JustPearlyThings - August 30, 2023


The Real Reason Men Are Not In RELATIONSHIPS


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

206.1481

Word count

2,061

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

21

sentences flagged

Hate speech

12

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Summary

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In this episode we discuss why women should get married when they are young and why men should not get married at the same age as their wives. We also discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to sex and sex education.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 I want to point something out it's like you're repeating propaganda because
00:00:04.320 you're saying we have more to lose when we have less to lose the men have 0.92
00:00:07.500 everything to lose okay you're speaking financially no I'm talking about
00:00:11.220 everything even matter as well yeah kids financially if women cared about their 1.00
00:00:21.440 fertile years they'd get married when they're young but we don't choose to
00:00:24.600 why you can have IVF at like how old it fails the most most of the time and
00:00:32.200 this is the problem women will blame the men for not wanting to get married 1.00
00:00:35.520 instead of trying to improve the product should we check them in spam sperm count
00:00:39.060 before we marry them make sure that they can give us all these kids and then 1.00
00:00:44.940 you're infertile should he just divorce you because now you can't give him 1.00
00:00:47.880 children minority I would I would say in I would say this is why women the next 0.99
00:00:54.060 should like they should just throw us all away you know what I mean they got to
00:00:57.300 just throw this this is too much for them I feel for it so it's like then just say
00:01:01.680 for the next five years we're marrying nobody and then the next round of 21 22
00:01:06.960 year old virgins they marry and there you go everything's solved we would be the 0.96
00:01:19.800 victims of our own decisions but the thing is when a man commits a crime and
00:01:24.120 goes to jail he doesn't blame the world he understands it was his own choice
00:01:27.420 but then a man comes out and he's reborn and everyone wants to treat him like a
00:01:30.660 brand-new man and then you can go and get what man do you know right that's come out of prison and the world is treating him better than we're not saying the world but like a man will want to be treated like he hasn't done that he's done his time and that he should be allowed to be
00:01:48.660 allowed now to be a valuable man but reality he's not gonna get that but the reality is that he doesn't get that yeah yeah but they want that but we're saying like okay but women of a certain you know if they're promiscuous where want a certain man to commit to them but they're just not getting it and then if they do get a man who would commit to them they say that they're settling but you don't you don't see the
00:02:18.640 drug dealers coming out and say you're drug dealers shaming but the women will come out and say you're whore shaming and slut shaming and some women love drug dealers like 0.98
00:02:27.100 do you all you think yeah that women are good support mechanisms what do you mean
00:02:34.980 emphasize a little bit do you think like in a relationship do you think they should be in a supporting role or the leading role like what women should be in the supporting 0.74
00:02:41.840 personally i think supporting role so you think that women are good supporters they should be 1.00
00:02:46.760 so if he's not a good leader ain't you part of the problem then because you're the supporting role
00:02:51.820 and then you could you could have him to become a better leader i guess it's always going to be one or the other do you know what i mean it's always going to be both yeah it's going to be team effort do you know what i mean but i feel like
00:02:59.060 but you see how no one said anything when i said something positive about
00:03:01.300 no no one wanted to jump on and say no i actually agree but i'm just trying to think as me like i'm 22
00:03:08.700 so you guys still think i got some i still got some chances in me but like like i'm 22 and i'm not
00:03:15.720 the real woman do you know what i mean like i'm not like i've been through whatever i've been through
00:03:20.300 but it's like now the problem is not to take like what it's not about me saying i'm not a real woman
00:03:26.880 it's me taking accountability saying okay maybe i'm didn't do whatever how do i then is it just like
00:03:33.640 we said joked around is it done now okay i want to actually give you a real answer nobody ever gets
00:03:44.200 i like her yeah nobody ever asks to this they don't care okay i'll tell you i'll tell you the number one
00:03:52.740 this is just you know from the guys what they say the number one thing a personal trainer that's the
00:03:58.380 number one dating advice for women get in the best shape because then you can get away with more 0.52
00:04:04.000 weren't raised to be a wife if you're hot enough they might overlook it okay that's step one 1.00
00:04:08.880 you got to get their attention right step two you got to find the married women that actually are 1.00
00:04:14.340 submissive to their husbands and learn from them i'm not saying go to me right but it's like
00:04:19.480 go find the women that have married are married stay married and their husbands actually like them 0.94
00:04:24.260 and can vouch for them because a lot of married women their husbands are miserable so you got to find the ones 1.00
00:04:28.180 um yeah and then i would say those are the first two steps and then if you do that you're ahead
00:04:36.100 if she has children then she's kind of what do you mean if she has kids if she has children already 0.98
00:04:40.520 then she's okay i don't have children that's another topic yeah yeah but it's a thing it's definitely a
00:04:46.440 i'll give you an answer so if you have kids it's time to get back with your baby daddy
00:04:51.700 oh you made your bad you made your bad look at i'm just trying to solve all the world's problems
00:04:57.960 they always come to me and say pearl what are your solutions well today i got some
00:05:01.620 no is she is she wrong no no no she's not right i'm agreeing or or lower your standards to down yeah
00:05:09.220 because i know what i bring to the table even though even though i may not be that can i ask you a
00:05:18.580 question if you what would you say to the guy who lives in his mom's basement right is overweight
00:05:23.460 right isn't actually like working on his purpose and anything and he says i deserve a girl like
00:05:30.680 beyonce and if he doesn't get someone like him he's settling what would you say to him
00:05:34.120 well first of all he's got you man he's got you no i'm just asking like what would you say to him
00:05:39.360 because he doesn't want to settle right so what would you say to him obviously like girl like
00:05:43.960 beyonce like so he wants so he goes i want a girl i want a girl who is very gorgeous who's very 0.91
00:05:51.420 feminine who is very submissive and is going to support me and everything i'm doing i do believe
00:05:55.840 that you should first look at yourself before you try and get what no but i'm asking you what if he
00:06:02.340 goes if i if what if he goes um if i take any girl that's not that i'm settling what would you say to
00:06:07.900 you know you're not you're not you're not i know i know i know what i know what i would say to them
00:06:15.900 i'd be like well yeah you're you're you're not really right but also we're in a settling as well
00:06:20.340 because not every woman's here with the ronaldo so here's the thing because i'll be honest
00:06:23.640 so here's the thing here's the thing there's actually right i believe there's actually there's
00:06:29.640 actually no such thing because human beings right we're selfish we're selfish by design
00:06:42.020 you think you know so let me tell you what what um ronaldo's girlfriend has that most women don't 0.86
00:06:47.240 have one she's super feminine so she's oh yeah i think she's beautiful she takes care of her shape 1.00
00:06:53.460 three she's submissive i keep saying that word but you guys it just keeps going over your head
00:06:57.600 ronaldo is the guy that is the top guy right he's out there what do you actually hear about
00:07:03.140 his woman you don't hear anything well that's amazing she's obviously sad i'm looking at you
00:07:09.440 from a different perspective how is that sad but most women today want to be on the same level with 1.00
00:07:15.240 their man they want to be in the media they want to be in the limelight they want to be the one
00:07:18.500 taking the shine while their man is doing his thing that is a problem it depends what your career
00:07:23.680 choice is though yeah but it doesn't matter if you have a top man it doesn't matter what you do
00:07:27.320 like your for example if i want to be like a let's just say an actress singer whatever whatever
00:07:32.780 that comes with being in the limelight if that's what you want yeah but a lot of guys a lot of guys
00:07:37.820 won't go with you because of that wait wait wait so i want to talk actress and singer they don't 0.75
00:07:44.180 typically make good wives i mean let's look at the big actresses and singers of our generation 1.00
00:07:49.080 taylor swift selena gomez they all end up by themselves so it like success comes at a cost
00:07:54.520 and in fact that's a big that's a big process as well i don't agree i don't know who said it just
00:08:01.300 now but someone said oh you know the man doesn't want to be with that girl who who's seen and stuff
00:08:06.400 and i used to think that like for so many years because i would never find like a guy who was like
00:08:12.080 okay with my lifestyle and things like that but i found someone who loves what i do not only loves it
00:08:19.040 he celebrates it he's on the red carpet taking photos of me celebrating what i do and championing
00:08:24.320 me so that is out there and i don't think that makes you any less of a man but i still submit to
00:08:30.320 my man well give i'm saying give him a choice if you i said to him yeah right now i'll change
00:08:33.900 everything about my life yeah i'll stop doing all of this now no because then i wouldn't be me no no
00:08:38.660 but i'm saying to you if you gave him the choice what would you pick what do you mean what would
00:08:42.900 you rather but he's whether you'd be out there no no no he doesn't have a choice the reason he
00:08:48.100 loves that about me no no no he doesn't have a choice he doesn't have a choice what do you think
00:08:52.100 he would pick the the reason he loves it is because he loves you yeah yeah because he doesn't have
00:08:56.340 a choice he didn't choose he didn't find you more attractive because of your career he because
00:09:01.940 because he loves you and cares about you he's like well if this contributes to your happiness then i love
00:09:06.020 that yeah i love you that's what yes but i'm just and that wasn't my point my point was that like
00:09:11.380 oh it's the man has to be at the top and the woman has to just be submissive i'm saying that look our 0.58
00:09:17.140 dynamic is different yeah i'm at the top and he's like they're supporting me and they're with you
00:09:22.020 but he doesn't have a choice i'm still submissive no the dynamic is the same you just have different
00:09:26.100 careers just like your career you're on the spotlight yeah but i'm still submissive and that doesn't make
00:09:29.860 him any less of a man or anything no one's saying now i'm saying if you gave him a choice what do you
00:09:33.700 think he would pick well i don't know maybe and to answer and to answer your question where you
00:09:41.460 it's basically women if we want a certain type of guy we neither either need to improve right we need 1.00
00:09:46.340 to get in the gym we need to learn what men want cook become become more submissive learn from married 1.00
00:09:52.100 women or lower your standards and get what you get you know 1.00