JustPearlyThings - April 17, 2023


Single Mother gets asked this DIFFICULT Question

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Michelle Angela Baird Mary
She tried To Slither Her way Through This Topic Delusional Woman Reveals Her Hypocrisy

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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

213.52

Word count

2,289

Sentence count

285

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

20

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Hate speech

15

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, cheating in marriage, cheating outside of a relationship, and cheating in a family. We also talk about cheating in the workplace and how to deal with cheating in your family.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Can I just be, like, can I just be frank, yeah?
00:00:01.680 If you're willing to have a kid outside of relationship, yeah,
00:00:05.700 like, isn't it, like, incumbent on me to not necessarily take you seriously?
00:00:11.120 Because you don't want to lock me down in terms of marriage, yeah?
00:00:13.740 So that means you're willing to leave me at any point in time
00:00:16.640 if you have a disagreement with me or you're not really feeling what I'm doing.
00:00:19.620 So there's a lack of attachment there.
00:00:21.660 So why are you worried about who I'm with?
00:00:23.920 Like, who else I'm with?
00:00:25.180 Who are you talking to here?
00:00:26.460 No, just in general.
00:00:27.380 Oh.
00:00:28.020 Why would a girl be worried about who I'm with?
00:00:30.000 It depends on the situation.
00:00:33.980 What?
00:00:34.480 Like, if she knows that you like her in a sexual way.
00:00:40.880 If you've been together, like, five or six years, I think, like, you know,
00:00:44.820 I think he would be bothered about who I was with,
00:00:47.600 like, whether we were not in a committed relationship.
00:00:50.920 Yeah, I get that, but I can't judge you, though,
00:00:52.840 and I can't be, like, you know, like, I could think,
00:00:54.940 do you know what, my girl, there's no way I've been with my girl for six years
00:00:57.260 and she ain't slipped up once, like.
00:00:59.260 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:59.680 Like, thinking in 2023.
00:01:01.660 But if she's able to, I don't want to say, I'm not encouraging no girl out here.
00:01:06.000 I'm not encouraging no girl out here. 1.00
00:01:07.460 Do you not think there's anyone that doesn't cheat?
00:01:10.260 Say that again?
00:01:10.820 Like, do you not think there are people out here that exist that don't cheat?
00:01:13.820 Yeah, of course.
00:01:14.560 But where are they?
00:01:15.300 What, are they wearing fairy wings or something?
00:01:16.520 Like, are they fasting right now?
00:01:21.840 Like, who are we talking about?
00:01:23.240 Like, do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:23.980 Like, what's going on?
00:01:25.200 Like, I know the games.
00:01:26.380 So anytime, like, I'm just prepared for you, the cheaty to cheat on me.
00:01:30.800 You can be prepared.
00:01:31.900 But at the same time, if you, there's preparation and being, like, realistic.
00:01:36.520 Like, I wasn't blind to the fact of who my son's father was.
00:01:40.120 And I'm still not blind.
00:01:41.180 If I got back with him, I wouldn't be like, oh, no.
00:01:43.800 Like, I see you.
00:01:45.200 I know you.
00:01:45.780 But I think his point is, like, cheating is something that can be worked through.
00:01:49.740 And we act like it's not.
00:01:51.140 Yeah.
00:01:52.460 And so it's like, it kind of goes back to the me, me, me culture where it's, like, my feelings before anything.
00:01:56.900 And, like, you know, you weren't married.
00:01:58.180 I don't think you had kids or anything, right?
00:02:00.120 Oh, no, no.
00:02:00.680 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:01.040 But so I think it's a little different outside of a relationship.
00:02:03.400 Like, when you're dating, you can pick what you want, what you don't want.
00:02:05.800 But, like, when it comes to having kids, it's, like, it's supposed to be the family before you.
00:02:09.480 All right.
00:02:09.720 Question, Amiri.
00:02:10.880 Yeah, I was going to be under the end.
00:02:11.500 Question, question.
00:02:12.140 You're married, yeah?
00:02:13.080 Yeah.
00:02:13.280 You find out that your, your missus, yeah, has been getting with her work husband. 0.55
00:02:19.020 Oh, hell no.
00:02:20.300 Yeah.
00:02:20.840 Oh, so you're leaving.
00:02:21.940 Oh, my God, no, please.
00:02:23.280 And you see a video of her.
00:02:24.640 Oh, my God.
00:02:25.740 I'm giving him a heart attack.
00:02:26.860 Is that what happened to you? 0.82
00:02:28.100 They didn't have sex, though, just head.
00:02:30.780 And he's holding a hair.
00:02:32.140 Are you getting, are you, are you getting a divorce?
00:02:34.140 Oh, my God.
00:02:35.380 You've got kids as well.
00:02:36.340 You've got kids.
00:02:37.500 I'm not getting a divorce.
00:02:37.820 But isn't it okay to, like, show him in your house?
00:02:39.900 I'm doing something, bro.
00:02:40.700 I'm doing something, bro.
00:02:41.560 Are you getting a divorce?
00:02:42.320 I'm doing something.
00:02:43.280 We're in a divorce, bro.
00:02:44.500 Is it okay to, like, show him in your house?
00:02:46.560 It's okay.
00:02:47.340 No, man.
00:02:47.740 Do you hear what he said?
00:02:48.740 Would you forgive him? 1.00
00:02:49.400 Give him fellatio while he's pulling in the head. 1.00
00:02:50.680 Can it be work for you? 1.00
00:02:51.920 I thought it could be work for you, bro.
00:02:53.100 Can it be work for you?
00:02:53.960 Wait, wait, he just said, wait, wait, let him answer.
00:02:56.200 Go ahead.
00:02:56.460 I'm doing something, innit?
00:02:57.960 All right.
00:02:59.220 So, wait, your answer is you're going to cheat back?
00:03:01.720 No.
00:03:01.940 No.
00:03:02.040 He's going to commit a crime.
00:03:03.040 I'm going to commit a crime, bro. 0.70
00:03:04.740 I'm going to commit a crime.
00:03:06.080 This is crime worthy. 0.98
00:03:07.020 I think that female cheating is worse than male cheating. 1.00
00:03:10.360 It is. 0.71
00:03:10.920 It's so much worse.
00:03:13.300 Look at, I don't condone either.
00:03:15.840 The internet gets this wrong.
00:03:17.020 I don't say do either.
00:03:18.860 However, I think female cheating is 100 times worse than male cheating. 0.99
00:03:22.360 Because they mean it.
00:03:23.420 But it could still be worked for you.
00:03:24.180 Because they mean it.
00:03:24.780 There's a difference.
00:03:25.700 For the kids, yeah.
00:03:26.980 If it's kids, yeah.
00:03:28.280 If she's sober and she does it and there's like explicit stuff going on, then it's harder 0.93
00:03:32.820 to take than if she was just doing a little missionary like. 0.99
00:03:35.980 Is that what happened to you by any chance?
00:03:38.940 No, not me.
00:03:39.980 It was hypothetical.
00:03:41.720 Oh, wow.
00:03:42.500 Yeah, for me, good imagination.
00:03:45.920 Yeah, I'm doing something, man.
00:03:47.440 But to my point, though, it's like, I wouldn't like, okay, why do we necessarily have the same
00:03:54.120 rules for modern day relationships, yeah, than traditional relationships?
00:03:58.980 Like, back in the day, yes, we expect everyone to stay together because we were going to get
00:04:02.600 married.
00:04:03.220 Now everyone's doing their own thing.
00:04:04.840 Everyone's independent.
00:04:06.100 So why do you still expect me to be like an old school guy that's faithful and that?
00:04:11.740 I don't get it.
00:04:12.140 I didn't expect that.
00:04:13.540 Okay.
00:04:13.880 Oh, you don't expect.
00:04:14.560 I didn't expect.
00:04:15.380 I don't expect anything.
00:04:16.480 Whatever somebody, like, I can't expect because that's where people get let down and hurt
00:04:20.720 because their expectations.
00:04:21.780 My expectations back then were so high of, like, what my feelings needed.
00:04:27.480 I have a question.
00:04:29.160 This might be offensive.
00:04:31.980 I've not been offended.
00:04:34.800 So is it fair of you, like, would you want to have someone that's monogamous now?
00:04:41.360 Um, that's an interesting question.
00:04:47.080 Um, I believe that men can choose to be monogamous.
00:04:52.080 Do I believe that it's easy for a man to be monogamous?
00:04:54.640 No.
00:04:55.220 I'm asking for your next relationship.
00:04:57.580 Um, I would want that.
00:05:01.660 Yeah.
00:05:01.840 Do you think it's fair to want that when you have kids from two different fathers?
00:05:06.640 Yeah.
00:05:08.060 How, what does he get out of the deal?
00:05:10.600 Well, it depends on what he, you mean into monogamy?
00:05:13.840 I wouldn't be cheating.
00:05:15.140 Obviously.
00:05:15.580 And if he wants an open relationship, because I've explored the idea of polyamory and polygamy
00:05:19.900 as well.
00:05:20.380 And I've looked at all the dynamics.
00:05:22.440 I wouldn't write it out and I wouldn't rule it out and rule anything out.
00:05:25.460 It's a discussion that I would have to have depending on the relationship with that person.
00:05:29.340 Because I just, I just find it that like ladies, they're more of the kind of people 1.00
00:05:32.980 that will do one at a time, one at a time.
00:05:35.100 So it would be like, she'll be so quick to leave the relationship if she wanted to get 1.00
00:05:39.100 rid of me and start something fresh, which is completely okay.
00:05:42.040 But for me, how I work is different as a man.
00:05:44.300 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:05:44.840 I'm not trying to, I'm not trying to leave my girl because, you know what I'm trying to
00:05:48.640 say?
00:05:48.820 Okay, so it's different how we view sex in terms of genders.
00:05:53.720 Yeah, but men get castigated regardless if they step outside, let's say.
00:06:00.900 I mean, I don't think you should do that in marriage, honestly, but if we're in this
00:06:04.100 relationship, quote unquote, yeah, we're together, then.
00:06:07.800 So you would rather, like, so you would say that you're more polygamous than.
00:06:12.340 Oh, everyone knows this already.
00:06:13.640 I don't know this, that's why I'm asking.
00:06:17.080 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:18.820 Mary, educate, educate the panel. 0.98
00:06:22.320 Tell them, tell them.
00:06:23.100 Yes, please.
00:06:23.440 Yeah, I do.
00:06:23.940 That's an assumption that we would know.
00:06:25.500 All right.
00:06:25.820 So I, I'm of the opinion that I would rather have wives with an S than have girls. 1.00
00:06:34.600 Yeah.
00:06:35.000 I don't see why.
00:06:35.680 Like, if I was to ask all four of you girls right now, is it okay for me to be single
00:06:39.880 and sleep with 20 girls if they're completely consentful, if I want to? 0.90
00:06:43.340 You'd be like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:06:44.460 So why can't I do it with four wives that I want to look after? 1.00
00:06:46.580 I want to give them a house.
00:06:48.580 I want to marry them.
00:06:49.460 I want to nurture.
00:06:50.660 Why?
00:06:51.120 What's the problem?
00:06:51.620 I have friends that do that.
00:06:52.500 Can I ask, why wouldn't you be satisfied with one wife? 0.95
00:06:56.380 What do you mean?
00:06:56.920 Like, would you be satisfied with one wife?
00:06:58.840 Would you be satisfied with eating vanilla flavor ice cream all your life?
00:07:02.500 Oh.
00:07:02.680 Well, that's how you view women. 1.00
00:07:04.860 How have you?
00:07:05.660 No, that's no.
00:07:06.480 I'm just asking you a question.
00:07:07.320 Ice cream's good.
00:07:08.160 What if that woman that you, um, was not vanilla, she was like some spicy chili taco? 1.00
00:07:16.080 I mean, no, no, no, that's literally the point.
00:07:18.460 Who said it has to be vanilla? 0.72
00:07:19.760 It could be anything.
00:07:20.560 I'm not going to like, okay.
00:07:21.980 So I love, I love water because it hydrates me.
00:07:25.260 I wouldn't, I would die if I did not have water.
00:07:27.900 It's, it replenished me.
00:07:29.100 Like, like sometimes my lips are so dry.
00:07:31.340 I just need it.
00:07:32.120 And it keeps me alive.
00:07:34.220 But that don't mean I don't want to get a marinda sometimes.
00:07:36.320 Like, I'm not, I'm not going to live on marinda, but do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:07:39.600 Like.
00:07:40.160 Yeah, I get what you're saying, but sometimes you can get that with the same chick.
00:07:43.080 Like, she can be a, be a nurse one night.
00:07:45.600 The next night she could tie you up. 1.00
00:07:47.440 It's still the same vagina. 1.00
00:07:48.760 Yeah. 0.99
00:07:49.220 It's still the same vagina. 0.99
00:07:50.400 There's a phrase that, yeah, there's a phrase that they say. 0.99
00:07:53.940 It's like, you can't compete with new.
00:07:56.940 So it doesn't really.
00:07:58.400 Yeah, because it, so it doesn't really matter what you do.
00:08:01.000 New is still.
00:08:02.240 That's what, when I asked my previous, why, like, this was like, years after we weren't
00:08:09.000 together, I was like, why do you do it? 0.98
00:08:10.660 And he was like, it's just different vagina. 1.00
00:08:12.740 Yeah. 0.97
00:08:13.200 It's like, oh, okay.
00:08:13.960 Was he emotionally monogamous to you?
00:08:17.120 I mean, he's not the most, he's really, really logical.
00:08:20.880 So, I mean, he's not like outwardly emotional anyway.
00:08:24.200 So, I mean.
00:08:24.740 He had a whole nother relationship though.
00:08:26.780 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:27.360 But I mean, what I'm saying is like, yeah.
00:08:28.900 So obviously he wasn't emotionally monogamous to me because he did have another whole relationship.
00:08:33.200 But, I mean, like for me to look at and be like, oh, he's really in love with that person.
00:08:38.800 I mean.
00:08:39.760 Does it hurt?
00:08:40.800 Like, because it's like. 0.99
00:08:42.420 Does it hurt being, finding out that someone, depending on someone else's vagina, of course? 0.97
00:08:47.240 If I'm going on for the same example with the water, just because I like Miranda, that
00:08:51.020 does not diminish water, the feelings I have for water in any way.
00:08:55.320 Of course not.
00:08:55.880 But I'm a woman, I'm not a man.
00:08:57.260 So, for me to think like that, it took me many years to really put myself in the mind
00:09:04.400 of a man. 1.00
00:09:05.080 I was thinking from my heart, not from a man's penis. 1.00
00:09:09.240 Do you know what's mad though? 1.00
00:09:09.860 The idea of having four wives might sound good, yeah. 0.99
00:09:12.120 So, you've got to maintain all four wives. 1.00
00:09:14.420 Well, what's the word?
00:09:15.180 And all four houses.
00:09:16.260 In what way?
00:09:17.040 Yeah, like to maintain like.
00:09:18.700 So, you've got a kid with all four women. 0.94
00:09:20.400 You've got to maintain four different households.
00:09:22.780 Yeah.
00:09:23.060 It's the same as if I had four baby mothers. 0.54
00:09:24.780 That's a headache.
00:09:26.700 I wouldn't even want to sign up to that.
00:09:28.320 Instead of putting your money in an ISA bank, you put it in a house and you get the wife. 0.95
00:09:33.900 It's like almost employing an employee when you have four wives. 0.99
00:09:38.120 You can't make it work for you.
00:09:39.760 They say it.
00:09:40.480 I'm trying to think of a business.
00:09:41.840 Sounds like a headache to me.
00:09:42.900 I mean, to be fair, like that's been done throughout all of history always.
00:09:46.620 And they say it.
00:09:47.080 Wait, what do you mean headache though?
00:09:48.020 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man. 0.90
00:09:52.760 So, that's the way they've always done it.
00:09:53.700 I'm not, like I don't want to do that.
00:09:55.720 But it's kind of like, how am I supposed to look at the world and say, don't do what you've always done?
00:10:00.160 Yeah.
00:10:00.640 So, like how can you say that?
00:10:02.040 Maintaining four different relationships is a headache.
00:10:03.900 No, I mean they did.
00:10:05.300 No, but Baird, think about it this way.
00:10:07.000 If I'm pissed off with Michelle, I'm not pissed off with Angela.
00:10:10.960 So, me and Michelle don't need to break up.
00:10:12.800 I just take a couple days out because I'm over here.
00:10:16.120 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:16.440 And she knows I'm not all over the roadsides.
00:10:18.880 She knows exactly where I am.
00:10:20.580 She knows how to contact me.
00:10:21.740 She could come over and say hi if she wants. 1.00
00:10:23.760 The kids are playing together or whatever.
00:10:26.000 Yeah, I'm out.
00:10:26.640 I'm on the next one.
00:10:27.460 I was just banned on TikTok.
00:10:30.740 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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