The Only Way Women Can Pick GOOD MEN
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about purity and what it means to be pure in the modern dating world. We also talk about how to be a good parent to your kids and how to keep them pure and safe.
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I was thinking about this the other day because I was like, if I was a guy, how would you pick a
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good... Because I've been interviewing men for this divorce documentary I'm doing. So I interview
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the men that have been like stupid wrecked by divorced. Okay. So they're... And typically this
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happens like... This is kind of the story that I've heard like from guys. Typically he meets her
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and there's like an unplanned pregnancy. And typically like they get married pretty quick.
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And then she'll go to a women's shelter, like accuse him of abuse on some level when some,
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like they'll even prove that she was lying because you get a free lawyer here if you accuse a guy of
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abuse. And basically they have their whole lives ruined. They're on these really big child support
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payments. Like one guy lost his job. Like it's really, really sad. Like I listened like there
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and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who they used to be. Right. And I'll speak
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to these men and I'm like, okay, so she, and some, their girls had red flags, but some it's like
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she was from a two parent home. Um, she, there's, there's one that's in the news right now where
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they're both virgins on their wedding night. Um, I'll see another that's like, she, um, she came
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from a Christian family. She was from Eastern Europe and like all the, like on paper. And I'm like,
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I don't know as a guy, how you avoid that. And so that's why I did this show is I was genuinely
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asking, how do you like, what, what, where are the good women and how do men pick them?
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And right now I'll tell you what we've got. Um, hold on. I have the list. Um, go on a coffee date
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before or after you sleep with her as soon as possible. Um, one month to a year, ask her to make
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a coffee, ask to cook on the spot, take her on a coffee date, date as many women as possible to
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tell the difference, make sure you're not on birth control. Um, what is her relationship like with
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her dad? Um, and I, and I don't even say this to like harp on women, right? Cause like men have
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issues, women have issues, but I just think like with how much guys have to lose, I'm like how I can't
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even think of how you avoid it. Well, I would say like, just don't, don't sign a contract when you
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get married, just get married and don't sign the contract. I thought this too. I thought exactly like you,
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but no, it doesn't matter because when you have a kid, but that's true. But I think if there was
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more purity in the world, I think if the, if, if men and women were both seeking more purity from
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each other, like how, how honest are you being right now? You know, how, how gentle are you as
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a pure person? Do you want to harm people? Do you want to, do you go out of your way to lie and get
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angry? Let's, let's, okay, let's follow this. Let's say the guy says, I'm going to be as pure as
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possible. I'm going to have as little experience with women as possible. How does he tell the difference
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between a woman with a high body count and a low body count? If he has no experience with
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women, there's no way. Right. So if he has, if he has no experience, no factual ways. No,
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but I'm saying, okay, I would think you'd have to like kind of be with a lot of women to figure
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that out. But if he doesn't want to, if he follows the purity route. I think that men still have to
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date women. I think men and women should, to date men, a few men and women at least to see like,
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see what, see what people are out there to know the difference between different people. And also,
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yeah, observing other people's relationships is important, but I don't think you have to sleep
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with somebody to know if somebody is a, is a, is a wifey material, you know, I don't think you have
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to sleep with someone. Yeah. I don't think you have to sleep with someone. But being like intimate,
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having intimate conversations, having relationship, you know, having your traditional values play out in
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life roles, you know, cooking and cleaning and taking care of the house, whatever. I think those are
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things, those are important things to do. And that's how you'll know if that's a woman you actually want to
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marry one day, but that's very pure, right? There is no like, you know, having the intercourse and
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making out. Right. But I guess my question is like the average woman and like, we could talk about
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like what we should do. And this is where like, it's hard because I used to think like this. I used to
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think like you, but it's like, I think we're like red pill and like trad cons tend to like talk past
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each other where it's like the average woman is slept with five to eight people. Like, why would he wait
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for a woman? That's like, so I agree with this. And like, they should not, a man should not wait for
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someone who slept with five to nine women. Right. And so how would he tell the difference between a
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virgin who's lying and a girl who's at like actually a virgin unless he's carry themselves. I mean,
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like you may, you won't know you will, you will never know. Right. I agree with you. You'll never
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know for sure. But the, but the way a woman carries herself really shows a lot about who she is and if
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she's going to lie about something or not. Yeah. And what? Yeah. That's a practical solution. I like
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that. And how she responds to difficult situations. That's a good one. Yeah. That's a really good one.
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Cause that, that'll be the test every time. Yeah. Go on a camping trip or travel with them or do
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something that's, you know, challenging or out of their comfort zone. And this is the hard thing. I keep
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thinking to these men I was in the docu, like I did the documentary with and a lot of them did this stuff
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and that's why I'm genuinely like, I think there's like, there's no way you could know
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like genuinely. You could never, you could never know. No, for sure. Yeah. But you can, you can get,
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you can gauge because through conversation, meaning he's having a conversation and I find out, okay,
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how much relationship you, if you've been in a relationship, 10 years, one person, yeah,
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you could have done what you're doing in between, but then I can gauge between this age and this. Okay.
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You've had one person that maybe you've been outside for the last two years. Do you get what I'm saying?
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I think you can gauge it that you will never know exact number cause she could be doing other
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things in between. And religion and spirituality definitely pays a part in who you choose and how
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you act. Right. Cause if you both have a similar religion or spirituality. Okay. Okay. So, so then
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why are the reputation of church women so bad? Yeah. The church team is mad. So let me start.
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A lot of women go to church and they do terrible things. Yes. Right. But I'm saying like the
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reputation of church women is, it's worse than the normal population. Yeah. And so it's like, right,
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no, but I, but it's like, it's, it's just crazy. Cause it's like everything we tell them to look for,
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it's like. Yeah. Cause they go and commit sins and they can wash them away on a Sunday.
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You're right. You're right. And I think men and women both do that. They both commit sins,
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you know, they both do that. Well, it sounds like for women, it's, it's also pretty destructive
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cause their chances of getting another guy is pretty low. It sounds like it was decimating. It totally
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destroys both of their lives. It sounds like when it doesn't work out, not only the man's life,
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but also the woman's life. Cause she doesn't have that many chances afterwards,
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according to the statistics you've been sharing. But you know what? I don't think this is a man
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issue though. I feel like it's women that need to understand men more and understand what men want.
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If they understand what men want, they won't have the issue of finding another man. It's actually
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quite simple, isn't it? I just, I don't think women would leave if they didn't think they could do
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better. Like nobody, nobody leaves to like be alone. I'm not saying they can't like work with
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delusional, you know, but what's better because they might think that guy's better. Well,
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I mean, a lot of times it's like the imagination. For example, a man could do way more for you,
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but it's about what you're accepting. He couldn't give you everything you want to make sure you're
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the number one woman. But if he goes out and he's got a couple of girls cheating or whatever,
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are you going to accept that for being a happy wife? Of course not. Well, no one would.
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A lot of people do. Exactly. A lot of people do. I'm saying, I'm saying if he looks after your home,
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if he looks after the home, he makes sure you're good. Everything at home is patterned. You're the
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number one woman. But yes, he goes out sometimes and he goes on weekenders away, let's say, and
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he sleeps with women. But when he comes back, the house is patterned. Everything's looked after.
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There's just something wrong with his values. There's something wrong with his connection to God or
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religion or something. There's something wrong with his values. But what about her? Maybe she did
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something to make him cheat. You don't know. No, that's true. I agree. I always feel like there's
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a reason people cheat. Always. Men don't cheat for no reason and women don't cheat for no reason.
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But I just think we kind of get in this. I think we get in this like, if a guy cheats,
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he's like the worst. People always misconstrue my thought. I don't think cheating is good,
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but it's like, well, demonize the men for cheating, right? But when women go into relationships
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with open social media accounts and we don't demonize them where they can still get attention from
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high value men. Exactly. 100%. And it's like, we don't, it's the same thing. But yeah,
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like if a guy cheats, it's the worst thing ever. No, I think it's both equally. I feel like if a
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female cheats, their demon is the worst thing ever. And that man will never take her back. Never.
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So I think it's the opposite. I think the women will always take him back. That's not true.
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That's not true. When you think about it, like men marry single mothers all the time.
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Men take women back. And in a way that's like, I mean, you're coming in with another man's kid.
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But I hear what you're saying to a certain degree. Because obviously, if you're letting
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someone inside your body, you've... That man is going to look at you differently.
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No, no, no. Forget the man looking at you. He's going to look at you differently. I'm saying,
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if you're opening your legs, I don't think you're just going to open your legs to a man just off the
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rip at night. I do think people should try to work out cheating though. Like, I think it's about
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the kids. It's not about you. You should try to work it out. Yeah, you should work it 100%. I don't want to like,
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no offense to people watching this, but like, my mom and dad got divorced when I was four.
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And it was because my dad cheated on her. And I don't think anyone should, you know,
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I think cheating, I don't inherently think cheating is a good thing. But I think,
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I sometimes wonder, what would my life have looked like had they been together?
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I wonder that every day. And how would I have been?
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You know, I'm grateful that I am the way I am now. But I'm just saying, I know there's a lot of
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girls out there who have dysfunctional families and don't have a father and mother that are together.
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And I've seen people with who have their mother and father together. And they're very different
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people, the way they approach themselves, the way they talk to people, the way they react to
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situations, they're just different people. And I think that's beautiful. And so like, that's even
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like a reason, like I want, I wish more people, more women and men would see, oh, I want to have a
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healthy family. I want to break the generational trauma, the generational disrupt, you know, the