JustPearlyThings - The REALITY Of Women Going To College @vtsoscast

00:00:00.000 So women, education, jobs, we had your friend Nick Fuentes on, right?

00:00:05.900 And he was adamant women should not go to college, period.

00:00:10.700 They should not go to college, with maybe the exception of certain people

00:00:13.980 that are going into STEM, medicine, law, but he's basically an advocate for that.

00:00:17.980 You went to college, but what do you think?

00:00:19.720 Should women go to college? 1.00

00:00:22.720 I mean, it didn't really help me with much.

00:00:24.740 I played sports, so I really enjoyed college sports.

00:00:27.760 But, no, I mean, it didn't help me in the workforce.

00:00:32.860 It didn't really do much for me, I would say.

00:00:34.920 And I studied economics.

00:00:36.220 I actually had a real degree.

00:00:37.640 So I guess the conversation I'm looking for is college overall has become watered down.

00:00:44.020 It's become sort of pointless to many extent.

00:00:47.900 College debt is out of control.

00:00:50.160 It doesn't offer as much value as it used to offer.

00:00:53.040 You're not necessarily unique if you go to the four-year university and you graduate.

00:00:56.780 Hey, I'm college.

00:00:57.580 You're not guaranteed a job.

00:00:59.360 But should women specifically not go to college? 1.00

00:01:03.360 I would say most women shouldn't. 1.00

00:01:06.200 What women would? 1.00

00:01:07.580 What women would you suggest to go? 1.00

00:01:13.240 Engineering is probably a good degree.

00:01:15.280 I don't think most women want to do it. 1.00

00:01:16.860 This is the STEM field that I was talking about.

00:01:19.740 The chicks don't want to be engineers, you know. 1.00

00:01:21.860 Got it.

00:01:23.120 What about work?

00:01:24.500 Should women go back to the pre-1950s and just stay at home, cook, clean, mother, raise the kids, not go to the workforce? 1.00

00:01:33.340 It's so interesting when you look at history.

00:01:38.500 It's actually hilarious.

00:01:40.240 I think it's so funny when I hear these chicks talk about, oh, I miss the days when we just got to stay home and not work. 1.00

00:01:46.700 It's like, bitch, what do you think the 1800s were like? 1.00

00:01:49.860 Do you think your life was easier when you were working on a farm? 0.99

00:01:52.640 So, you know, I think that women should listen to their husbands.

00:01:58.820 You know, I know women that do work and they work for their husbands. 1.00

00:02:03.100 I think it depends on every family's financial situation.

00:02:06.640 But I think it's better if the women can stay home. 1.00

00:02:09.700 Not every family can afford to do that, you know.

00:02:12.380 Well, look, I can kind of agree with you on the whole listening to the husband thing.

00:02:16.060 But that's not the point.

00:02:16.820 What happens before they have a husband, though?

00:02:19.300 I mean, you have to eat.

00:02:21.260 So what should they do for money?

00:02:22.780 If they don't work or go to college or anything like that.

00:02:25.040 Like, walk me through the logic like, yeah, college is useless.

00:02:27.940 Don't do it.

00:02:29.040 But you still need to work.

00:02:30.440 But maybe you're 22 years old.

00:02:32.480 You're not ready to get married. 1.00

00:02:34.000 Is she smart or stupid? 1.00

00:02:35.440 Well, what are most women? 1.00

00:02:36.860 Well, okay.

00:02:39.060 Well, if I was going to tell, like, a 22-year-old, I mean, I would get a job where you would want to meet your husband.

00:02:46.400 That's what I would say.

00:02:47.140 So if you want to date a doctor, you know, you work as an assistant at, like, a medical clinic.

00:02:52.600 So you should go to work.

00:02:54.320 I mean, I'm not saying you should.

00:02:55.400 I would say it really depends on the person.

00:02:57.380 So I'm not really into, like, broad advice.

00:03:00.800 No, but this is important because I have a lot of conversations with women about this. 1.00

00:03:04.380 Because I actually have a very unique perspective on this, Pearl.

00:03:07.720 Because, you know, in my old age of 40 plus, 42, I see women that have focused on their career so much, right? 0.84

00:03:16.360 And have done all the high body count, travel, living it up.

00:03:19.560 But beautiful women who are now 38, 40, 42, 44, still single. 1.00

00:03:25.000 And my advice to them is, yeah, you probably should have prioritized a man, marriage, if that's what you want, which many women do, right? 0.69

00:03:34.120 But at the same time, I also give that advice to a 22-year-old.

00:03:38.400 And what's their first thing they say?

00:03:40.460 I don't want to get married right now.

00:03:41.960 I want to live my life.

00:03:42.880 I want to do these things.

00:03:44.200 So how do you give this knowledge to a young 22-year-old girl who's like, what are you telling?

00:03:49.320 My mom told me I should not rely on a man.

00:03:52.420 I need to make my own money.

00:03:53.500 I need to get a degree.

00:03:54.780 I don't care what you say, Pearl.

00:03:56.280 I'm listening to my mom.

00:03:57.440 I'm not trying to get married at 22 years old.

00:04:00.220 And if you were having that conversation, what you do with plenty of women, how would you basically get on their level to basically see what you're saying? 0.92

00:04:07.440 Oh, I don't.

00:04:08.340 I say, if you want to do that, go do it.

00:04:09.820 Have fun.

00:04:10.820 Okay.

00:04:11.260 Like, I'm not.

00:04:12.960 Yeah.

00:04:13.480 Do you warn them of what the future would look like?

00:04:15.520 Well, yeah.

00:04:16.120 I mean, I can go through the antidepressant stats, like the women over the age of 45 that are on antidepressants.

00:04:22.140 You can go through the single childless women statistics.

00:04:25.520 But, you know, I'm not in the business of forcing people to live one way or another.

00:04:30.900 Got it.

00:04:31.000 But, you know, I can't really.

00:04:32.540 You're speaking more generalities. 0.94

00:04:33.840 I can't really, like, put a gun to her head.

00:04:36.780 Well, let's have some fun. 1.00

00:04:38.180 Let's put a gun. 0.97

00:04:39.200 Okay. 1.00

00:04:40.100 To Natalia's head. 0.85

00:04:41.980 Natalia is 26 years old.

00:04:44.960 Okay.

00:04:45.440 She's an attractive girl. 0.65

00:04:47.220 Okay.

00:04:47.640 You guys are similar age.

00:04:49.260 She went to college.

00:04:51.020 She comes from a good family.

00:04:52.540 She works.

00:04:54.880 She works at Valuetainment.

00:04:56.440 She's moving up.

00:04:58.060 For someone like her, specifically, you know, if you could, if Dr. Pearl put on her medical hat, what would you tell Nat?

00:05:07.900 Well, what outcome do you want?

00:05:11.700 This is a place that I'm going to find my career, and I probably will meet somebody along the way.

00:05:17.200 And I probably have met someone.

00:05:19.220 So, but yeah.

00:05:19.860 Okay.

00:05:20.500 She seems, yeah, she's good.

00:05:22.540 That's it?

00:05:22.880 That's how this works?

00:05:23.660 That just Nat whispers an answer, and you agree with it?

00:05:26.360 Yeah, sure.

00:05:27.460 That did not sound convincing by either of you right now.

00:05:30.020 Now the men are fighting with the women.

00:05:31.560 So, Nat, what are you solving for?

00:05:33.760 I mean, long term, this is a company that I want to build.

00:05:36.460 You know, it's a company of opportunity.

00:05:38.060 And I know along the way, there'll be a lot of people I will meet, and I will probably find who I'm looking for along the way.

00:05:45.520 So, I am working for it.

00:05:47.220 So, I think this is important, because you, you know, some people say, you know, this isn't advice, but it kind of is, but it's, you know, kind of, I don't know.

00:05:56.380 But at the end of the day, we're all kind of giving opinions, which could be perceived as advice.

00:05:59.980 If you met a guy that you really liked, would you prioritize that?

00:06:04.340 Yeah, that would have to be my priority.

00:06:06.400 That's going to be my next chapter in my personal life.

00:06:08.380 So, that's an area that I do have to give time and attention.

00:06:12.540 Okay.

00:06:12.940 So, knowing female nature, you're a woman, you know female nature. 1.00

00:06:16.940 What age do you think most women even start thinking about actually settling down, having kids, getting married, all that stuff? 1.00

00:06:24.020 I would say after 25 in modern day.

00:06:26.680 Yeah.

00:06:27.020 I think that's fair.

00:06:27.820 I think that's fair.

00:06:28.720 I see a lot of women that get the 30 itch, and then, oh, I got, so, but prior to 25, you know, how are they eating? 0.99

00:06:37.600 How are they living?

00:06:38.300 How are they making money? 0.87

00:06:39.420 Oh, what I would say, I would just say, be a virgin, young chicas, be a virgin and get married. 1.00

00:06:44.960 That's what I would say.

00:06:46.180 I would say that's the best option.

00:06:47.980 If we want to look at, you know, if your goal is family and children, that is the best option for you.

00:06:54.220 Gotcha.

00:06:54.580 How would you suggest a woman would court, or how would you suggest a woman get experience? 0.59

00:06:59.800 I'm not saying sleeping around, because I'm not condoning sleeping around, but how would you suggest a woman like that, you know, she's been home, to be able to identify this as a man that is going to...

00:07:10.840 Oh, God, women can't identify. 1.00

00:07:12.240 We're terrible at it.

00:07:13.080 So then that's my point.

00:07:14.080 It's got to be the dads.

00:07:14.300 So what suggestion would you have to those women that stay at home? 1.00

00:07:16.840 Well, I think, like, traditionally, it used to be that the dads would help you.

00:07:21.180 Okay.

00:07:21.360 And so the dads would say, these are, like, five guys in town.

00:07:24.000 I think this would be the ideal.

00:07:25.580 All right, so you got a daughter, right, let's just say.

00:07:28.180 Okay.

00:07:28.380 And you say, these five guys, they're everything that I think would be good in a husband.

00:07:34.380 Daughter, pick one. 1.00

00:07:35.540 Boom.

00:07:35.880 There you go.

00:07:36.460 So kind of like the Indian culture, where they kind of give the marriage.

00:07:40.540 Yeah.

00:07:40.900 They do that in Indian culture, too.

00:07:42.480 So I do want to talk about women and the body positivity.

00:07:46.540 We touched on some of the stuff.

00:07:48.440 Looks, marriage.

00:07:50.000 You just brought up virgins. 0.99

00:07:51.480 Yeah.

00:07:52.100 Yeah.

00:07:52.240 This is something that I find fascinating, this conversation about virgin brides.

00:07:58.300 Yes.

00:07:58.760 Right?

00:07:59.380 One of my favorite movies of all time is The Princess Bride.

00:08:03.640 And this whole concept of virginity.

00:08:06.440 And, look, you know, in high school and college, maybe I took one or two, right?

00:08:11.220 But at this phase in my life, the last thing I'm looking for, for me, is a virgin, because

00:08:15.940 I'm a little bit older, right?

00:08:17.120 But I understand that concept.

00:08:18.880 Would you consider yourself a traditional guy?

00:08:22.240 I'm, in many respects, yes, but maybe not in certain categories.

00:08:27.420 Are you, like, looking to get married the next couple years?

00:08:29.860 I'm looking to have kids and a girl, for sure.

00:08:32.280 Okay, but...

00:08:33.120 Traditional marriage, as far as the government getting involved in my life, you know, I don't

00:08:37.500 know if you know, I was married.

00:08:39.120 You were married?

00:08:39.900 Yeah.

00:08:40.140 Oh, my God.

00:08:40.440 I had no idea.

00:08:41.160 So you go.

00:08:41.880 Well, at the end, you're going to flip it on me, have this conversation.

00:08:45.380 But, yeah, I do.

00:08:46.080 I would say that, how about this?

00:08:48.360 Because I've been pretty traditional, but I'm becoming more traditional, evolving, as

00:08:53.480 we kind of discussed.

00:08:54.740 Would you say you're traditional?

00:08:56.240 No.

00:08:56.820 You're not?

00:08:57.440 No, I wish I was, but no.

00:09:00.400 How so?

00:09:01.200 Well, when I think of, like, a traditional woman, I think of a woman that, like, I don't 0.99

00:09:05.740 know, I was an athlete growing up.

00:09:07.200 Okay.

00:09:07.440 So I was, like, I spent, like, four hours a day in the gym.

00:09:10.880 I don't think that's, like, a traditional...

00:09:13.360 All right.

00:09:13.740 So you played sports.

00:09:14.640 I don't think that...

00:09:15.220 I mean, in modern society, a lot of girls play sports. 0.99

00:09:17.500 How else are you not traditional, but you would love to be traditional?

00:09:20.520 Well, that's the main thing.

00:09:22.380 That just you're an athlete?

00:09:23.220 Well, I think traditional women get married before the age of 25, so... 0.99

00:09:26.660 Okay.

00:09:27.720 So, but the virginity thing.

00:09:30.900 Yeah, I think...

00:09:31.640 Yeah, I also think that that's part of it.

00:09:33.780 Traditional women, they're virgins. 1.00

00:09:35.480 They wait till they're married.

00:09:37.480 They're typically, like, raised...

00:09:41.020 Like, they're more raised...

00:09:43.520 Like, I just don't see athletes, like, female athletics, as being, like, the epitome of 1.00

00:09:47.640 traditionalism.

00:09:48.380 And you've already answered this.

00:09:49.640 You've said you're not a virgin.

00:09:51.540 Right?

00:09:52.120 Not again.

00:09:52.620 Okay.

00:09:53.020 No, I mean, it's not, like, breaking news.

00:09:55.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:09:55.800 Okay.

00:09:56.220 You're not married.

00:09:57.120 This is not breaking news.

00:09:58.240 I get it.

00:09:58.680 You've said you're not traditional, but you wish you were.

00:10:01.500 Yeah.

00:10:01.920 But you're also saying, hey, women, go be traditional. 1.00

00:10:04.500 Yeah.

00:10:04.700 You're also like, look, I'm not really traditional, but this is what I would recommend for you.

00:10:09.160 Right?

00:10:09.560 But when it comes to virginity thing, it's actually pretty fascinating to me, because I have some

00:10:13.260 stats.

00:10:14.140 Malik, pull that up in a second.

00:10:15.180 You said the ideal marriage of two virgins is getting married and staying married for a 1.00

00:10:19.860 lifetime is good.

00:10:20.740 You've said that, right?

00:10:22.160 Non-virgin women cause all of the world's problems. 1.00

00:10:24.500 Oh, yes.

00:10:24.900 Interesting.

00:10:25.420 Yes.

00:10:25.760 Okay.

00:10:26.480 So, you know, in the West, specifically, the concept of virgin brides, in my opinion,

00:10:32.360 is so far-fetched today.

00:10:34.080 It's done.

00:10:34.100 Yeah, 4%.

00:10:34.880 I think it's like 3% or 4%.

00:10:36.120 Yeah, yeah.

00:10:36.940 So, I want to pull up these stats.

00:10:39.120 How can we go back in time and recreate this traditional virgin lifestyle?

00:10:47.520 And, like, how much does this actually weigh on your mind?

00:10:50.220 Like, oh, I'm not a virgin.

00:10:51.280 I wish I was.

00:10:52.300 Like, I don't know.

00:10:53.500 What could I have done differently?

00:10:54.160 A lot more since every show I go on, they bring it up.

00:10:56.820 Right.

00:10:57.160 Well, why do we bring it up, bro?

00:10:58.860 Because you talk about it.

00:10:59.820 It's all I think about this.

00:11:00.860 Because, because, because.

00:11:01.340 But here, before you answer, look at these stats.

00:11:03.200 Look at these stats real quick.

00:11:04.460 So, punch in a little bit.

00:11:07.100 So, in the 1970s, all you have to do is look at the top number.

00:11:11.300 Okay?

00:11:11.860 So, in the 1970s, this is, when you get married, 21% of women were virgins.

00:11:19.800 Okay?

00:11:20.100 By 1980s, it was 17.

00:11:23.380 1990s, it's 14.

00:11:25.160 2000s, it's 12.

00:11:26.240 By 2010s, specifically when social media hits the scene, it plummets down to 5%.

00:11:33.480 You said now it's closer to 3%.

00:11:35.860 So, is this, can we put the toothpaste back in the tube, or are we doomed?

00:11:40.560 You know what's crazy?

00:11:41.420 If you look up 1920s, the first sexual revolution was actually in the 20s.

00:11:45.500 Yeah, women's suffrage, everything that goes along with that. 1.00

00:11:47.500 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:11:47.520 And so, it was actually like 85% in the early 1900s.

00:11:51.380 So, think about how far that's fallen in 100 years.

00:11:53.720 No, we are in full agreement with this.

00:11:55.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:11:55.580 We are in full agreement.

00:11:56.620 I'm not, like, these are, these are stats.

00:11:58.160 Yeah.

00:11:58.260 This is not zero opinion.

00:11:59.600 Yeah.

00:11:59.640 But, you know, the concept of Virgin Bride, are we just too far gone that it's, like,

00:12:05.240 we're not, these numbers are trending that way.

00:12:07.680 How do you envision it going from 3% back to 5%, back to 10%, back to 20%?

00:12:13.140 It won't.

00:12:14.020 It just won't?

00:12:15.080 It won't, no.

00:12:17.060 I don't see it going back, unfortunately.

00:12:19.180 If you can kind of put things in place to make it go back in place, what things would you put in place to influence more of that?

00:12:28.580 Chastity belts.

00:12:29.540 Well, I would say women respond very quickly to social shame. 0.99

00:12:33.820 When something is socially shamed as a society, that is typically when you see women make changes. 1.00

00:12:41.840 For example, and I don't know, you guys have to see this on the show.

00:12:45.880 You just hear women repeat back the same things that they've heard, like, in the media. 1.00

00:12:50.780 I've heard about Kim Kardashian getting married so many, like, so, really, I think the only way to swing it back is the culture and through social shame.

00:13:00.840 But I don't really see that happening, so.

00:13:02.700 Yeah, I don't know.

00:13:03.820 No, but that's my point.

00:13:04.720 So, when you guys ask me, you're like, well, what would you tell a 22-year-old chick? 0.95

00:13:08.220 Like, it's like, well, I can give them this advice, but I'm not stupid.

00:13:11.800 Like, I know the culture.

00:13:13.240 Right, but it's good to give also input back.

00:13:15.180 But I don't know, like, if you had a daughter, like, are you going to tell them it's better to have multiple partners or zero partners?

00:13:22.020 Or, like, one partner for life?

00:13:23.560 I mean, Adam knows where I stand.

00:13:24.700 I say, be a virgin.

00:13:26.000 Yeah, exactly.

00:13:27.060 That's just me, but it's just, the only reason also why is because, to me, it's like you can't handle a level of discipline.

00:13:33.740 And you can't handle a level of, like, keeping something that's private, private, you know?

00:13:38.780 Like, being able to be tempted with something like that, I think that's a level of discipline that's very hard for people to have.

00:13:45.760 So, you value it.

00:13:47.080 Yeah.

00:13:47.360 And so, for me, I'm with, I'm not, like, going to argue.

00:13:50.540 Like, go sleep around, because that's not what I provide.

00:13:52.320 Well, and I know chicks that have done it. 1.00

00:13:54.180 Like, I genuinely know chicks that have waited. 0.99

00:13:55.800 That have done what?

00:13:56.640 That have waited until they were married. 0.98

00:13:57.920 I know a couple.

00:13:58.700 You know, like, one.

00:13:59.380 No, I know, I can think of three off the top of my head.

00:14:02.900 I could probably think of more.

00:14:03.920 That's the three percent. 0.83

00:14:05.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:14:05.920 Not bad.

00:14:06.360 No, no, it's rare.

00:14:07.560 It's totally rare.

00:14:08.640 But when I look at their outcomes for life, I'm like, well, like, they're probably the happiest married people I know, like, under the age of 40.

00:14:17.020 There are stats that show that the less body count you have, the longer the marriage lasts.

00:14:22.260 It's just, again, very far-fetched in society.

00:14:24.720 What do you think about the girls, we've had this on the show a bunch of times, who are born-again virgins? 1.00

00:14:29.920 Would you ever consider yourself a born-again virgin, or are you living in reality?

00:14:33.200 I'm going to start saying that on the show, as I swear to God.

00:14:36.360 No, no, no.

00:14:37.760 No, I don't think you can re-become a virgin.

00:14:40.940 I don't know why they say that.

00:14:41.620 Okay, yeah, I ask that all the time.

00:14:43.820 They're like, yeah, I'm a virgin now.

00:14:45.140 It's like, really?

00:14:45.700 How does that work?

00:14:46.300 Yeah, I mean, I think those chicks, you're going to kind of have a hard time selling a guy on that. 1.00

00:14:52.340 Like, yeah, they got it for free, but you, sir, need to marry me first.

00:14:57.360 Or they're practicing abstinence now.

00:14:59.420 I mean, you might get a taker.

00:15:01.540 I just think that's a hard sell.

00:15:03.560 But you also talked about the social shame.

00:15:05.520 You've got to shame them into agreeing.

00:15:07.680 Well, I think we could start by not rewarding it.

00:15:10.400 I think that's step one.

00:15:11.700 Maybe no money, no OnlyFans.

00:15:14.600 Maybe the guys come in, stop marrying the Kim Kardashian, stop giving these women commitment, neon. 0.99

00:15:20.420 You know, men used to, like, shame other simps.

00:15:23.460 You know, Dylan Danis is really doing a service to the men throughout this country.

00:15:28.400 But, you know, it's interesting because you talk about the free markets and capitalism.

00:15:32.720 I would say the onus is on the men, the simps, the guys who are paying these women.

00:15:37.960 Because if guys stopped paying the OnlyFans and the sex workers and the strippers, what have you, then they would stop doing it. 0.69

00:15:44.360 But there's a major market for that.

00:15:46.000 So they keep doing it.

00:15:46.980 So at what level does the men have accountability for rewarding these women?

00:15:50.280 Do you have the same energy for drug dealers?

00:15:52.640 Do I have the same energy for drug dealers?

00:15:54.700 Yeah, so if a guy deals drugs, is it the crack addict's fault?

00:15:58.380 Or is it the drug dealer's fault? 0.99

00:16:00.240 I think addiction is a lot different for being addicted to drugs than being like, yeah, I just want to see some ass. 0.98

00:16:07.280 Why do we have empathy for drug addiction but not sex addiction? 0.99

00:16:13.040 You know, there are studies that say that sex is a need for men.

00:16:16.320 So when you have one out of three men that are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year, it's like, it's on the internet.

00:16:21.620 They're going to go somewhere.

00:16:23.240 Now, I don't believe in porn.

00:16:24.860 If this was Pearl's World, I would just ban it all. 1.00

00:16:26.980 I would just be like, that's banned.

00:16:28.420 That's banned.

00:16:28.940 But it's interesting how when women make a poor decision, we find a way to blame it on the men.

00:16:33.780 But when men make a poor decision, we blame it on them.

00:16:38.180 So interesting analogy with the drug dealers.

00:16:41.560 But at the end of the day, it comes with choice.

00:16:43.280 But like you said, you would ban it.

00:16:45.600 Banning is a slippery slope.

00:16:47.100 You know this on your social media accounts.

00:16:48.880 You know this that you don't want to be banned.

00:16:50.460 So why can you ban speech but not ban activities or ban what people want to do?

00:16:57.380 We saw what happened with Prohibition.

00:16:59.400 Tried to ban it.

00:17:00.960 It was reckless.

00:17:02.580 You try to ban people making decisions with their own bodily autonomy.

00:17:07.780 People will react to it.

00:17:09.100 How could you ban something that the market wants?

00:17:11.920 How would that work?

00:17:12.520 Well, I mean, people are still going to do it illegally, of course. 0.95

00:17:15.560 But I don't really want to live in a world like Amsterdam where you can go down the street and get a hooker. 0.99

00:17:21.080 And that's really like, you know, have you seen that where the women are like in the front? 0.84

00:17:24.460 I've been to the red light district.

00:17:25.780 Yeah.

00:17:26.200 Yeah.

00:17:26.700 And so it's like, do you really want to be in a society that is so accepting that we accept that?

00:17:33.220 I would argue.

00:17:34.300 I don't think the argument should be, well, someone's going to buy it.

00:17:37.620 We should just make it legal.

00:17:38.960 I don't really.

00:17:39.820 But there's levels to that.

00:17:40.720 And you have a point.

00:17:42.160 I get it.

00:17:42.780 Because, you know, there is some validity there.

00:17:45.220 But you're also saying that there's some sort of equivalency to a crackhead to a dude who wants to go to a strip club.

00:17:53.520 I would say that there's nuance to this. 0.98

00:17:55.820 There are sex addicts. 0.98

00:17:57.100 There are porn addicts. 0.96

00:17:58.360 And there's some guys that just kind of want to have a fun night on a Saturday night.

00:18:02.240 Just like with drugs.

00:18:03.320 There's crack addicts and some guys that want to smoke a joint.

00:18:05.680 I'll tell you what we could make an equivalency to.

00:18:08.360 The one out of three very, very lonely men in this country.

00:18:11.780 A lot of these men still do jobs that run the infrastructure in society. 0.61

00:18:16.240 I mean, you heard Andrew Tate talk about when he did the cam business.

00:18:19.880 Men would send their life savings. 0.78

00:18:21.640 You don't think that's a form of addiction?

00:18:25.140 A form of loneliness?

00:18:26.280 Like, we can't have empathy for that?

00:18:27.340 Yeah, but whose fault is that?

00:18:29.500 Everyone's choices in life is their own fault.

00:18:31.440 But my point is when we were talking about the sex workers, you immediately blame the customers.

00:18:36.180 And whenever women make a bad decision, we have a tendency to blame the men.

00:18:40.020 That was my point.

00:18:40.680 I'm not even blaming.

00:18:41.640 I'm just saying that it's a free market.

00:18:43.660 So as an example, those one-third of men, we've seen that stat.

00:18:46.160 One-third of men are virgins.

00:18:47.400 I ask myself, well, why are they virgins? 0.68

00:18:50.140 All right, maybe they're young.

00:18:52.620 Maybe they have no game.

00:18:53.960 Maybe they don't have any respect from women because they don't deserve respect. 1.00

00:18:56.860 They're broke. 1.00

00:18:57.840 They're fat. 0.99

00:18:58.500 They're sloppy. 1.00

00:18:59.200 They're losers. 1.00

00:18:59.840 They play video games. 1.00

00:19:00.900 They have no game.

00:19:01.980 They have no skill set.

00:19:03.400 You know what, homie? 1.00

00:19:04.420 Hector, maybe you should be a virgin until you improve your life. 0.98

00:19:08.840 But that's a small percentage of men.

00:19:11.380 That's like if you break down the numbers, that's not the majority.

00:19:14.140 I mean, overweight, sure, but everyone's fat.

00:19:16.420 You know, that's not like a men or women thing.

00:19:18.600 But I don't feel bad for those guys.

00:19:19.900 But again, you feel bad for those guys?

00:19:22.660 Who I feel bad for is the, there's two groups of men that I have a lot of empathy for.

00:19:27.820 One is the average men that do not get respect in this country.

00:19:31.000 Again, 45% of men, almost one out of two men, do a job that makes the country run. 0.99

00:19:36.400 And a lot of times, especially in the influencer space, I see this a ton, where we shit on the 0.98

00:19:41.300 average men that make this country run. 0.98

00:19:43.480 None of us could do what we do without them.

00:19:45.460 The second group of men that I have a lot of empathy for are the traditional men that do the right thing and get married.

00:19:53.520 And they typically have average jobs, work the same job for 20 years, and then come home one day to a woman that has taken half of their assets. 0.78

00:20:01.420 And I've been on the other side of that, and I've interviewed these guys.

00:20:04.240 I have a ton of empathy for them because they have no idea what they are signing up for.

00:20:08.640 Yeah, no, men definitely need to be forewarned of sort of the pitfalls of marriage.

00:20:14.820 But I'll say this, I'm almost taking like a different angle than you, but I am a man.

00:20:18.720 I consult with men, I coach men.

00:20:22.100 I'm one of those dudes that actually want men and women to win.

00:20:26.280 I'm not that person that's like, men win, women lose, women win, men lose.

00:20:30.260 No, I think we can all win.

00:20:31.540 But when men...

00:20:31.880 Come on, hear me out.

00:20:33.220 Those men, from a macro standpoint, from an economic standpoint, you're absolutely right.

00:20:39.300 The millions of truck drivers, okay, the millions of guys that work with their hands, the millions of plumbers, from a macro standpoint, you're absolutely right.

00:20:49.660 But from a micro standpoint, are you basically saying that I have to respect Carl, the truck driver, just because he drives a truck?

00:20:58.160 What else is he doing with his life?

00:21:00.140 Is he a good person?

00:21:01.100 Is he contributing to society?

00:21:03.680 Is he raising his kids?

00:21:05.900 Is he actually active in his community?

00:21:08.880 Is he practicing philanthropy?

00:21:11.780 But just because he drives a truck, I don't think he deserves respect.

00:21:16.300 I think from a macro standpoint, I respect what the men do, but I don't think I really need to respect Carl because he drives eight hours in a truck every day.

00:21:24.180 So it's very nuanced.

00:21:24.780 I think it's a pretty privileged position to be in, honestly, because the average men allow you to do what you do and live how you live.

00:21:33.020 So I think you should treat the people that help you get to where you are with a lot of respect, yes.

00:21:38.200 Okay.

00:21:38.460 Simply for having those jobs.

00:21:40.860 Just because they have a job, they deserve respect?

00:21:42.840 I think that you should respect, I'll give you an example, Uber drivers.

00:21:47.520 I couldn't get anywhere without my Uber drivers.

00:21:49.940 Now, it's a normal job, right?

00:21:51.640 It doesn't, you know, it's not like a necessarily hard job to do.

00:21:55.160 But, yes, I think the average men in this country that work normal nine to fives deserve respect.

00:22:01.520 So, you know, Elon Musk has a quote that you are paid in the proportion to the problem that you solve.

00:22:08.540 You get paid by delivering value.

00:22:11.100 So as an example, I work, and I'm not doing this, in the financial markets, okay?

00:22:15.260 I'm a financial wholesaler for a very niche product.

00:22:18.020 And I'm, my company, myself, are the best in the world at this one thing called life settlements.

00:22:23.180 We're the best of the best of the best, and we are highly compensated for it.

00:22:27.340 That's how I made my money.

00:22:28.300 That's how I met PPD in the financial world.

00:22:30.260 But very few people can do it, and that's why we're paid a lot.

00:22:33.760 But anybody can drive Uber, Uber.

00:22:38.020 Anyone can clean a studio, be a janitor.

00:22:42.560 So the lower level of a job, the less problems you're solving, the less you'll be paid.

00:22:49.740 So, you know, how many YouTubers are out there?

00:22:53.180 Okay?

00:22:53.840 There's tens of millions.

00:22:56.000 How many YouTubers have more than 100,000 subs?

00:22:59.380 2%?

00:23:00.180 How many have more than a million subs like Pearl? 0.99

00:23:03.520 Less than 1%?

00:23:05.260 So it'd be like saying, just because you're a YouTuber, you deserve respect.

00:23:10.700 It's like, no, respect is earned, not given.

00:23:13.440 And it's, you need to establish some credibility and competence in order to get that respect.

00:23:19.780 So if you own the trucking company, it's like, all right, that guy built the company and hired all the guys, respect.

00:23:25.740 But the guy on his first day of a job just because he drives a truck, I'm not like, oh my God, respect.

00:23:29.620 So do you not respect the employees that work for you unless they work their way up and own the company?

00:23:34.520 I respect the hell out of them.

00:23:35.980 But that's the point.

00:23:37.080 Like, I think that you should respect the people that allow you to do what you do.

00:23:41.640 And so you have it here, and I'm also talking about in society as well.

00:23:46.820 So, you know, the Uber drivers allow you to get from point A to point B.

00:23:50.880 Yes, I think they deserve it.

00:23:52.480 We're saying the same thing.

00:23:53.920 These guys are respect.

00:23:54.840 We just have a different.

00:23:55.420 So you ever given an Uber driver a five star?

00:23:57.880 Yeah.

00:23:58.740 All the time, right?

00:23:59.660 Yeah.

00:24:00.060 You ever given an Uber driver a one star?

00:24:02.440 No.

00:24:03.060 Never?

00:24:03.720 No.

00:24:04.040 How about a two star?

00:24:05.400 Never.

00:24:05.860 How about a four star?

00:24:06.720 I always just click five.

00:24:07.840 Okay, so I'll tell you.

00:24:08.920 How often do you Uber?

00:24:10.200 All the time.

00:24:11.020 I Uber everywhere.

00:24:11.860 I don't even have a car.

00:24:12.520 I haven't had a car in 10 years, bro.

00:24:14.040 Perfect.

00:24:14.860 Let me tell you something.

00:24:16.040 Nine out of 10 trips, they're getting a five star.

00:24:18.720 Yeah.

00:24:19.080 You picked me up.

00:24:19.840 You were there on time.

00:24:20.660 You took me to where I was going.

00:24:22.040 Cool.

00:24:22.500 Awesome.

00:24:22.900 Great job.

00:24:23.360 Respect.

00:24:24.340 But every one in 10 trips, someone's getting a three star. 0.98

00:24:27.900 Someone's getting a one motherfucking star. 0.96

00:24:29.560 Why? 0.98

00:24:30.240 Their car smelled.

00:24:31.320 They took the wrong route.

00:24:32.560 They were rude.

00:24:33.800 There's a million different reasons.

00:24:35.000 But the point is, I'll respect you if you do a good job and do the job you're supposed

00:24:39.840 to do, five star, homie. 1.00

00:24:41.640 All right?

00:24:42.220 Great job, Pedro.

00:24:43.360 But if you don't do a good job, sorry, Rick, you just got one star.

00:24:48.700 So the whole like, I'm just going to respect you because you're an Uber driver, at what

00:24:54.460 point does merit and value come into the equation?

00:24:56.700 See, now you're kind of switching it.

00:24:58.100 You're like adding something in where you're like, well, what about the ones that don't

00:25:01.100 do a good job?

00:25:02.000 Correct.

00:25:02.160 And yes, we know there are exceptions, Adam.

00:25:05.500 But you've never given a one star.

00:25:07.080 But my point, well, I mean, I probably would, but I just, I'm pretty easy to please.

00:25:13.880 It's like you get me to point A to point B.

00:25:16.000 I'm happy.

00:25:17.000 Okay.

00:25:17.380 But my point is that average men that allow us to do what we do deserve respect.

00:25:21.840 And too many times I see people become successful and get to a certain point and they don't respect

00:25:27.360 the average men that run this country.

00:25:29.280 Not everybody's going to own businesses, not everybody's going to become a top five,

00:25:33.920 10% earner.

00:25:35.400 And quite frankly, we couldn't have like the country would not function if everybody did.

00:25:40.700 A hundred percent agree with you on the infrastructure.

00:25:42.860 Men do not get the respect that they deserve in that regard on a macro level.

00:25:47.520 Okay.

00:25:47.680 On a micro level, I think that you have personal responsibility, individual decisions.

00:25:52.500 Let me ask you this one thing.

00:25:54.420 Why do you think that is?

00:25:55.720 Meaning, this is my hypothesis.

00:25:57.140 Prior to the 1980s, 1950s, however far you want to go, women weren't necessarily in the 1.00

00:26:05.160 workforce, right?

00:26:06.380 They were relying on a man.

00:26:08.080 So you could be at a small town in Des Moines, Iowa, or Jacksonville, Florida, or, you know,

00:26:14.440 wherever.

00:26:16.400 And point is, you could get, as an average man, you can get a normal girl.

00:26:21.920 She respects you because she's not working.

00:26:23.640 She relies on you, you pay the bills, an average income could support a family of two, normal 0.96

00:26:29.820 guy, normal girl, marriage, family, boom.

00:26:33.140 But as women have been empowered, gone to school, made more money, now they've developed a, I 1.00

00:26:38.260 don't really need that $40,000 dude.

00:26:41.280 I make 80 grand.

00:26:42.340 I'm only going to go out with a guy that makes more than me.

00:26:44.440 You know about the hypergamy concept.

00:26:46.040 So is it because women have made more money, they don't necessarily need that man as a 1.00

00:26:50.660 provider?

00:26:51.660 And is that the biggest reason that they don't get the respect from the women? 0.93

00:26:55.120 What do you think?

00:26:55.560 I would argue women steal men's money. 1.00

00:26:57.740 Actually, I would say they do it through child support, alimony, and government benefits more

00:27:01.980 than anything.

00:27:02.660 But that's after they get married.

00:27:04.520 In order to get married, a guy has to fall in love and make that decision.

00:27:07.080 Oh, child support.

00:27:07.940 You don't need to get, you just need to trap the guy.

00:27:09.800 Okay.

00:27:11.060 You need like the wrong, get the wrong woman pregnant. 1.00

00:27:13.380 You know, they say that, uh, but women used to, it used to be, everything was more family 1.00

00:27:18.300 oriented before.

00:27:19.360 So women would work, they would just work like if a guy had a farm, the woman would work on 1.00

00:27:25.380 the farm.

00:27:25.940 So they would just be working together typically.

JustPearlyThings - October 22, 2023

The REALITY Of Women Going To College @vtsoscast

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