Pearl Gives Modern Woman A Harsh Reality Check
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the fact that once you hit 30 years old, you have a less than 50% chance of having a baby. We talk about what it means to be a single parent and why it's important to have kids at a young age.
Transcript
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Well, music, I want to inspire people and motivate people and I want to make a change.
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He's like, oh, I'm looking for a girl to inspire and motivate.
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It's like you're young now, you're pretty now, but you're going to be less pretty and
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So like, why would you not look for that when you're younger?
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So maybe when I'm older, I'll still look young.
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For me, that's very important because I don't have any siblings and all my family members
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Did you know if you hit 30 and you're still single, you drop to a less than 50% chance
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Meaning that if you're still single, you're more likely to not have a kid than have one.
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And so it's like knowing that you wouldn't want, like, cause you know, you're, you're
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Let's say you date a guy tomorrow and you date him for three years and it doesn't work
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It's like then now, now, now you're a bit older and you have to keep.
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I do think everything happens for a reason though, if I'm completely honest, like I could
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And the number, and that's what, that's what I'm saying.
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Like, I think a lot of times society tells us to go after a career first when it would
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be a lot easier if we, if we were married, cause you could have the same experiences.
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But then what if he then wanted to have kids with you straight away, then you'd have to
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You know, 90% of your, 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
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So geriatric pregnancy is like high risk pregnancy.
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And IVF, it's actually most likely that it won't work out.
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My parents started trying to have a kid at 34, I think, but I think they had complications
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And they're lucky that you, they're lucky, but that's not the norm.
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But we can do stuff like freeze our eggs and stuff like that.
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I know that, again, it's not 100%, but like you said.
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No, but even like the odds aren't, if you're over, it's like, it's a less than 50% chance
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that you, that that works out, that you actually even conceived the kid.
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So it's like, they kind of lie to us because they tell them, they tell us we have all these
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options when we don't, when half of your options are also gone by 30.
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So the number of options you have at 20, by the time you get to 30, half of them are
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Don't you think it's a lot of pressure on a woman?
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Like even this conversation has opened my eyes.
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You're being told, some people are saying that women shouldn't have a career.
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They should focus on their marriage and care about their husband and their children.
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Other people want to not have housewives and want their woman to have a career.
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But then we have the pressure of not being able to have kids at a certain age.
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There's just, there's so much for women to kind of squeeze in.
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And so it's kind of a trade-off because, you know, women over the age of 45 that are still
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They're on drugs at a higher rate than any other group.
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And they're more depressed than any other group.
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And they don't tell us that we're really on a time clock.
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And so it's the question of, like, what outcome do you want?
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Personally, for me, I've had this conversation with myself a few years ago, actually.
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I want the fame and fortune and to have a career, but I need a family for my mental health.
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So if I had a pill, one of them was to have a family and one of them was to be famous,
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I would have a family because that's what I need.
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So why wouldn't you prioritize that now, knowing that the quality of guy you're going to get
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Like, right now, you're the most attractive you're ever going to be.
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You know, it would be one thing if you were fat and then you could lose weight and get
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Like, because they always give me this exception, like, because if you're fat, duh.
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So it's like, this is the highest quality guy you're ever going to be able to get.
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I hear that, but for me to raise a family the way I want to raise it, I want to have
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That's not for me to go spoil my kids because I don't, I think raising kids spoil doesn't
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teach them anything, but I would want them to not struggle the way that I've struggled.
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And I think in life, it's all about fulfilling your own hopes and dreams and stuff like that.
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Like this dream, this world doesn't sound real to me.
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And this has come, I come from like, my dad's a top like 1% earner.
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And like, I grew up around successful people, but this, this doesn't sound real where, because
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where the mom has this successful career and the dad also has the successful career and
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You literally can't do everything or you're paying a nanny to raise your kid.
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If I had money and I was a business woman and I was busy, I would have help.
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If I could afford it, I genuinely would have help.
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And that's not me saying, oh, I can't be bothered to look after my children.
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Of course, but I would be there for the important parts though.
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I do understand where you're coming from, but that would be the sacrifice that I would take.
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And I would want my kids to see a working mom as well.
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And I think that's like what, what is so broken down nowadays is that we all care about ourselves
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before the family and, and to have a family that's successful, you have to be selfless.
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You know, our grandmothers and our great grandmothers didn't stay with their husbands by thinking
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Because mothers put their child before themselves.
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When they have children, when they don't have children, obviously they put themselves first.
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But you should be thinking about that ahead of time.
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But I am doing by creating a career for myself to provide for the family that I would want
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Like, what are you doing to prepare to be a mother?
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So if a guy said, okay, you can work for three years, he meets you today and he says,
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okay, that's fine, you're working, you can work for three years and then we're going
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I'm able to, oh gosh, that's a really hard question.
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I know what my parents did that I would want to do different.
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There's a lot of things, but I just can't really think of them.
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But that doesn't matter to a guy that's ambitious.
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Like, and you know, I'm ambitious, but men don't give a shit.
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If I cared and I loved you, I would do anything for you.
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Because, you know, it's like if you're applying to a job, you say I can do this, this, this
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So I understand what, like when you guys were saying earlier, what you, because it's
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Like, for example, if there was a group of guys and all their girlfriends were going out
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on a night out and one of the guys turned around and said, well, my woman's staying
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For example, if your man was to bring his friends round and you were to offer, oh, what
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Again, that's a status thing because your woman is taking care of you and your friends.
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So I want to provide, which is where the money comes from, because I also think guys deserve
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It's not just the girls should be wined and dined all the time.
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So that's why I want to make money, not just to be able to take my husband out using his
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So your money is his money in the relationship?
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I wouldn't care on it, but if she had money, then it's all mine.
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So if she needed something and she has my kids, do you know what I'm saying?
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Because the girl's money's my money, and my money's my money.
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But when she needs something, I'll obviously provide it for her.
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I would still see it as my money, but I'm not going to not allow you to have it because