JustPearlyThings - April 22, 2023


She Would NEVER Do This For Her Husband


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

191.61807

Word Count

1,457

Sentence Count

149

Misogynist Sentences

9

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Social media has such a grip on people nowadays.
00:00:02.160 It hasn't been around for that long.
00:00:03.720 It's only, what, nine, ten?
00:00:05.580 Imagine saying that a ten-year-old controls your life
00:00:07.620 and it isn't your child.
00:00:08.780 That is crazy to me.
00:00:10.280 Like, yeah, fair enough, I'll go on social media.
00:00:12.140 Most days, I'm just scrolling.
00:00:13.340 When you actually really think about what it is that you're doing,
00:00:16.440 unless you're a full-time content creator now
00:00:19.640 or some form of celebrity where you need to have that level of engagement,
00:00:23.340 to my mind, now, if you're just on there,
00:00:25.600 going like this with your thumb, scrolling on the glass,
00:00:28.720 you're wasting your time.
00:00:30.900 No, I wouldn't, if I was like that,
00:00:32.980 like just scrolling and, you know, wasting my time,
00:00:35.360 I wouldn't even care if I wanted to delete my Instagram, to be honest.
00:00:38.480 If you're meant to ask for it, you're going to delete it, isn't it?
00:00:40.420 Yeah, 100%.
00:00:41.360 What about girls' trips?
00:00:43.340 Would you give up girls' trips?
00:00:44.880 100%.
00:00:45.520 Yes, but I love my girls' trips.
00:00:49.340 Actually, tonight, when I go home, I'm going to ask him.
00:00:52.620 Is he going to go on a holiday?
00:00:54.200 I'm going to ask him if there's one thing he wants me to give up on,
00:00:59.360 what would it be?
00:01:00.540 I don't know.
00:01:01.000 I should ask him tonight.
00:01:02.040 I think you should.
00:01:02.900 Exactly.
00:01:04.340 What if he came back and said, now that you asked.
00:01:08.340 I've been thinking this and this.
00:01:13.500 Well, no, it's actually interesting.
00:01:15.600 You make me kind of like aware of what's going on.
00:01:17.980 What about plastic surgery?
00:01:18.800 Would you get plastic surgery for a guy?
00:01:20.540 If, like, I did my boob job because after I had Neda,
00:01:25.040 I just lost the fat because I lost weight.
00:01:27.620 And I did it for myself because I hated it and I wanted to do it.
00:01:31.740 But if I had to do it because of him, no, not really.
00:01:38.800 No.
00:01:39.540 I'm scared of plastic surgeries.
00:01:41.040 I mean, I did this 10 years ago, but now I'm getting older
00:01:43.320 and I'm scared of that sort of thing.
00:01:45.360 Okay.
00:01:46.340 Did you say what you would give up for a guy?
00:01:48.840 You know what?
00:01:49.360 Actually, this conversation made me think when I was younger,
00:01:53.080 we actually, we women, we do that.
00:01:55.420 We do give up things.
00:01:57.080 Why do we dress a certain way for men to look at us?
00:02:02.060 And I think there was times when I was too conscious of,
00:02:07.420 I want to be a certain way so I can get the attention from men.
00:02:12.280 But now that's not the case anymore.
00:02:14.260 That's why I can speak freely about this.
00:02:15.580 If I would get plastic surgery, no.
00:02:20.480 Giving up things like my social media, my career, yes.
00:02:27.400 But when it comes to, I don't know, it's just...
00:02:31.300 Well, I think it's the age as well.
00:02:33.220 Because now I'm thinking when it was about 20, 25,
00:02:36.300 and I had a boyfriend and I fell in love with him.
00:02:38.740 And to be honest, I would have done anything.
00:02:41.100 But not now.
00:02:42.320 Were you more in love then?
00:02:44.340 Probably.
00:02:45.400 Okay.
00:02:45.880 So it sounds like for the right guy, you would give up more.
00:02:52.200 Yeah.
00:02:53.320 I mean, I don't know.
00:02:54.760 Is it the age or am I wrong?
00:02:56.780 Is it the age?
00:02:57.760 I don't know.
00:02:58.300 It's just the opposite.
00:02:59.260 It's got to be the right guy now.
00:03:00.300 It can't be only the guy.
00:03:02.720 It should be your age as well.
00:03:04.400 Yeah, but I think for me it was the opposite.
00:03:06.120 I don't know, maybe I was raised by a feminist mom
00:03:09.540 and he was like,
00:03:10.420 don't get married, don't have kids,
00:03:11.800 don't do what you want.
00:03:13.220 I know.
00:03:14.500 No, but she's very happy.
00:03:15.640 She's got a granddaughter.
00:03:16.940 I'm the only one out of her four kids
00:03:18.420 who's given her a grandchild.
00:03:20.080 Could it be because when you get older,
00:03:22.000 when you get more experience and you get more confident,
00:03:24.860 you kind of feel like, why do I have to do that?
00:03:27.620 Maybe because you don't love you that much.
00:03:30.080 If I did have that mindset.
00:03:30.960 I don't think it's love only.
00:03:34.720 I don't think I should do something because
00:03:36.660 I should do my boob job because I love him
00:03:38.960 and he wants me to do it.
00:03:39.900 I don't call it love.
00:03:41.280 If he would really, truly love me,
00:03:43.700 he would love me the way I look.
00:03:45.500 Yeah, that wouldn't be my ideal man.
00:03:48.700 I've got a second there, you know.
00:03:49.940 He would not want me to have a...
00:03:51.120 I just don't like any of that stuff anyway, but so...
00:03:54.060 I think I call it I'm more mature
00:03:57.320 in terms of making decisions
00:04:00.380 rather than just because someone...
00:04:02.160 Like a cougar.
00:04:02.760 Maybe I would have...
00:04:03.880 Like, I have...
00:04:05.060 Maybe I would have tell him...
00:04:06.580 Wait, wait, wait.
00:04:07.620 Blessing.
00:04:08.060 I have to give a statement.
00:04:12.320 Okay, is King...
00:04:13.420 Is Michael here?
00:04:16.200 Can you see if he'll take the show
00:04:17.760 for like while I go do it?
00:04:19.320 I have to give a police statement,
00:04:20.680 I guess, for the lady.
00:04:21.320 She called the police.
00:04:22.140 Oh, I'm so sorry, pal.
00:04:24.380 Serious?
00:04:25.000 Yeah, but...
00:04:26.100 Guys, we're going to get King Richie's
00:04:28.240 to take over the show.
00:04:29.760 Yes, King.
00:04:31.340 It's ridiculous.
00:04:33.460 Seriously?
00:04:34.160 She called the police?
00:04:34.840 Yeah, I guess.
00:04:36.000 She couldn't just...
00:04:36.460 Lord have mercy.
00:04:38.180 Are you sure it's not a crackhead
00:04:39.420 in a police outfit?
00:04:40.220 No.
00:04:44.160 What's going on?
00:04:45.540 What's going on?
00:04:46.420 I was right when I told her,
00:04:47.740 calm down,
00:04:48.300 when she spoke to me
00:04:49.040 in a certain time.
00:04:49.620 I saw her
00:04:50.620 and it was getting a bit spicy.
00:04:52.140 She was drunk already.
00:04:52.740 I've got to say.
00:04:53.440 She came here drunk.
00:04:54.360 Yeah.
00:04:54.640 For my side,
00:04:55.140 I just said calm down
00:04:56.080 and she went...
00:04:56.880 No, no, I'm just saying
00:04:57.660 that the environment
00:04:58.280 was just real spicy.
00:05:00.120 She just...
00:05:02.620 Yeah, she went off, man.
00:05:03.480 And then she was trying to say
00:05:04.380 that I said that
00:05:05.380 domestic abuse was okay.
00:05:07.180 I didn't even say...
00:05:08.060 I don't know where she got
00:05:08.980 these ideas.
00:05:10.700 I think she was late drunk.
00:05:12.040 It's in my head.
00:05:13.500 She was saying a lot of crazy things
00:05:14.900 and going off on random tangents as well
00:05:16.880 and just not even just listening.
00:05:18.580 So how tall are you?
00:05:19.620 I wanted to hear...
00:05:20.400 Before I go,
00:05:21.120 I wanted to hear...
00:05:21.920 So you said you had a feminist mother.
00:05:23.720 When did you...
00:05:24.460 Because you seem actually pretty based.
00:05:27.040 Yeah.
00:05:27.540 That's now.
00:05:27.940 So I'm like,
00:05:28.400 you don't scream like feminism to me.
00:05:30.680 No, because I rebelled against my mom finally.
00:05:34.260 Well, yeah.
00:05:36.080 I was born 1980.
00:05:38.020 So I grew up in the 90s
00:05:39.720 and yeah,
00:05:40.980 moving from Iran to Sweden,
00:05:43.740 it was...
00:05:44.100 My mom was like,
00:05:44.540 woohoo, freedom.
00:05:46.420 Do what you want.
00:05:47.700 Was your mom a single mother?
00:05:48.820 Yeah.
00:05:50.140 Yeah,
00:05:50.560 they split up when I was 12.
00:05:52.060 Okay.
00:05:52.500 She divorced my dad
00:05:53.320 and had two jobs,
00:05:54.440 two, three jobs
00:05:55.220 and, you know,
00:05:56.080 really tried to provide for us.
00:05:57.260 Really good mom.
00:05:58.000 Amazing.
00:05:58.440 I love her.
00:05:59.640 But she really...
00:06:01.020 I said to her,
00:06:01.520 my only complaint was like,
00:06:02.580 you raised me based on ideologies
00:06:04.080 that you had.
00:06:04.940 not, you know,
00:06:06.060 I never really got you.
00:06:08.100 It was more
00:06:08.720 what you believed in
00:06:10.600 about, you know,
00:06:11.080 being a feminist,
00:06:11.800 being an atheist.
00:06:14.840 So yeah,
00:06:15.560 and I,
00:06:16.400 yeah,
00:06:18.100 I'm definitely not a feminist.
00:06:19.380 So I'm curious,
00:06:22.040 do you feel,
00:06:22.660 did your mom ever get remarried?
00:06:24.680 No,
00:06:25.180 she was with someone
00:06:26.120 for like 20 years,
00:06:27.440 but not,
00:06:27.840 she didn't get remarried.
00:06:28.960 Oh,
00:06:29.180 okay.
00:06:29.540 So it's,
00:06:30.000 I was just wondering
00:06:30.920 if she had a better outcome or not.
00:06:32.760 I've always wondered about that
00:06:34.040 when,
00:06:34.620 sorry,
00:06:35.160 my goodness.
00:06:35.920 No,
00:06:36.300 and that's not direct to you personally,
00:06:37.940 but,
00:06:38.300 because I grew up single parent home,
00:06:39.800 but I've always wondered
00:06:41.080 where they tell their,
00:06:42.200 they were out there
00:06:42.780 working two,
00:06:43.580 three jobs.
00:06:44.300 Yeah.
00:06:44.660 I was single mom
00:06:45.180 and then telling her daughter
00:06:46.500 to go out and do the same.
00:06:47.500 I just,
00:06:48.040 I don't understand how,
00:06:49.640 I just didn't get it,
00:06:50.900 man.
00:06:51.240 Did not make sense.
00:06:51.680 I mean,
00:06:51.960 I've worked two,
00:06:53.020 three jobs before
00:06:54.000 and it's not fun.
00:06:54.520 Guys,
00:06:54.560 I have to go give a police statement,
00:06:56.360 so,
00:06:56.940 I have to go give a police statement,
00:07:00.000 so I'm going to let you host
00:07:00.880 for a second.
00:07:01.420 Oh,
00:07:01.640 wow.
00:07:02.740 Yeah,
00:07:03.020 this is,
00:07:04.020 this is King Rich's.
00:07:05.320 He's,
00:07:05.700 he's one of the most talented.
00:07:08.860 Hello.
00:07:09.620 Hi.
00:07:11.620 He has a show,
00:07:12.740 anyways.
00:07:13.000 We're talking about
00:07:15.500 what would you give up
00:07:16.200 for the right guy.
00:07:17.240 Oh,
00:07:17.920 that work.
00:07:18.680 As many of you know,
00:07:21.080 I was just banned on TikTok
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