractive to the opposite sex as opposed to 0.69
00:20:28.400 trying to pit each other against themselves trying to force people to uh force men to like you when
00:20:33.360 you're not say attractive the way you are so it does take work it does take perseverance and nobody
00:20:39.840 gets anywhere in life by being lazy and being by forcing people to like them in the position they're
00:20:44.480 right where they when they're putting in the uh the work to get to where they need to be um so yeah it's
00:20:50.960 not a war out here it should be you know all peace i'm finding it so hard not to start this debate again
00:20:59.040 i couldn't disagree more with a lot of those things oh wow well well it's okay next show
00:21:04.800 we can do another i'll be happy we can we can do another whales episode we we love we love talking
00:21:10.560 about the whales here yeah i just plug my social media and so instagram i don't do youtube like
00:21:17.040 other guys so i'm uh ife dot underscore a um that's my instagram page so yeah for me on that
00:21:24.880 okay y'all thank you so much for the super chats this this show thank you so much for watching we could
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