JustPearlyThings - November 03, 2023


The Biggest Red Flags In Men


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

181.12723

Word count

1,549

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

sentences flagged

Hate speech

9

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the things that give us the most ick in people and things that make us uncomfortable in our relationships. We talk about the things we like and don t like in men and women and how to deal with them.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 Biggest ick I think is like political views and like values like if they're a
00:00:07.860 liberal just don't even come near me I'm six boosted and I I believe I have one
00:00:23.740 I'm a feminist like a guy that says he's a feminist I will throw up in 1.00
00:00:28.620 I've been on a date like that he told me that I'm like you were talking to the wrong
00:00:36.540 wait was that recently was that in the last few years no this was this was a couple years ago
00:00:45.060 okay so he wasn't aware no no no no but I was like this is the wrong that's a big red flag
00:00:50.820 not only are you sick as shit but you're just not even a man they're very feminine they're very 1.00
00:01:01.740 feminine preach preach just it's like it's like they're just sort of robots like they're not even
00:01:11.520 people NPCs NPCs like you're just an NPC men that wore masks and an inability to to see into the
00:01:26.700 future and that just gives me an ick in people in general like if if you can't see what you want
00:01:32.460 and be able to put things into place to execute it and that just tells me that you're you you have an
00:01:37.240 inability to think critically and strategically about things which I think is a really masculine trait to
00:01:41.360 be able to do that um and I think you were talking about the whole a woman when she's older having
00:01:46.680 to be in her masculine energy more well that's because then women have to think about right I 1.00
00:01:50.920 have no one to depend on who's going to do this for me so I have to use my brain myself which means I
00:01:55.080 need to think about where I'm going to get to and how I'm going to get there I think it's really
00:01:59.580 attractive when you don't have to think around a man and you just know they're going to get you
00:02:04.740 somewhere um but I do think women do need to have a level of of being able to 1.00
00:02:11.360 operate because again you know if you have someone who can't operate well then you end up with a
00:02:14.920 liberal so I can't you're king do not start on the ability to make scrambled eggs are an omelette
00:02:26.940 basically chopped up I get it though I get it I get it I get it I'm scrambled eggs supposed to be fluffy
00:02:32.860 yeah thank you they are they're the best
00:02:35.100 okay uh what about you ick
00:02:38.960 uh ick probably somebody that's loud mouthed overweight 0.55
00:02:44.500 um a dictator someone's like oh I'm gonna sit there like though I don't like the way that looks
00:02:51.260 or complains at the waiter or something like that someone just doesn't make the whole night peaceful
00:02:55.380 have you been on a date recently where a girl did something and made you not want to talk to her
00:03:00.600 again see I'm more of a long-term my relationship has been long-term but in between those gaps um
00:03:06.060 see me as well I'm a bad responder as well because what you're saying about responses and that I'm the
00:03:13.920 kind of guy that will message you and they won't message you back like a good couple hours and it's
00:03:17.460 not that I'm doing it on purpose so I'm busy do you know what I mean and for someone to keep
00:03:21.120 consistently messaging me consistently messaging me that's kind of an ick for me as well okay
00:03:26.340 I kind of like to be oh so if they're messaging you too much yeah and just don't look after
00:03:31.960 themselves they need to look after themselves yeah I'm I wake up in the morning I'm in the gym
00:03:35.980 but she needs you she's like so excited yeah
00:03:39.460 he's like no he's like no I'm a busy person I don't know like sometimes I find that that kind
00:03:49.660 of neediness you're talking about sometimes actually I find that attractive yeah to a degree
00:03:54.580 to a degree yeah because it means she's going to be obsessed with me yeah yeah which is a good thing
00:03:59.780 I want her to be but I agree with you at the same time same time I ain't sitting there all day
00:04:03.440 texting with you yeah do you know what I mean yeah I've given the girl freedom before and it 1.00
00:04:07.620 backfired yeah so I do agree with the you know paying attention to me and stuff but there's a
00:04:14.160 level to it you can't overdo it I'm not going to respond back to you and then you're not going to
00:04:17.760 like that yeah you can't expect it in return yeah you can't expect it to be like equal amounts of
00:04:22.580 attention given back and forth it's good that you're obsessed with me but I understand I'm busy
00:04:27.720 like you're going to get the occasional hi I love you that's it like and you have to you have to
00:04:33.840 learn to be okay with that yeah because otherwise this ain't going to work yeah see that with my
00:04:38.400 ex-girlfriend fucking when she used to tell me that she loved me that wasn't enough for me for 0.98
00:04:42.820 the rest of the day I didn't need to hear it over and over and over again do you know I mean so if I
00:04:47.220 say to her I'm busy she understands I'm busy for the whole day I'm not busy just for the next 20
00:04:51.320 minutes or so it's an understanding between you both yeah a lot of people don't understand that
00:04:55.380 okay can I tell a funny story Phil I had a French ex who did basically exactly that I went out I went 0.93
00:05:12.180 out to play poker with the guys right Friday night just me and the boys phone died while I was there
00:05:18.060 wrong I get I get home plug the plug the phone in I just start hearing bing bing it did that for
00:05:27.520 about two minutes straight it wasn't it wasn't relenting I'm like I look at it as about 40 text
00:05:35.680 messages about 20 missed calls and about seven voicemails and it starts off I'm like doing them
00:05:42.520 in sequential order and it starts off hey babe what are you up to I'm free later on let me know
00:05:48.580 when you're finished and then what are you doing and then it went and the voice notes were like just
00:06:02.140 her crying into the phone like again and again again and again I'm like whoa broke up with her
00:06:09.220 right after that that's what you're going to do with a 24 year old that girl was older than 24 1.00
00:06:17.240 the biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature no no no no no I'm sorry easier to 0.99
00:06:29.020 deal no no no no no no no I I think a hundred percent of the women I've kicked out of here 1.00
00:06:34.900 and that have not listened to bit rules have been over the age of 25 a hundred percent like I can't
00:06:40.920 even think oh no there was one sorry thought of one but I forgot about her but by and large you know
00:06:51.300 because when you think about it when women like date the more people women date the the higher their
00:06:55.820 standards get and when we admit this on social media your seat you'll see girls say oh I accepted 0.98
00:07:01.760 all this treatment in the past I'll never accept this treatment again it's basically making the men
00:07:06.980 of the future pay for the mistakes of the past you disagree um I feel like just in general it seems like
00:07:15.860 we're like taking every responsibility of the relationship off of the man like the women have the 0.93
00:07:21.460 woman has to be understanding she has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your 1.00
00:07:26.040 household like I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different
00:07:31.000 like I don't know it kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can like mold or like 0.97
00:07:36.440 kind of make a certain type of way or that will kind of like accept anything and I don't know if
00:07:41.560 every woman is going to be that but it's somebody for everybody so you think there's someone for 1.00
00:07:46.300 everybody um somebody's going to like something about somebody like no it's not no that's not
00:07:51.800 there's a lot of very lonely socially awkward men they haven't been everywhere in the world they
00:07:57.980 probably haven't you know that's how people find their second wind that's why people do get remarried 1.00
00:08:02.300 how do people get around the world by being rich which means that they're the top 10 20 percent of
00:08:07.580 people which most people aren't going to get to I mean I've traveled I live in another country I'm not
00:08:11.880 saying that you have to be all around the world but I do think you know if you put forth that effort
00:08:19.400 if that's what you want if that's what you're seeking if you're going to put every energy yeah
00:08:23.800 explore and meet people and date people and find people like you're it's going to be and it might
00:08:28.100 not be your choice but there might be somebody who is into you and wants what you have to offer