JustPearlyThings - April 09, 2023


The Dark Side of Onlyfans


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

194.07584

Word count

1,638

Sentence count

139

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

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Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the dangers of dating while on Onlyfans and how it can affect your relationships. We also talk about the pros and cons of being on Onlyfsans and what it's like to have a partner on the same platform.

Transcript

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00:00:00.400 How has OnlyFans affected your relationships?
00:00:06.160 Okay, well, I don't really know yet because I've only been doing this for four months.
00:00:11.320 I don't know if it has affected my relationships.
00:00:15.360 There was a girl that was kind of into and we stopped talking because I am assuming that
00:00:20.960 I might be completely wrong.
00:00:23.000 Maybe it was not the reason, but I think as soon as she saw that I was doing OnlyFans,
00:00:26.900 she's kind of like, yeah, it's not my thing, which is fair.
00:00:29.880 I don't blame anyone if they don't want to, you know, if it's not your thing, I totally
00:00:35.040 get it.
00:00:36.000 But Lee, you mentioned something just now.
00:00:37.380 You said that you'd prefer to go, if you're going to approach a woman, you'd prefer to 1.00
00:00:41.260 go through the Instagram route as opposed to in real life.
00:00:44.180 But you've got to have a certain level of confidence to do what it is that you do.
00:00:49.200 So how do these two things play out?
00:00:52.760 On the one hand, scared of rejection from a woman, or I'm not scared, but it makes you 0.99
00:00:57.000 anxious at least of being rejected online.
00:00:59.020 But then on the other hand, you're laying down the girl online route, but you get me?
00:01:04.120 No, look, it's not for me personally.
00:01:07.080 I am not.
00:01:07.800 It doesn't affect me.
00:01:11.180 It doesn't affect my confidence to approach someone in public as much as other people
00:01:16.160 that I've seen.
00:01:17.840 But it's just easier.
00:01:19.280 You know, it's just, it's so much easier because I know, I kind of know what I'm getting
00:01:22.940 if I'm going to DM some girl. 1.00
00:01:24.300 I know what she looks like, you know, usually. 0.85
00:01:27.720 Do you?
00:01:28.240 Do you know what she looks like?
00:01:30.200 Okay, sure.
00:01:31.020 There's a show called Catfish, bro.
00:01:32.560 Yeah.
00:01:32.900 Don't be, don't catch us off on there.
00:01:34.060 Sure, sure, sure, sure.
00:01:35.440 There's, there's things I can find out about her a lot easier on Instagram or social media
00:01:40.580 than in public.
00:01:43.020 And of course, I do prefer public.
00:01:44.740 Like, I, I like that, but it just makes it so much easier to approach someone online.
00:01:48.840 And that sucks.
00:01:49.740 I don't like it, but I think that's what people do it.
00:01:52.640 That's why they go on Tinder.
00:01:54.080 It's just so much as you just sit there, you can go to the bathroom and just find a date
00:01:57.580 in like a few minutes, basically.
00:01:58.940 You know what I mean?
00:01:59.760 How would you feel if your girlfriend was on OnlyFans?
00:02:04.040 Like, would that affect your relationship or would you feel like that's compatible with
00:02:09.180 what you do?
00:02:09.680 Now, if I was with someone and she wasn't OnlyFans, uh, it wouldn't bother me, obviously,
00:02:17.760 because that would be a bit hypocritical.
00:02:19.320 You know what I mean?
00:02:19.720 Like, I'm doing OnlyFans, she's doing OnlyFans.
00:02:21.620 I can't be mad at her.
00:02:23.280 Obviously, I would not be happy if she was collaborating with other people, unless we
00:02:27.560 had a proper relationship, which I'm not about.
00:02:30.060 But she basically is kind of collaborating with other people.
00:02:33.880 Like, even if it's not physical, there's still like a virtual interaction there.
00:02:39.680 Look, I think I would sit down and have a chat with her and listen to what she thinks
00:02:46.580 about it, what she thinks about me doing OnlyFans and what I think about her doing
00:02:50.160 OnlyFans.
00:02:51.040 Then again, we can collaborate together.
00:02:54.340 Let me ask you a question, Lee, because you mentioned when she first, when Zikena first
00:02:58.640 asked you the question, you took a bit of a sigh before you answered as to whether you
00:03:02.700 would mind if your girl would do it or not.
00:03:04.120 But that indicated to me that your inner alpha is talking to you.
00:03:07.540 It's like, yeah, of course I would mind.
00:03:08.880 But because I'm doing it, I don't really have a leg to stand on.
00:03:12.740 So let's reframe it.
00:03:14.140 You don't do OnlyFans.
00:03:15.920 Your girl wants to do OnlyFans. 1.00
00:03:17.740 Does it now bother you?
00:03:19.320 You tricked me there.
00:03:20.160 Again, if she was doing OnlyFans and I wasn't, I would tell her, first of all, if I was interested
00:03:26.200 in collaborating with her, if I was interested in starting my own OnlyFans, obviously I would
00:03:29.420 be like, okay with it.
00:03:31.020 Now, would it bother me if she was doing OnlyFans for herself and I wasn't?
00:03:39.580 Maybe, yeah.
00:03:40.720 Yeah.
00:03:41.080 I, at some point actually, during when I first started OnlyFans, I was supposed to collaborate
00:03:47.260 with this girl and I went to her Twitter and I saw that she was having sex with like collaborating.
00:03:52.800 Well, no, collaborating with a lot of guys, sometimes like two, three together.
00:03:57.020 And I'm like, okay, that girl I will not date.
00:03:59.540 And it is a bit hypocritical for me because I am also doing corn.
00:04:04.420 But there's like a line, I guess.
00:04:06.220 There's a limit.
00:04:07.720 Where is the line and who draws it and when does it get drawn?
00:04:10.480 Two guys at the same time, I guess.
00:04:15.020 Wow.
00:04:15.540 That's.
00:04:16.160 So, no carpentry questions.
00:04:19.620 Do you feel like OnlyFans has different effects for men and for women?
00:04:24.060 Just with the girls you've talked to doing it versus like the men?
00:04:27.760 Yeah, I think so.
00:04:28.500 Well, first of all, most of my friends, female friends do OnlyFans. 0.79
00:04:32.340 I model as well.
00:04:33.300 So, you know, in that circle you get to, kind of everyone's doing it now, honestly.
00:04:41.220 I don't really know.
00:04:42.440 I couldn't, I wouldn't be able to tell.
00:04:44.140 So, I'm having a little bit of an imposter syndrome.
00:04:47.780 Whereas, when I talk to my female friends about it, they don't seem to be empathetic towards their subscribers.
00:04:55.720 Again, I might be wrong.
00:04:57.220 But I kind of am.
00:04:58.260 I feel like a little bit of empathy.
00:05:00.200 And I don't.
00:05:00.960 Because maybe that's why I have imposter syndrome.
00:05:04.300 You know what I mean?
00:05:07.240 Imposter syndrome with regards to what exactly?
00:05:10.880 Why are you here?
00:05:12.140 What do you want from me?
00:05:13.320 Like, you know what I mean?
00:05:13.900 Like, it's.
00:05:16.640 I don't understand why they're there, I guess.
00:05:20.700 Does that make sense?
00:05:21.820 No.
00:05:22.860 The subscribers, I mean.
00:05:24.520 Oh, why are the subscribers there?
00:05:26.020 Is it mostly men or women?
00:05:27.520 Mostly women. 1.00
00:05:28.380 But I have some men as well.
00:05:29.420 Yeah.
00:05:29.860 Okay.
00:05:30.220 Which surprised me, actually.
00:05:30.960 You've got mostly female subscribers. 0.99
00:05:32.260 Yeah.
00:05:32.460 Which surprised me, to be honest.
00:05:34.060 That surprises me, too.
00:05:35.320 Yeah.
00:05:35.620 That's what I was.
00:05:36.540 I was thinking maybe, like, it would be mostly guys.
00:05:39.380 Yeah.
00:05:39.640 Me, too.
00:05:40.060 I thought so.
00:05:40.540 And I don't try to target a gay audience.
00:05:42.920 I'm not bisexual or gay myself.
00:05:44.640 So, I don't target that audience.
00:05:46.220 If they ask me for something that is kind of towards that, I'd be like, it's not my thing.
00:05:50.500 Yeah.
00:05:50.960 Mostly female. 0.99
00:05:51.820 Yeah.
00:05:52.280 What made you want to start it?
00:05:54.420 Money.
00:05:55.660 Okay.
00:05:56.040 Actually, my male friends convinced me to do it, which is kind of funny.
00:05:59.380 They all set me down one day.
00:06:00.380 It's like, dude, you need to do OnlyFans.
00:06:01.800 I have a bit of following on Instagram and social media.
00:06:05.500 And I would never recommend to someone that doesn't to do OnlyFans, honestly.
00:06:10.180 Because you're not going to make money.
00:06:11.280 So, I'm curious.
00:06:12.220 Why doesn't everyone go around and say, would you date someone with an OnlyFans? 0.99
00:06:17.320 Guys and girls both.
00:06:19.180 I mean, I can assume.
00:06:20.720 I just thought I gave you my answer.
00:06:22.320 Um, no.
00:06:24.600 I've actually had someone try to hit on me that did OnlyFans and I, I declined.
00:06:30.720 Yeah, I wouldn't.
00:06:31.880 Hell no.
00:06:34.940 Why?
00:06:35.540 Speak your truth.
00:06:36.200 Why?
00:06:36.600 Because, like, bro, like, you're putting yourself out, like, you're putting your box on show
00:06:40.640 for everyone, bro.
00:06:41.400 Like, if you're my girl, if you're my girl, I'm meant to have that private, like, connection
00:06:47.580 with you, not like, oh, yeah, like, some random, like, him, him, anyone in here could just, like,
00:06:53.640 click on the internet, boom, boom, boom.
00:06:54.940 Oh, yeah.
00:06:55.740 Michael King, I've seen your girl.
00:06:57.000 I've seen her box.
00:06:57.660 Like, nah, bro.
00:06:58.480 Like, nah, that's, nah.
00:06:59.960 And then when you have a child as well, it stays on the internet forever.
00:07:03.960 That would be a worry of mine too.
00:07:06.140 So you could imagine going into school and, like, how much you would get ripped because
00:07:11.260 your mom is on, like, do you know what I mean?
00:07:14.100 Yeah.
00:07:14.700 So that would be a bit concerning.
00:07:15.960 What concerns me is, like, OnlyFans is obviously not a forever thing because eventually you're
00:07:20.900 going to get older, people are going to be less attracted to you and stuff like that.
00:07:24.980 And then when you want to get a job afterwards, like, and you have to, like, I don't know,
00:07:29.720 give a pay slip or something, I don't know.
00:07:31.820 And they realize that you've been doing OnlyFans.
00:07:35.060 Like, I can imagine how that could maybe create some judgment or stigma or, like, in the workplace.
00:07:40.880 You could possibly not get the job or be missed out on promotions.
00:07:43.900 I know of a girl who she posted a picture in a really little black bikini and it went 1.00
00:07:51.420 round work.
00:07:52.140 It went all around her workplace.
00:07:53.580 Someone got it off her Facebook and sent it.
00:07:55.680 So a year later, she was up for a promotion.
00:07:57.680 And one of the first things that they said was, is this the little black bikini woman?
00:08:01.780 And I won't obviously say that it was somebody who I won't think, but she didn't get the
00:08:06.260 job because of that.
00:08:07.380 Because, you know, the thing is, is in a corporate environment, if you, if that's the thing,
00:08:12.320 you know, you're not respected because you're not respecting yourself in that manner.
00:08:17.000 And, you know, you either earn respect or you command it.
00:08:20.000 You can't just walk into a place and demand respect because you're a woman or because you're
00:08:23.640 a man or vice versa.
00:08:24.980 But, yeah.
00:08:26.080 Yeah.