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00:00:00.000 A guy being in touch with his masculinity

00:00:02.160 is what makes him attractive

00:00:03.320 and he doesn't need money for that.

00:00:04.520 But we were given that option.

00:00:06.240 Yeah, he doesn't need money for that.

00:00:08.220 The question was, money or looks?

00:00:10.220 Yeah.

00:00:11.060 Money, we're into it.

00:00:12.380 Exactly.

00:00:12.920 But one thing also,

00:00:14.560 when, first of all,

00:00:16.100 money can just tell you more about his ambition.

00:00:19.220 That's what I was saying.

00:00:19.880 Yeah, it's up to something.

00:00:22.080 Fitness is more important than money, for sure,

00:00:24.160 because your body, your health,

00:00:26.200 will give you everything.

00:00:27.560 Mental health.

00:00:28.160 You can have your money today,

00:00:29.220 you'll lose it tomorrow

00:00:30.260 and you will be left alone

00:00:32.280 with the girl that you picked

00:00:33.460 and you'll be with the man that you picked.

00:00:35.740 And it's a duty to work a life together.

00:00:38.340 That's a commitment to a relationship.

00:00:39.760 Would you guys agree that if your guy was unemployed,

00:00:42.200 he only has so much time

00:00:43.640 before you would leave?

00:00:45.660 Yes or no?

00:00:46.440 No, depends on the context.

00:00:47.760 So, like, let's say five years, no job.

00:00:49.920 Oh, that's a bit crazy.

00:00:50.920 Like, no job at all.

00:00:52.540 No.

00:00:53.520 I need, I believe

00:00:55.300 that the man is the lead.

00:00:59.100 Like, he is the one that takes charge.

00:01:01.200 And if he doesn't hold that up,

00:01:04.220 I just feel like,

00:01:05.540 I couldn't stay with someone that's just,

00:01:07.020 there needs to be a drive.

00:01:08.220 When you're working, there's a drive,

00:01:09.700 there's a motivation.

00:01:10.740 Like, you're working, I'm working.

00:01:12.440 Like, we're in this together.

00:01:13.560 But, like, I couldn't be with a man that's just,

00:01:15.960 that's no motivation.

00:01:16.880 For me, that's just being lazy.

00:01:18.180 If I'm being honest.

00:01:19.380 I think it depends, you know,

00:01:20.540 because it depends if he's willing to work,

00:01:23.080 if he's motivated to work.

00:01:24.180 Whereas if he's not motivated and he's fine,

00:01:25.960 he's just chilling with no job,

00:01:27.600 no money for five years,

00:01:28.560 then it's a bit of a problem.

00:01:29.320 But if he's motivated,

00:01:30.700 he knows what he wants to do,

00:01:31.640 he's just working towards his goals,

00:01:33.080 or he's willing to work towards his goals,

00:01:35.220 then I feel like, that's okay.

00:01:36.960 Like, we've all taken time out for ourselves.

00:01:38.860 Five years!

00:01:40.140 You don't know what he's,

00:01:40.860 he might want to be a doctor.

00:01:42.040 You don't know what he wants to do, baby.

00:01:43.720 You don't know what he wants to do.

00:01:44.780 Three months.

00:01:45.320 But, like, obviously, everyone's different,

00:01:46.840 and we're all quite young as well.

00:01:48.680 No.

00:01:49.040 No, five years is a stretch.

00:01:50.160 I don't believe that.

00:01:50.720 Everyone has their own opinion.

00:01:51.900 Like, a side hustle.

00:01:53.880 A hard time job.

00:01:55.140 No job.

00:01:55.920 Would you say a side hustle, Pearl,

00:01:58.220 is a job?

00:01:59.980 Would you class it as the same thing?

00:02:01.360 A side hustle and a job?

00:02:04.540 So, for example, like, OnlyFans.

00:02:06.800 I mean, it's a job.

00:02:09.000 It's still a job.

00:02:10.600 For a man.

00:02:11.720 For a guy.

00:02:14.280 I think it's a job.

00:02:15.400 It's not a career.

00:02:16.460 Okay, yeah, yeah.

00:02:17.100 But it depends on the side hustle.

00:02:18.580 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:19.220 It's a broad, you know.

00:02:20.460 Yeah, it's a very broad.

00:02:22.080 This is an extreme example, too, right?

00:02:23.700 Like, there's, like, gradients.

00:02:25.040 Are you talking about, like,

00:02:26.600 does a guy need to be rich

00:02:27.640 versus, like, have just enough?

00:02:29.520 You're talking about, like, unemployed, right?

00:02:31.080 My only point was at some point,

00:02:32.680 if he's not making enough money,

00:02:34.580 we're going to leave.

00:02:35.480 Yeah.

00:02:35.600 At some point, right?

00:02:37.000 Yeah, no, I would agree with that.

00:02:38.340 But I'm saying, like,

00:02:38.980 if the guy has, like,

00:02:39.640 his basic needs met,

00:02:41.040 like, I've found it doesn't really

00:02:42.380 make much of a difference

00:02:43.220 if he has, like, a ton of money,

00:02:44.840 except for certain girls. 1.00

00:02:46.120 Not in the real world.

00:02:46.800 I thought he meant, like, jobless.

00:02:48.260 What's the difference?

00:02:49.360 Okay, is it different

00:02:50.420 in the Eastern European countries

00:02:52.120 versus the West?

00:02:53.360 Yes.

00:02:53.880 I mean, in terms of money.

00:02:55.600 Yeah.

00:02:55.960 I mean, yeah,

00:02:56.220 because most people are poor, right?

00:02:57.460 Like, in Ukraine and Poland,

00:02:59.320 even in Brazil,

00:02:59.840 like, people are making, like,

00:03:01.940 $1,000 a month or less.

00:03:03.860 So, like, you know,

00:03:04.960 it's, like, $10,000 a year

00:03:05.920 or less than $10,000 a year

00:03:06.980 after taxes.

00:03:08.260 So, I mean, you know,

00:03:10.660 it goes back to those

00:03:11.680 as basic needs met, right?

00:03:13.740 If basic needs are met,

00:03:14.720 I haven't found that

00:03:15.580 it makes much of a difference

00:03:16.320 because I've had so many rich clients

00:03:17.540 that are all clueless.

00:03:18.480 Like, they're all in their,

00:03:19.260 they're, like, millionaire circles

00:03:20.360 and like, hey,

00:03:21.260 we thought this would get us the girls 0.99

00:03:22.540 and we got all the money

00:03:23.720 and there's no girls.

00:03:24.640 And then I have clients

00:03:25.720 that have hardly any money

00:03:27.240 that just crush

00:03:28.500 once they're doing things right.

00:03:29.560 And the girl doesn't even know 1.00

00:03:30.260 they don't have money.

00:03:31.560 But again, like,

00:03:32.180 we're talking about, like,

00:03:33.300 unemployed, like,

00:03:34.940 completely broke for years

00:03:36.100 versus at least having

00:03:37.400 basic needs met.

00:03:38.120 Like, a lot of guys,

00:03:39.440 like, even if they're not

00:03:40.060 doing super well,

00:03:40.780 what's the statistic?

00:03:41.460 It's like 80% of people

00:03:42.300 are living paycheck to paycheck

00:03:43.440 in the U.S., I think,

00:03:45.060 is something like that.

00:03:46.400 So...

00:03:46.560 That high? Wow.

00:03:47.360 I'm pretty sure, yeah.

00:03:48.240 So it's like,

00:03:48.780 if they don't get paid one week,

00:03:50.040 they can't pay the bills.

00:03:51.220 That's, like, almost all guys, right?

00:03:53.500 So, all this, like,

00:03:55.280 focus on,

00:03:56.060 oh, you need to go

00:03:56.480 make a lot of money.

00:03:57.320 There's a lot of creators

00:03:58.020 that say, like,

00:03:58.540 forget dating.

00:03:59.460 Just go focus on making money.

00:04:01.860 When they arrive at the money,

00:04:03.420 if they ever do,

00:04:04.040 most of them don't even get the money.

00:04:05.280 But if they do,

00:04:06.460 it's not like girls 1.00

00:04:07.220 just start raining down

00:04:08.200 in their lap, right? 1.00

00:04:09.580 Do you guys think that sex 0.99

00:04:10.760 is a need that men

00:04:11.840 can't live without?

00:04:14.920 Definitely.

00:04:15.500 I think men use don't say that.

00:04:16.800 I think men, yeah,

00:04:17.940 the men use don't say that. 0.92

00:04:18.760 Sex is a need 1.00

00:04:19.740 that men can't live without. 0.70

00:04:21.320 It depends on what you mean, though.

00:04:23.440 What's the time period?

00:04:24.400 I mean, men clearly live without sex 0.99

00:04:26.620 and they're just living on corn. 0.96

00:04:28.980 I think if you said...

00:04:30.260 What do you think would happen

00:04:30.820 if there wasn't corn?

00:04:32.100 I think society would be

00:04:34.580 very violent, wouldn't it?

00:04:36.020 I think if you get a lot of men,

00:04:38.080 you say in the animal kingdom,

00:04:39.180 isn't it?

00:04:39.400 It's the same sort of thing,

00:04:40.280 isn't it?

00:04:40.520 That's true.

00:04:40.640 You get, you know,

00:04:41.740 one alpha male

00:04:42.740 that's got all the females 1.00

00:04:43.500 and the others are always

00:04:44.160 fighting them for position.

00:04:45.200 Yeah, that's true.

00:04:45.600 Willing to fight to the death.

00:04:46.500 I think you'd get

00:04:46.980 quite a violent society

00:04:47.940 and that's one of the reasons

00:04:49.380 why monogamy came about

00:04:50.600 was to stop that

00:04:51.440 because if you have men

00:04:52.680 that are not having sex 0.89

00:04:53.640 and they're not getting

00:04:54.140 that frustration, I guess, out,

00:04:55.700 they're going to take it out

00:04:56.560 in society.

00:04:57.120 I think if you took away

00:04:57.880 corn away from men,

00:04:59.320 I think men's mental health 1.00

00:05:00.420 would suffer tremendously,

00:05:02.400 probably more so than women. 0.99

00:05:03.420 So is corn a net positive

00:05:05.440 or a net negative?

00:05:07.140 It depends on how you see it.

00:05:08.860 I think it can be a negative

00:05:10.300 because it creates,

00:05:11.880 it creates like a false,

00:05:14.340 like a fantasy

00:05:15.120 and so when, you know,

00:05:17.520 you do go out with guys,

00:05:19.360 they might be,

00:05:19.920 like they might be

00:05:20.900 more forward with sex

00:05:22.340 or certain things

00:05:24.320 because they've seen

00:05:25.140 certain things.

00:05:25.900 They might have

00:05:26.360 that expectation.

00:05:27.820 So I feel like sometimes

00:05:29.160 it can be quite pressuring

00:05:30.640 and it can,

00:05:32.220 I think sometimes as well

00:05:33.860 that corn is sometimes

00:05:38.700 like devaluing women. 1.00

00:05:40.380 I don't know,

00:05:40.960 like it's kind of,

00:05:41.680 it doesn't,

00:05:42.440 it doesn't make sex

00:05:43.420 feel special.

00:05:44.920 Yeah.

00:05:45.860 I don't think it makes it more,

00:05:47.060 like you were saying earlier,

00:05:48.140 like the intimacy

00:05:49.120 just creates a fantasy.

00:05:50.700 Sometimes I could see

00:05:53.940 where corn is a net negative

00:05:55.860 for guys in an individual level,

00:05:57.940 but I'm just going to play

00:06:00.720 devil's advocate here.

00:06:02.480 I also think it's helped

00:06:04.220 a lot of guys stay faithful

00:06:05.520 in sexless marriages.

00:06:06.600 I was going to say that.

00:06:07.880 I was going to say that.

00:06:08.740 Yeah, 100%.

00:06:09.460 So it's so true.

00:06:10.860 I think there's a place for it

00:06:11.920 because imagine you're

00:06:12.640 one of these guys

00:06:13.320 and your wife has had a kid

00:06:14.880 or two kids or whatever.

00:06:15.760 She's just dealing with life.

00:06:17.160 And I personally,

00:06:17.980 I'm a believer in marriage.

00:06:19.040 I mean,

00:06:19.160 we're getting married soon,

00:06:20.100 right?

00:06:20.280 I believe in marriage,

00:06:21.240 right?

00:06:21.840 I believe if that can keep you

00:06:23.800 going through that period,

00:06:26.640 it's better to engage in that

00:06:28.000 than to actually cheat.

00:06:29.180 Cheat, yeah.

00:06:29.740 And you're going to risk

00:06:30.500 a hell of a lot.

00:06:31.260 And I think corn

00:06:32.020 from that point of view

00:06:32.940 is good,

00:06:33.580 but I think too much of it,

00:06:35.480 like anything,

00:06:36.020 is the issue.

00:06:37.100 There's also an issue

00:06:37.120 where guys don't want

00:06:38.200 to go out and do anything

00:06:39.180 because they're so addicted

00:06:40.180 to corn.

00:06:40.540 Yeah,

00:06:40.940 they're addicted to it.

00:06:41.020 It stops them being

00:06:41.860 about their purpose.

00:06:42.640 They've got these

00:06:43.560 unrealistic views of women 1.00

00:06:45.020 and for some men,

00:06:46.040 especially men that are

00:06:47.480 more prone to that,

00:06:48.780 it might make them

00:06:49.460 even more violent

00:06:50.120 because they go out

00:06:50.740 and demand it of women. 1.00

00:06:52.760 And some men do it by force.

00:06:53.860 I mean,

00:06:54.040 most sexual assault is men,

00:06:56.000 are the perpetrators of it.

00:06:57.080 And I think how much

00:06:58.020 is corn to blame for that?

00:06:59.660 You know,

00:07:00.040 and I think it's tapping

00:07:00.740 into some ancient

00:07:01.660 biological processes of men.

00:07:02.780 You think corn

00:07:02.840 increases sexual assault?

00:07:04.940 I think it,

00:07:05.740 I don't see why

00:07:06.800 it would not

00:07:07.320 because if men are

00:07:08.540 frustrated at home

00:07:09.680 and all they know

00:07:10.640 is just being online,

00:07:11.520 at some point,

00:07:11.980 you might want the real thing.

00:07:13.240 I would think it would do,

00:07:14.440 I don't know,

00:07:15.160 but I would think

00:07:15.740 it would do the opposite

00:07:16.540 because it gives them

00:07:18.160 a release

00:07:19.040 instead of going out.

00:07:19.940 But you've seen some issues

00:07:21.360 where men have actually

00:07:22.860 assaulted women

00:07:23.540 where they've had

00:07:24.080 this addiction

00:07:24.640 and they want to play out

00:07:25.920 in real life.

00:07:26.900 You see it that often.

00:07:28.300 It's a fantasy

00:07:28.900 and they want to play it

00:07:29.640 in real life

00:07:30.160 and they go by the point.

00:07:31.060 I haven't seen one.

00:07:32.840 Was there something

00:07:33.580 in the news?

00:07:34.480 I've never seen that.

00:07:35.520 Wasn't that a policeman

00:07:36.280 that actually got done

00:07:37.260 for that,

00:07:37.680 addicted to that?

00:07:38.460 The one that Sarah Edvard

00:07:39.700 I also had that.

00:07:41.120 I think he had

00:07:41.980 a porn addiction,

00:07:43.380 did he not?

00:07:43.940 The one that actually

00:07:44.620 dragged the woman 0.98

00:07:45.120 off the streets

00:07:46.120 in Clapham.

00:07:47.140 I think he had

00:07:47.820 an addiction with porn,

00:07:48.720 if I'm not right.

00:07:49.060 We don't want porn.

00:07:50.800 Sorry, 0.91

00:07:51.400 we're corn because

00:07:52.280 you know,

00:07:54.180 and it's natural,

00:07:55.180 isn't it?

00:07:55.460 If that's all you know

00:07:56.300 is the virtual version

00:07:57.340 of something,

00:07:58.340 at some point

00:07:58.980 it's quite easy

00:07:59.560 to spill over

00:08:00.280 into wanting

00:08:00.820 a real version of it.

00:08:01.600 Do you think it's the same

00:08:02.280 thing with video games?

00:08:03.380 Like men that play video games 1.00

00:08:04.800 are going to be more violent?

00:08:06.300 Because I'm pretty sure

00:08:06.980 the evidence

00:08:07.400 was the opposite with that.

00:08:08.740 I definitely don't play video games

00:08:10.520 as well.

00:08:10.840 I agree with that.

00:08:11.500 I think that is true as well

00:08:13.220 because,

00:08:14.020 for example,

00:08:14.780 I don't know about,

00:08:16.240 not really in the UK,

00:08:17.340 but I heard about

00:08:18.320 a lot of school shootings

00:08:19.460 with like young people

00:08:21.360 in America.

00:08:22.900 Like it's always to do

00:08:23.920 with guns

00:08:24.500 and always to do with,

00:08:26.340 yeah,

00:08:26.620 like those kind of

00:08:27.320 like video games.

00:08:28.340 So I think that

00:08:28.880 definitely has an impact

00:08:30.520 as well.

00:08:30.940 But then that's like,

00:08:32.520 everything has an impact

00:08:33.980 with social media

00:08:34.860 and with technology

00:08:35.620 because even what we see

00:08:37.500 online might change

00:08:38.720 the way that we move

00:08:39.900 or we look.

00:08:41.280 So everything does,

00:08:42.420 I think.

00:08:43.220 But I think it's only

00:08:43.840 going to amplify

00:08:44.460 what's already there.

00:08:45.760 What's already there,

00:08:46.460 yeah.

00:08:47.380 So if you're someone

00:08:47.900 that's that way inclined,

00:08:48.960 then yeah,

00:08:49.260 it might amplify.

00:08:49.820 But I think for most people,

00:08:51.380 playing video games

00:08:52.020 is a way to safely

00:08:53.040 indulge in your fantasies

00:08:54.640 in the same way

00:08:55.420 with corn.

00:08:55.780 Yeah,

00:08:56.220 exactly.

00:08:56.680 With corn,

00:08:57.260 like that statistic

00:08:58.660 you cited,

00:08:59.520 it's almost one

00:09:00.060 in three guys.

00:09:00.700 So it's getting

00:09:01.100 like really high

00:09:01.740 and I think it's

00:09:02.300 like still upward

00:09:03.540 trending, right?

00:09:04.100 So who knows

00:09:04.580 where that's going to end.

00:09:05.720 But when a guy

00:09:06.560 can just,

00:09:07.340 you know,

00:09:07.580 safely like go watch corn

00:09:09.560 and deal with that desire

00:09:11.160 and not have to put

00:09:12.140 himself out there

00:09:12.720 and not get his ego bruised

00:09:13.860 or not face,

00:09:14.700 you know,

00:09:14.920 potential legal consequences

00:09:15.980 or anything like that.

00:09:17.100 Plus most guys

00:09:17.780 have no idea

00:09:18.320 what to do anyways,

00:09:19.980 right?

00:09:20.260 And what I've noticed

00:09:21.360 with so many of my clients

00:09:22.140 is guys genuinely

00:09:23.520 will put in time

00:09:24.240 and effort,

00:09:24.660 in some cases money

00:09:25.400 with all of these companies

00:09:26.160 that are supposed

00:09:27.600 to help them

00:09:28.220 and they still fail.

00:09:30.100 And then they're like,

00:09:30.760 well,

00:09:30.860 what now?

00:09:31.820 Isn't it meant to like

00:09:32.740 rewire your brain chemistry

00:09:34.060 or something though?

00:09:35.660 Like I just don't feel,

00:09:36.520 I don't see a world

00:09:37.360 where it is a good thing,

00:09:38.240 I can't lie.

00:09:39.380 It's not do or die.

00:09:40.880 You will survive

00:09:41.980 without it.

00:09:42.800 I don't think it's a good thing.

00:09:44.220 I was just banned

00:09:45.220 on TikTok

00:09:46.100 and we are demonetized

00:09:47.820 on a daily basis

00:09:49.080 on this platform.

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