These Women COULD NOT Get Over Their Toxic EX
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In this episode, we discuss promiscuous men and women, toxic exes, and how to deal with a toxic ex. We are joined by our good friends and to talk about it all!
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things more promiscuous men or women hmm it's a question for me i feel like they're both
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promiscuous in different ways i feel like females i thought you know what these days some of the
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some of these females they use an instagram like a dating app i don't know what is going on they're
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posting like all these random pictures that bro you don't have to do all of that focus on yourself
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and your career like who are you trying to get attention from i think a lot of girls there's
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attention seeking girls on instagram when it comes to guys pick one pick one who's who's more
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promiscuous promiscuous yeah if we're talking about like visually you know i'm talking about
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who's who sleeps around more oh oh this is okay i'm gonna spread the question you say men yeah i say
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men yeah okay so i'm gonna i'm gonna give you guys a stat did you know one in three men under 30 are
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either virgins or having had sex in the past year do you think one in three women under 30 are either
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virgins or having had sex in the past year no no i was gonna say women sleep more than men
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yeah i was gonna say i'm sorry really is that true yeah women sleep more than men yeah yeah yeah yeah
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yeah it's crazy though oh my goodness do you guys do you guys um do you guys like tall guys
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you're into tall guys you're like short kings i mean as long as they're taller than me i'm short as it is
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so i don't i don't need a six foot king i'm all right over five seven babe have you heard have
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you heard girls say that they need a guy over six foot yeah all the time do you have an ex that's
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over six yeah yeah yeah i need to be that girl i need to say i need to be that girl i need to say
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if you're not over six foot i don't know what what sorry go ahead as long as you're taller than me
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that's that's what that matters do you have an ex over six foot yeah yeah it's okay it's okay
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um so what what percent of guys do you think are over six foot one percent
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lucky guess 56 56 i'm gonna say 35 35 42 42 huh um how many i'm not drunk guys
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um i would say 30 30 so it's only 15 of guys wow and now think about it think about it if uh how many
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people said they have an ex over six foot you did you did you did all sleeping with the same guys
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huh yeah that's that's what i mean like not not not you personally but women in general are sleeping
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with the same guys because 80 of women want 20 of men no that is mad so so the reason like women
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think men are trash and they think they're sleeping around all the time is because we go for such a
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small percentage of of men and they are sleeping around all the time but the majority of men if you
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go to tesco you think they're getting any play okay so you're saying you're saying it comes to
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our choice in men right that makes us think the rest are the same i think that's the first statement
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actually yeah i agree with that yeah that's a very interesting statement i feel like a lot of the
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time like women when they're younger yeah they go for like the bad boy or like something as you get
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older you kind of realize that like certain traits that you would like find attractive like someone
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who's emotionally unavailable they become unattractive as you get older you're only 22
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right i know i haven't even been in a relationship but you know i've seen so many like people get
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into relationships and it's just and it all flops and it's like yeah i'm scared i'm actually terrified
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so um have you guys had a toxic ex yes um it wasn't an ex but i guess yeah sort of toxic yeah okay
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nope i've had people who felt felt like they're obliged by having a say in my life because they
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like me but that i don't that ain't that's not that's not that's not yes or no i need a yes
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no no no me i would say yeah yeah okay um how long were you involved with your toxic ex
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a year and a half yeah did you love him yes yes five years five years oh my oh my goodness that is
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mad five years that is crazy did you love him that's how you know it's toxic i don't know five
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years you didn't love him i don't know it was i wasn't like in a relationship with him but it was
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just a very toxic situation so okay so you know you didn't love him yes or no um i don't know maybe
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it was love to me at the time but now i see it i don't think it's love like now when i look back
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on it okay wow five years okay so i actually never been in a relationship like properly where i can say
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oh you know with boyfriend and girlfriend yeah but i've been in a lot of situations where i'm dating a
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guy and i would say yeah i'm this girl and he's been quite toxic so yeah you yes yes and how long
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were you with him um i was with him for about must have been like five months that long five months
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yeah i'm a busy woman i haven't really got time did you did you love him no no okay so question
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question based on this panel two out of four of you said you loved your toxic ex and you were with
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him for over a year would you say by that statement young women love toxic men yes yes do you know what
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it is i think when you're young you don't really know your boundaries properly yet and a lot of
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people put up with stuff that they wouldn't usually put up with like i always say now like
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men only treat you bad if you let them if you let them treat you bad and you don't if you don't respect
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your boundaries then they're gonna walk all over you and i think that's just bad guys though
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i think that's just bad guys like i think there's something about young women like picking the bad
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boys like i don't think you know what a nice guy is gonna walk all over you if you treat him well
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that's just yeah 100 i'm the youngest in here and i will tell you yeah it's because it's exciting
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especially when i've got high energy we bounce off each other i knew it when she was talking about
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the following i was like he likes the drama yeah literally but i also feel like yeah it's not sorry
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i also feel like it depends on your circumstances as the young girl because i with me i depended on my
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ex for living for food for everything so i felt like i was chained to him like i was his had no one
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else you know so it was like circumstances made me and be in that situation so what about that situation
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was toxic uh well he was basically like cheating around flirting with other girls at work um i
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didn't know obviously because i was just like at home i didn't have a job i was just like living off
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him you know but i feel like he he um had that power over me because i allowed him to obviously
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so yeah so she was it more than cheating or was he a good boyfriend outside of that it was more than
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cheating i was involved in certain things as well so i felt like if he did if if he could do i could
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do it to you okay so you were cheating you were both cheating on each other yep and couldn't you
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just on a standstill and then got along um no because i mean we did have conversations about it
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we we were very open with each other but then obviously the cheating was lies he because he kept
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it from me so did you keep your cheating from him no i told him i told him how did you react you don't
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you don't know you don't want to know who i cheated on him with but um he reacted no you don't
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is he famous no he's not no no no okay do i know i'm scared who's he though do i know him no you don't
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no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no i'm a changed person i am a changed person i'm a
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changed okay so what so why why why his sister i'm just gonna sip my drink me and his sister were
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really good friends i mean clearly no no no we were really good friends and obviously one day
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she said she wanted to come over and i said cool he was at work we got drunk and she started like
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pouncing on me okay i'm not even trying to like i'm so serious like she and i was like no like this
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isn't right and she was like no and then boop it happened and i was like fuck and then you told him
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yeah i told him how did he react he almost killed me was she younger how old was she she was younger
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yeah but we had a conversation about it and i can't pay out his ethnicity anyway um it's it's
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almost like common from where he's from pardon yeah where is he from i can't tell you oh my goodness
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at this point what's the what's holding you back what country do we need to not date um let's just
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say somewhere in africa somewhere in africa yeah okay where where in africa is that coming
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that's not coming back from where in africa okay so south africa oh wow guys please don't get
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onto me i'm honestly locked up in me today i'm not gonna lie no but um it's not common but it was
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like a thing within his i'll take your word i feel like it's just getting worse but um a thing within
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his family and i said to him why did you pick that up because you said it you know like i can hear
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but because i'm regardless of whether i did something wrong or not regardless of whether i
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hurt someone's feeling or not i am an honest person and i feel like that's very very important if you're
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if you're talking to someone if you're in a relationship with someone if you're just with
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people anyway you know so i i just i clarified that with him he got upset he came back and he was
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like thank you for being honest with me you know so it was like yeah but he was toxic for cheating
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on you and not telling you yes i had to find out would you would you rather have him told you yes
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do you think men lie to women they care about or that they or they tell the truth to women they lie
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to women they care about and they feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have for
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example um some because some women are really stern like if you cheat on me that's it and because they
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care so much they don't want to lose you so that thought of having to lose you would now be in
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be in their head obviously and yeah they wouldn't they wouldn't tell you so outside of the cheating
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anything else toxic or just that um yeah we smoked a lot of stuff
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i guess that was toxic yeah okay um all right what about you
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um what was the question um what was toxic about you said you had a toxic situationship
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yeah what was toxic about it um it was very emotionally abusive so like even though i see
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myself as a strong person but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down and i
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dealt with it and i feel like i didn't respect my own boundaries which led to me being in that
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situation um yeah it was just very unhealthy what is emotional abuse um i think to constantly
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knock someone's confidence down make them feel bad about themselves to threaten them like what
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specifically um i don't know like it could really be anything like you know just i'm asking like to
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you like what did he say like what how was he emotionally abusive oh he just like just used to
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knock me down i used to be a bit slow because i had a history of like doing like party drugs and
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like okay i feel like it actually affected my like mental development a bit like i had a starter
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for a long time like i was a bit slow and it was one of my biggest insecurities and i used to get
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dig that a lot for that like oh you're so slow you're stupid you're this and that's what he would
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say to you yeah and also um i lost a lot of weight because of stress and i was very insecure in my
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skin and be like oh you're so skinny like you lost so much weight and it would just make you feel like
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a bit rubbish about myself um and what did what did you say to him back like did you push back or what
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yeah i would push back i would tell him like don't talk to me like that or i don't like that or something
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because he did used to like threaten me and stuff but he used to threaten you yeah he was he wasn't
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like threatened threatened to do like what kill you or no like just to like you know bring his fists
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up to me and stuff i knew he would never do anything but like yeah it was just not a nice situation
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i would always stand my ground about that but i would continue to put up with it for so long
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so that's why like i was disrespected for so long but yeah literally after i got out of it i put on weight
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like i was i got glow like life is good oh we love a happy ending
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