JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


She Went Through Her Partner's Phone And Regretted It


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Length

9 minutes

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198.6645

Word count

1,914

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

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Toxicity

33

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Hate speech

10

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about the dangers of online dating and how to deal with them. We also talk about how to manage your mental health when it comes to dealing with online dating. We also discuss how to handle online dating as a single guy and what to look out for in the online dating world.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Okay, I want to know if you got I know you're not single but when you were
00:00:09.820 single if you guys would respond or not and what you would think of him
00:00:13.440 You know, I can't really see
00:00:17.600 I feel like if I saw this Instagram, I would think
00:00:21.320 That's the one that
00:00:22.360 I don't think this is, I don't need this type of problems
00:00:32.060 You've got blue ticks coming into yours as well
00:00:34.680 Wow, you see
00:00:35.720 Oh yeah, definitely
00:00:40.440 Is that a Magnum?
00:00:44.020 Your type
00:00:44.900 Okay, what do you guys think?
00:00:50.740 Like the last picture and this picture is fine
00:00:54.040 There was a couple pictures that I would be like
00:00:55.800 I'm a PT but yeah, I hear you
00:00:59.020 You need to show the merchandise, isn't it?
00:01:02.040 Yeah, fair
00:01:02.360 So would you guys respond?
00:01:07.880 Yeah, probably
00:01:08.620 Yeah
00:01:09.320 What about you two? Would you respond? No
00:01:12.460 I don't know
00:01:14.880 I think you're a good looking guy
00:01:16.760 But I don't know
00:01:18.760 Because of course you had your
00:01:19.920 You were flexing
00:01:21.360 That's him!
00:01:22.060 That's him!
00:01:24.060 That's him!
00:01:25.060 That's him!
00:01:26.060 That's him!
00:01:27.060 I know you think of black guys look alike 1.00
00:01:29.060 Damn! 1.00
00:01:30.060 That's him! 1.00
00:01:31.060 That's him!
00:01:32.060 That's him!
00:01:33.060 I was like
00:01:34.060 Someone get us some glasses 0.84
00:01:36.060 Someone get us some glasses 0.84
00:01:37.060 What am I?
00:01:39.060 That's him!
00:01:40.060 Yeah, no, I mean you're a good looking guy
00:01:42.060 But I think yeah, there was a couple of pictures that I'm
00:01:44.060 But I can't judge you
00:01:45.060 But you said you don't like the whole top thing off
00:01:47.060 It's just
00:01:48.060 Yeah, there's just something I
00:01:49.060 I'm on holiday
00:01:50.060 But yeah, talk, it's all good
00:01:52.060 But it's just, I mean I think I have that view in general though
00:01:55.060 Like even if a girl is like 1.00
00:01:57.060 And I'm not gonna say I haven't done this in the past 0.99
00:01:59.060 But if you're out there like bikini, like tits 1.00
00:02:02.060 Like tits in the camera 1.00
00:02:03.060 Like showing off your body in a certain type of way 1.00
00:02:05.060 You want a certain type of attention
00:02:07.060 To like, I can't take you seriously
00:02:09.060 No, I hear you
00:02:10.060 I hear that
00:02:11.060 I agree
00:02:12.060 See, my answer is PG clean
00:02:15.060 PG crazy
00:02:16.060 I was like
00:02:17.060 I just
00:02:18.060 I'm like
00:02:19.060 I would think
00:02:20.060 Cause when you see a profile like that
00:02:22.060 I would just assume you get so much attention
00:02:24.060 Which you're saying is true
00:02:25.060 And so I'm like
00:02:26.060 I am not
00:02:27.060 That's a headache
00:02:28.060 I don't wanna deal with that
00:02:29.060 No, I'm like
00:02:30.060 I'm too jealous
00:02:31.060 You don't wanna be competitive man
00:02:32.060 You gotta go for it
00:02:33.060 You know what I mean 1.00
00:02:34.060 You're a demon 1.00
00:02:35.060 I'm gonna say it 1.00
00:02:36.060 What is my other question
00:02:38.060 Yeah
00:02:39.060 Have you guys ever went through a girl's phone?
00:02:41.060 Yeah
00:02:42.060 I mean, businesses do audits, right? 0.99
00:02:44.060 Damn 0.99
00:02:47.060 What did you find? 1.00
00:02:48.060 Did you find anything?
00:02:49.060 Most of the time, you know
00:02:50.060 Guys, we're a bit
00:02:51.060 We're just
00:02:52.060 We don't go for the right things
00:02:53.060 I think women know exactly where to look 1.00
00:02:55.060 Guys gonna look for random shit 0.99
00:02:57.060 You're not really gonna find nothing 0.98
00:02:59.060 I've done it
00:03:00.060 I don't
00:03:01.060 I'll be honest though
00:03:02.060 I think once
00:03:03.060 Once you're in that place where
00:03:05.060 It becomes a thing where you need to
00:03:07.060 Then
00:03:08.060 And there's difference
00:03:09.060 Like someone going
00:03:10.060 Someone opening up your phone in your sleep is different to
00:03:12.060 Like someone leaving you with their phone
00:03:14.060 And then you might just
00:03:15.060 You know
00:03:16.060 Okay, that pop-up came up
00:03:17.060 What was that?
00:03:18.060 What was that?
00:03:19.060 Yeah
00:03:20.060 There's a bit of a difference
00:03:21.060 If you're like waking people up
00:03:22.060 Or like trying to
00:03:23.060 Do all that kind of stuff
00:03:24.060 I think there's
00:03:25.060 There's other problems there
00:03:26.060 I think sometimes there's a curiosity thing
00:03:28.060 Where that people have
00:03:29.060 Where it's just open
00:03:30.060 And you just
00:03:31.060 You might just
00:03:32.060 Or like
00:03:33.060 Cause there's even times where
00:03:34.060 I'll put it down to
00:03:35.060 Someone being on their phone next to you
00:03:36.060 And how many times
00:03:38.060 Like let's say someone's typing their password in front of you
00:03:39.060 How many times do
00:03:40.060 Man don't wanna be guys
00:03:41.060 So we do this
00:03:42.060 And we will
00:03:43.060 What are you doing man?
00:03:45.060 Look at that bro
00:03:46.060 Like look at it
00:03:47.060 You know what I mean?
00:03:48.060 But we do that
00:03:49.060 Cause your women will look at it easy 1.00
00:03:50.060 But you know guys
00:03:51.060 You wanna feel secure
00:03:52.060 So you're just like
00:03:53.060 Nah I'm not even gonna look
00:03:54.060 Because you don't want problems innit?
00:03:55.060 Yeah
00:03:56.060 But sometimes you just look and see
00:03:57.060 Alright cool what's going on?
00:03:58.060 Everything cool?
00:03:59.060 Alright cool
00:04:00.060 You know what I mean?
00:04:01.060 I haven't checked in the same way of like
00:04:02.060 Being that one like
00:04:03.060 Person who's very worried
00:04:05.060 And had to check through the phone
00:04:06.060 The check in that
00:04:07.060 Check in quote unquote
00:04:08.060 Is one of those ones like you said
00:04:09.060 You're on her phone 1.00
00:04:10.060 You're playing fucking Fruit Ninja or whatever 0.99
00:04:12.060 And like a text comes up 0.99
00:04:13.060 And you're like
00:04:14.060 I'm like
00:04:15.060 I don't go through anyone's phone
00:04:17.060 I don't go through it
00:04:18.060 That's your private thing
00:04:19.060 That's your private space
00:04:20.060 But you see the name
00:04:21.060 And you see what the message is
00:04:22.060 And you're like
00:04:23.060 Okay you just keep a mental note of
00:04:24.060 Alright
00:04:25.060 I think yeah
00:04:26.060 If you don't trust your partner
00:04:27.060 Then I think that that is
00:04:28.060 It's already
00:04:29.060 Life is too short for me to go through your phone
00:04:31.060 It's like
00:04:32.060 Why am I even with you?
00:04:33.060 I think for me
00:04:34.060 There's a question from the chat
00:04:36.060 They want to know from the girls
00:04:38.060 Is cheating
00:04:40.060 Which would you prefer?
00:04:42.060 You go through his phone
00:04:43.060 And you find him
00:04:44.060 He has naked pictures from another girl
00:04:47.060 Or he was buying her things
00:04:50.060 But there is nothing physical
00:04:53.060 It's both cheating
00:04:55.060 It's both cheating
00:04:56.060 Why is he buying them?
00:04:57.060 No you gotta
00:04:58.060 That's not the question
00:04:59.060 You gotta pick one
00:05:00.060 You have to pick one
00:05:01.060 Um
00:05:02.060 Oh that's difficult
00:05:04.060 I think
00:05:06.060 I think
00:05:07.060 I think
00:05:08.060 I think
00:05:09.060 Naked pictures is definitely worse
00:05:10.060 Okay
00:05:11.060 I think
00:05:12.060 Yeah
00:05:13.060 So if he bought her
00:05:14.060 A bunch of clothes or something
00:05:16.060 That wouldn't be as bad as naked pictures 0.55
00:05:18.060 Yeah
00:05:19.060 I'm the same
00:05:20.060 To be fair
00:05:21.060 Naked pictures worse
00:05:22.060 No I have to disagree
00:05:23.060 Because
00:05:24.060 Like
00:05:26.060 Let's be real
00:05:27.060 Some of the stuff that girls post on Instagram 0.99
00:05:30.060 Does it really make a difference
00:05:31.060 If you're sending nudes privately on Snapchat
00:05:33.060 Or if you're just posting that on Instagram
00:05:35.060 Like
00:05:36.060 You're gonna have people
00:05:38.060 Doing
00:05:39.060 What they do
00:05:40.060 Either way
00:05:41.060 I agree with you
00:05:42.060 I'm like if I found out
00:05:43.060 I think it's more personal if it's
00:05:44.060 If I found out a dude was buying some random Instagram girl 1.00
00:05:46.060 A bunch of shit 1.00
00:05:47.060 Yeah 1.00
00:05:48.060 I'd be like
00:05:49.060 What?
00:05:50.060 Like
00:05:51.060 That's a whole 0.81
00:05:52.060 Mindfuck 0.97
00:05:53.060 Like the nudes 1.00
00:05:54.060 It's like okay
00:05:55.060 A man's a man 1.00
00:05:56.060 A man has a penis 1.00
00:05:57.060 Like he's gonna do what he's gonna do 1.00
00:05:58.060 But it's like
00:05:59.060 The buying things
00:06:00.060 It's like
00:06:01.060 That's the effort
00:06:02.060 Yeah
00:06:03.060 Is it different than like corn?
00:06:04.060 You know what I mean?
00:06:05.060 Like if a guy gets a picture from a girl 0.75
00:06:06.060 Yeah
00:06:07.060 Versus looks up corn online
00:06:08.060 Is it that big of a
00:06:09.060 Yeah
00:06:10.060 Yeah exactly
00:06:11.060 Because it's all just like
00:06:12.060 I mean
00:06:13.060 It's just flesh
00:06:14.060 But like
00:06:15.060 The fact of buying someone a gift takes thought and effort
00:06:20.060 Yeah
00:06:21.060 Like a guy getting nudes he's getting that for one thing
00:06:24.060 Yeah but it's also about the intentions
00:06:26.060 The intentions of why he's buying her something as well
00:06:29.060 Like he's probably buying her something so that he can sleep with her eventually
00:06:33.060 That's why we said it was worse
00:06:34.060 Yeah that's why it's worse
00:06:35.060 I know but
00:06:36.060 That's why it's worse
00:06:37.060 You know the detectives in the movie
00:06:38.060 They say follow the money
00:06:39.060 Yeah
00:06:40.060 Yeah he's emotionally invested
00:06:42.060 Would you guys break up if zero contact happened?
00:06:45.060 Yeah
00:06:48.060 Yeah
00:06:49.060 Cause you know what's funny when you asked that first question?
00:06:54.060 We gave each other a look
00:06:55.060 We gave each other a look
00:06:56.060 Cause we both know if he buying someone else a gift
00:06:59.060 Yeah
00:07:00.060 That is worse
00:07:01.060 Yeah
00:07:02.060 He's trying to cheat
00:07:03.060 He's trying to leave
00:07:04.060 He's really having a conversation with this girl
00:07:06.060 He's finding someone else
00:07:07.060 He's looking to have a conversation with this girl
00:07:09.060 And he's like
00:07:10.060 He's talking to her enough that he knows her well enough to think that he can buy her things
00:07:15.060 And know what she likes
00:07:16.060 Yeah
00:07:17.060 That means he's been talking to her for a while
00:07:18.060 Which means he's down to book a ticket if she drops to the address
00:07:22.060 That's the difference between like a fling and a fair
00:07:26.060 Yeah
00:07:27.060 A fair is you know you follow the money you'll find the affair
00:07:29.060 Fling is any news you're gonna find or whatever
00:07:31.060 The news is whatever
00:07:32.060 Because you can
00:07:33.060 If he's a cheater he can be getting news from 11 people whenever
00:07:36.060 If he's like a serial cheater then he's getting news from everyone
00:07:38.060 But if he's sending
00:07:39.060 If he's got to a point of messaging this person
00:07:41.060 To a point where he's sending the gifts on a somewhat regular basis
00:07:45.060 Yeah you're done
00:07:46.060 What about OnlyFans subscription?
00:07:47.060 If you find it
00:07:48.060 Ooh tough
00:07:49.060 That would just
00:07:50.060 That would turn me off massively 1.00
00:07:51.060 You're an idiot 1.00
00:07:52.060 You're an idiot 1.00
00:07:53.060 OnlyFans 1.00
00:07:54.060 No no no
00:07:55.060 OnlyFans can be used in different ways though
00:07:58.060 Cause there's people that do OnlyFans that don't
00:08:00.060 You don't need to fully do the whole
00:08:02.060 Does he wait
00:08:03.060 He subscribed to one right?
00:08:04.060 That's what you're saying?
00:08:05.060 He subscribed to OnlyFans
00:08:06.060 I think that's like sad
00:08:07.060 Like I'd almost
00:08:08.060 Yes
00:08:09.060 I'd almost rather he cheat than subscribing
00:08:11.060 Oh for real?
00:08:12.060 Yeah because I'm like
00:08:14.060 Nobody wants you to the point you have to get like
00:08:18.060 You have to pay just to see pictures
00:08:20.060 I have
00:08:21.060 And then I would wonder
00:08:22.060 I'm like did I do something wrong?
00:08:24.060 You fumbled it back
00:08:25.060 I've had this conversation though
00:08:27.060 It's the same with like
00:08:28.060 Maybe escorts and stuff in it
00:08:29.060 So let's say for instance with OnlyFans
00:08:30.060 With OnlyFans
00:08:31.060 It makes it more personal
00:08:32.060 So let's say
00:08:33.060 You could have OnlyFans
00:08:34.060 You don't probably
00:08:35.060 But if you do
00:08:36.060 And someone really wanted
00:08:37.060 They couldn't really bother to
00:08:38.060 Wine and Daniel or talk to you like that
00:08:39.060 But they really were like
00:08:41.060 Sexually attracted to you
00:08:42.060 They could just
00:08:43.060 Go through the OnlyFans
00:08:44.060 Pay that little subscription
00:08:46.060 See everything
00:08:47.060 In their head
00:08:48.060 You're a body now
00:08:49.060 Yeah?
00:08:50.060 You know what I mean?
00:08:51.060 You lot have done whatever
00:08:52.060 And then they can go on with their life
00:08:54.060 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:08:55.060 Same thing with like escorts or whatever
00:08:57.060 Instead of doing a whole dating situation
00:08:59.060 They paid for an escort
00:09:00.060 They've got that out of the system
00:09:01.060 And they've moved on
00:09:02.060 So it's like
00:09:03.060 I think with OnlyFans
00:09:04.060 The only difference between OnlyFans and Pornhub
00:09:06.060 Or Pornhub
00:09:07.060 Is that
00:09:08.060 They have
00:09:09.060 They might know the person
00:09:11.060 They might know who the person is
00:09:13.060 It's within reach
00:09:14.060 That's why I think OnlyFans is growing
00:09:16.060 Because it's more personal
00:09:17.060 You ain't gotta do nothing though
00:09:18.060 You know escorts
00:09:19.060 You know there's people
00:09:20.060 Like there's female escorts 1.00
00:09:22.060 Yeah
00:09:23.060 The guy with like all the guys
00:09:24.060 That will spoil them
00:09:25.060 They won't do nothing
00:09:26.060 Same thing with OnlyFans
00:09:27.060 Like you haven't got to sexually do anything
00:09:29.060 There's a super chat
00:09:30.060 Never go through a girl's phone 1.00
00:09:31.060 If you believe that you need to go through her phone
00:09:33.060 All you're doing is looking for anything to confirm
00:09:35.060 What you already believe is happening
00:09:37.060 Mhm