The Biggest CHALLENGE In DATING In 2023
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what we have found to be the biggest challenge in dating in 2023, and how to deal with it. We also talk about the top 3 things women lie about to each other, and why it s a red flag.
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What is the biggest challenge you guys have found in dating in 2023?
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I would just say general lack of integrity and a lack of honesty.
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Everybody's lying about how good they are, how pure they are, how much money they make.
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Like, I mean, you girls were saying it earlier.
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Like, you know, the guys that try to show off on the first date.
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And the number one thing that destroys trust is lies and dishonesty.
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Like the more you lie, the more you're just going to set yourself up for guaranteed failure.
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Like I just, when you meet somebody, you start dating them and they lie at the beginning.
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And then you find out the truth of these lies later.
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Integrity and honesty, which I think, you know, just nowadays is fleeting.
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What is the top three things women lie about to you?
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When that guy just casually comes up in conversation, like, what are we doing here?
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I just don't think you're, you know, obligated to answer the question.
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I mean, you know, if somebody asks you a personal question, you don't have to answer it.
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Yeah, but I think if you want to get married...
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I think if you want to get married, you should...
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I mean, even in some religions, you know, it says that, you know, you don't have to disclose
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In fact, that's to do with anything you have done previously that involves...
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You're not obligated to tell your partner, future partner, how many...
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If you have slept with anyone or how many or anything like that.
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But I know of Muslims, you're not supposed to be sleeping with anyone before you're married.
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But you're also, if you have happened, you happen to have done something before, you're
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So, I'm confused because you said you'd never lied about it.
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I mean, any personal question that you ask me, I don't have to answer.
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I have answered that question previously, yes, to people.
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But yeah, you just, I don't think you should be, should feel, you know, on edge to answer
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What, from the girls, do you think, like, if a guy asks you that, are you okay answering?
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I don't, I don't think it's okay, but I feel like I'll just have to answer.
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Okay, if I don't answer, he'll be like, why are you not answering?
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They're just going to assume it's high if you don't answer.
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Yeah, like, he'll think it's a million, so I just might as well just answer.
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There's just so many hoes out there lying that they're fucking jaded.
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Yeah, jaded as in, like, you know, they're just, they have a lot of bad experiences about
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A lot of guys, men value sexual purity above a majority of things in a relationship, right?
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And if you're going to lie about that, it's just like, we're just not, it's not okay.
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That's why, like, virgin brides are, like, celebrated across all cultures, all religions, over all time periods.
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Would you want to be with a girl that's a virgin?
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I mean, if she was, if I met a girl and I liked her and she was like, I'm a virgin, I'm not
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going to be like, all right, bitch, get out of here.
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I just think, in my opinion, I think there's so much more to relationships than sex.
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Like, literally, like, if I decided to go celibate right now, I wouldn't go any type
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So I don't think how many people someone slept with.
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I think you tell yourself you're different, but I think it's literally just about self-control.
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Yeah, and just learning how to just control yourself and just not be a dog.
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Like, you can't just say, oh, men are different.
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That's why I'm allowed to sleep with 100 people, but I want a virgin.
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I mean, I never said, like, anyone's allowed to do anything, but, you know, I mean, people
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can do whatever they want, but the part I'm trying to make is, like, we are definitely
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From what I've read, it seems like testosterone is a primary hormone that determines one's
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So that would make sense that our libido generally is a lot higher.
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And I'm not saying this is exhaustive for all men and women.
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I'm just saying generally men have a higher libido and therefore a higher sex drive.
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Well, and it's not about what they can and can't do.
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Like, a lot of times people try to make this, like, men can sleep with a lot of people and
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women can as a moral argument, but it's just how it's always been throughout all of history.
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Women have typically been virgins, and if they were not virgins, they were concubines.
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And the men would get multiple women, or at least the top men anyway, like the top, like
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Most men were monogamous in history, but the top men just had a lot of women.
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Yeah, I think being societally allowed to do something as well doesn't necessarily mean
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Just because you're societally allowed to, that doesn't mean your status, you know, a bunch
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of other things allow you to actually get that result.
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I was looking for, gosh, I'm trying to find this study where it talks about, like, what
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percent of men will ask a girl their body count.
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Yeah, I would never ask, because I just don't think you're going to get the right answer.
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Just, like, watch, you know, because then you can actually see.
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You know, I would never, I'd rather, like, watch paint dry on a wall than ask.
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I think asking, it's just, it's just not going to be worth it, bros.
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Because you know you're not necessarily going to get the truth.
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You're going to get some kind of weird amalgamation of the truth and a lie.
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I can't find it, but it's roughly, like, 50% of men will ask in the first, like, three
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And it's, like, over, like, it's seven to ten or something.
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Roughly most men will disqualify you if you've slept with more than that.
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Because it's just, like, it just, it's not that, it's just, the high body count is usually
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a symptom of something else that's not conducive to a long-term relationship.
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It's, like, the decision-making factors that have led her to be, like, you know, in her
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What do you guys, what do you guys think the average body count is for a 30-year-old single
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Because the average age of first marriage in the UK is 31.
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What's the average body count of a 30-year-old?
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I think that's difficult to say because, like, obviously you work in a particular industry
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and your lifestyle is a particular way, so you're going to be influenced by what's around
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I mean, there are definitely women on all sorts of spectrums.
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In terms of numbers, like, I would say definitely higher than in the past.
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And that's, like, I guess, like, being kind of polite, especially because of how accessible
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The average body count, according to data, is four to eight.
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This is why you don't ask for their body counts.
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Maybe if they're nuns or they're in a church or they're really religious, maybe, but as
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Not unless they really are down with Jesus Christ.
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Do you think that's because we're in London, though?
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Because it might be a bit different if you're in the countryside a little bit more.
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I think it'd be higher if it's in a countryside because there's nothing for them cats to do
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All the good girls I've met, they all live like in the fucking sticks.
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I think it's like the city is like, I don't know, modern cities are just like giant hookup
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Nobody comes to the city and is like, I'm ready to be a good girl in the city.
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Like, I'm really ready to find a good church down there.
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And I think, you know, I think it is an important question for guys because it's like, that's
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She's like, why would somebody talk about a body count like that?
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But I think, yeah, I mean, for guys, I've been all over the world.
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I've been to South America, you know, Canada, North America, Europe.
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And it seems across the board that guys do value a woman with a lower body count versus
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And I just think, I think more guys are concerned with it, but they, I think they either kind
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of give up, like the gentleman over here said, like, they're just like, ah, they're going
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But I think, like, certain other guys, they just want to know the truth.
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For me, I just want to know what I'm getting into.
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That's, I met a girl one time, and she was like, yeah, I went on, like, I had a whole phase
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And I was just like, yeah, I really respected her for telling me that.
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What do you think the average body count is for a 30-year-old woman?
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Um, no clue, to be honest, because I don't, I mean, um, okay, let's, let me just, you're
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Yeah, but my friends are kind of married, and, you know, they got married very early on,
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um, so, yeah, um, I'm just going to pick a number, I'm just going to say 15.
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Yeah, but, like, I don't know, like, let's say now you lose your virginity when you're,
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like, 16, that's one person, and then when you're 18, and then you're in a relationship
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with that person, so you're 22, and then you meet another person.
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I mean, yeah, I guess it depends on the kind of, kind of,
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It depends on the kind of person that you are, really, but.
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Okay, so, if they are starting from the age of 16, legal age, I'm saying, well, if we're
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talking about in today's climate, it could, it's possible that it could be more than 20,
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because you've got, you know, the dating apps, you know, all these clubs, you know, the fact
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that society is actually making it more normal for women to be liberated and empowered by
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sleeping with people, so, um, it could be anything 20 plus.
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Give me, give me a number that you think it's at.
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They did a study with mattresses that were like, it was an indirect study that they like
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figured out body count that way, and they said it like from 28, 29, 30, it's like, according
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Uh, it was something to do with, like, something about the mattress and, like, DNA left of the
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Or, like, and buying new mattresses and the reasons why.
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And, yeah, you should check it out, check out the, with the mattress study.
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Around about the 10 mark, based on, um, you saying earlier, men sort of, their cutoff
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So, and I'm gonna assume that these men are just very average, normal thinking men, so.
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Because if a man at 30 is going, my cutoff point for a woman is 10, I think that man tried
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So you can get a man that's like, oh, I don't want anyone, um, that slept with even one person.
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And then the other way is, well, the men that, I don't mind what number it is.
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But I think if the average man is saying about 10, and that's their mark, then I think women,
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I would say, by and large, like, women don't necessarily prioritize what a man wants out of
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And nowadays, just because a man says they don't want to do that.
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And then, like, when you have, like, Instagram and stuff, like, kind of forcing girls to,
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like, sexualize themselves for more likes and more views and stuff like that.
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Like, we live in the most hyper-sexualized time humans have ever had.