JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023


Social Media Changed A Lot of This


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

198.41745

Word Count

2,098

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 would you tell me please who is the boss of your house what do you think you're
00:00:05.100 his wife are you what do you think I said who is the boss my husband what is
00:00:10.200 your nationality Greek I'm geek is it always that way in Greek households the
00:00:13.960 husband is the boss yes don't the women the wives have anything to say about it
00:00:17.620 no so this is an older video how do you think social media has changed that
00:00:26.640 dynamic if you ask a girl and a guy the same question that they asked there the
00:00:41.220 answer will be 100% different because if you ask who's the leave of the
00:00:45.040 household the amount of times you were here I've the woman say me or say he
00:00:51.000 thinks he is but it's not actually it was something along those lines you know
00:00:57.820 what I say yes yeah guys will get on TV and be like oh happy wife happy life
00:01:01.440 that's the one that's what they say that's the one and I've thought some
00:01:04.320 anything along those lines and it's like but like you should have some sort of
00:01:10.120 leader back then that's how it was the man just easier you say back then no no
00:01:17.880 this this way that we're living now is the new norm for like the entirety of
00:01:23.460 mankind you understand that right not back then it was for the entirety of
00:01:27.720 man's existence up until about 30 years ago guys this is what this is how we were
00:01:33.060 living but I don't think there's like you know let's say for instance there's a
00:01:36.540 decision to make in the household you know you've got the final say as the man
00:01:40.500 are you I think you get the lines get crossed in terms of like having any kind of
00:01:46.440 conversation with the pros and cons of a situation with your woman I don't feel
00:01:49.980 like women just get like your opinion and your mindset and everything you bring
00:01:53.820 to it is just should just be wiped out I think a conversation can happen yeah I
00:01:57.680 do believe that you know you gotta trust someone to lead you know I mean if he
00:02:01.680 needs if he needs a if he's gonna ask a question or run something you know yeah
00:02:05.280 and you're going back and forth then cool but you know I think sometimes women
00:02:09.200 will hear this men's men need to lead and just think okay all my education is out of the
00:02:13.440 know and they put so much into their education that they can't even fathom
00:02:16.800 the four of rod this isn't even valuable in this relationship yeah marriages
00:02:21.380 would last longer back then my grandparents my grandma had no say less
00:02:27.240 options though you know I mean less options maybe that's no but I mean
00:02:30.600 marriages last longer say it was they worked in their time no that's what it is
00:02:34.260 though what you said about education you you said you've said it before about women who
00:02:39.880 have been to university more likely to leave maybe it's not that's 90 you're 90
00:02:44.380 percent likely to leave in a divorce maybe it's not a direct correlation
00:02:47.920 between education but rather something to do with like pride because if you've
00:02:52.000 done that education that's a commitment and a sacrifice to do something for
00:02:56.380 yourself and then when you get into a relationship maybe it's like oh you
00:03:00.640 don't want to let the man be the leader because you feel like you've I don't
00:03:05.500 something worked hard at something I don't think it's to do with the fact
00:03:08.680 that you've got an educate because I've been to uni and stuff like that and I
00:03:12.100 don't feel I haven't got pride because of that I think it's more to do with if
00:03:16.600 you've got knowledge and wisdom to talk about then you should be able to talk
00:03:20.740 about it but he would know that surely and he would because I like for example I
00:03:23.320 have a law degree so if my partner ever had any kind of legal question he was
00:03:27.600 dealing with something with his insurance like he will ask me questions so I
00:03:31.240 feel like it's more of a case where if they need you they will ask but what I'm
00:03:35.160 saying is I feel like a lot of women perhaps want to know more because they
00:03:39.800 have this knowledge wisdom whatever so they want to be able to exercise that and
00:03:45.420 what I'm saying is I don't really think that's necessary and perhaps going to
00:03:49.840 uni and getting it I mean I hate to say it but it is a fact that marriages lasted
00:03:56.100 longer when women weren't doing that so I'm just questioning why that is because it
00:04:00.220 is factual that I hear it's actually inverse like college and kids so it's like the more
00:04:05.800 education a woman has the less kids she has yeah because it seems like when women
00:04:12.100 when women get money they don't want men like they don't want a man unless it's
00:04:15.700 like the man she wants yeah the thing about it when guys become millionaires they go
00:04:20.860 for most if not any girl when a girl becomes a millionaire she's looking for
00:04:24.880 someone who's making more millions than she is all right or if she's smart in
00:04:30.920 certain aspect and she's looking for someone who is better than her in
00:04:33.760 whatever aspect it is that's true Eve Eve Eve done the same thing so I have a
00:04:38.380 billionaire JLo I think I'm the same thing I went with a billionaire they lot
00:04:42.780 them are millionaires but jar rules with is good was it is it jar rule one of them is
00:04:47.080 with the same girlfriend that they were with the same original girl but all these
00:04:55.660 are women women got the money and upgraded quote unquote because you can't settle
00:05:01.720 quote unquote because settling has to do with your bank accounts not your mental
00:05:05.840 aspect nowadays I feel like something like your education if you continue it
00:05:13.480 doesn't matter doesn't matter do I get along with you in the same way as your
00:05:15.980 salary doesn't really matter either like do you know what's mad important and
00:05:19.180 valuable I kind of look in that in relationships to help out you know if
00:05:24.100 you've been with a woman who's like a nurse nutritionist stuff like you know
00:05:29.500 that kind of nurture stuff that guys do not don't put any energy into
00:05:33.220 whatsoever right those kind of things are really a way where guys will want to
00:05:38.520 lean on their girl and and in those circumstances you know I mean when the car
00:05:42.860 breaks down other than uh with someone oh no I was watching something else where
00:05:47.680 someone said they can fix BMWs I think that was another pro but like other than
00:05:51.860 that it was like uh you know there's certain things that the guy might not
00:05:55.700 necessarily need your input at that time and you might have so much to give him
00:05:58.880 and you and you might be thinking right why don't you value my opinion or why
00:06:02.360 aren't you would you go on a podcast and act like you don't care about my
00:06:05.040 opinion but you know you need to kind of focus on things that are going to get you
00:06:08.980 what you want and I think sometimes our parents push realities onto us but maybe
00:06:13.360 just leave that at work you go by you and then you gotta learn when you come
00:06:15.980 home put on a different hat you know I mean I think we're gonna close out the
00:06:22.460 show guys cool so we're gonna do final thoughts so any like final thoughts
00:06:27.700 Instagram you want to shout out you can do that now starting here and then go
00:06:30.740 around hello it's Ashton again so the Instagram is it's Ashton Maria um and just
00:06:37.580 final thoughts um you know how you were talking about guys and the car breaking
00:06:42.680 down and a woman really wouldn't know what to do I was in a situation quite
00:06:46.460 recently where there was my friend was driving us and there was three four yeah
00:06:50.180 four of us in the car girls and it was the girls that sorted the car situation
00:06:54.920 because my friend was like oh you need to jumpstart the car my other friend was
00:06:57.980 like oh let me call like the AA or just an insurance company whereas he was very
00:07:03.140 calm handle the situation fine but it wasn't him who got the final output and
00:07:08.360 okay that makes it did he and did he did the girls know what to do yeah more than
00:07:12.800 him interesting okay cool that's yeah well what's your like what's your take on
00:07:17.540 it I just think girls can do anything
00:07:19.320 to me a woman can achieve not to put men down but like a woman to me I don't
00:07:32.040 think a woman needs a man to me I think a woman is so empowering and can do
00:07:35.820 anything they put their mind to and they can work six days a week seven days a
00:07:39.700 week raise a family run a mortgage like they can be everything and I think women
00:07:46.060 are just a different kind of human being compared to a man and that's where I
00:07:49.480 stand on it probably because I have so much respect for my mother and seeing
00:07:54.520 what I've seen from my mother who had me at 20 and my dad being 27 and just see my
00:07:58.760 mum run the whole thing like you are crazy like I can't mess with you
00:08:04.680 but I think we're brilliant because I just like okay cool so the women I'm not
00:08:15.840 saying that women can't you know fix a car or change a tire and stuff like that I
00:08:20.520 guess you you said that he was quite calm and he handled the situation I guess
00:08:24.480 you were still looking for him to delegate or say I guess you're still
00:08:27.240 looking for him to have some kind of input in that right or no I mean just like
00:08:31.260 step aside the girls have got this for me what I found attractive with it was how
00:08:36.600 he handled the situation he didn't he didn't stress he didn't kick off he
00:08:40.620 didn't have a tantrum he just got on with it and that's what I thought was
00:08:44.340 attractive because that was a man kind of just having control of the situation
00:08:48.300 yeah that's an amazing input because it didn't mean that women weren't capable of
00:08:54.480 changing and it didn't mean that okay most women are capable of doing that yeah
00:08:59.820 I hear it but not every man is capable of remaining I think significantly more
00:09:05.100 than women yeah I think stereotypically yeah yeah yeah but we got to talk in
00:09:10.680 like most of the time so if I say like most men are more masculine than women
00:09:15.780 there's exceptions but I think this day and age though you I mean guys are very
00:09:20.700 catering now like they'll go to this salon and you know they'll get the eyebrows
00:09:24.360 done and the nose done and everything whereas back in the day that was you
00:09:27.780 know were you on the verge of seeing today nowadays guys are more girls are
00:09:35.920 more masculine and guys is that where this is going no but I think there's a
00:09:40.500 lot of girls that are more masculine energy there's a lot of guys that are more
00:09:44.580 feminine I think I agree with you though cuz I know there's a lot of guys that
00:09:47.320 they're getting pedicures and all these kind of thing I don't agree with all
00:09:50.700 that I see I see it on social media I think men are supposed to be men I don't
00:09:58.600 think there's anything wrong with a man I think it lets down your masculinity a bit
00:10:03.660 I saw my parents toes in the gym but then men so where do you stop it men take men
00:10:11.680 all putting on makeup interest is that okay if they want to yeah we should have
00:10:17.080 stopped it before having if they want to should not be an answer 10 packs but yeah
00:10:22.300 I was gonna bring that up I don't feel your men are supposed to be now I haven't seen that I
00:10:28.120 actually haven't seen that I actually haven't seen that I haven't seen the more
00:10:29.020 vein in the face of time packs let's not get into it yeah I was gonna say let's not let's not that's a whole lot