Single Mother gets asked this DIFFICULT Question
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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, cheating in marriage, cheating outside of a relationship, and cheating in a family. We also talk about cheating in the workplace and how to deal with cheating in your family.
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Can I just be, like, can I just be frank, yeah?
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If you're willing to have a kid outside of relationship, yeah,
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like, isn't it, like, incumbent on me to not necessarily take you seriously?
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Because you don't want to lock me down in terms of marriage, yeah?
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So that means you're willing to leave me at any point in time
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if you have a disagreement with me or you're not really feeling what I'm doing.
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Why would a girl be worried about who I'm with?
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Like, if she knows that you like her in a sexual way.
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If you've been together, like, five or six years, I think, like, you know,
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I think he would be bothered about who I was with,
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like, whether we were not in a committed relationship.
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Yeah, I get that, but I can't judge you, though,
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and I can't be, like, you know, like, I could think,
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do you know what, my girl, there's no way I've been with my girl for six years
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But if she's able to, I don't want to say, I'm not encouraging no girl out here.
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Do you not think there's anyone that doesn't cheat?
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Like, do you not think there are people out here that exist that don't cheat?
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What, are they wearing fairy wings or something?
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So anytime, like, I'm just prepared for you, the cheaty to cheat on me.
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But at the same time, if you, there's preparation and being, like, realistic.
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Like, I wasn't blind to the fact of who my son's father was.
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If I got back with him, I wouldn't be like, oh, no.
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But I think his point is, like, cheating is something that can be worked through.
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And so it's like, it kind of goes back to the me, me, me culture where it's, like, my feelings before anything.
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But so I think it's a little different outside of a relationship.
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Like, when you're dating, you can pick what you want, what you don't want.
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But, like, when it comes to having kids, it's, like, it's supposed to be the family before you.
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You find out that your, your missus, yeah, has been getting with her work husband.
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Are you getting, are you, are you getting a divorce?
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But isn't it okay to, like, show him in your house?
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Give him fellatio while he's pulling in the head.
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Wait, wait, he just said, wait, wait, let him answer.
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So, wait, your answer is you're going to cheat back?
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I think that female cheating is worse than male cheating.
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However, I think female cheating is 100 times worse than male cheating.
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If she's sober and she does it and there's like explicit stuff going on, then it's harder
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to take than if she was just doing a little missionary like.
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But to my point, though, it's like, I wouldn't like, okay, why do we necessarily have the same
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rules for modern day relationships, yeah, than traditional relationships?
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Like, back in the day, yes, we expect everyone to stay together because we were going to get
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So why do you still expect me to be like an old school guy that's faithful and that?
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Whatever somebody, like, I can't expect because that's where people get let down and hurt
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My expectations back then were so high of, like, what my feelings needed.
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So is it fair of you, like, would you want to have someone that's monogamous now?
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Um, I believe that men can choose to be monogamous.
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Do I believe that it's easy for a man to be monogamous?
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Do you think it's fair to want that when you have kids from two different fathers?
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Well, it depends on what he, you mean into monogamy?
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And if he wants an open relationship, because I've explored the idea of polyamory and polygamy
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I wouldn't write it out and I wouldn't rule it out and rule anything out.
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It's a discussion that I would have to have depending on the relationship with that person.
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Because I just, I just find it that like ladies, they're more of the kind of people
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So it would be like, she'll be so quick to leave the relationship if she wanted to get
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rid of me and start something fresh, which is completely okay.
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I'm not trying to, I'm not trying to leave my girl because, you know what I'm trying to
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Okay, so it's different how we view sex in terms of genders.
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Yeah, but men get castigated regardless if they step outside, let's say.
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I mean, I don't think you should do that in marriage, honestly, but if we're in this
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relationship, quote unquote, yeah, we're together, then.
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So you would rather, like, so you would say that you're more polygamous than.
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So I, I'm of the opinion that I would rather have wives with an S than have girls.
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Like, if I was to ask all four of you girls right now, is it okay for me to be single
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and sleep with 20 girls if they're completely consentful, if I want to?
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So why can't I do it with four wives that I want to look after?
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Can I ask, why wouldn't you be satisfied with one wife?
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Would you be satisfied with eating vanilla flavor ice cream all your life?
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What if that woman that you, um, was not vanilla, she was like some spicy chili taco?
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I mean, no, no, no, that's literally the point.
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So I love, I love water because it hydrates me.
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I wouldn't, I would die if I did not have water.
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But that don't mean I don't want to get a marinda sometimes.
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Like, I'm not, I'm not going to live on marinda, but do you know what I'm trying to say?
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Yeah, I get what you're saying, but sometimes you can get that with the same chick.
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There's a phrase that, yeah, there's a phrase that they say.
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Yeah, because it, so it doesn't really matter what you do.
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That's what, when I asked my previous, why, like, this was like, years after we weren't
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And he was like, it's just different vagina.
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I mean, he's not the most, he's really, really logical.
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So, I mean, he's not like outwardly emotional anyway.
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So obviously he wasn't emotionally monogamous to me because he did have another whole relationship.
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But, I mean, like for me to look at and be like, oh, he's really in love with that person.
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Does it hurt being, finding out that someone, depending on someone else's vagina, of course?
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If I'm going on for the same example with the water, just because I like Miranda, that
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does not diminish water, the feelings I have for water in any way.
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So, for me to think like that, it took me many years to really put myself in the mind
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I was thinking from my heart, not from a man's penis.
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The idea of having four wives might sound good, yeah.
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So, you've got to maintain all four wives.
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You've got to maintain four different households.
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It's the same as if I had four baby mothers.
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Instead of putting your money in an ISA bank, you put it in a house and you get the wife.
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It's like almost employing an employee when you have four wives.
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I mean, to be fair, like that's been done throughout all of history always.
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8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man.
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But it's kind of like, how am I supposed to look at the world and say, don't do what you've always done?
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Maintaining four different relationships is a headache.
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If I'm pissed off with Michelle, I'm not pissed off with Angela.
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I just take a couple days out because I'm over here.
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