JustPearlyThings - December 25, 2022


Society Is Quick To Blame Men


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8 minutes

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1,731

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1

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31

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In this episode, we have a special guest on the show who has been a long time friend of mine. She has been in my life for the past 50 years and has always been an advocate for women and children. In this episode we dive deep into the topic of single motherhood and the issues that women face when it comes to being a single mother.

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00:00:00.000 these men are the ones sleeping with the 0.99
00:00:01.980 I'm saying for 50 1.00
00:00:03.540 years we have put it on the men
00:00:06.040 okay there's a lot of little things in
00:00:07.920 society you guys probably don't even notice
00:00:09.780 and I didn't either before I started like
00:00:11.900 really listening to what men say like 0.99
00:00:13.720 you say she got knocked up
00:00:15.620 it sounds like something that happened to her
00:00:17.780 not a choice she made who knocked her up he did
00:00:19.900 we always put the blame on the men
00:00:21.800 it's very new this is a new
00:00:23.780 type of content where you put any accountability
00:00:25.780 on women watch watch
00:00:27.660 some early 2000s like Steve
00:00:29.600 Harvey dating no watch
00:00:31.520 some early 2000s Steve
00:00:33.780 Harvey dating advice where these women come 1.00
00:00:35.820 up to him and like he just says oh
00:00:37.700 like even even the idea of
00:00:39.680 oh you intimidate guys no there's
00:00:41.760 probably something about you that guys don't like
00:00:43.880 and and that's
00:00:45.820 just being honest
00:00:47.100 sweet feminine girls don't 1.00
00:00:49.740 intimidate anybody there's probably something about
00:00:51.780 you guys don't like
00:00:52.780 and then on top of that it's like
00:00:55.580 I just think men 1.00
00:00:57.800 are never allowed to have standards
00:00:59.520 like even every time a man
00:01:01.440 has a standard he's shamed for it so if they say
00:01:03.520 oh I like thin women I like pure 1.00
00:01:05.560 women they say he's slut shaming 0.99
00:01:07.380 body shaming it's not the same for
00:01:09.440 for for women
00:01:10.880 can I just go back to your other point
00:01:13.120 about the fact that we always put it on men
00:01:17.100 so I don't agree with that because again I did a lot of research into this
00:01:20.980 so 90% of single motherhood
00:01:23.760 it's a woman
00:01:24.980 so in a single parent home
00:01:27.100 it's a woman that is 0.99
00:01:29.020 the single parent
00:01:30.000 how can you say that we're always putting it on men
00:01:33.260 when women are the ones stepping up for their kid 1.00
00:01:35.840 so I'll tell you you're right
00:01:37.880 you're right 90% of women 0.97
00:01:40.300 are awarded custody
00:01:41.480 like I've actually talked to divorce like lawyers about this
00:01:44.240 they say they love representing
00:01:45.580 women in court 0.95
00:01:46.900 it's much easier for women than it is for men
00:01:49.320 I'm not saying it's easy either way
00:01:50.840 like court is tough
00:01:51.920 but I'm saying
00:01:52.820 but I'm saying
00:01:53.520 fight for it
00:01:54.140 and I'm saying
00:01:54.940 I'm saying
00:01:55.440 I've actually
00:01:56.220 I know someone that went through this
00:01:57.900 where he was trying to get like custody of his children
00:02:00.960 and it's very hard
00:02:02.320 because once if he leaves the home
00:02:04.000 then she can not let him see
00:02:06.400 like not let him see his kids for say six months
00:02:08.640 so with this guy
00:02:09.380 it was like
00:02:09.920 she kicked him 1.00
00:02:11.160 like they were fighting
00:02:12.600 whatever
00:02:13.000 he left
00:02:13.680 so because
00:02:14.780 because she wanted him out of the house
00:02:16.520 I'm going to clarify
00:02:17.040 he wanted to be a part of his kids lives
00:02:18.800 what happened was
00:02:20.060 because of COVID
00:02:21.040 his court date
00:02:21.860 kept moving
00:02:22.520 like they kept moving it back
00:02:24.000 and what happened was
00:02:25.000 she went to court
00:02:25.580 and said he hasn't been around for eight months
00:02:27.300 he hasn't been around for a year
00:02:28.560 and he'd been trying the whole time
00:02:31.640 and so it's like
00:02:32.920 there's a lot of situations
00:02:34.060 where men want custody of their children 0.97
00:02:35.960 and they can't get it
00:02:36.960 and there's even men that kill themselves
00:02:39.040 because she leaves
00:02:40.380 she takes half of his assets 0.80
00:02:42.220 and he takes the kids
00:02:43.540 and he doesn't have access to their kids
00:02:45.320 like there's a whole
00:02:46.600 it's like men's rights activists 0.56
00:02:48.300 you probably never heard of them
00:02:49.420 they talk about these issues
00:02:50.600 where like
00:02:51.020 men
00:02:51.540 there's a guy in Ohio
00:02:53.240 in the US
00:02:53.900 he
00:02:55.000 his
00:02:55.740 his girlfriend
00:02:57.480 or whatever
00:02:57.900 had a baby
00:02:58.520 and she gave the kid up for adoption
00:03:00.580 he wanted the kid
00:03:01.520 he had no rights to his kid
00:03:02.780 stuff like that happens
00:03:04.060 all the time
00:03:04.760 but nobody
00:03:05.380 and so when you say
00:03:07.320 when you say 90%
00:03:08.520 like
00:03:08.960 my thing is
00:03:09.860 like
00:03:10.140 we don't think about
00:03:10.920 why don't they have access
00:03:11.880 to their children
00:03:12.660 and also
00:03:13.840 what would you rather
00:03:14.840 let me ask you
00:03:15.500 because you've got a son
00:03:16.260 would you rather leave your child
00:03:17.720 with a babysitter
00:03:18.560 that is a woman 1.00
00:03:19.220 or babysitter
00:03:19.840 that is a man
00:03:20.460 a babysitter
00:03:21.840 yeah
00:03:22.280 a babysitter
00:03:23.160 nanny
00:03:23.480 whatever
00:03:23.780 a woman or a man
00:03:24.680 I mean I would probably
00:03:26.280 prefer a woman 0.95
00:03:27.240 exactly
00:03:27.900 exactly
00:03:29.340 because at the end of the day
00:03:31.140 this
00:03:31.420 although I understand
00:03:32.780 what you're trying to get at
00:03:33.740 we can't just put it on women 1.00
00:03:35.060 and everything like that
00:03:35.960 but we also have to understand
00:03:37.060 we as women
00:03:38.120 we've got different talents
00:03:39.100 and gifts
00:03:39.920 okay
00:03:40.600 and I think that's kind of like
00:03:41.660 what a lot of men
00:03:42.260 are trying to get at
00:03:43.140 is like
00:03:43.520 you have a certain talent
00:03:44.920 which is the power to attract
00:03:46.680 which means you can get
00:03:48.160 basically any guy that you want
00:03:49.760 if you're easy enough
00:03:50.700 okay
00:03:51.520 so I do understand
00:03:53.460 the rhetoric of saying
00:03:55.660 be more selective
00:03:56.740 because you as a woman
00:03:57.960 have got way more power
00:03:58.960 in your hands
00:03:59.540 to create that interaction
00:04:01.280 than a man would
00:04:02.200 fine
00:04:03.020 self-control
00:04:04.080 take your power
00:04:05.300 with responsibility
00:04:06.200 as a woman
00:04:07.580 yes
00:04:08.180 naturally
00:04:08.740 you will stay with your child 0.82
00:04:09.940 because you're more nurturing
00:04:10.800 that's your natural gift
00:04:11.700 that still doesn't mean
00:04:13.200 that a woman 0.98
00:04:14.000 is to be excused
00:04:15.340 for everything
00:04:16.180 again
00:04:16.660 for the sake of argument
00:04:18.000 right here
00:04:18.540 and also because you've put me
00:04:19.620 in this position
00:04:20.200 where I actually want to stand
00:04:21.200 against you
00:04:21.720 I will say
00:04:22.400 men and women
00:04:23.900 both are equally entitled
00:04:25.460 to complain about
00:04:26.360 what is going on
00:04:27.200 because both are
00:04:28.380 messing up
00:04:29.360 a lot of women 1.00
00:04:30.440 they are not fit
00:04:31.940 to take care of their children
00:04:33.220 but because of the bitterness
00:04:34.760 and anger they have
00:04:35.820 towards the relationship
00:04:37.100 that didn't work out
00:04:38.100 they make their child suffer
00:04:39.520 they take advantage
00:04:40.560 of the fact that
00:04:41.160 they're a woman 0.77
00:04:41.760 and they mark their man
00:04:42.960 that is not okay
00:04:43.900 and there's a
00:04:44.260 there's
00:04:44.660 and like women 0.95
00:04:45.640 let's just be honest
00:04:46.760 like women are spiteful 1.00
00:04:48.080 when they hate a man
00:04:49.100 they hate
00:04:49.740 and I'm not saying
00:04:50.400 all women 0.66
00:04:50.960 I'm not saying
00:04:51.400 every person does this
00:04:52.640 but it's like
00:04:53.640 women will use 1.00
00:04:54.860 the kids as a pawn
00:04:55.880 and what happens
00:04:57.440 is a lot of times
00:04:58.260 even Kanye
00:04:58.840 that happened in front of us
00:05:00.060 he
00:05:00.560 his
00:05:01.360 his
00:05:01.740 another thing they'll do
00:05:03.540 is they can move states
00:05:04.680 and the father has no say
00:05:06.040 if they gave the woman's
00:05:07.080 like primary custody
00:05:08.160 and I'm not saying
00:05:10.120 like I know
00:05:10.540 all the ins and outs
00:05:11.360 of the laws
00:05:11.700 this is just like
00:05:12.360 from talking to
00:05:13.120 divorce attorneys
00:05:13.860 and it's like
00:05:15.740 it's just like
00:05:17.880 men
00:05:19.020 their issues
00:05:19.900 are not brought
00:05:20.540 to the forefront
00:05:21.240 and it's really sad
00:05:23.160 that like
00:05:23.560 you know
00:05:24.080 a lot of times
00:05:25.180 a big issue
00:05:25.920 is men committing suicide
00:05:26.960 after divorce
00:05:27.700 there was a guy
00:05:28.360 I just learned this
00:05:30.000 the other day
00:05:30.400 so I'm probably
00:05:30.860 going to butcher it
00:05:31.600 but our whole
00:05:32.520 most of the
00:05:33.320 domestic violence laws
00:05:34.560 are based off
00:05:35.460 of a system
00:05:36.020 that automatically
00:05:36.840 assumes that the woman's 0.96
00:05:37.860 the victim
00:05:38.280 in the US
00:05:39.480 and so it's like
00:05:41.060 a lot of men
00:05:41.800 like most
00:05:42.520 when you talk to people
00:05:43.380 that have actually
00:05:43.860 worked in domestic violence
00:05:45.020 most domestic violence
00:05:46.420 situations are mutually
00:05:47.520 abusive
00:05:48.020 where the man and the woman
00:05:49.400 are hitting each other
00:05:50.320 and
00:05:51.120 and the men still get
00:05:52.700 put away
00:05:53.080 and the woman don't 1.00
00:05:54.500 a woman can just 1.00
00:05:55.080 call the cops
00:05:55.740 and like
00:05:56.140 a cop can
00:05:57.760 will come in
00:05:58.500 and automatically
00:05:59.180 based on their training
00:06:00.280 assume that the woman's 1.00
00:06:01.740 the victim
00:06:02.400 okay wait
00:06:04.040 again advocate
00:06:05.620 for women
00:06:06.640 that go through
00:06:07.540 these situations
00:06:09.160 I don't know
00:06:11.040 what the stats
00:06:11.800 tell you
00:06:12.520 I don't know
00:06:13.280 what the stats
00:06:14.100 are not telling you
00:06:15.060 because these things
00:06:15.940 you cannot actually
00:06:16.680 regulate
00:06:17.120 because a lot of
00:06:17.800 things go
00:06:18.180 it's from
00:06:19.000 can I just
00:06:19.700 just to give you
00:06:20.600 perspective
00:06:21.220 it's from
00:06:21.700 people that work
00:06:22.880 with these couples
00:06:23.660 and that work
00:06:24.520 at women's shelters
00:06:25.460 will tell you this
00:06:26.500 so much
00:06:27.260 so much
00:06:27.760 so much
00:06:28.160 so that
00:06:28.740 there is
00:06:29.400 the three feminists
00:06:30.540 that came up
00:06:31.240 with the system
00:06:32.280 that the
00:06:32.900 justice
00:06:33.600 and I'm butchering this
00:06:34.740 but it's like
00:06:35.120 the system
00:06:35.600 that the justice
00:06:36.160 system is built on
00:06:37.320 that automatically
00:06:37.920 assumes the woman's
00:06:38.740 the victim
00:06:39.100 they were saying
00:06:40.000 that even in their
00:06:40.660 practice
00:06:41.120 it wasn't what
00:06:42.060 they saw
00:06:42.500 that they were
00:06:43.060 saying
00:06:43.440 you know what
00:06:44.160 it's actually
00:06:44.600 mutually abusive
00:06:45.580 sorry go ahead
00:06:46.360 go ahead
00:06:46.660 well I was just
00:06:47.780 going to say
00:06:48.480 that when it
00:06:49.420 comes to domestic
00:06:50.060 abuse
00:06:50.560 I believe
00:06:52.140 that women 0.97
00:06:53.220 are inherently
00:06:54.580 more vulnerable
00:06:55.540 to be in that
00:06:56.720 situation
00:06:57.360 because when a
00:06:58.420 woman does 1.00
00:06:58.960 commit
00:06:59.340 and this is why
00:07:00.600 men get upset
00:07:01.500 that women cheat 1.00
00:07:02.260 because when a
00:07:02.900 woman commits
00:07:03.380 to a man
00:07:03.940 she gives herself
00:07:04.940 emotionally
00:07:05.660 when you attach
00:07:06.880 to yourself
00:07:07.400 to somebody
00:07:07.840 emotionally
00:07:08.360 now you are
00:07:08.940 a victim
00:07:09.260 to all of
00:07:09.720 these things
00:07:10.100 whereas men
00:07:10.800 as Andrew Tate
00:07:11.760 very quite rightly
00:07:13.000 said he's got
00:07:13.640 the decision
00:07:14.120 whether he wants
00:07:14.720 to make you
00:07:15.080 10 out of 10
00:07:15.620 happy
00:07:15.940 or 5 out of 10
00:07:17.040 happy and keep
00:07:17.640 you crying
00:07:17.980 here and there
00:07:18.480 because it is
00:07:19.400 true
00:07:19.640 that once men
00:07:21.100 get a woman 0.99
00:07:21.660 to fall in love
00:07:22.280 with them
00:07:22.640 they've got the
00:07:23.240 power
00:07:23.540 that's also
00:07:24.180 what men
00:07:24.500 don't understand
00:07:25.140 and that's
00:07:25.800 how they mess
00:07:26.180 about
00:07:26.420 and that's why
00:07:26.940 domestic violence
00:07:27.680 I believe
00:07:28.340 is so prevalent
00:07:29.120 amongst women
00:07:30.480 being the victims
00:07:31.360 instead of being
00:07:32.620 the perpetrators
00:07:33.300 although there are
00:07:34.340 cases of course
00:07:35.100 that women do 1.00
00:07:35.600 take the piss
00:07:36.120 and everything
00:07:36.500 but I'm saying
00:07:36.940 people that like
00:07:37.660 work in these
00:07:38.260 environments are
00:07:38.880 saying usually
00:07:39.580 it's mutual
00:07:40.320 so like people
00:07:41.880 that work like
00:07:42.700 with the couples
00:07:43.480 that try to help
00:07:44.360 them out
00:07:44.700 at women's shelters
00:07:45.900 are saying
00:07:46.420 it's mutual
00:07:47.340 yeah it becomes
00:07:48.660 mutual
00:07:49.080 and this is the
00:07:49.700 thing again
00:07:50.180 having experienced
00:07:51.060 that myself
00:07:51.420 so I'm saying
00:07:52.540 I'm sorry
00:07:53.120 I'm just gonna finish
00:07:54.080 so like I'm saying
00:07:55.680 it's like
00:07:56.320 this is a way
00:07:56.900 that men
00:07:57.340 are discriminated
00:07:58.100 against
00:07:58.420 if a woman's 0.98
00:07:59.120 abused
00:07:59.520 there are
00:08:00.260 women's shelters
00:08:00.960 everywhere
00:08:01.480 there are no
00:08:02.140 men's shelters
00:08:02.840 and there's all
00:08:03.760 these little
00:08:04.200 things in society
00:08:05.120 that once you
00:08:05.760 see it
00:08:06.120 you can't
00:08:06.600 unsee it
00:08:07.100 where I
00:08:07.480 genuinely believe
00:08:08.520 that men
00:08:09.060 are the most
00:08:09.780 discriminated
00:08:10.780 against group
00:08:11.460 in society
00:08:12.260 as many of you
00:08:13.400 know I was
00:08:13.900 just banned
00:08:14.820 on TikTok
00:08:15.700 and we are
00:08:16.740 demonetized
00:08:17.420 on a daily
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00:08:18.680 on this
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