JustPearlyThings - August 02, 2023


The TRUTH On Why Men End RELATIONSHIPS


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Length

9 minutes

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231.10464

Word count

2,279

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the and talk about dating in your 20s and what it's like in the modern era of social media. We discuss what it means to be in a relationship with someone who has slept with multiple men and how to deal with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 um okay for the guys have you ever stopped dating a girl because of her past yeah what happened
00:00:07.840 what'd you find out um so i found out uh i was 18 found out that the girl
00:00:16.960 yeah is that better for you tell it yeah okay cool um 18 i found out the girl had slept with 0.86
00:00:25.360 like multiple men and this was through a conversation that i had heard from one of my
00:00:31.840 friends saying oh what's that girl like i know she's been with like this guy and that guy and as
00:00:38.720 soon as i heard that i said to the girl why did you tell me a strange number you told me this number
00:00:43.600 and now i'm finding out it's more than likely this and she broke down and said oh i didn't want to
00:00:48.400 talk to you about all these girls and blah all these men sorry blah blah blah for me that was the
00:00:52.880 end of it why do women say body count doesn't matter if they don't want to tell you what it is 1.00
00:00:57.520 exactly it does matter as far as i'm concerned it does matter a woman wouldn't tell you i've slept
00:01:04.080 with 8 000 men and i still want to be with you she won't say that at all a woman will keep it at a 1.00
00:01:09.520 certain level like i understand what you're saying about it doesn't matter it shouldn't matter etc but
00:01:13.680 when push comes to shove if you get the ideal man in front of you you're not going to tell him
00:01:18.240 i have slept with 800 men you're not going to do that there is no woman on this earth that's 0.99
00:01:23.920 actually going to do that you're going to downplay or you're going to gaslight like you were saying
00:01:27.760 before and you're going to say actually do you know why are you asking me these questions it's
00:01:31.040 the modern day era you should have asked me this that's what i think is going to happen there's
00:01:34.960 actually something we say that's kind of funny i'm like there is a kind of girl that will lie
00:01:38.960 about her number and lie up and that's a whale and it's and it's sad why are you nodding now
00:01:55.360 at me personally i think like because me i've broke it off one time with a girl but it was mainly
00:02:03.440 it wasn't even the body count like i knew it was high ish but it's like doing something with someone
00:02:11.600 i know i think who was it um it wasn't like a it was a friend but he's not like one of the brothers
00:02:19.040 but it's like a friend like i know him but it's more like you've done stuff for him and i don't think
00:02:25.920 i can be with you after that i know what he's like as a person you know you're eating the same hole 0.64
00:02:30.400 is he kind of like a player the guy yeah he's more like a player like i know him from being a
00:02:37.920 player you know i mean but it's like you've been with him i mean like for me my like standards i
00:02:44.240 think that's where like standards comes in like you've been with that guy and now i'm with you
00:02:48.560 like come on like what's going on you know what i mean but i think that was one of my was he kind
00:02:53.200 of a loser like was it because he was more high status than you or less high status i think it was
00:02:57.760 because he was less so if you thought he was a quality guy would have been different um
00:03:05.280 i wouldn't think it would have been different but just because i know him i think that makes
00:03:10.240 a big difference if i didn't know the person then probably like i would have been like okay fair enough
00:03:15.200 that can slide i don't know but because you knew just because i know him personally it's like yeah
00:03:19.680 that guy really you know what i mean uh what about you have you ever stopped speaking to a woman because
00:03:24.880 of something she did before uh no that never happened to me i only had one girl which was
00:03:29.760 like the secondary so it was a proper relationship that's about it okay yeah um did you have any other
00:03:36.560 girls that happened to you or the one yeah i just learned to recognize it's like you just learn to
00:03:40.160 recognize the sign quicker uh but you know as a man when i was single it doesn't mean that i disqualified
00:03:44.320 her from sex it just means um that's what it was and that's all it was what what signs for 1.00
00:03:50.000 guys that are watching this like what signs should they look out for man that's a i mean
00:03:54.320 i'm gonna yeah tattoos would be a pretty big sign um just any like i'll tell you why tattoos are big
00:03:59.840 so you might say well that's not nice because i have tattoos i'll tell you why it's a big sign
00:04:02.480 because if you had a good relationship with your dad he would not let you get tattoos when you're 18.
00:04:06.560 that's what it means that's what that's why i don't have tattoos right yeah it's like that's
00:04:11.360 literally it's like it just tells me you don't have a good relationship with your dad which it
00:04:13.920 doesn't mean for everybody but it raises those numbers there's there's obviously um the thing about
00:04:18.480 social intelligence it's very hard to describe it because it's so nuanced like and you really
00:04:22.640 have to sort of um conflate a big number of variables all into one and that's what comprises
00:04:28.400 like the social intelligence thing so it's hard to say like oh because of this and this and this and
00:04:31.840 that um but there's definitely signs and when you know you know it's like the dad thing or like
00:04:37.920 what if she didn't have a dad like no i felt he goes to the shop and don't come back you know what
00:04:42.640 i mean like what if she didn't have a dad like how would you look but that also tells me of course
00:04:45.680 look i'm not saying it's her fault it's still her responsibility there i understand it's not her
00:04:49.680 fault but it is her responsibility and it may be like well i was young whatever okay fine i'm not
00:04:53.200 responsible for that thank you i'm not i think you are now you are you are responsible for your life
00:04:58.240 you are responsible yeah of course but i'm not responsible for walking out but i know you're not
00:05:02.240 responsible for that but even when i hear you talk like you you sort of blame it on everyone else but
00:05:06.160 you but you kind of you kind of blame like your situation and like this is like like
00:05:10.480 like instead of it's my life choices who have i blamed um it was just earlier when you were saying
00:05:17.440 it's because of like this or because of that like you know it adds to it my my my my child and stuff
00:05:23.200 it's kind of molded me into a bit of a mess and i'll admit that i think she means like if you if you
00:05:27.920 get like a young guy who doesn't have his dad there some of those guys end up like alcoholics in
00:05:32.560 prison and some of them end up like amazing dads do you know what i mean so like you can come from the
00:05:36.720 same background and have two different completely and that's choices definitely life choices i came
00:05:41.920 not getting at you but that's just i came from a life which was if i put like i said i put on camera
00:05:48.160 before and what the reaction from people i came from a life that was an absolute mess and i chose
00:05:54.720 not to go down a certain path like i didn't want to be like the man that brought me into this world
00:05:59.360 and i didn't want to be and let my mum down even though my mum i haven't seen her for 13 years
00:06:04.160 because she's schizophrenic so i decided i'm not going to prison so i i have no remorse for people 0.82
00:06:09.200 when they say oh well this happened so therefore i've become this i got no remorse for that because
00:06:14.240 you don't have to one of the best one of the best women i know came from a single parent home 1.00
00:06:18.400 and she was abused as a kid and she's like genuinely one of the best women i know because
00:06:21.760 she like went to the church and she sought after like women she could look up to and she ended up 1.00
00:06:26.080 getting married and having a family but it's like you can go down you can be from the same situation
00:06:30.000 and have completely different life outcomes and that's what he's saying he's saying like it's
00:06:34.000 your responsibility what you do with your life it's your responsibility but not everyone's strong
00:06:38.080 like sure not everyone has that mindset some people are actually weak and i'll admit it i've had times
00:06:43.840 in my life where i've felt so weak i don't want to be anymore but why would i want to be with a girl
00:06:47.760 that's weak that's going to don't be with me no i'm not but i'm saying that's what that's his point
00:06:52.080 yeah yeah okay cool cool when he's speaking to men like a lot of men watch this show it's like these are
00:06:56.960 the signs and it's not even even for women like honestly like i think it's better to date people
00:07:02.640 from two parent homes yeah no definitely definitely definitely because it's easier when you've had a
00:07:07.440 model like something yeah yeah yeah definitely there is a way so i i've spent significant amount of
00:07:12.480 my time in my youth thinking thinking about this because i realized i was a really bad judge of
00:07:16.640 character of women because when i was like young like coming out of high school going to college and 1.00
00:07:20.240 stuff i remember the girls i was falling for and trying to be in relationships with they just were
00:07:24.800 horrible people and i think i think the good lord above every day that i didn't get what i wanted
00:07:30.800 when i wanted it at 20 because if i had gotten what i wanted i would have signed up for a life
00:07:34.320 of massive regret you see a lot of those guys that get married young and then they just get wiped out
00:07:39.200 right and sometimes you know i'll go on the show and then guys will comment like that guy is gonna get
00:07:43.760 what's coming to him blah blah blah it's like no and i'll tell you why not here's here's if you're a guy
00:07:48.240 here's how you can tell what a girl is like okay make it your mission to go out in your early 20s
00:07:54.240 and and just sleep with as many girls as you can and you might say that's horrible advice no that's 0.64
00:07:58.080 great advice because what you're gonna learn first of all you're gonna learn about the nature of women 0.98
00:08:03.120 and i'm not saying do that for your whole life like eventually you will grow up eventually you will
00:08:07.360 want to pursue a higher purpose but in order to pursue that higher purpose valiantly you have to
00:08:13.680 understand the game you're playing and you don't understand the game you're playing if you've been
00:08:17.360 with one or two girls and you might say that's bad advice that's exactly the advice i'll give my
00:08:21.360 sons now i'll give my daughters the opposite advice if you want to know about the seriousness of men
00:08:26.160 don't put out with them then you'll absolutely learn what men are really after but if you want
00:08:30.240 to learn what women are after go out as a man remember it's not your job to protect the sexual
00:08:34.400 marketplace as a man it's the woman's job to protect the she's the guardian to that you're the 0.97
00:08:38.640 guardian to relationships you want to get socially intelligent do it lots of times
00:08:42.560 what do you guys agree with that or disagree i know what he's saying but obviously back when
00:08:49.200 say my nan and granddad got married my granddad picked a lady and they got and they were like
00:08:53.840 teenagers got married back in those days marriages worked without men having to go and do that so 0.88
00:08:59.680 it isn't the only way but i do understand the difference is women today aren't the women no no no 0.89
00:09:04.080 absolutely the women are like that's what i realized i used to hear that like i'd hear myron say
00:09:08.320 sleep with 50 women before you settle down i'm like why would you do that you know what i realized
00:09:12.640 is like men can be manipulated by a woman that's more experienced than him like you know imagine
00:09:18.560 you you date a virgin right you you you would eat him up you would get him to do exactly what you 0.99
00:09:25.440 wanted when you want yeah yeah she's not i can understand that yeah yeah it's like like it's not
00:09:30.880 good for us to be in relationships with men that have less experience no i do agree the guy has got to
00:09:35.520 be more experienced more powerful more anything the woman has got to feel lower and it she has to 1.00
00:09:42.320 tame your devil she has to tame your devil not you team but not an actual devil like well it's it's a
00:09:48.560 danger it's a danger it is it is