JustPearlyThings - The UGLY TRUTH About Dating In 2023

00:00:00.000 question though so you know how we were talking back to the the topic imagine you got a girl

00:00:04.760 that's like a woman that's like nurturing she wants to bring she's got a lot to bring to the 0.99

00:00:09.680 table she's she's peaceful she wants to help you she's submissive whatever whatever but she slept 0.88

00:00:14.620 with three people is that now is that no well okay i'll i'll give you i think that's a gem i'll be

00:00:19.880 honest yeah well nowadays yeah okay no okay let's just say in my okay i'll tell you what i would say

00:00:24.400 i'll tell you what i would say in pearl's world i would say guys hold out for the virgins but if

00:00:28.640 you're not make her work for it because women we want a man we have to work for we don't like the 1.00

00:00:34.100 guys that just give commitment to us freely why we chase but so you know the men what but that's

00:00:39.660 the thing most women don't want to improve they don't want to be the things that men value they 1.00

00:00:44.660 don't care what men men do want to conquer don't want easy things if you uh give a man like commitment

00:00:51.900 easily he would look for you're not in charge but you're not giving him commitment you're giving him

00:00:56.340 access yeah you're in charge of sex you're not yeah exactly the guy has to commit to you and

00:01:01.980 the modern world you're in charge of no you're not the ultimate way the ultimate commitment is

00:01:06.540 marriage and he has to get down in one knee thinking you're in charge of commitment he can't

00:01:10.160 there's nothing single who convinced the man to get married is the woman he has to convince that's 0.99

00:01:14.060 the point working for it that's the whole point yeah i hope he would want to the value that the man

00:01:20.400 gives to the woman is the value that the woman gives to him is the sexual intimacy that's what 0.90

00:01:26.020 that's what that is it's not because if you go oh i'm going to commit to you but i'm not going to 0.98

00:01:29.720 have sex with you guys not going to take that deal but if you go to a guy i'll have sex with you but i 0.99

00:01:34.680 won't commit to you oh there you go because the value that a woman is giving to a man is different 0.99

00:01:39.380 to what he gives to her commitment and sex men would still go and look outside just for the sake of

00:01:45.680 conquest just for the sake of conquest in terms of working for it i think it's this is this is

00:01:51.660 about men and women this is human beings in general we value things that we have to earn yeah

00:01:55.440 that's it's that simple you are on a constant quest of something else you wouldn't you are never

00:02:01.600 satisfied with what you have but how does a man show his loyalty mainly it's normally through

00:02:06.820 commitment right i'm not saying it's right that people do that but a lot of men do do that because

00:02:11.240 women value security for me i i have another i i black white different it's only black and white 0.98

00:02:17.360 yeah there's no gray area yeah see women are not like that yeah but you should be black and white 1.00

00:02:21.440 you should be if you just thought you know what you're telling women how to be but you're telling 1.00

00:02:24.420 men how to be it's the same thing and i'd say women tell men how to be more than we tell each other

00:02:28.380 because women are not black and white and we're never going to be we know what you want but you 1.00

00:02:32.260 don't know what men want we are not why you want like that though but we know what you want what do 0.99

00:02:37.100 men want sorry we men generally know yeah what women want yeah and we work most of our lives

00:02:43.960 be successful tall good looking confident etc etc etc so we know and we work towards that to get

00:02:51.400 women okay what does what do men want we're telling you and you're basically saying that

00:02:55.620 that's not what we want yeah it's just crazy because the reality is men typically want sex from 0.98

00:03:00.840 women right yeah and the top men have figured out a way to game the system and get sex from women 1.00

00:03:06.140 yeah because they figured out what women want exactly but the women refuse to figure out what 1.00

00:03:12.060 the men want to get what they want and we're telling you and they keep and they will keep

00:03:15.260 arguing with men when men tell them what they want it's just and what do you want is it the the purity

00:03:20.100 the thing i wrote it on there i wrote 22 yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah see you on that the purity thing yeah

00:03:27.020 this is my point this is my point i literally said it and when i said it if you notice none of the

00:03:31.780 women submissive even listened to it yeah went over their heads yeah it's crazy well and it's funny if

00:03:37.620 women cared what men wanted why aren't any virgins on their wedding days you don't care 1.00

00:03:42.020 but why that's the it's hard listen it's hard the thing is you want men no i'm trying to understand

00:03:49.060 because i'm intrigued and the thing is the whole thing with submission is you've got to be with a

00:03:56.020 man who you trust enough for you to let yourself get to that because as a woman we are constantly

00:04:02.340 testing you to see if you are worthy of our submission and the problem that we face right now

00:04:09.220 with a lot of women is they're seeing that a lot of men are not stepping up to the plate yeah there's

00:04:14.260 not enough masculinity and nowadays unfortunately the men are just acting i mean masculine you're

00:04:24.100 absolutely right you're absolutely right the issue is though the women are still giving what men want 0.92

00:04:29.620 yes and i agree with you guys they should stop doing that's what we said that's what we said 20 minutes

00:04:36.100 step up and become what they were before and then we're not gonna have this issue okay i want to

00:04:40.020 i want to explain something to you the men are here here's the problem the the men actually are

00:04:46.180 bringing more to the table than women these days but the problem is women have an inflated sense of ego 1.00

00:04:51.300 thinking we're more important and more special than we are because we got these these jobs that are

00:04:55.940 pretty much more beautiful than the yeah can i say so wait wait so so men 45 of men do a job that runs

00:05:03.220 society that means they they drive the trucks they drive the buses they build the building so

00:05:09.380 half of men have a job that runs the infrastructure of society that's an important job 0.99

00:05:14.580 okay so there there's provisioning right protection the average guy is stronger than the average woman 1.00

00:05:20.100 the average woman is more promiscuous than the average man the average woman is fatter than the average 1.00

00:05:25.380 man the average woman is the same age so she's not even younger than the average guy that gets married 1.00

00:05:32.180 it's like 30 and 30 or maybe it's a year so they have a year right so it's like when it comes to

00:05:36.580 what we're bringing to the table most men like most i would say our great grandfathers if they saw the

00:05:42.740 quality of wives that men took today they would be literally disgusted hopefully yeah but the problem

00:05:48.660 but the problem is we have no idea because the media lies to us men lie to us because they want to get

00:05:55.140 laid uh politicians lie to us because they want to vote we want they want us to vote for them and we get to

00:06:01.300 32 never having heard the truth about what men think our entire lives we go to a school system

00:06:07.300 that's completely run by women and that's why a lot of men are really feminine because they're in 1.00

00:06:11.940 this school system that shames masculinity and so the whole system lies to us and it's not until our

00:06:18.500 looks start to fade where we kind of get a dose of reality and start to humble ourselves why do you

00:06:23.780 think a lot of women around the 30 age you're asking me yeah become born again virgins because 1.00

00:06:30.740 it's when reality hits in that they actually realize what men want and so they try to start

00:06:36.100 presenting as that kind of woman yeah i agree to get the man because she's obviously feeling the

00:06:40.180 pressure because she's older etc yeah yeah i've got a slight defense for the women though because men do 1.00

00:06:44.260 lie to you a lot to get sex that is true yeah yeah but that is true this is why it's so important that

00:06:48.740 you know when we're having a conversation like this where there's no um no act to try and get 0.77

00:06:53.300 sex listen to what we're saying because this is where you're going to hear the truth yeah when you're

00:06:58.260 on a date or in the club we're going to men will say anything to you to sleep with you so listen now 0.78

00:07:02.980 not when you had a few drinks and in the club that's all i'm saying so you can take it you know

00:07:06.980 but most people will just leave this room i do this every week as well and they don't care and the

00:07:10.980 other thing is like i agree with that 100 and the other thing is i don't really believe in this

00:07:16.500 submission when you feel like it i just think it means you're not submissive yeah because i'm

00:07:20.260 sorry the women that i know that are that are super feminine they they don't argue they just they 1.00

00:07:25.460 just follow but are you going to trust to let someone who is unworthy of trust to lead your life

00:07:32.260 but thing is the thing is by but thing is when you choose a man that is you by default saying i trust

00:07:37.220 this man but no of course i understand but if a woman by default is submissive i mean if anyone comes

00:07:44.020 to me i would be submissive just because i'm a woman no no it's submissive to the man that you

00:07:47.940 are interested in but even i have no issue being submissive to a man but i just want to know that he

00:07:54.100 can lead but here's the thing i want to have confidence in him but here's the thing sometimes

00:07:59.300 sometimes he's not going to lead well and that's the problem women are expecting perfection from men

00:08:04.740 when we're not perfect like sometimes he's gonna do he's gonna lead poorly but that's the one thing he

00:08:10.260 really prides himself in that he is like he can lead so why am i going to be like oh i'll let you

00:08:15.620 off when that's the one thing you want me to give you my question is my question is are you following

00:08:20.580 perfectly no it's not about being perfect but leading is bare minimum all right all right this is

00:08:25.700 what i this is what this is what i think of when there's an employee boss relationship okay and i i just

00:08:30.900 use this because it's the one that we're the most familiar with when you're hired for a job are you

00:08:35.940 arguing with your boss all the time when he tells you something no you know and so typically if

00:08:41.700 there's an argument however you lose respect typically when there's an argument it's the

00:08:46.740 employee's fault because they shouldn't even be arguing yeah right they should just listen

00:08:52.820 right yes and so so that's what why that's why i say when there's a breakdown in a relationship

00:08:57.780 typically it's more on the women because they're just not listening okay but you lose respect for the 1.00

00:09:02.180 person i will lose respect for my boss yeah but do you know how good leaders are made

00:09:07.460 no enlighten me while leading you have to learn how to be a good leader yeah if you don't let him

00:09:12.100 lead how is he going to be a good leader so i'm a practice run this is we want the man who's ready

00:09:23.700 i have a question that's what i have a question i have a question do you do you think you were raised

00:09:27.380 to be a good wife do you think you're raised it depends on your culture it depends with your 1.00

00:09:33.140 upbringing i'm asking about you me were you raised to be a wife i was yeah okay um so you you have a

00:09:38.980 cookbook my family have always great and you and you and you listen and you listen um no i chose

00:09:46.580 completely different route in my life okay okay so my point is women that typically were raised to be 1.00

00:09:51.780 wives are married before 25 typically okay listen if i was in morocco i would be married no no i'm

00:09:58.260 sorry i know no no no typically well okay okay okay this is the funny thing you guys inherently are

00:10:05.700 starting to blame the culture instead of yourself when it's like it's like every woman that's single

00:10:11.380 over 25 there's probably something wrong with you and you should probably figure it out i'm not saying

00:10:16.100 i'm different i'm not saying i'm special but the the difference is when men are in a situation

00:10:20.340 they blame themselves where women will blame the world and so and so and so and so i'm not i'm not

00:10:27.540 talking about i don't know what your life is i don't know about you but what do you blame yourself

00:10:32.500 for for not being married yeah it's my own fault what's your reason i i mean this isn't a

00:10:38.100 this isn't a therapy session no i'm just asking the question um i'll give i'll give you one example

00:10:43.140 right um i really was chasing sports i was chasing a industry that makes zero money would you say your

00:10:48.340 parents didn't raise you to be a wife i would say there was things that i could have done better

00:10:52.260 yeah i would say yeah and your parents didn't step in um because we're blaming parents now no no you

00:10:58.500 know um i don't know what your point is like i don't know i'm just you're you asked her if she was

00:11:04.020 raised to be a wife i know but you're not married so i'm just asking i know and i'm saying that is your

00:11:09.940 own fault my whole point is to be accountable i'm not blaming my parents i'm blaming myself and just like

00:11:15.380 every single because because my my only point to that is because she keeps talking about the men

00:11:20.660 not being able to lead and maybe we should come in with some you wait listen listen and i'm saying

00:11:27.220 we we need to come in so with some humility because we are not always perfect followers

00:11:32.260 we're not always perfect wives yet we we put all this pressure on men to be perfect leaders

JustPearlyThings - August 30, 2023

The UGLY TRUTH About Dating In 2023

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