JustPearlyThings - The CAUSE of BITTERNESS and PROMISCUITY in Society

00:00:00.000 and what i realized is like we have a whole generation especially in the west a whole

00:00:04.720 generation of like people that don't know how to be wives or or husbands honestly for that matter

00:00:10.080 but and i realized it's because women lead most relationships so most people if they've seen uh 0.96

00:00:18.080 their parents are together the mom probably led the relationship not the man because of i think

00:00:23.840 the way that the contra the i think it's because of the way marriage is like the contract is in the

00:00:28.480 u.s where like women are basically rewarded for leaving so the guy's always going to be trying 1.00

00:00:33.280 to make the girl happy and we have a whole generation of women that have worked so like how 1.00

00:00:38.320 are you going to have traditional skills if you're working and then and then i mean i didn't even

00:00:44.960 scratch with like single mother homes right so it's like how would women how would we know how to be 1.00

00:00:52.880 wives and mothers if we've never seen it it's interesting you really wow

00:01:00.560 wow you know what uh it's interesting you say this about single mothers because i had for a while i

00:01:06.000 lived with my mother and my parents split and um i think one reason a lot of men sleep around with

00:01:14.480 women and this is something that's not really talked about you know a lot is that they maybe men also have

00:01:21.280 issues with their mother the way some women have issues you know with their father oh yeah you know oh yeah 1.00

00:01:29.120 you know like there was a you know a lot of men you know you know yeah so a lot of people look at me

00:01:36.960 and they assume that you know i got a lot of in my past and they would be right okay so my friend once

00:01:46.880 said to me alphanema how would you how would your mother feel if she knew how awfully you treat women 0.96

00:01:55.760 and i and i said to him i looked at him and i said i don't give a what she thinks about me

00:02:04.720 because that woman it felt like she never really gave a about me 0.99

00:02:09.120 and you know well the one thing she was good for was the milk and her titties and that's actually 1.00

00:02:23.920 alpha king rule number 88 if you want to build strong men when they grow up who treat their women

00:02:31.360 like queens set a good loving example for them when they're young

00:02:41.040 well and the other thing is because a lot of times women will complain about the way men treat them but

00:02:46.080 it's like traditional women don't typically have a problem getting traditional men you know

00:02:52.720 you know the thing is that you said to me why was i became traditional what you said to me earlier

00:03:01.440 i became traditional you're right i became traditional okay you're right i became tradition

00:03:07.120 yeah i think it's learn you can learn it yeah i but one reason i wasn't traditional

00:03:14.400 was because when i was working in the nightclubs bringing out all these women it wasn't until 1.00

00:03:18.480 after i became traditional that i realized perhaps it was a sex addiction that i was sleeping around

00:03:24.560 with so many women and it wasn't until my 40s that i start confronting the fact that hey maybe in my 1.00

00:03:32.000 20s and 30s i didn't get that love from my mother you know and and and then i was a lot of women 0.98

00:03:41.440 but there was something missing you know maybe that's why i spent so much time in new york city nightclubs

00:03:48.960 i was just fanatical about getting pussy constant you know and and that's you know there's something 0.99

00:03:56.720 dirt you lose it my friend said this to me my friend who are you know and uh i'm not gonna say who he is

00:04:02.960 you know but but well-known guy he said to me he said every every woman and he you know he said every

00:04:08.000 woman you sleep with it's like you're losing a piece of yourself and and and i thought i thought it was

00:04:16.000 towards before i met we got met my wife in my late 30s but it was around that point where i was like

00:04:23.840 it hit me it was the right word at the right point in my life

00:04:27.440 um it's hard if you're a man and your mother is cold to you that's that's that's some that's some

00:04:37.920 it hits your heart now some guys the guys who have mothers like that and the mother loves them

00:04:43.120 but the guys that have gone through that i would imagine that they would understand what i'm saying

00:04:50.160 the same way a girl whose father ignores her can you imagine that i love my daughter i couldn't even

00:04:58.080 imagine i couldn't even imagine if i just deserted her how could she feel about man so when i see a

00:05:05.520 woman act like a whore you know now yeah i'm not talking about before right when i was king's day when 0.97

00:05:12.240 i was these other guys age you know no no when i was young if i saw a woman act like a whore i might 1.00

00:05:20.240 have been like all right cool let's have fun because i was also a whore i was also promiscuous but now as a 0.82

00:05:25.840 father with a daughter i think when she was a baby when she was a baby her father deserted her you said

00:05:36.080 something to me pearl you said i moved before you said i don't mean to blow you up you know you said

00:05:43.120 something to me that i understood your father without knowing your father you said to me i i went back to

00:05:51.680 living at home with my parents yeah right and my and then you said your feelings your mom's sentiment

00:05:58.560 but then you said my dad was so happy yeah i understood that because i'm already looking forward

00:06:05.440 to tomorrow when i get back to germany my daughter being there at the airport and i've only been gone a

00:06:10.960 week but it's been all this is my wife and the point i want to make is that that feeling of when you go back

00:06:20.240 and if later the next month or this month to go back to chicago and meet your dad he's going to be

00:06:25.360 so happy to see you i know that feeling because i also have a you don't know what it feels like to be

00:06:31.120 a man and have a daughter i do it's impossible for you to understand that as a man as a father you'll

00:06:37.920 never be a man or a father i am both he will be so happy to see you the same way i'm going to be happy

00:06:43.680 when i see my daughter tomorrow you know because you imagine if you didn't have a father there tomorrow

00:06:49.200 next week two three weeks from now when you go back to the united states to pick you up he didn't

00:06:54.160 give a shit about well and it's all you imagine yeah i mean it's also like when you're close with 0.74

00:06:59.680 your dad you you like even me i quit like drinking a couple years ago and part of it was because of

00:07:06.640 my dad because my dad doesn't drink at all and so it's like i don't know you just kind of do things

00:07:12.000 to like make your dad happy because it's like if he's you don't want him to be disappointed you know so

00:07:16.640 i mean just look how happy you were well it wasn't very recorded but even when it wasn't being

00:07:21.760 recorded how happy you were when you you were elated when you said oh my father he was really

00:07:30.320 happy though when i came back yeah yeah he was right yes but yeah but but see how happy you how happy you

00:07:37.200 were he was happy and then you were happy right because you feel that you are accepted you feel loved

00:07:44.000 you feel like you feel welcomed you you felt welcomed accepted embraced you felt safe to go

00:07:53.600 back home like not just not just he you could go back but you genuinely felt warm and welcomed

00:08:02.560 you felt a warm welcome imagine if you didn't have a father you know that you know what i noticed when

00:08:07.360 you're talking about like mommy issues well i can hear it in a guy's voice if he doesn't grow up without

00:08:12.640 a dad a lot of times i mean it's not a hundred percent yeah but i don't really know i can't

00:08:17.600 really describe why i can just like tell usually they have a slightly like higher tonality and they

00:08:22.960 kind of speak like a woman they use like a lot of hands when they talk like there's just certain like 1.00

00:08:28.720 mannerisms you kind of pick up on especially when they're younger guys especially but one thing i noticed

00:08:36.320 was that a lot of times when guys have a visceral reaction to like defend uh promiscuity or defend

00:08:43.040 like uh single mothers to different because you know you know in the red pill space you'll say like

00:08:48.400 don't date single mothers don't date you know just basic stuff and i'm like why do i get this visceral

00:08:53.280 reaction from the men like they should agree with like there's a group of men that just should agree on

00:08:58.640 this stuff but what i realized is that they're defending their moms a lot of them because that's who

00:09:03.840 it's true you know raise them yeah go ahead no i'm sorry no no good that was it go ahead

00:09:12.400 you know like anyone can fact check me like i i had a respect for my wife i don't put my ex

00:09:17.360 girlfriends who were in vogue magazine but if you were to go on google put my name and go google images

00:09:22.000 you will see at least two of my ex-girlfriends who are in vogue magazine i was here in london i lived in

00:09:26.080 london for a little less than two months because my ex-girlfriend was modeling in london so that's my

00:09:32.480 resume and understanding you know i literally threw parties bringing a lot of fashion models that's 1.00

00:09:37.680 hard imagine getting one fashion model imagine getting eight i had to and i'm not brad pitt

00:09:42.320 so i'm not i'm not johnny depp i'm not i'm not gq model so i really and i'm not and i wasn't rich

00:09:48.880 so i really had to figure out how to talk to women to be able to get women to come out i have nothing

00:09:54.080 to prove and i'm also a happily married man and i love my daughter i'm a loyal man to my wife so i'm

00:10:00.400 looking i talk about the game like a lot of my alpha king rules and stuff like that that's me when

00:10:05.920 i was a bachelor now i'm in my 40s but i still live that that lifestyle and and and when i see men a

00:10:15.600 lot some of the stuff pearl it is immaturity also some of the men that talk a certain way

00:10:24.480 and women some of it is just maturity it's it's not i also said stuff in my 20s and you know what

00:10:32.480 i mean or my i also said stuff that i might not feel now today you know some of the guys maybe

00:10:39.120 didn't get love from their mom and they're also not getting love in the nightclub they're also not

00:10:45.120 getting love from the girl in their college they're just not getting love in general from a woman no wonder 1.00

00:10:50.960 they're they're fucking bitter right or the guy or the or the girl her dad doesn't give a shit about 0.96

00:10:57.840 her she goes to the nightclub she gets drunk she gets fucked he doesn't he doesn't call her anymore

00:11:05.920 or he just tells her hey come over that's it just come over come on she wants she wanted you think she 0.93

00:11:14.320 you think during the holiday during her birthday she didn't wish she had a father or boyfriend

00:11:19.440 she's suffering she's struggling you know same with the dude i had a great relationship with my

00:11:25.120 dad he's a very traditional man my dad to this day it's you know he it's it's crazy like i went out with

00:11:32.640 my wife and this lady that he's with my dad's a little bit of a playboy now but he's traditional in

00:11:37.280 the sense of when we went out he refused to let me pay he refuses to let me pay for meals when he's with

00:11:44.880 with a woman it's traditional in that right you know so i had a great relationship with my dad i

00:11:53.840 do with my mom i love her so much but i also have accepted for some people in your life uh it's okay

00:12:02.800 to love some people from a distance maybe i know my mother loves me i love her but i think we've both

00:12:09.520 realized it's okay to love each other from a distance and appreciate if we can just have

00:12:14.640 one you guys like fell out or something all right it's just it's just hard yeah it's just it's just

00:12:20.240 really hard and and and not enough you know i think when you lie on social media or you lie on tv

00:12:30.240 right you're really just showing you're a coward you know like you're showing like like if you're a man

00:12:35.920 and you're not acknowledging you had issues oh okay oh it takes more bravery to show you know that

00:12:42.480 stuff you know like yeah like i i handled my mommy issues by a lot of women right they're my 20s and 0.99

00:12:52.880 30s that's a fact like people will say oh you have mommy issues yeah i did that's how i handled it

00:12:59.040 a lot of women what do i what would i have done differently i would have gone to therapy to be honest

00:13:04.240 someone will say oh go make money go to the gym i already did those two things

00:13:10.160 i already did those two things okay but what else well how about my mental health the gym cannot cure

00:13:15.760 all mental health issues working making money cannot cure all mental health issues that's something i

00:13:20.720 know that's popular on social media i disagree with that i think you can work hard make a lot of

00:13:25.280 money go to the gym these are good things that can help you but there's guys that commit suicide

00:13:30.480 there's guys that are that are suffering from depression they can't get out of it they're

00:13:35.760 trying they're working out six days a week they're making money they're still suffering yeah i think a

00:13:40.480 mental health professional and faith can help anybody you know and i think if you're going through

00:13:46.000 something hard get some help i don't think there's any shame in that i wish i would have spoken to

00:13:52.240 somebody earlier about my issues with my mom instead of so many women don't think it really necessarily

00:13:57.920 i just delayed growing up

JustPearlyThings - July 10, 2023

The CAUSE of BITTERNESS and PROMISCUITY in Society

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