The Dark Side of Onlyfans
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the dangers of dating while on Onlyfans and how it can affect your relationships. We also talk about the pros and cons of being on Onlyfsans and what it's like to have a partner on the same platform.
Transcript
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Okay, well, I don't really know yet because I've only been doing this for four months.
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I don't know if it has affected my relationships.
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There was a girl that was kind of into and we stopped talking because I am assuming that
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Maybe it was not the reason, but I think as soon as she saw that I was doing OnlyFans,
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she's kind of like, yeah, it's not my thing, which is fair.
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I don't blame anyone if they don't want to, you know, if it's not your thing, I totally
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You said that you'd prefer to go, if you're going to approach a woman, you'd prefer to
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go through the Instagram route as opposed to in real life.
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But you've got to have a certain level of confidence to do what it is that you do.
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On the one hand, scared of rejection from a woman, or I'm not scared, but it makes you
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But then on the other hand, you're laying down the girl online route, but you get me?
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It doesn't affect my confidence to approach someone in public as much as other people
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You know, it's just, it's so much easier because I know, I kind of know what I'm getting
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There's, there's things I can find out about her a lot easier on Instagram or social media
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Like, I, I like that, but it just makes it so much easier to approach someone online.
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I don't like it, but I think that's what people do it.
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It's just so much as you just sit there, you can go to the bathroom and just find a date
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How would you feel if your girlfriend was on OnlyFans?
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Like, would that affect your relationship or would you feel like that's compatible with
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Now, if I was with someone and she wasn't OnlyFans, uh, it wouldn't bother me, obviously,
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Like, I'm doing OnlyFans, she's doing OnlyFans.
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Obviously, I would not be happy if she was collaborating with other people, unless we
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had a proper relationship, which I'm not about.
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But she basically is kind of collaborating with other people.
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Like, even if it's not physical, there's still like a virtual interaction there.
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Look, I think I would sit down and have a chat with her and listen to what she thinks
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about it, what she thinks about me doing OnlyFans and what I think about her doing
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Let me ask you a question, Lee, because you mentioned when she first, when Zikena first
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asked you the question, you took a bit of a sigh before you answered as to whether you
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But that indicated to me that your inner alpha is talking to you.
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But because I'm doing it, I don't really have a leg to stand on.
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Again, if she was doing OnlyFans and I wasn't, I would tell her, first of all, if I was interested
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in collaborating with her, if I was interested in starting my own OnlyFans, obviously I would
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Now, would it bother me if she was doing OnlyFans for herself and I wasn't?
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I, at some point actually, during when I first started OnlyFans, I was supposed to collaborate
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with this girl and I went to her Twitter and I saw that she was having sex with like collaborating.
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Well, no, collaborating with a lot of guys, sometimes like two, three together.
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And it is a bit hypocritical for me because I am also doing corn.
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Where is the line and who draws it and when does it get drawn?
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Do you feel like OnlyFans has different effects for men and for women?
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Just with the girls you've talked to doing it versus like the men?
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Well, first of all, most of my friends, female friends do OnlyFans.
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So, you know, in that circle you get to, kind of everyone's doing it now, honestly.
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So, I'm having a little bit of an imposter syndrome.
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Whereas, when I talk to my female friends about it, they don't seem to be empathetic towards their subscribers.
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Because maybe that's why I have imposter syndrome.
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Imposter syndrome with regards to what exactly?
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I was thinking maybe, like, it would be mostly guys.
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If they ask me for something that is kind of towards that, I'd be like, it's not my thing.
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Actually, my male friends convinced me to do it, which is kind of funny.
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I have a bit of following on Instagram and social media.
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And I would never recommend to someone that doesn't to do OnlyFans, honestly.
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Why doesn't everyone go around and say, would you date someone with an OnlyFans?
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I've actually had someone try to hit on me that did OnlyFans and I, I declined.
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Because, like, bro, like, you're putting yourself out, like, you're putting your box on show
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Like, if you're my girl, if you're my girl, I'm meant to have that private, like, connection
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with you, not like, oh, yeah, like, some random, like, him, him, anyone in here could just, like,
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And then when you have a child as well, it stays on the internet forever.
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So you could imagine going into school and, like, how much you would get ripped because
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What concerns me is, like, OnlyFans is obviously not a forever thing because eventually you're
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going to get older, people are going to be less attracted to you and stuff like that.
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And then when you want to get a job afterwards, like, and you have to, like, I don't know,
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And they realize that you've been doing OnlyFans.
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Like, I can imagine how that could maybe create some judgment or stigma or, like, in the workplace.
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You could possibly not get the job or be missed out on promotions.
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I know of a girl who she posted a picture in a really little black bikini and it went
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And one of the first things that they said was, is this the little black bikini woman?
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And I won't obviously say that it was somebody who I won't think, but she didn't get the
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Because, you know, the thing is, is in a corporate environment, if you, if that's the thing,
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you know, you're not respected because you're not respecting yourself in that manner.
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And, you know, you either earn respect or you command it.
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You can't just walk into a place and demand respect because you're a woman or because you're