JustPearlyThings - April 26, 2023


The Woke Mob will cancel Pearl for saying this...


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In this episode, we talk about how mental health is a huge issue in our society and how social media is actually making it worse. We talk about the effects of social media on mental health and how we should just get over it.

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00:00:00.000 I don't know if that's right or not.
00:00:00.900 I think that mental health makes us crazier.
00:00:04.460 Yeah.
00:00:05.060 Yeah.
00:00:05.380 I think that mental health is actually, I think psychologists or whatever make people crazy and don't fix them and actually make the problem worse.
00:00:14.240 Why?
00:00:14.680 What would you mean in terms of like?
00:00:16.420 So the last 20 years, have we had an increase in therapy or a decrease in therapy?
00:00:22.040 Increase.
00:00:22.700 Increase.
00:00:23.380 So in the last 20 years, have we had an increase in mental health problems?
00:00:28.520 Increase.
00:00:29.000 But that's because more people are aware and they're comfortable to seek help.
00:00:33.980 And back in the day, there was a massive stigma.
00:00:35.940 So you know what I think about therapy?
00:00:38.140 I think we were actually, so the average woman used to have five kids, right? 0.66
00:00:41.860 And I think you were meant to talk about your problems with your family and your siblings.
00:00:46.560 But now we're in this society where women didn't have multiple kids. 1.00
00:00:50.240 They were in single parent homes.
00:00:52.300 And now we have no one to talk to, no one that we feel close with.
00:00:55.920 And so I think it was meant to be your family.
00:00:58.720 And now you're talking to a stranger, which I'm in the psychology program actually at my school.
00:01:03.780 And I can tell you, these women in the program, dear God, don't go to them. 1.00
00:01:08.320 Dear God, they're nuts.
00:01:09.760 They're all freaking crazy.
00:01:11.620 I see the behind the scenes of who you guys are going to.
00:01:14.400 It's what the psychologists are.
00:01:15.860 Yeah, yeah, because they're all trying to be therapists, right?
00:01:18.500 Yeah, and they're always the craziest women. 1.00
00:01:20.400 I'm like, dear God, I hope you don't fix my mental health.
00:01:22.980 They probably have a passion for it because of that.
00:01:25.040 And it actually can make them more relatable.
00:01:26.640 Not all of them.
00:01:27.420 Of course, there's some that wouldn't be that good.
00:01:29.660 But then it's like, so we have to look at, are they fixing the problem?
00:01:34.600 Well, if the problem's getting worse, I can't say they're fixing it.
00:01:38.580 The problem is getting worse because, not worse, the statistics are worse because more people are coming forward and actually seeking help because it's okay.
00:01:46.580 Can we talk about how social media is actually making you worse?
00:01:49.340 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:50.300 Can I say one more thing?
00:01:51.320 You can't always speak to your family.
00:01:52.940 Most of the time, people who experience trauma, it's from their family.
00:01:56.360 So you would never be able to talk to your family.
00:01:58.340 You may be...
00:01:59.200 Embarrassed, yeah.
00:02:00.340 And also, they could gaslight you.
00:02:01.860 They could make you think that it's not real.
00:02:03.400 You can't go to your family and your experience.
00:02:05.880 Same thing a therapist could do as well.
00:02:07.320 Yeah, so I'll go.
00:02:08.560 So that's why they're supposed to have five kids because you'd imagine one of your siblings would understand.
00:02:14.840 They've been through the same thing.
00:02:16.340 Yeah, you can get more confident in your sibling probably.
00:02:18.740 Yeah, and then number two, number two, that's the other thing.
00:02:21.060 The therapist, you kind of, you'll say your family will gaslight you.
00:02:25.240 Well, maybe you are overreacting.
00:02:27.340 Maybe you don't have trauma.
00:02:29.000 And the therapist is paid to tell you you have trauma so you'll come back.
00:02:34.180 That's right.
00:02:34.940 That's true.
00:02:36.700 When people are suffering from severe mental health issues, they can feel so bad.
00:02:42.720 It's obvious that it's real.
00:02:44.500 No one wants to feel bad.
00:02:46.640 Like, no one wants to be.
00:02:47.880 If they had the choice, they wouldn't be in that.
00:02:49.860 Okay, so I'll give you one.
00:02:52.020 I do think there is severe trauma from men that come back from war.
00:02:56.440 Not you getting cheated on by your ex-boyfriend, Becky.
00:03:00.420 But that's a good point.
00:03:01.880 Most people that get cheated on and then it affects them so much, they've already got abandonment and trust issues from things that stem from their family.
00:03:07.960 People that are very secure and don't have that trauma, they can accept.
00:03:11.180 I think you should just get over it.
00:03:13.140 I think we should just get over stuff.
00:03:15.020 Yeah.
00:03:15.320 I think there's real problems.
00:03:17.140 Like, I think if you were graped, that's real trauma.
00:03:19.840 I think if you went to, like, war.
00:03:22.060 Yeah.
00:03:22.200 But, you know, you fighting with your mother, is that real?
00:03:25.180 You should just get over it.
00:03:26.520 It depends on why you're fighting.
00:03:28.320 It depends on so many things.
00:03:29.340 It depends on if you've had an unpredictable environment.
00:03:31.460 It depends if it started from.
00:03:32.460 I would say, like, abuse.
00:03:34.720 But there's a lot of abuse.
00:03:36.380 There's mental abuse.
00:03:37.280 There's a lot of abuse.
00:03:37.920 You know, you can't just say me grabbing you and being physical is abuse.
00:03:41.880 Mental abuse is a lot more harmful than physical abuse.
00:03:45.460 I do think if you were mentally, I think if you were real mentally abused, I think that a lot of times we add in all these things that are mental abuse that aren't really mental abuse.
00:03:56.100 But if you were seriously mentally abused, I'll give you that.
00:03:59.980 I'll give you that.
00:04:00.580 And I also think I agree one tiny bit with you in that now people that aren't actually, people that aren't actually, the words are thrown about a bit too much.
00:04:11.520 If you're not really clinically anxious, not clinically depressed, we can't be like, oh, we're having a down day.
00:04:16.460 I'm depressed.
00:04:17.080 Oh, I'm a bit nervous.
00:04:17.880 I'm anxious.
00:04:18.980 Because actually, that invalidates the people that are suffering for real.
00:04:27.000 Some people are really suffering with that.
00:04:28.860 And then everyone's throwing the word around.
00:04:30.120 It's like, no, you don't actually understand.
00:04:32.160 Yeah, it's true.
00:04:32.380 That's true.
00:04:32.760 I do agree.
00:04:33.920 No, it's true.
00:04:34.460 Sometimes it's excuses.
00:04:36.140 It's just, you know, trying to make something.
00:04:38.840 Or it's thrown around so much.
00:04:40.360 So they just say it.
00:04:41.420 Ask them how they're doing.
00:04:42.360 Check up on your friends.
00:04:43.000 I also think, okay, because imagine, right?
00:04:45.180 Your sister's telling you about a problem.
00:04:47.420 You're going to have a completely different reaction because you know your sister.
00:04:52.420 So if your sister says, this person reacted to me this way, well, you know your sister's
00:04:56.560 a bitch. 1.00
00:04:57.260 So of course they reacted to you this way.
00:04:59.580 Damn.
00:04:59.880 But the therapist is going to say, aw, you poor thing. 1.00
00:05:04.620 You are not the problem.
00:05:06.240 But the family knows how the person is.
00:05:09.900 Now, I'm not saying take advice from every family member.
00:05:13.060 Certainly not your mother that, you know, maybe is a bit crazy, broke the whole family 0.99
00:05:17.500 up.
00:05:17.860 Don't ask advice from her.
00:05:19.240 But maybe your father, right?
00:05:20.960 The men are a little more logical.
00:05:22.520 They're trying to fix problems.
00:05:24.420 Yeah.
00:05:24.980 But a therapist will also make you go deeper into whatever that is.
00:05:28.380 Like, how do you interpret?
00:05:30.700 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:31.460 Being called a bitch.
00:05:32.100 The therapist, especially if they're women, they don't want to fix it. 1.00
00:05:35.000 They just want to talk about how it made you feel.
00:05:37.140 Yeah.
00:05:37.340 We should be looking to fix the problem.
00:05:39.580 What would solve this?
00:05:41.520 Obviously, they are meant to do that.
00:05:42.840 Also, as well as being empathetic, they should be something called developing discrepancy and
00:05:47.440 cognitive dissonance, which is saying like, for example, you're saying this on one
00:05:51.300 hand, you're saying that on the other hand, and you are meant to.
00:05:54.180 Make people think twice, as well as being empathetic.
00:05:56.300 I went to therapy once.
00:05:57.700 Yeah, they didn't like me there.
00:06:00.480 I was just like, this is the dumbest thing I've ever.
00:06:03.100 What?
00:06:03.940 Like, why?
00:06:05.700 Because she wasn't trying to fix my problem.
00:06:08.200 She was just like asking.
00:06:09.200 And I'm like.
00:06:09.680 They're trying to keep you in your problems.
00:06:10.900 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:11.700 That's what it is.
00:06:12.480 I was like.
00:06:13.060 Trying to make you question yourself.
00:06:14.440 Yeah.
00:06:15.580 Trying to ask me about my childhood.
00:06:17.040 I'm like, what do you need to know about my childhood?
00:06:19.080 Where did it stop from?
00:06:20.400 What does it have to do with where we are now?
00:06:22.520 That's because my trauma comes from childhood.
00:06:25.300 That's why they're.
00:06:26.020 They trick you.
00:06:27.080 They trick you into thinking you had trauma.
00:06:30.080 Yeah.
00:06:30.220 I think that if you.
00:06:31.300 Okay.
00:06:31.480 There was a girl that came from North Korea.
00:06:33.740 All right.
00:06:34.180 This woman had the craziest story. 1.00
00:06:36.580 She freaking was great.
00:06:38.860 She had.
00:06:39.360 She was running front.
00:06:40.400 Like, it was a very, very sad story.
00:06:42.560 And she was so confused.
00:06:43.960 Because when she got to America.
00:06:45.620 Like, all these women were going to therapy over their ex-boyfriends.
00:06:48.520 And she's like, I escaped North Korea.
00:06:50.420 I don't need therapy.
00:06:51.580 And she thought the idea of therapy was so dumb.
00:06:53.780 This is a woman that was literally. 0.68
00:06:56.340 Has.
00:06:57.260 Was escaping.
00:06:58.740 Like, communism.
00:06:59.960 Whatever it's called.
00:07:00.900 I feel like some people have a different mindset.
00:07:03.360 Like, if you're really, like, strong mentally.
00:07:06.200 You can overcome a lot of more things.
00:07:08.460 It's a lot of people that.
00:07:09.800 You know.
00:07:10.080 No disrespect.
00:07:10.820 But.
00:07:11.620 Are quite weak mentality.
00:07:13.480 Like, mentally.
00:07:14.540 Tend to suffer a lot more.
00:07:16.200 Like, where it comes to things that happen to them.
00:07:19.280 And they kind of just suppress it into mental.
00:07:21.740 Like.
00:07:22.180 Yeah.
00:07:22.560 Certain health and whatever.
00:07:23.740 Like.
00:07:24.420 You know.
00:07:24.660 I've gone through a lot of things.
00:07:27.620 That I've actually thought to myself.
00:07:29.100 Is it excuses?
00:07:30.260 Or am I really going through something?
00:07:32.060 Or.
00:07:32.500 You know.
00:07:32.740 Like, it plays tricks on you as well.
00:07:34.660 Because you feel offended.
00:07:36.200 Or you feel like.
00:07:36.900 Ah.
00:07:37.260 I'm having a bad day.
00:07:38.220 I'm having a bad run of days.
00:07:40.680 And.
00:07:41.060 You know.
00:07:41.320 Sometimes it's just a storm over your head.
00:07:43.060 That's going to pass.
00:07:44.020 And you just got to make sure that.
00:07:46.040 You know.
00:07:46.720 In your head that.
00:07:47.560 There's a light at the end of that tunnel.
00:07:49.040 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:49.640 So.
00:07:49.760 For sure.
00:07:50.180 But sometimes it's not.
00:07:51.180 It's not as easy.
00:07:52.400 And just because somebody has gone through something.
00:07:54.880 More than what you have.
00:07:56.000 Doesn't just discredit what you're going through.
00:07:57.800 No.
00:07:58.280 Those people are lucky.
00:07:59.660 I think it does discredit what you're going through.
00:08:01.880 It doesn't.
00:08:01.940 It does not at all.
00:08:03.340 Well.
00:08:03.520 Then I was super traumatized with my nanny.
00:08:07.760 You know.
00:08:08.580 I could say.
00:08:09.300 You know.
00:08:09.500 One time.
00:08:10.560 My dad went on a business trip.
00:08:12.300 And I didn't get to see him.
00:08:13.520 Boo hoo. 1.00
00:08:13.940 I'm so traumatized.
00:08:15.040 Don't discredit me.
00:08:16.160 That's not trauma though.
00:08:17.280 Really.
00:08:17.560 No.
00:08:17.860 No.
00:08:18.100 It's trauma.
00:08:19.120 I'm traumatized.
00:08:19.640 But that.
00:08:19.980 But she's right though.
00:08:20.980 In a way.
00:08:21.340 Because that's her trauma. 0.65
00:08:22.360 You can't really question it.
00:08:23.360 In a way.
00:08:23.640 And that's okay.
00:08:24.720 Oh my God.
00:08:25.040 That would depend.
00:08:25.760 My point is I can't let it affect you.
00:08:27.600 That would depend on so many things.
00:08:29.040 No.
00:08:29.060 You never do.
00:08:29.460 Your dad was never there.
00:08:30.920 How many times did this happen to you?
00:08:32.680 Like.
00:08:32.880 How strong was your attachment with your mom?
00:08:34.740 Like.
00:08:34.940 There's so many dependencies to that.
00:08:37.000 And also.
00:08:37.540 Resilience is built by the age of seven.
00:08:39.560 So your first seven years are very important.
00:08:41.780 Like.
00:08:42.460 Not taking away from anyone that's had serious trauma.
00:08:45.520 But they may be more resilient.
00:08:46.860 Which is why women shouldn't leave. 1.00
00:08:50.920 Because they need the mom and the dad.
00:08:52.740 It's like she's on my team now.
00:08:54.560 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:08:58.220 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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