JustPearlyThings - April 22, 2023


She Would NEVER Do This For Her Husband


Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

191.61807

Word count

1,457

Sentence count

149

Harmful content

Misogyny

9

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Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about what we would give up for a guy and how we would change our lives if we had to. We also talk about how we feel about social media and the impact it can have on our mental health.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Social media has such a grip on people nowadays.
00:00:02.160 It hasn't been around for that long.
00:00:03.720 It's only, what, nine, ten?
00:00:05.580 Imagine saying that a ten-year-old controls your life
00:00:07.620 and it isn't your child.
00:00:08.780 That is crazy to me.
00:00:10.280 Like, yeah, fair enough, I'll go on social media.
00:00:12.140 Most days, I'm just scrolling.
00:00:13.340 When you actually really think about what it is that you're doing,
00:00:16.440 unless you're a full-time content creator now
00:00:19.640 or some form of celebrity where you need to have that level of engagement,
00:00:23.340 to my mind, now, if you're just on there,
00:00:25.600 going like this with your thumb, scrolling on the glass,
00:00:28.720 you're wasting your time.
00:00:30.900 No, I wouldn't, if I was like that,
00:00:32.980 like just scrolling and, you know, wasting my time,
00:00:35.360 I wouldn't even care if I wanted to delete my Instagram, to be honest.
00:00:38.480 If you're meant to ask for it, you're going to delete it, isn't it?
00:00:40.420 Yeah, 100%.
00:00:41.360 What about girls' trips?
00:00:43.340 Would you give up girls' trips?
00:00:44.880 100%.
00:00:45.520 Yes, but I love my girls' trips. 0.93
00:00:49.340 Actually, tonight, when I go home, I'm going to ask him.
00:00:52.620 Is he going to go on a holiday?
00:00:54.200 I'm going to ask him if there's one thing he wants me to give up on,
00:00:59.360 what would it be?
00:01:00.540 I don't know.
00:01:01.000 I should ask him tonight.
00:01:02.040 I think you should.
00:01:02.900 Exactly.
00:01:04.340 What if he came back and said, now that you asked.
00:01:08.340 I've been thinking this and this.
00:01:13.500 Well, no, it's actually interesting.
00:01:15.600 You make me kind of like aware of what's going on.
00:01:17.980 What about plastic surgery?
00:01:18.800 Would you get plastic surgery for a guy?
00:01:20.540 If, like, I did my boob job because after I had Neda,
00:01:25.040 I just lost the fat because I lost weight.
00:01:27.620 And I did it for myself because I hated it and I wanted to do it.
00:01:31.740 But if I had to do it because of him, no, not really.
00:01:38.800 No.
00:01:39.540 I'm scared of plastic surgeries.
00:01:41.040 I mean, I did this 10 years ago, but now I'm getting older
00:01:43.320 and I'm scared of that sort of thing.
00:01:45.360 Okay.
00:01:46.340 Did you say what you would give up for a guy?
00:01:48.840 You know what?
00:01:49.360 Actually, this conversation made me think when I was younger,
00:01:53.080 we actually, we women, we do that. 1.00
00:01:55.420 We do give up things.
00:01:57.080 Why do we dress a certain way for men to look at us?
00:02:02.060 And I think there was times when I was too conscious of,
00:02:07.420 I want to be a certain way so I can get the attention from men.
00:02:12.280 But now that's not the case anymore.
00:02:14.260 That's why I can speak freely about this.
00:02:15.580 If I would get plastic surgery, no.
00:02:20.480 Giving up things like my social media, my career, yes.
00:02:27.400 But when it comes to, I don't know, it's just...
00:02:31.300 Well, I think it's the age as well.
00:02:33.220 Because now I'm thinking when it was about 20, 25,
00:02:36.300 and I had a boyfriend and I fell in love with him.
00:02:38.740 And to be honest, I would have done anything.
00:02:41.100 But not now.
00:02:42.320 Were you more in love then?
00:02:44.340 Probably.
00:02:45.400 Okay.
00:02:45.880 So it sounds like for the right guy, you would give up more.
00:02:52.200 Yeah.
00:02:53.320 I mean, I don't know.
00:02:54.760 Is it the age or am I wrong?
00:02:56.780 Is it the age?
00:02:57.760 I don't know.
00:02:58.300 It's just the opposite.
00:02:59.260 It's got to be the right guy now.
00:03:00.300 It can't be only the guy.
00:03:02.720 It should be your age as well.
00:03:04.400 Yeah, but I think for me it was the opposite.
00:03:06.120 I don't know, maybe I was raised by a feminist mom 1.00
00:03:09.540 and he was like,
00:03:10.420 don't get married, don't have kids,
00:03:11.800 don't do what you want.
00:03:13.220 I know.
00:03:14.500 No, but she's very happy.
00:03:15.640 She's got a granddaughter. 0.65
00:03:16.940 I'm the only one out of her four kids
00:03:18.420 who's given her a grandchild.
00:03:20.080 Could it be because when you get older,
00:03:22.000 when you get more experience and you get more confident,
00:03:24.860 you kind of feel like, why do I have to do that?
00:03:27.620 Maybe because you don't love you that much.
00:03:30.080 If I did have that mindset.
00:03:30.960 I don't think it's love only.
00:03:34.720 I don't think I should do something because
00:03:36.660 I should do my boob job because I love him
00:03:38.960 and he wants me to do it.
00:03:39.900 I don't call it love.
00:03:41.280 If he would really, truly love me,
00:03:43.700 he would love me the way I look.
00:03:45.500 Yeah, that wouldn't be my ideal man.
00:03:48.700 I've got a second there, you know.
00:03:49.940 He would not want me to have a...
00:03:51.120 I just don't like any of that stuff anyway, but so...
00:03:54.060 I think I call it I'm more mature
00:03:57.320 in terms of making decisions
00:04:00.380 rather than just because someone...
00:04:02.160 Like a cougar.
00:04:02.760 Maybe I would have...
00:04:03.880 Like, I have...
00:04:05.060 Maybe I would have tell him...
00:04:06.580 Wait, wait, wait.
00:04:07.620 Blessing.
00:04:08.060 I have to give a statement.
00:04:12.320 Okay, is King...
00:04:13.420 Is Michael here?
00:04:16.200 Can you see if he'll take the show
00:04:17.760 for like while I go do it?
00:04:19.320 I have to give a police statement,
00:04:20.680 I guess, for the lady. 0.89
00:04:21.320 She called the police.
00:04:22.140 Oh, I'm so sorry, pal.
00:04:24.380 Serious?
00:04:25.000 Yeah, but...
00:04:26.100 Guys, we're going to get King Richie's
00:04:28.240 to take over the show.
00:04:29.760 Yes, King.
00:04:31.340 It's ridiculous.
00:04:33.460 Seriously?
00:04:34.160 She called the police?
00:04:34.840 Yeah, I guess.
00:04:36.000 She couldn't just...
00:04:36.460 Lord have mercy.
00:04:38.180 Are you sure it's not a crackhead
00:04:39.420 in a police outfit?
00:04:40.220 No.
00:04:44.160 What's going on?
00:04:45.540 What's going on?
00:04:46.420 I was right when I told her,
00:04:47.740 calm down,
00:04:48.300 when she spoke to me
00:04:49.040 in a certain time.
00:04:49.620 I saw her
00:04:50.620 and it was getting a bit spicy.
00:04:52.140 She was drunk already.
00:04:52.740 I've got to say.
00:04:53.440 She came here drunk. 1.00
00:04:54.360 Yeah.
00:04:54.640 For my side,
00:04:55.140 I just said calm down
00:04:56.080 and she went...
00:04:56.880 No, no, I'm just saying
00:04:57.660 that the environment
00:04:58.280 was just real spicy.
00:05:00.120 She just...
00:05:02.620 Yeah, she went off, man.
00:05:03.480 And then she was trying to say
00:05:04.380 that I said that
00:05:05.380 domestic abuse was okay. 0.97
00:05:07.180 I didn't even say...
00:05:08.060 I don't know where she got
00:05:08.980 these ideas.
00:05:10.700 I think she was late drunk.
00:05:12.040 It's in my head.
00:05:13.500 She was saying a lot of crazy things
00:05:14.900 and going off on random tangents as well
00:05:16.880 and just not even just listening.
00:05:18.580 So how tall are you?
00:05:19.620 I wanted to hear...
00:05:20.400 Before I go,
00:05:21.120 I wanted to hear...
00:05:21.920 So you said you had a feminist mother. 1.00
00:05:23.720 When did you...
00:05:24.460 Because you seem actually pretty based.
00:05:27.040 Yeah.
00:05:27.540 That's now.
00:05:27.940 So I'm like,
00:05:28.400 you don't scream like feminism to me. 1.00
00:05:30.680 No, because I rebelled against my mom finally.
00:05:34.260 Well, yeah.
00:05:36.080 I was born 1980.
00:05:38.020 So I grew up in the 90s
00:05:39.720 and yeah,
00:05:40.980 moving from Iran to Sweden,
00:05:43.740 it was...
00:05:44.100 My mom was like,
00:05:44.540 woohoo, freedom.
00:05:46.420 Do what you want.
00:05:47.700 Was your mom a single mother?
00:05:48.820 Yeah.
00:05:50.140 Yeah,
00:05:50.560 they split up when I was 12.
00:05:52.060 Okay.
00:05:52.500 She divorced my dad
00:05:53.320 and had two jobs,
00:05:54.440 two, three jobs
00:05:55.220 and, you know,
00:05:56.080 really tried to provide for us.
00:05:57.260 Really good mom.
00:05:58.000 Amazing.
00:05:58.440 I love her.
00:05:59.640 But she really...
00:06:01.020 I said to her,
00:06:01.520 my only complaint was like,
00:06:02.580 you raised me based on ideologies
00:06:04.080 that you had.
00:06:04.940 not, you know,
00:06:06.060 I never really got you.
00:06:08.100 It was more
00:06:08.720 what you believed in
00:06:10.600 about, you know,
00:06:11.080 being a feminist,
00:06:11.800 being an atheist.
00:06:14.840 So yeah,
00:06:15.560 and I,
00:06:16.400 yeah,
00:06:18.100 I'm definitely not a feminist. 0.99
00:06:19.380 So I'm curious,
00:06:22.040 do you feel,
00:06:22.660 did your mom ever get remarried?
00:06:24.680 No,
00:06:25.180 she was with someone
00:06:26.120 for like 20 years,
00:06:27.440 but not,
00:06:27.840 she didn't get remarried.
00:06:28.960 Oh,
00:06:29.180 okay.
00:06:29.540 So it's,
00:06:30.000 I was just wondering
00:06:30.920 if she had a better outcome or not.
00:06:32.760 I've always wondered about that
00:06:34.040 when,
00:06:34.620 sorry,
00:06:35.160 my goodness.
00:06:35.920 No,
00:06:36.300 and that's not direct to you personally,
00:06:37.940 but,
00:06:38.300 because I grew up single parent home,
00:06:39.800 but I've always wondered
00:06:41.080 where they tell their,
00:06:42.200 they were out there
00:06:42.780 working two,
00:06:43.580 three jobs.
00:06:44.300 Yeah.
00:06:44.660 I was single mom
00:06:45.180 and then telling her daughter
00:06:46.500 to go out and do the same.
00:06:47.500 I just,
00:06:48.040 I don't understand how,
00:06:49.640 I just didn't get it,
00:06:50.900 man.
00:06:51.240 Did not make sense.
00:06:51.680 I mean,
00:06:51.960 I've worked two,
00:06:53.020 three jobs before
00:06:54.000 and it's not fun.
00:06:54.520 Guys,
00:06:54.560 I have to go give a police statement,
00:06:56.360 so,
00:06:56.940 I have to go give a police statement,
00:07:00.000 so I'm going to let you host
00:07:00.880 for a second.
00:07:01.420 Oh,
00:07:01.640 wow.
00:07:02.740 Yeah,
00:07:03.020 this is,
00:07:04.020 this is King Rich's.
00:07:05.320 He's,
00:07:05.700 he's one of the most talented.
00:07:08.860 Hello.
00:07:09.620 Hi.
00:07:11.620 He has a show,
00:07:12.740 anyways.
00:07:13.000 We're talking about
00:07:15.500 what would you give up
00:07:16.200 for the right guy.
00:07:17.240 Oh,
00:07:17.920 that work.
00:07:18.680 As many of you know,
00:07:21.080 I was just banned on TikTok
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