JustPearlyThings - April 25, 2023


The Reason Men and Women CAN'T BE Friends


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

207.50249

Word count

2,220

Sentence count

49

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

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Hate speech

17

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In this episode, the guys talk about how men and women should be friends and why it s a bad idea to have male friends. The guys also talk about why women should not have guy friends and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 Dynamics that you can work with where men and women can be friends then. Oh, man
00:00:04.860 She's one of my favorite people in the whole world. Okay, so that's good
00:00:07.640 So you can't generally but you have to create a certain dynamic that is right and then you can actually do it
00:00:13.460 I don't like it to be within range. I don't particularly like to hire women 1.00
00:00:17.440 Don't particularly like why I'm not saying no, you didn't let me finish
00:00:24.480 Yeah, let me finish the sentence
00:00:25.920 I don't particularly like to hire women that are close enough in age to me 1.00
00:00:30.000 Okay, that there could be a thing
00:00:32.000 All right, you know what I'm saying? Because it can like look dude. I'm the boss
00:00:36.360 I'm coming in. I'm dressed nice. I'm taking control of every situation. We have over 200 employees
00:00:42.480 Like now bro, I don't need it
00:00:43.980 So if you're an attractive woman, then you might as well say bye-bye to having my friends even if you're older 1.00
00:00:49.680 Say again, so if you're an attractive woman, even if you're older, you should say bye-bye to if you're a woman at all 1.00
00:00:54.860 I think you just need to understand if your man comes to you and says listen
00:00:57.440 I don't want you to have guy friends you need to truly understand that any guy that's acting like his friend
00:01:02.400 Like like your friend wants to sleep with you and every other man knows it
00:01:06.400 Okay, and anybody that says otherwise is a liar
00:01:09.120 So what if the man then they say in a relationship and your guy friend
00:01:14.160 Wants to create a relationship with your partner because he wants to still be your friend
00:01:18.720 Even if though you're young as a woman is that big? 1.00
00:01:21.120 Yeah, so i'm around look my my friends have me and andrew are very close
00:01:25.440 I've been on sitting at countless tables with andrew and tristan tate and sterling cooper and they all bring
00:01:30.640 Beautiful stunning women to the table 1.00
00:01:33.280 The only thing that happens when they get up to pee is I ask them how in the hell did you land him?
00:01:37.840 That is your job as a friend
00:01:40.000 You know that snake shit
00:01:41.680 I I would leave my girl in my bank card with the tates any day of the week
00:01:44.560 Okay, because they and here's why and this goes back to ethics before you need them
00:01:50.400 This happens all the time two guys are friends
00:01:53.040 They've been friends 20 years one of them gets married
00:01:57.520 The relationship starts getting rocky right they get separated
00:02:02.640 The woman starts whether it be spite or scorn or whatever 0.99
00:02:07.600 The only man that she really has a relationship outside of her husband was that friend
00:02:11.440 That dude sleeps with that girl and he ruined a 20-year marriage. I mean friendship ruined it burnt it to the ground
00:02:17.760 They'll never be friends again. Why because he's not in enough abundance
00:02:22.640 He didn't have the ethics to be in enough abundance to be so proud of the fact that he could tell there's no
00:02:27.760 Way in hell. I have told some seriously beautiful women to fuck off in my instagram inbox 1.00
00:02:33.920 So me and andrew and tristan can laugh about it because they slept with that girl three years ago
00:02:38.160 There's no fucking way we take pride in it
00:02:40.400 The only way it's easy to take pride in it as a man to be in serious abundance
00:02:44.960 Because they don't date slouches. I mean tens 0.63
00:02:48.320 And i'll give you an example. There's this girl. She messaged me one time in my inbox
00:02:52.800 And i'm like hey andrew, I noticed that you follow this girl. He said yeah, I dated her three years ago
00:02:57.840 She's a dickhead. Perfect. Got it. Andrew said you're a dickhead. Bye. Boom 1.00
00:03:02.160 That girl has never had somebody reject her like that ever
00:03:06.080 And I like it and so does he because it's funny
00:03:10.160 Yeah, it's fun because because what other and and that's why you have to like when we talk about like you have to have standards in your life
00:03:17.520 Standards for the women in your life standards for the friends in your life. I don't want a friend. That's not abundant and money and women 1.00
00:03:23.360 Because what it'll do what happened to man b that slept with his friend's ex-wife 0.69
00:03:28.880 He he he was not a bad man. He was a desperate man
00:03:32.960 And he was a desperate man because he did not have the ethics to put himself in abundance
00:03:36.640 So he was in a desert for women 1.00
00:03:38.640 So you had to do so we had a drink
00:03:41.360 And he ruined something that he could have had the rest of his life
00:03:44.720 And you ain't got many friends
00:03:46.240 So as a single woman
00:03:48.240 Given everything that has been said about how women they're not your friends. They're jealous of you. They're this they're that right in general 0.88
00:03:55.680 Isn't it really a good idea for a single woman to actually have more male friends so that they can tell her that I think 0.99
00:04:01.760 It's a great idea for a single woman to have married friends 1.00
00:04:05.680 Fine, so okay, so there's there's there's like
00:04:09.040 Little
00:04:10.160 Married male friends. No, okay married with female. No, I don't I don't think a woman should have male friends like at all zero 1.00
00:04:18.160 but
00:04:19.360 If she wants to lie to herself if she if she's like hey, this guy's my friend, but he wants to sleep with me
00:04:25.120 That's one thing especially if you're single
00:04:27.200 Okay, so what do you but if you get a boyfriend and he's like nah, bro
00:04:31.520 Then if you really love him, it won't even be a problem to get rid of that guy friend
00:04:35.440 Because then it goes back to based and sitting down and have a real conversation, you know in your heart
00:04:39.360 The guy wants to fuck you like come on you do you do know if you went up to him 0.92
00:04:43.760 You're like hey, let's have sex right now. I think some of my guys would find that very strange. They'll be like are you on drugs?
00:04:50.640 Yeah, as they're like, okay
00:04:55.920 I asked because I have a lot of
00:04:59.840 Male friends. He wants to sleep with you. No, wait, wait, but I believe that 0.98
00:05:05.840 There's almost like I spent at least whilst I'm single right there's a sacrifice that I make ways
00:05:12.080 Like I'll create very strict boundaries because I believe there's a lot of value in me being especially because i've got
00:05:18.720 Sisters, I don't have brothers, right?
00:05:20.960 I think there's a lot of value me having that male energy because my guy friends are the ones that kind of
00:05:26.560 Give me the right advice and guide me into things like for example, you mentioned of
00:05:31.280 Don't dress too privately. That's a little bit much don't you know, like things like this
00:05:35.040 They kind of put me in check because they can there are the way I can reflect my my femininity on something
00:05:41.520 That is not just a woman's femininity 0.96
00:05:43.520 It's like a femininity from a man's perspective 0.98
00:05:46.080 Because obviously if you're not in a relationship and if you don't have your dad around for whatever reasons
00:05:50.640 Or if you don't have brothers then where do you get that sort of source and knowledge that sometimes only a man can give you
00:05:56.720 Well, I mean if you were friends with some couples that that would be the ideal
00:05:59.920 That would be a beautiful thing. Yeah, because that way you would get some of that from the the male in a successful one at that
00:06:08.000 Yeah, but you would also get some
00:06:10.560 Exposure to a successful relationship as well, which is kind of you know pearl often talks about you know learning learning wife skills and stuff 0.95
00:06:17.280 I mean that would be the ideal way to do it
00:06:19.280 And that's also another really great way to find the right man because what'll happen is is he's got a friend that's looking too
00:06:25.600 And that's how people get put together, you know, you meet them in the right atmosphere. Oh, yeah
00:06:29.760 They all came over you should come over jim's coming over blah blah blah jim's a stud boom married fam 0.87
00:06:35.120 You're in the atmosphere successful relationship
00:06:38.080 So I'm gonna break up a few friendships today
00:06:45.200 And they're like damn I thought I had her
00:06:51.520 I mean not speculating on your all your friendships
00:06:54.080 But like if you kind of on some level know the guy wants to sleep with you that that friendship is not
00:06:59.840 Equal is it it's disingenuous 0.98
00:07:02.880 I don't know. I feel like I mean
00:07:06.400 I I enjoy sports. I enjoy a lot of the things that you normally do with the boys, right? So
00:07:13.120 I almost
00:07:14.640 Kind of I don't sacrifice anything. I just simply i'm very rigid in who I am and how I interact with men
00:07:21.600 Like for example, I always say if there's
00:07:24.480 um
00:07:25.040 If i'm having uh, you know, i'm sitting down with my friend that is a guy
00:07:28.800 If you do something to me that is not something that you do to another guy then i'm like that's not cool like
00:07:34.800 Boys don't sit down hugging each other for example things there's boundaries
00:07:39.040 And that allows me to kind of like take out the things that I do need the value that there is in knowing a man on a
00:07:45.840 Personal level rather than it always just be about work. Do you know what I mean?
00:07:49.200 Yeah, but I think you're getting a little bit lost between the gap between your expectation and your reality
00:07:53.920 Right, because your reality is that he does want to touch you in a different way than he wants to touch that other man
00:07:58.480 And you're setting it. I promise you
00:08:00.480 You are disgusting
00:08:05.280 Yeah, but but you're believing it but you know in your heart it's not true
00:08:08.320 No, to be honest, I do know and I'm I mean because of course like yeah
00:08:13.120 Duh, so yeah, so when he does that and you're giving him that like you might be some of the show it
00:08:18.480 Oh, but he did he touched you in the wrong way
00:08:20.160 No, no i'm saying i'm saying like I wouldn't allow that to happen like I have my boundaries like for example
00:08:24.800 Yeah, but he's just trying not to set off your creep radar
00:08:27.600 If he's just yeah, he's just trying not to seven creep radar
00:08:29.920 Well, then you should cover yourself up. He's paying attention to how you're dressing
00:08:33.200 He might be trying to groom you to be wifey. You never know 0.95
00:08:35.920 I'm just saying tell me that but like for example like with my guy friends a lot of the good things that I like to hear is when they complain to me about
00:08:42.640 The girls that they're dealing with and through that I can understand. Oh, okay
00:08:47.600 Obviously, you don't like that the same way that we're having a conversation right now
00:08:51.040 Do you know how much knowledge we can take out of hearing a man is speaking to a man on a personal level about these sort of things?
00:08:56.720 Yes, but what I'm saying is like this experience right now is
00:09:01.280 Obsolete really it's not gonna happen a whole lot
00:09:04.160 But what I think troy nailed on the head is that if you can have a relationship
00:09:09.760 Let's say with a girlfriend and spend time around the couple that man 0.95
00:09:13.760 Is in a married relationship, which means he's successful at it
00:09:18.320 Right, hopefully he's providing protecting and they're together
00:09:22.880 So you get to see it right up close and personal and then you get to see the dynamic of both
00:09:28.560 Which I think is also really important and it also puts you in an atmosphere
00:09:32.320 To be like them, which would in this case be success because you would have a husband or a partner or whatever
00:09:38.640 Wouldn't a married man really also want to do it even though he's got a 0.88
00:09:42.320 Yeah, dude, listen it if I can go to my girl and be like, yo, let's have sex with your girl 1.00
00:09:47.520 I'm down. Don't let me bullshit you. He wants to sleep with you as well, but the frame is completely different
00:09:53.280 The frame is completely different. He does
00:09:56.000 He does but he's not really your friend
00:09:58.000 He's there and you can get a good advice from a successful man at the kitchen table or when you're sitting at the cabinet
00:10:03.680 And she's cooking and y'all are talking and drinking wine
00:10:05.680 And he comes in and you can ask his opinion right in front of his wife. It's a different scenario
00:10:09.520 Okay, so you need the right frame. Okay, that's fine. Yeah, that makes sense
00:10:14.080 Yeah, I like that answer
00:10:16.080 Boys, unless you're putting money in my pocket and we're doing business. You can't be my friend
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