JustPearlyThings - November 03, 2023


The Biggest Red Flags In Men


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8 minutes

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181.12723

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1,549

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Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Biggest ick I think is like political views and like values like if they're a
00:00:07.860 liberal just don't even come near me I'm six boosted and I I believe I have one
00:00:23.740 I'm a feminist like a guy that says he's a feminist I will throw up in
00:00:28.620 I've been on a date like that he told me that I'm like you were talking to the wrong
00:00:36.540 wait was that recently was that in the last few years no this was this was a couple years ago
00:00:45.060 okay so he wasn't aware no no no no but I was like this is the wrong that's a big red flag
00:00:50.820 not only are you sick as shit but you're just not even a man they're very feminine they're very
00:01:01.740 feminine preach preach just it's like it's like they're just sort of robots like they're not even
00:01:11.520 people NPCs NPCs like you're just an NPC men that wore masks and an inability to to see into the
00:01:26.700 future and that just gives me an ick in people in general like if if you can't see what you want
00:01:32.460 and be able to put things into place to execute it and that just tells me that you're you you have an
00:01:37.240 inability to think critically and strategically about things which I think is a really masculine trait to
00:01:41.360 be able to do that um and I think you were talking about the whole a woman when she's older having
00:01:46.680 to be in her masculine energy more well that's because then women have to think about right I
00:01:50.920 have no one to depend on who's going to do this for me so I have to use my brain myself which means I
00:01:55.080 need to think about where I'm going to get to and how I'm going to get there I think it's really
00:01:59.580 attractive when you don't have to think around a man and you just know they're going to get you
00:02:04.740 somewhere um but I do think women do need to have a level of of being able to
00:02:11.360 operate because again you know if you have someone who can't operate well then you end up with a
00:02:14.920 liberal so I can't you're king do not start on the ability to make scrambled eggs are an omelette
00:02:26.940 basically chopped up I get it though I get it I get it I get it I'm scrambled eggs supposed to be fluffy
00:02:32.860 yeah thank you they are they're the best
00:02:35.100 okay uh what about you ick
00:02:38.960 uh ick probably somebody that's loud mouthed overweight
00:02:44.500 um a dictator someone's like oh I'm gonna sit there like though I don't like the way that looks
00:02:51.260 or complains at the waiter or something like that someone just doesn't make the whole night peaceful
00:02:55.380 have you been on a date recently where a girl did something and made you not want to talk to her
00:03:00.600 again see I'm more of a long-term my relationship has been long-term but in between those gaps um
00:03:06.060 see me as well I'm a bad responder as well because what you're saying about responses and that I'm the
00:03:13.920 kind of guy that will message you and they won't message you back like a good couple hours and it's
00:03:17.460 not that I'm doing it on purpose so I'm busy do you know what I mean and for someone to keep
00:03:21.120 consistently messaging me consistently messaging me that's kind of an ick for me as well okay
00:03:26.340 I kind of like to be oh so if they're messaging you too much yeah and just don't look after
00:03:31.960 themselves they need to look after themselves yeah I'm I wake up in the morning I'm in the gym
00:03:35.980 but she needs you she's like so excited yeah
00:03:39.460 he's like no he's like no I'm a busy person I don't know like sometimes I find that that kind
00:03:49.660 of neediness you're talking about sometimes actually I find that attractive yeah to a degree
00:03:54.580 to a degree yeah because it means she's going to be obsessed with me yeah yeah which is a good thing
00:03:59.780 I want her to be but I agree with you at the same time same time I ain't sitting there all day
00:04:03.440 texting with you yeah do you know what I mean yeah I've given the girl freedom before and it
00:04:07.620 backfired yeah so I do agree with the you know paying attention to me and stuff but there's a
00:04:14.160 level to it you can't overdo it I'm not going to respond back to you and then you're not going to
00:04:17.760 like that yeah you can't expect it in return yeah you can't expect it to be like equal amounts of
00:04:22.580 attention given back and forth it's good that you're obsessed with me but I understand I'm busy
00:04:27.720 like you're going to get the occasional hi I love you that's it like and you have to you have to
00:04:33.840 learn to be okay with that yeah because otherwise this ain't going to work yeah see that with my
00:04:38.400 ex-girlfriend fucking when she used to tell me that she loved me that wasn't enough for me for
00:04:42.820 the rest of the day I didn't need to hear it over and over and over again do you know I mean so if I
00:04:47.220 say to her I'm busy she understands I'm busy for the whole day I'm not busy just for the next 20
00:04:51.320 minutes or so it's an understanding between you both yeah a lot of people don't understand that
00:04:55.380 okay can I tell a funny story Phil I had a French ex who did basically exactly that I went out I went
00:05:12.180 out to play poker with the guys right Friday night just me and the boys phone died while I was there
00:05:18.060 wrong I get I get home plug the plug the phone in I just start hearing bing bing it did that for
00:05:27.520 about two minutes straight it wasn't it wasn't relenting I'm like I look at it as about 40 text
00:05:35.680 messages about 20 missed calls and about seven voicemails and it starts off I'm like doing them
00:05:42.520 in sequential order and it starts off hey babe what are you up to I'm free later on let me know
00:05:48.580 when you're finished and then what are you doing and then it went and the voice notes were like just
00:06:02.140 her crying into the phone like again and again again and again I'm like whoa broke up with her
00:06:09.220 right after that that's what you're going to do with a 24 year old that girl was older than 24
00:06:17.240 the biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature no no no no no I'm sorry easier to
00:06:29.020 deal no no no no no no no I I think a hundred percent of the women I've kicked out of here
00:06:34.900 and that have not listened to bit rules have been over the age of 25 a hundred percent like I can't
00:06:40.920 even think oh no there was one sorry thought of one but I forgot about her but by and large you know
00:06:51.300 because when you think about it when women like date the more people women date the the higher their
00:06:55.820 standards get and when we admit this on social media your seat you'll see girls say oh I accepted
00:07:01.760 all this treatment in the past I'll never accept this treatment again it's basically making the men
00:07:06.980 of the future pay for the mistakes of the past you disagree um I feel like just in general it seems like
00:07:15.860 we're like taking every responsibility of the relationship off of the man like the women have the
00:07:21.460 woman has to be understanding she has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your
00:07:26.040 household like I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different
00:07:31.000 like I don't know it kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can like mold or like
00:07:36.440 kind of make a certain type of way or that will kind of like accept anything and I don't know if
00:07:41.560 every woman is going to be that but it's somebody for everybody so you think there's someone for
00:07:46.300 everybody um somebody's going to like something about somebody like no it's not no that's not
00:07:51.800 there's a lot of very lonely socially awkward men they haven't been everywhere in the world they
00:07:57.980 probably haven't you know that's how people find their second wind that's why people do get remarried
00:08:02.300 how do people get around the world by being rich which means that they're the top 10 20 percent of
00:08:07.580 people which most people aren't going to get to I mean I've traveled I live in another country I'm not
00:08:11.880 saying that you have to be all around the world but I do think you know if you put forth that effort
00:08:19.400 if that's what you want if that's what you're seeking if you're going to put every energy yeah
00:08:23.800 explore and meet people and date people and find people like you're it's going to be and it might
00:08:28.100 not be your choice but there might be somebody who is into you and wants what you have to offer