JustPearlyThings - Single Mother COULD NOT Answer This Question

00:00:00.000 you know what um auntie said she said that um last time she was on the show i don't know if

00:00:06.180 you guys probably i don't know if you've seen clips with her she's like this um 50 something 0.50

00:00:10.600 year old auntie that's just like yeah she's so funny and she said that um i i knew a couple that

00:00:17.160 like where he worked and she worked and she would just come home and give the money to her husband 1.00

00:00:20.920 all these women say that they can't trust the man with the money but they trust them with their 1.00

00:00:25.220 bodies and my body's a lot more valuable than some money that's true but i can i can um if me

00:00:32.640 and my husband are working i'm happy to put my money in a joint account for and to give it to him

00:00:37.640 though i don't think the kind of man i'll be with would want it to be seen like that he would probably

00:00:42.620 just i think in my head i could be wrong but i just what i i wouldn't mind in my home is we sit down

00:00:49.000 we plan and he says you are only allowed to spend this amount of your money you have to put the rest

00:00:54.040 in savings i'm okay with that so you you don't mind being the constant because essentially even

00:01:00.540 though you're putting into one pot you're the breadwinner no no no no we're saying that we're

00:01:04.360 talking about how we manage our money so he he i was i won't use the word control you know

00:01:08.920 i don't like saying words but i wouldn't use the word control i'll say but he has a final say

00:01:13.260 on how i spend i'm okay with that if he said with you earning more no even if he was earning more

00:01:19.560 i'm just making a comment what she said about managing money that was the same thing

00:01:26.680 so so you like let's say you earn 100k i don't know what you mean let's just say you earn 100k he

00:01:32.500 makes 55 no if he was earning like he's a hard-working man he's a fireman i wouldn't be

00:01:40.260 with someone who's a fireman though why shout out to the firemen but it's not why but why not like

00:01:46.760 that that could be like a masculine guy it's a good job no no no no no see let's even leave the

00:01:52.560 money side of things i i don't want to be thinking i hope he's okay where he is oh okay i can't deal

00:01:58.980 with this to do the safety of the job yeah yeah being a police officer all of that i i you know

00:02:04.000 i respect women that are with those guys let's say plumber okay let's let's change it to plumber 1.00

00:02:08.460 it wasn't about they make money anyway so um no 55 you know you know what i'm i'm i'm a mom so we

00:02:16.280 do have to make certain like the truth of the matter is we have to compromise a little bit i could be

00:02:23.200 with a plumber who's on 50k if he had a plan to not always be on that 50k

00:02:27.780 but it's hard now this isn't build a bomb the same build i was just about to say i was just

00:02:34.080 about to say that it's hard you the biggest mistake we women make is we date potential 1.00

00:02:39.380 yeah yeah and hope yeah so it's like yeah but so the answer the answer is no yeah i don't think

00:02:45.620 that's a i don't think that's a mistake i have a problem with this though because a lot of women 1.00

00:02:49.400 seem to do this quite a lot it's like every woman wants a man to to be rich and successful 0.97

00:02:54.000 no i don't know okay so because you said he needs to have a plan okay sorry sorry so i'm gonna i

00:03:00.100 know i'm interrupting you sorry but i think it's based on your age if i'm dating a guy who's like

00:03:05.320 if i decide to date younger i cannot expect him to be on certain salaries but if i'm dating a guy

00:03:10.060 and i think i prefer to date guys who are like 35 and up i should be seeing your progression by now

00:03:16.020 it shouldn't be a woulda coulda shoulda yeah but if i date the other end of the age group then

00:03:21.000 i can't expect you to have it all together 50k is still top for some people no but i'm saying

00:03:26.520 my point is for some people right but i'm saying like like 50k is still top i couldn't find it

00:03:33.320 exactly 50k is good but like 20 30 percent of income do you think you're you're top 20 30 percent

00:03:38.940 of women yeah what financially no i'm talking about what men value i've left that one to

00:03:44.980 say i've accepted my fate but what one thing is i i know my i know my person i know my traits

00:03:49.420 and i think as a woman you have to know your behavior i don't think that's a problem i think

00:03:53.120 and this is why i pulled it up because a lot of women seem to have this i don't want to find 0.96

00:03:57.020 a guy's potential whatever whatever the age if a guy's making around 55k we know the statistics

00:04:01.220 around what percentage of men make that money yeah so then how unrealistic is most women's 1.00

00:04:05.480 perspective on okay so i agree that some women think they should have certain things because 1.00

00:04:10.600 they see other women having it but you don't know what those women are doing to get what 1.00

00:04:15.120 they what they have i either they're working hard or the things they accept in their home

00:04:20.040 very true you can't even accept one percent of it so unless unless you have full knowledge

00:04:24.780 on people's situations don't ask for what you don't know what they're making 50 bags

00:04:29.220 well the moment i know they are no no no okay okay okay so by and large holistically

00:04:34.560 yeah fair but that's why i say that for me i can't be with a guy who's on 50k because i

00:04:40.700 know my traits i know my behavior and unfortunately i will start to resent him and i won't be happy

00:04:45.840 so why would i make another man's life miserable because i want to get in a relationship would you

00:04:50.940 would you rather be alone or be with a guy that makes significantly less you know logically 0.60

00:04:55.360 it makes sense for me to be with a guy that has money because i'll be paying less than one

00:04:59.060 i'm asking if like if that was your two choices i'm just curious i'll be on my um grace no you

00:05:05.480 wouldn't what if he's on 50k you like companionship no no no i like companionship but i i know what

00:05:11.900 i'm saying nothing if he's going to be on 50k all his life yeah yeah but imagine this what

00:05:17.620 you earn yeah and then you add 50k to that okay or nothing or you don't add anything at all

00:05:22.260 and this is what i always talk about about this 50k or these amounts right and this is why i don't

00:05:25.720 like talking about it because i think it's unfair let's say me and my husband now decide to go on

00:05:29.980 go halves right we go 50 50 he's on 50k i'm on 100 and whatever he's feeling that money he's putting

00:05:36.620 down more than i am right but because of the kind of man i want to be with he's probably going to say

00:05:41.340 i have to at least contribute half he is gonna in within his within himself and then i come tomorrow

00:05:46.140 and go babes when are we going on holiday he's thinking bruh i'm already paying half you know i want

00:05:49.920 to go on holiday again so you'd actually rather be by yourself i'd rather be with a guy who is

00:05:54.860 working towards something that's not what she said i know that's what he said i'm going to answer the

00:05:59.260 question okay no no i'm answering the question i'd rather i'd rather stay on my own and wait for

00:06:03.860 someone that i can see going up no there's no way there's no way no i'll be on my own for now

00:06:08.840 you'd rather be yeah i know what i've been through yeah but i think it's like easy to say that when

00:06:13.140 you're still young young and attractive but like when you're when you're 60 and maybe like maybe the

00:06:18.340 clock starts i think when you're older anyway you don't you like i said we've spoken about this when

00:06:23.220 you're older i feel like when you get married and all that stuff you're not marrying for help or

00:06:27.100 financial you're marrying for companionship yeah but that's that's what i'm saying like like women 1.00

00:06:31.460 as women i don't think we think about the second half of our lives like we're all gonna live probably

00:06:36.560 to be 90 so and your looks are gone at what if you're lucky you might get 50 but like you're no

00:06:43.220 guys really checking for 50 year olds so like what are we going to do the second half of our lives

00:06:48.680 i think is it fair to say is it fair to say that because arguably you know you you you're still very

00:06:58.120 much competitive in the market you're like okay well i'm still gonna i'm still gonna maintain these

00:07:03.880 standards because i believe it's still very much achievable but then i don't know in like 15 years

00:07:08.240 time you might be like okay maybe i should actually focus on having a companion as opposed to how much

00:07:12.240 yeah yeah my needs will be different then right because yeah so right now my needs are different but

00:07:16.960 i think my beliefs and my way of thinking is based on my traumas and experience not that i'm still

00:07:22.960 holding my traumas or whatever i've let go i'm i'm good but right now i'm i'm so stubborn in my mindset

00:07:28.800 of i don't want to make certain mistakes i'd rather be patient because i think i was very impatient

00:07:33.500 i think a lot of the situations i found myself is my lack of patience so now i'm trying patience

00:07:39.420 do you understand so this is the approach i'm taking do you think anything happens like you

00:07:44.600 accomplish anything through patience like do you know i'm saying like yeah like wouldn't you say

00:07:48.700 success is hard work and like like getting what you want you have to work at it and go for it

00:07:53.900 rather than just like hoping it comes to you i'm just i'm just talking about what i've been for

00:07:58.340 germany and i think some of the things that i think maybe if i was patient more patient i might not

00:08:02.180 got married to the person i got married to if i was more patient to pay attention to the certain

00:08:06.900 things i would have picked up certain things and certain things wouldn't happen that's why i'm

00:08:10.000 saying i'm taking on patience during this journey yeah okay um i think i'm gonna close out the show

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JustPearlyThings - April 09, 2023

Single Mother COULD NOT Answer This Question

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