JustPearlyThings - December 25, 2022


Society Is Quick To Blame Men


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

204.12737

Word Count

1,731

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 these men are the ones sleeping with the
00:00:01.980 I'm saying for 50
00:00:03.540 years we have put it on the men
00:00:06.040 okay there's a lot of little things in
00:00:07.920 society you guys probably don't even notice
00:00:09.780 and I didn't either before I started like
00:00:11.900 really listening to what men say like
00:00:13.720 you say she got knocked up
00:00:15.620 it sounds like something that happened to her
00:00:17.780 not a choice she made who knocked her up he did
00:00:19.900 we always put the blame on the men
00:00:21.800 it's very new this is a new
00:00:23.780 type of content where you put any accountability
00:00:25.780 on women watch watch
00:00:27.660 some early 2000s like Steve
00:00:29.600 Harvey dating no watch
00:00:31.520 some early 2000s Steve
00:00:33.780 Harvey dating advice where these women come
00:00:35.820 up to him and like he just says oh
00:00:37.700 like even even the idea of
00:00:39.680 oh you intimidate guys no there's
00:00:41.760 probably something about you that guys don't like
00:00:43.880 and and that's
00:00:45.820 just being honest
00:00:47.100 sweet feminine girls don't
00:00:49.740 intimidate anybody there's probably something about
00:00:51.780 you guys don't like
00:00:52.780 and then on top of that it's like
00:00:55.580 I just think men
00:00:57.800 are never allowed to have standards
00:00:59.520 like even every time a man
00:01:01.440 has a standard he's shamed for it so if they say
00:01:03.520 oh I like thin women I like pure
00:01:05.560 women they say he's slut shaming
00:01:07.380 body shaming it's not the same for
00:01:09.440 for for women
00:01:10.880 can I just go back to your other point
00:01:13.120 about the fact that we always put it on men
00:01:17.100 so I don't agree with that because again I did a lot of research into this
00:01:20.980 so 90% of single motherhood
00:01:23.760 it's a woman
00:01:24.980 so in a single parent home
00:01:27.100 it's a woman that is
00:01:29.020 the single parent
00:01:30.000 how can you say that we're always putting it on men
00:01:33.260 when women are the ones stepping up for their kid
00:01:35.840 so I'll tell you you're right
00:01:37.880 you're right 90% of women
00:01:40.300 are awarded custody
00:01:41.480 like I've actually talked to divorce like lawyers about this
00:01:44.240 they say they love representing
00:01:45.580 women in court
00:01:46.900 it's much easier for women than it is for men
00:01:49.320 I'm not saying it's easy either way
00:01:50.840 like court is tough
00:01:51.920 but I'm saying
00:01:52.820 but I'm saying
00:01:53.520 fight for it
00:01:54.140 and I'm saying
00:01:54.940 I'm saying
00:01:55.440 I've actually
00:01:56.220 I know someone that went through this
00:01:57.900 where he was trying to get like custody of his children
00:02:00.960 and it's very hard
00:02:02.320 because once if he leaves the home
00:02:04.000 then she can not let him see
00:02:06.400 like not let him see his kids for say six months
00:02:08.640 so with this guy
00:02:09.380 it was like
00:02:09.920 she kicked him
00:02:11.160 like they were fighting
00:02:12.600 whatever
00:02:13.000 he left
00:02:13.680 so because
00:02:14.780 because she wanted him out of the house
00:02:16.520 I'm going to clarify
00:02:17.040 he wanted to be a part of his kids lives
00:02:18.800 what happened was
00:02:20.060 because of COVID
00:02:21.040 his court date
00:02:21.860 kept moving
00:02:22.520 like they kept moving it back
00:02:24.000 and what happened was
00:02:25.000 she went to court
00:02:25.580 and said he hasn't been around for eight months
00:02:27.300 he hasn't been around for a year
00:02:28.560 and he'd been trying the whole time
00:02:31.640 and so it's like
00:02:32.920 there's a lot of situations
00:02:34.060 where men want custody of their children
00:02:35.960 and they can't get it
00:02:36.960 and there's even men that kill themselves
00:02:39.040 because she leaves
00:02:40.380 she takes half of his assets
00:02:42.220 and he takes the kids
00:02:43.540 and he doesn't have access to their kids
00:02:45.320 like there's a whole
00:02:46.600 it's like men's rights activists
00:02:48.300 you probably never heard of them
00:02:49.420 they talk about these issues
00:02:50.600 where like
00:02:51.020 men
00:02:51.540 there's a guy in Ohio
00:02:53.240 in the US
00:02:53.900 he
00:02:55.000 his
00:02:55.740 his girlfriend
00:02:57.480 or whatever
00:02:57.900 had a baby
00:02:58.520 and she gave the kid up for adoption
00:03:00.580 he wanted the kid
00:03:01.520 he had no rights to his kid
00:03:02.780 stuff like that happens
00:03:04.060 all the time
00:03:04.760 but nobody
00:03:05.380 and so when you say
00:03:07.320 when you say 90%
00:03:08.520 like
00:03:08.960 my thing is
00:03:09.860 like
00:03:10.140 we don't think about
00:03:10.920 why don't they have access
00:03:11.880 to their children
00:03:12.660 and also
00:03:13.840 what would you rather
00:03:14.840 let me ask you
00:03:15.500 because you've got a son
00:03:16.260 would you rather leave your child
00:03:17.720 with a babysitter
00:03:18.560 that is a woman
00:03:19.220 or babysitter
00:03:19.840 that is a man
00:03:20.460 a babysitter
00:03:21.840 yeah
00:03:22.280 a babysitter
00:03:23.160 nanny
00:03:23.480 whatever
00:03:23.780 a woman or a man
00:03:24.680 I mean I would probably
00:03:26.280 prefer a woman
00:03:27.240 exactly
00:03:27.900 exactly
00:03:29.340 because at the end of the day
00:03:31.140 this
00:03:31.420 although I understand
00:03:32.780 what you're trying to get at
00:03:33.740 we can't just put it on women
00:03:35.060 and everything like that
00:03:35.960 but we also have to understand
00:03:37.060 we as women
00:03:38.120 we've got different talents
00:03:39.100 and gifts
00:03:39.920 okay
00:03:40.600 and I think that's kind of like
00:03:41.660 what a lot of men
00:03:42.260 are trying to get at
00:03:43.140 is like
00:03:43.520 you have a certain talent
00:03:44.920 which is the power to attract
00:03:46.680 which means you can get
00:03:48.160 basically any guy that you want
00:03:49.760 if you're easy enough
00:03:50.700 okay
00:03:51.520 so I do understand
00:03:53.460 the rhetoric of saying
00:03:55.660 be more selective
00:03:56.740 because you as a woman
00:03:57.960 have got way more power
00:03:58.960 in your hands
00:03:59.540 to create that interaction
00:04:01.280 than a man would
00:04:02.200 fine
00:04:03.020 self-control
00:04:04.080 take your power
00:04:05.300 with responsibility
00:04:06.200 as a woman
00:04:07.580 yes
00:04:08.180 naturally
00:04:08.740 you will stay with your child
00:04:09.940 because you're more nurturing
00:04:10.800 that's your natural gift
00:04:11.700 that still doesn't mean
00:04:13.200 that a woman
00:04:14.000 is to be excused
00:04:15.340 for everything
00:04:16.180 again
00:04:16.660 for the sake of argument
00:04:18.000 right here
00:04:18.540 and also because you've put me
00:04:19.620 in this position
00:04:20.200 where I actually want to stand
00:04:21.200 against you
00:04:21.720 I will say
00:04:22.400 men and women
00:04:23.900 both are equally entitled
00:04:25.460 to complain about
00:04:26.360 what is going on
00:04:27.200 because both are
00:04:28.380 messing up
00:04:29.360 a lot of women
00:04:30.440 they are not fit
00:04:31.940 to take care of their children
00:04:33.220 but because of the bitterness
00:04:34.760 and anger they have
00:04:35.820 towards the relationship
00:04:37.100 that didn't work out
00:04:38.100 they make their child suffer
00:04:39.520 they take advantage
00:04:40.560 of the fact that
00:04:41.160 they're a woman
00:04:41.760 and they mark their man
00:04:42.960 that is not okay
00:04:43.900 and there's a
00:04:44.260 there's
00:04:44.660 and like women
00:04:45.640 let's just be honest
00:04:46.760 like women are spiteful
00:04:48.080 when they hate a man
00:04:49.100 they hate
00:04:49.740 and I'm not saying
00:04:50.400 all women
00:04:50.960 I'm not saying
00:04:51.400 every person does this
00:04:52.640 but it's like
00:04:53.640 women will use
00:04:54.860 the kids as a pawn
00:04:55.880 and what happens
00:04:57.440 is a lot of times
00:04:58.260 even Kanye
00:04:58.840 that happened in front of us
00:05:00.060 he
00:05:00.560 his
00:05:01.360 his
00:05:01.740 another thing they'll do
00:05:03.540 is they can move states
00:05:04.680 and the father has no say
00:05:06.040 if they gave the woman's
00:05:07.080 like primary custody
00:05:08.160 and I'm not saying
00:05:10.120 like I know
00:05:10.540 all the ins and outs
00:05:11.360 of the laws
00:05:11.700 this is just like
00:05:12.360 from talking to
00:05:13.120 divorce attorneys
00:05:13.860 and it's like
00:05:15.740 it's just like
00:05:17.880 men
00:05:19.020 their issues
00:05:19.900 are not brought
00:05:20.540 to the forefront
00:05:21.240 and it's really sad
00:05:23.160 that like
00:05:23.560 you know
00:05:24.080 a lot of times
00:05:25.180 a big issue
00:05:25.920 is men committing suicide
00:05:26.960 after divorce
00:05:27.700 there was a guy
00:05:28.360 I just learned this
00:05:30.000 the other day
00:05:30.400 so I'm probably
00:05:30.860 going to butcher it
00:05:31.600 but our whole
00:05:32.520 most of the
00:05:33.320 domestic violence laws
00:05:34.560 are based off
00:05:35.460 of a system
00:05:36.020 that automatically
00:05:36.840 assumes that the woman's
00:05:37.860 the victim
00:05:38.280 in the US
00:05:39.480 and so it's like
00:05:41.060 a lot of men
00:05:41.800 like most
00:05:42.520 when you talk to people
00:05:43.380 that have actually
00:05:43.860 worked in domestic violence
00:05:45.020 most domestic violence
00:05:46.420 situations are mutually
00:05:47.520 abusive
00:05:48.020 where the man and the woman
00:05:49.400 are hitting each other
00:05:50.320 and
00:05:51.120 and the men still get
00:05:52.700 put away
00:05:53.080 and the woman don't
00:05:54.500 a woman can just
00:05:55.080 call the cops
00:05:55.740 and like
00:05:56.140 a cop can
00:05:57.760 will come in
00:05:58.500 and automatically
00:05:59.180 based on their training
00:06:00.280 assume that the woman's
00:06:01.740 the victim
00:06:02.400 okay wait
00:06:04.040 again advocate
00:06:05.620 for women
00:06:06.640 that go through
00:06:07.540 these situations
00:06:09.160 I don't know
00:06:11.040 what the stats
00:06:11.800 tell you
00:06:12.520 I don't know
00:06:13.280 what the stats
00:06:14.100 are not telling you
00:06:15.060 because these things
00:06:15.940 you cannot actually
00:06:16.680 regulate
00:06:17.120 because a lot of
00:06:17.800 things go
00:06:18.180 it's from
00:06:19.000 can I just
00:06:19.700 just to give you
00:06:20.600 perspective
00:06:21.220 it's from
00:06:21.700 people that work
00:06:22.880 with these couples
00:06:23.660 and that work
00:06:24.520 at women's shelters
00:06:25.460 will tell you this
00:06:26.500 so much
00:06:27.260 so much
00:06:27.760 so much
00:06:28.160 so that
00:06:28.740 there is
00:06:29.400 the three feminists
00:06:30.540 that came up
00:06:31.240 with the system
00:06:32.280 that the
00:06:32.900 justice
00:06:33.600 and I'm butchering this
00:06:34.740 but it's like
00:06:35.120 the system
00:06:35.600 that the justice
00:06:36.160 system is built on
00:06:37.320 that automatically
00:06:37.920 assumes the woman's
00:06:38.740 the victim
00:06:39.100 they were saying
00:06:40.000 that even in their
00:06:40.660 practice
00:06:41.120 it wasn't what
00:06:42.060 they saw
00:06:42.500 that they were
00:06:43.060 saying
00:06:43.440 you know what
00:06:44.160 it's actually
00:06:44.600 mutually abusive
00:06:45.580 sorry go ahead
00:06:46.360 go ahead
00:06:46.660 well I was just
00:06:47.780 going to say
00:06:48.480 that when it
00:06:49.420 comes to domestic
00:06:50.060 abuse
00:06:50.560 I believe
00:06:52.140 that women
00:06:53.220 are inherently
00:06:54.580 more vulnerable
00:06:55.540 to be in that
00:06:56.720 situation
00:06:57.360 because when a
00:06:58.420 woman does
00:06:58.960 commit
00:06:59.340 and this is why
00:07:00.600 men get upset
00:07:01.500 that women cheat
00:07:02.260 because when a
00:07:02.900 woman commits
00:07:03.380 to a man
00:07:03.940 she gives herself
00:07:04.940 emotionally
00:07:05.660 when you attach
00:07:06.880 to yourself
00:07:07.400 to somebody
00:07:07.840 emotionally
00:07:08.360 now you are
00:07:08.940 a victim
00:07:09.260 to all of
00:07:09.720 these things
00:07:10.100 whereas men
00:07:10.800 as Andrew Tate
00:07:11.760 very quite rightly
00:07:13.000 said he's got
00:07:13.640 the decision
00:07:14.120 whether he wants
00:07:14.720 to make you
00:07:15.080 10 out of 10
00:07:15.620 happy
00:07:15.940 or 5 out of 10
00:07:17.040 happy and keep
00:07:17.640 you crying
00:07:17.980 here and there
00:07:18.480 because it is
00:07:19.400 true
00:07:19.640 that once men
00:07:21.100 get a woman
00:07:21.660 to fall in love
00:07:22.280 with them
00:07:22.640 they've got the
00:07:23.240 power
00:07:23.540 that's also
00:07:24.180 what men
00:07:24.500 don't understand
00:07:25.140 and that's
00:07:25.800 how they mess
00:07:26.180 about
00:07:26.420 and that's why
00:07:26.940 domestic violence
00:07:27.680 I believe
00:07:28.340 is so prevalent
00:07:29.120 amongst women
00:07:30.480 being the victims
00:07:31.360 instead of being
00:07:32.620 the perpetrators
00:07:33.300 although there are
00:07:34.340 cases of course
00:07:35.100 that women do
00:07:35.600 take the piss
00:07:36.120 and everything
00:07:36.500 but I'm saying
00:07:36.940 people that like
00:07:37.660 work in these
00:07:38.260 environments are
00:07:38.880 saying usually
00:07:39.580 it's mutual
00:07:40.320 so like people
00:07:41.880 that work like
00:07:42.700 with the couples
00:07:43.480 that try to help
00:07:44.360 them out
00:07:44.700 at women's shelters
00:07:45.900 are saying
00:07:46.420 it's mutual
00:07:47.340 yeah it becomes
00:07:48.660 mutual
00:07:49.080 and this is the
00:07:49.700 thing again
00:07:50.180 having experienced
00:07:51.060 that myself
00:07:51.420 so I'm saying
00:07:52.540 I'm sorry
00:07:53.120 I'm just gonna finish
00:07:54.080 so like I'm saying
00:07:55.680 it's like
00:07:56.320 this is a way
00:07:56.900 that men
00:07:57.340 are discriminated
00:07:58.100 against
00:07:58.420 if a woman's
00:07:59.120 abused
00:07:59.520 there are
00:08:00.260 women's shelters
00:08:00.960 everywhere
00:08:01.480 there are no
00:08:02.140 men's shelters
00:08:02.840 and there's all
00:08:03.760 these little
00:08:04.200 things in society
00:08:05.120 that once you
00:08:05.760 see it
00:08:06.120 you can't
00:08:06.600 unsee it
00:08:07.100 where I
00:08:07.480 genuinely believe
00:08:08.520 that men
00:08:09.060 are the most
00:08:09.780 discriminated
00:08:10.780 against group
00:08:11.460 in society
00:08:12.260 as many of you
00:08:13.400 know I was
00:08:13.900 just banned
00:08:14.820 on TikTok
00:08:15.700 and we are
00:08:16.740 demonetized
00:08:17.420 on a daily
00:08:18.200 basis
00:08:18.680 on this
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