JustPearlyThings - The History Of Simping

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to the just pearly things youtube channel and welcome to the sit down where

00:00:05.640 i really bring on different guests to talk about we'll either do like one-on-one interviews or just

00:00:10.600 the news of the week so this week i'm bringing on a channel i would say you're a channel regular

00:00:15.640 at this point based i like it rachel rachel wilson who is one i would say she is so smart

00:00:23.260 like literally so smart for a woman sorry you're the only one i can make this joke with and they

00:00:28.660 won't get that no but seriously seriously rachel uh wrote a book on feminism called occult feminism

00:00:34.400 and i literally don't know anybody that can like cite facts off the top of her head just like so

00:00:40.220 quickly tell you the exact source and place um so welcome to the show rachel yeah thanks for having

00:00:45.940 me back again it's always fun to be here this week i was inspired i was inspired we were just talking

00:00:51.720 about this i was inspired on twitter so i always talk i want to make really clear to the audience

00:00:56.760 my thoughts on marriage and fam because everybody always you know rachel you're the only one that

00:01:02.420 understands what i'm saying so i think that marriage and family is an amazing thing i think

00:01:07.640 it's phenomenal however with the divorce laws today i do not see women acting better for men that sign

00:01:14.460 up so i would tell men to be very hesitant protect yourself in every way and even some men it's probably

00:01:20.880 in their best interest to walk away in my opinion every guy's got a pick for himself i can't really

00:01:26.020 tell you you got to weigh the pros and the cons there's ways to mitigate it right religion i think

00:01:31.080 orthodox you know that it seems like you guys have better outcomes i'm orthodox catholic same same thing

00:01:37.620 it seems like there's ways to mitigate risk but there's no sure thing and for whatever reason with

00:01:43.860 female nature when we get power we just tend to be bad with it don't know why don't know why we're

00:01:48.580 like this but it seems to be the way and whenever i point this stuff out i get i get accused of being

00:01:54.800 a doomer attack a red pill attack on marriage or basically just hating women as my usual i just

00:02:02.580 wake up and think how can i hate women today me too same um just wake up every day wondering how i

00:02:09.620 can make life hard for women yeah yeah and be mean to them and my point is i don't think you could

00:02:15.500 push men into marriage i think we have to figure out how to get the divorce laws to change i think this

00:02:20.900 can be done through suing i know there's a lawsuit going on in england against cathcast you know i think

00:02:26.160 all the men have to get together i don't know the exact way to do it i'm not a policy maker you know i

00:02:31.720 do i don't know the exact solution but in my opinion maybe it's suing some of these organizations

00:02:37.400 maybe it's walking away from marriage until it switches i i don't know but my thing is i understand

00:02:44.680 men's hesitation to not want to get married i even understand i'm not i don't recommend it but i even

00:02:52.060 understand a vasectomy because it is so freaking risky for men today there's no way for men to

00:02:57.960 interact with a woman without having a legal consequence yes and you know what i realized

00:03:03.200 is i really started i don't want to say hating women i don't hate women but having a frustration

00:03:08.240 with women because i thought to myself why is it whenever we do this stuff you know we just get

00:03:13.420 evil with power okay and i thought about it and i'm like well we're just like kids it's like giving

00:03:17.740 kids free reigns and then getting no who's who's responsible for bad kids the parent and i realized

00:03:25.140 that everything goes back to simping which is what i wanted to talk about today so i brought on our good

00:03:33.700 friend rachel to talk about the history of simping yes and oh boy like it goes all the way back to the

00:03:41.960 beginning of time so my book on feminism starts like with ancient origins and feminism starting

00:03:47.940 in the ancient world and simping simping is what started that right so we're gonna i have three um

00:03:54.100 like of history's worst simps for you guys today and they are tales of caution right please don't simp

00:04:01.700 because you're gonna see what happens to some of the most powerful and greatest men who've ever lived

00:04:06.740 who made the mistake of simping so like nobody's immune you can be like the top alpha dog and if

00:04:12.580 you simp it's gonna be over for you we hate simp we hate them there wouldn't there wouldn't be all

00:04:18.340 these problems and all these thirst traps and all these 304s and only fans and everything if it wasn't

00:04:23.540 for simps so so who was like the first recorded simp do you have do you know well the first recorded

00:04:30.740 simp would probably be adam right well because eve you know was tempted and ate the fruit and adam

00:04:39.920 rather than obeying god who like imagine you're walking every day in the garden with god you're

00:04:44.900 with god okay it's not even like a far-off concept for you it's like you know god and you're still

00:04:50.420 gonna you don't want the woman to get in trouble alone so you're gonna go into it with her and then

00:04:54.820 when god confronts them and he says what have you done to adam he said it wasn't me it's this woman

00:05:00.500 that you gave me she did so he would probably be the first one but right after him we have a great

00:05:07.500 story about simping a legendary tale in the bible in the book of judges about samson and delilah so

00:05:13.880 samson was the strongest man kind of known to the world at the time he was alive he had incredible

00:05:20.220 like strong man feats he could do he could take out whole armies like by himself and he goes to a

00:05:26.640 town and the people who are there in charge want to want to get rid of him because he's been like

00:05:32.200 picking the crap out of all their armies and stuff so they're like we got to get rid of this guy so

00:05:35.940 what do they do how do they get to the strong man it's always the women they send a woman so they go

00:05:41.260 to this woman delilah and they say look we want to do like the classic espionage move of send this hot

00:05:47.480 chicken you you get in his pants and you learn his secrets so we can take him out she's like okay

00:05:52.960 so she goes to him and asks him you know what's the secret to your strength and and how can you be

00:05:58.100 defeated now at first he's guarded at first he's like i'm not gonna tell her that the real thing so

00:06:03.660 he tells her like a phony thing he says oh if you have like this certain type of rope and you tie

00:06:07.860 it around me then you can defeat me so she goes back and tells his enemies they try to capture him

00:06:13.680 but she he told her the wrong thing so it doesn't work so a few days later she tries again asks him

00:06:18.800 again and he gives her a different phony thing right oh if you if you do it this way then you

00:06:23.760 can defeat me so she runs back tells his enemies they try that to capture him that way that doesn't

00:06:28.500 work either so the third time here's where everything goes wrong she comes to him and she

00:06:32.500 says this is actually the the verse from the orthodox study bible she says how can you say i love

00:06:37.380 you when your heart is not with me you deceived me a third time and you still have not told me

00:06:43.220 where your great strength lies so she basically went you don't even love me if you that's what

00:06:48.680 we do that's what we do yeah so that's what she does and listen to this this is incredible i was

00:06:55.220 reading this last night going i don't know why i didn't see this before so she said it says and it

00:06:59.980 came to pass after she pestered him continually with her words and pressured him sorely that his

00:07:06.300 spirit failed him almost to death so this bitch nagged him to death okay is what happened like

00:07:12.500 this is how she got to him was literally by nagging him to the point that he was like that i'm gonna i'm

00:07:19.340 about to you know i know they say childbirth is our greatest superpower but i actually think it's

00:07:25.120 nagging because the amount that a woman can influence men like we basically nagged men into giving

00:07:33.360 us a voting rights abortions we basically nagged men into ruining society yeah like if you give us

00:07:40.140 enough time and we just never shut up eventually the men are like i'm gonna die if i don't just get

00:07:45.200 rid of this sometimes sometimes they gotta tell a bitch to shut up do you know what i mean like

00:07:49.760 my husband is the nicest man to me and sometimes he'll be doing something and i'll i'll come up and

00:07:55.860 start prattling at him with woman prattle ability honey today blah blah blah blah and i'm just telling

00:08:00.380 him something and he'll be like uh-huh uh-huh but if i go too long and he's busy he'll turn and look

00:08:05.660 at me and he'll be like sweetheart i love you will you shut up and i'm like oh sorry okay and i but i

00:08:12.560 don't get mad i'm just like oh all right no problem i'll pester you later when you're not busy but this

00:08:17.880 is how she finally i just read the verse and i was like wow i can't believe even the bible says she

00:08:23.500 pestered him continually with her words and pressured him sorely that his spirit failed him almost to

00:08:30.280 death i just think that's like we're talking six thousand years ago okay that this happened

00:08:35.720 and this is the way it's described even then so this is clearly like an innate human thing right

00:08:40.920 this has been something that's gone on from the beginning of time so finally he gives in and it

00:08:45.620 says then he told her everything in his heart and said to her no razor has ever come upon my head for

00:08:50.840 i've been a holy one from god from my mother's womb if i am shaven then my strength will leave me and

00:08:55.960 i shall become weak like all the other men so she this search she says delilah discerned he told her

00:09:01.560 all of his heart and she sent and called for the leaders of the philistine saying come up once more

00:09:06.380 for he told me all his heart so basically he finally like let his guard down and really like let her in

00:09:13.520 and told him told her everything that was in his heart which i thought that was like a really

00:09:17.620 interesting phrasing because i think that's what happens to a lot of guys right they open up and like

00:09:23.120 let a woman into their heart and then she'll use whatever is in there yeah oh i see your weakness

00:09:27.840 now and now i'm gonna play on that weakness to get the advantage in the relationship and then they'll

00:09:32.660 like that's what they do i just heard a guy breaking this down how in like divorce court that's what the

00:09:38.720 chicks will do they'll like and the lawyers they'll give them like all of the guy's secrets basically

00:09:43.540 that he wouldn't want people to know yeah yeah so that's like this is what's happening like you know

00:09:49.000 in the beginning of recorded history so it says delilah lulled samson to sleep on her knees and

00:09:54.620 called for a man and had him shave off the seven locks of his head thus she could finally subdue and

00:09:59.380 control him for his strength departed from him and then it says that when this happened when he let the

00:10:06.080 woman have his secret he kind of betrayed god because god had given him this superhuman strength to be

00:10:11.780 like a defender of israel and so when he betrayed that trust by telling her how to defeat him it says

00:10:19.040 the lord had departed from him so this to me i'm thinking this is kind of a way of saying if you

00:10:24.540 abandon your role as a man which is to be the head of the woman if you let her up on that pedestal with

00:10:30.500 you on equal part the lord may leave you like he may be saying nope that's not the order i established

00:10:35.860 this is what i want from you i need the men that i you know bless with certain strengths to be doing

00:10:42.060 what they do for me not for some woman not because you're lusting after a woman you need to be following

00:10:47.780 me so same thing that happened with adam adam kind of betrayed god to simp for a woman samson does the

00:10:53.800 same thing so the lord leaves him and he's they take out his eyes they capture him and finally like he's

00:11:00.600 they're basically making him into a circus freak so they make him do like strong man tricks and they

00:11:05.300 watch and they all party and they're all laughing at him and humiliating him and he just gets really

00:11:10.360 wrecked right and it says um he's kind of at the end of it where he's like okay they're gonna kill me

00:11:15.680 i'm probably gonna die so he says lord my lord remember me now oh god strengthen me just this

00:11:20.680 once so with one blow i may take vengeance on the philistines for my two eyes so the lord gives him

00:11:26.120 just enough strength to knock down the pillars of the house he's in that it's like a big mansion where

00:11:30.940 all these people are living and kills everybody inside it also kills him but it kills

00:11:35.040 everybody inside so god does at least grant him just enough strength to have some vengeance on

00:11:39.680 his enemies but man i was just like this is such a such a disheartening story of simpery all the way

00:11:47.020 from the old testament you know what i thought about how unbiblical it is for women to not obey their

00:11:53.080 like why do we expect men to obey god in all things if we can't obey our husband in all things

00:11:57.420 that's exactly what it is that's what we're supposed to do and by obeying our husband in all things we are

00:12:03.440 obeying god and the men are supposed to obey god they're not supposed to obey us regardless of the

00:12:09.020 nagging right his mistake was when he realized she was treacherous and that she was after him and

00:12:14.920 nagging him and trying to get him to bear secrets that were none of her business what would she need

00:12:19.700 to know that for his wisdom should have told him get rid of this broad right yeah get this chick away

00:12:25.520 from you but he didn't do that because he was following like his lust and and he was simping so

00:12:30.720 right it was the death of him well and that's why like when guys will they always come at me

00:12:36.360 because they're like pearl like you're not married but i'm like okay you realize like when you say

00:12:41.180 things like happy wife happy life it's cheaper to keep her like that says something about the way we

00:12:46.460 do marriage today yeah you're basically admitting that it sucks yeah like that that i'm a bad i consider

00:12:53.560 simps women yeah i would look i would totally agree with that that's kind of how i see them too

00:13:00.480 it's like because it's like how are you more feminine than me like i'm willing i'm submissive

00:13:05.600 to my husband but you're over here like telling me i'm wrong for doing that and that i should

00:13:10.480 rachel why don't you um let him do more chores yeah they're like how why do you hate yourself

00:13:17.340 why won't you make your husband wash the dishes and i'm like oh my gosh my dude is the funniest thing

00:13:23.780 when he's talking about your royalties oh yeah now my husband has this running thing that he does all

00:13:31.240 the time where he'll promote my book tell everybody to buy my book he's like i'm gonna snatch all her

00:13:35.840 royalties she's not getting a cent i'm taking all of it and i'm gonna buy myself a truck i'm gonna

00:13:40.440 become one of those truck guys right i'm gonna get a super pimped out truck that costs more money than

00:13:45.780 my house and i'm just gonna treat it like my baby i was it's kind of like his way of giving them the

00:13:51.720 finger which is hilarious to me i think it's so funny well no and that's like the that's the thing

00:13:56.680 is it's like it's so rare to see i was thinking about you the other day i was like it's so rare to

00:14:03.220 see women that actually like support their husband it's so sad it's so sad baby here the royalties are

00:14:13.240 yours i don't care well it's not my money okay this is another thing that god i should probably

00:14:19.980 tweet this later because everyone will get mad it's not my money okay it's he's the head of the

00:14:25.060 household he's been the breadwinner forever since we've been together and it's not so the money isn't

00:14:31.340 mine it's i give it to him and he wisely uses it to support the family that's what he's supposed to

00:14:38.440 do now i'm lucky my husband is super nice to me and probably spoils me more than he should but he

00:14:43.500 only does that to the extent that like i kind of earn it if that makes sense so like if there's no

00:14:48.900 reason for him to say no to me about like something i want to buy he just won't but also i don't buy a

00:14:54.860 lot of stuff i'm just not i don't know if it's because i was raised like dutch or something and we're

00:14:58.740 just really tight penny pinchers but i'm just not an extravagant person i don't have expensive

00:15:03.020 purses i don't buy designer clothes there's like none of that well going on well and like that's

00:15:07.780 the they'll always come at me because they'll be like oh like so you're saying like you shouldn't

00:15:12.720 get married or you're saying like oh she married because you were a single mom before right and so

00:15:17.380 but it's like but it's like the simpig is only giving it to a woman that doesn't deserve it and making

00:15:22.000 her do nothing like that is the point in 90 percent of relationships they they they don't

00:15:28.280 make the girl do anything and women hate men that just give it to us don't know why we're like that

00:15:35.180 the men are illogical so they're like that doesn't make sense i would love a girl that just gave me sex

00:15:39.680 like yeah yeah we're like when you just give it to we just don't whatever it is well we're gonna we're

00:15:46.140 gonna find out in the next two simp stories why the women hate it i think oh okay go ahead so this

00:15:51.840 is a real this is huge there's so many i could have picked from but this one i feel like it's

00:15:56.640 maybe like the worst of all the simp stories and i have to read like a little bit of stuff from it but

00:16:02.480 only for like good purposes so emperor napoleon bonaparte of france you guys the legendary military

00:16:09.960 strategist the emperor of france who conquered all these lands that you know france hadn't like

00:16:15.560 seen military victories like this ever this guy was amazing but he was one of the biggest simps

00:16:21.600 and once again he gets completely undone by simping so napoleon grows up on the island of

00:16:27.680 corsica outside france he goes to like a french military school and they realize wow this guy's

00:16:32.480 like really talented at military strategy so he joins the french army he begins to have all of this

00:16:37.880 success in like taking territory for france and launching military campaigns and he's really getting

00:16:43.280 beloved and popular by france but you know he's gonna have to if he's gonna become emperor he's

00:16:48.400 got to marry somebody and produce an heir an heir and he meets this woman named josephine and she

00:16:54.820 was six years older than him and she had two kids from her first marriage her first husband got

00:17:01.480 guillotined in the french revolution so he got killed and she kind of escaped getting guillotined

00:17:07.180 herself by sleeping with some of the aristocrats that that beheaded her husband as they do that do you

00:17:13.860 know that's that's such a it's such a woman thing to like our husbands get killed and we just ask

00:17:20.040 whoever killed him yes that's exactly what she did so at the time he was being killed um she was under

00:17:26.560 like kind of a house arrest they arrested her as well right so she was under this like house arrest

00:17:31.360 for aristocrats that wasn't like too terrible and some of the very like powerful french politicians

00:17:36.420 she had affairs with so even after she had affairs before he was arrested too like so she had been a

00:17:42.940 loose lady since the beginning yeah so even while she was married to her first husband yes he cheated

00:17:47.820 but she also cheated she actually i'm sorry you know what she did she got so you couldn't get a divorce

00:17:53.340 then but she went to like a magistrate and got a legal separation from her husband so that she could

00:17:58.860 have a separate house what time period was this so this is uh late 1700s so i have a question do you

00:18:06.180 because i have this theory and i'm just wondering because when i think of like women nature and when

00:18:11.320 i when i say women nature i don't say all women will succumb to our nature right some women understand

00:18:16.680 we're like this and don't do it or raised better whatever but it's whenever women are surrounded by

00:18:21.920 high value men we tend to monkey branch and just cheat yeah so yeah i was wondering if there was more

00:18:27.980 promiscuity among elite women and nobles wives rather than the average population oh yeah okay

00:18:36.020 because that's what i was thinking because i'm like i mean like what the peasant's wife's gonna

00:18:40.160 maybe cheat with another peasant like but like she's busy on the farm doing stuff there's like

00:18:45.880 nothing to gain right and i'm thinking like but these women like i was thinking elite men actually

00:18:51.940 probably have a harder time back then getting their wives to stay faithful than average men i would

00:18:57.920 argue today because of instagram now the average men get cheated on more right because they have access

00:19:04.380 to like the noble like imagine if the peasants lives had access to the nobles and kings it would

00:19:09.600 be done yeah totally and they but they didn't so i think you're that was a very good observation i

00:19:15.560 think it was true and i think that's where this idea when people say like but men always are the ones

00:19:20.920 that are cheaters think about the this king or this noble guy who cheated and it's like yeah the

00:19:26.660 the elite men cheated but the elite women did too so like she's the one who went to like you know one of

00:19:32.080 their judges or whatever and since you can't get a divorce because the reason you couldn't in large

00:19:37.660 part was because if you're very wealthy and you have these huge estates and all this wealth like

00:19:42.080 you can't just leave and take the guy's kids because then he has nobody to pass it down to so

00:19:45.680 even if he's kind of done with you you can't do the legal divorce because it ruins everything for

00:19:50.040 your kids so they didn't do that but she did get them to allow her to have her own house and take a

00:19:54.900 bunch of his money so that she could go off and have like however many lovers she wanted to have

00:19:59.540 and is that like is that in that time period is that like a new phenomenon or no um i would have

00:20:04.480 to go back and see like when that started but this this period in particular the revolutionary period

00:20:11.080 where you've got the french revolution and then the american revolution everybody was getting very

00:20:15.780 liberal this is the beginning of this do whatever you want as long as it doesn't hurt anybody kind of

00:20:20.700 mentality where they start to abandon a lot of the tradition and kind of do what they want it was very

00:20:26.020 liberal especially like the french aristocrats they were some of the worst at this sort of thing

00:20:30.420 so yeah she goes off and she's cheating and then her husband dies he has a year between when her

00:20:35.700 husband dies and she meets napoleon where she's has like several affairs with multiple french

00:20:41.060 politicians she was just getting passed around the french aristocracy basically and so he meets her

00:20:46.540 at a party in 1763 he's 26 and she's 32 and she's known for being like a big spender she she has a lot

00:20:55.460 of wealth but she's like got really expensive taste she's like a really high maintenance woman of the

00:21:00.200 time and he just falls madly in love with her and they're sleeping together like they sleep together

00:21:05.300 right away there was no like waiting for marriage or anything because again these are french aristocrats in

00:21:10.540 the revolutionary period everyone's partying and so they sleep together and he starts writing her letters

00:21:16.240 you guys and the letters are just embarrassing now remember this is a man who like is a brilliant

00:21:21.340 military strategist and goes to war and kicks everyone's ass but listen to how listen to how

00:21:26.720 he talks to her in these letters and you can find these anywhere online if you want to read them

00:21:31.180 yourself because they're they're kind of funny but they're exactly like what we see today so he does

00:21:36.760 marry her against the wishes of his whole family they were like what the hell are you doing you're

00:21:42.520 don't do it you're marrying a woman in her 30s who already has like grown children and you're 26 like

00:21:48.780 you're 26 what are you thinking but he's just he got whipped okay yeah so he marries her and on the

00:21:55.060 marriage certificate she lies about her age to make herself four years younger and closer to him in age

00:22:00.860 so that's hilarious and right after they get married he has to go off and do a war campaign and he wants

00:22:06.980 her to come with so that they can have a honeymoon but she doesn't want to she doesn't go with him

00:22:11.560 she stays back because she's already got a different boyfriend so she's already got an army

00:22:16.820 guy that she's already bitch this isn't even in the time of instagram where did you fall

00:22:22.360 she was something else man so napoleon writes this letter to josephine and um he's begging her to come

00:22:30.800 to milan and join him for their honeymoon and he says i have your letters of the 16th and 21st there

00:22:36.820 are many days when you don't write what do you do then no my darling i'm not jealous but

00:22:41.500 sometimes worried come soon i warn you if you delay you will find me ill fatigue and your

00:22:46.760 absence are too much your letters are the joy of my days and my days of happiness are not many

00:22:52.220 so he's like writing her letters every day sometimes multiple times a day and she barely

00:22:56.980 writes back like she doesn't even write him back and he says you must come back you understand

00:23:01.920 hopeless sorrow inconsolable misery sadness without end if i'm so unhappy as to see him return alone

00:23:08.480 adorable friend he will see you he will breathe in your temple perhaps you will even grant him the

00:23:13.300 unique and perfect favor of kissing your cheek and i shall be alone far far away so he's got this

00:23:18.340 idea that she's with somebody he says but you are coming aren't you you're going to be here beside

00:23:23.480 me in my arms on my breast on my mouth and this is and this is napoleon yes and then he ends the

00:23:30.040 letter with this he says a kiss on your heart and one much lower down much lower wow so so yeah he's

00:23:37.180 and he's constantly writing her letters about um about giving her kisses below the belt so this is

00:23:44.020 his next so she's still ghosting him still not replying this is a few months later and he says

00:23:48.300 since i left you i've been constantly depressed my happiness is to be near you incessantly i live

00:23:53.760 over in my memory of your caresses your tears your affectionate solicitude the charms of the

00:23:59.340 incomparable josephine kindle continually a burning and glowing flame in my heart when free from all

00:24:05.160 solitude and harassing care shall i be able to pass all my time with you having only to love you and

00:24:10.920 to think of the happiness of so saying and proving it to you so he's like describing himself as totally

00:24:17.160 emotionally dependent on her he doesn't think of imagine you're like out in the battlefield you're

00:24:22.020 supposed to be focused on the enemy and you can't stop writing simp letters to your woman back home

00:24:27.360 and she's like 32 do you know what i mean and this is what okay this is i i had i had a whiteboard

00:24:33.040 video about this you know it's not every 30 not dating every 32 year old is simping but when you're

00:24:39.380 talking 10 love love letters a day to a bitch who's cheating on you and doesn't even write you back

00:24:46.080 i mean that's that's simp like and you're like the emperor of france you're like the most feared man

00:24:52.800 like you're the conqueror and stuff so um he was short though right i mean she he was short okay he was

00:24:59.840 short i mean that's true you know i'm just kidding she's like she's like she's like six foot six

00:25:06.300 figure six inch well she she was supposed to be pretty for her time but she had like really bad teeth

00:25:14.960 so there's no pictures of her with teeth and i guess she would cover her mouth when she talked

00:25:19.140 and stuff so she did i mean look my teeth aren't perfect i'm not going to talk a bunch of shit but i

00:25:23.000 guess there were some missing and things like this so here's where stuff gets really interesting

00:25:27.440 he writes her one more time he's starting to get kind of frustrated at this point and he says i write

00:25:32.040 you my beloved one very often and you write very little you are wicked and naughty very naughty as

00:25:38.000 much as you are fickle it is unfaithful so to deceive a poor husband a tender lover ought he lose

00:25:44.140 all his enjoyments because he is so far away born down with toil fatigue and hardship without his

00:25:49.400 josephine without the assurance of her love what is left of him upon the earth what can he do

00:25:54.660 so he's like telling her you're being a bitch and then he then he basically says i still can't live

00:25:59.880 without you though and he says a thousand loving kisses so he complains he complains he's like where

00:26:05.420 are you finally his own brother comes to him with proof of the affair because there was all these rumors

00:26:11.080 that she's cheating and he just wouldn't hear of it he would not believe people um finally his own

00:26:15.560 brother comes with like can't he like behead her or something no sadly no did they i'm not saying

00:26:21.820 like they should but like okay did these cheating women never get like beheaded or is that not a thing

00:26:27.880 or well she could get away with this because she's basically the you know she's like the empress so

00:26:34.660 he could have done something about it if he wanted to he could have divorced or he eventually does and

00:26:39.240 we'll get to why in just a second but he just didn't like he could have done something because

00:26:43.680 this is why people kept coming to him and being like bro she's cheating like the reason she doesn't

00:26:48.060 write you the reason she won't like come join you in the field to even consecrate the marriage is

00:26:52.560 because he's got another dude oh my gosh they didn't even know she's getting literally getting

00:26:56.220 plowed by chad while this dude's off at war wait they didn't even consecrate the marriage well they

00:27:01.880 had been screwing around before that so it's not the biggest deal but no he went straight from like

00:27:06.700 the wedding he had to go back to war and he wanted her to be there with him and she wouldn't come

00:27:11.740 she was back at home having an affair so women finally his brother comes to him with proof of

00:27:18.460 the of the affair and oh god this is another one right before this that's so bad right before he

00:27:24.660 finds out for sure she's cheating he says you know that i will never forget the little visit you know

00:27:29.440 to the little black forest i kiss it a thousand times and wait impatiently for the moment i will be in

00:27:35.060 it to live within josephine is to live in the elysian field kisses on your mouth eyes your breath

00:27:41.300 everywhere everywhere so he's constantly talking about like you know giving her kisses downstairs

00:27:47.000 while she's at home like getting plowed by chad so that's pretty bad so finally he gets confronted

00:27:51.840 with proof of the affair he absolutely flips out he gets super angry he finally has to like face this

00:27:58.620 and he writes her a letter it says i don't love you anymore on the contrary i detest you you are a vile

00:28:04.140 mean beastly slut you don't write me at all you don't love your husband you know how happy your

00:28:10.000 letters make him and you don't write him even six lines of nonsense soon i hope i will be holding you

00:28:14.780 in my arms then i will cover you with a million hot kisses burning like the equator so he's like you're

00:28:20.800 a dirty lying slut you're a beastly slut but also i can't wait to be with you again what was his mother

00:28:27.780 like this is what i'm like oh that's a really good question and i have the same question and i found out

00:28:32.960 so and his life is super well documented there's so much documentation on his life i was actually

00:28:38.280 able to find out he was a mama's boy okay he was a mama's boy and uh he spent all of his time as a

00:28:45.560 young kid like really really close with his mother before they sent him to like the million the military

00:28:50.260 school and he actually said there's a written quote from him saying the future destiny of the child is

00:28:56.160 always the work of the mother so was the mom was the mom like loyal to the husband is there any like

00:29:02.020 as far as i know like there's not a ton about his parents like there's a lot of information about

00:29:06.740 them like what their lineage was and that they were rich and stuff like and they stayed married but it

00:29:11.780 says that he had like a very overbearing mother like a really strong that's what that's what because

00:29:17.000 like what i found is that when like the son have a weird dynamic with women it's because the order of

00:29:22.480 the family that he grew up in was off so again where the the man took orders from the wife and then it

00:29:28.500 creates sims so a lot of times we talk about single mother homes but the thing they don't talk

00:29:34.680 about is two parent homes but the mother's overbearing and i find that the sons from there

00:29:40.400 typically are weak where they might be like successful they might go on to do the right

00:29:45.140 thing but they're just like weak like boys does that make sense yeah we're like they're especially

00:29:49.780 when it comes to women they just tend to like submit to women thinking that that's the way you deal

00:29:55.200 with them when yeah when it's certainly not by the way another side note he was engaged to a hot 18

00:30:01.020 year old swedish queen before he met this broad and broke off that engagement to be with her

00:30:06.440 yeah do you know what i find so i find it's really interesting looking back at history and realizing

00:30:13.060 it's like the same people as today just in like different bod like it's like a weird it's weird you

00:30:17.960 know that part like because before you kind of look at history as this different time but i feel like

00:30:22.960 the women like the 32 like josephine they're like the predatory women where they don't they might

00:30:29.320 beat out younger women with these stupid games but they always hate the men they work on yeah that's

00:30:34.360 basically what it was and there's like other documentation about her life saying that she was

00:30:39.220 really skilled at choosing men who she knew she could kind of manipulate and who would pay her debts

00:30:45.060 because her big thing was she was a huge spender and so he was always paying her debt and she had

00:30:49.960 huge debts so he's taking like massive amounts of his wealth pay for her like really opulent lifestyle

00:30:55.900 while she's cheating while she doesn't write him while she won't even join him um and so he confronts

00:31:02.320 her with this affair and she just straight up denies it even though there's proof even though his brother

00:31:07.060 knows everybody knows about this and she basically guilts him and basically says like how dare you accuse

00:31:13.960 me of this i can't believe i can't believe you would do this right so finally he said oh yeah she

00:31:20.600 so this is her she doesn't write a letter to napoleon but she writes it to her um the guy she's having an

00:31:26.340 affair with his name was hippolyte charles uh and she's writing him a letter about how much she hates

00:31:31.460 napoleon's family they don't approve they're angry because she treats him so bad and she writes him

00:31:37.000 something saying i'm going to the country my dear hippolyte only you can restore me to happiness

00:31:42.100 tell me that you love me tell me that you love only me adieu i send you a thousand tender kisses

00:31:47.800 and i am all yours yes my hippolyte they all have my hatred you alone have my tenderness my love they

00:31:54.060 must see how i abhor them for the frightful state i've been in they see my regrets my hopelessness at

00:31:59.300 being deprived of seeing you as often as i desire to hippolyte i'll kill myself yes i want to end a

00:32:05.180 life which from now on can only be burdensome to me if it cannot be consecrated to you so she's writing

00:32:11.400 her her um the guy she's cheating with saying like they won't even let me come see you now

00:32:16.860 because the family was the family was like look rod you can't be doing this like you're gonna

00:32:22.740 embarrass all of france and he's out in the field and he has to be able to fight the enemy and you're

00:32:27.700 like ruining everything so they tell her you can't be running off with this guy like whenever you want

00:32:31.780 you can't do that and she gets super mad and is basically like if you won't let me have an affair

00:32:35.720 i'm gonna kill myself the classic right this is the other classic thing women do they get caught

00:32:40.820 doing something like this and then it's i'm the victim and i'm gonna i'm gonna self-delete if you

00:32:45.840 don't give me what i want so she denies the while she's writing this dude letters she denies the affair

00:32:52.100 to napoleon guilt him about it and he just dude he gets so depressed that he doesn't even want to

00:33:00.060 fight the wars anymore uh he says the veil is torn it is sad when one in the same heart is torn by such

00:33:05.980 conflicting feelings for one person i need to be alone i'm tired of all grandeurs all my feelings

00:33:11.180 have dried up i no longer care about my glory at 29 i have exhausted everything so homie is 29 years

00:33:17.780 old conquering the whole world and he's just like wrecked by a woman and doesn't even want to

00:33:24.380 napoleon you could do better like go get you go get you the next hot 18 year old version so even to

00:33:31.780 add an extra salt to the wound these letters he's writing her got intercepted by admiral nelson who

00:33:39.160 was like the british admiral and remember france and britain are at war in this and they find his

00:33:44.660 letters and publish them in the british newspapers to embarrass him as a simp so all of england is laughing

00:33:51.060 at napoleon making fun of him like what a simp he is and that his wife is cheating on him so at this

00:33:56.840 point even though she's done all this they're still sleeping together like whenever he does get to

00:34:02.580 see her um he's still with her he won't like leave her and she's still having affairs but she doesn't

00:34:08.840 seem to be able to get pregnant but meanwhile so finally when he finds out about the affair he starts

00:34:13.820 cheating too while he's out in the field he's like she's not gonna come sleep with me and she's sleeping

00:34:17.620 with everybody else i might as well have affairs too so he starts sleeping with other women and he

00:34:21.820 impregnates a couple of them but he's been with her for a few years and she hasn't gotten pregnant

00:34:26.480 so he figures out that she must be infertile and can't give him an heir and this is a problem because

00:34:32.480 you know people are trying to kill him all the time he could get killed in war he could get

00:34:36.080 assassinated and then france has no heir so finally he has to he has to marry someone who can give him

00:34:42.880 an heir otherwise he said he wouldn't he would have even stayed with this cheating broad

00:34:46.600 if if she could have given him a baby but she couldn't so he does end up getting a divorce from

00:34:52.260 her and marries a 19 year old austrian princess so that he can have an heir but he doesn't even like

00:34:57.280 really care about her he's still stuck on this broad so he still stays with her cheats on his wife

00:35:03.780 they remain like friends and stuff he's still paying all her bills and he just never got over his love for

00:35:10.380 her and until she finally died and when she died he wouldn't speak to anybody for like two weeks and

00:35:16.340 all this craziness also he did adopt her step kids no and her yes he adopted her step kids and he um

00:35:24.460 even her like second cousin for some reason he adopted and he set them up in like marriages where

00:35:30.020 they would become you know royalty uh his brother married her daughter i want to say her older adult

00:35:37.600 daughter from her first marriage so it's just like if you guys think this is totally new that men have

00:35:42.780 been getting screwed over like this it's pretty old we're talking around the year 1800 here that all

00:35:47.840 this is going on and yeah one of the most powerful men on planet earth is just getting cucked to death

00:35:53.420 even while he's out like defending his nation in a battle it's crazy i'm curious before that so like

00:35:59.860 1500s 1600s 1400s were aristocratic women still sleeping around like that it kind of depended because

00:36:09.520 like there are some examples of like kings who would have you beheaded if they caught you doing

00:36:14.680 that kind of stuff but then there were then there were others who maybe they had like multiple they'd

00:36:19.860 have a wife but then they'd have a lot of concubines or something so maybe in some of those cases they

00:36:25.240 didn't care too much kind of depends it depends on the country and the time and the place and it

00:36:30.320 depends also how religious they were so sometimes like this is another big thing where i think

00:36:34.760 napoleon went wrong he was raised catholic and then he abandoned the faith as an adult and became just

00:36:40.380 like a deist which is like i believe there's a god but it's an impersonal god it's not the christian

00:36:45.580 god it's just like the universe right and he and ended up coming back to catholicism like when he was

00:36:52.520 close to death like he came back to the church but like the pope at the time who was it pope pious

00:36:58.200 the seventh i think yeah he was trying to talk sense into napoleon he was like you need to be in

00:37:04.140 the church you need to have a church wedding and you got to stop letting this woman get away with all

00:37:08.780 this stuff but he didn't listen and yeah so it didn't go so well he finally came back to catholicism

00:37:15.300 right before he died he like repented and everything but oh like l's in the chat for napoleon i can't

00:37:20.940 believe it i won't so i was just like if napoleon is cucked nobody is no but that's the that's what

00:37:28.320 people it's just weird once you see it you can't unsee it and like once you realize it's like there's

00:37:34.020 this natural order and i always use a boss as an example and people hate it because they're like well

00:37:39.440 it's marriage i'm like but it's the same like you listen to a cop you listen to your boss right

00:37:45.260 and when you have men that are saying let me ask my wife that's a bit weird like that's like let me

00:37:50.760 know i back you up on this all the time because i'm like why is it empowering for a woman to go to

00:37:57.080 a job and have a boss and listen to him or if she gets pulled over gets a traffic ticket she might not

00:38:02.320 like it but she's probably gonna obey the cop and do what the cop says but for so she can obey everyone

00:38:07.520 else and that's not slavery that's not demeaning she's still a strong independent woman when she's

00:38:12.880 obeying all the other men but not her husband that's the one guy she can never submit to or

00:38:18.920 obey why that makes no sense oh my gosh it was so funny i had i was on a plane um i was i was oh my

00:38:26.640 gosh sometimes these people they're like pearl do you just have time to tweet the answer is yes i don't

00:38:32.920 do anything yeah you guys all have like real jobs i just tweet this is amazing well i get that too

00:38:42.700 people are like if you have five kids how do you have time for twitter i'm like first of all the

00:38:47.040 three oldest are adult who don't even live at home anymore i don't know if you know this but i'm old

00:38:52.040 okay i'm 43 i don't have tiny babies at home but number two honest to god i'm usually tweeting when

00:38:57.780 i'm in the kitchen like waiting to flip the bacon or waiting to take the cookies i'm like they're like

00:39:03.860 what are you a girl boss i'm like is tweeting the bar yeah tweeting means i'm a boss i know it's like i'm

00:39:10.740 like i'm like why are you on the internet if you're a woman and i'm like do you want only the

00:39:15.440 feminists to be on here speaking yeah i'm like um yeah you know i didn't realize you know i just

00:39:21.220 didn't know that tweeting i'm like look and i'm an expert tweeter but anyways anyways so one day i

00:39:28.280 just i was on a flight to um the uk from america rachel i just had the time so i started thinking of

00:39:34.540 all of these phrases that i hated that like men say with like barfing emojis so i i wanted to make

00:39:41.320 it i wanted to make it extra like so you know now everyone knows my thought process when i tweet i'm

00:39:46.460 just an expert and um and so i tweeted like happy wife happy life and i put like a barfing emoji let

00:39:54.800 me ask my wife a barfing emoji and this um really triggered tradcon twitter and i think i have a special

00:40:02.400 place in my heart because i feel like tradcon twitter lied to me like the tradcon because they

00:40:08.000 didn't teach us what was true now i don't think they meant to they're indoctrinated just like everyone

00:40:12.920 else but there's just something about me where i get this like icky feeling in my stomach because i'm

00:40:18.700 like i listened like we all and you didn't tell us about any of this terrible divorce stuff and you

00:40:23.440 never talked about obeying your husband like this is all super important stuff they they yeah they

00:40:28.820 don't they they like fake cover and it was exposed and and it's interesting rachel i know you're the

00:40:34.080 real deal i'll tell you why because of the way you react to information i can tell more about somebody

00:40:39.940 by how they react right yeah so if i say something that may apply to you or somebody else or me we can

00:40:47.580 listen and not get mad because we live in reality right so if i say hey 25 year old women are hotter

00:40:54.340 than 35 year old women yeah you don't you don't start tweeting your selfies at me you don't know

00:41:01.040 you don't get mad at me and i'm i'm 20 i'm almost 27 so i'm i would say you know 18 year olds are hotter

00:41:08.480 than 27 years i could say the same thing right this isn't you know and we don't and in this case right

00:41:15.300 everybody got mad that i said let me ask my wife with a barfing emoji and i saw all of these i don't

00:41:21.400 know who these women are but all of these women make podcasts talking about how you need to get

00:41:26.200 wisdom from your wife and i'm like if you have looked in history that is a terrible idea now then

00:41:32.180 they're like pearl what are you doing talking i'm like you don't have to listen right right you can

00:41:37.400 you can take it or leave it you know what i mean but i don't think uh that i should be in charge of

00:41:41.680 the military or you know you know if i was ever to hold political power it would just be to get rid of

00:41:47.100 women's political power well can you not tell from this last example okay the whole reason

00:41:54.060 josephine was not into napoleon is because he was such a hardcore simp all he would do is say how

00:41:59.680 amazing she was and how beautiful he was and how he couldn't stop thinking about it he put this woman

00:42:03.660 on such a pedestal and all that told her was uh you're a simp like you can pay my bills you can give

00:42:09.680 me like power you can give me resources you can do for me but like she just wasn't even that into him

00:42:15.780 and she was just like and when because it just says something it tells a woman whether she realizes

00:42:21.820 it on a conscious level or not it tells a woman like i can do better than this guy he's not that

00:42:27.220 high value because why would he be simping for me right like why would he be all over me like this

00:42:32.760 unless i i totally have him wrapped around my finger and that's a turnoff to women like i wish

00:42:38.480 it wasn't that way but it's that way it and and so when i said that it told me that the women

00:42:44.740 that got mad were the controlling wives that's what it told me because you would not get mad like

00:42:50.580 if andrew made a decision and you disagreed with it and you even if you hated it you'd understand

00:42:56.480 that's the order of the house i gotta go with it yeah and ultimately he's responsible so like okay

00:43:01.720 let's say he's dead wrong and he makes a terrible decision he's the person that's gonna have to deal

00:43:06.140 with it and and fix it or whatever now does that mean that like if my husband makes a bad decision it

00:43:11.240 might not affect me it might affect me but well here's the magic thing and i don't know how to

00:43:16.160 explain this this is one of these like laws of the universe that i can't tell you why it works it just

00:43:20.780 does when you put full trust and faith in your husband and you trust his judgment that much that

00:43:27.240 you really will submit you're not going to give him a bunch of shit you're not going to argue you're

00:43:31.220 not going to protest but but but but you know if he knows that you're like look i trust you 100

00:43:36.420 percent even if you get some things wrong i'm following you no matter what i defer to your

00:43:41.040 judgment no matter what it make the man like i don't know if it provides a stronger connection

00:43:46.880 to god for him like i pray for my husband every night this is something you should do as a wife

00:43:51.160 by the way wife tip for y'all you should pray every single day that your husband has strength wisdom

00:43:57.040 discernment and courage and that the lord protects him that's what you're supposed to do it's not your job

00:44:02.300 to tell him what to do it's not your job to make sure he's doing things right or he makes the right

00:44:06.060 decisions your only job is to pray that the lord does that for him period so when you do this for

00:44:11.680 a man something magical happens where they become this best version of themselves and they they do

00:44:16.740 become this great leader and like every good thing in the man you love is magnified by your submission

00:44:22.880 people don't trust me when i say that they don't believe me when i say that and all i can say is like

00:44:27.920 look but rachel where's your backup plan i'm enjoying it so where's your backup plan in case he leaves

00:44:33.200 you high and dry and destitute any minute now any minute now he's gonna leave me for a younger

00:44:38.440 woman twitter tells me every day it's coming like just tomorrow i'm gonna wake up he's just gonna be

00:44:43.680 gone for some 18 year old who's gonna give him hell all day long and you know what i'm gonna tell you

00:44:49.000 what's funny i'm gonna tell you it's funny men tend to be like good people so even if they do leave

00:44:53.980 for a younger woman i swear i swear if women weren't raising hell and just terrible if they

00:44:59.480 when men do a good woman wrong they can like admit it and i've even seen guys like that are so happy

00:45:06.340 their wives didn't put them through the ringer in divorce court they just happily send them money now

00:45:11.260 i'm not saying i'm not saying count on that right but one men aren't men aren't leaving for younger

00:45:15.680 women anyway that's not even like a thing but even if it happens i'm like you guys realize like

00:45:21.860 if he leaves you for a younger woman like you're supposed to have had like 20 years to study this

00:45:26.840 man and like to the point like a younger woman can't compete do you know what i mean like okay

00:45:33.020 i'll give you an example there there's a girl that came on my show right and she was dating she's

00:45:37.360 married or not married but like long-term relationship like 10 years to a guy that's like a top 1% earner

00:45:43.200 and she's pretty she's pretty overweight pretty heavy lady and pretty like pretty overweight and you

00:45:48.820 know getting to know her i could see how she got him because there ain't no way a woman younger than

00:45:54.200 her could compete there is no way because she like her presence and her aura was just so like

00:46:00.760 calming to be around she would just she was here she like cooked for the entire staff i i know it made

00:46:07.480 me like want to be softer want to be like like i i could like count on one hand the number of women

00:46:13.500 like with that presence right yeah and so i'm like yes even though like she was overweight she's older

00:46:19.260 i'm like nobody there is nobody that could take and so i'm like guys and then they get mad at me

00:46:24.240 when i'm like maybe if he's left you for a younger woman like maybe you just made his life a living

00:46:29.180 hell at home because typically the men if you just give them food and sex they're like ah good enough

00:46:35.060 you know yeah my husband always says um he's like okay people think i'm going to like let's say he

00:46:41.820 doesn't even leave me let's say he just has an affair with someone younger he's like what do

00:46:46.000 they think some younger woman is going to want from me what she's going to want from me is to

00:46:50.660 destroy everything i have and probably take it and manipulate me there's no woman who's going to be

00:46:55.420 my mistress knowing i'm married to you who isn't going to be a piece of you know what and who isn't

00:47:01.200 going to probably manipulate me blackmail me he's like i because he gets a lot of women kind of throwing

00:47:07.060 him themselves at him and he's like i know exactly what they want they don't want me

00:47:11.380 they want to wreck what i have they they just want to destroy my life they want to be they're like they

00:47:16.620 see a guy like me and they're like i can subdue him i can control i'll get him you know and he knows

00:47:21.440 that he's not dumb he figured this out somewhere along the way and he was like ah okay i see what

00:47:25.920 these women are up to they don't really want me you know so he's like why would i do that what am i

00:47:30.500 gonna give some you know thought power for correct but my my point is like women whenever i say you

00:47:36.580 know well why did he leave it's never it's always like ah pearl's so insensitive but like in my head

00:47:43.040 i'm like you've had 20 years or 10 years 50 whatever it is to get to know this guy like the back of his

00:47:48.660 hand dude i mean like you have like a i understand the beauty and the youth but i'm like at some point

00:47:53.260 men are kind of content like yeah they're not looking to mess up their whole life go through a

00:47:58.040 divorce and ruin everything unless it's absolute hell at home and what they don't want to talk

00:48:02.840 about this is what they don't want to talk about and this happens to um i my um producers are from

00:48:07.460 africa right and they talk about how some western men go to africa and these women just come in and

00:48:13.260 they're so feminine and they treat these men like they've never been treated in their life right and

00:48:18.900 then they're like they they just leave now you could say oh that's on the man but it's like why have

00:48:25.040 these guys never received an ounce of obedience in their life like you know i know am i the bad

00:48:31.180 guy for pointing this out now what people get mad when we talk in generalities like this but we have

00:48:36.620 to talk in generalities there's always outliers okay is there someone somewhere who left their wife

00:48:41.640 and is a total piece of garbage sure but there's women that do that all the time and the the point

00:48:45.940 we're always trying to make is whenever you say oh look at this man look what he did he's so bad

00:48:51.300 everybody goes yeah he's a piece of crap he's a scumbag what a jerk but if you say look at this

00:48:56.260 woman she abandoned her whole family and left for someone else the first thought everyone has is he

00:49:02.160 must have done something to make her do it because the woman would never and it's like where do people

00:49:07.720 get this idea that women are just naturally so innocent and men are naturally so natural well and

00:49:12.860 even like when the crowder footage came out i knew what was happening because everybody was like oh why is

00:49:18.960 he reacting like or why would he do like there's he's evil for doing that but i was like what got

00:49:24.100 him to this point and i and you could tell in the footage no one ever asked she was she was taught no

00:49:29.960 and i i've seen it too many times because you just do these interviews you see patterns and it's like

00:49:35.000 she um she was accusing this guy of abuse in his own home constantly that's what you can that's what

00:49:41.740 that's what he kept saying like oh i'm drawing a boundary at abuse i'm drawing about because imagine being in

00:49:46.840 your own home and telling your wife to do anything and she's calling it abuse 24 seconds that wouldn't

00:49:52.780 drive you nuts and then what did they do everybody reported on it i'm still waiting on the retractions

00:49:57.640 guys i know where are the you can't get it right every time i understand not everyone has the inside

00:50:02.860 i do but you just ruined this man's reputation retractions retract anybody nobody nobody crickets

00:50:08.820 i called them out on twitter too because when that when that tape came out months ago i said to

00:50:14.680 everybody because everybody was like care to comment on this what do you have to say about

00:50:18.020 this rachel and i said ah the thing i have to say about it is i'm older than you guys i've been

00:50:22.960 around and i've seen enough of these things come out some little audio snippet some little video

00:50:27.720 snippet comes out to make the man look bad everybody assumes the worst and then months or even a year or

00:50:33.720 two down the road through the court case and the discovery and all that when all the information comes

00:50:38.700 out you find out that it was something different than you thought it happens all the time like

00:50:43.140 johnny depp remember that remember when everybody thought johnny depp was this horrible abuser and

00:50:48.340 then it turns out no amber heard is actually the abuser in the relationship but everybody jumped on

00:50:54.540 him and demonized him and thought he was this horrible person and i'm just like how many times

00:50:59.840 are you gonna fall for this it happens so much and it was just like so disappointing to see like

00:51:05.900 the right participate i and i understand i i wasn't really with crowder talking about their deal

00:51:11.640 whatever but like i'm like you don't think it's too far to take a footage from a guy's house from

00:51:17.720 his house i'm like oh come on if i had my worst clip if i was recorded 24 7 i would be so embarrassed

00:51:26.280 like i'm sure you could get to every like and then everyone's like oh well i have nothing and it's

00:51:32.560 always people that have like the dirtiest you know what i mean i'm like get off your high horse

00:51:37.300 you've never screamed you've never had a little meltdown on your worst day you've never come on

00:51:43.440 and i'm like okay and if everyone saw that you'd be embarrassed and i'm like it's not appropriate

00:51:49.760 for a wife to be bringing out ring footage from years ago saying that he's an abuser if he was an

00:51:57.120 abuser where why weren't you i say women get a year you get a year maybe i might even cut it down

00:52:02.220 to six months file your charges if you're abused go to the police figure it out if not get over it

00:52:08.220 well this is the thing i i almost never and i'm gonna open up a whole can of worms by saying this

00:52:15.280 but this is honest to god's truth i rarely believe women who accuse their ex of abuse anymore and

00:52:21.620 here's why when you whenever you get into what the abuse was first of all i ask every single time

00:52:27.920 did you go to the police do they ever say yes no they never do i have never once asked when a

00:52:34.740 woman's like my ex abused me for five years i'm like did you go to the police no but there was

00:52:40.480 reasons and it's like okay that's one big strike against you but the other thing is when you get

00:52:45.300 into okay what was the abuse it's always your favorite thing pearl emotional abuse emotional no

00:52:52.100 no okay okay rachel when i watched i watched oh i was triggered oh i was triggered when i watched

00:52:59.880 that one guy i don't know who these people are i'd like to say they could be perfectly nice outside of

00:53:04.520 this i don't know their background but when i watch i watched like a hour and a half podcast of this guy

00:53:09.420 accusing crowder of emotional abuse at work i just kept thinking that menu i hope you tell that to a

00:53:15.860 coal miner and a guy that works at an oil rig or a guy that works like little fisherman things on

00:53:21.920 the sea about your emotional abuse because he and i was like checks notes changed the schedule on you

00:53:28.880 and didn't consider your time i'm like okay let me get this straight that's abuse then i'm abused every

00:53:36.120 day this is a man i i i changed this schedule like three times did i ghost you and abuse you

00:53:43.000 like that's what it always is it's always like but he said something that made me upset

00:53:50.100 or he told me no to something and it's emotional abuse i i don't or he or he how can we have a

00:53:57.740 functioning society and then then they all said oh he he exposed himself at work this is the cute

00:54:04.640 oh this was the the claim and i was like okay do you have any evidence no and this was the i call

00:54:09.400 them the emotional man too and i'm and so then the second thing my second question was why would he

00:54:14.880 feel comfortable doing that and this is the question we never at like i don't i've never gone

00:54:19.560 to work i've worked with a lot of a lot of people a lot of guys and nobody's just whipped their like

00:54:26.300 that's never that's never happened to me so i'm like you know that's never happened i know and i'm

00:54:32.460 like was this like an ex-lover like did you got like these are the questions i have yeah i don't

00:54:38.560 know so why thing there's always there's always more to it or yes men are capable of abusing but

00:54:45.000 like i just my most recent substack piece goes over all the data on that and men being the abusers is

00:54:52.360 not accurate like this idea that men especially husbands and fathers are like the greatest threat

00:54:57.840 to everybody just isn't in the data it's not there there it's women tend to initiate the abuse

00:55:03.440 women use more force multipliers than men women tend to abuse power more than men so like female

00:55:09.440 prison guards are way more abusive than male prison guards even in like no way no way yeah they're way

00:55:15.760 worse especially when it comes to like sexual abuse oh yeah female teachers too female juvie yeah so

00:55:23.180 like women are no less bad when they have power in fact they're probably worse um and i've talked

00:55:29.460 about reasons why and everything but it's just like this i don't know how long this myth is going to

00:55:34.240 persist that women are just sitting there innocently and all everything just happens to them and how are

00:55:40.360 you going to tell me you're a strong independent woman on one hand and you can make your own choices

00:55:44.560 and you can do you can do everything yourself and you don't need a man but also say you're a perpetual

00:55:49.340 victim of the patriarchy every man you've ever dated is a narcissist men are all abusing you and

00:55:54.740 it's like you kind of have to pick one rachel i feel like i feel like these people don't know what

00:55:59.160 i've gone through in the past few years i'm like do you know what it's like listening to these women

00:56:05.300 talk about abuse and then every time i ask any prodding questions like one time i had a girl say that

00:56:13.220 her ex threw her out the door and it was because this bitch wouldn't leave his house

00:56:16.900 so i was like so let me get this straight checks notes you were trespassing and you got thrown out

00:56:23.720 yeah there's a girl i used to work with who came to work told me this giant sob story about how her

00:56:30.060 boyfriend attacked her and she's like look i have a bruise right here because he grabbed me and he like

00:56:36.720 shoved me and all this stuff and like through the course of everybody talking to her about it we found

00:56:42.400 out that the reason she had the bruise and the reason he shoved her is because she attacked him

00:56:47.680 with a broken piece of glass and he was just trying to like get her off of him and i'm like and he was

00:56:55.280 in jail he was in jail the cops came and because she had a bruise they took him to jail and he was

00:57:01.700 like and the glass was there it was like a baby food jar that she smashed and then picked up a piece

00:57:06.220 of glass and the the guy was like she was gonna kill me with broken glass like what did you want

00:57:11.420 me to do well and and the thing is like i feel like because we don't acknowledge female nature

00:57:16.940 it's like okay i don't even think we see reality and i've talked to a cop i like i know a guy who's

00:57:22.740 like a cop and i asked him about this i'm like women like have these stories or whatever do you

00:57:27.000 think they believe them and he's like yeah i'm not saying like there aren't malicious women but i'm

00:57:30.680 like i just think our emotion this is just my theory i think there's two types i think there's like

00:57:34.860 the women that maliciously do it and the women whose emotions are just like so strong and they

00:57:40.780 just have this society that's like aww and the feminists come in and they're like oh you were

00:57:45.540 emotionally abused and i'm like bitch what the fuck is abuse then i'm i'm gonna call my dad because

00:57:51.520 my dad yelled at me when i totaled my car at 16 and he was did he emotionally abuse me should i

00:57:58.500 should i call him up and say dad you just you you used um emotional force what the fuck

00:58:04.280 well and let's not pretend that again it's like women do plenty but you're not allowed to say

00:58:10.540 that and i think so like if you're scrolling any white ladies instagram you see all these little

00:58:15.720 memes and these little you know all the little inspirational sayings that they love to post

00:58:20.100 where it's like any man who doesn't love you at your worst doesn't deserve you at your best

00:58:25.600 or like you're perfect the way you are and the world needs to like conform to what you want

00:58:31.580 we really do kind of like push this messaging at younger women because we're so terrified they'll

00:58:36.940 have the dreaded low self-esteem oh god i think it's good i love women i love women with low self-esteem

00:58:43.960 they're way better it's like what do you mean by self-esteem like my so this is one reason my dad

00:58:52.000 is based in cool when we were growing up me and my sister he would say to us real self-esteem

00:58:57.540 comes from behaving in a way that you're proud of acting in a way that is like you know righteous

00:59:05.320 and good and honest that's how you get real self-esteem not from people telling you you're

00:59:10.320 pretty when you're not or people telling you you don't look fat in the dress when you do

00:59:14.320 he would he would tell us like all this artificial fluffing everybody does that's not going to give

00:59:18.920 you self-esteem that's like a band-aid that's never going to work so he would tell us like if you want

00:59:24.040 to have actual self-esteem you need to be proud of the way that you behave in the world and you

00:59:29.580 have to know that you are a person who can be trustworthy and honest and those things then you

00:59:34.340 really will have true self-esteem and you won't feel like you need to be abused and you won't get

00:59:39.000 into these crazy codependent relationships so thank you dad for your wisdom because that's not what i

00:59:44.820 got from my mom but can i have a third story for you do you want to hear oh maybe you've got

00:59:50.340 thoughts on that i got one more one more thought and then we'll go you know what you know what told

00:59:54.400 that like made me think of this when i said men should only marry virgins i would solve a lot of

00:59:59.420 the world's problems now then i had this group of women that would just be like well men don't even

01:00:04.340 want virgins they get like and i thought about it and i'm like how do you know it wasn't your personality

01:00:09.200 like like there maybe there's room for improvement i mean what are you perfect like it was the purity

01:00:16.500 that was the problem and it just made me think of like it's never me and it's all right you know

01:00:22.180 it's okay to like have room for improvement it doesn't mean you're a terrible person it just means

01:00:26.420 you know there's things that could be improved i think there always is like i can't i can't imagine

01:00:31.660 having the mentality that like this is it i've reached perfection no more work needs to be done on

01:00:37.160 me i've made it like if you ever get to that point you're delusional all right let's simp number three

01:00:43.380 okay simp number three now a lot of people will come to me and say rachel why don't you mention

01:00:49.980 people of a certain tribe when you talk about the history of feminism what about margaret sanger her

01:00:56.520 last name is you know a certain type of surname and i'm like yes but margaret sanger was irish catholic

01:01:04.260 her um her maiden name was a catholic name uh it's somewhere here in the book but she married

01:01:09.620 a poor jewish fellow his name was william sanger so she was raised irish catholic in a big irish

01:01:15.580 family she married a jewish guy now here's an example of some really hardcore simping if you guys

01:01:21.700 don't know margaret sanger is the founder of planned parenthood she helped develop the birth

01:01:25.540 control pill um she's really really horrible woman we've talked about her before but she marries

01:01:31.380 her german jewish architect husband william sanger in 1902 and then she starts getting into politics

01:01:38.180 she joins the new york socialist party and starts becoming like this feminist radical right well what

01:01:44.220 happens is she starts getting herself in trouble because at this time there's something called

01:01:48.900 comstock laws which mean that you can't distribute pornography or anything about any obscene materials

01:01:55.820 through like the mail and you can't publicly hand this out so this is when we kind of had decency laws

01:02:00.700 and she was passing out birth control stuff that was very graphic so it was like you know um instructional

01:02:07.780 information on sexual acts and it was like how to use diaphragms and all this kind of stuff yeah and she

01:02:14.380 so she was like promoting this everywhere and handing it out and sending it through the mail and she got in

01:02:19.180 big trouble so within two years of her finding her new circle of radical friends she becomes estranged

01:02:25.340 from her husband shocked what do we mean by estranged she starts cheating oh with all with so many people

01:02:33.000 this woman was everywhere okay she was all up in everybody's yeah she got around a lot but he was

01:02:38.820 like very upset about this because they had three kids by this time already and he just wanted his family

01:02:44.600 to stay together like so many men he was like i'll basically do anything to keep my family together so

01:02:49.680 she gets in trouble for distributing illegal materials and she flees the country she leaves and

01:02:55.220 goes to england she she had sponsors wealthy sponsors who helped her like evade justice and leave so she

01:03:01.540 wouldn't get prosecuted and what what does he do while she's away in europe he starts passing out the

01:03:08.400 same materials and tells the police it wasn't her it was me let you can arrest me so he lets the cops arrest

01:03:17.480 him he takes the rap for her he gets serious jail time for it how long do you go to jail well a few

01:03:24.380 years at least no yeah so yeah she flees to avoid he should have divorced her and took the kids

01:03:32.300 he should have that's exactly what he should have done but he didn't could he have could he have like

01:03:37.540 because he probably wouldn't have got the kids oh he would have back then oh yeah oh yeah especially

01:03:42.080 because i mean she had a reputation already and she was wanted she was a wanted criminal right so

01:03:48.240 if he would have gone to the court and said look i need custody of my kids and i gotta get a divorce

01:03:52.900 he totally would have been granted one but he was in love with her and sim so while she was away in

01:03:58.600 europe having affairs with multiple partners her husband good old bill is taking care of the little

01:04:04.360 kids and then because he goes to jail he has to send them to boarding schools because he goes to jail

01:04:10.160 on her behalf so he sends her letters from jail begging to reconcile professing his love for her

01:04:16.900 same as napoleon his deep desire to reunite his family and she responded with like a callous letter

01:04:24.720 asking him for a divorce because yeah because she so you're in jail doing jail time for me and now i want

01:04:32.340 a divorce because i have boyfriends she had like and we wonder why so we wonder why some men go mad and

01:04:38.580 just like kill bitch do you know what i mean like i'm not i don't want to bitch blame sorry

01:04:42.780 i'm a swearer guys i don't know what to tell you i'm irish i'm irish all right like like i am too

01:04:51.000 maybe that's why we think the same yeah yeah um but so it gets worse so now that he's in jail

01:04:57.440 taking the rap for her she's like great i can come back to america so she goes back to america for a

01:05:03.360 little bit he sends her letters begging her to visit him in prison and she won't she didn't she

01:05:09.580 wouldn't even go see the guy who is doing jail time for her and while this happened did she come back

01:05:15.260 and see her kids did she come get her kids no they never she left them where they were and her daughter

01:05:20.520 got really sick and they had been sending her letters saying you know your daughter's really sick

01:05:25.940 her sons are sending her letters begging her to come home they don't like being in this like

01:05:30.920 she left him at like a weird boarding school too it wasn't even like a nice one it was like a really

01:05:35.660 shitty one for like abandoned kids basically and so her sons are begging her to come back her husband's

01:05:41.380 begging her to come back and they say hey your daughter is sick so finally she comes to try to

01:05:46.200 see her sick daughter and the child has just died so not only does the husband end up divorced and doing

01:05:52.400 jail time for her but their child actually passed and her one son always blamed her he always said look

01:05:58.720 she would leave us with anyone she didn't care who and she'd leave us anywhere and if she hadn't

01:06:03.720 done that my sister would never have died i'll tell you what i'll tell you what um the truth always

01:06:08.780 women think they can get away with this shit the truth if you have kids yeah or who you date the

01:06:14.720 truth comes out eventually and i can say this because hundreds of years later we're talking about

01:06:19.260 these hoes like i know it's true it's true so like like you can't so so she was so horrible he said

01:06:28.440 the daughter thinks she's wonderful she like the feminist woman is like some kind of hero oh my gosh

01:06:33.940 i would have loved to at the event i went to brought some of this up we got to go to one together when

01:06:39.200 i'm in the u.s just a feminist event with our women shouldn't vote t-shirt i will do it i am down

01:06:45.340 i will totally do it if andrew wants to come we can just it's so infuriating to me it's like women

01:06:52.380 everybody's like you can't say this you hate women the men will do terrible things to us and i'm like

01:06:57.400 but this lady can send her husband to jail on her behalf to take the rap she let her daughter die

01:07:02.780 alone in like a shitty orphanage and she gets hailed as a hero but yeah her her son did come

01:07:09.480 out the one son was kind of like mama's boy and became like a planned parenthood director himself

01:07:15.120 but the other son blew the whistle on the whole thing it was like no she was terrible she never

01:07:19.800 cared about us she left us anywhere with anyone so that she could go party and she was like into

01:07:24.440 she was into women and men like this woman was wild she was just hoeing it up out there so it's like

01:07:29.980 and this man was just like he could have divorced her he didn't have to go to jail and but if he

01:07:35.240 wouldn't have simped his children would have lived so you're sacrificing your children when you simp

01:07:39.920 like that you can't do that it's again the man is abandoning his god-given duty to simp for a woman

01:07:46.300 and so i i just feel like the lord does not favor that and he's gonna not necessarily he might leave

01:07:53.060 you like the lord might say fine you're gonna turn your back on your god-given duties then you're on

01:07:57.520 your own well and they say we they say we hate women works out so bad well they say we hate women

01:08:02.720 but we just hate stupid women yeah well when you were talking about the nice lady that made you feel

01:08:08.840 like you wanted to be more feminine just from being around her i have a couple friends like that you

01:08:13.180 know what i mean that they're just like gentle and graceful because i'm not i'm like a bull in a china

01:08:17.600 shop that's like my i i think i'm a good wife but i'm not like graceful i'm not like super

01:08:24.240 we're irish like we can't yeah i'm just kind of well i don't know it's it's the the irish this is

01:08:32.880 what i say because the irish it's like they're they're kind of like bulls in the china shop a lot

01:08:37.900 of fun do you know what i mean yeah yeah a lot of fun and there's a very very low divorce rate in

01:08:42.540 ireland so go us but are you really is it really because i think i was just looking at it yesterday

01:08:48.300 because like it's so bad in certain countries and i was looking at the data and i was surprised that

01:08:54.820 ireland was okay i'm gonna tell you what i found because i've been to ireland i think divorce is

01:08:59.800 phasing out there no sorry not divorce marriage oh because they don't get married till 35 so that

01:09:05.580 kind of tells me yeah because when i you know it's interesting yeah it's interesting i was like it's

01:09:10.800 kind of going downhill everywhere because they'll talk about these eastern european women that are the

01:09:14.920 best and that's what i was looking at and i'm german so i'm like i mean that's kind of eat

01:09:21.080 whatever but like but i'm also german but i'm like okay let me get this straight the eastern european

01:09:27.380 women have like less kids and they're like the queens of abortion i mean they look good don't get me

01:09:32.460 wrong but i'm like i was thinking i'm like it kind of if we're gonna go traditionalism i was like we

01:09:37.680 gotta do marriage rate like the age they get married and the number of kids it seems like africa's

01:09:42.660 winning right now that's what i found yeah africa's the only place that has above replacement

01:09:47.400 birth rates yeah um and the thing like my book that's coming out next year because it's huge it's

01:09:52.420 taking forever because it's really in depth and it's going to be it's not going to be a smaller book

01:09:56.820 like this one it's going to be big and heavy and really in depth about how the bolshevik revolution

01:10:02.500 and that type of feminism really destroyed eastern europe and russia and that's where all the abortion

01:10:08.320 and the like failed marriages and all this stuff how that got rooted in there and like how they

01:10:14.100 were it was like a whole different strategy of how to get to the women there than is it portugal's

01:10:18.540 divorce rate like 70 percent i saw it i was like everyone on twitter yeah i think portugal is one of

01:10:24.300 the worst yeah there's a few that are like so but russia is really bad too yeah it's like i'm orthodox and

01:10:30.700 everybody on twitter was like it's not like this in orthodox countries romania is pretty good but

01:10:35.920 there's a lot of eastern bloc and russian women who were deeply deeply affected by the bolshevik

01:10:42.580 brand of feminism and how bad that was so that book's going to get into all of that because

01:10:47.000 there's so much history and there's so many horrific women during that time period that

01:10:52.660 screwed things up for everybody so but so like the moral of the story here is none of these men no

01:10:58.640 matter if they were powerful or not they met horrible ends they met a horrible end and their life was

01:11:05.220 ruined and their legacy was tarnished because of simping so don't simp it's a disease it is it's a

01:11:14.300 plague on humanity oh my gosh so margaret sanger william sanger is like the last the last simp right

01:11:22.180 now the biggest simp wow we could do a whole series of simps though because there's so many i think there's

01:11:27.840 so many good i think i hate simps just as much as i hate radical feminists because i thought about this

01:11:34.260 i'm like i genuinely think that the women believe it like i know they do yeah yeah yeah the men i'm

01:11:40.180 like they really do the men have like logic in there somewhere so i'm like you know better like

01:11:44.600 you have a gut like you have it in you to not be batshit crazy now these women a lot of them were

01:11:50.200 doomed now i know i know they're like we'll take accountability i mean women are just like we're just

01:11:55.760 different do you know what i mean like but how can how can women so like how was josephine really

01:12:01.100 supposed to take accountability if napoleon's just gonna continue to tell her how amazing she

01:12:05.680 is no matter what she does to him like the message all these men send these women is that i'll get a

01:12:11.520 little mad at you but i'm still gonna give you everything you want no matter how bad you behave

01:12:15.760 right so simps really do kind of like ruin the women because it's like if you're gonna let her get

01:12:20.500 away with all that why would she not it's just like nina ingdahl or some of these like modern women

01:12:25.220 that like they can sleep with everybody on planet earth they can act badly they can be promiscuous

01:12:29.840 and as long as they're hot and some logan paul is willing to give them a giant diamond like why

01:12:35.680 would they stop well and that's why i don't even think simping is about money because like what'll

01:12:40.500 happen this is just like the dynamics i see i have like three categories right the chads the simps and

01:12:46.920 the sexless sexless men aren't really part of the equation okay yeah now a chad a chad it doesn't

01:12:53.920 know people think a chad is it is the hottest guys right like some chads are still simps they get away

01:12:59.680 with it they're just ungodly hot and rich right yeah but what happens with a lot of these chads

01:13:04.660 is they still go into a different social group the women are hotter they're still gonna get a woman

01:13:09.580 but it's like the nina ag doll logan paul is a good looking guy he's rich like women would line up to

01:13:15.420 date him but for whatever reason his mindset still puts women on the pedestal so you could have a

01:13:21.040 guy that's a construction worker and okay he's not gonna get like a nina ag doll like that hot like

01:13:26.400 maybe it's less hot but he still behaves like a chad and maybe it's like a four or a five or a six

01:13:32.400 whatever hotness chick but she's still gonna have to work to be with yeah and that's the way it's

01:13:37.620 supposed to be yes i think so too i wish we were logical like the men and appreciated things we got

01:13:44.220 for free but guys we're women you're trying to make women into men yeah and it's like if you if you

01:13:48.800 this is what i was telling simps on twitter i was like you are encouraging the behavior you're enabling

01:13:54.520 the behavior because if you would just put down boundaries and say no and the men used to be able

01:13:59.580 to like regulate the simps a little bit better now the men can't regulate the simps like they used to

01:14:05.460 as much because there's all these like female teachers and single moms going no bullying don't

01:14:11.060 be mean you have to be nice so like the simps can just get away with murder well okay i saw this tiktok

01:14:17.100 this week i reacted to about a woman living in japan for a year and she showed her initial outfit she's

01:14:22.240 like this is what i used to let wear in the gym and she's like do not do this in japan they will

01:14:27.200 look at you like you have whore written on your forehead and she wore like the super baggy outfit

01:14:32.980 and i won't even lie i played volleyball growing up so i'm not i'm not even pretending like like i

01:14:37.980 because i think she wore like leggings or something you know and i'm just and i was just like yeah we

01:14:42.940 respond really quickly to social shame we respond really really quick so if the men are like oh no

01:14:48.520 whore or oh we'll switch up haven't you how would you have you seen a woman do a rebrand

01:14:53.280 oh yeah oh yeah and i'm like you don't sure and i'm like all women would do a rebrand if the men

01:15:01.880 were just like oh no whore i'm not touching that with a 10 foot yeah yes well you always say like

01:15:07.800 100 years ago they say that only five percent of women who got or weren't virgins on their wedding

01:15:12.960 night and that even if a bunch of them are lying let's say it was 80 percent are virgins or something

01:15:17.480 that's still way better than now and it's because back then you would get branded as the town whore

01:15:22.700 yeah and nobody wanted that and then your your chances of getting a good man go way down and like

01:15:28.260 just it's harder like it's just costs you a lot of social capital to act that way and the women that

01:15:34.580 were whores kind of knew their place they're like yeah whoops yeah they were like yeah this is my guess

01:15:39.960 actually you you know more history than me so my guess is in history we had the wives so most of them

01:15:44.760 married the peasants right then you had the women that chose to be concubines so i'd assume these

01:15:49.020 are like low status women like from poorer backgrounds they're just like i'm gonna be a whore

01:15:53.640 um you know like because i i know they've always had um not not sorry not concubines because a

01:15:59.080 concubine is like a side chick um prostitutes prostitutes yeah yeah yeah and i'm imagining the women

01:16:04.800 that got away with slutty behavior are similar to nina agdahl still less but similar where they're

01:16:11.840 high status and have beauty i'm guessing yeah yeah yeah and it kind of depended on your social

01:16:18.280 cast a little bit and again the time and place so like we're always mainly talking about the west

01:16:22.780 because sometimes people get mad and be like it's not like that in china or something i'm like well

01:16:27.000 i'm not i can't sit here and talk about china because i don't know like it you know how many years

01:16:31.440 it would take for me to learn like all of chinese history so i kind of stick mostly to the west so in

01:16:35.940 the west yeah it's like in the aristocrat like elite classes the really beautiful women could kind

01:16:42.700 of get away with that stuff sometimes um but it depended it depended on what kind of man it was

01:16:48.680 because like you'd have the the napoleons who would just like let them get away with it but there

01:16:52.220 were other people that would behead you or like get rid of you if you did that but uh the young the

01:16:58.740 lower social classes so like you could be a very attractive girl who's like orphaned or something

01:17:05.420 right and you got to do something so you start working at the brothel or something or like out

01:17:10.620 west the united states out in the west was kind of a whole separate thing because they had a lot

01:17:15.720 of brothels and there was a lot of alcohol but it was the frontier right so it was like if you were

01:17:20.580 a woman out there alone you were probably working in a whorehouse like that's what you were probably

01:17:25.220 doing and that's what they had to do to like survive that so yeah they usually came from being

01:17:29.500 homeless yeah or not having a dad or like they kind of had they knew they weren't a 10 they're like

01:17:35.500 yeah this is i'm whore oh and they never expected marriage or anything like if you go back and watch

01:17:40.360 the movie gone with the wind uh bell the hooker she wouldn't she herself would not be seen with the

01:17:48.360 proper ladies she was like oh don't let people see you talking to me it'll be scandalous it'll be

01:17:53.220 really bad for you like she wouldn't even do that to like a nice lady she respects because she's like

01:17:57.760 i don't want you to be associated with me that'd be terrible for you and she didn't think of herself

01:18:01.880 as like she was like look i do fine for my world that i'm in i'm i'm good you know i live my life the

01:18:08.360 way i live it and you know i'm a hooker and that's what i do but you're a nice lady so you shouldn't be

01:18:13.060 seen talking to me late at night like that would be bad for you yeah it was a totally different thing

01:18:17.420 and now it's like women really think and it comes from all this don't judge nonsense when everyone's

01:18:22.880 like don't judge you shouldn't judge people we're especially if you're christian you are actually

01:18:27.900 called to use judgment it doesn't mean you get to decide who goes to heaven or hell it just means

01:18:32.960 you're supposed to look at wrong living bad behavior things like that and label it as such

01:18:38.980 you go no that's sinful that's not bad you shouldn't do that that's judgment and this whole like no judge

01:18:44.500 everything and everyone's the same and there's no right or wrong well and it's very confusing to the

01:18:49.560 next generation like i think about sometimes when i'm on shows i'll see these women that are like

01:18:54.620 exceptionally beautiful and they're on only fans and i just think about how like it's kind of sad

01:18:59.500 their genes are gonna die because it's like you know like i'm like you know everyone reproduced to

01:19:04.560 make some of the most beautiful people and i'm like now you're you're you're gonna you know because

01:19:09.180 i just imagine in history we're just getting well i don't know i i go back and forth you'd probably

01:19:14.320 know more because part of me is like we would get hotter because everyone picks the hot people to

01:19:18.480 reproduce with and the smartest but then again i'm like we're kind of getting dumber now with the food

01:19:23.440 and the yeah i don't know so yeah the iq is actually going down i know edward dutton talks a lot about

01:19:29.180 that and he knows all the ins and outs as to why that is i'm not as good on that sort of thing but

01:19:34.880 yeah i don't know it's another rabbit hole i don't know how getting back to the trad cons for

01:19:41.600 just one second because they're making me mad too i don't know how you traditional conservatives out

01:19:46.360 there can say pearls anti-marriage no she's saying look we need to save marriage but if you want to do

01:19:53.120 that you've got to change the laws you've got to change this family court stuff we got to get rid of

01:19:57.400 things like no fault divorce like we have to make drastic changes otherwise it really will go away

01:20:02.320 just people won't do it anymore well how are you wrong i want to ask like the trad cons how is that

01:20:07.980 wrong do you think things are fine the way they are and if we took emotion out of it where if there

01:20:12.480 was a 51 chance of failure you wouldn't do it right so just the emotion not how it makes me feel

01:20:18.620 like if you're a young guy and you say marriage okay i'm gonna go towards marriage like i want i want

01:20:24.460 i have a whiteboard video coming out on this this week and if i if you come and say okay 51 chance of

01:20:31.440 success okay it's a 55 chance that you don't get divorced in first marriage but let's one that

01:20:38.080 doesn't take into account uh the men that live in basically a prison which is not uncommon the sexless

01:20:44.600 marriage is all that yeah but the fat wives like all this stuff or if the men knew at 22 this is what

01:20:51.340 they're signing up for they'd say no they wouldn't do it and it's from interviewing average men that are

01:20:57.100 absolutely i can say like are worse off because they chose marriage and family there's no if ands

01:21:03.760 or buts their kids hate them they haven't seen them their entire community thinks they're an abuser

01:21:09.620 and i'm thinking the next generation of women are we better than the women before no we're worse

01:21:14.720 so i don't see it getting better until like this should be the number one issue you know the number

01:21:21.960 one like thing needs to be no fault divorce like that needs to go and and actually even you know

01:21:28.900 and men should automatically get custody of children though those two unless if he's a drug addict an

01:21:34.600 alcoholic unless you can show cause and it used to always be this way like people were saying this to

01:21:39.460 me on twitter yesterday they're like well but when do you think and i'm like it didn't used to be this

01:21:44.880 way this is new you didn't used to just be able to dissolve a family because you felt like it or

01:21:51.080 because reasons like you had to show cause you had to be able to prove something and this shouldn't be

01:21:56.220 a problem now i could see how in 1800 maybe it was tough to prove your husband is like kicking the crap

01:22:02.160 out of you or being abusive or doing something wrong but it's 2023 everything is recorded everything

01:22:08.400 is electronic if your husband is really doing something bad it would be very easy to get you know what

01:22:13.640 guys even i'll even be so nice i'll be so nice i'll give you an out at 18 when the kids are 18 now

01:22:19.720 i'm not i'm not for this you know what i mean but i'm like if i was if i was compromising with the left

01:22:24.880 right but because to me you made a kid that's an 18 year commitment all right we could say you know i i

01:22:31.400 if it was up to me if this is just pearl's world okay i would just get rid of divorce and just be banned

01:22:36.160 that'd be it but you know pearl's up pearl's a compromiser i'm like i could think of like 10 different

01:22:41.500 ways that we can make this like we can meet in the middle i don't know the best way to do it i

01:22:46.620 understand it's 2023 maybe i'll give you an out for adultery i don't know maybe i'll give like you

01:22:53.120 know but it's we gotta do something because the way it is now this is a terrible deal for men that

01:22:58.160 that's it yes like it's it this is a terrible system for men the way it is now and we have to

01:23:03.960 figure out a way to lower the risk so men want to get married yeah that's my argument yeah and well

01:23:09.340 you point out all the time too it's like if we're supposed to be the people that hate women

01:23:13.700 how is that the case when we're at least not lying to them all everyone else tells these women that

01:23:19.020 you're you can get a divorce at what'd you say the average age is like 44 for a woman to get divorced

01:23:24.140 and they all think they're just gonna pick right back up where they left off at 20 and get a second

01:23:29.500 chad i'm just gonna get a new husband who's better than this one and most don't most of them don't

01:23:35.000 remarry and if they do the second marriage is usually a much higher failure rate than the first

01:23:40.100 so you're even lying to the women by making it seem like divorce is the solution to any problem they have

01:23:45.940 in their marriage oh you're unhappy you should probably get a divorce and that'll fix it it's

01:23:49.780 like no you and usually like you said if you don't address what you might have been doing in that

01:23:55.380 relationship you're gonna bring it into the next relationship you're just gonna have a whole new set

01:23:59.580 of problems with the next guy so it's not like it's actually helping women either well and you

01:24:05.140 know like i remember being a kid and i'd like this wouldn't even be like a relationship thing but i'd

01:24:09.860 be in a fight with my brother or my sister or whatever and i remember like telling my mom like

01:24:13.920 this is what happened and then i would listen to the other side and i was like oh shit i didn't even

01:24:18.800 think of it like like that do you know what i mean and so it's like a lot of times we don't even know

01:24:23.560 half the shit that men put up with and the men don't really complain they're pretty you know

01:24:28.460 they're they're pretty easy going and if they got a microphone a lot of them wouldn't have the best

01:24:33.180 things to say and so maybe like usually if there's like you played some part into what happened

01:24:39.460 and at 44 good luck a man at 44 he's gonna go remarry okay he could be 55 get a 35 year old wife

01:24:46.600 yeah what kind of guy do you think you're getting as a 44 year old woman who's divorced like it's not

01:24:52.000 gonna work out for you but i mean the other big thing too that i see because there's this epidemic of

01:24:58.180 like older boomers getting divorced and i know several people in my own life who've gone through

01:25:02.620 this there was one situation where like the woman didn't agree with how the man was spending money

01:25:07.400 she thought he was being frivolous so he had to go to the hospital and have a procedure and while he

01:25:12.940 was there she took all the money out of their joint accounts and put it in an account with just her

01:25:17.060 name and said i'm gonna give you an allowance because i'm doing this for us because i know that i'm a

01:25:23.460 better budgeter and i'm gonna you know so it's good for you i'm just looking out for you and the

01:25:28.840 guy divorced her and she literally sat there like what did i do i don't even know what i did and i

01:25:34.480 said listen if the roles were reversed if a woman went in to have surgery and her husband took all the

01:25:39.980 money and put it in an account that she couldn't access and gave her an allowance every person in that

01:25:44.800 woman's life would say that's abusive you need to leave him girl right but when a woman does it to the

01:25:50.640 man everybody's like well you should just budget better it's like i'll give i'll give an exception

01:25:55.840 he can get a divorce like it's like that's why i'm like look at i i'm okay with finding some middle

01:26:01.680 ground right i understand because you know the question is is there any going back i don't know

01:26:06.340 i i don't it seems like we gotta i don't think it's going back right i don't think we can really go

01:26:11.440 back but can we change things to make them far better and they might look more similar to how things

01:26:18.000 were but it's not people always accuse me of that they're like you just want it to be the 1950s or

01:26:22.720 you just want it to be like i mean like more like the 1850s all right yeah but well it's just like

01:26:28.880 yeah first of all yes to that but it's like it's not about trying to recreate the past it's just about

01:26:35.400 looking at things over time and going well this was a bad decision we changed everything and it didn't

01:26:41.280 go well you know like that's what the whole darn book is about is let's look at a hundred years of

01:26:46.700 feminism and decide if we think it's working out for everyone or not and the answer is a pretty

01:26:51.560 clear no so it's like why would we double down on these policies and on these social incentives that

01:26:57.120 are literally destroying people it's insane and you can't just continue to do the thing that's not

01:27:02.640 working and expect a better result that's not how life works exactly it drives me nuts and i just

01:27:08.300 really don't understand that everybody just loves to attack you on this and i'm like tell me how she's

01:27:13.800 wrong i i'm not understanding all my you know traditional christian friends i'm like please

01:27:19.180 tell me how she's wrong i wanted to oh my gosh i wanna i want to talk about before we before we wrap

01:27:24.420 this up you know i was funny matt walsh freaking he tweets at me he said six kids and married over a

01:27:32.280 decade pretty sure i understand more about marriage and family life a lot better than you pearl and i thought

01:27:38.480 about this um and then he had another thing that said let me find it let me find it um it was

01:27:44.680 something along i gotta i tweet so much it's like i lose stuff in my own tweets but it was something

01:27:50.660 along the line of like single childless people shouldn't have an opinion on marriage and i thought

01:27:55.360 about this oh single childless people have no worthwhile insights to offer about marriage this won't

01:28:00.560 stop them from offering them and i thought about it i'm like so a divorce lawyer has no insights

01:28:05.480 really nobody and i was thinking about this i'm like you don't have to take my word i could give

01:28:10.400 you divorce lawyers men's rights activists judge it like i could give you the people that and some of

01:28:17.080 them are married that have the exact same opinion as me and i'm like okay let me get this straight

01:28:22.640 but then it's like an appeal to authority and so like i have like the daily wire doing the appeal

01:28:27.480 to authority and i thought about this and i'm like okay and the reason i tweeted this is i didn't i

01:28:32.600 didn't even i didn't think it would get this big i'm gonna be honest i just kind of was tweeting okay

01:28:36.860 because i noticed a difference between like roughly under 45s and over 45s having a very different view

01:28:44.220 on marriage and it's because the under 45s haven't experienced or know anyone personally that has been

01:28:51.520 absolutely wrecked by a seemingly good woman yet yeah a woman that was nice pleasant when she was younger

01:28:58.780 fine and then and i just looked up their ages and i was like oh they're all in their 30s no wonder

01:29:03.400 they're so like gung-ho get married and find a good woman and then i started to look at the older people

01:29:08.880 that were like kind of them like 10 20 years ago like dennis prager larry elder do you know and i

01:29:16.000 looked at them i'm like they're all divorced yeah so i'm like why would you think you're different

01:29:20.040 than the people that like were and here's the thing here's the thing for these trad cons to think

01:29:25.460 about please for the love of all that is holy you daily wire gentlemen listen to what i have to say

01:29:31.400 the system we have now incentivizes even those good women right yeah those unicorn women it

01:29:37.640 incentivizes them and trains them over time to become worse and worse women yes they get rewarded

01:29:45.280 for acting badly and they you really don't get rewarded for for being a good wife in this society

01:29:51.840 so like my husband's very good to me but you've seen yourself the whole world trashes me for being

01:29:58.040 a submissive wife the whole of society thinks i'm a loser i don't love myself i get shamed so it's like

01:30:05.320 all of the societal incentives all of the legal incentives and even in the church divorce is very

01:30:11.120 approved of nobody really cares it's fine it's like if a woman wants a divorce everyone's like oh that's

01:30:16.880 fine honey you can get a divorce we would never dream of forcing you to stay in a marriage

01:30:21.300 where you're unhappy and so even these people are contributing to a system that ruins good women

01:30:28.000 that's why there's no good women because you're reinforcing things that turn good women into bad

01:30:34.480 women so please and the men and the men that get and what irritates me is the men that get wrecked the

01:30:40.680 most are the average men like this is just yes from my because i i do i don't even know how many men

01:30:45.820 i've interviewed about this a lot i've done so many interviews i've talked to so many men that have been

01:30:50.720 ruined by divorce and what i've found is there's if a man gets divorced without an abuse claim okay

01:30:56.720 because the abuse is different the reputation distress that's different but the the men that

01:31:01.520 are rich recover because they're i mean you know um if my like if my dad were to get divorced he lose

01:31:08.460 half even 70 of his shit he's still richer than most people right yeah if and he can recover he and

01:31:14.460 typically those guys are really good at making money so they can recover the men that are ruined are the

01:31:19.480 factory workers that have worked the same job for 25 years made a pension that their wife took all of

01:31:26.460 those are the men that kill themselves and so what i realized was the mary young trope is actually you

01:31:32.500 are leading because most men are not one percent they're not six foot tall rich men like you guys

01:31:39.140 right they're just normal guys and the stuff like i interview the men that i would not be surprised

01:31:46.640 if committed suicide so i see what's at the other end of this trope now i'm not saying every guy is

01:31:52.060 gonna do that i am not saying it's a bad deal i'm not saying you can't find a unicorn but what i am

01:31:57.120 saying if you do not caution the men you are being very disingenuous because you don't know what's at

01:32:03.420 the other side of that for them and i i've seen like it is i can't put into words how sad it is

01:32:09.660 watching a guy who wants nothing but to be a father to his kids like that is all he wants

01:32:15.740 yeah and they'll say well he gets a legacy at least no he doesn't when the kids hate him because of

01:32:21.780 years of the mother brainwashing him yes and then he gets them okay they figure it out at 22 well

01:32:28.520 that's a different kid right and and so they don't they have no like they're so out of touch and it just

01:32:34.280 like it breaks my heart when i'm just saying guys like you you're leading men into destruction like

01:32:40.340 they say oh pearl's leading men into destruction i don't tell men what to do i just say be careful

01:32:45.220 that that's my advice be careful be like people never hear what you say get they don't hear what

01:32:52.140 you actually say and that's why like the vasectomy thing i don't say get a vasectomy but i think

01:32:57.720 that's equally as risky as marriage so david baker did did some research and he said out of all marriage

01:33:03.340 all divorces and he took out he he basically wanted to make it as fair as possible so he took

01:33:09.560 out like maybe somewhere the woman was right whatever and he he i can't even remember exactly

01:33:15.040 how he phrased it but out of all divorces 15 of divorces are malicious so that means the woman is

01:33:20.300 trying to get all your assets and and not let you see your kids that doesn't include the men that

01:33:25.180 just are paying child support and ungodly like like it's like this is bad this is super bad and

01:33:30.880 that's why it's like you need to change the laws to make them more fair that's my point that has to

01:33:36.120 come first because i just don't see evidence that the women are going to do anything different it'll

01:33:40.940 just be another round why would you expect the women to do anything different when all of the

01:33:46.680 incentive is for them to be promiscuous to take advantage to you know just leave when they're unhappy

01:33:54.100 and things like this it's like we everything we're doing is incentivizing wrong behavior and

01:33:59.780 disincentivizing good behavior so why do the trad cons think that if we just like tell people we just

01:34:06.580 tell people to find a good one and get married young and i'm like i would love that that's i i advocate

01:34:11.840 for that but we are not there and we have to fix things why are they saying we don't need to fix this

01:34:18.160 and i should be on the front lines it should be their top issue all of the christian men should be out

01:34:22.980 there some of them are tim gordon is jay dyer is my husband is but the rest of them need to get on

01:34:28.220 board with those guys and follow them and demand no more feminism in the church period end of story

01:34:34.500 get that out of there immediately and then we have to change all of the laws we have to get rid of no

01:34:40.760 fault divorce have show cause divorce only and especially if there's kids there should never be

01:34:46.520 this automatic custody for the mother there should never be you just get a divorce because you just

01:34:51.040 irreconcilable differences or whatever it's like there should be the expectation that if you're

01:34:56.080 going to get married this is a permanent thing unless something really serious happens and i had

01:35:00.920 the realization i was like okay if you have a young son who is that more of a risk a young son that

01:35:06.900 marries his high school sweetheart with a system that incentivizes her to do the young wrong thing or

01:35:13.220 a son who gets a vasectomy and waits till 40 to get married i don't i'm not trying to like i'm not

01:35:17.720 saying push yeah we're not saying we want that we're not saying we want it to be the case but it

01:35:22.020 is but i'm like imagine if he just didn't talk to a woman until 40 i'm not even saying like he does

01:35:27.820 or only has long you know i'm like okay but then they meet you and too it's like there's no winning

01:35:32.900 like that's the problem yeah but yeah and i know you can't completely eliminate risk but why on earth are

01:35:39.440 we encouraging a system that maximizes risk why thank you it doesn't make sense you're the only

01:35:45.520 one that understands what i say anyways i feel validated i was like rachel is the only one that

01:35:52.540 hears what i'm saying like she's the only one that i can like say something you um jay die like there's

01:35:58.720 a couple of you guys that i see the tweets where i'm like okay they they hear what i'm saying yes

01:36:04.460 anyways yeah but um let the people know where they can get your book find you you can find my

01:36:09.840 book on amazon it's occult feminism the secret history of women's liberation it's going to tell

01:36:14.960 you uh the sordid story of how we got here uh and then you can visit my sub stack that's rwilson.substack.com

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