JustPearlyThings - July 08, 2023


Stirling Cooper EXPOSES This Dark Truth About Average Men


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

207.63847

Word Count

1,988

Sentence Count

226

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, the guys talk about what it's like to be bisexual in the porn industry and why it's not a bad thing. They also talk about why they don't want to get married and why they think they should.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So knowing that, do you guys just, like,
00:00:01.940 expect to, like, live the rest of your life by yourself
00:00:04.360 or do you expect to get married?
00:00:06.820 I don't really care that much.
00:00:11.000 It's not a bad thing.
00:00:12.060 No, I mean, it's not a bad thing.
00:00:13.560 I think the thing is that, like, you know,
00:00:15.340 I know that cucks exist.
00:00:16.640 So worst case scenario, I could have a cuck.
00:00:19.980 So it really doesn't matter.
00:00:21.980 If I really wanted a man that badly,
00:00:23.480 but I'm bisexual, I could have anyone.
00:00:25.120 Like, if I really wanted it.
00:00:25.980 So your feeling is that they're lying in, like, most of them?
00:00:28.380 No, no, I don't think they're lying.
00:00:29.500 I really don't.
00:00:30.480 But the thing is, is that at the end of the day,
00:00:32.800 is that most people will be with you
00:00:35.920 if they want to be with you, regardless of whatever.
00:00:39.060 Oh, that is not true.
00:00:40.180 Yeah, but usually they will be with you.
00:00:42.080 And then as soon as you break up with them.
00:00:43.360 I know many men that have been in love with a chick
00:00:45.620 and they find out one thing about her past, they dump her.
00:00:48.740 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:49.740 No, but this is that they don't dump them.
00:00:51.420 Most guys will lie.
00:00:52.920 So they'll get with you and then they'll be like,
00:00:55.440 I love the fact that you do OnlyFans.
00:00:56.760 I love it.
00:00:57.180 And then as soon as you have an issue or a problem,
00:00:59.840 that's when they're like, you're a dirty whore.
00:01:01.360 And I'm like, oh, but you fucked me.
00:01:03.020 So that's your problem.
00:01:04.800 I feel like my experience is like the opposite
00:01:07.260 because I've dated guys, long-term relationships,
00:01:11.500 who have said I would never go out with somebody
00:01:14.960 like in the adult industry.
00:01:16.480 And then they meet me and then we ended up being together
00:01:20.660 for a long time and they accept it because it's me as a person
00:01:24.220 that they like love.
00:01:26.340 Yeah.
00:01:26.520 And I feel like the type of guy that I would want
00:01:28.340 would be able to look past that.
00:01:30.200 Exactly.
00:01:30.820 Yeah.
00:01:31.000 But 90% aren't looking past that.
00:01:34.040 Okay.
00:01:34.300 Well, that's what I'm saying.
00:01:34.980 10%.
00:01:35.600 He was.
00:01:35.840 Yeah.
00:01:36.720 We're going to be born there.
00:01:37.700 That 10% pool.
00:01:38.700 I'll play devil's advocate on two sides.
00:01:42.540 So one, I don't know if it counts unless you like had a kid
00:01:45.920 or you got married.
00:01:47.480 You know what I mean?
00:01:47.880 Like none of this like counts unless you're the wife.
00:01:50.140 Right?
00:01:50.180 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:50.680 Second thing, men do cap about what they'll accept.
00:01:53.980 I've had guys come on the show and say,
00:01:56.160 I would not accept this thing, you know,
00:01:57.760 and then you see behind the scenes, you know.
00:01:59.060 Well, that's the thing.
00:01:59.760 Like, yeah, like the 90% of guys,
00:02:02.340 I don't know where the poll came from.
00:02:03.760 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:04.560 Like it's easy for a guy to have a standard behind a keyboard.
00:02:07.100 Yeah.
00:02:07.360 Right.
00:02:07.620 It's very, very, very different for a man to have a standard
00:02:10.480 in real life when he's got zero fucking options.
00:02:13.020 So most guys have zero options.
00:02:14.500 Those guys are below fives.
00:02:16.060 So working in the porn industry,
00:02:19.080 a porn, shoot, I even did it.
00:02:20.680 Porn industry, porn industry.
00:02:22.540 What percent of guys do you think would accept it?
00:02:25.220 Just like from, because you probably.
00:02:26.880 Would marry a cool star.
00:02:28.400 Yeah, because you, I'd imagine you know.
00:02:30.320 Most of them were married.
00:02:31.260 Most of them were married.
00:02:31.780 Yeah, exactly.
00:02:32.320 Most of them get married.
00:02:33.600 It's like, that's kind of my point.
00:02:35.460 Like, it doesn't, like, we can sit here and pontificate
00:02:38.140 about like, oh, what men find acceptable,
00:02:41.320 what men do you put up with.
00:02:42.920 I'm telling you, I'm just going to be honest.
00:02:44.340 I'm telling you, I've seen it.
00:02:45.960 Most men don't marry.
00:02:47.420 Most men will end up married.
00:02:50.460 That's not, that's not actual, that's not actual marriage.
00:02:52.880 That's not actual life.
00:02:53.740 Do you know why I believe it?
00:02:55.240 Because, I mean, a hundred years ago,
00:02:57.220 85% of women were virgins.
00:02:59.540 So men do adapt to the market.
00:03:01.360 They do.
00:03:01.760 Yeah.
00:03:02.700 They do.
00:03:02.940 But I'm saying to Sterling's point,
00:03:04.040 like 90, I'd say 90% of the time
00:03:07.620 in the corn industry, that's not really marriage.
00:03:10.760 They're probably having sex with multiple partners.
00:03:13.420 Because if marriage is a definition of marriage,
00:03:16.300 it's probably not a religious marriage,
00:03:18.160 it's a civil marriage.
00:03:19.140 Yeah.
00:03:20.300 But that's not that.
00:03:21.280 That's not that.
00:03:21.560 It's definitely not a religious marriage.
00:03:23.520 Yeah.
00:03:24.400 Not a religious marriage.
00:03:25.620 But they will be together long term
00:03:29.080 and they will very often have kids.
00:03:30.520 Yeah.
00:03:30.920 Okay.
00:03:31.380 And live happily ever after.
00:03:32.340 And what about them?
00:03:32.960 That's questionable.
00:03:33.660 I don't think that's the case.
00:03:35.720 They live rich.
00:03:36.740 That's all that matters.
00:03:37.560 They'll be rich.
00:03:37.960 They'll probably end in divorce
00:03:38.980 and I'll have daughters that do OnlyFans.
00:03:40.880 No, that's completely like not right.
00:03:43.880 That's just a misconception.
00:03:45.720 What about the people, the content creators
00:03:47.300 that do it together?
00:03:48.920 Like the couples that are doing OnlyFans together.
00:03:52.020 Yeah, look at that Adam22 guy right now.
00:03:53.920 They're just greedy.
00:03:54.400 But they're not doing it together.
00:03:55.620 They're doing it with other people.
00:03:56.780 That's not what you mean.
00:03:57.420 It's only cook if there's someone else
00:03:59.100 in the room with you.
00:04:00.440 I mean, there's a million people watching it.
00:04:02.540 There might as well be in the room.
00:04:04.440 Yeah.
00:04:05.140 No, I think it's different.
00:04:06.300 No, I would disagree with you there.
00:04:07.620 But I'd say that's exhibitionism.
00:04:09.840 Yeah.
00:04:10.660 There are so many people who are into exhibitionism.
00:04:12.900 Like what you just said there,
00:04:14.000 where like if it's like a couple making OF content
00:04:16.200 and you said there's like a million people
00:04:17.540 in the room watching it, whatever.
00:04:18.700 Maybe, maybe.
00:04:19.460 They love that.
00:04:20.280 Look, maybe to you guys it's not.
00:04:22.680 But to me, that might as well be like cuck holding to me.
00:04:27.280 Yeah.
00:04:27.620 So like when you get married,
00:04:29.280 like obviously it's like whatever people are into.
00:04:31.440 Yeah.
00:04:31.680 But when you get married,
00:04:32.960 you want to make sure
00:04:33.580 that everything's like secret.
00:04:36.180 I bet you're into some real freaky shit.
00:04:37.960 Definitely.
00:04:38.720 Yeah.
00:04:39.140 She's looking at me like I hate you.
00:04:42.120 It's okay.
00:04:42.660 You don't have to say anything.
00:04:43.920 You don't.
00:04:44.580 Because obviously not everyone's an exhibitionist.
00:04:46.820 Oh, what?
00:04:48.680 Oh God.
00:04:49.680 Thing is, we work in the sex industry.
00:04:52.060 So we see the reality of this.
00:04:53.720 We see the reality of people's desires
00:04:55.700 that they will never admit to.
00:04:57.680 Is there a happy marriage?
00:04:58.960 Is there a happy marriage in the sex industry?
00:05:00.880 No.
00:05:01.240 The amount of people who are married.
00:05:02.840 No, not even just the people who are doing,
00:05:05.340 who are actually the creators.
00:05:07.160 The amount of people who come to you who are married
00:05:09.520 and they will say,
00:05:10.940 my wife won't let me do this.
00:05:12.360 Can we reenact this?
00:05:14.060 And I feel like this is where OnlyFans helps.
00:05:16.860 I personally do not enjoy speaking to people
00:05:21.080 who have girlfriends
00:05:21.900 because I don't like the aspect of upsetting a woman.
00:05:26.300 I don't like that.
00:05:27.380 I've had girls message me before.
00:05:28.940 I've had this girl once who messaged me and said,
00:05:30.700 my boyfriend constantly compares me to you.
00:05:32.800 I'm like, I'm sorry.
00:05:34.160 And I was saying this to you earlier.
00:05:35.220 And I was like, I'm sorry.
00:05:37.240 Like, that is a shitty man.
00:05:39.440 Like, I don't even know him.
00:05:41.060 But it's having that safe space.
00:05:43.480 I think some people still don't have the intelligence
00:05:46.680 to have the communication with their partner
00:05:48.880 to say, I'm into this.
00:05:50.840 Can we try this?
00:05:52.000 Can we try this?
00:05:53.060 And I think this is where OnlyFans comes hand in hand
00:05:55.040 because some people don't want to communicate
00:05:57.240 their deepest, darkest desires
00:05:58.700 and where they're behind a screen and they don't...
00:06:01.500 But shouldn't they figure out with that,
00:06:03.040 with their boyfriend?
00:06:04.220 A lot of people will go to their partner
00:06:08.400 and say, I'm into this.
00:06:09.740 And their partner will go,
00:06:10.600 I don't want anything to do with that.
00:06:12.920 So then they'll come to people like us
00:06:14.580 or they'll go to other sex workers,
00:06:16.320 escorts, things like that.
00:06:17.420 And then they'll go,
00:06:18.720 I need you to do this
00:06:20.080 because my wife won't do it.
00:06:21.440 Let's be honest.
00:06:22.180 Every person on earth watches porn.
00:06:24.280 Yeah.
00:06:24.820 Are you lying?
00:06:26.440 Absolutely lying.
00:06:27.580 They do.
00:06:28.420 But most.
00:06:29.620 They do.
00:06:30.120 Most men, but not...
00:06:31.320 I'd say there's a movement now to be...
00:06:32.920 But the reason why the percentage of people...
00:06:36.040 But you're going to project that
00:06:37.280 because you guys do it.
00:06:38.860 Yeah.
00:06:39.420 I mean, I don't want...
00:06:40.600 I'll counter that with one statistic.
00:06:42.680 Like, where does Pornhub rank
00:06:44.660 in terms of the most trafficked websites
00:06:46.500 on the planet?
00:06:47.940 Massively.
00:06:48.420 It's pretty high up there.
00:06:48.740 For sure, for sure.
00:06:49.600 Not even that.
00:06:50.860 But then I think there are a lot of...
00:06:52.560 There are a lot of women.
00:06:53.860 I think women have been ashamed
00:06:55.540 for watching it.
00:06:57.000 I think now that I do it,
00:06:58.600 I watch it less
00:06:59.680 because I know it's already...
00:07:00.680 Yeah, you get so desensitized.
00:07:02.640 Yeah.
00:07:03.060 Do you...
00:07:03.900 So what's your exit plan?
00:07:06.260 My exit plan?
00:07:07.040 Yeah.
00:07:07.660 I love the porn industry,
00:07:09.020 the adult industry.
00:07:09.680 He's never leaving.
00:07:10.260 I don't want to leave it.
00:07:11.440 There's no reason why.
00:07:12.160 So you think you could do it at 70?
00:07:13.740 Why not?
00:07:14.140 He could.
00:07:14.680 No, no.
00:07:15.460 Dudes can't.
00:07:16.800 Dudes can do it at 60, 60.
00:07:17.720 Hey, listen.
00:07:18.420 What about...
00:07:19.180 I know there's a guy...
00:07:20.060 How did you exit?
00:07:23.240 COVID happened.
00:07:24.260 Sugar daddy.
00:07:26.240 That was like...
00:07:27.280 You know, I stopped the bomb.
00:07:28.760 Like, what made you stop?
00:07:30.540 COVID happened.
00:07:31.200 Crypto.
00:07:31.620 Everything stopped.
00:07:32.460 Like, everyone...
00:07:33.000 All the work shut down.
00:07:33.840 Yeah.
00:07:34.060 I was getting all these DMs from guys who wanted, like, help, like, oh, I'm coming too quickly
00:07:38.640 or I'm getting premature ejaculated, like, erectile dysfunction, blah, blah, blah, and
00:07:41.440 I started helping them out because my background is, like, chemistry and pharmacology and shit.
00:07:45.180 So I was able to, like, plug that kind of...
00:07:47.280 So you make...
00:07:48.960 Do you tell them that porn is a reason why they are coming to it?
00:07:52.400 Well, most of the time it isn't.
00:07:53.860 Honestly, God, I didn't understand the ramifications that it had on the male brain and the dopamine
00:07:59.280 receptors until I started hearing more and more stories about it and diving into the science.
00:08:03.640 It'll be viewed like smoking, like, down the line.
00:08:05.840 Do you guys think...
00:08:06.720 Do you think sex work is a net good or a net negative for society?
00:08:11.440 I think it is a net negative for the pure fact that I think a lot of people think that
00:08:19.320 it's so easy.
00:08:21.240 And I think that...
00:08:23.040 I think it's a net good.
00:08:24.660 It's a net negative on society.
00:08:26.320 I think on society, because the opportunity to cheat, the opportunity to think that you're
00:08:32.000 going to get easy money, the opportunity of people who think that they have a stronger
00:08:36.140 mind than they actually do, and then when they try it out, they're like, oh, I can't
00:08:39.540 handle this, and then stop it.
00:08:41.440 Like, you know, it's not a job for the faint-hearted.
00:08:44.720 So overall, net negative.
00:08:46.340 What about you?
00:08:47.220 Yeah, I'd probably agree with Bella, to be honest.
00:08:49.760 Net negative.
00:08:51.540 It's a negative sometimes if you look at it from, like, our side.
00:08:55.680 But see, if you're looking at it from, like, a consumer's point, I would say it's a positive.
00:09:00.820 It's a positive for the men, but negative for the women.
00:09:03.440 Yeah, because, like, see a lot of my subscribers, for example.
00:09:06.940 How much do you make a month?
00:09:09.660 I don't...
00:09:10.320 Next month's listening.
00:09:11.340 Like, a good five figures.
00:09:14.700 Okay, so how is it a net negative for the women?
00:09:18.020 No, so, obviously it's good for me, but, like, I think it's also positive.
00:09:22.900 Because most women don't make money on it, okay.
00:09:25.880 Most people.
00:09:26.220 I think it's telling people that they can make five figures, and everyone going, I can make five figures, but you don't see how much work goes in behind that five figures.