JustPearlyThings - July 08, 2023


Stirling Cooper EXPOSES This Dark Truth About Average Men


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9 minutes

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1,988

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226

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18

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In this episode, the guys talk about what it's like to be bisexual in the porn industry and why it's not a bad thing. They also talk about why they don't want to get married and why they think they should.

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00:00:00.000 So knowing that, do you guys just, like,
00:00:01.940 expect to, like, live the rest of your life by yourself
00:00:04.360 or do you expect to get married?
00:00:06.820 I don't really care that much.
00:00:11.000 It's not a bad thing.
00:00:12.060 No, I mean, it's not a bad thing.
00:00:13.560 I think the thing is that, like, you know,
00:00:15.340 I know that cucks exist.
00:00:16.640 So worst case scenario, I could have a cuck.
00:00:19.980 So it really doesn't matter.
00:00:21.980 If I really wanted a man that badly,
00:00:23.480 but I'm bisexual, I could have anyone.
00:00:25.120 Like, if I really wanted it.
00:00:25.980 So your feeling is that they're lying in, like, most of them?
00:00:28.380 No, no, I don't think they're lying.
00:00:29.500 I really don't.
00:00:30.480 But the thing is, is that at the end of the day,
00:00:32.800 is that most people will be with you
00:00:35.920 if they want to be with you, regardless of whatever.
00:00:39.060 Oh, that is not true.
00:00:40.180 Yeah, but usually they will be with you.
00:00:42.080 And then as soon as you break up with them.
00:00:43.360 I know many men that have been in love with a chick 1.00
00:00:45.620 and they find out one thing about her past, they dump her.
00:00:48.740 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:49.740 No, but this is that they don't dump them.
00:00:51.420 Most guys will lie.
00:00:52.920 So they'll get with you and then they'll be like,
00:00:55.440 I love the fact that you do OnlyFans.
00:00:56.760 I love it.
00:00:57.180 And then as soon as you have an issue or a problem,
00:00:59.840 that's when they're like, you're a dirty whore. 1.00
00:01:01.360 And I'm like, oh, but you fucked me. 0.92
00:01:03.020 So that's your problem.
00:01:04.800 I feel like my experience is like the opposite
00:01:07.260 because I've dated guys, long-term relationships,
00:01:11.500 who have said I would never go out with somebody
00:01:14.960 like in the adult industry.
00:01:16.480 And then they meet me and then we ended up being together
00:01:20.660 for a long time and they accept it because it's me as a person
00:01:24.220 that they like love.
00:01:26.340 Yeah.
00:01:26.520 And I feel like the type of guy that I would want
00:01:28.340 would be able to look past that.
00:01:30.200 Exactly.
00:01:30.820 Yeah.
00:01:31.000 But 90% aren't looking past that.
00:01:34.040 Okay.
00:01:34.300 Well, that's what I'm saying.
00:01:34.980 10%.
00:01:35.600 He was.
00:01:35.840 Yeah.
00:01:36.720 We're going to be born there.
00:01:37.700 That 10% pool.
00:01:38.700 I'll play devil's advocate on two sides.
00:01:42.540 So one, I don't know if it counts unless you like had a kid
00:01:45.920 or you got married.
00:01:47.480 You know what I mean?
00:01:47.880 Like none of this like counts unless you're the wife. 0.95
00:01:50.140 Right?
00:01:50.180 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:50.680 Second thing, men do cap about what they'll accept.
00:01:53.980 I've had guys come on the show and say,
00:01:56.160 I would not accept this thing, you know,
00:01:57.760 and then you see behind the scenes, you know.
00:01:59.060 Well, that's the thing.
00:01:59.760 Like, yeah, like the 90% of guys,
00:02:02.340 I don't know where the poll came from.
00:02:03.760 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:04.560 Like it's easy for a guy to have a standard behind a keyboard.
00:02:07.100 Yeah.
00:02:07.360 Right.
00:02:07.620 It's very, very, very different for a man to have a standard 0.90
00:02:10.480 in real life when he's got zero fucking options. 0.91
00:02:13.020 So most guys have zero options.
00:02:14.500 Those guys are below fives.
00:02:16.060 So working in the porn industry,
00:02:19.080 a porn, shoot, I even did it.
00:02:20.680 Porn industry, porn industry.
00:02:22.540 What percent of guys do you think would accept it?
00:02:25.220 Just like from, because you probably.
00:02:26.880 Would marry a cool star.
00:02:28.400 Yeah, because you, I'd imagine you know.
00:02:30.320 Most of them were married.
00:02:31.260 Most of them were married.
00:02:31.780 Yeah, exactly.
00:02:32.320 Most of them get married.
00:02:33.600 It's like, that's kind of my point.
00:02:35.460 Like, it doesn't, like, we can sit here and pontificate
00:02:38.140 about like, oh, what men find acceptable,
00:02:41.320 what men do you put up with.
00:02:42.920 I'm telling you, I'm just going to be honest.
00:02:44.340 I'm telling you, I've seen it.
00:02:45.960 Most men don't marry.
00:02:47.420 Most men will end up married.
00:02:50.460 That's not, that's not actual, that's not actual marriage.
00:02:52.880 That's not actual life.
00:02:53.740 Do you know why I believe it?
00:02:55.240 Because, I mean, a hundred years ago,
00:02:57.220 85% of women were virgins.
00:02:59.540 So men do adapt to the market.
00:03:01.360 They do.
00:03:01.760 Yeah.
00:03:02.700 They do.
00:03:02.940 But I'm saying to Sterling's point,
00:03:04.040 like 90, I'd say 90% of the time
00:03:07.620 in the corn industry, that's not really marriage. 0.95
00:03:10.760 They're probably having sex with multiple partners. 0.96
00:03:13.420 Because if marriage is a definition of marriage, 0.68
00:03:16.300 it's probably not a religious marriage,
00:03:18.160 it's a civil marriage.
00:03:19.140 Yeah.
00:03:20.300 But that's not that.
00:03:21.280 That's not that.
00:03:21.560 It's definitely not a religious marriage.
00:03:23.520 Yeah.
00:03:24.400 Not a religious marriage. 0.96
00:03:25.620 But they will be together long term
00:03:29.080 and they will very often have kids.
00:03:30.520 Yeah.
00:03:30.920 Okay.
00:03:31.380 And live happily ever after.
00:03:32.340 And what about them?
00:03:32.960 That's questionable.
00:03:33.660 I don't think that's the case.
00:03:35.720 They live rich.
00:03:36.740 That's all that matters.
00:03:37.560 They'll be rich.
00:03:37.960 They'll probably end in divorce
00:03:38.980 and I'll have daughters that do OnlyFans. 0.96
00:03:40.880 No, that's completely like not right.
00:03:43.880 That's just a misconception.
00:03:45.720 What about the people, the content creators
00:03:47.300 that do it together?
00:03:48.920 Like the couples that are doing OnlyFans together.
00:03:52.020 Yeah, look at that Adam22 guy right now.
00:03:53.920 They're just greedy. 0.64
00:03:54.400 But they're not doing it together.
00:03:55.620 They're doing it with other people.
00:03:56.780 That's not what you mean.
00:03:57.420 It's only cook if there's someone else 0.99
00:03:59.100 in the room with you.
00:04:00.440 I mean, there's a million people watching it.
00:04:02.540 There might as well be in the room.
00:04:04.440 Yeah.
00:04:05.140 No, I think it's different.
00:04:06.300 No, I would disagree with you there.
00:04:07.620 But I'd say that's exhibitionism.
00:04:09.840 Yeah.
00:04:10.660 There are so many people who are into exhibitionism.
00:04:12.900 Like what you just said there,
00:04:14.000 where like if it's like a couple making OF content
00:04:16.200 and you said there's like a million people
00:04:17.540 in the room watching it, whatever.
00:04:18.700 Maybe, maybe.
00:04:19.460 They love that.
00:04:20.280 Look, maybe to you guys it's not.
00:04:22.680 But to me, that might as well be like cuck holding to me.
00:04:27.280 Yeah.
00:04:27.620 So like when you get married,
00:04:29.280 like obviously it's like whatever people are into.
00:04:31.440 Yeah.
00:04:31.680 But when you get married,
00:04:32.960 you want to make sure
00:04:33.580 that everything's like secret.
00:04:36.180 I bet you're into some real freaky shit.
00:04:37.960 Definitely.
00:04:38.720 Yeah.
00:04:39.140 She's looking at me like I hate you.
00:04:42.120 It's okay.
00:04:42.660 You don't have to say anything.
00:04:43.920 You don't.
00:04:44.580 Because obviously not everyone's an exhibitionist.
00:04:46.820 Oh, what?
00:04:48.680 Oh God.
00:04:49.680 Thing is, we work in the sex industry. 0.84
00:04:52.060 So we see the reality of this.
00:04:53.720 We see the reality of people's desires
00:04:55.700 that they will never admit to.
00:04:57.680 Is there a happy marriage?
00:04:58.960 Is there a happy marriage in the sex industry? 0.67
00:05:00.880 No.
00:05:01.240 The amount of people who are married.
00:05:02.840 No, not even just the people who are doing,
00:05:05.340 who are actually the creators.
00:05:07.160 The amount of people who come to you who are married
00:05:09.520 and they will say,
00:05:10.940 my wife won't let me do this.
00:05:12.360 Can we reenact this?
00:05:14.060 And I feel like this is where OnlyFans helps.
00:05:16.860 I personally do not enjoy speaking to people
00:05:21.080 who have girlfriends
00:05:21.900 because I don't like the aspect of upsetting a woman.
00:05:26.300 I don't like that.
00:05:27.380 I've had girls message me before.
00:05:28.940 I've had this girl once who messaged me and said,
00:05:30.700 my boyfriend constantly compares me to you.
00:05:32.800 I'm like, I'm sorry.
00:05:34.160 And I was saying this to you earlier.
00:05:35.220 And I was like, I'm sorry.
00:05:37.240 Like, that is a shitty man.
00:05:39.440 Like, I don't even know him.
00:05:41.060 But it's having that safe space.
00:05:43.480 I think some people still don't have the intelligence
00:05:46.680 to have the communication with their partner
00:05:48.880 to say, I'm into this.
00:05:50.840 Can we try this?
00:05:52.000 Can we try this?
00:05:53.060 And I think this is where OnlyFans comes hand in hand
00:05:55.040 because some people don't want to communicate
00:05:57.240 their deepest, darkest desires
00:05:58.700 and where they're behind a screen and they don't...
00:06:01.500 But shouldn't they figure out with that,
00:06:03.040 with their boyfriend?
00:06:04.220 A lot of people will go to their partner
00:06:08.400 and say, I'm into this.
00:06:09.740 And their partner will go,
00:06:10.600 I don't want anything to do with that.
00:06:12.920 So then they'll come to people like us
00:06:14.580 or they'll go to other sex workers, 1.00
00:06:16.320 escorts, things like that.
00:06:17.420 And then they'll go,
00:06:18.720 I need you to do this
00:06:20.080 because my wife won't do it. 1.00
00:06:21.440 Let's be honest.
00:06:22.180 Every person on earth watches porn.
00:06:24.280 Yeah.
00:06:24.820 Are you lying?
00:06:26.440 Absolutely lying.
00:06:27.580 They do.
00:06:28.420 But most.
00:06:29.620 They do.
00:06:30.120 Most men, but not...
00:06:31.320 I'd say there's a movement now to be...
00:06:32.920 But the reason why the percentage of people...
00:06:36.040 But you're going to project that
00:06:37.280 because you guys do it.
00:06:38.860 Yeah.
00:06:39.420 I mean, I don't want...
00:06:40.600 I'll counter that with one statistic.
00:06:42.680 Like, where does Pornhub rank
00:06:44.660 in terms of the most trafficked websites
00:06:46.500 on the planet?
00:06:47.940 Massively.
00:06:48.420 It's pretty high up there.
00:06:48.740 For sure, for sure.
00:06:49.600 Not even that.
00:06:50.860 But then I think there are a lot of...
00:06:52.560 There are a lot of women. 1.00
00:06:53.860 I think women have been ashamed 1.00
00:06:55.540 for watching it.
00:06:57.000 I think now that I do it,
00:06:58.600 I watch it less
00:06:59.680 because I know it's already...
00:07:00.680 Yeah, you get so desensitized.
00:07:02.640 Yeah.
00:07:03.060 Do you...
00:07:03.900 So what's your exit plan?
00:07:06.260 My exit plan?
00:07:07.040 Yeah.
00:07:07.660 I love the porn industry,
00:07:09.020 the adult industry.
00:07:09.680 He's never leaving.
00:07:10.260 I don't want to leave it.
00:07:11.440 There's no reason why.
00:07:12.160 So you think you could do it at 70?
00:07:13.740 Why not?
00:07:14.140 He could.
00:07:14.680 No, no.
00:07:15.460 Dudes can't. 0.78
00:07:16.800 Dudes can do it at 60, 60. 1.00
00:07:17.720 Hey, listen.
00:07:18.420 What about...
00:07:19.180 I know there's a guy...
00:07:20.060 How did you exit?
00:07:23.240 COVID happened.
00:07:24.260 Sugar daddy.
00:07:26.240 That was like...
00:07:27.280 You know, I stopped the bomb.
00:07:28.760 Like, what made you stop?
00:07:30.540 COVID happened.
00:07:31.200 Crypto.
00:07:31.620 Everything stopped.
00:07:32.460 Like, everyone...
00:07:33.000 All the work shut down.
00:07:33.840 Yeah.
00:07:34.060 I was getting all these DMs from guys who wanted, like, help, like, oh, I'm coming too quickly
00:07:38.640 or I'm getting premature ejaculated, like, erectile dysfunction, blah, blah, blah, and
00:07:41.440 I started helping them out because my background is, like, chemistry and pharmacology and shit.
00:07:45.180 So I was able to, like, plug that kind of...
00:07:47.280 So you make...
00:07:48.960 Do you tell them that porn is a reason why they are coming to it?
00:07:52.400 Well, most of the time it isn't.
00:07:53.860 Honestly, God, I didn't understand the ramifications that it had on the male brain and the dopamine
00:07:59.280 receptors until I started hearing more and more stories about it and diving into the science.
00:08:03.640 It'll be viewed like smoking, like, down the line.
00:08:05.840 Do you guys think...
00:08:06.720 Do you think sex work is a net good or a net negative for society?
00:08:11.440 I think it is a net negative for the pure fact that I think a lot of people think that
00:08:19.320 it's so easy.
00:08:21.240 And I think that...
00:08:23.040 I think it's a net good.
00:08:24.660 It's a net negative on society.
00:08:26.320 I think on society, because the opportunity to cheat, the opportunity to think that you're
00:08:32.000 going to get easy money, the opportunity of people who think that they have a stronger
00:08:36.140 mind than they actually do, and then when they try it out, they're like, oh, I can't
00:08:39.540 handle this, and then stop it.
00:08:41.440 Like, you know, it's not a job for the faint-hearted.
00:08:44.720 So overall, net negative.
00:08:46.340 What about you?
00:08:47.220 Yeah, I'd probably agree with Bella, to be honest.
00:08:49.760 Net negative.
00:08:51.540 It's a negative sometimes if you look at it from, like, our side.
00:08:55.680 But see, if you're looking at it from, like, a consumer's point, I would say it's a positive.
00:09:00.820 It's a positive for the men, but negative for the women. 0.99
00:09:03.440 Yeah, because, like, see a lot of my subscribers, for example.
00:09:06.940 How much do you make a month?
00:09:09.660 I don't...
00:09:10.320 Next month's listening.
00:09:11.340 Like, a good five figures.
00:09:14.700 Okay, so how is it a net negative for the women? 1.00
00:09:18.020 No, so, obviously it's good for me, but, like, I think it's also positive.
00:09:22.900 Because most women don't make money on it, okay. 1.00
00:09:25.880 Most people.
00:09:26.220 I think it's telling people that they can make five figures, and everyone going, I can make five figures, but you don't see how much work goes in behind that five figures.