JustPearlyThings - The Biggest CHALLENGE In DATING In 2023

00:00:00.000 What is the biggest challenge you guys have found in dating in 2023?

00:00:08.140 I'll go first.

00:00:10.260 I would just say general lack of integrity and a lack of honesty.

00:00:16.220 I think that's a big problem nowadays.

00:00:18.760 Everybody is just lying.

00:00:21.920 Everybody's like flex culture.

00:00:24.460 Everybody's lying about how good they are, how pure they are, how much money they make.

00:00:28.940 Like, I mean, you girls were saying it earlier.

00:00:31.460 Like, you know, the guys that try to show off on the first date.

00:00:33.720 When the backbone of relationships is trust.

00:00:37.340 And the number one thing that destroys trust is lies and dishonesty.

00:00:41.160 Like the more you lie, the more you're just going to set yourself up for guaranteed failure.

00:00:46.660 Like I just, when you meet somebody, you start dating them and they lie at the beginning.

00:00:50.780 And then you find out the truth of these lies later.

00:00:53.940 Like all it does is build resentment.

00:00:56.020 And you feel like duped.

00:00:57.580 You feel called.

00:00:58.060 You've been bamboozled.

00:00:58.600 Yeah, you've been caught.

00:00:59.820 Bamboozled.

00:01:00.100 Bamboozled.

00:01:00.560 Tricked.

00:01:01.500 You know?

00:01:02.100 So I just think integrity is huge.

00:01:05.180 Integrity and honesty, which I think, you know, just nowadays is fleeting.

00:01:10.260 What is the top three things women lie about to you? 1.00

00:01:16.200 Definitely body count.

00:01:17.420 Oh, for sure.

00:01:19.680 Definitely body count.

00:01:21.200 Body count.

00:01:21.800 Um, not being over an ex.

00:01:25.660 Oh, okay.

00:01:26.280 You know?

00:01:27.260 When that guy just casually comes up in conversation, like, what are we doing here?

00:01:30.180 Why are we talking about this person?

00:01:33.200 And then...

00:01:34.480 We never do that.

00:01:35.820 No.

00:01:37.220 So, okay, okay.

00:01:38.060 And then I just think, uh, intentions.

00:01:42.180 You know what I mean?

00:01:42.660 Okay.

00:01:43.080 Like, what do you really like me for?

00:01:44.920 So, body count?

00:01:46.460 Body count?

00:01:47.620 Being over an ex.

00:01:48.980 Being over an ex.

00:01:50.260 Intentions.

00:01:50.660 So I'm curious.

00:01:51.180 Intentions.

00:01:51.640 Girls, raise your hand. 1.00

00:01:52.760 Have you ever lied about your body count?

00:01:55.160 No?

00:01:55.760 Never?

00:01:56.240 Have you ever been asked from a guy?

00:01:57.880 Yeah.

00:01:58.100 Yeah, and you've always told the truth.

00:02:00.980 Okay.

00:02:02.560 So we got a lot of liars. 0.78

00:02:05.940 I would never even ask for a good body count.

00:02:08.500 Second, second question.

00:02:10.040 I just don't think you're, you know, obligated to answer the question.

00:02:13.460 I mean, you know, if somebody asks you a personal question, you don't have to answer it.

00:02:17.060 You know?

00:02:17.540 Yeah, but I think if you want to get married...

00:02:19.200 That's going to look like a red flag.

00:02:20.980 I think if you want to get married, you should...

00:02:22.800 Even if you want to get married.

00:02:23.520 I mean, even in some religions, you know, it says that, you know, you don't have to disclose

00:02:27.980 that information or anything.

00:02:29.440 In fact, that's to do with anything you have done previously that involves...

00:02:33.700 What religions say that?

00:02:36.140 Islam.

00:02:37.500 Does it?

00:02:38.060 Yeah.

00:02:38.500 You're not obligated to tell your partner, future partner, how many...

00:02:42.420 If you have slept with anyone or how many or anything like that.

00:02:46.480 Wow.

00:02:46.880 Which is crazy.

00:02:47.520 It's very interesting.

00:02:48.400 You should look up the facts.

00:02:50.080 Yeah, I know.

00:02:50.540 I've never heard of that.

00:02:51.660 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:51.980 It's crazy.

00:02:52.480 But I know of Muslims, you're not supposed to be sleeping with anyone before you're married. 1.00

00:02:55.840 That's a fact, yeah.

00:02:58.140 But you're also, if you have happened, you happen to have done something before, you're

00:03:03.840 not obligated to tell anyone.

00:03:05.520 So, I'm confused because you said you'd never lied about it.

00:03:08.440 Do you just not answer if they ask you?

00:03:10.740 I mean, any personal question that you ask me, I don't have to answer.

00:03:14.720 I have answered that question previously, yes, to people.

00:03:18.600 But yeah, you just, I don't think you should be, should feel, you know, on edge to answer

00:03:22.920 people's questions.

00:03:24.020 Yeah.

00:03:24.560 That's all.

00:03:24.960 What, from the girls, do you think, like, if a guy asks you that, are you okay answering?

00:03:29.160 You don't care?

00:03:30.180 Raise your hand if you think it's okay.

00:03:31.680 Like, for him to ask that, if she's okay.

00:03:33.440 I don't, I don't think it's okay, but I feel like I'll just have to answer.

00:03:36.300 Okay, if I don't answer, he'll be like, why are you not answering?

00:03:39.180 They're just going to assume it's high if you don't answer.

00:03:40.900 Yeah, like, he'll think it's a million, so I just might as well just answer.

00:03:43.820 But I hate the question.

00:03:45.080 On a first date, anyway.

00:03:46.680 Like, if I know you.

00:03:47.000 If I ask it on a first date?

00:03:48.360 That's my core.

00:03:48.920 Men will ask you when they're texting you. 0.94

00:03:50.460 They don't even know you.

00:03:51.540 Like, they'll just ask you on text.

00:03:53.300 Do you know why that is?

00:03:54.760 Why? 0.99

00:03:55.220 There's just so many hoes out there lying that they're fucking jaded. 1.00

00:03:58.660 That's a big part of it. 0.99

00:03:59.660 Jaded?

00:04:00.340 Yeah, jaded as in, like, you know, they're just, they have a lot of bad experiences about

00:04:05.360 being lied to about that stuff.

00:04:06.860 Because that's a big thing.

00:04:07.680 A lot of guys, men value sexual purity above a majority of things in a relationship, right?

00:04:16.020 And if you're going to lie about that, it's just like, we're just not, it's not okay.

00:04:21.580 Yeah, but like.

00:04:22.240 That's why, like, virgin brides are, like, celebrated across all cultures, all religions, over all time periods.

00:04:29.900 Okay.

00:04:31.420 Would you want a virgin? 0.94

00:04:32.640 Would you want to be with a girl that's a virgin? 1.00

00:04:34.180 Yes. 0.66

00:04:34.420 Yeah.

00:04:34.680 I mean, if she was, if I met a girl and I liked her and she was like, I'm a virgin, I'm not 0.99

00:04:40.040 going to be like, all right, bitch, get out of here. 1.00

00:04:41.840 Like. 1.00

00:04:42.440 It's not a tunnel.

00:04:43.920 No, it's not.

00:04:44.500 It's not a tunnel.

00:04:45.020 I don't know.

00:04:45.620 I just think, in my opinion, I think there's so much more to relationships than sex.

00:04:49.220 Like, literally, like, if I decided to go celibate right now, I wouldn't go any type

00:04:53.280 of way.

00:04:53.620 So I don't think how many people someone slept with. 0.96

00:04:55.760 For women.

00:04:56.860 For women.

00:04:57.880 Yeah, but.

00:04:58.440 For men are different.

00:04:59.900 If you told a guy, oh, you get a wife.

00:05:01.420 They tell themselves that they're different.

00:05:02.200 If you tell a guy, you get a wife, but no sex. 0.90

00:05:06.040 No guy is going to sign up for that.

00:05:07.600 Yeah, we are different.

00:05:09.580 I think you tell yourself you're different, but I think it's literally just about self-control.

00:05:14.740 Yeah, and just learning how to just control yourself and just not be a dog.

00:05:18.940 Like, you can't just say, oh, men are different. 0.89

00:05:22.760 That's why I'm allowed to sleep with 100 people, but I want a virgin.

00:05:25.060 You can't say that.

00:05:25.540 I mean, I never said, like, anyone's allowed to do anything, but, you know, I mean, people

00:05:30.220 can do whatever they want, but the part I'm trying to make is, like, we are definitely

00:05:33.380 different.

00:05:34.900 From what I've read, it seems like testosterone is a primary hormone that determines one's

00:05:39.580 libido.

00:05:40.220 So men have that a lot more.

00:05:41.960 So that would make sense that our libido generally is a lot higher.

00:05:44.800 And I'm not saying this is exhaustive for all men and women.

00:05:46.800 I'm just saying generally men have a higher libido and therefore a higher sex drive.

00:05:50.340 So that difference is a fact.

00:05:52.940 Well, and it's not about what they can and can't do.

00:05:55.760 Like, a lot of times people try to make this, like, men can sleep with a lot of people and

00:05:59.040 women can as a moral argument, but it's just how it's always been throughout all of history. 1.00

00:06:03.200 Women have typically been virgins, and if they were not virgins, they were concubines. 0.99

00:06:07.840 And the men would get multiple women, or at least the top men anyway, like the top, like

00:06:13.140 15% of men.

00:06:14.000 Most men were monogamous in history, but the top men just had a lot of women.

00:06:19.240 Yeah, I think being societally allowed to do something as well doesn't necessarily mean

00:06:23.120 a lot of guys can.

00:06:24.440 Just because you're societally allowed to, that doesn't mean your status, you know, a bunch

00:06:28.840 of other things allow you to actually get that result.

00:06:31.680 I was looking for, gosh, I'm trying to find this study where it talks about, like, what

00:06:38.960 percent of men will ask a girl their body count.

00:06:42.440 I would never ask.

00:06:43.980 No, it's higher than you think.

00:06:46.380 Yeah, I would never ask, because I just don't think you're going to get the right answer.

00:06:49.420 Just, like, watch, you know, because then you can actually see.

00:06:51.820 You know, I would never, I'd rather, like, watch paint dry on a wall than ask.

00:06:54.780 I think asking, it's just, it's just not going to be worth it, bros.

00:06:58.940 Because you know you're not necessarily going to get the truth.

00:07:01.980 Exactly.

00:07:02.300 You're going to get some kind of weird amalgamation of the truth and a lie.

00:07:06.360 Well, very well said.

00:07:07.500 I can't find it, but it's roughly, like, 50% of men will ask in the first, like, three

00:07:14.780 months, basically.

00:07:16.060 Like, yeah, 50%.

00:07:17.200 And it's, like, over, like, it's seven to ten or something.

00:07:22.640 Roughly most men will disqualify you if you've slept with more than that.

00:07:26.220 Facts.

00:07:26.580 Yeah.

00:07:27.040 Yeah.

00:07:27.480 Because it's just, like, it just, it's not that, it's just, the high body count is usually

00:07:33.900 a symptom of something else that's not conducive to a long-term relationship.

00:07:39.640 That's the big thing.

00:07:40.680 It's, like, the decision-making factors that have led her to be, like, you know, in her

00:07:45.300 20s with, like, 30, 40 bodies.

00:07:47.660 You're just, like, okay.

00:07:50.520 What happened?

00:07:51.740 What do you guys, what do you guys think the average body count is for a 30-year-old single

00:07:56.640 woman? 0.96

00:07:57.180 Because the average age of first marriage in the UK is 31.

00:08:00.280 So let's just say he meets her at 30.

00:08:01.880 What's the average body count of a 30-year-old?

00:08:04.600 I think that's difficult to say because, like, obviously you work in a particular industry

00:08:09.220 and your lifestyle is a particular way, so you're going to be influenced by what's around

00:08:12.320 you.

00:08:12.940 I mean, there are definitely women on all sorts of spectrums. 1.00

00:08:15.840 In terms of numbers, like, I would say definitely higher than in the past.

00:08:22.360 Yeah.

00:08:23.060 It's a given.

00:08:24.580 That's a really tough one.

00:08:25.640 I mean, it could be a broad range.

00:08:27.120 I'd say maybe, like, 40 to 60.

00:08:30.220 And that's, like, I guess, like, being kind of polite, especially because of how accessible

00:08:34.280 it is.

00:08:34.680 It's like...

00:08:35.500 The average body count, according to data, is four to eight.

00:08:38.760 Who believes that?

00:08:39.900 Yeah, that's...

00:08:40.500 That's cap in.

00:08:41.220 That's cap.

00:08:42.320 That is cap.

00:08:43.600 Cap in.

00:08:44.420 So bad.

00:08:45.200 That's cap.

00:08:45.780 Jesus Christ.

00:08:46.320 Does anyone here believe that?

00:08:48.820 This is why you don't ask for their body counts.

00:08:50.780 Maybe if they're nuns or they're in a church or they're really religious, maybe, but as

00:08:57.660 far as average ladies go, I don't think so. 1.00

00:09:00.160 Not unless they really are down with Jesus Christ.

00:09:03.300 Do you think that's because we're in London, though?

00:09:05.380 Oh, sorry.

00:09:05.880 Because it might be a bit different if you're in the countryside a little bit more.

00:09:11.860 I agree.

00:09:12.360 I think it'd be higher if it's in a countryside because there's nothing for them cats to do

00:09:15.560 out there.

00:09:16.020 Really?

00:09:16.220 I think it's the opposite. 1.00

00:09:20.760 All the good girls I've met, they all live like in the fucking sticks. 0.99

00:09:24.620 Oh, you need to watch Emmerdale. 0.99

00:09:26.560 I think it's like the city is like, I don't know, modern cities are just like giant hookup

00:09:32.320 culture centers.

00:09:33.540 Yeah.

00:09:33.940 You know?

00:09:34.420 Nobody comes to the city and is like, I'm ready to be a good girl in the city.

00:09:38.020 Girls don't like go to Miami. 1.00

00:09:39.800 Like, I'm really ready to find a good church down there.

00:09:44.060 You know?

00:09:44.660 And I think, you know, I think it is an important question for guys because it's like, that's

00:09:50.360 a slang now.

00:09:51.280 Everybody, you say, what is body count?

00:09:53.100 Like, I was explaining body count to my mom.

00:09:54.860 She's like, have these people killed people?

00:09:57.420 She's like, why would somebody talk about a body count like that?

00:10:00.900 I was like, no, mom, actually.

00:10:02.620 It's this part of the culture.

00:10:03.860 But I think, yeah, I mean, for guys, I've been all over the world.

00:10:08.420 I've been to Africa.

00:10:09.140 I've been all over Asia.

00:10:09.900 I've been to South America, you know, Canada, North America, Europe.

00:10:13.400 And it seems across the board that guys do value a woman with a lower body count versus

00:10:20.840 a higher body count.

00:10:22.840 And I just think, I think more guys are concerned with it, but they, I think they either kind

00:10:27.680 of give up, like the gentleman over here said, like, they're just like, ah, they're going 1.00

00:10:32.200 to lie, so fuck it. 1.00

00:10:33.140 But I think, like, certain other guys, they just want to know the truth. 1.00

00:10:37.100 For me, I just want to know what I'm getting into.

00:10:39.220 That's, I met a girl one time, and she was like, yeah, I went on, like, I had a whole phase

00:10:43.340 on the first date, she told me.

00:10:45.360 And I was just like, yeah, I really respected her for telling me that.

00:10:49.220 Then we had sex on the first date.

00:10:53.620 What about you guys?

00:10:54.680 What do you think the average body count is for a 30-year-old woman? 1.00

00:10:57.440 In the AK?

00:10:59.140 Just here, London.

00:11:00.420 In London.

00:11:00.860 Um, no clue, to be honest, because I don't, I mean, um, okay, let's, let me just, you're

00:11:07.000 friends, don't you?

00:11:08.340 Yeah, but my friends are kind of married, and, you know, they got married very early on,

00:11:14.520 um, so, yeah, um, I'm just going to pick a number, I'm just going to say 15.

00:11:19.340 15?

00:11:19.820 Yeah.

00:11:20.160 Okay, what do you think?

00:11:21.740 Like, four, five?

00:11:23.700 Four or five?

00:11:24.420 Yeah.

00:11:24.900 Okay.

00:11:25.560 By the time they're 30?

00:11:27.320 Oh, like, six, seven, I don't know.

00:11:30.080 You know, you know how many years 30 years is?

00:11:33.500 Yeah, but, like, I don't know, like, let's say now you lose your virginity when you're,

00:11:37.540 like, 16, that's one person, and then when you're 18, and then you're in a relationship

00:11:44.100 with that person, so you're 22, and then you meet another person.

00:11:47.180 Like, it's normal.

00:11:48.220 It's normal, like, I think, like, six, seven.

00:11:51.720 I mean, yeah, I guess it depends on the kind of, kind of,

00:11:54.500 It depends on the kind of person that you are, really, but.

00:11:57.060 Are they saying 45, 120 in the chat?

00:12:01.060 That's probably more accurate than, yeah.

00:12:02.740 Yeah, yeah.

00:12:03.440 She was scared to say 50.

00:12:05.120 That's what I'm saying.

00:12:05.960 Yeah.

00:12:07.040 All right, what do you think?

00:12:08.820 Me?

00:12:09.300 Yeah, how many?

00:12:10.480 Um, blood clots?

00:12:12.740 Okay, so, if they are starting from the age of 16, legal age, I'm saying, well, if we're

00:12:21.700 talking about in today's climate, it could, it's possible that it could be more than 20,

00:12:26.580 because you've got, you know, the dating apps, you know, all these clubs, you know, the fact

00:12:32.120 that society is actually making it more normal for women to be liberated and empowered by 1.00

00:12:38.940 sleeping with people, so, um, it could be anything 20 plus.

00:12:44.040 20 plus?

00:12:45.060 Yeah.

00:12:45.540 So, 25?

00:12:47.420 Oof.

00:12:48.060 30?

00:12:48.700 Oh, it's not something like that, yeah.

00:12:51.460 Okay, all right, what do you think?

00:12:53.840 Uh, I would say definitely 20 plus.

00:12:56.580 If she's been sick.

00:12:57.220 Give me, give me a number that you think it's at.

00:13:00.280 Hmm.

00:13:02.380 Let's see.

00:13:05.000 25?

00:13:05.720 25.

00:13:06.460 25.

00:13:07.080 They did a study with mattresses that were like, it was an indirect study that they like

00:13:10.960 figured out body count that way, and they said it like from 28, 29, 30, it's like, according

00:13:16.960 to this mattress study, it was like 40 to 50.

00:13:20.940 Wait, how do they, how?

00:13:22.560 Uh, it was something to do with, like, something about the mattress and, like, DNA left of the

00:13:29.720 mattress and wear and tear.

00:13:30.900 No, that's so crazy.

00:13:32.340 Or, like, and buying new mattresses and the reasons why.

00:13:35.440 And, yeah, you should check it out, check out the, with the mattress study.

00:13:39.560 The mat, I might.

00:13:42.100 What about you?

00:13:42.520 What do you think it is?

00:13:43.240 Around about the 10 mark, based on, um, you saying earlier, men sort of, their cutoff

00:13:55.120 points about 10.

00:13:56.740 Okay.

00:13:57.080 So, and I'm gonna assume that these men are just very average, normal thinking men, so.

00:14:07.580 No, it's just for women. 1.00

00:14:08.660 For women.

00:14:09.380 Yeah, so if it's, if, yeah, 10, 10-ish.

00:14:12.980 Because if a man at 30 is going, my cutoff point for a woman is 10, I think that man tried 0.99

00:14:21.820 to be open.

00:14:26.180 So you can get a man that's like, oh, I don't want anyone, um, that slept with even one person. 0.99

00:14:33.960 That's a smaller group of men.

00:14:37.880 And then the other way is, well, the men that, I don't mind what number it is.

00:14:42.100 It could be 40, 50.

00:14:43.120 It doesn't make a difference.

00:14:44.460 And that's the other extreme.

00:14:45.340 But I think if the average man is saying about 10, and that's their mark, then I think women, 1.00

00:14:52.620 for me anyway, is about the 10 mark.

00:14:54.800 I would say, by and large, like, women don't necessarily prioritize what a man wants out of 1.00

00:14:59.460 a long-term relationship.

00:15:00.720 Women will sit around exclusively despite men. 1.00

00:15:03.420 And nowadays, just because a man says they don't want to do that.

00:15:06.060 Yeah, they'll F his best friend, right?

00:15:08.040 It's like in song lyrics.

00:15:09.460 Yeah.

00:15:10.080 Yeah.

00:15:10.460 And then, like, when you have, like, Instagram and stuff, like, kind of forcing girls to,

00:15:14.580 like, sexualize themselves for more likes and more views and stuff like that.

00:15:18.380 It's everywhere.

00:15:19.180 Like, we live in the most hyper-sexualized time humans have ever had.

JustPearlyThings - June 24, 2023

The Biggest CHALLENGE In DATING In 2023

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