JustPearlyThings - There MIGHT Be TRUTH In THIS

00:00:00.000 i was about to ask do you guys think it's selfish women that do that 1.00

00:00:04.560 depends and this is for the men too you guys can yeah it depends on their situation

00:00:09.360 it depends on what i mean the situation is there's no dad okay yeah but he isn't there

00:00:16.640 it might not have been the choice you know so okay let's let's take me i don't have kids let's

00:00:20.800 say i'm 35. would it be selfish in this situation i'm 35 and i no prospects it's just you know my

00:00:29.120 dms are a desert it's horrible and so i say you know what i i want a child so i'm i'm gonna go to 0.88

00:00:36.960 the ivf clinic and i'm gonna do it or i'm gonna i don't i don't know i don't know the science behind

00:00:41.760 it but i don't think it's selfish but i think you need to think about you know what can you offer

00:00:48.320 the child can you because you want your child to grow up in certain conditions right so do you have

00:00:54.160 enough money to provide for the child do you have maybe have a male figure around you um maybe your 0.98

00:01:00.720 brother your dad that can still support your child as a man so you don't think it's selfish to expect

00:01:06.800 that out of them no because again before you have a child i would have locked that in i would have

00:01:13.760 already like thought about these things do i have money for this do i have men around me that can support

00:01:20.400 my child that can offer that guidance if i don't then i'm then i may not have a child because again

00:01:28.080 it's a life you want to offer someone the best life that you can give right if i'm not in that

00:01:33.200 position i'm not going to have a child okay what do you guys think well you said no prospects so i'd

00:01:38.400 say that's kind of selfish what are you really bringing to the table as like oh as a sole person

00:01:44.800 you're not really bringing like the love and the support you might be able to to a certain extent

00:01:49.360 but by yourself that's hard like i wouldn't really want to wish that on someone okay i think if it's

00:01:55.280 a choice for you to bring a child into this world by yourself and then look after the child by yourself

00:02:00.720 i think that is selfish because yeah and what about you china yeah i'll just i was just waiting to see

00:02:07.040 if anyone's gonna say it wasn't selfish but yeah it's incredibly selfish to to bring a child into the

00:02:11.680 world and do it by by those types of means yeah okay i feel like i feel like having a kid in general

00:02:20.560 is kind of selfish even though you mentioned pearl earlier you said that having a not having a kid

00:02:25.440 was selfish i think like having a kid is inherently quite selfish let's take a moment to think about

00:02:30.960 the world that we live in today let's think about politics let's think about financials let's think about

00:02:35.200 everything that comes into being an adult in the world that we live in today the lowest rates of

00:02:39.840 poverty ever in human history yeah but human history is first of all like let's think about

00:02:45.600 it comparatively i mean if you genuinely really genuinely want children of course you can have

00:02:50.480 children but if you're having children because you feel like you need to that's different what's

00:02:55.040 wrong with the like the world today is great especially in the west it is better than it's ever been but

00:03:00.080 it's great it's phenomenal so were your parents selfish for having you they're rubbing my face

00:03:05.520 all the time no but i'm just asking you no i think they are how many siblings do you have i have

00:03:09.840 two so there's three of you so your parents were incredibly selfish for having you guys and the thing

00:03:14.400 is i feel like my parents do have a lot of regret in terms of having children especially so so you

00:03:19.520 wish you wasn't alive do you feel like you feel like you don't want to be alive that's not what i'm

00:03:23.920 saying because before a fetus is born they don't even know what life is that's not i'm asking you

00:03:28.640 said it's incredibly selfish and you're saying but i'm saying you come from a family of three

00:03:32.560 um so do you consider your life to be selfish i'm not gonna say on camera that i wish i was there

00:03:37.280 please don't there's no need to swear we're just having a conversation you don't need to swear

00:03:40.800 but no but you're swearing the conversation someone is quite rude i wasn't trying to be rude i was just

00:03:44.720 swearing like i normally talk i know but it's not quite okay so when you when you meet somebody you've

00:03:49.600 never met somebody for the first time to swear when you speak to that person we consider it's

00:03:53.600 considered quite rude so we're on a platform and we're talking to like a thousand thousand people

00:03:58.160 the tone that you're using towards her it's quite rude it's fucking rude i'm not gonna lie 0.96

00:04:04.560 okay okay so hold on a second because i was not being rude hold on a second hold on a second i've

00:04:10.160 just literally just spoke i haven't done anything you're baiting her guys have i raised my voice no

00:04:14.720 have i said anything derogatory wait hold on a second wait you're stopping me it's really rude you did

00:04:18.640 say no i haven't i haven't said does she wish that she's alive no i asked her a question i asked her

00:04:23.840 question i asked her question you keep interrupting so nothing about my tone so the problem of so what

00:04:28.400 we seem to find is when men speak and when we speak directly we always get women that try to speak to 1.00

00:04:31.920 us about a tone there's nothing wrong with my tone i haven't raised it she literally just said it so

00:04:36.720 could you just could you check your friend for oh check the lady next to you and say there's nothing

00:04:39.520 wrong with his tone i don't know you can check me directly no but the thing is no but the thing is

00:04:44.560 the thing is directly if you want to no but the thing is i am and everyone now you're raising your voice

00:04:48.320 no because so what you're doing is yeah you're gaslighting the situation this is what you women 1.00

00:04:52.480 do this is not what no no no no this is you guys are this is a classic he didn't do anything let me

00:04:56.400 teach you let me teach you no no let me teach you i think i think the question was a bit wow but

00:05:02.560 that's why we're on a podcast the question is right so what you guys are doing again you guys are

00:05:06.240 stopping the man from speaking i tried several times on this platform to speak oh now i'm waiting not

00:05:10.240 you but what you've done is first of all you gaslight that situation by saying about my tone i didn't

00:05:14.160 raise my tone i didn't speak you didn't see what you're doing again is see guys guys so so so this

00:05:20.400 is a so this is a good platform so i want the super chats to look at look at this this is an

00:05:24.080 this is an example of gaslighting i simply asked a question because she said it was selfish for um

00:05:28.880 for people having children right now so i asked her do you consider it to be selfish for your parents

00:05:32.480 to have had you as a child um she was you know thinking about it that's fine of her to think about

00:05:36.640 it but she swore at me so i've never met this lady it's the first time i met her and she swore 1.00

00:05:40.560 at me so i just said could you please not swear and i swear at me on a platform what you've then

00:05:43.840 said to me is about my tone if anything i would actually be quite in my right if someone swore at

00:05:48.240 me so bro what she actually responded has just said she's naturally swears anyway so so as much as

00:05:54.560 you're in your world in your rights to be offended about what she said because you don't know her you

00:05:58.400 don't know and you're yourself your own person you have your boundaries okay so you're allowed to

00:06:03.280 feel the way you feel so she just so do you make do you think do you think the world owes you any

00:06:08.080 understanding so if you've never met somebody and you meet them for the first time do you think

00:06:11.280 the world owes your understanding to be like i can just f i'm blind at you do you think i owe

00:06:14.800 your understanding no you've never been to east london babe i'm not saying the world necessarily owes

00:06:21.600 her understanding she just said that to almost like to comfort you like it's all right i didn't mean

00:06:27.360 it so let's use this example right guys so let's use the example right so there's nothing wrong so

00:06:31.680 there's nothing wrong with my tone i haven't raised my tone i haven't pointed at you i haven't shouted at

00:06:35.680 you okay okay no no he didn't stop it it's easy it's easy it's easy he did point at me he was doing

00:06:42.720 she she sees like he did yeah she i didn't so so you know what it is you know what it is i find it

00:06:49.520 so i don't i don't want to do this pearl i'm going to say this as a black man and i'm going to do that

00:06:54.160 i find it this is this is a scenario that that we find ourselves in i haven't done anything i haven't

00:06:59.360 shouted at you i haven't been aggressive to you i haven't sworn at you but yet you no but what yet you

00:07:04.160 have continued to you talk about my tone you've tried to create an image of me a perpetual image

00:07:07.920 of me on screen which is not that i was sworn to on live on the air that's all i said was can you

00:07:13.120 please not sweat no no it's fine but we're not talking about you now what we're talking about

00:07:16.960 is her gaslight in a scenario and she's spoken about about the tone she's trying to act like i've been

00:07:21.040 aggressive to her guys the super chats and everything will let you know because i really

00:07:24.720 haven't done it you guys have jumped on top of me but it's fine i'm ready for this let's go switch the

00:07:28.400 situation if she if she no no no no stop stop stop if you're offended i apologize but i'm not

00:07:34.320 trying to offend you we switch it we switch if we switch the the they're not the racist the genders

00:07:40.960 here if a girl says that to a guy could you please not swear at me it wouldn't be a thing 1.00

00:07:44.880 and like and that's the thing whenever men have standards they're shamed for having standards constantly

00:07:49.520 yeah it wasn't a thing in the first place he said i swore at him i'm swearing as i talk the way i

00:07:55.760 talk occasionally i might throw a fuck or shit like i'm just having a conversation because i feel 0.87

00:08:01.360 like a little bit more comfortable if you don't want me to swear at you that's completely fine

00:08:05.200 it was quite simple i simply said and i just made you aware of it i didn't actually get at you i just

00:08:08.960 simply said could you please not swear at me you don't know you're unaware of it but what's happens

00:08:12.720 from there i can't believe what's happening just simply a man saying please don't swear at me

00:08:16.000 and you guys have used it as a situation to gaslight instead about my tone and even if i did lose

00:08:20.560 lose my rag a little bit why are you swearing at a man that you've never met before and the first

00:08:24.160 time on the platform is very disrespectful i was not swearing at you no no no no no right now this

00:08:29.280 is not even about this no no no no because i'm not actually offended by what you said i just simply

00:08:33.440 said you could please not swear at me said okay that's cool what she's then gone on to do is create

00:08:37.120 a whole separate scenario now and i want to know why have you done that i was sticking up for her

00:08:42.080 because i felt like the question just was a little insensitive and kind of to say that just the way it

00:08:49.120 was worded i didn't like so you don't think i was i was in my right to ask her considering she said

00:08:53.600 no not about the swearing i understand no no no about the swearing she said that i just said

00:08:58.320 being selfish right so i just said do you consider your existence and your siblings existence to be

00:09:03.520 selfish based upon the question that she put out there i simply just gave her counter question it

00:09:08.240 was the way it was how was it worded oh my gosh no i want to know i'm so bored of this conversation no no no

00:09:13.360 because this is an example no we're not going to do this because what you women do is you man you 1.00

00:09:17.520 might guess like you guys guys like men and then we when we actually want to prove a point you're

00:09:21.440 like let's move it on we're not going to move it on i want to know no because i want to know what

00:09:26.240 what led to the point where you can start saying about my tone and start a disrespect what led to it

00:09:30.000 what did i say to her you said to her about do you wish that you weren't alive or something along

00:09:34.480 them lines it was worded that way and i just thought oh that's a little bit too much but that came after

00:09:38.960 the fact that she said she considered it to be selfish i do think the question was a bit whoa

00:09:48.080 and we're all about no we're all about it's on top i thought it was a great question after what

00:09:56.400 she had said i wouldn't be like why are you asking me that it makes sense because even me i was kind

00:10:00.480 of like yeah do you not want to be here i was about to answer i'm sitting here like i'm not gonna lie

00:10:05.120 sometimes i have my days so i don't think personally but i can see why someone else might

00:10:12.640 be a bit like i don't know you whoa do you understand so even if she threw in the little 0.51

00:10:16.960 the little or whatever i'm i'm i was a bit taken about that you took okay okay okay we're gonna move

00:10:33.280 on um do you guys back row do you guys think it's selfish to um get ivf treatment um and become she

00:10:40.640 used to be a single mother go ahead in the corner yeah yeah go ahead yeah yeah okay you think it's

00:10:47.840 selfish what about you i can understand why people would do it but yeah just denying without a father in

00:10:56.720 the picture it's okay it's not fair yeah it's selfish because ultimately every woman will try to 1.00

00:11:02.480 locate a man that can fill that father figure or teach certain things that the partner or the husband

00:11:10.560 or whatever would have taught if they were within a union so it is selfish personally i don't think

00:11:15.920 it's selfish if you have a good support system it works well for you

JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023

There MIGHT Be TRUTH In THIS

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