JustPearlyThings - October 22, 2023


The ONLY Way To Solve Divorces @vtsoscast


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

190.86574

Word count

1,361

Sentence count

150

Harmful content

Misogyny

16

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Hate speech

8

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Summary

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Jada Pinkett Smith joins Jemele to discuss divorce and why it should be banned. Plus, why women should not be allowed to get divorced and why men should not get married at all. Plus, how many single moms do not remarry? And why do they do it so often?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You said a modern female mentality is me before the family, right? 1.00
00:00:03.560 Women filed a divorce.
00:00:04.520 We all know this.
00:00:05.520 What, 70% to 80% of the time, especially if they're college-educated.
00:00:11.680 Divorce.
00:00:12.580 How do you feel about divorce?
00:00:13.760 You said it should be banned?
00:00:15.380 Yeah, except for Will Smith.
00:00:17.480 I'll give him one.
00:00:19.440 So Will Smith.
00:00:20.600 Will Smith.
00:00:21.280 Okay.
00:00:21.780 I grant you a divorce. 0.94
00:00:23.660 So other than Will Smith, when do you condone divorce?
00:00:27.380 Under any circumstances?
00:00:29.060 I'll give one-sided abuse.
00:00:30.780 I think if they're beating each other, they should work it out.
00:00:33.380 They should just both figure out how to not hit.
00:00:35.840 But yeah, one-sided abuse.
00:00:37.260 I'll give you a divorce. 1.00
00:00:39.520 Maybe some adultery cases.
00:00:41.680 Most cheating is a one-time thing.
00:00:44.060 Fun fact.
00:00:45.080 But maybe if he gets another chick pregnant, I might give you a divorce. 1.00
00:00:49.580 So there are exceptions to the rule.
00:00:51.520 Yeah, the church used to like, you'd have to give your case to the church,
00:00:55.560 and then they would say yes or no.
00:00:57.660 But they were a lot more picky back then.
00:00:59.640 So go ham on the women right now, right? 1.00
00:01:01.820 I don't think you're going to have a problem with that.
00:01:06.680 What is it that makes them selfish?
00:01:09.460 Why are they the ones filing for divorce the vast majority of the time?
00:01:13.940 What is it that they're just willing to just cast away their kids, their family,
00:01:18.400 and just succumb to their emotions?
00:01:20.180 What is it?
00:01:20.680 Oh, God.
00:01:21.320 I've heard every.
00:01:22.460 I'm sure you've heard every excuse, too.
00:01:24.600 He was holding me back.
00:01:25.880 I'm like, bitch, from what?
00:01:27.360 He gave you kids.
00:01:29.860 No, I mean, women file 70% to 80% of the time, 0.99
00:01:32.780 and a lot of times I think it's because they think the grass is greener on the other side.
00:01:37.080 And a lot of times, again, the media tells us we're so special and awesome and amazing,
00:01:41.940 and you're going to find better.
00:01:44.180 And the truth is that most women do not. 0.97
00:01:46.240 The majority of single mothers do not remarry.
00:01:48.660 They do not.
00:01:49.220 But I think only it's like 15% actually get a guy to remarry them, 22% get a guy to live
00:01:55.200 with them again.
00:01:56.060 So the majority of single mothers do not have happy endings.
00:01:59.380 And we're not really honest.
00:02:01.040 We don't really tell people these statistics.
00:02:03.480 Okay, bingo.
00:02:04.180 I think that's a great point and a great stat you just made.
00:02:06.620 We just did a whole panel.
00:02:09.280 Kevin Sava was on.
00:02:10.920 Troy Francis was on.
00:02:12.120 A couple of our friends were on.
00:02:13.720 There was a couple of single mothers on the panel. 1.00
00:02:17.280 Janelle Gordon, you might know.
00:02:20.240 Janelle, we asked the question to the men.
00:02:23.020 You meet this woman.
00:02:24.060 She's amazing.
00:02:24.740 She's awesome. 0.83
00:02:25.480 She's young.
00:02:26.200 She's beautiful.
00:02:27.260 She's charismatic.
00:02:28.460 She's smart.
00:02:29.320 You know, she's loyal.
00:02:30.920 All that fun stuff.
00:02:32.400 But she has a three-year-old kid.
00:02:34.160 Okay?
00:02:34.640 The good news is he was potty trained.
00:02:36.020 Would you date this girl?
00:02:39.400 And uniformly, they're like, nah, nah, nah, nah.
00:02:42.020 And then the women with kids obviously stated their case. 1.00
00:02:44.200 That's like, nah, like a real man needs to step up. 0.91
00:02:46.700 All that fun stuff.
00:02:47.880 But you said that only 15% of single mothers remarry? 0.90
00:02:51.800 Roughly.
00:02:52.240 I don't remember if it's like a roughly 15.
00:02:54.900 It could have been 13.
00:02:56.120 Gotcha.
00:02:56.380 But I think that's an important stat to point out.
00:02:58.380 Yeah.
00:02:58.440 Because if that's the objective to get married, it'd be good to know that stat.
00:03:04.400 Yeah.
00:03:04.880 And then 22% get a guy to live with them.
00:03:07.000 But again, that means the majority do not have happy endings.
00:03:10.260 You know, another stat, if you hit 30 and you're not in a relationship, you're more
00:03:14.780 likely to not have kids than to have them.
00:03:16.960 As a woman?
00:03:17.440 As a woman.
00:03:18.060 Okay.
00:03:18.700 Gotcha.
00:03:18.940 Well, actually, if you hit 35 as a guy, you only have a 15% chance of getting married.
00:03:23.840 I think too many men, like, they see the game.
00:03:26.600 They're like, I'm not playing with it.
00:03:28.200 Interesting.
00:03:28.880 Well, I'm going to give you an opportunity to nitpick my dating life in a second.
00:03:32.440 So we've got a few more things.
00:03:33.680 But you brought up Jada Pinkett.
00:03:35.020 You said, you know, I'll make a few exceptions for divorce, but certainly women should stick 1.00
00:03:41.540 it out, not file for divorce.
00:03:45.380 You'll make an exception for Will and Jada.
00:03:48.820 No, she has a new memoir call out called Worthy.
00:03:51.800 You know, we all know what happened with the guy, August, Alistina, years ago in the Red
00:03:57.900 Table Talk.
00:03:58.420 Yeah, if your wife has sex with your daughter's, if your wife has sex with your daughter's friend, 0.99
00:04:04.680 I will give you a divorce. 1.00
00:04:05.940 Yeah, no doubt.
00:04:07.560 We can agree.
00:04:08.620 He gets one, right?
00:04:10.140 Yeah, here's the book right here.
00:04:12.680 You know, she has alopecia, I believe.
00:04:14.540 So that's what it was.
00:04:15.100 So in this book, she describes her romantic past, that she was really in love with Tupac.
00:04:19.960 They were actually, Will and Jada were actually separated for seven years.
00:04:24.320 And then obviously the entanglement that you mentioned with August, Augustina.
00:04:27.820 So what are your thoughts on what's going on with this?
00:04:31.060 If you were Will's guidance counselor, what would you advise him?
00:04:35.160 And if you were Jada's psychiatrist, guidance counselor, what would you advise her?
00:04:40.220 I would tell you, I would say Jada, please stop torturing this man.
00:04:46.000 Just you need to be by yourself.
00:04:47.960 Yes, yes, it is time for you to die alone.
00:04:51.020 Will Smith, I would also say you should divorce her.
00:04:54.280 Yeah, this is just craziness.
00:04:56.120 This is embarrassing to your family.
00:04:58.360 She's going to keep doing this.
00:04:59.620 She's going to keep making a public spectacle out of whatever you guys go through. 0.99
00:05:04.160 Why do you think he still stays with her?
00:05:05.740 Um, what do you think she has on him? 0.98
00:05:11.120 Any man that's been disrespected like this, emasculated like this, has to look in the mirror
00:05:16.360 and be like, I'm freaking Will Smith.
00:05:19.840 Maybe it's just cheap.
00:05:20.660 Go listen to some Andrew Tate or Leonardo DiCaprio speeches and figure it out.
00:05:24.700 Why do you think he hasn't done it yet, Pearl?
00:05:26.400 You're an expert, you know.
00:05:27.880 Maybe it's just cheaper to keep her at this point.
00:05:31.820 That is a thing.
00:05:32.720 You know what I mean?
00:05:34.200 It's like, what's on the other side of this?
00:05:35.820 Don't they live separate already?
00:05:37.780 I have no idea.
00:05:38.400 Yeah.
00:05:39.440 I know.
00:05:39.820 I think they said they're trying to get back together.
00:05:41.920 I don't know why you would do that.
00:05:43.300 But I think at this point, he's just tired.
00:05:46.820 Yeah.
00:05:48.160 Just tired of dealing with it and just willing to just roll over and just play dead, basically.
00:05:53.140 Yeah.
00:05:53.460 Well, and a lot of guys have been taught that their job is to make women happy.
00:05:58.260 And the truth is, women were never happy. 0.99
00:06:01.000 I mean, they've given us all of these rights and we still find something to whine about.
00:06:05.320 It's interesting that you said be happy because, you know, Will Smith famously has said, it's like, it is not my job to make you happy.
00:06:12.820 You have to make yourself happy.
00:06:14.520 And when you figure it out, you can come back to me.
00:06:17.060 And I don't know what she's dealing with right now.
00:06:19.280 But it's very interesting.
00:06:21.040 This whole Will Smith thing, after all the embarrassment.
00:06:23.580 I'll give him a divorce.
00:06:25.660 It's almost like, what's the thing where you fall in love with your captor?
00:06:30.860 What's that called?
00:06:31.860 What's the syndrome?
00:06:32.960 Stockholm syndrome.
00:06:33.820 Stockholm syndrome.
00:06:35.140 Sort of something like that going on here.
00:06:37.980 She's got some sort of spell on him.
00:06:40.340 Must be.
00:06:41.520 I don't know.
00:06:42.340 No man will put up with that much shame and ridicule and embarrassment and be like, that's my wife, dog. 1.00
00:06:49.660 I don't get it.
00:06:50.480 That's fine.
00:06:50.960 I don't get it.
00:06:51.420 And it can't be the money, because even if you have, what's his net worth?
00:06:55.060 Hundreds of millions of dollars.
00:06:56.320 Yeah.
00:06:56.940 I assume he had a prenup.
00:06:57.900 Even if not, here's 100 million for you.
00:07:00.760 I'll keep 100 million.
00:07:01.860 Dude, it's Will Smith.
00:07:03.240 There's something there.
00:07:04.540 She's got some.
00:07:05.680 Some secret.
00:07:06.200 Something on him.
00:07:06.780 Some secret.
00:07:07.440 Yeah.